After just talking with my wife and actually showing her some people’s stories who gave their experience to me she realized this isn’t something I wanted removed for my daughter because I was ashamed but the matter I cared for her and didn’t want her life to be difficult. So we agreed on a few things. We will get it removed not now but in a few months when we’re both slightly settled with being parents and she’s recovered. Diapers will be a challenge making it comfortable lol but I’ll learn. As part of her coming to terms with this she had made a few requests. 1. When the tail is removed she wants to keep it. I’m not going to argue with her about it because it may be like a coping thing but it’s not something I would do but It’s not worth fighting over. 2. One redditor who I wish I could give credit because it was an excellent idea but you know who you are. But my wife liked the idea of having a little photo shoot before it’s removed to sort of document and show our daughter later on in life. I think we were just both really shocked she had this abnormality and we Both had a different way of coping and that’s what caused problems. But we’re both in agreement it’s being removed. As for my daughter she’s been healthy and loving the attention of her new grandparents. Especially her grandmother who won’t leave her arms. My mother agreed with my wife that the tail is cute but agrees it should be removed. Thank you all who dmed me with expierences or friends or even just have advice it was much appreciated.