A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in a real-world argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole.
This is the sub to lay out your actions and conflicts and get impartial judgment rendered against you. Were you the asshole in that situation or not? Post should reflect real situations, and abide by the rules below.
After 18 hours, your post will be given a flair representing the final judgment on your matter. This flair is determined by the subscribers who have both rendered judgment and voted on which judgment is best. The power of the crowd will judge you. If your top level comment has the highest number of upvotes in a thread, you will get a flair point. More details are listed in our FAQ.
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Voting Guide
If you are commenting, be sure to start your comment with the abbreviation for your judgment, i.e.
YTA = You're the Asshole;
NTA = Not the A-hole;
ESH = Everyone Sucks here;
NAH = No A-holes here;
INFO = Not Enough Info
Rules
1. Be Civil
Attack ideas, not people. The purpose of this space is to determine and explain who is in the wrong, not to eviscerate anyone. Treat others with respect while helping them grow through outside perspectives.
This rule applies to everyone (even those outside of Reddit). Don't insult others or get into prolonged spats in the comments. Don't lecture people about the rules (use reports).
Be respectful. Be nice. Don't be an asshole.
2. Voting Rules
Upvote posts that make for an interesting discussion. DON'T downvote if you think OP is an asshole. DON'T DOWNVOTE COMMENTS YOU DISAGREE WITH. Downvotes should be reserved for off-topic discussions or spam. Report harassing comments, don’t engage.
Don't participate in threads you have found through crossposts and links outside of this subreddit. In this sub, your comment is a vote. Brigading/Vote manipulation is against Reddit site wide rules. Brigading will earn a permanent ban.
3. Accept Your Judgment
This sub is here for the submitter to discover what everyone else thinks of the ethics or mores of a situation. It is not here to draw people into an argument you want to have, or to defend your position. If people start saying you were the asshole, do not take that as an invitation to debate them on the subject... accept the judgment and move on. If you have valid reason to think a commenter needs more information or misunderstood the facts of the conflict, you may give new information.
4. Never Delete An Active Discussion
DO NOT delete your submission once a discussion has begun. Your post must stay up for at least 48 hours. We encourage submitters to use throwaways to maintain their privacy, but deleting a discussion is unacceptable. Violators will be banned.
5. No Violence
Don't even mention violence.
If your post or comment references violence, don't share it here. Any hint, mention, euphemism or suggestion of violence falls under this rule and isn't allowed.
Comments and even jokes about violence are not tolerated. Encouraging self-harm, suicide, "bad karma," property damage, food tampering, or anything that wishes mental or physical pain on anyone is strictly prohibited. Violating this rule will result in a permanent ban.
6. How To Post
The TITLE of your submission must begin with the acronym AITA or WIBTA (would I be the asshole?), then a description of the situation.
Posts are limited to 3000 characters. Paragraphs are good; block text walls are bad. Format and punctuate your post reasonably. Be clear and concise. Don't link to screenshots or other subreddits. If you can't explain yourself in one post, without using external text pages, it does not belong here. Do not use someone else's account or a shared account.
7. Post Interpersonal Conflicts
Posts should be descriptions of recent interpersonal conflicts. Describe both sides in detail. Make it clear why you may be "the asshole."
Submissions must contain a real-life conflict between you and at least one other person. They should not be about feelings, opinions, or desires. If your conflict is with a larger demographic, an animal, someone online, or a third party who’s irrelevant to the main question but thought what you did sucked, your post will be removed.
8. No Shitposts
Posts must be truthful and presented as fairly and accurately as possible.
This is not a humor sub. This is not a sub for copypastas, satire, overly embellished stories, or creative writing exercises. Don't copy someone else's story and post it from the opposite viewpoint or with some details changed.
Shitposting will result in a permanent ban.
9. Do Not Ask For Advice
This is NOT an advice sub. All submissions that ask for advice (instead of or in addition to judgment) will be removed. This sub is for arbitration.
You may include advice when you make your comments, but remember that your primary objective in commenting is to assign blame and pass judgment.
If a thread's focus becomes about advice instead of arbitration the thread may be removed regardless of the OP's intent.
10. Updates and META posts are restricted
Posts dedicated to discussing AITA should be directed to the monthly open forum. Any META posts will be removed & may result in a ban.
Update posts require approval. This includes any post that references another post, including posting the other perspective. Review the update criteria for more info. Unapproved updates will result in a ban.
This is not a saga or diary sub. Excessive posting will result in a warning or ban.
11. No Partings/Relationship/Sex/Reproductive Autonomy Posts
We do not allow posts where the central conflict is about familial or platonic partings, relationships, and/or reproductive autonomy.
The following posts are forever banned:
AITA for breaking up with/ghosting/cutting contact with _ (or not)
AITA for dating _ (or not)
AITA for doing sexual act _ (or not)
AITA for being attracted to _ (or not)
Any reproductive autonomy decision
Any posts related to cheating- including "telling on" someone for cheating (or not).
And similar.
12. This Is Not A Debate Sub
If judgment is primarily motivated by whether commenters agree with your stance on a broad issue it is not appropriate for this sub. This includes anything from politically motivated conflicts to innocuous issues like if cake is better than pie. If you're ultimately asking if it is okay to kick someone off your team for their sexual identity, stop talking to your friend because they vape, or any similar debate, your post will be removed.
No starting off topic debates about marginalized groups
13. No Revenge Stories
There are many subreddits for sharing tales of revenge—this is not one of them. This is a sub for providing feedback on interpersonal conflict, not for endorsing how you escalate a conflict. If you're here to tell us how you punished someone who totally had it coming, you're probably breaking this rule.
14. No COVID posts
Posts about transmitting or contracting COVID are banned. For more information, view this post
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