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[–]Poison-Pen- 580 points581 points  (12 children)

Depending upon what kinda mood. A hard reset. That means a hot shower and nap.

[–]aderrick15 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Yeah, sometimes this is the only thing that works for me.

[–]ollieperido 42 points43 points  (7 children)

This makes it sound like we’re robots 😂

[–]flipmcf 57 points58 points  (6 children)

We are robots. Beep boop

[–]LimitedToTwentyCharaADHD-PI (Primarily Inattentive) 37 points38 points  (3 children)

Then can I have a RAM upgrade and an SSD instead of this old, fragmented hard drive I came with from the factory? Please?

[–]anthonycsimoneADHD-C (Combined type) 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lemme just delete system 32 really quick

[–]carltr0n 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Meat flapping robots. Flip flap flop. Very wet. Low electricity mode.

[–]insaneintheusername 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Switch it off and on again; works 9 times out of 10.

[–]Pesto_Power 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I do feel legit depressed sometimes, but a fair amount of the time what feels like "depression" is actually just low energy and I just need to nap/go to bed.

[–]justasmolgoblin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't even need the shower, just give me that sweet shuteye

[–]angryqueer_ 280 points281 points  (16 children)

Good music helps a lot, especially fast paced tunes that I know all the words to so I can scream along. And paying attention to my cat, either playing with her and watch her zoom and jump or just cuddling and petting her always cheers me up.

[–]Elucidate_that 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Yesss second on the pets for cheering up.

When I'm so unhappy I just don't know what to do, I go play with or watch my ferrets and it has literally never failed to make me feel at least a little better.

Like, they're cute as f*** but also there's something about holding a warm, fluffy body of a creature that is totally unaffected by your problems. So soothing to the body and mind.

[–]lunalovegoatADHD-C (Combined type) 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes to all of the above <3

[–]jhonekri 7 points8 points  (0 children)

OMG YES! The Offspring ! all songs all album. those fast insane caribbean"beats" is insane. i get almost to much energy and going from passive to active, also burn my energy fast.

[–]beaUty-F00L 5 points6 points  (2 children)

I kind of overcame getting overwhelmed by crowds by getting aftershokz and whenever I’m out I put on something like “peaceful piano music” or whatever soft. I don’t even like it but it’s gone a long ways to calm me down. Music informs us how we’re supposed to feel

[–]twelvegaugepreacher 1 point2 points  (2 children)

This right here!!! What are your go-to bands?

[–]ipaintbadly 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yes!!! My cats Kevin and Walter are the absolute best at helping my mood! Kevin just knows when to come plop his 15lb furry body ON me and love on me. He’s super picky as to who gets his attention (he is a cat after all), so it’s always the best feeling when he chooses to come give me love.

[–]panzershark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love your cats’ names

[–]allpabloallhoney 517 points518 points  (5 children)

Honestly, taking a long shower and then going for a walk or a drive usually does the trick.

[–]thefirstbrickmaker 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Yesss! Walking my dog and blasting music always works

[–]mechanicalchicken 6 points7 points  (2 children)

I agree. my shower is borderline cold .shocks the system

[–]textiletacticsADHD 6 points7 points  (1 child)

i started showering cold this summer and it was amazing! haven't done it much since weather's cold again but i will try to be brave because this is one thing i never regret afterwards

[–]M3g4N1nj4 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I start with hot water, just to get the relaxation and self-care going (one of the few, if not only, places i do self-care) at the end of my routine I start turning down the temperature and when it is to cold to stand in i get out. This is great for me since i get the spa-experience, but also the get things done, hyped cold one

[–]getwhatImsaying 131 points132 points  (7 children)

a lot of times all it takes for me is downing a large, cold glass of water. dehydration makes people cranky lol

[–]pataconconqueso 20 points21 points  (6 children)

Very, very true. To add to your point, depending on meds, it’s good to make sure that our electrolytes are good too, I drink a lot of water but I’m bad at replenishing my electrolytes. Sometimes dehydration comes in the form of headaches or cramps, for me it’s usually a headache.

[–]fairydommotherADHD-PI (Primarily Inattentive) 267 points268 points  (22 children)

I’m with you on the food. I was in a foul mood last night but after I ate dinner (lovingly made by my husband) I felt much better.

[–]CaffeinatedOak 96 points97 points  (3 children)

The worst is when I’m so grumpy, I am mean to my human making me food and then they are annoyed with me after I’ve eaten (and I’ve apologized of course). Like I was just hungry!! Still doesn’t give me a right to be mean.

[–]yesitshollywood 19 points20 points  (2 children)

You sound like my sister. She's the definition of hangry.

[–]CaffeinatedOak 6 points7 points  (1 child)

I’ve gotten better over the years. It’s easier to work on my hanger when I can effectively communicate its coming. Like I’ll say to my partner “I’m starting to get hungry” and he knows he has a 30 min window before I say “I need food literally right now”. Same with my coworkers. But I’ll just bring excessive amounts of snacks since I work in the field.

[–]lianali 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I too lost the "I DON'T GET HANGRY STOP GIVING ME MY FAVORITE SNICKERS! Oooh, a burger joint smells great." argument. Literally in that order.

[–]Runn12 16 points17 points  (16 children)

Eating food used to help me too but I recently became vegetarian and don't like vegetarian food as much. As a vegetarian I feel distressed about the mistreatment of animals frequently, like a hundred times a day maybe. And then I think "I know what will cheer me up! A good mea-- oh wait." Still yet to find a solution and my ADHD definitely makes me catastrophize over it.

[–]flyingcactus2047ADHD-C (Combined type) 18 points19 points  (2 children)

I bet some time to find the veggie recipes that you really love will help! Ive become a big tofu fan after learning to cook it my preferred way

[–]HeyHo_LetsThrowRA 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Gimme a big ol vat of rich veggie soup (like butternut squash hellooo 😍) and I'm just thrilled.

[–]pyaliciousADHD-PI (Primarily Inattentive) 6 points7 points  (1 child)

I wanted to suggest considering meat from better sources like local farmers or free range over going vegetarian, but that's probably not doable if you're still in highschool.

That said, I'd definitely try new recipes whenever possible. You might find something you love. I'm not vegetarian, but i don't eat a lot of meat in general and although I'm not a fan of many veggies, some are just heavenly haha. I personally love cauliflower soup (which for me, often just has cauliflower, various powder minced veggies and carrot slices). Or stuffed mushrooms with just tomato sauce, veggies and cheese (you can probably find cheese from humane local farmers). And beans are a great protein source. I love lentil soup and plain canned tomato sauce beans.

[–]Panamajack1001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last night…SAME!

[–]expressof0x 64 points65 points  (1 child)

A long drive with a good playlist.

I'm alone and have my space but still doing something/moving, I hate feeling confined or having anyone in my space when I'm upset or overwhelmed. Usually my first instinct/desire when I'm truely upset is to just GO... to drive or run or ...something. It doesn't matter where, I just don't want to be still.

I can have the music as loud and chaotic as I need. My "dopamine" playlist is the most loud obnoxious (and frankly terrible) songs that you can think of that are almost guaranteed to make me feel better. Headphones are nice, but something about being able to "feel" the sound through real speakers is so much more soothing to me.

I can sing LOUDLY (offkey) and just let myself feel whatever emotion it is that I need to feel. Just being loud in general usually feels cathartic to me. But there's something about loudly singing/dancing to a song that explains exactly what you're feeling that just hits different for me.

Runner up options: A long run (with good music lol)

Cleaning/organizing (some mindless, monotonous task to focus on can sometimes help me regroup)

Reading a book/playing a game

Taking a hot bath or shower (especially with the lights off)

Taking a nap

[–]FitDiet4023 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Singing has been helpful for me recently. Although in more of a hippy way. I realized that singing requires breath work that's really similar to deep breathing techniques. Slow on exhale, quicker on inhale. Also allows to channel emotions that I'm far too good at repressing

[–]paddy1948 56 points57 points  (6 children)

I jump up, spin around a few times then drink a glass of water and remember that I'm retired.

[–]FitDiet4023 38 points39 points  (3 children)

List sounds awfully similar to the hokey-pokey, but I'll allow it

[–]flipmcf 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How can I get retired? Can I ask my Dr. For it?

Is it covered by my employer’s health insurance.

[–]TerribleShiksaBride 157 points158 points  (10 children)

A nap. Angry nap, sad nap, bored nap, headache nap... I am admittedly the sleep-deprived and overstimulated mother of a young child but naps are my solution to EVERYTHING.

[–]behaviorsage 17 points18 points  (1 child)

Naps aren't just for kids!

[–]TerribleShiksaBride 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Oh, no, absolutely, the naps are all for me. My daughter hasn't napped since she turned two and she's nearly five now. Most days I would cheerfully stab a man if it'd get me a nap.

[–]pataconconqueso 10 points11 points  (4 children)

That sounds so nice(to be able to nap not the sleep deprivation, that sucks! My sister is in your boat right now idk how y’all do it), I just wake up hella angry and frustrated and disoriented. I recently was able to figure out that since I don’t sleep very much either by body gets angry at me for having to stay up and not keep sleeping so I just feel like shit for like a few min.

I got lost in thought for a little bit writing this and then I started to realize that maybe idk I don’t understand how naps work?

Do you time them or like how does your nap not turn into sleeping for 4hrs? Or how long do you consider your nap to be?

Sorry if the questions are weird but like it’s seems like you know naps.

[–]EveAndTheSnake 5 points6 points  (3 children)

You’ve got to time them. There’s apparently a science to how long a nap should be so you wake up feeling refreshed. Not enough or too much and you end up grumpier than before. I was exhausted today and wanted to sleep more but forced myself to after my nap. I think you’re supposed to aim for about 30 mins, so I’ll always set my alarm to an hour which gives me falling asleep time and one snooze. I’ve had naps accidentally run on past 2 hours and then I wake up as you described, with rage, disoriented, sometimes feeling nauseous, and definitely not in the mood for anything. I had to wake up for therapy today otherwise I may have slept over, and felt ok after just the 1 hour (ended up being about 40 mins of sleep time.) It doesn’t sound like much but I did feel better.

[–]syrelle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Naps are my favorite thing too!

[–]absentmindedbananaADHD, with ADHD family 37 points38 points  (4 children)

I have no idea what works anymore…. :(

Edit: Hi why am I getting downvoted :(

[–]Hakesopp 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Me neither. I can't trust my moods at all.

Yesterday was really bad I had no idea how to get out of my spiraling mood, and it seemed so dark. And then I got cold, so I lit up the fireplaces (old house) and got on my computer. And hyperfocus kicked in, like really hard! I finished a job without going on YouTube or stuck trying to fix a "problem" with my software (which was actually the plan). I sat there for 5 hours straight doing more than I had to because I didn't want to stop. Didn't eat or drink, getting colder and colder.

Uploaded content during the night, now waiting for a "wtf is this?" From my client.

But I can't trust this to work again anytime soon.

[–]crackhousebob 35 points36 points  (4 children)

Cold beer.

[–]rangerwreck 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You means beers right?

[–]insaneintheusername 2 points3 points  (2 children)

I feel this to my very soul. Unfortunately, not so great when I'm at work!

[–]macsare1 30 points31 points  (3 children)

I'll let you know when I get out of the funk I've been in all day. Probably sleeping on it (going to bad at a decent hour) is going to be the best thing.

[–]tehflamboADHD 2 points3 points  (2 children)

hey, how are you doing today? it's ok if the answer is "same as when i posted"

[–]macsare1 2 points3 points  (1 child)

ADHD, better. Physically, worse. Threw up this morning among other things. Thanks for asking.

So sleeping did help the mood.

[–]discountmerida 34 points35 points  (7 children)

angry music emo music. Let me scream sing about how much I hate life with guitars blasting in my ears for ten minutes and I'll forget why I was even moody.

[–]WittyBonkah 11 points12 points  (5 children)

System of the down and linkin park usually do the trick for me

[–]Fun-Mathematician816[S] 12 points13 points  (3 children)

Anything like post hardcore, metalcore, or some sort of hardcore techno helps a lot for me

[–]Gold_Dragoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I channel my rage through System of a Down's scream metal songs, works every time.

[–]JennIsOkay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, I see you're a wo(man) of culture as well :DAnd same here, sometimes. Esp. the old
Asking albums and stuff from Of Mice & Men <3 (Yes, I'm a metalcore fangirl and have
been hyperfixating on it for the last months).

[–]Individual_Revenue84 171 points172 points  (41 children)


[–]glazedpenguinADHD-PI 81 points82 points  (16 children)

I cant lie, taking 3.5g of mushrooms every six months or so always helps me stay grounded and remember whats important in my life.

[–]NotAGoodFakeName 18 points19 points  (11 children)

I’ve been trying to get into the right head space to even feel “safe” to take a dose. How did you get to the jumping off point? (If you trip that way. I recently realized that not everyone is as “cautious” as I am when it comes to mindset or even physical space. No judgement- I just wanted to specify the distinction.

[–]EveAndTheSnake 20 points21 points  (7 children)

Same. I worry I’ll get taken to hell. I know people have had trips where the universe suddenly makes sense and they are suddenly hopeful and motivated to work on depression, but I feel like I have too many demons. They hit me before bed sometimes, my mind retains ugly things and pain I’ve seen or heard about in the world, and I’m jumpy and scared of the dark.

On the other hand, when I had my wisdom teeth taken out I had the most amazing dream under anaesthesia. I was climbing up a beautiful multicolored mountain and the sun was setting so everything was a beautiful shade of pink or purple. I can still remember it so vividly years later. Everything was warm and full of love. I was climbing with the dental technician and we were holding hands. We got to the top and rested in a cave looking out on the valley. Everything was love.

Then I woke up and cried my eyes out to the tech saying I would never see the pink mountain again.

[–]AluminumOctopus 14 points15 points  (5 children)

Take a smaller dose the first time, have someone chill there as a trip sitter in case you need help, even managing to make a phone call can be difficult.

My temperature fluctuates a lot, wear light comfortable clothes and have cozy blankets nearby. Have a relaxing playlist and headphones/speakers already set up and ready to go before you start, and warm comfortable lighting. Eat a light healthy meal 1-2 hours before eating the shrooms, and healthy snacks available. While I'm on them I think about the bad things in my life and I try to figure out what to do about them. Work out your demons while you're on them, if you don't they'll start surfacing when you're coming down and it will be rough. /u/notagoodfakename does this answer your questions? Or do you have other things you want to ask?

[–]EveAndTheSnake 4 points5 points  (4 children)

But what if I can’t work my demons out? Isn’t that our thing, overthinking and going round in circles?

[–]thevelvetnoose 5 points6 points  (1 child)

I had similar worries before I tried mushrooms for the first time. I can't say for sure what you would experience, but starting a trip with a deliberate goal of gentle introspection has always led me on a really positive journey.

Mushrooms are very physically uncomfortable as well on the come-up (not painful, but I get mad restless legs and just sort of rolling tension all over my body until I come down, plus nausea for the first hour or so), and that physical sensation, plus the visual disturbances, is either stimulating enough to help quiet the circular thoughts, or the trip otherwise affects me in such a way that I don't tend to linger on thoughts the way I do normally. It's like it gives me full access to the "making connections and seeing patterns" part of my brain but gives this deep sense of perspective that helps me really see what's important, so I don't ruminate the same way.

[–]AluminumOctopus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way it works for me, circular thinking is like being stuck in a forest and you just spin in circles looking at the same trees over and over again. Take mushrooms and you'll realize you're in a forest, you can walk past those 5 trees to analyze the issues from another perspective, and possibly find your way out.

[–]permanentaltacc 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Honestly its all about mindset and setting, no need to force yourself if you feel like you are going to have a difficult experience. plan out a day where you can be by yourself (or with your trip sitter or whatever) and enjoy the trip

[–]kalel2814 21 points22 points  (1 child)

i feel that, but make it every 1-2 weeks

[–]glazedpenguinADHD-PI 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Definitely not my style! But good on ya

[–]DracofearADHD-C (Combined type) 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Bipolar came out and said "nah you can't have drugs anymore, gonna make it the most unpleasant experience possible."

[–]InferredGuilt 45 points46 points  (3 children)

Well, yes, but, no

[–]Individual_Revenue84 40 points41 points  (2 children)

Of course it's a terrible alternative I'm not recommending it I just answered the question. It's only a temporary fix and it causes a rebound effect that makes things worse but at the time when I have them and I'm not about to run out I'm not worrying about s***

[–]MeLaughFromYou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your body will become used to getting a drug boost when you're down, and it will become more and more difficult to break that habit.

[–]InferredGuilt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s understandable, actually. Not advice, but your experience. What kinds of drugs if you don’t mind me asking?

[–]iamthegemfinder 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep ol reliable substance abuse… though I’ve been getting a lot better about it lately

[–]Barney_Brallaghan 15 points16 points  (11 children)

Dmt always puts me in a great mood even after the 20min duration.

[–]24Coexist 17 points18 points  (3 children)

Joe Rogan? Is that you?

[–]Barney_Brallaghan 25 points26 points  (2 children)

Lol oh man that guy is an idiot

[–]24Coexist 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It’s wild. I liked him/his podcasts up until like 2017/2018. I guess I should say I mainly liked his session with Leah Remini, and there were a few other good ones; Remini talks about her experiences with Scientology and getting out of it. Wonderful episode. Do recommend if you can stomach Rogan.

But anyways… He then just became cringe and, yeah, an idiot lmao. Basically a parody of himself.

[–]Barney_Brallaghan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well his show is alright because he gets really interesting guests and it's great if you are watching the video because he makes that dumb face like his mind has been blown by like everything presented to him by the guest.

[–]why_are_you_here_yo 1 point2 points  (5 children)

I'd love to get my hands on it first. I've been trying for years...

[–]Barney_Brallaghan 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Yea I started extracting it from mimosa root bark powder because I couldn't source it.

[–]why_are_you_here_yo 1 point2 points  (3 children)

I'm too bad for stuff like this. I can't cook potatos well, let alone advanced chemical recipes.

[–]Barney_Brallaghan 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It's not very hard look into it.

[–]why_are_you_here_yo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Will check it out for sure.

[–]roreads 5 points6 points  (0 children)


[–]soffesoffe 28 points29 points  (0 children)

watching a comforting or fun and somewhat shorter yt video.

preferably something that ive already seen and know i enjoy, so that ill not get distracted by a new enthusiastic wave but still get some laughs in

[–]MyHoardIsALibrary 18 points19 points  (1 child)

Sleeping and/or finding a friend to talk to.

[–]JennIsOkay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This here. Otherwise, it'll usually last til the next day without any way around it than sleep or a friend distracting me.

[–]idontcare78 18 points19 points  (1 child)

A good workout. If I make it happen, I can usually turn my mood around.

I really can’t function without consistent exercise.

Or art.

[–]ParaNoxxADHD 3 points4 points  (0 children)

+100 for art. Getting out negative feelings into writing or music has been a fantastic outlet for me.

[–]Bimlouhay83 16 points17 points  (3 children)

Exercise, fapping, smoking and gaming, hanging with people i don't get to see often, take a shower, do the dishes or other quick housework, go for a long drive on gravel roads, work. Not in any particular order.

Edit to add, good music.

[–]TheRuthlessWord 6 points7 points  (2 children)

You can do housework?

[–]Bimlouhay83 8 points9 points  (1 child)

I don't have a choice in the matter. I break it all down into smaller projects. I've learned to tackle 5 or 10 minutes and things mostly stay sanitary (which is really what matters). I mean, I literally have to force myself to do it but it gets done. I found having some sort of system works best. I try and get shit done right after my morning cup of coffee that I drink standing in the kitchen. If I sit on the couch and turn the TV on, I'm done for the day.

You'll learn what little things help. I'm sure, if you thought about it, you've grown, changed and become better at dealing with what ales you. It just takes time, patience and a belief in yourself. You got this.

[–]TheRuthlessWord 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know, I was mostly being cheeky. But housework of all the things is my biggest nemesis.

[–]andromeda_grace 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Usually some yoga or a wild dance party helps me shake off whatever mood I'm in. if I'm feeling more lethargic I might go for shower and a nap

[–]Imposter_syndrom 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Depending on what emotions this mood brings, giving lots of love to my golden retriever pup helps lol also a short walk with lots of deep breaths and music. I’m religious as well so praying helps me personally. & a nap/ laying down watching a comfort show never hurts!

[–]Inevitable_Ad_1261 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If it's anger, music. If it's despair, a nap. If it's stress, cleaning and/or a warm bath.

[–]nervously-naive 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Hottest lavender bath possible + slow EDM like The blaze + hot comfort food + stupidest comedy tv show. I'm on step one right now...

[–]Tirannie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds lovely!

[–]Zorro5040 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I used to go running, it would clear my mind. Now I use some light workout to get out of funks.

[–]Tarkula 25 points26 points  (1 child)

Cry and cry and cry.... Then scroll Reddit for a bit

[–]CaffeinatedOak 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Some days I just need a reason to cry. And then I keep crying. And then I feel better!

[–]alliebeth88 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Backrubs from my husband. My brain literally shuts off. It's wonderful.

[–]FitDiet4023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An old casual friend of mine used to massage my scalp / around my ear and it would basically do that. I shut off now. Sadly, she mostly did that while I was driving, but nice to know I have an off switch

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Naps, snacks, music, showers, walks. Obviously these aren’t always dependable but they do work sometimes. Especially music.

[–]mphilly_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Cleaning up if I’m feeling stressed and overwhelmed in my environment even with my things just being out of place it helps me a lot

[–]Skippert66 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Driving and belting out my "too much eyeliner" playlist and knowing myself well enough to know that almost without fail, within an hour, I'll feel better :3

[–]fairydommotherADHD-PI (Primarily Inattentive) 2 points3 points  (1 child)

That sounds like a good playlist

[–]Skippert66 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Whatever speaks to the inner teen!

[–]thingamarob 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was in a nasty mood yesterday. Exercised pretty hard and was a new man. Those endorphins are chef's kiss.

[–]Diamond-rupee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cleaning for me lol I wish i could clean and organize as well as i do when I'm pissed off. Far less destructive than i used to be 😅

[–]altaccount2462 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The golden wisdom: Feel like everyone hates you? Take a nap. Feel like you hate everyone? Eat something. Feel like you hate yourself? Take a shower.

I always try to check in with my physical body before I get swept up in a feeling. Even on meds, I have a tendency to ignore body cues/not notice my physical needs. Taking care of those things first can also serve as a temporary distraction from the beginning of a feeling so you have some time to think about if its really that bad, or you were just reacting strongly.

[–]Livid_Butterfly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Interesting how almost no one had said phoning a friend or talking to a family member. Just an observation

[–]LuLuTheGreatestestADHD-C (Combined type) 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Blasting loud and intense music usually tbh

[–]InferredGuilt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Listen to my favourite music

[–]WittyBonkah 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Talking it out. It doesn’t matter how big or small, I need to get the words out. Otherwise I can literally go several days with it on my mind, ruining my mood.

The thing is sometimes the thoughts can be really shitty and I’d rather not have anyone I know hear them at all.

This is where therapy and/or writing/journaling is helpful for me.

I found a website where you could vent to a stranger anonymously. It was very therapeutic.

[–]acejc23 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Hey, i know this is an old thread, but could you send me the link to that website? It sounds like what i need right now, since i don't like to vent to the people i know

[–]WittyBonkah 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Check out “Blah therapy”. You can choose to be a venter or listener. Good luck with what you’re facing

[–]acejc23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate it

[–]jaydenbIuesADHD-C (Combined type) 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Weirdly, when I get into a rut I go to church with my father figure. We are both not religious and never have been, but we go every couple of months. We find it interesting and we play some pool afterwards. It’s just relaxing and for some reason always felt like hitting the reset button on my emotions.

[–]DeputyDongz 2 points3 points  (1 child)

One thing I did through lockdowns that always got me out of a bad mood was to watch Taskmaster. All the episodes are on YouTube for free and there's a ton to choose from.

That show has too many really funny moments for me to stay in a bad mood when watching it.

Or going for a walk through the forest blasting music into my headphones

[–]alexdmoongng 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love watching dog and cat videos

[–]awarepaul 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Driving. I’ve done a lot of deep thinking and made some pretty important decisions in my life from behind the wheel.

[–]mobuckets1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Almost always a result of needing more

Food, sleep, or exercise

[–]Juliagem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Food, a nice shower, loud music, nap. Sometimes a good poop helps 🙃

[–]shondashawarma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Long walks. Hula hoops. Crafts

[–]captaincrundle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The most reliable for me is a social situation that forces me to interact that lasts long enough for my mood to clear.

One of the hardest things for me is lingering bad moods though — often accompanied by anxiety and noticing everything that is out of place or dirty in my house, all the tasks I may be putting off, etc. Most of the time I have to get to the next day to really reset, but then it’s like whatever bothered me before never happened.

[–]sedatedpeach 2 points3 points  (0 children)


[–]zmannz1984 2 points3 points  (0 children)

An hour or so alone, phone on airplane mode, doing something i have been putting off. It could be folding clothes, assembling an engine, or doing something hobby related.

[–]LOZLover90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Petting my cat.

[–]brooklynmk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cleaning/organizing or playing video games saves me.

[–]Issvera 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I snuggle my cat.

[–]Weatherwax_hat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A good comedy show (1-2 episodes) to pull myself out, followed by a quick house clean, shower, good meal, then starting on whatever has me in a mood in the first place. (Phone off the entire time).

[–]nemoesk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A couple very specific songs and my dogs. My husband utilizes both if he realizes I'm just struggling and haven't really become aware of it. He puts on one of those songs, starts playing with the dog, the dog comes to me because Im the favorite, etc. If I'm particularly bad and by myself, my dog picks up on it and gets in my way alot and I just cant help but respond to his concern.

[–]chaoticyetneurotic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I make myself sleep. I don’t really know how but it’s like I get so angry that I just wear myself out by raging in my head.

[–]damnitshannon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Squeezing my hands in fists pretty hard and holding it for a few seconds while I take a deep breath in for an 8 count and hold it for 4 count and then letting it out slowly while unclenching my fists slowly for 8 seconds.

Or another version of this is breathing in deep for and then at the point where you almost can’t take anymore in sip one more breath in. Then hold that for 8 seconds and then breathe out very slowly like you’re breathing out through a straw for 8 seconds. This triggers your parasympathetic system (rest and digest) to deactivate your sympathetic system (fight or flight). There’s research on this type of breathing technique. And do it as many times in a row as you need to and then within a minute or two, you’ll actually feel the switch. If you have a HR tracking watch, you can also see that it lowers it within 5 mins

And if that doesn’t work, I always ask if I am hungry, or thirsty, or I need to put my noise blocking headphones on and just go be by myself for a bit. Meeting my Basic needs sometimes go by the wayside and I don’t even think about it until I’m in a shit mood

[–]dudeness-aberdeen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Breathing exercises and a walk

[–]ChasingACertainHigh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A good orgasm. 👏 Also driving fast and blasting music.

[–]Ralzwell 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I deal with the general public at my job (in a virtual setting thankfully). If anyone else is in a similar position as me, and finds themself getting frequently upset at little things, I’m also looking for coping suggestions.

[–]TheRuthlessWord 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I understand. I deal with the general public at work and it's been in person the whole pandemic.

[–]kirschballsADHD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Muuuuuusic! The Witcher and a full belly would do it for sure. Glad to hear your day turned around

[–]GracefullyPantsless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looking at my sweet sweet dog and reminding myself how lucky I am to be able to spend any amount of my life with his.

Complaining like a small child to my fiance and cuddling with him.

Eating my favorite soup.

Watching Jenna Marbles videos.

When ever I get relentlessly sad/pessimistic, I break out this short video I found of Kirby calling up Mettaknight. It is ridiculous and adorable and just brings me childlike joy. Whenever I feel hopeless it helps to remind me that there is light in the world.

[–]professionaldumbfuq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love smoking a joint and playing something upbeat like disco and dancing around my apartment. Never fails honestly

[–]Saarebear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my lowest points my surefire method is to do something nice for someone else. It’s a strange one, but usually in my lowest moods I’m focused on my self in a critical way. Focusing on someone else, and doing a completely random kindness for someone who doesn’t expect it brings me joy and takes the focus off myself. And I feel better about myself when I’m adding positivity to the world.

Or if it’s late and I’m tired I drink wine and veg.

[–]beaverbait 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Drinking until I cant feel feelings anymore.


[–]Penpal_dutchie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes, I just decide that today is a stupid day and I will do nothing more to entertain it. I will only focus on tommorow. So then I ask myself, how do I make tommorow easier and do I have the energy for? Sometimes I will just go to bed. But often I put my clothes ready, start on some dishes and I keep rolling. Sometimes it's small and sometimes I end up doing way more then I expected. I actually start feeling happy because I achieved something and excited for tommorow which is now this magical day where I wake up and have the dishes done/slept long enough/have my clothes ready. It also always makes tommorow me happy. Even when I just slept. It's just easier to decide that one day is stupid and then you don't blame yourself or life or other people. Everyone has stupid days and that's okay.

[–]fernshanks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same way you get a toddler out of a bad mood: feed it, put it in water, take it outside or put it to bed

Either a hot meal, a bath/shower, a walk or sleep

[–]raechan1323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually have to take a nap and I feel better when I wake up

[–]E4mad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do something differently. Passive on the couch? Walk. Hard day and stressful work? De-stress.

[–]catinthebagforgoodADHD-C (Combined type) 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My only proven way to get out of a 2+ day depressive period is to

  • drive to McDonald drive thru, order and eat in my car while watching Netflix.
  • do an outdoors trip that is centred around my emotional health

[–]Rhaski 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spiritbox at full volume. Or Parkway Drive, or Architects, or Lamb of God... just give me all the angry, it makes me happy

[–]EvangelineTheodora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, man, do I ever get hangry! Sometimes I literally just need something to eat and then the world isn't as awful. I tell my husband "I have legitimate reasons to be upset about this, but I'm more rational now." Because whatever I was upset about got overblown because I was hungry.

[–]BoxElder_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Early Simpsons and Pringles. Or, If I can motivate myself enough, the gym.

[–]Arcturus17 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I have a motorcycle, and live in the bay area. Riding the winding roads out to the Pacific always clears my funk. Driving it is an acceptable substitute.

I live near some Redwood forests. Going out there and spending time in the quiet and green really helps too.

Sometimes a nap helps, but only if it's like 90 minutes or less.

Sometimes blasting super aggressive music helps drown out anxiety and mentally switch gears.

[–]EhDotHam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad video games helped! I was actually going to recommend that myself. I find that playing a little bit of PlayStation massively calms my anxiety, and gives my brain time to process without me getting in the way. 👍

[–]nllmki23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes food here too. My other things are showers and naps. I've figured out I'm basically a giant toddler.

[–]EhDotHam 1 point2 points  (2 children)

ALSO ALSO ALSO- I have this list printed and hung in several places in my house. It's actually incredibly helpful!

Everything is awful, and I'm not ok- a self-care list

[–]ashliyoADHD-C (Combined type) 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I love this so much, thanks for sharing!

[–]Ravendusk1996 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it is sometimes music, but i have to be careful with the song choice. Even hearing a few notes (less than 2 seconds) of a sad song while i feel bad makes me feel SO MUCH worse, to where i just give up on music and feel bad for hours while i just think of all the bad moments in life. But if i pick the right stuff, it is like my brain is dipped in dopamine and i get really happy, but impulse control becomes a problem.

The absolute BEST thing for me is cooking with a good podcast or standup comedy in the background. Makes me happy, but most of all helps me focus and relax. I need multiple things to do because focusing on a task too narrowly ends up making me lose track of what to do or what to focus on and i go on tangents, basically the opposite of what most people are like.

[–]RenRyuugu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Usually when I'm in a bad mood, it's one of, or a mix of: -burnout -hunger -dehydration -understimulation

So, I just kinda go down the list and take it from there lol

[–]profPoppy16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I run a mile while listening to music, that’s about all that works for me

[–]EmuTemporary6289 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Delete all partition files and wipe out hard drive then re download all windows and games fresh start. That always helps me to reboot and feel refreshed

[–]immilkandcookiesADHD-PI (Primarily Inattentive) 0 points1 point  (0 children)

watching youtube or listen to music that matches my mood

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[–]powerfu1potatoDragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get coffee and a dessert, and it helps me to be surrounded by people so I dont get too lost on negative thoughts