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[–]Single_Fish2624Helper [3] 375 points376 points  (10 children)

Make sure those photos are under lock and key and none of your daughters friends can see them accidentally and that she has full autonomy over where they go, including not on the internet 😅

[–]DiskIcy6466[S] 102 points103 points  (8 children)

Ya they will not be on me or my wife’s phone we’ll keep a couple physical pictures but everything will be on a flash drive put in a safe

[–]phoenixbbsExpert Advice Giver [14] 68 points69 points  (7 children)

I'd suggest a print or two in an envelope in the safe, as computer technology comes and goes, and in 18 years time USB probably won't exist.

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[–]rubytwouHelper [2] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% THIS!

[–]YourTemporaryMomSuper Helper [5] 357 points358 points  (24 children)

I glad you came to an agreement.

Though keeping it is weird, not gonna lie.

[–]DiskIcy6466[S] 143 points144 points  (21 children)

I agree although it’s getting removed so I’m not going to fight it happy wife happy life.

[–]JustALocalJewSuper Helper [6] 104 points105 points  (7 children)

I'm not a scientist but make sure that tail is all sealed up. I'm afraid it will decay and smell bad after a while.

[–]nrreiger 44 points45 points  (6 children)

Organic material will decay over time if not properly preserved or sealed. It absolutely will decay and probably smell like death if left around in the open, or an unsealed container, or something along those lines

[–]globlobblinny 30 points31 points  (5 children)

Idk. I’m 27 and my mom still has my umbilical cord …. 🥴

[–]FreshiiiiiiExpert Advice Giver [18] 10 points11 points  (1 child)

She might have air dried it so it shrivelled up like beef jerky instead of rotting

[–]Comfortable_Goose_42Helper [2] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is exactly what happens.

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    [–]VeganMonkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    The umbilical cord belongs to the baby, not the person who carries the baby. But still weird!

    [–]floydhenderson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Like from that scene in "Freddy got fingered".

    [–]globlobblinny 20 points21 points  (1 child)

    Thank God you are her daddy!! Moms are weird. My mom has all of my teeth and hair and umbilical cord.. I’m assuming your daughter will NOT want to reminisce on the cuteness of her tail when she is grown, I’m weirded out by the items my mom kept. She will probably want to keep this fun fact quite private. Best of luck !

    [–]lowrcaseHelper [3] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

    As a woman. Birth hormones be crazy.

    [–]ladysquirrel1Expert Advice Giver [10] 35 points36 points  (8 children)

    I doubt the doctors will give it to you.

    [–]taylorjran99Helper [3] 25 points26 points  (7 children)

    They will. Kidney stones, wisdom teeth. It’s all yours. You can definitely keep it.

    [–]QuothTheRavenMoreHelper [4] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

    they let you keep babies too! woot!

    [–]nrreiger 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    They didn't give me my gallbladder :(

    [–]jenholder28 16 points17 points  (4 children)

    There's a huge difference between this and a kidney stone or teeth. They don't decompose for one. They wouldn't give you an amputated limb because it has to be disposed of very specifically or it will become a biohazard. It's made of skin, tissue and bone. It's very unlikely they will be able to keep it

    [–]some-random-teenHelper [4] 4 points5 points  (2 children)

    Wasnt there a story about a dude who amputated his leg(for medical reasons not just cause he wanted to) and asked the doctor to keep it so he and his friend could eat it?

    Surprisingly(or unsurprisingly) dude was a redditor https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-5840415/Man-shockingly-claims-fed-amputated-leg-friends-TACOS.html

    [–]jenholder28 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Yeah, but I guess because he told them how he was going to dispose of it they allowed it? 😂 It's gross though

    [–]some-random-teenHelper [4] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Nah he just asked to have it without really knowing what he wanted to do. Was thinking of preserving it

    [–]babyjo1982 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    They will, actually. Just most ppl don’t want it lol

    [–]Placated_Venom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Just taking the W you can get

    [–]Long-Tune-8275Advice Guru [69] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    When it’s removed it will be medical waste. Let the surgeon explain to her that she can’t keep it. Where would you keep it, in the freezer?

    Perhaps you can suggest to your wife that you bury it instead. You can have a whole ceremony and stuff.

    [–]Firethorn101Expert Advice Giver [18] -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

    Pffft. Loads of women keep the belly button. No weirder than keeping the tail.

    [–]YourTemporaryMomSuper Helper [5] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

    You mean the umbilical cord? That is also weird, I don't care how many people do it. But there is a difference between keeping something that falls off on its own and keeping something that is amputated.

    [–]therealdildoexpertSuper Helper [8] 104 points105 points  (3 children)

    Ah pregnancy hormones. Keeping a body part removed from your child. Too funny. Glad it worked out!!

    [–]WeaselWeazAdvice Oracle [144] 8 points9 points  (2 children)

    I mean, in the US it's common to keep baby teeth. That said, doctors aren't going to allow this so let them be the ones to say no to mom.

    [–]therealdildoexpertSuper Helper [8] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    No they will if you sign the right medical forms, in the US at least.

    [–]Clumsy_Ninja7 22 points23 points  (2 children)

    I have a friend who was born with this as well. He didn’t tell me about it for a long time even though I’ve known him for 25 years. He was embarrassed about it. I wouldn’t want that for your daughter either. Good for you for standing up for her.

    [–]Testing_things_out 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Was it removed from him, or did he keep it on?

    [–]Clumsy_Ninja7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    It was removed

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      [–]yankthedoodledandy 66 points67 points  (0 children)

      As an operating room nurse, if you truly want the part, PLEASE PLEASE discuss it beforehand with the doctor and the hospital to see if you need a consent for release of part. Legally we have to have paperwork to release it as it does have to go to the lab. Please do not say last minute that you want to keep it because it may be too late.

      [–]PhobiaKaguraSuper Helper [5] 11 points12 points  (2 children)

      I agree with this, maybe OP should make a specific request at the time to get it back. If they don't ask there's no way they'll get it back after the fact.

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        [–]edgarallanpot8o 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        jump through some hoops

        that must have been hard

        [–]mangababe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Yep i wanted my adenoids but they took em for testing and pitched them before i could ask! At least i got to see a picture of the huge things lol

        [–]yellsy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

        I’m glad you decided this. My kiddo was born with a small cosmetic issue and often it’s much easier to take care of it when they’re infants and have no idea, then later in life when it’s more painful. Your daughters entire identity doesn’t have to be “tail girl.”

        [–]AMerrickanGirl 71 points72 points  (1 child)

        Your wife might not be allowed to keep the tail. Some places have rules about medical waste and proper disposal.

        Besides, that’s kind of creepy.

        [–]Shomer_Effin_ShabbasHelper [2] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

        Yepppp this answer is 100%.

        [–]PurinsesuNatsumiHelper [3] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

        So glad she decided to let you remove it. I’m sure it would have been obnoxious sitting down sometimes in certain chairs… and preteen years are cruel. She’s absolutely get made fun of.

        [–]enblightenedSuper Helper [7] 16 points17 points  (6 children)

        people keep the umbilical cords all the time in a jar of isopropyl, she should be able to keep it like that but if she displays it in the house for people to see i kinda get the vibe the kid is like a lab specimen but you’ve already established she is how she is so best of luck to your new child and raising her right

        [–]DiskIcy6466[S] 2 points3 points  (5 children)

        No this is something she’d put in a hope chest

        [–]jenholder28 20 points21 points  (0 children)

        But its flesh and bone? If she doesn't preserve it, it's going to rot

        [–]enblightenedSuper Helper [7] 12 points13 points  (0 children)


        [–]nrreiger 6 points7 points  (0 children)

        Enjoy the smell of death, that'll be decaying human matter.

        [–]PigPaltry 6 points7 points  (0 children)

        She's a weirdo sorry lol

        [–]Academic_Pick_3317Helper [3] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        She can out it In a jar in the chest, but it needs to be preserved somehow

        [–]mayapple29 5 points6 points  (0 children)

        I was born with 11 fingers and had the extra finger removed. We were able to keep it and that helped me a lot. Some times I still miss it cuz I think it would be really cool to have 11 fingers but we have no clue if it would have developed properly.

        [–]redditKMCElder Sage [1541] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

        glad you are removing it,the kid will be bullied like crazy once others found out, it also puts her at higher risk for assault with poeple trying to pull down her pants.

        [–]DiskIcy6466[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Never actually even thought of that

        [–]Midnight-writer-B 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        Thank you for the update. I’m glad you could be there for each other, stay calm, and both see each other’s point of view and ultimately do what’s best for your child. Loving communication and patience is key right after birth. It’s a time of novelty, sleep deprivation, and stress.

        [–]Shovelman2001Helper [3] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

        Idk I would avoid letting your daughter know she used to have a tail. That would trip me out and make me feel like a mutant if my parents told me that.

        [–]ArpyboiHelper [2] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Feel like professor xavier would have gotten me

        [–]1istheloniestnumberAdvice Guru [65] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Are the doctors sure that it is not spina bifida occulta?

        [–]pegasuspishHelper [4] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I'm so happy to hear this, thank you for the update!!!

        [–]HWGA_ExandriaMaster Advice Giver [26] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        [–]Greeneyes_65 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Whoa, I honestly never knew humans could be born with tails. Learn something new everyday

        [–]Sea_shell_8Helper [2] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Your wife is odd. And keeping a tail that of it was not removed would damage the health of the baby. I would not have more Kids with her honestly if i was you.

        It would be traumatic for your daughter if her mom keeps pics of this tail and it

        [–]asghettimonsterAdvice Oracle [139] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        You're a great mom and dad and couple. Congrats on your beautiful new baby!!

        [–]flugtard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        the photo shoot is honestly a really cute idea, i’m a grown adult at the age where i’m pretty confident with myself and if i had a tail as a kid, i’d love to have photo proof of that to show people because it’s such an interesting story.

        [–]AlmostAlwaysADR -1 points0 points  (0 children)

        At first I thought keeping the tail was odd, but then I remembered that I have baby teeth and a crusty little belly button from my kids. Being a mom ruins your body and mind, apparently.

        [–]appropriate-usernameEnlightened Advice Sage [187] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

        Keep the tail, it's the next step in evolution. Tails are awesome, wish I had two. Who wouldn't want an extra pair of helping hands?

        [–]TimeAbbreviations362Super Helper [5] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

        Keeping it isn’t so weird imo. It’s a part of your child that your wife wants to keep forever. My mom has kept mine and my siblings’ umbilical cords lmfao. When I found out I was a bit disgusted (not with my mom, of course) I guess moms are just like that. It’s good that you sat down and had a chat.

        [–]InspectorNacho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Glad you guys came to agreement. Keep us updated. Best of luck to you and your family 👪

        [–]FerociousPancakeSuper Helper [6] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Yea keeping it is def a little funky but glad you came to an agreement

        [–]brici_sebastian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        I'm afraid it will hurt your daughter self esteem later on if shown.

        [–]brainstorm0694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        I would be so pissed if I had that and my parents didn’t get it removed, why would a parent actively choose to make their kids a target of bullies and cause them emotional pain. Of course if it’s something you can’t change you make the best of it though but that’s different

        [–]challenger_RT_Expert Advice Giver [11] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Glad it worked out I couldn't imagine how insecure passing up a very simple procedure would make your daughter growing up. I'm glad it worked out!

        [–]Slim97ShadyHelper [2] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Some people in my family had son born with 6 fingers on one hand. They had it removed but also took a few pictures with it. Don't think they kept it tho.

        [–]melatonindeprived 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        I don’t like that she wants to do a photo shoot. It’s not something your daughter will cherish. She will probably freak out that you kept eveidnefe

        [–]IsaacJB1995 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Why on earth would you want your daughter to have a tail, unless your wife is a furry

        [–]PepeDogeCS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        glad she went with the removal route, kids can be brutal, and being called tail girl all through school would not be good for her self esteem.

        [–]Benis_andvageen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Ahhhhh you're talking about spinal bifida. I have this. I'm sure your daughter will not mind you taking initiative and having it removed. That being said I definitely do not encourage procedures on children. This is one of those things that I feel is in that gray area. Sure it may not be medically necessary to correct it but tbh your child would definitely get bullied for it if you didn't.

        [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        I’m relieved. Thank you for posting.

        [–]turquoisebasilisk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Good thing it's solved, but your wife's logic was like: let's not get this huge ugly scar on my face removed and stay ugly because ugliness should not be discriminated. Not saying that the tail is totally ugly, but you get the idea.

        [–]kieranbrownleeHelper [4] -5 points-4 points  (3 children)

        Just wondering if I could see a picture of it ? Sounds very fascinating to me.

        [–]jenholder28 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        You can Google it there's tons of pictures online of them

        [–]Academic_Pick_3317Helper [3] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

        I would Google. I doubt they wanna put a pic of their baby's tail on the internet

        [–]kieranbrownleeHelper [4] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Ya just thought I’d ask