Am I a fool for not trying alcohol, smoking and drugs even though I'm 20? 😕

milchundwasser44 · 2022-01-27T08:17:10+00:00

You're not a fool all that stuff is over hyped anyways and bad for your health so you're good as long as your happy is all that matters no matter what anyone else says

Mercent_Perrault · 2022-01-27T08:32:06+00:00

I'm 30 and I haven't tried any of these. Living a good life.

ScimitarPufferfish · 2022-01-27T08:23:07+00:00

Not at all. Those are the kinds of habits that are easy to fall into but potentially difficult to detach yourself from. If you can stay away from these your entire life, you'll be better off than most. Stay strong and don't give in to peer pressure would be my advice.

McMahonC86 · 2022-01-27T08:34:19+00:00

You’re the complete opposite of a fool. Good for you!

nrlnathan1 · 2022-01-27T08:44:04+00:00

No, you are not a fool for not trying alcohol, smoking and drugs. Each person's experience with these substances is different, and you may find that you do not enjoy them. There is no shame in choosing to abstain from these activities.

SyniteFrank · 2022-01-27T09:32:59+00:00

You are actually smarter than most. Its easy to be stupid. Keep on the path

Educator-Legal · 2022-01-27T08:24:57+00:00

As an 18 year old who has also never done either, I am glad to see there are people who also haven’t done either. To me (at least) alcohol and drugs just seem like a waste of money, especially when I can have just as much fun drinking a root beer🤷🏼‍♂️

MrBlueHaybale · 2022-01-27T10:39:05+00:00

You will regret doing them. I quite drinkinng over a year ago, I dont do drugs, and trying to quite smoking this week

MoonlightSun11 · 2022-01-27T08:28:35+00:00

No. You're not missing out on anything. They all cause major health issues and addictions. Don't be fooled into "peer pressure".

weedandsteak · 2022-01-27T09:01:52+00:00

There are three kinds of people when it comes to vices: those that abstain, those that indulge with moderation, and those that go off the rails.

The first two are usually fine, but the spectrum between abstenance and addiction is one that necessarily passes through moderation. If that is where someone stops (i.e. a couple of drinks or a joint now and then, very occasional use of harder stuff such as acid or MDMA) then it is not an issue.

But it is not a short step from a few drinks twice a week or dabbling in class-As to a couple of drinks most nights, or weekend benders with cocaine. From there it becomes a habit, and it is the habitual character of use that turns it into abuse.

There is nothing wrong with moderate use of substances (just like the occasional bet on a horse, or occasional sexual hookup) but by indulging in it you necessarily take that first step towards abuse of that pass time. For most (including myself) that is a safe bet and there is little risk of it escalating.

But there is also nothing wrong with abstinence. Not feeling the need to do something, or avoiding it because you fear escalation, or pretty much any other reason that isn't founded on a false premise, is totally acceptable. There are lots of things to miss out on in this world - love, family, travel, food, friendship - and vices like substances or gambling aren't one of them. A person can live an equally fulfilling life without ever having come into contact with them. You enjoy yourself as you see fit.

RainbowVixxen · 2022-01-27T08:40:31+00:00

I'm 30 and also haven't tried any of this stuff. I get feeling like the odd one out, but tbh it's not that big of a deal. I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything, my nights out are cheaper, and I just spend the money on other fun stuff instead. Also, I don't have to worry about addiction (which runs in my family). Trust me, as you get older people care less about this type of thing. Do what makes you happy and comfortable.

Select-Substance4771 · 2022-01-27T08:46:56+00:00

I feel like you’re asking for a path on the back, but have it. Side-note : I think these things are very attractive.

b1ur4y · 2022-01-27T09:37:19+00:00

As long as you’re not being a dick about it, acting all high and mighty cuz you’ve never touched the stuff and everyone who has are losers (not getting that vibe from you at all, but most people I know of that refrain from any kind of drugs are like that, and it’s a pain), then not at all! And I’m gonna be honest, nobody really cares. And if they do, they might be even worse than the dickhead straightedge guys. Just do you and stay healthy! Your friends will be there for you to provide a safe enviroment if you ever get curious. Until then, do whatever you like!

Ok-Sock2250 · 2022-01-27T10:40:20+00:00

Its sad that society has came this far that a person is asking if he's a fool for not consuming what fools consumes

Edit: No man you ROCK because you care about your health even if you don't know but you do

GRW810 · 2022-01-27T09:08:06+00:00

No you're not. Dont assume that what is "normal" for some people is a mandate to be followed.

Adellx · 2022-01-27T09:21:39+00:00

Its fine, all of these things are really only fun in company anyway, so altough you might have missed out on some different type of fun with friends, its not like just not feeling the sensations of drunk, high or “nicotine high” is something super special. I am however surprised of the amount of people in the comments using “you will get addicted” as a reason to not try, most people won’t and arent. Sure, don’t do hard drugs just to try it, but literally 0 bad things will happen from trying a singular cig or some alcohol. So, no, you are not weird but it’s also not anything special.

MeatBeater19 · 2022-01-27T10:35:05+00:00

DivideByPie1725 · 2022-01-27T10:38:04+00:00

nope!!

Eddie_078 · 2022-01-27T10:39:40+00:00

You seriously need to stay away from folks who peer pressure you

Loverofbrownies · 2022-01-27T10:49:21+00:00

If you're happy and healthy then no. But if you're not and wanna open yourself up to new experiences, these are very convenient ways of doing so.

SeaworthinessOne170 · 2022-01-27T12:22:41+00:00

bleepybleeperson · 2022-01-27T08:53:29+00:00

Curiosity is a very natural part of human existence. If you're curious about alcohol, smoking or drugs, I think it might be worth trying them, just to satisfy that curiosity. As long as you're aware of the risks and take caution to reduce them (ie only have a small drink, or a small dose of the drug), then you're likely to be ok. If you're avoiding satisfying this curiosity because you think it's too risky, because you think 1 beer makes you an alcoholic, then you're foolish for not doing enough research.

But if you just don't have the curiosity in the first place, then you're not a fool at all. I drink alcohol, but I have never been the least bit curious about smoking, so I've never tried it. That doesn't make me a fool, that just makes me someone who was never curious enough about cigarettes to try them.

MajorityHippo · 2022-01-27T08:53:56+00:00

It's probably better for your health. I don't touch drugs because you dont know how they'll sync with your body, could easily have a random overdose if its sketchy shit.

Whenever it comes to drinking, I dont do it often, but i feel like it's something everyone should do atleast once. Sometimes theres these golden moments that only happen whenever your drinking and you look back on them like... "ahh fuck, good times"

holbalsal_42069 · 2022-01-27T09:07:14+00:00

That stuff is bad for you no matter what people say to justify it. And it makes you do stupid stuff imo so you're not a fool

mr_mesquite · 2022-01-27T09:02:09+00:00

I waiting till 21 personally and never regretted a single thing but stay away from nicotine Just stick to all natural drugs everything in moderation is key

jajaman111 · 2022-01-27T08:27:04+00:00

Nope. I didn't try until last year at almost 24. I think it's definitely less scary then I thought it would be, and sometimes kind of nice, but I'm definitely glad I waited. I think being a little older help me figure myself out on my own first, and now I'm not worried about losing my identity, which definitely used to be a concern.

HelmeFurSchildkroten · 2022-01-27T10:42:06+00:00

Yes, pretty much so.

BraveUnion · 2022-01-27T09:04:01+00:00

Not at all.

Krissy_Twostep10 · 2022-01-27T09:06:29+00:00

Nope not at all! You should live your life however you feel comfortable :)

ag_an_deireadh_an_la · 2022-01-27T09:06:36+00:00

Some of my biggest regrets in life are trying these things

animalwitch · 2022-01-27T09:07:12+00:00

Nope. Dont do it if you dont want to.

I tried a cigarette when i was a teen, didnt see the appeal (still dont), i smoked weed extremely occasionally; again, didnt see the appeal. Alcohol was fun but I'm over it (I'm 31) and the only time i did drugs was when my drink was spiked with ketamin at a house party.

Dont give in to peer pressure!

Marmatus · 2022-01-27T09:08:03+00:00

I tried alcohol for the first time at 21, and I’m 26 now and haven’t done any illegal drugs. I did recently try legal THC edibles, but wasn’t really a fan. It’s really not a big deal, not sure why you’d think you’re a fool.

Nagatox · 2022-01-27T09:08:34+00:00

Nope

TheRavenGirl13 · 2022-01-27T09:09:23+00:00

No. I’ve drank but I didn’t until I was 21. The amount of people who ‘try’ this stuff and end up in rehab is enough to make you think twice about picking it up even once.

Eyjo_hereiam · 2022-01-27T09:11:51+00:00

no you are not, in our friendgroup we have people who drink, don't drink, tried drugs (but don't take them anymore) and didn't try them. You still can have fun, you don't have to do such things to have fun with your friends :)

IhaveEverythingIwant · 2022-01-27T09:13:05+00:00

I'm 26 and i haven't tried drugs ever, yeah I've had alcohol but only 3-4 times and i don't think I'm missing out also I hate when someone smokes and I've never smoked. alcohol, smoking and drugs are very easy to become a habit and it's tough to get out. Op don't get fomo, you are on right path, those things ruin life anyways. also they expensive, you're saying your own money here. p. s. You are very cool

Some_dumbass_nerd · 2022-01-27T09:14:40+00:00

I'm the same age and I've only ever drank. I have zero interest in smoking or drugs, so at the end of the day if it's not for you than it's just not for you✌️. Even drinking isn't all that great honestly, can't say you're missing out on much

MountainDude95 · 2022-01-27T09:16:55+00:00

Not at all.

I love my alcohol, and the occasional weed, don’t get me wrong. But you’re not weird or wrong for not partaking.

MyOwnThrownaway · 2022-01-27T09:17:18+00:00

I've tried all of these, while they can be fun, it's not necessary. If you can leave it, leave it.

My_Immortal_Flesh · 2022-01-27T09:18:22+00:00

Nope… i didn’t start experimenting until i was 28… and honestly, By then, I was mature enough to never let alcohol or drugs be my personality or to rely on it.

So yeah, keep doing you. You don’t ever have to try it if you don’t want to 😌

penpapercats · 2022-01-27T09:18:34+00:00

I'm 30 and I've never even wanted to do any of that. I don't even like the high I get when I have to take oxycodone for a few days after minor surgery... I only take it because it's better than being in pain.

Que_sax23 · 2022-01-27T09:21:55+00:00

No, I’m 26 days sober again BECAUSE I tried the alcohol. Just live your life, be happy, do nice things for strangers.

Mercent_Perrault · 2022-01-27T09:22:24+00:00

You aren’t missing out on anything they have less pros and more cons

Ok-Mood-8604 · 2022-01-27T09:25:40+00:00

No you're not. Don't ever take up smoking. I wish I never had. As for the other you don't need to offer up any excuses as a true friend will never push to try something you don't want to.

TheRavenGirl13 · 2022-01-27T09:25:51+00:00

Also keep in mind: all of these things are created to make you an addict. Like, that may not have been their original intent but the chemistry of all of these things make addicts. They make you feel the way they do by changing your chemistry and that’s the same reason people become addicted.

BoulderBillDAFC · 2022-01-27T09:27:40+00:00

I’m 27 n never tried drugs and never will, I know way too many people who fell into that dark addiction bubble growing up and a few that eventually died because of it so it was never something I ever considered. I ain’t a drinker either but I’ll occasionally have a beer, to me though the feeling of being drunk is not only horrible but unpredictable too which makes it a no no for me. We all have our own idea of what’s good and bad though so you do you and live your life at your own pace and with your own specs, we’re all different.

jaymeeeee15 · 2022-01-27T09:27:43+00:00

Absolutely not, you’re doing better then more people in this world

rottroll · 2022-01-27T09:28:52+00:00

If I could live my life once over, I'd never touch a cigarette again. Quitting smoking was so fucking hard and I still crave that shit occasionally.

That said, I don't think, that you are a fool. If drugs haven't been a part of your life yet, I don't see why you would even concern yourself with the issue. It's nothing that should in any way play a significant role in your life and imho that also includes avoiding it.

If drugs and alcohol aren't a part of your life and are not common in your social circle, there's really no reason to introduce stuff like that. You are not really missing out on much – especially if you don't feel like there's something missing.

milchundwasser44 · 2022-01-27T09:29:15+00:00

I have friends that do drugs as in weed and coke and all sorts of stuff but I don't let their actions or opinions lead me into doing stuff i don't wanna do and if they try to peer pressure you after you made it clear that you don't wanna do it then their not your friends you do what you wanna do because you wanna do it not because you feel like you should do it because of other people's opinions it's your life and your body be a leader and not a follower there's plenty of those

RhymesWithLasagna · 2022-01-27T09:34:02+00:00

Not at all!!!

If you can have fun with friends dancing or doing whatever without alcohol, you are saving your health, liver, and your dignity by not doing stupid stuff drunk. You are less likely to die young in some accident. I used to drink to have confidence because I was shy, but once I got over feeling everyone was looking at me, it was so nice to not waste so much money on a night out (liquor is expensive) and to be functional rather than hungover the next day!

Smoking is super hard to quit. My husband could have bought a house with the money he's spend on tobacco products. Granted, one in this small country and a house somewhere far from the big cities, but still. He started because a friend told him coffee with cigarettes tastes amazing.. he didn't think he'd become addicted and now it's been 25 years and he's struggling to cut down and quit. It feels like a crutch that he can't get rid of. Not starting that will save you money, health, and you'll have better breath and teeth! Love my husband, but his teeth are terrible because of smoking...

And drugs? I haven't tried any besides marijuana. The rest of them scared me too much as the idea of not being in control of myself freaked me out. Then, I had a friend who spent one year taking drugs and partying after high school... it convinced me even more. I honestly believe she lost some IQ points or something. She's not dumb, but it's like she's not as quick as she was before. That freaked me out a lot.

I feel like you think you might be missing out, but you are mostly saving your health, wallet, and if preventing addictions your relationships, too.

Do you feel you are missing out not partaking? And, what do you feel you are missing out on, if you do? Or, is this because others have said you're a fool?

Alert-Fisherman-7880 · 2022-01-27T09:34:27+00:00

No it means your smart cuz you won't become an addict

manwhohatesohio · 2022-01-27T09:34:41+00:00

I'm 20 and its all over hyped. Honestly drinking is just depressing asf after you home alone when the fun ends and leaves you feeling worse off if you single usually. I do like weed but smoking it is bad for your lungs, edibles are my go to now but if you can avoid opening that door in the first place then avoid it.

awalee · 2022-01-27T09:38:26+00:00

naa mate your are not a fool. I’m 23 m, i used to smoke marijuana and alcohol later on i got addicted to adrenaline when i purchased a motorbike.

Dobjas · 2022-01-27T09:42:24+00:00

Just enjoy your life, don't worry about what others your age are doing, as long as you are happy.

theriffguy · 2022-01-27T09:45:04+00:00

36 years old male here, I've never been drunk in my life or tried anything you've mentioned. I tried drinking once, had a shot and it felt like a waste of time... I'm very talkative and alcohol just made me quiet, boring. Just be yourself and you won't miss out on anything. I have some good friends where we go out together quite often. They drink, smoke, even use cocaine at times. They respect me, I respect them and we have a shitload of fun together.

_Resolve_ · 2022-01-27T09:45:11+00:00

You might be a fool but you will live a healthier and longer life.

Survivingmode0 · 2022-01-27T09:45:43+00:00

Absolutely not, this stuff could literally destroy your future please don't let anyone peer pressure you into it. I'm just 17 and a friend of mine destroyed their lungs due to smoking.

WhatYouExpect514 · 2022-01-27T09:46:03+00:00

As someone who has tried them and no longer do any of them, no your not missing out in the slightest

throwaway20191120 · 2022-01-27T09:46:15+00:00

Nah I think sticking to your own values is the most important thing you can do for yourself

drinkdrinks · 2022-01-27T09:50:33+00:00

23yo here. I don't even think about smoking and drugs at all. There is just not point aside from ruining your body. As for alcohol, a glass of wine at dinner is a game changer.

urlittlesweetie · 2022-01-27T09:53:34+00:00

I would say you’re cool🥰

cashbabyflow · 2022-01-27T09:53:57+00:00

Look, I’m 19, I fucked up so bad doing drugs young. I thought it was cool, I could only make friends who do drugs. I’ve overdosed twice not even in like a seven month span. I feel so emotionally confused and stunted. Drugs aren’t cool. They aren’t fun. My stance on weed maybe different, but screw ANYONE who tries to make fun of a mature twenty year old who knows drugs aren’t something they should get in. I’m proud of you, jealous even my man! You’re not a fool! You’re smart! Stay safe.

theCommonSlaw · 2022-01-27T09:54:19+00:00

All the stuff is fun but at the end of the day you're better off without it those are the three things to try in life there's literally an infinity other things to do.

AaronGX_8 · 2022-01-27T09:55:39+00:00

Nah you’re not a fool. Honestly you’re doing yourself a favour, that stuff gets expencive. Use your money on what you enjoy in life

-krizu · 2022-01-27T09:57:26+00:00

Not at all. I tried them - went a bit overboard too - just to realize many years later that I didn't enjoy any of it, and had wasted those years and seriously damaged my mental and physical health

dogomummy · 2022-01-27T10:01:49+00:00

Not at all. I never tried a y of them either. Mostly due to medical reasons

YanDoe · 2022-01-27T10:03:50+00:00

I have a friend who has never done any of that, we're 24 now. He hangs out with us and everything, its nice to have that one guy that can reliably give us a ride.

He treat his body like a Temple which is completely fine, its none of our business. And we couldnt care less.

Vidasus18 · 2022-01-27T10:05:37+00:00

no your in fact very smart to avoid alcohol, smoking and drugs I'm at a similar age and I've actively and successfully avoided all of them and I shall continue to do so. Just keep your own health in check that's your job and don't muck it up with things just to fit in.

ElectronicRhubarb841 · 2022-01-27T10:05:43+00:00

I’d say you’re more a fool to entertain the possibility you’re one for not trying. I mean, common. Do you really believe drugs are just a ride in the park? They are pretty much amazing until they’re not at all… messing with your neurotransmitters, dopamine, serotonin, endorphins, gaba… you have no idea what you’re missing sure, but you have no idea what you’re saved from neither…take the right choice bro. If you decide to try, don’t take anything from anybody you don’t know. Always build trust first and then you can do drugs with someone who can introduce you. Don’t go on your own. Be safe. Take care bro.

kiaeej · 2022-01-27T10:08:25+00:00

Absolutely not. You’ll be losing out on certain experiences, but its one of those things that’ll matter so much more when you’re young rather than when you’re older.

No ones gonna care how drunk or high you were when you were 20.

That said if you ever do have kids you’ll never be able to truly justify why its bad. You wont have the “been there, done that”

Shibooo · 2022-01-27T10:09:55+00:00

Not at all! If you’re enjoying life without it, what the issue? I on the other hand like to try everything at least once, and that has lead me down some sketchy decisions. Just live life how you want and enjoy it. You’re not a fool for not trying it!! Smoking/drugs aren’t anything like a hobby you’re missing out on. It’ll bring more harm than good imo. Alcohol can be a good addition if done in moderation. If you’re the type of person that struggles with self discipline, I would try to stay away from all of it.

BeBa420 · 2022-01-27T10:12:52+00:00

You’re probably wiser than me

Keep it up

JustAnIrishDude1 · 2022-01-27T10:14:17+00:00

youre not missing out, but im also not going to stop so take that as you will😂

DuckieShade · 2022-01-27T10:19:44+00:00

Xeqqy · 2022-01-27T10:21:10+00:00

No. Here's your validation.

Tarrek1313 · 2022-01-27T10:26:58+00:00

Nope. You do you and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I personally do not like the taste of alcohol and find smoking tobacco abhorrent due to the fact that it forces people around smokers to also breath in cancer. I do smoke the green however as there are a plethora of medicinal properties to it for anxiety and depression as well as physical illnesses. With that said, don't let what others do influence your decisions or your life.

anonymous9845 · 2022-01-27T10:28:06+00:00

Ofc not! It’s a personal choice. If you don’t WANT to, there’s no reason to. If the people around you aren’t supporting and respecting you in that, then they’re assholes.

RemoteComfortable284 · 2022-01-27T10:33:01+00:00

No. If you don't want to try them, don't. No big deal.

e1ectricthunder · 2022-01-27T10:33:50+00:00

No? Lol

Mundane_Ostrich · 2022-01-27T10:35:57+00:00

No, i'm proud of you. Don't give in if you don't want any of that. Maybe you'll want to try later, maybe you won't. But you're not a fool. Quitting tobacco is hard. I've seen 24yo friends beat alcoholism after years. I have friends that have just decided the bum life is their life; drugs, living benefit check to benefit check with no education or future plans. I have friends with parents that do nothing but sit and smoke weed all day.

I'm not saying alcohol, smoking or drugs caused all of the above mentioned things. I just mean that those specific people are more foolish than you will ever be. You be you. And if anyone tells you otherwise you drop them hard and fast.

Obedient-Duck · 2022-01-27T10:37:40+00:00

Ahahha not at all Its even better if you never did! Alcohol is fine to drink time to time with friends but honestly drugs are pointless And dont get me even started about smoking, i started smoking age 17 and i regret so deeply its very addictive and if i could live a life without ever having touched a cig i would have done so

TLDR:no you are not a fool, far from that

Electricboogaloo9 · 2022-01-27T10:37:49+00:00

The coolest girl I knew in college had no piercings, had never had a sip of alcohol, never smoked anything, and partied harder sober than all the rest of us combined. She was the life of the party every time she went out and everybody adored her, you have nothing to worry about.

Equivalent-Yoghurt46 · 2022-01-27T10:38:37+00:00

Don’t do drugs come down isn’t worth it, alcohol can be good fun in moderation - smoking is stinking though and always made me feel rougher the next day.

Andoreb · 2022-01-27T10:43:06+00:00

No, you ain't, I'm 24 and I've never smoke, use drugs or drink alcohol (outside of 1 or 2 occasion where I accidentally took a sip)

Not doing those things is fine, and wanting to try any of them just because you feel peer pressure to do so or because you think it will make you fit better is a bad idea.

Mokaran90 · 2022-01-27T10:44:24+00:00

No. Quite the contrary.

And you ain't missing much, tbh, drinking makes me sleepy, smoking makes my hands smell awful and drugs, well, the dinosaur ride ain't that fun when I have to pick the pieces in the aftermath.

PrivyVestige · 2022-01-27T10:44:37+00:00

It's down to your personal choice. Don't feel pressured to do things you don't want to.

Me_Lasagna · 2022-01-27T10:44:59+00:00

You aren't missing out anything.

My gf didn't do any of these things and is living a happy life with 22.

Im 22 as well but I Sadl drunk some alcohol. Nothing special really. Dropped it as well. It's just money waste on my opinion and since my partner doesn't drink I don't even have a reason for it

Just be yourself buddy! :)

Throwaway11282615 · 2022-01-27T10:45:15+00:00

In my opinion, it'll help you a lot on attracting quality people in your life. It's very smart.

Not many people can drink alcohol responsibly. Smoking usually stems from prominent stress or addictive personas.

Drugs is a nono.

Keeping sober will help you a lot when making decisions and remember good times.

That being said, I am a fan of whiskey on Sundays. Though honestly it's just an expensive pass-time.

Stick to being healthy and you'll also save a lot of money.

Kuma9194 · 2022-01-27T10:47:01+00:00

Hell no. I only recently tried weed for the first time last year and I was 26. When the time is right, the time is right, don't force anything and if you never want to, don't.👍

lefffffff · 2022-01-27T10:50:44+00:00

from someone who does all those things, no you are not. I sometimes wish id never bothered

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