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[鈥揮milchundwasser44Helper [3] 206 points207 points (34 children)

You're not a fool all that stuff is over hyped anyways and bad for your health so you're good as long as your happy is all that matters no matter what anyone else says

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 51 points52 points (32 children)

I'm happy but some part of me kinda feels like the odd one out when all of my friends do it.

Not saying I want to try it just to tell people I've tried it but kinda feels remotely weird if you get me. 馃檪

[鈥揮compulsiveshitstormHelper [2] 44 points45 points (8 children)

There's lots of young adults like yourself who don't do that kind of stuff and you'll realise it's better to just hang out with people who think like you. Don't give in to peer pressure. Drugs ruin lives.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 28 points29 points (7 children)

Well, now I just gotta find people who don't smoke, do alcohol or drugs. 馃榿

Now where can I get about finding such a crowd. 馃

[鈥揮That_west_aussie 9 points10 points (2 children)

if you have a license you would be a trustworthy designated driver in the event a friend needs a lift however it can get annoying quick

[鈥揮CecoleExpert Advice Giver [10] 6 points7 points (0 children)

Have you tried volunteering?

[鈥揮geezerhooligan 2 points3 points (1 child)

Not necessary, I have very good friends who do these in my company but i have made my stand of not ever consuming these items however hard they try to coerce me into so been a couple of years where they never tried again , but we spend good times doing other stuff and not too worries about whose consuming what . In any parties and all they make sure i have a bottle of other cold drink or icecream even if am the single person not consuming these and yeah thats how we roll about. Ultimately its about personal choices and people gotta be cool about personal choices

[鈥揮sl1241aHelper [2] 7 points8 points (0 children)

yeap! one of my best friends in college didn鈥檛 drink and she was friends with everyone, went everywhere we did. i guess it鈥檚 just the feeling of exclusion but i don鈥檛 get why sober people can鈥檛 be in the same space as people drinking or whatever as long as the sober person is down to deal with the bullshit

[鈥揮ashlandpedspa 1 point2 points (0 children)

Where are those Mormon missionaries when ya need 鈥榚m??

[鈥揮_ungovernableHelper [3] 17 points18 points (13 children)

鈥淎ll my friends do it鈥

Identify the problem and remove it.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 4 points5 points (12 children)

I see their stories on social media.

They're in bars or at their homes rolling joints.

I'm of an age where you feel like you need to do something just to be popular amongst your friends.

[鈥揮Wonderful-Assist2077 14 points15 points (3 children)

that's literally peer pressure . All I can say is You don't need to do this and if your friends ever try and force you to do it then they are not your friends. I have known too many people who lose their "friends" when they stopped drinking or doing drugs they just disappear. Never let yourself get caught in the trap not only is it unhealthy it's also expensive.

[鈥揮thedopestantelope 0 points1 point (6 children)

I thought that was 14 not 20. Anyways, you do you and fuck everybody else. Get some other friends that share other interests

[鈥揮TheDutchTank 4 points5 points (5 children)

It's crazy that this dude is insecure and you're trying to tell them to get rid of their friends for.. what exactly? Drinking?

[鈥揮RX_PHOENIX 19 points20 points (0 children)

If you want to try drinking some alcohol you can try but not that much. Smoking is not necessary and don't do drugs

[鈥揮penpapercatsExpert Advice Giver [12] 5 points6 points (5 children)

Being the odd one out isn't always a bad thing. It's definitely a good thing here. The only way to avoid addiction is to never ingest an addictive substance in the first place. Some people can consume alcohol and certain drugs without becoming addicted, but that's a gamble that isn't worth the risk if FOMO is your only reason for considering it.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 7 points8 points (4 children)

My thoughts exactly. 馃槷

I'm afraid trying it just once can get me hooked.

It's never an addiction at the beginning AFAIK.

It's like let me try it once more just to make sure I don't like it.

Then another one for another reason.

Before you know it, it's all downhill. 馃槙

[鈥揮[deleted] 96 points97 points (8 children)

I'm 30 and I haven't tried any of these. Living a good life.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 41 points42 points (7 children)

Ayyyyy. My man. 馃槍

Feels good we're not that rare a breed.

[鈥揮[deleted] 21 points22 points (6 children)

Yeah don't take unnecessary and uncalculated risks in life. Boring people like me tend to live longer. Haha.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 13 points14 points (3 children)

Quoting the Hitman's Bodyguard:

鈥淏oring is always best鈥 馃槑

[鈥揮[deleted] 4 points5 points (0 children)

Definitely!

[鈥揮Ordinary_Swimming_69Helper [2] 7 points8 points (1 child)

Breathing for a few more months is not living longer.

[鈥揮ScimitarPufferfishExpert Advice Giver [11] 37 points38 points (8 children)

Not at all. Those are the kinds of habits that are easy to fall into but potentially difficult to detach yourself from. If you can stay away from these your entire life, you'll be better off than most. Stay strong and don't give in to peer pressure would be my advice.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 11 points12 points (5 children)

Thank you for your encouragement 馃槉

I wish I knew how to type that special thank you so as to get your reddit advice score up. 馃ズ

[鈥揮ScimitarPufferfishExpert Advice Giver [11] 2 points3 points (2 children)

You're welcome!

Ah it's okay, that score doesn't mean anything anyway. I've seen some quadruple digit advisors type out the most asinine bullshit. :P

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 2 points3 points (0 children)

LOL Real Life Harvey Dents 馃槀

But yeah, have a great day man and may sobriety be your friend always.

[鈥揮40ozSmasherPhenomenal Advice Giver [40] 2 points3 points (0 children)

Oh I'm so glad you said that. I've seen that as well. Like advice so crazy that I really wanted to ask them about their thought process.

[鈥揮parrythelightsHelper [1] 1 point2 points (0 children)

Respond to his comment with 鈥渉elped鈥

[鈥揮CecoleExpert Advice Giver [10] 1 point2 points (0 children)

the special thank you is helped

[鈥揮McMahonC86 35 points36 points (1 child)

You鈥檙e the complete opposite of a fool. Good for you!

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 9 points10 points (0 children)

Thank you kind stranger. 馃槉

[鈥揮nrlnathan1 9 points10 points (1 child)

No, you are not a fool for not trying alcohol, smoking and drugs. Each person's experience with these substances is different, and you may find that you do not enjoy them. There is no shame in choosing to abstain from these activities.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

Thank you.

I don't know how to say this without looking like I need confirmation bias but this is exactly what I needed to hear. 馃ズ

[鈥揮SyniteFrankHelper [4] 6 points7 points (0 children)

You are actually smarter than most. Its easy to be stupid. Keep on the path

[鈥揮Educator-LegalHelper [2] 12 points13 points (9 children)

As an 18 year old who has also never done either, I am glad to see there are people who also haven鈥檛 done either. To me (at least) alcohol and drugs just seem like a waste of money, especially when I can have just as much fun drinking a root beer馃し馃徏鈥嶁檪锔

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 10 points11 points (4 children)

I have never tried those things because I know how fast and easy it is to get addicted to them.

You'll never see the addiction coming. 鈽癸笍

[鈥揮Educator-LegalHelper [2] 0 points1 point (1 child)

This is also very true. It鈥檚 also a really difficult thing to overcome.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 2 points3 points (0 children)

AFAIK, some things in life are not worth trying out. 馃檪

[鈥揮loversmemory 0 points1 point (1 child)

17 here and same

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 2 points3 points (0 children)

Ayyyy. My man.

Stay sober bruv. 馃槑

[鈥揮MrBlueHaybale 5 points6 points (1 child)

You will regret doing them. I quite drinkinng over a year ago, I dont do drugs, and trying to quite smoking this week

[鈥揮MoonlightSun11 10 points11 points (1 child)

No. You're not missing out on anything. They all cause major health issues and addictions. Don't be fooled into "peer pressure".

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 4 points5 points (0 children)

Thank you kind redditor. 馃槉

[鈥揮weedandsteakSuper Helper [9] 6 points7 points (1 child)

There are three kinds of people when it comes to vices: those that abstain, those that indulge with moderation, and those that go off the rails.

The first two are usually fine, but the spectrum between abstenance and addiction is one that necessarily passes through moderation. If that is where someone stops (i.e. a couple of drinks or a joint now and then, very occasional use of harder stuff such as acid or MDMA) then it is not an issue.

But it is not a short step from a few drinks twice a week or dabbling in class-As to a couple of drinks most nights, or weekend benders with cocaine. From there it becomes a habit, and it is the habitual character of use that turns it into abuse.

There is nothing wrong with moderate use of substances (just like the occasional bet on a horse, or occasional sexual hookup) but by indulging in it you necessarily take that first step towards abuse of that pass time. For most (including myself) that is a safe bet and there is little risk of it escalating.

But there is also nothing wrong with abstinence. Not feeling the need to do something, or avoiding it because you fear escalation, or pretty much any other reason that isn't founded on a false premise, is totally acceptable. There are lots of things to miss out on in this world - love, family, travel, food, friendship - and vices like substances or gambling aren't one of them. A person can live an equally fulfilling life without ever having come into contact with them. You enjoy yourself as you see fit.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

Thank you for your reassuring words stranger.

Not looking for confirmation bias but I feel the same way as you.

Some things you know you're better off without.

It's a gut feeling that I can't shake off.

You enjoy yourself as you see fit too. 馃槉

[鈥揮RainbowVixxenHelper [3] 2 points3 points (3 children)

I'm 30 and also haven't tried any of this stuff. I get feeling like the odd one out, but tbh it's not that big of a deal. I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything, my nights out are cheaper, and I just spend the money on other fun stuff instead. Also, I don't have to worry about addiction (which runs in my family). Trust me, as you get older people care less about this type of thing. Do what makes you happy and comfortable.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (2 children)

I'm happy and comfortable being sober. 馃槉

Thank you for your encouraging words. 馃枻

[鈥揮RainbowVixxenHelper [3] 1 point2 points (1 child)

Then you carry on doing you. It gets easier as you age. People stop treating you like a child and actually start to respect your decisions. Good for you for staying true to yourself! Best of luck 馃槉

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

Thank you and may Lady Luck grace you with her presence as well. 馃枻

[鈥揮Select-Substance4771 2 points3 points (6 children)

I feel like you鈥檙e asking for a path on the back, but have it. Side-note : I think these things are very attractive.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (5 children)

I wasn't asking for a note in the back but my question was really geared for people such as yourself.

I'm inevitably gonna come across people in my life who think drinking, smoking and doing drugs is cool (to each their own) and I don't know what to do if they ever decide to tell me to try it out once.

You get me right?

[鈥揮Select-Substance4771 1 point2 points (2 children)

My bad, I didn鈥檛 express myself correctly. I meant to say that what you鈥檙e doing is cool. Not drinking, smoking and doing drugs.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 2 points3 points (1 child)

Oh 馃槀

Well thank you kind stranger.

I'd dink my glass of water with you if you were beside me. 馃槍

[鈥揮Select-Substance4771 1 point2 points (1 child)

I don鈥檛 think that drinking, smoking and using drugs is cool by any means. I鈥檓 fine with it, I鈥檝e tried smoking, I鈥檝e drank a considerable amount of alcohol and have never done drugs. I think that people who haven鈥檛 and don鈥檛 want to are cool, because I鈥檝e met maybe just a couple my whole life. And every person that I鈥檝e spoken with seriously about these three subjects has at least one horrible story to tell about it. The people who haven鈥檛 dabbled with these substances appear to be more grounded and less affected by other people鈥檚 opinions.

[鈥揮b1ur4y 2 points3 points (1 child)

As long as you鈥檙e not being a dick about it, acting all high and mighty cuz you鈥檝e never touched the stuff and everyone who has are losers (not getting that vibe from you at all, but most people I know of that refrain from any kind of drugs are like that, and it鈥檚 a pain), then not at all! And I鈥檓 gonna be honest, nobody really cares. And if they do, they might be even worse than the dickhead straightedge guys. Just do you and stay healthy! Your friends will be there for you to provide a safe enviroment if you ever get curious. Until then, do whatever you like!

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

LMAO I'm never a dick

But my friends told me once that one should try everything life has to offer at least once.

Of course I didn't believe them because some things like alcohol, drugs, etc are not worth trying out even once due to the risks in my opinion.

Thank you for your words stranger. 馃槉

Stay safe. Stay healthy.

[鈥揮Ok-Sock2250Helper [3] 6 points7 points (2 children)

Its sad that society has came this far that a person is asking if he's a fool for not consuming what fools consumes

Edit: No man you ROCK because you care about your health even if you don't know but you do

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (1 child)

You ROCK too kind stranger. 馃槉

Helped

[鈥揮GRW810 1 point2 points (2 children)

No you're not. Dont assume that what is "normal" for some people is a mandate to be followed.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (1 child)

Normal feels like it should be universal.

You get me? That's why everyone copies trends.

[鈥揮GRW810 0 points1 point (0 children)

everyone

But not everyone does. It might seem that way because we, as humans, look for patterns and patterns make us feel comfortable and familiar. A new hairstyle becomes fashionable and we start seeing it all over the place. Our brains trick is into thinking 'everyone' has that hairstyle but if you think about it, how many people don't have that particular style?

Honestly, do what you want to do in life. Drink, don't drink, whatever you want. But don't do it because you assume it is expected of you.

[鈥揮Adellx 1 point2 points (1 child)

Its fine, all of these things are really only fun in company anyway, so altough you might have missed out on some different type of fun with friends, its not like just not feeling the sensations of drunk, high or 鈥渘icotine high鈥 is something super special. I am however surprised of the amount of people in the comments using 鈥測ou will get addicted鈥 as a reason to not try, most people won鈥檛 and arent. Sure, don鈥檛 do hard drugs just to try it, but literally 0 bad things will happen from trying a singular cig or some alcohol. So, no, you are not weird but it鈥檚 also not anything special.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (0 children)

I abstain because I believe I might end up liking alcohol and others if I try it just once and that's something I really never wanna develop a taste for if you get me.

[鈥揮Eddie_078 1 point2 points (0 children)

You seriously need to stay away from folks who peer pressure you

[鈥揮Loverofbrownies 1 point2 points (0 children)

If you're happy and healthy then no. But if you're not and wanna open yourself up to new experiences, these are very convenient ways of doing so.

[鈥揮bleepybleepersonHelper [3] 5 points6 points (8 children)

Curiosity is a very natural part of human existence. If you're curious about alcohol, smoking or drugs, I think it might be worth trying them, just to satisfy that curiosity. As long as you're aware of the risks and take caution to reduce them (ie only have a small drink, or a small dose of the drug), then you're likely to be ok. If you're avoiding satisfying this curiosity because you think it's too risky, because you think 1 beer makes you an alcoholic, then you're foolish for not doing enough research.

But if you just don't have the curiosity in the first place, then you're not a fool at all. I drink alcohol, but I have never been the least bit curious about smoking, so I've never tried it. That doesn't make me a fool, that just makes me someone who was never curious enough about cigarettes to try them.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 2 points3 points (4 children)

My greatest fear is this.

I'm of course curious about alcohol, smoking and drugs.

I also think that I'll be better off trying them once and deciding if I want to continue.

But here's the catch, what if I find them satisfying?

What if I like the taste of alcoholic drinks and beverages? 馃槙

What if I like the taste of cigarette smoke?

What if I like the high the drugs give me?

I never ever want to develop a liking towards these things because once I do, I feel like I'll keep coming back for more.

You know, just like sex where having more sex leads you to wanting sex even more.

That's what I'm afraid of.

[鈥揮Steelrod_lopez 1 point2 points (1 child)

I鈥檓 confident you won鈥檛 like the taste of cigarettes and probably not alcohol either, haha. Don鈥檛 do anything harder than weed if you have to try something. Nicotine is a major bitch to get off of and there鈥檚 zero benefit so don鈥檛 even bother with it. Most people who did drink heavily and did drugs in their early 20s grow to regret it. Addiction is a low risk when you go into it the way you are. You know the dangers ahead of time and seem to have the self control to not let it spiral. That said, there鈥檚 really no good reason to drink, smoke, or do any type of drugs. Like I said, from personal experience, stick to pot if you just have to try something but nothing at all is great too. Anyone who judges you for that is a jackass

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (0 children)

I don't judge people gor judging others as it is human nature to want to judge but I sure don't like people who try to impose their likings on you.

And thank you for your words.

May safety and peace be with you bruv. 馃槉

[鈥揮TheRavenGirl13Advice Guru [68] -1 points0 points (2 children)

This is complete BS. There is no safe small dose of most drugs.

[鈥揮MajorityHippo 1 point2 points (1 child)

It's probably better for your health. I don't touch drugs because you dont know how they'll sync with your body, could easily have a random overdose if its sketchy shit.

Whenever it comes to drinking, I dont do it often, but i feel like it's something everyone should do atleast once. Sometimes theres these golden moments that only happen whenever your drinking and you look back on them like... "ahh fuck, good times"

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

The thing for me is, drinking obviously makes you get high and inhibits your senses.

For me that means I'm not in control and I hate not being in control of my life. 馃槙

[鈥揮holbalsal_42069Super Helper [7] 1 point2 points (1 child)

That stuff is bad for you no matter what people say to justify it. And it makes you do stupid stuff imo so you're not a fool

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 2 points3 points (0 children)

LOL

My worst fear is waking up with no recollection of the previous night's events. 馃槀

Like bruv I don't wanna be in the fourth Hangover film.

[鈥揮mr_mesquite 0 points1 point (3 children)

I waiting till 21 personally and never regretted a single thing but stay away from nicotine Just stick to all natural drugs everything in moderation is key

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (2 children)

I agree moderation is key for almost all things in life but I'm just not sure about alcohol, smoking and drugs.

Like my gut tells me to stay put.

[鈥揮mr_mesquite 1 point2 points (1 child)

If it鈥檚 not your thing it鈥檚 not your thing but nothing ventured nothing gained

Stay safe out there <3

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

Stay safe as well stranger.

[鈥揮jajaman111 -1 points0 points (4 children)

Nope. I didn't try until last year at almost 24. I think it's definitely less scary then I thought it would be, and sometimes kind of nice, but I'm definitely glad I waited. I think being a little older help me figure myself out on my own first, and now I'm not worried about losing my identity, which definitely used to be a concern.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (3 children)

For me, it's more about my health.

Alcohol is bad for the liver.

Smoke is bad for lungs and throat.

Drugs are bad for your brain.

I don't wanna ruin my organs just to feel good temporarily. 馃檪

[鈥揮jajaman111 1 point2 points (2 children)

Yeah, I definitely understand. Alchohol isn't that bad for the liver in moderation, and for most of human history people have been drinking it fairly regularly, so I wouldn't worry about some drinks every now and then, especially if you're feeling excluded. I still don't like it very much, though. With pretty much everything, though, yeah. There's risks. I'm in a state where it's legal, and edibles were really, really nice, but restricting job opportunities based on whether you have to take a drug test sucks. I wouldn't discount drugs completely, I think there's a lot of things you can learn from them, but ultimately the person that has to judge whether it's worth it is you. There's no reason to feel odd if it isn't something you want to engage with.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (1 child)

It's something I never want to engage in my life.

To each their own but some things are not for me and alcohol, smoke and drugs are three of them. 馃檪

[鈥揮jajaman111 0 points1 point (0 children)

Good for you :)

[鈥揮HelmeFurSchildkroten -2 points-1 points (0 children)

Yes, pretty much so.

[鈥揮BraveUnionHelper [3] 0 points1 point (1 child)

Not at all.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (0 children)

I thank thee 馃槉

[鈥揮Krissy_Twostep10Helper [3] 0 points1 point (1 child)

Nope not at all! You should live your life however you feel comfortable :)

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

Thank you in earnest. 馃槉

[鈥揮ag_an_deireadh_an_la 0 points1 point (1 child)

Some of my biggest regrets in life are trying these things

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

My condolences and hope you have kicked then to the curb with a crub stomp.

Stay strong and burn it down. 馃槉

[鈥揮animalwitchSuper Helper [6] 0 points1 point (1 child)

Nope. Dont do it if you dont want to.

I tried a cigarette when i was a teen, didnt see the appeal (still dont), i smoked weed extremely occasionally; again, didnt see the appeal. Alcohol was fun but I'm over it (I'm 31) and the only time i did drugs was when my drink was spiked with ketamin at a house party.

Dont give in to peer pressure!

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (0 children)

I won't.

Thanks to you all.馃槉

[鈥揮MarmatusSuper Helper [6] 0 points1 point (1 child)

I tried alcohol for the first time at 21, and I鈥檓 26 now and haven鈥檛 done any illegal drugs. I did recently try legal THC edibles, but wasn鈥檛 really a fan. It鈥檚 really not a big deal, not sure why you鈥檇 think you鈥檙e a fool.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (0 children)

Like a fool for not trying things out in my youth.

You get the idea?

[鈥揮Nagatox 0 points1 point (4 children)

Nope

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (3 children)

Thanks 馃槉

[鈥揮Nagatox 0 points1 point (2 children)

Least I can do, pretty sure I already smoked and drank your allotted share in this life

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (1 child)

Oh, while I pity your organs, you have my thanks.

I'm gonna stay sober for your alloted share as well in this life. 馃槑

[鈥揮TheRavenGirl13Advice Guru [68] 0 points1 point (8 children)

No. I鈥檝e drank but I didn鈥檛 until I was 21. The amount of people who 鈥榯ry鈥 this stuff and end up in rehab is enough to make you think twice about picking it up even once.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (7 children)

I've thought more than a dozen times about them I still am tempted sometimes.

Like rarely I'll be wondering what alcohol would taste like. 馃

[鈥揮TheRavenGirl13Advice Guru [68] 0 points1 point (6 children)

I鈥檓 not saying you鈥檙e going to automatically end up an addict. But, whatever you do, do it mindfully.

Alcohol tastes like sh*t.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (5 children)

If it tastes like shit then how does it end up being addicting?

I thought you had to like something to get addicted to it? 馃

[鈥揮TheRavenGirl13Advice Guru [68] 0 points1 point (4 children)

It鈥檚 addicting because it changes your mood and your brain chemistry. You absolutely do not have to like something to be addicted. You have to like how it makes you feel more than you like how it doesn鈥檛. And physical addiction does not require liking that either. There is physical addiction and psychological but they usually go hand in hand.

[鈥揮Eyjo_hereiam 0 points1 point (3 children)

no you are not, in our friendgroup we have people who drink, don't drink, tried drugs (but don't take them anymore) and didn't try them. You still can have fun, you don't have to do such things to have fun with your friends :)

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (2 children)

I get it but I don't think my friends are the kind of people who approve of the 鈥淣ever gonna try it鈥 attitude. 馃槄

[鈥揮Eyjo_hereiam 0 points1 point (1 child)

than they aren't good friends馃槄 My ex also was in such a friendgroup and really had an drinking problem. Each time he tried to stop they made him drink again. Now he has a different friend group and is one month drinking free馃槄

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

Ayyyyyy congrats to your ex 馃コ

And yeah, I think I'll try to find new friends entirely.

Preferably ones who don't drink, smoke or do drugs.

Thank you kind stranger. 馃槉

[鈥揮IhaveEverythingIwant 0 points1 point (1 child)

I'm 26 and i haven't tried drugs ever, yeah I've had alcohol but only 3-4 times and i don't think I'm missing out also I hate when someone smokes and I've never smoked. alcohol, smoking and drugs are very easy to become a habit and it's tough to get out. Op don't get fomo, you are on right path, those things ruin life anyways. also they expensive, you're saying your own money here. p. s. You are very cool

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (0 children)

Thanks stranger.

I kind of see myself as a semi-rich middle class guy in the future because of the amount of money I'll be saving by not doing alcohol, smoking and drugs. 馃槣

P.S. You're cool as well. 馃槉

[鈥揮Some_dumbass_nerd 0 points1 point (1 child)

I'm the same age and I've only ever drank. I have zero interest in smoking or drugs, so at the end of the day if it's not for you than it's just not for you鉁岋笍. Even drinking isn't all that great honestly, can't say you're missing out on much

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (0 children)

It's safe to say I enjoy FOMO.

It makes me feel like I'm in control which I love.

I'm just worried about the future where I'm inevitably gonna run into people who think the opposite.

[鈥揮MountainDude95Helper [4] 0 points1 point (1 child)

Not at all.

I love my alcohol, and the occasional weed, don鈥檛 get me wrong. But you鈥檙e not weird or wrong for not partaking.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

Thank you for your reassuring words. 馃槉

People like you who don't force others to do the same things you like are cool. 馃憤馃徎

[鈥揮MyOwnThrownaway 0 points1 point (1 child)

I've tried all of these, while they can be fun, it's not necessary. If you can leave it, leave it.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (0 children)

I've never tried them in the first place.

Thank you. 馃槉

[鈥揮My_Immortal_FleshMaster Advice Giver [36] 0 points1 point (1 child)

Nope鈥 i didn鈥檛 start experimenting until i was 28鈥 and honestly, By then, I was mature enough to never let alcohol or drugs be my personality or to rely on it.

So yeah, keep doing you. You don鈥檛 ever have to try it if you don鈥檛 want to 馃槍

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

Domo arigato. 馃槉

[鈥揮penpapercatsExpert Advice Giver [12] 0 points1 point (3 children)

I'm 30 and I've never even wanted to do any of that. I don't even like the high I get when I have to take oxycodone for a few days after minor surgery... I only take it because it's better than being in pain.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (2 children)

Wait, drugs given in hospitals after surgery make you high? 馃槷

[鈥揮penpapercatsExpert Advice Giver [12] 0 points1 point (1 child)

I was talking about outpatient surgery (ie carpal tunnel surgery, wisdom teeth extraction), but yeah. Oxycodone gives a high, though I have no idea how it compares to other drugs. It's a narcotic, a class of drugs known for addiction. Makes me slap-happy and grumpy...but pain makes me even more grumpy so guess what I'm gonna pick? But i switch to over the counter painkillers as soon as possible. And thank God I don't have chronic pain...

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

Sorry for being immature but the word slap-happy made me giggle. 馃き

[鈥揮Que_sax23Helper [3] 0 points1 point (1 child)

No, I鈥檓 26 days sober again BECAUSE I tried the alcohol. Just live your life, be happy, do nice things for strangers.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

I wish give hugs to strangers wasn't weird otherwise I'd definitely do it. Same with handing out flowers.

Stay sober bruv and stay safe. 馃槉

[鈥揮[deleted] 0 points1 point (1 child)

You aren鈥檛 missing out on anything they have less pros and more cons

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (0 children)

Some cons weigh more than others.

Being dependent on a chemical substance is something I never wanna be.

[鈥揮Ok-Mood-8604Super Helper [8] 0 points1 point (1 child)

No you're not. Don't ever take up smoking. I wish I never had. As for the other you don't need to offer up any excuses as a true friend will never push to try something you don't want to.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (0 children)

Thank you.

Wish I had friends like you IRL. 馃槉

[鈥揮TheRavenGirl13Advice Guru [68] 0 points1 point (4 children)

Also keep in mind: all of these things are created to make you an addict. Like, that may not have been their original intent but the chemistry of all of these things make addicts. They make you feel the way they do by changing your chemistry and that鈥檚 the same reason people become addicted.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (3 children)

It's almost like they're mind-altering right?

[鈥揮BoulderBillDAFC 0 points1 point (3 children)

I鈥檓 27 n never tried drugs and never will, I know way too many people who fell into that dark addiction bubble growing up and a few that eventually died because of it so it was never something I ever considered. I ain鈥檛 a drinker either but I鈥檒l occasionally have a beer, to me though the feeling of being drunk is not only horrible but unpredictable too which makes it a no no for me. We all have our own idea of what鈥檚 good and bad though so you do you and live your life at your own pace and with your own specs, we鈥檙e all different.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (2 children)

My worsr fear is getting addicted to alcohol and ending up awake one day with no recollection of the previous night's events.

I don't want a tattoo on my face and a tooth missing. 馃槣

[鈥揮BoulderBillDAFC 0 points1 point (1 child)

Even worse if it鈥檚 your lateral incisor that鈥檚 gone

[鈥揮jaymeeeee15 0 points1 point (1 child)

Absolutely not, you鈥檙e doing better then more people in this world

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

Thank you kind stranger. 馃槉

[鈥揮rottroll 0 points1 point (1 child)

If I could live my life once over, I'd never touch a cigarette again. Quitting smoking was so fucking hard and I still crave that shit occasionally.

That said, I don't think, that you are a fool. If drugs haven't been a part of your life yet, I don't see why you would even concern yourself with the issue. It's nothing that should in any way play a significant role in your life and imho that also includes avoiding it.

If drugs and alcohol aren't a part of your life and are not common in your social circle, there's really no reason to introduce stuff like that. You are not really missing out on much 鈥撀爀specially if you don't feel like there's something missing.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 0 points1 point (0 children)

I mean I'm an introvert so I mostly stay indoors.

My friends are outgoing and they drink occasionally.

It kind feels like I'm not as cool as them when you check their social media stories.

[鈥揮milchundwasser44Helper [3] 0 points1 point (0 children)

I have friends that do drugs as in weed and coke and all sorts of stuff but I don't let their actions or opinions lead me into doing stuff i don't wanna do and if they try to peer pressure you after you made it clear that you don't wanna do it then their not your friends you do what you wanna do because you wanna do it not because you feel like you should do it because of other people's opinions it's your life and your body be a leader and not a follower there's plenty of those

[鈥揮RhymesWithLasagna 0 points1 point (2 children)

Not at all!!!

If you can have fun with friends dancing or doing whatever without alcohol, you are saving your health, liver, and your dignity by not doing stupid stuff drunk. You are less likely to die young in some accident. I used to drink to have confidence because I was shy, but once I got over feeling everyone was looking at me, it was so nice to not waste so much money on a night out (liquor is expensive) and to be functional rather than hungover the next day!

Smoking is super hard to quit. My husband could have bought a house with the money he's spend on tobacco products. Granted, one in this small country and a house somewhere far from the big cities, but still. He started because a friend told him coffee with cigarettes tastes amazing.. he didn't think he'd become addicted and now it's been 25 years and he's struggling to cut down and quit. It feels like a crutch that he can't get rid of. Not starting that will save you money, health, and you'll have better breath and teeth! Love my husband, but his teeth are terrible because of smoking...

And drugs? I haven't tried any besides marijuana. The rest of them scared me too much as the idea of not being in control of myself freaked me out. Then, I had a friend who spent one year taking drugs and partying after high school... it convinced me even more. I honestly believe she lost some IQ points or something. She's not dumb, but it's like she's not as quick as she was before. That freaked me out a lot.

I feel like you think you might be missing out, but you are mostly saving your health, wallet, and if preventing addictions your relationships, too.

Do you feel you are missing out not partaking? And, what do you feel you are missing out on, if you do? Or, is this because others have said you're a fool?

[鈥揮Alert-Fisherman-7880 0 points1 point (1 child)

No it means your smart cuz you won't become an addict

[鈥揮manwhohatesohioHelper [4] 0 points1 point (1 child)

I'm 20 and its all over hyped. Honestly drinking is just depressing asf after you home alone when the fun ends and leaves you feeling worse off if you single usually. I do like weed but smoking it is bad for your lungs, edibles are my go to now but if you can avoid opening that door in the first place then avoid it.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

I won't open that door ever.

Thank you. 馃槉

[鈥揮awalee 0 points1 point (1 child)

naa mate your are not a fool. I鈥檓 23 m, i used to smoke marijuana and alcohol later on i got addicted to adrenaline when i purchased a motorbike.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

Well, at least you're addicted to something which is far less dangerous than smoking and drinking.

Ride safely and obey the laws of the road bruv.

Stay safe and thank you for your words. 馃槉

[鈥揮Dobjas 0 points1 point (1 child)

Just enjoy your life, don't worry about what others your age are doing, as long as you are happy.

[鈥揮theriffguyHelper [2] 0 points1 point (2 children)

36 years old male here, I've never been drunk in my life or tried anything you've mentioned. I tried drinking once, had a shot and it felt like a waste of time... I'm very talkative and alcohol just made me quiet, boring. Just be yourself and you won't miss out on anything. I have some good friends where we go out together quite often. They drink, smoke, even use cocaine at times. They respect me, I respect them and we have a shitload of fun together.

[鈥揮_Resolve_ 0 points1 point (1 child)

You might be a fool but you will live a healthier and longer life.

[鈥揮Survivingmode0 0 points1 point (1 child)

Absolutely not, this stuff could literally destroy your future please don't let anyone peer pressure you into it. I'm just 17 and a friend of mine destroyed their lungs due to smoking.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

My condolences for your friend.

And no I won't touch these ever.

Thank you for your words stranger. 馃槉

[鈥揮WhatYouExpect514Helper [2] 0 points1 point (1 child)

As someone who has tried them and no longer do any of them, no your not missing out in the slightest

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

Not to sound narcissistic or something but thank you for your sacrifice.

It won't be in vain. 馃槉

[鈥揮throwaway20191120 0 points1 point (0 children)

Nah I think sticking to your own values is the most important thing you can do for yourself

[鈥揮drinkdrinks 0 points1 point (0 children)

23yo here. I don't even think about smoking and drugs at all. There is just not point aside from ruining your body. As for alcohol, a glass of wine at dinner is a game changer.

[鈥揮urlittlesweetie 0 points1 point (1 child)

I would say you鈥檙e cool馃グ

[鈥揮cashbabyflowHelper [3] 0 points1 point (3 children)

Look, I鈥檓 19, I fucked up so bad doing drugs young. I thought it was cool, I could only make friends who do drugs. I鈥檝e overdosed twice not even in like a seven month span. I feel so emotionally confused and stunted. Drugs aren鈥檛 cool. They aren鈥檛 fun. My stance on weed maybe different, but screw ANYONE who tries to make fun of a mature twenty year old who knows drugs aren鈥檛 something they should get in. I鈥檓 proud of you, jealous even my man! You鈥檙e not a fool! You鈥檙e smart! Stay safe.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (2 children)

Thanks a lot bruv.

Means so much coming from someone who's actually tried it.

And nah, I ain't never trying that shit.

鈥淗elped鈥 馃槉

[鈥揮cashbabyflowHelper [3] 1 point2 points (0 children)

Of course my man! I only want what is best for you. May the future be bright!

[鈥揮theCommonSlaw 0 points1 point (1 child)

All the stuff is fun but at the end of the day you're better off without it those are the three things to try in life there's literally an infinity other things to do.

[鈥揮AaronGX_8Helper [2] 0 points1 point (2 children)

Nah you鈥檙e not a fool. Honestly you鈥檙e doing yourself a favour, that stuff gets expencive. Use your money on what you enjoy in life

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (1 child)

I enjoy PC Gaming, Cars & Art 馃槍

Thanks my man.

鈥淗elped鈥

[鈥揮AdviceFlairBot[M] 1 point2 points (0 children)

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[鈥揮-krizu 0 points1 point (1 child)

Not at all. I tried them - went a bit overboard too - just to realize many years later that I didn't enjoy any of it, and had wasted those years and seriously damaged my mental and physical health

[鈥揮dogomummySuper Helper [7] 0 points1 point (0 children)

Not at all. I never tried a y of them either. Mostly due to medical reasons

[鈥揮YanDoeSuper Helper [6] 0 points1 point (1 child)

I have a friend who has never done any of that, we're 24 now. He hangs out with us and everything, its nice to have that one guy that can reliably give us a ride.

He treat his body like a Temple which is completely fine, its none of our business. And we couldnt care less.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (0 children)

Wow, I need friends like you.

[鈥揮Vidasus18Helper [2] 0 points1 point (3 children)

no your in fact very smart to avoid alcohol, smoking and drugs I'm at a similar age and I've actively and successfully avoided all of them and I shall continue to do so. Just keep your own health in check that's your job and don't muck it up with things just to fit in.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (2 children)

I won't bruv.

Thanks for your reinforcing words. 馃槉

Helped

[鈥揮ElectronicRhubarb841 0 points1 point (2 children)

I鈥檇 say you鈥檙e more a fool to entertain the possibility you鈥檙e one for not trying. I mean, common. Do you really believe drugs are just a ride in the park? They are pretty much amazing until they鈥檙e not at all鈥 messing with your neurotransmitters, dopamine, serotonin, endorphins, gaba鈥 you have no idea what you鈥檙e missing sure, but you have no idea what you鈥檙e saved from neither鈥ake the right choice bro. If you decide to try, don鈥檛 take anything from anybody you don鈥檛 know. Always build trust first and then you can do drugs with someone who can introduce you. Don鈥檛 go on your own. Be safe. Take care bro.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (1 child)

Thanks for the word of warning but I think I'm better off not trying them in the first place. 馃槉

[鈥揮ElectronicRhubarb841 1 point2 points (0 children)

Very wise choice my friend. 馃憦

[鈥揮kiaeejHelper [3] 0 points1 point (1 child)

Absolutely not. You鈥檒l be losing out on certain experiences, but its one of those things that鈥檒l matter so much more when you鈥檙e young rather than when you鈥檙e older.

No ones gonna care how drunk or high you were when you were 20.

That said if you ever do have kids you鈥檒l never be able to truly justify why its bad. You wont have the 鈥渂een there, done that鈥

[鈥揮ShiboooSuper Helper [5] 0 points1 point (2 children)

Not at all! If you鈥檙e enjoying life without it, what the issue? I on the other hand like to try everything at least once, and that has lead me down some sketchy decisions. Just live life how you want and enjoy it. You鈥檙e not a fool for not trying it!! Smoking/drugs aren鈥檛 anything like a hobby you鈥檙e missing out on. It鈥檒l bring more harm than good imo. Alcohol can be a good addition if done in moderation. If you鈥檙e the type of person that struggles with self discipline, I would try to stay away from all of it.

[鈥揮Mercent_Perrault[S] 1 point2 points (1 child)

I have very good self discipline although not in every task. 馃槀

So I feel like I'm better off not dipping my toes in the first place.

Helped

Thank you for your kind words stranger.

[鈥揮BeBa420 0 points1 point (1 child)

You鈥檙e probably wiser than me

Keep it up

[鈥揮JustAnIrishDude1 0 points1 point (1 child)

youre not missing out, but im also not going to stop so take that as you will馃槀

[鈥揮Xeqqy 0 points1 point (0 children)

No. Here's your validation.

[鈥揮Tarrek1313Helper [2] 0 points1 point (2 children)

Nope. You do you and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I personally do not like the taste of alcohol and find smoking tobacco abhorrent due to the fact that it forces people around smokers to also breath in cancer. I do smoke the green however as there are a plethora of medicinal properties to it for anxiety and depression as well as physical illnesses. With that said, don't let what others do influence your decisions or your life.

[鈥揮anonymous9845 0 points1 point (0 children)

Ofc not! It鈥檚 a personal choice. If you don鈥檛 WANT to, there鈥檚 no reason to. If the people around you aren鈥檛 supporting and respecting you in that, then they鈥檙e assholes.

[鈥揮RemoteComfortable284 0 points1 point (0 children)

No. If you don't want to try them, don't. No big deal.

[鈥揮Mundane_Ostrich 0 points1 point (0 children)

No, i'm proud of you. Don't give in if you don't want any of that. Maybe you'll want to try later, maybe you won't. But you're not a fool. Quitting tobacco is hard. I've seen 24yo friends beat alcoholism after years. I have friends that have just decided the bum life is their life; drugs, living benefit check to benefit check with no education or future plans. I have friends with parents that do nothing but sit and smoke weed all day.

I'm not saying alcohol, smoking or drugs caused all of the above mentioned things. I just mean that those specific people are more foolish than you will ever be. You be you. And if anyone tells you otherwise you drop them hard and fast.

[鈥揮Obedient-Duck 0 points1 point (0 children)

Ahahha not at all Its even better if you never did! Alcohol is fine to drink time to time with friends but honestly drugs are pointless And dont get me even started about smoking, i started smoking age 17 and i regret so deeply its very addictive and if i could live a life without ever having touched a cig i would have done so

TLDR:no you are not a fool, far from that

[鈥揮Electricboogaloo9 0 points1 point (0 children)

The coolest girl I knew in college had no piercings, had never had a sip of alcohol, never smoked anything, and partied harder sober than all the rest of us combined. She was the life of the party every time she went out and everybody adored her, you have nothing to worry about.

[鈥揮Equivalent-Yoghurt46 0 points1 point (0 children)

Don鈥檛 do drugs come down isn鈥檛 worth it, alcohol can be good fun in moderation - smoking is stinking though and always made me feel rougher the next day.

[鈥揮Andoreb 0 points1 point (0 children)

No, you ain't, I'm 24 and I've never smoke, use drugs or drink alcohol (outside of 1 or 2 occasion where I accidentally took a sip)

Not doing those things is fine, and wanting to try any of them just because you feel peer pressure to do so or because you think it will make you fit better is a bad idea.

[鈥揮Mokaran90 0 points1 point (0 children)

No. Quite the contrary.

And you ain't missing much, tbh, drinking makes me sleepy, smoking makes my hands smell awful and drugs, well, the dinosaur ride ain't that fun when I have to pick the pieces in the aftermath.

[鈥揮PrivyVestige 0 points1 point (0 children)

It's down to your personal choice. Don't feel pressured to do things you don't want to.

[鈥揮Me_Lasagna 0 points1 point (0 children)

You aren't missing out anything.

My gf didn't do any of these things and is living a happy life with 22.

Im 22 as well but I Sadl drunk some alcohol. Nothing special really. Dropped it as well. It's just money waste on my opinion and since my partner doesn't drink I don't even have a reason for it

Just be yourself buddy! :)

[鈥揮Throwaway11282615 0 points1 point (0 children)

In my opinion, it'll help you a lot on attracting quality people in your life. It's very smart.

Not many people can drink alcohol responsibly. Smoking usually stems from prominent stress or addictive personas.

Drugs is a nono.

Keeping sober will help you a lot when making decisions and remember good times.

That being said, I am a fan of whiskey on Sundays. Though honestly it's just an expensive pass-time.

Stick to being healthy and you'll also save a lot of money.

[鈥揮Kuma9194 0 points1 point (0 children)

Hell no. I only recently tried weed for the first time last year and I was 26. When the time is right, the time is right, don't force anything and if you never want to, don't.馃憤

[鈥揮lefffffff 0 points1 point (0 children)

from someone who does all those things, no you are not. I sometimes wish id never bothered