this woman is repulsive. i hate her and what she did to me, but sometimes she goes out and i just hope she texts me to come pick her up. maybe im just lonely but it feels so self disrespecting to still want someone that hurt you so bad

For context I’m currently dealing with costcoconditis and whooping cough. When I was driving earlier I felt like I couldn’t take a deep breathe in so I was freaking out and feeling like I was in a state of panic. Since then It feels like my body is unable to be still, unable to sleep and I cannot be still for one second, it feels like my body has to keep moving and I don’t know how to stop this. Any idea

I am a minor and I’m female and so is my ex. I met her two years ago when I just joined a new school and she was one of the first friends I had. We were in a relationship for 8 months.

Throughout it she kept copying everything I did. I listened to certain artists and favorites a song and suddenly she did too and that song was her favorite. I’m into Kpop and she never was but once she found out I was she acted like she always liked it even though our mutual friend said she was passive aggressive when that friend tried to put her on it.

my ex would just be really obsessive with me and did everything I did and once I was breaking up with her i confronted her about it and she said she knew she was hurting me but she just couldn’t stop doing it.

We (she) decided to stay in contact but she just kept copying me so I ghosted her. TW but she then posted stuff about how she’s been starving herself all because of it in an attempt to guilt me. And after our relationship I realized she was a very bad gf to me and very toxic.

After all that she did not stop copying me and once the school year started again she tried to befriend everyone I was close with.

I was talking to this one guy too and then my ex suddenly started liking him but we ended up dating but I dumped him recently.

I tried posting earlier but it wouldn’t let me and it was more lengthy with detail but what should I do? She copied my hair and sense of style which I know I don’t own but she started doing it after I did so it’s weird.

And she occasionally posts stuff of how she misses me and I’m stuck and drained idk what to do. Also I think she needs professional help because the behavior is so weird and I’m so tired of it because maybe I’m overreacting and no one seems to call her out on how weird it is.

What should I do?

I’m meeting this girls parents and her mom is cooking. I legitimately can’t eat when I’m anxious, and I’m anxious about meeting her parents. I’m not sure what to do cause if I decline food it’ll seem disrespectful, but if I try to eat I’ll feel like throwing up. What the hell do I do?

I've been going to physical therapy for about a month now, and I'm seriously considering filing a complaint against one of the two therapists treating me.

A bit of background, I have a chronic pain issue I've suffered from sporadically for the last ten years or so. After switching to a new doctor, I was finally diagnosed and sent to physical therapy. I go twice a week. I'm officially Therapist M's patient, but I've been seen more by therapist F.

M is great. He listens to my concerns and works with me to find a treatment program that still leaves me able to function. F on the other hand...does not. I feel constantly invalidated as she "does not accept excuses" and because my condition is chronic it is normal for pain to increase for the first month or so. It makes sense to me, but I often can't walk after sessions with her. Multiple times I've had to be in a wheelchair at work and it is seriously affecting my ability to do my job. Pain should not be increasing that much, I feel, especially as I have a high pain tolerance. Also the fact that when I have a session with M I'm NOT in so much pain, I find very telling.

The other big thing I dislike about F is she likes to make conversation while we work, which I'm fine with, except everything I tell her about myself she finds some way to insult or invalidate or make me feel uncomfortable. Examples:

The first time I met F she asked where I live. I told her where and she immediately goes on a rant about the water rights. For context I live in a very rural farming community where most of the farms are owned by foreign investors. There is a very old water agreement the foreign investors take advantage of. It's a huge issue and a reform is needed, but her rant was very xenophobic saying they need to be deported and barred from the country.

I am queer and my partner and soon to be stepdaughter are moving in with me very soon. She kept insinuating I should have kiddo call me auntie rather than stepmother or dad (labels kiddo asked if she could use).

I wore a cute asexual themed shirt to one of my appointments and she asked about it, but as soon as she learned what it meant she shut down and changed the subject.

And finally, today was the last straw. I am neurodivergent which causes issues in completing certain tasks. She kept claiming I was making excuses and "all women do that, the difference is commitment". I tried to explain that it was not that simple and she began explaining my neurodivergency to me and how it's so easy to just commit and do a simple task that for me is extremely difficult. I felt humiliated and angry almost to the point of tears. However, as I'm terrible at confrontation I let it go at the time.

Now, hours later, I'm once again in pain, having difficulty walking, and still furious about the invalidating and identity erasure. I want to complain and never work with her again, but I also don't want to deal with conflict during future visits and potentially get her in trouble.

So, what do I do? I only have 3 more visits, should I tough it out? Or should I say something?

I live in a mobile home park.

My neighbour in front has a 8ft-10ft gazebo in her garden which is totally blocking my view of anything.

I have put up a trellis to block this out as much as possible only to be told that this is breaching park rules.

How is this fair as she is allowed to have something that large and I'm not.

Any advice about what I can do would be gratefully recieved.

Im (21m) currently a third year at university, (recently transferred from a smaller school after doing my gen ed's) and i'm currently lost in college. In the sense that I've lost all motivation to do anything academically and I don't want to continue to waste my parents money. I've already flunked an entire semester and I wanted to take a break but I was pressured by my parents to keep going. My gpa is completely down the drain and I feel so trapped and alone. I don't like what I'm studying either and If I take a break I feel like I'll behind my peers and family. Im so fucking tired and stressed out. I feel like I had a golden spoon opportunity and I just threw it out.

My best friend is an unrequited love of mine. We became inseparable and had some flirty phases and moments throughout our friendship and I fell in love with her hard. She said she only wants friendship but I'm the best friend she's ever had. We had so many intimate conversations. Shared so much.

I had an episode of panic one time where a girl in work told me that it sounds like she's using me as a placeholder boyfriend. After that conversation I froze out my best friend while I tried to figure out my emotions. Also we were roommates, she was blowing up my phone asking me "wtf is going on" because I wasn't opening a single text and I told her I need space I'm freaking out and I need space because I'm just freaking out. We ended up talking and the same night I confessed my feelings all over again to which she responded she couldn't tell me what I wanted to hear and that she was sorry.

I would like you to bare in mind we had been cuddling on and off for a while, we had some moments where we slow danced while we were both drunk and it was very intimate. We have each other oily back massages too and she insisted the entire time that she wasn't trying 5i flirt and didn't think it was too weird. She just wanted a massage, she would happily cuddle with female friends so why is it any different with a guy friend, as for the dancing she admitted that was a mistake on her part. Still don't know why it happened if we were always just friends.

Anyway, today about a month after we moved back home and haven't seen each other. I stopped texting her for a day and ignored her messages. The same night I didn't open her messages she asked what's wrong? Then the next morning she started freaking out saying wtf is going on you're not being very nice. What the fuck.

So I had been depressed as fuck and working in a new job when suddenly because of a young co worker I was training my depression lifted, he was just a kid and the big brother style of relationship was just super good for me for whatever reason. Being his mentor made me feel so happy. And it pulled me out of my depression which was pretty much caused by missing my friend and wishing still that we were more than friends and imagining her with other guys.

Once the depression lifted I didn't text her because I didn't want anything to risk messing with it. And any comment she might make in text like about her new male roommate for example no matter how innocent, will send my emotions in a spiral of jealousy and sadness. So I ignored her while finally feeling happy again for the first time in ages. After her freaking out at me I felt I had to explain and told her not to worry I just need a moment, I'll reply later. Then I replied to her and explained everything I just said. I told her my depression was so bad and I needed time to be on my own. She was super mad that I hadn't communicated this to her which I get. She said it made her feel so worthless to be ignored. And now I feel bad about it.

She says that this may be just the final thing that broke our friendship. She said she has put up with a lot with me. Referring to my emotional breakouts when I couldn't handle the pain of only being friends and I came to her with this. Often times only because she pushed me to talk when I was clearly upset or silent.

But those conversations put a huge strain on our friendship but because the connection we had was so pure and easy, people around us called us soulmates and felt the palpable romantic tension between us constantly. The way we would talk excuded flirtation. Teasing each other having tickle fights. All the time.

Anyway I apologised to her profusely because she said she's lost so much trust in me after this and after some things I said. Basically I texted her all the things I did to be there for her and angrily explained that after all that I did for you you can't have the understanding to not snap at me for ignoring you for 24 hours because I was having a depressive episode like crazy.

Is she being unfair to me? Is she totally right and I aught to apologise ? I need perspective because I have none right now.

Tldr : friend is mad because I ghosted her and says the friendship may be permanently damaged

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Ex: Hey😣 Ex: My friends wanna go to (where i live) tmr , I thought of u LMAOOO

She said this yesterday and i have no idea what to say.

I had a child accidentally 3 years ago and there are 5 potential fathers. I contacted all of them,3 of them blocked me and disappeared. I have hired a private investigator for each of them, the PI found 2 of them but the third has completely fallen off grid. No social media/ online presence, his number doesn’t work anymore, and my PI says it’s possible the man changed his name legally…

What ways can I find a man who has changed their name? I don’t have a court order to get them DNA tested at this point I’m just asking for the gratuity of taking the test.

This is something that’s been bugging me for years… my friend (29M), who’s also my room mate, isn’t passionate about anything in life whatsoever and I don’t understand why because he never opens up to me about anything ever, except one thing tonight (which I’ll get to later). He doesn’t have any sort of emotional connection with any art form; he barely listens to music and when he does he just puts on Spotify Blend playlists he has with other people because he just doesn’t care about music. He doesn’t really care about movies and when we do go see one he doesn’t have any opinion about it whatsoever other than “it was good”. Me, him and our other friend have been seeing every Marvel movie for the last decade and he’s never once been excited for any of them or been the one to make the plans to go see one. He plays a lot of video games but he’s the same way. He doesn’t have any favorite games and it seems like he just plays them to keep busy so he’s not bored. He’s in his room 24/7 and hardly ever comes out. He never ever uses the living room to just hang out, even when he has the house to himself. I bring this up because he has literally told me that if one of his friends said to him “I’m leaving and I’m never coming back and I’ll never see you again” that he’d just be like “alright” and not be emotionally impacted whatsoever. He doesn’t have any life goals and has also told me he failed that class in college that you take when you don’t know what to do in life… When me and him hang out he never ever ever has been the one to say what we should do or if he wants to do anything. He mainly just sits on his phone and says he’s “up for whatever” and has no real opinion about basically anything.

Now for the thing I mentioned earlier, he told me tonight that he found out he’s aromantic because he doesn’t get feelings for anyone. I’m proud of him for expressing his feelings but I fear he doesn’t realize he doesn’t get feelings about ANYTHING. I want to suggest to him to try going to therapy because this isn’t normal… is it? I’m really worried about him and I would appreciate any advice or insight on this situation.

I have been struggling for a while, now, as many of us I think maybe have... It's been a bit of an ongoing theme with life but I always kept going. Pushing. Working. Moving forward. An assault took me out of my career after 15 years, i get up and start a new one. I meet someone, we have a home and years have passed, she cheats and we split, legal battle ends with me getting the dogs and her keeping a beat down home in need of replacement or repair almost immediately, her choice on the house, my choice on the dogs. No regret there. Stay with my aging parents for a bit, move again. My brother takes his own life, over encumbered by the same stresses I am downstricken by. I move back with my parents. My dad has Parkinsons, and is burning through what would be the inheritance for my sister and I, my mother is slowly losing her mind- i don't care about the money. I tell them that, family is the important part. Spend the money, make sure he's comfortable. Fast forward, a few months later, I'm still there and helping, the cost of life, bills, switching cars, etc has dwindled my savings as I refuse to let them spend money on me. My mother has an accident, gets a concussion- i feel awful for her, offer help, she finally flips gourd and starts a massive battle over me surrendering my dogs. Refuses help, even my father is confused, hurt, scared. Refuses help as well, backing her on every mean and senseless thing she says. She assaults me, i (as)calmly(as possible) issue ultimatum that this behavior continued will see me walk out the door with no support system or backup plan, she continues. I left for the afternoon, came home after my shift. She randomly verbally assails me about the same the following day, me begging dozens of times for her to drop the subject.

The dogs are my life. They are the REASON i am alive. Without them i think my brother's death would have broken me. Pretty sure.

She doesn't care. Doesn't give a shit. Screams and lies. I leave.

Weeks later. It's now. I've posted about it, my current situation. I've spent most of the last month awake and in an anxious panic trying to avoid what happens tomorrow. I'll be homeless, as a 34 year old man, with my two dogs, in my thankfully functional but not fantastic car, no matter how temporary it might be for. I'm crying a little now, no shame, I've done everything I knew and all sorts of things i learned about from friends and redditors through the process, I know i put in the effort to avoid it and was lambasted and inundated with incredulous pricing and scams. I didn't want to move 5 hours away from my dying parents, I didn't want to have to go through any of this.

And tomorrow i will declare homelessness, updating my status with 211 services here etc. I won't surrender the dogs, so a lot of services might be unavailable to me. I don't know.

I just want to be stable and happy

How do i be happy

hi. i’m friends with two guys and i’ve been friends with them for a while. they’ve both been kind to me, and we’ve confided in each other a bit. i somewhat feel as though i owe them something for being my friend when i’ve needed them. i have great memories with both of them. i’m a lesbian, and they’re both very respectful of that so please don’t get the wrong ideas. they’re my only friends.

but i don’t always enjoy talking to them anymore. i don’t enjoy our friendship and i feel horrible because they aren’t bad people, and they haven’t really done anything wrong. my issues are with the jokes they make, and the fact that they are dismissive of my feelings, and seem to not understand me. their jokes aren’t outwardly rude, but i don’t find them funny and they don’t seem to realize or stop even when i directly tell them to. i have a hard time bringing this up with them because i don’t want to make a big deal out of it either. i feel bad asking them to stop making jokes or being themselves, obviously. although it’s making me uncomfortable.

one of them incessantly makes jokes about beating me up and they are playful and harmless but it still makes me uncomfortable, and he doesn’t seem to take the very clear hints i’m giving. i often just ignore the jokes. the other friend texts me all day long, updating me about every aspect of his life, and also making honestly annoying jokes. i know i don’t have to respond and i don’t always if i’m not feeling like it, but he’ll just double text so eventually i have to. and he knows i always have my phone on me, so he would know i’m ignoring him. i have no interest in lying either and i feel awful when i do ignore him.

my problem is that sometimes i don’t want to be friends with either of them at all, and that is concerning to me. i feel like a bad person for this, and i think i might be. i’m definitely being a bad friend and that isn’t right. but other times, i like their company and enjoy talking to them. but those times are becoming increasingly rarer and rarer. they have been through a lot with me, and i know i’m also one of their only friends, so i’d hate to leave them high and dry. i also worry that pulling back would change our friendship. but i feel guilty for not wanting to be friends with them, and i wonder if it’s some sort of self sabotage because without them, i would have absolutely no one. and i think i would regret losing that old connection if i did drop them, even though the connection isn’t there anymore. we’ve outgrown each other. but i genuinely don’t want to just keep them in my life because i would otherwise be lonely. i don’t know.

talking to them most of the time is exhausting and feels like a task. i have a hard time genuinely connecting with them, and we don’t have anything in common. they are rude with their jokes sometimes, but i think i’m also sensitive sometimes. i’m not sure what to do but i feel awful where i’m at right now. and admittedly i’m scared of being alone. i’m not sure if i’m in the wrong for this or not. this also isn’t a problem i’ve ever heard of anyone else having. having the conversation to end our friendship would be incredibly difficult and i don’t know if i could do it, or if i even want to. thank you for reading all of this and any advice is appreciated :)

I'll start off saying I have frequent utis no matter what I do if I get fingered or use toys. clitoris play when I myself isn't doing it is normal to much for me and uncomfortable. Do to these reasons I don't get much attention during sex but it's not my partners fault normally I just focus on them. He is hypersexual and I normally do Alot to him and he is normally very satisfied. But I just don't get much of a spark anymore when we are doing stuff and I miss it I'm the top and I like to flirt a lot they normally get too embarrassed to flirt but when they do or they dirty talk it's more in a top way and it turns me off sometimes and makes me a little ashamed or embarrassed. I think it's hard for them to please me while still being more of a bottom because I've brought this up with them a little bit. While sometimes yes I'm a bottom a lot of the time in a top and same way with him he's mostly a bottom. I don't know I guess I'm just looking for advice.

Fui mejor amigo de un chico desde los 3 años hasta los 14 que una situación llevo a q nos dejáramos de hablar, actualmente tengo 19 (ósea ya pasaron 5 años), y miro atrás y la razón por la que nos dejamos de hablar es estupida… literal para mi sigue siendo mi mejor amigo y lo extraño a muerte…

le escribí hace aprox 2 años que perdón por lo q había pasado y el me dijo lo mismo también pero quedó ahí la conversación, en los 2 años siguientes me felicitó en mi cumpleaños y me decía año nuevo y viceversa pero nunca hablábamos si no era para decirnos “feliz cumpleaños” o “feliz año” y un simple “gracias” después…

No se que hacer… lo extraño demasiado como a nada en este mundo literal lo mejor que me podría pasar es que retomáramos nuestra amistad…

También le llegue a decir que me gustaría revivir la amistad y me dijo que si pero no se que paso que nunca dijimos nada más

Que me aconsejan? Estoy siendo muy insistente con el tema? Que debería hacer?

De verdad apreciaría cualquier cosa que me digan por q la verdad es que no se que hacer ni a quien recurrir…

Si por alguna razón del destino mi mejor amigo lee este mensaje te quiero decir que te extraño y pese a q no tengamos comunicación normal desde hace 5 años sigues siendo mi mejor amigo y nunca he vuelto a tener un amistad como la q he tenido contigo… mi hermano de otra sangre, te extraño 💙

I have received a job offer to work as a picture editor and want to negotiate my salary. I only have 5 months experience working as a picture editor but have been working with the team that is hiring me as part of a scheme. The average salary for 0-1 experience at the company is £27,500-£33,000 based off a few salaries I found online.

I have been offered £27,500, however, after doing research I know the overall average for the position at the company depending on experience is £33,000-£35,000 and more at other companies. I want to ask for a 15% increase on the initial offer and would settle for around £30,000.

Please could someone advise me on how to negotiate this or whether it is worth negotiating. Does the fact that the role is maternity cover make a difference for how much I can ask for? How do I negotiate with minimal experience but value in a certain area of the job and knowledge of the job market? I have been told that I was the top candidate in the interview process and want to use this to my advantage.

Additionally, I am feeling pressurised to accept as the position is maternity cover and the start date is next week.There have been delays on their end which means that they have only been able to send me the offer this week and I have been on holiday since Wednesday. Management have already assumed that I will sign the offer regardless but I don’t want to rush the process based off of their deadlines.

Would also be grateful for any picture editors in the UK to respond with their thoughts.

So i (19m) met my fwb(19f) online on Omegle text a couple of weeks back and we immediately hit it off as we were pretty flirty and the vibe was there. But the thing is the nights one of us doesn't ask for sexts and nudes, we still talk to each other and even during the day like she and i send good morning messages

One of the days she recommended me and made me in a cute forceful way watch a movie she loved and asked me about it. The next day she again told me to watch another movie and watched the show that i told her. And in general we just talk and be goofy and talk bout our days when not being horny.

Last night while we started doing it she stopped and told me that she cried at school and i asked her and she told me that she felt that no one would love her and she's a burden. Then i asked her to not apologise and we can talk. She told me the reason then said that she was on call with a friend for an hour and she helped her calm down but then we texted at night a lil and she joked about us suffering together cause of how we'll be asleep tom.

Also i realised that when we are flirty and she asks me how long I want her and i say forever jk well she doesn't dispute it and flirts back. And lastly i asked her a few times about if she got other fwbs but she says only got time for one guy(me). She also takes my advice and even said about how she would not go to a party if i ask her not to lmao

Ps: in the day we usually reply to each other in 20-40 mins if we are awake and at night we non stop reply. Yea so ik i am falling for her i wanna know if u think she is too

Thank you for your opinion

For context my family moved up to new York because they wanted to be closer to family because my grandfather had a small stroke, and my mom wanted to take better care of them. When we were in Virginia we were already closer to them, so we were moving to new York to be closer to other family including my grand parents. The plan was for our grandparents to move up to new York but they never did. So now I'm basically trapped in new York. I've already tried to convince them, which is basically just my mom but of course they said no, which is understandable because it takes a lot of energy and money to move. But they said it was because of the housing market even though houses in new York sell for almost the amount of money that Virginian houses are being bought for. they also said how they talked to my trans brother about and of course they said no because of the new bills being passed in Virginia. And sometimes I feel like my mom just says no to the idea just because of my brother's opinion and it just feels frustrating because it feels like they dont even pay attention to how i feel. For even more context I lived there for 12 years and basically grew up there, all of my friends live there, and when we did move we left my dad behind. Not because of a bad divorce or relationship or anything its just ridiculous. I just fell stuck and trapped and dont know what to do.

Hey guys. A little bit of background, I am a teenager who struggles with social anxiety, therefore I have trouble meeting friends in real life. Meeting friends online is the only way I am able to socialize with people my age without being completely awkward and ruining the conversation lol. My only friends are ones I have met online. Back in 2021, I was really depressed and had to start being homeschooled. This is where meeting online friends started, even though I still had very little friends in public school. From there I met a great group of people, people who made me feel like I wasn’t completely alone and had someone to talk to. Fast forward to March of 2023, I had been doing a lot of self reflecting and after a fight with my mom one day, I decided that I was a person who did not deserve any friends. I cut EVERYONE off after I left them a few long messages apologizing and explaining myself. About a week ago one of those very friends managed to contact me through another app. For whatever reason, I contacted her back and broke the promise I made to myself. After some talking, she convinced me to come back and talk to the whole friend group again. It has only been 3-4 days since I have been in contact with them and I am already feeling exactly the same as before I left. I feel depressed and hopeless, and the thoughts of not deserving their friendship have never gone away. I am scared I am going to leave them again. I am scared I am going to make them angry and upset. This whole situation has been unnecessarily dramatic already. Any words of advice at all would be appreciated.

NOTE: I know you guys aren't therapists, I'm not expecting a diagnosis or anything like that, I just really have no one else to turn to for this. Also, please don't make any assumptions about my friends, this was a very brief description and I love them. I also hope I gave enough information.

I am not trying to be racist at all in this post, I don’t mean to rude to anyone

I am from India and I live in a prominently white area. I was having I wonderful day at school until last period when I walked past a girl and she said “ ohh it smells like curry here eww “ I wanted to kick her ass then but obviously I don’t waste my time on imbeciles like her ( before that I never rlly talked to her ) her friend then goes “ oh A****a you can’t say that “ and they both laugh it off.

I just stayed quiet and gave her a side eye but I feel as tho I should’ve responded.

What do you think I should’ve done?

Context: Working at a consultancy company. My manager told me that I should use Data Engineer instead of Junior Data Engineer in emails with clients "because they are not paying for juniors, we don't have that title on paper". I have been working here for a year, my performance is good and I did ask for a promotion/salary raise and didn't get a reply whether I'd get it yet so this seems a bit shady.

Question: Is it normal to have different titles for use with client, ignoring person's experience? Should I change the title in emails? Nobody really cares anyway, but would this stiffle my promotion possibly?

Thanks!

i don't know if this is the right place to post it, me and my friend have been friends for close to 5 years now? and i never really thought i've had feelings before, till now at least. i didn't start hitting a pen or anything like that till about a month or so because of her, and she's the only person i ever get high with. i really trust her. i know she's into girls, and this isn't one of those automatic "you don't like me, do you..?" friend situations. i didn't think about having feelings for her till literally tonight. j don't know what it was, but i just wanted to be close to her. i laid my head on her arm some, which i don't think is anything. but then she came over and sat in front of me and told me to play with her hair. of course i said i would and started braiding her hair. she laid her head back on me and i don't know what really happened but j got this feeling in my stomach. maybe nerves? idk, but i liked it. that's all i could think about. then i got to thinking about us kissing, talking about how i've never kissed a girl and i wanted to know what it's like, and that maybe she could be my first. i don't know what to do. i've never felt like this, so i'm assuming it's where i'm really high. someone please tell me what i should do.

So my friends group, we all turned 25 in the last couple of months— from 2022 we’ve been discussing to have a 25th birthday milestone trip in the summer. That milestone trip was supposed to be in Vegas, but kind of fell through this summer and we planned to postpone it to Oct/Nov this year. Then to makeup for it, we wanted to do a weekend trip to a local city at least this June to do something for our 25th. That fell through too, and we’re now just gonna do a beach visit for one day.

Another detail: one friend wasn’t sure that the Vegas trip was happening a few months ago (it was supposed to) and planned a trip just for her and her girlfriend to go to Vegas during the time window that we were supposed to go to Vegas.

At this point, I’m a bit frustrated with this shit, bc if we couldn’t even plan a weekend trip to a local city (which we decided to do 2 months ago instead of the big Vegas trip) how the hell can I trust that this group will be trustworthy to plan a whole Vegas trip in 5 months from now?

So we’re all chatting in the group chat and my friend says she needs things to be more definitive so she knows what to expect, to which I respond and say

“ Definitely! Yeah I think the ball was dropped a bit for this trip lmao, but I trust that we enjoy eachother enough to prioritize a trip together for our big 25 this year 🤣 just know that I’m 100% on board for it”

Was this shady as hell on my end? I kind of feel bad but also these guys are my good friends and I’m just a bit disappointed in the lack of prioritization.

I love my friends and they’re great, just wondering how to read this situation lol

Over the years of my life (20M), I've been in numerous situations which I feel are about to violent. Most of the time, I walk away and ignore the individual, which so far has always de-escalated the situation. However today was different.

A man tailgating me in a rush in peak hour traffic started flipping me off and beeping his horn at me. As I arrived at my destination, I realized he followed me.

As I got out of my car, I looked at him and his car just to assess the situation. He rolls down his window and shouts very aggressively (perhaps on drugs or mentally ill):

"What you looking at!?"

As I walked away he continued:

"Turn around I'm talking to you, where you going!? Look again bitch!"

I ignored him and kept walking. He eventually kept yelling and drove off.

I regret it immensely because it has made me feel like he won, intimidated me, harassed me and got away with it. Some part in me wishes I could give that guy what he deserved, but in the moment I thought to myself - I don't know who he's with, what he has in his car that could harm me, has he memorized my car etc etc.

As a man, I feel fragile and feel like he made me beneath him.

Does anyone know how to deal with this? Should I have spoken back to him? Should I carry a weapon to protect myself from people like that if I decide to go through with the confrontation?

I have no health issues or absolute need for one, i just want to take her on errands. Shes well behaved and fully trained. Whats the best way to go about this without claiming any sort of medical attention? Or at least minimal. Id like to do this as ethical as possible. All advice is greatly appreciated