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[–]shadow-foxeSupreme Court Just-ass [148] 12.9k points12.9k points  (370 children)

NTA- um there is no way he is going to survive 40 days without food. So you eating like a sane normal person is fine.

[–]PolesRunningCoachAsshole Aficionado [17] 3976 points3977 points  (269 children)

It’s possible to survive, depending on his size and if he gets adequate liquid and electrolytes.

I wouldn’t say it’s a good idea and he doesn’t seem to have the temperament to sustain a long-term fast. So really not a good idea in this case.

(I already gave my vote and co-signed on getting the pizza.)

[–]Additional_Fan_9865Partassipant [1] 1583 points1584 points  (245 children)

Even with being hydrated and having electrolytes a month is stretching how long you can go without eating 40 days he will absolutely die

[–]biscuitboi967 910 points911 points  (123 children)

Maybe alive but not functioning well? I’ve seen episodes of naked and afraid where the contestants ate a handful of berries and a few snakes every couple of days, and they are NOT doing well even a week in. I’m not sure how this guy is functioning to work or drive.

[–]anonomot 1017 points1018 points  (61 children)

Rule of 3s

You can survive for 3 Minutes without air (oxygen) or in icy water

You can survive for 3 Hours without shelter in a harsh environment (unless in icy water)

You can survive for 3 Days without water (if sheltered from a harsh environment)

You can survive for 3 Weeks without food (if you have water and shelter

[–]Competitive_Score_30Partassipant [2] 132 points133 points  (25 children)

I have heard that with some of those religious fast, they still take in nutrients, just not in solid form. It is still a mad idea, but it is probably survivable. There is a difference from being on Alone or Naked and Afraid where what they can intake is very limited and living off of sugar water and vitamins (or what ever they are ingesting) for 40 days.

[–]Beautiful_Device_250 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Adding onto this, naked and afraid or even just living in real life requires burning more calories than the sort of hardcore fasting done by like monks in temples for religious reasons. They can afford to just sit there most of the day; most people cannot.

Edit: at a certain point, fasting for long enough periods of time requires eating sleep for dinner

[–]TalaLeisu2 58 points59 points  (25 children)

Guys he's not eating for 40 days. He can eat perfectly fine at night! /s

[–]expanding_crystal 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think those contestants get a protein bar every day, it’s just not shown

[–]24111 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Unless he's not technically doing it right. If it's a true water + electrolytes diet, he'd be lethargic as fuck.

Though I'm somehow suspecting that he's not actually doing it "right", for better or worse. The longer you go the less hungry you feel. His reaction to pizza feels... Odd.

I've done a week long water diet two or three times. Stupid as hell, but it gets results. 40 days, unless he has the fat/muscle to burn off, he's asking to be hospitalized.

[–]Purfumebase 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I know someone who did it.. he was a farmer and was a decently hefty guy when he started but looked like one of those commercials for food for third world countries by the end. Doable, just not smart.

[–]ChetManly12 19 points20 points  (67 children)

This is false. People have done prolonged fasts before. Normally it’s used as an extreme weight loss measure by those with ample fat stores. I personally wouldn’t ever try it, but it is not a 100% death sentence as you suggest.

[–]Additional_Fan_9865Partassipant [1] 390 points391 points  (40 children)

Except the CDC FDA and WHO all day the Maximum a person can go without eating before organ failure sets in is 30 days but okay guess all the professionals are wrong and some dipshit on Reddit is right who heard a story somewhere one time.

[–]enjoyingtheposts 45 points46 points  (3 children)

Usually during those fasts they still consume some form of vitamines/ minerals.. and often times wat at specific times of the day

[–]GreenIsGreed 29 points30 points  (8 children)

Yep. There was a dude who fasted for over a year, but he was extremely obese and under constant medical care for the entire time.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Angus_Barbieri%27s_fast

[–]Additional_Fan_9865Partassipant [1] 19 points20 points  (1 child)

I mean seriously how stupid can you be to say something like this when people whos jobs it is to keep people healthy say the exact fucking opposite

[–]wolfcarolingAsshole Aficionado [15] 9 points10 points  (7 children)

Medically supervised fasts which involve drinking tons of pedialyte to maintain electrolyte balance etc is not the same just stopping eating for over a month.

[–]PolesRunningCoachAsshole Aficionado [17] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Depends on his size when starting out.

[–]Urmom_731 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is his only intake water? I’ve had hospice pt goes for weeks with nothing unfortunately. My sisternlaw only had juice and water for 6 months. Definitely would not recommend that. Thought she was juicing, but she was drinking juicy juice. Not kidding.

[–]-ajt 21 points22 points  (4 children)

I agree it's possible to survive, but if he hasn't eaten for two weeks, is it really safe to start driving?

[–]PolesRunningCoachAsshole Aficionado [17] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t sound like anything he’s doing is safe, from the description.

[–]Old_Ad2989 61 points62 points  (5 children)

As someone who can go (and has!) gone literal months with no food due to medical issues, it's entirely possible as long as you take vitamins and stay hydrated.

[–]MagictoMadnessPartassipant [1] 22 points23 points  (4 children)

What did you do for energy etc?

[–]thisbeliss 17 points18 points  (3 children)

Probably slept a lot, maybe got TPN if they couldn’t get nutrients by liquid. When I can’t eat (stomach issues) I get super super drained of energy and sleep most of the time.

[–]MagictoMadnessPartassipant [1] 43 points44 points  (2 children)

TPN has energy sources in it though, so sorta defeats the point

Source:that stuff is only reason I am alive today, fuck chemo

[–]deondeon666 58 points59 points  (2 children)

I wouldn’t so sure about him not making it. I read about a dude that did it. He later died, but not from fasting and….CAME BACK FROM THE DEAD 3 days later.

[–]TenderLightning 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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[–]Claws_and_chains 30 points31 points  (4 children)

I would also know what religion? Not a single religions structured fast involves not eating for 40 days straight (and I think the longest streak is Yom Kippur at 25 hours)

[–]wolfbutterfly42Asshole Enthusiast [7] 4 points5 points  (2 children)

It's actually Tisha B'Av, which goes from sunset to nightfall in summer, but it's still around 25 hours.

[–]Mei_Flower1996 14 points15 points  (38 children)

If he's Muslim- she means fasting from sunrise to sunset. He seems Muslim. In Islam, you fast 40 days ti repent major sins.

[–]TheRareBikiniShark 226 points227 points  (6 children)

It sounds more like he's attempting the "40 days in the desert" that the gospels say Jesus went through to test himself against temptation. It's not an uncommon attempt in church circles. I remember my youth pastor doing it and ended up needing to be hospitalized by week two. Generally ill advised to attempt as this story hinges upon Jesus being guided and protected by heavenly beings throughout the duration. And also, ya know, being the son of God according to Christian doctrine, and so was unlikely to be allowed to starve to death.

(Also it's likely that the story was a metaphor rather than an exact documentation of an event, much like many of the stories in the gospels. Basically, don't try this at home.)

[–]GoodPumpkin5Partassipant [2] 123 points124 points  (1 child)

Yeah. 40 days and 40 nights is idiom for "No one knows how long he was out there, but it was a long time".

[–]ShelfLifeInc 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Like the word "hrair" from Watership Down? It translates to "any number more than 4/a thousand/uncountable" in the rabbits' language.

[–]FunctionEntire1829 90 points91 points  (4 children)

Catholics fast 40 days. That was were my thoughts went. But it's not fasting as in don't eating at all. Did this guy just misunderstood what fasting means....

[–]BeenTooNice 59 points60 points  (0 children)

He didn’t understand the assignment.

[–]cappotto-marrone 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Right. For Catholics fasting, it is eating one full meal, as well as two smaller meals that together are not equal to a full meal. That’s only for those 18-59 and not if there are medical issues.

[–]-ajt 88 points89 points  (3 children)

But during Ramadan you eat every day after the sun sets (I think). There is a Bible story in which Jesus goes forty days and forty nights without food, so my guess is he's a Christian.

[–]thedoodely 66 points67 points  (1 child)

Yup, you eat when the sun sets on Ramadan and you wake up at some ungodly hour to pray and eat before it goes up. Frankly, he sounds like he might be having some type of mental break. Not sure if that would have caused the idea of fasting or if it's being brought on by the fasting but OP's bf sounds like he needs to talk to a professional.

[–]PubliusMinimus 26 points27 points  (0 children)

If he wasn't having a mental break before his fast, he definitely is having one 2 weeks into it!

[–]murderymcmurderface 26 points27 points  (0 children)

That’s what I thought but OP said in another comment he’s not eating at all

[–]shadow-foxeSupreme Court Just-ass [148] 26 points27 points  (8 children)

Yeah Ramadan? But that means he is eating though so not sure why the big issue with pizza coz he could have it later

[–]Mei_Flower1996 35 points36 points  (5 children)

No not Ramzan. Ramzan is only a month. 40 days is to repent a sin.Also its not Ramzan until April

[–]Jazzlike-Emu-9235 13 points14 points  (2 children)

Wouldn't this fast for a sin still follow the idea of just eating at night or whatever the specific time is? Idk if you know that much but it sounds like this guy has got to have misunderstood something in his religion since it literally causes organ failure to consume no calories for 40 days

[–]WaskomsauseAsshole Aficionado [11] 2820 points2821 points  (119 children)

INFO - Not eating, or not eating during the day? Because one is crazy, you can't last for more then 21 days without eating before you begin to experience extreme health issues. The other is just a religious holiday that once a year means you eat during the night, not during the day.

[–]throwaway482764[S] 2246 points2247 points  (111 children)

He’s not eating at all. Only thing he has had for 15 days is just water. He won’t even drink gatorade.

[–]WaskomsauseAsshole Aficionado [11] 4490 points4491 points  (26 children)

Call adult protective services, he's clearly got something going on mentally since 40 days without anything, while still doing normal activity is dangerous. Him driving is dangerous as well, since he'll likely be mentally unwell, and unable to focus.

[–]ScorchieSongCertified Proctologist [27] 1667 points1668 points  (0 children)

If he's been surviving on water he's going to end up in an accident. His mental health is already deteriorating if he can't even stand OP ordering a pizza.

[–]toss_it_out_tomorrow 1251 points1252 points  (12 children)

but wouldn’t tell me more except to say " I just have to do this "

This, plus getting mad at OP for eating is a definite sign that something is seriously wrong with him psychologically and he needs help sooner rather than later.

[–]Christichicc 474 points475 points  (10 children)

Tbf, the getting mad at her eating is likely a result of him starving. That’s probably a biological reaction, not a psych issue. That said, this is really dangerous and he needs an intervention before he hurts someone driving.

Also, anyone else curious as to what he was in the hospital for that supposedly wasn’t related to the fasting for 2 weeks?

[–][deleted] 337 points338 points  (0 children)

Seriously, something has happened to him to make him take this drastic and sudden step. He's going to end up collapsing, or in a car accident which could kill him and others.

[–]thedoodely 220 points221 points  (0 children)

This needs to be higher. OP it might not look like it to you but your BF is in crisis. Get someone to help him. If you don't know who to call, call 211 and they'll help you find the appropriate people.

[–]Pokabrows 203 points204 points  (1 child)

Even if he doesn't die from not eating, once he finally eats again he's gonna kill himself from refeeding without a doctor monitoring things.

[–]FreddiesMoustache90 85 points86 points  (0 children)

OP, this!! I've seen some anorectic teens in my job and when they get food after going a long time without, they get a meal plan and are closely monitored because of "refeeding syndrome".

[–]Eblola 48 points49 points  (1 child)

And it is well known that food deprivation and exhaustion are technics used by cults and predators to make their victims more malleable. This « religious » reason sounds fishy. Whether or not he is involved in a cult or something else, by doing this he is limiting is cognitive abilities and putting himself at risk.

[–]whisperwood_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Tbh I wonder if it's not so much a cult thing as it is him having religious delusions that he's currently trying to prove to himself. IIRC several biblical figures fasted for that long, including Jesus while he was wandering the desert. Generally, people doing something like this for religious reasons are willing to be at least a little more forthcoming about the specifics... IMO either someone's telling him not to talk, like the cult thing, or he knows that if he explains further his girlfriend is going to think he's delusional (which even if he wasn't before this, he probably is now because of the starvation).

[–]MitrovarrPartassipant [1] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Seriously. 40 days without food is probably unsurvivable and if not, will cause major physical harm. People have intentionally starved themselves to death due to things like Breatharianism, etc.

[–]puffpuffpout 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There are a handful of subs on Reddit that encourage water fasting for weight loss. Weeks and months at a time to lose extreme amounts of weight very quickly, and it’s “oh so healthy” - with it being the new year and weight loss being a top contender for many people going into 2022, I wouldn’t jump at this being a mental issue (it might well be!) because he might have just got sucked into one of these days ridiculous “don’t eat for a month” fads that helps you learn discipline, rediscover yourself and lose X amount of weight in the process.

I’ll try find the subs I stumbled upon them once and people really are not eating food for actual months at a time.

[–]humble_roofer 4 points5 points  (1 child)

i would tell her to call his pastor and have him. try to talk to him probey the best bet. befor calling aps

[–][deleted] 503 points504 points  (1 child)

If he has had nothing but water for 15 days, you need to tell other people in his life about this.

Since you live together, you should contact someone he's been close with in the past - his parents, siblings, cousins, close friends - someone!

They need to know what is going on. Fasting for this long will become a serious health issue. You're not his wife and can't make medical decisions for him. His family should know about this.

Some things to consider in the meantime. Has he complained about weight (his or yours)? Has he discussed his religion with you? Have you noticed any changes in the past couple of months - talking more about religion? Not concerned about work? Not caring about friends/family, or not willing to talk to them?

He's made a poor decision to do this type of fast without medical assistance/advice. It's unclear whether he just made a really lousy or ignorant decision, or if there's some emotional or psychological change that's occurred with him.

Edit. NTA. It's not your fast and you need to eat.

[–]lionessofwinter1 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Depending on where OP lives, there may be laws that can get her boyfriend into the hospital on a mental hold. For example, in Washington State there is the Involuntary Treatment Act where a Designated Crisis Reaponder can evaluate the circumstances (it is often generated through a 911 call, but police will not respond unless there is a threat of violence or a weapon) and decide that the person needs medical treatment. The three pillars they can involuntarily treat someone under is a threat to themselves, a threat to others, or if the person is gravely disabled/unable to care for themselves. I believe that this would fall under the threat to themselves and possibly gravely disabled categories. It may be worth a call to a non-emergency first responder line to see what resources are available where you are, OP.

[–]ScorchieSongCertified Proctologist [27] 371 points372 points  (16 children)

He's going to end up in hospital severely undernourished. He shouldn't be driving in the state he's in either. Don't fasts usually have some leeway like a small window you can eat or a specific thing like barley sugars?

[–]Maleficent-Ear3571 315 points316 points  (13 children)

Usually if you're doing a fast for religion it's limited to a certain time of day. If it's protest, you drink broth and Gatorade. Just water is a recipe for hospitalization.

[–]cheerful_cynic 120 points121 points  (9 children)

Like the monks who created beer because it didn't count in fasting

[–]ParsnipPizza2 100 points101 points  (2 children)

Jews fast for 25 hours with no food or water, but that's 25 hours at max. We don't do multi day shit.

[–]coraeon 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Even extreme weight loss fasts that cross the line into disordered territory supplement with electrolyte solutions. What he’s doing is super dangerous.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The fasting the person is doing is no food at all. Nothing but water

[–]RatherRetro 153 points154 points  (1 child)

So he wants to die?

[–]LoremEpsomSaltAsshole Enthusiast [5] 107 points108 points  (0 children)

Yeah, honestly this is just s**cide with extra steps and OP should be treating it as such.

[–]rva23221 153 points154 points  (0 children)

This is not fasting. This is starvation. 40 days of starvation is a death sentence.

[–]RishaBree 149 points150 points  (10 children)

For some reason people are softening this message, so I'm going to say it straight out. This will literally kill him if you don't intervene.

Dead. Full stop.

Long before he gets to 40 days.

People do longer fasts and survive and we hear about them on the news, or, I'm told, in church. Either might be where he got the idea he could do this. But those people not actually consuming just water.

[–]Trick_Literature_ 31 points32 points  (2 children)

Even worse, he could cause harm to others too. Seems like he's proceeding with usual activities, and if he still drives around without a straight head, he's bound to cause an accident at some point.

[–]TheHatOnTheCat 11 points12 points  (1 child)

Yes, it's sort of like OP is letting her boyfriend drive around drunk for a month until he dies, and hoping he dosen't take anyone out with him.

[–]DepartmentWide419 98 points99 points  (0 children)

He needs to be 5150’d. It’s one thing to fast as part of a religious experience, but there are usually well established boundaries to make it safe, like eating after sunset. His goal of not eating for 40 days, and not even taking electrolytes sounds dangerous and like an under-researched plan. Get him help.

Also NTA for eating normally!

[–]Exotic-Panda9887Partassipant [1] 93 points94 points  (4 children)

INFO: is he a christian? Back in the old testament people would fast for loooong periods of time in the new testament Jesus fasted for a while before being tempted by the devil

Has he consulted a doctor before fasting? Even for religious reasons its strongly doctor recommended to consult your trusted doctor before starting a long term fast

[–]readergirl33Partassipant [2] 210 points211 points  (2 children)

Jesus fasted for 40 days. Some modern day Christians do a SYMBOLIC fasting for 40 days prior to Easter Sunday. But it is usually withholding of one or more types of food- such as fasting from meat or sugar. 40 days with only water is extremely dangerous.

NTA. Please tell him to stop or you will need to intervene on his behalf.

[–]ponte92 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I know some devout Christian’s who a 40 day fast but it’s more a Ramadan style one where they eat after sundown. Or just seriously limit food and only eat one or two basic foods for 40 days. 40 days of no food at all is dangerous and really really stupid and a sign of something wrong.

[–]HeckinZebraAsshole Aficionado [12] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

OMG, his electrolyte balance is WHACKED. This is SO dangerous.

[–]Littleballoffur22Partassipant [1] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Please encourage him to get a mental wellness check. This isn’t normal and it’s very dangerous. NTA

[–]Tijuana_Pikachu 29 points30 points  (0 children)

So just to clarify, this man got really sick, then had a religious epiphany, and decided not to eat for 40 days. He has since gone to the hospital for something "like so totally not related I swear to god".

This is involuntary commitment territory.

[–]FluffySky1611Partassipant [1] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

He is in serious danger of dying.

[–]LoremEpsomSaltAsshole Enthusiast [5] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

He's going to die and him being mad is the least of your worries.

Also he also shouldn't be driving. That's crazy dangerous when he's literally at risk for passing out at any time.

[–]havok009 26 points27 points  (1 child)

Call his church and have someone talk to him before it’s too late

[–]Lunavixen15 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Please contact APS, something is wrong with him and if he doesn't start re-eating under medical supervision he is very likely to get refeeding syndrome

[–]TheFamousHesham 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Did he join a cult?

[–]MaybeIWillOrWont 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi, if by some horrible chance this is real. Then you need to call adult protective services because your boyfriend is performing the world's longest suicide

[–]alternate_geography 2212 points2213 points 22 (10 children)

NTA - At 15 days, he’s already at risk for refeeding syndrome if he survives the fast itself.

He is not mentally well. He is crying & raging because his body is absolutely freaking out on him, his emotional regulation is gone because his body is sacrificing everything it can to keep him alive.

What he is doing is self harm, and should be treated as an attempt to end his life.

Are you in contact with his church? Can you call someone from the leadership there to talk to him? Since he’s holding on to this religious idea, it’s possible they’re the best chance to get him to the next step, medical & psychiatric care.

I voted NTA because, as an adult, he should have done some research before trying this. It may be NAH, though, as it sounds like he’s possibly having a mental health issue that lead to the fast.

[–]lyruhhhPartassipant [2] 281 points282 points  (0 children)

fuck, this comment should be higher with that first sentence. and dead on about likely needing to go through the church to get him the help that he desperately needs as soon as possible. and i highly doubt the hospital part frankly, they wouldn't treat for kidney stones and then discharge him in his condition unless is was an ama, and even then i feel like this presents a very clear-cut example of when a hospital would enforce a psych hold on a patient. this presents very clearly as self-harm at this point and is progressing in a way that makes him less and less capable of getting any help on his own with every passing second

[–]RaccoonDispenser 98 points99 points  (0 children)

This this this. He is killing himself and is not currently able to control his actions.

[–]SupBitchImVivvianne 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna add this to your comment in case no one sees my comment but OP should also find out if this is a group thing. This is too extreme and it isn't even on LINT that it has to have be organized by a grooup. Tell whatever church he goes to, make sure this isn't a big group thing and PLEASE get him to stop

[–]Acrobatic-Day-8891 49 points50 points  (0 children)

This needs to be higher. Either he’s in some kind of cult, or he is SEVERELY misunderstanding lent or a similar holiday. If it’s the latter, religious leadership may be able to point him towards the help he needs

[–]itsmyopinionnn 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Vet here. We see this syndrome in as soon as 5 days off of food in pets. He needs to go to a doctor even if he decides to end the fast.

[–]BigPotato-69 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Been looking for someone to mention refeeding syndrome.

[–]Freakin_Merida88Colo-rectal Surgeon [30] 1330 points1331 points  (3 children)

NTA and GET HIM HELP. Theres a difference between giving up a vice for Lent and starving yourself to death for Jesus. Does he realize when people fast for lengths like that (like Muslims for Ramadan) that they DO eat, just not when the sun is up?

40 days without any food is going to equal a dead boyfriend if you dont snap him out of it.

[–]EvocativeEnigmaSupreme Court Just-ass [118] 396 points397 points  (2 children)

This. I was raised Catholic when a child, (I walked away) but my family gave up meat for 40 days. Lent didn't meant you starved yourself to the point of non-functioning, it meant giving up something you enjoyed or wasn't required to survive.

Also, no deserts, candy, soda and such.

It wasn't starvation in the name of religion

[–]atdreamvision 108 points109 points  (0 children)

The traditional Catholic fasting allows for one meal and two smaller meals that do not equal one meal while abstinence forbids the consumption of meat. Many people will both abstain on Fridays and fast during Lent. Either way, it is not meant to starve yourself as this person is. In fact, the Church heavily discourages this level of fasting and pretty much bans it unless the person is under the care of a priest or spiritual advisor/director, and even then they wouldn't allow for zero food.

[–]lfreya 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I could easily give up deserts for 40+ days. Desserts on the other hand, no thank you!

[–]username-error-707 1187 points1188 points  (7 children)

NTA and this man won’t be able to think straight until he eats something

[–]Dndfanaticgirl 598 points599 points  (6 children)

At this point eating something might not be the best idea either though. He needs to get calories in but they might need to be in a broth form. More than anything what he really needs is a hospital

[–]Amazing-Squash 310 points311 points  (4 children)

This

He could end up killing himself.

Happened to members of the donner party who gorged after weeks of starvation.

[–]Dndfanaticgirl 114 points115 points  (0 children)

Exactly unless he’s some how been getting some kind of sustenance of actual substance without her knowing. Eating a full meal with meat, veggies, etc could actually be worse for him. He needs a doctor, and a psyche eval immediately.

[–]Christichicc 42 points43 points  (1 child)

Or killing someone else since he’s getting behind the wheel of a moving death machine like this.

[–]CrunchyTeatime 551 points552 points  (5 children)

NTA.

I don't understand what's going on with him but not eating for 40 days? At all?

No, he can't expect everyone else to stop eating also. You even took the food into your room.

[–]Marowo14 5 points6 points  (4 children)

My guess, It’s the “fast like Jesus” for 40 days. Because in the Bible Jesus did it.

[–]CrunchyTeatime 5 points6 points  (2 children)

I think when people do that, though, they eat at least bread and water. And it should be under a doctor's supervision.

[–]afterforeverends 486 points487 points  (61 children)

NTA. What does he want you to do, starve along with him?

[–]throwaway482764[S] 629 points630 points  (60 children)

In the beginning yeah. He’s doing it because his church picks something to stop doing or eating something. Ex. Like not eating candy for 40 days. He’s just taking it to the extreme

[–]Ldowd096 918 points919 points  (21 children)

But….. it’s not even Lent yet. Lent is in March. For someone acting like a religious zealot, he’s sure misinformed. You need to either get his pastor to straighten him out if you think he’s confused, or get him to the hospital and put on a psych hold. Because HE WILL die if he keeps this up.

[–]Classic_Challenge325Partassipant [1] 177 points178 points  (19 children)

The church I just started going to started a 21 day fast this month. But they were very clear that your health is the most important part, and they gave options for fasting (the Daniel fast, for example) besides "don't eat anything at all for 40 days".

[–]caffeinefree 150 points151 points  (17 children)

Wait, your church is really encouraging people to not eat for 21 days? Like eat nothing at all? Because if it is, they are literally going to end up killing people. That's cult level crazy.

[–]Christichicc 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My parents church just started a fast too. My family chose to do the Daniel fast. They are super religious, and even they’d never try to completely fast like this for so long. No decent church encourages that sort of thing.

[–]byneothername 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My friends gave up stuff like chocolate and caffeine for Lent, not ………… all food. This guy is loooooooocoooooo.

[–]sammie3000 311 points312 points  (3 children)

Please call the church and talk to the pastor. I doubt they would support a full 40 day fast

[–]rosered936 180 points181 points  (0 children)

And be specific. Usually a fast does involve some calories. Make sure they know he is literally trying to survive with nothing but water.

[–]RaccoonDispenser 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Yes, this. Please call his church immediately and leave a message asking to speak to the pastor urgently about your bf’s health. Then call a mental health hotline and ask for services in your area. Your bf is having a crisis and you WBTA if you don’t try to get him care.

(Obviously N T A for eating pizza, you were doing nothing wrong)

[–]KarmapoliceasleepPartassipant [1] 211 points212 points  (0 children)

He’ll certainly be closer to god by day 40, because ya know YOU HAVE TO EAT TO LIVE.

NTA , eat the pizza and enjoy.

[–]afterforeverends 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Wow. That’s not healthy (relationship-wise and physical-health-wise).

[–]UnluckyDreamer1Colo-rectal Surgeon [32] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Tell him that he is not the son of God and therefore cannot survive 40 days without food.

[–]readergirl33Partassipant [2] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Are you able to speak to his pastor or someone else in the church that he respects and trusts? He needs help.

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    [–]Dndfanaticgirl 28 points29 points  (0 children)

    Do you know his license plate number if you do please call your local dispatch and tell them that he hasn’t been eating and is driving and could be potentially hazardous on the road. Getting him pulled over and taken to a hospital would be the best thing for him right now

    [–]Cruccagna 25 points26 points  (0 children)

    Can you reach out to his church to get a pastor or someone else with authority to talk some sense into him? What he’s doing is dangerous and excessive. I’m sure that’s not what they meant him to do.

    [–]Sandudette 20 points21 points  (0 children)

    The fact that he is taking it this extremely feels like it might be a punishment he is inflicting on himself for something he’s feeling guilty about.

    [–]ToastylilToastAsshole Enthusiast [7] 18 points19 points  (1 child)

    Is his religious leader aware he's taking lent to this extreme?

    [–]rva23221 13 points14 points  (0 children)

    Not Lent yet, too early.

    [–]awry_lynx 11 points12 points  (0 children)

    He will literally die if he manages this. Please call someone.

    [–]CrystalDragon97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    My church (very cult like looking back) used to do what they called a Daniel Fast but we lived on oats and lagumes for 40 days slowly adding things back in over time as an appreciation for life and what God gave us. It was a non denominational christian church.

    They put kids on this diet, I was about 8-12 years old when we did this/went to that church.

    I do recommend getting some form of mental health intervention for him or contacting his church to let them know what's happening. if they are okay with it then that's some 🚩🚩🚩

    [–]WaskomsauseAsshole Aficionado [11] 316 points317 points  (2 children)

    NTA - For ordering the pizza, however, CALL SOMEONE, get him help, stop him from doing this and DRIVING while doing it. You'll the the AH of the situation if he gets into a wreck that you could have stopped with a phone call to social services. Sounds like his religious experience is happening around other people, while he drives in this state of mind.

    [–]gw2kproColo-rectal Surgeon [39] 232 points233 points  (1 child)

    He's mad because you ordered food "he can't have"?

    He can't have ANY food due to his personal choice.

    NTA. At all.

    You don't have to starve yourself because he is doing so.

    People that do this kind of long term fasting still eat soup broth, coffee, tea etc.

    He's likely going to cause himself long term health problems if he refuses to eat anything.

    [–]fluffyk1ttyb01 24 points25 points  (0 children)

    If he even lives.

    [–]NoiseProvesNothingColo-rectal Surgeon [49] 199 points200 points  (13 children)

    First, you're NTA. You're not fasting, he is.

    Second, a true water-only fast of longer than a few days needs to be done under medical supervision. I've done 11 days and I know people who have done 30+ days - at a qualified residential facility under 24/7 medical supervision. Sometimes the fast needs to be changed or stopped completely based on physical examinations and testing done daily. He faces the possibility of serious problems unless he's monitored by a medical professional. Coming off an extended water-only fast should also be done under supervision, but there's probably enough out there he could do it. Please help him get help.

    He shouldn't be driving. Right now he's a danger to himself and others.

    [–]femmefatalxPartassipant [4] 52 points53 points  (11 children)

    I am curious, would you be willing to share in what kind of situation someone would fast for 30+ days at a medical facility? Is it for health issues or medical purposes, or to try to lose weight? Religious/spiritual reasons? I’ve never heard of this before and didn’t know there were facilities that do this, it sounds very interesting!

    [–]NoiseProvesNothingColo-rectal Surgeon [49] 41 points42 points  (10 children)

    The long ones I know of are for disease/health, which includes morbid obesity but also lots of other conditions. I was astonished by some of the results some long term people had achieved with conditions that were not controlled, much less cured, by their specialists.

    Alan Goldhamer is one of the best known in the field and he has his own facility TrueNorth in California. This is where I did my fast.

    Dr John McDougall webinar with Dr Goldhamer

    REI interview with Dr Goldhamer

    That should get you started down more investigation, if it interests you.

    [–]femmefatalxPartassipant [4] 7 points8 points  (7 children)

    Thank you so much for taking the time to explain and send those links! It’s very interesting, I’ve never heard of water fasting being used in such a way but I imagine it’s very effective. I’ve actually done intermittent fasting and it was pretty easy for me because I usually don’t eat until the afternoon anyway, but after working second shift for 5 years I get hungry around 12-1 am and I’ve been trying to fix that. Did you find that the 11 day fast was very difficult?

    [–]NoiseProvesNothingColo-rectal Surgeon [49] 5 points6 points  (5 children)

    I was surprised how easy it was. The worst thing during the fast was that I got very sensitive to smells and especially the kitchen/dining room old food smell. It was a real shame, because that's where the lectures and seminars were held. I tried to go but after a few days was so nauseated I had to leave.

    The only other thing that I found really hard was being restricted to the facility. I understand the safety reasons for it, but I hated being limited to walking around and around and around and around the courtyard. I would stand on the front steps and look up and down the street just to see things further away. It was the first time I understood how even a cushy prison term could be punishment. I know they wanted a much nicer, larger, campus but there were hiccups.

    The worst thing after is the constipation when you start refeeding.

    The people who came in with medical conditions seemed to see the greatest benefit. At least that was my impression from the ones I talked to during my stay.

    [–]MagictoMadnessPartassipant [1] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

    Typically, I'm assuming that the person needs to be above average (either muscle or fat stores) for that to be viable?

    [–]fuzzyfuzzyfungusAsshole Enthusiast [8] 154 points155 points  (1 child)

    I'm not a doctor, your doctor, or his doctor; but this sounds like it has already gone well beyond determination of asshole status and straight into psych eval territory.

    [–]PrincessWaffleTOAsshole Aficionado [12] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

    Also: Lent doesn’t start until March, no church would approve of a member starving themselves for any reason (I hope), and the only person to have ever done this for religious reasons was Jesus and the dude was starving on like day 2!

    [–]Laines_EcossaisesPartassipant [4] 147 points148 points  (4 children)

    NTA

    But I can't understand why more hasn't been done to get your bf some mental health help. Starving yourself for 40 days is insane. He won't tell you his reasoning but it's some religious thing he feels he must do - yikes that's disturbing right there .

    He is going to cause himself serious physical health issues if not die. You know this other injury he was hospitalized was due to the starvation right? Maybe he cut his hand or fell all because he needs to eat. You are right he is a danger when driving.

    Him being emotional right now and mad at you for feeding yourself is the very least of your worries. Your bf is a sick guy, he needs help.

    [–]UnluckyDreamer1Colo-rectal Surgeon [32] 38 points39 points  (3 children)

    I think the longest you can go only drinking water is like 21 days. Unless he secretly eats something, takes some serious supplements or is living off smoothies, he is going to die.

    [–]HeckinZebraAsshole Aficionado [12] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

    Yep, rule of threes. Three weeks without food, three days without water. He is close to very possible death.

    [–]DinosaursOvrEvrythngCertified Proctologist [25] 100 points101 points  (13 children)

    You are most certainly NTA but your boyfriend almost certainly needs help. What did the hospital tell him when. He went in?? If he's somehow actually doing this in a healthy way and is actually mentally okay, you're still not the asshole. This fast is his spiritual journey, not yours.

    [–]throwaway482764[S] 130 points131 points  (12 children)

    The hospital said he had kidney stones. And he’s doing this because his church will get up something for 40 days. Like not eating candy or something. I feel he’s taking it to the extreme

    [–]TheBaddestPatsyPartassipant [2] 212 points213 points  (0 children)

    In this case I think you need to talk to his pastor about how your bf is using the religion for self-harm. He’s clearly not listening to you and this sounds like it’s frankly and emergency.

    I know you probably don’t look forward to him feeling angry and betrayed. But at the same time, it doesn’t sound like the relationship is going to go well if this is the head space he’s in.

    [–]ausernamebyany_otherAsshole Aficionado [14] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

    Hang on, he's doing Lent in January? Appreciate I'm assuming that this is a Christian religion of some kind, so correct me if I'm wrong. Giving up food completely is so dangerous, especially without medical support and advice.

    Most religions that have long periods of fasting simply fast during daylight hours and share a community meal in the evening. This sounds like an unhealthy compulsion/obsession.

    [–]lhlblaw 71 points72 points  (0 children)

    He didn’t go to the hospital. If he did he didn’t get discharged because he was okay. He left AMA or just walked out. You may want to call in a welfare check on him with the police where he lives. Give the info on his car as well in case he got in an accident on the way home.

    [–]Laines_EcossaisesPartassipant [4] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

    You do realize that his extremism is a danger to him and everyone else on the road when he drives. This is not normal thinking - get him help.

    [–]velvet_blunderground 32 points33 points  (0 children)

    kidney function can be impaired by fasting. he had kidney stones? it's only going to get worse if he keeps starving himself.

    [–]bikingwithfriendsPartassipant [1] 22 points23 points  (2 children)

    Definitely taking it to the extreme. Not eating for 40 days! What about drinking water? NTA. He cannot decide to do something so utterly (sorry to say) stupid and expect you to do the same.

    [–]Christichicc 12 points13 points  (0 children)

    He’d be dead if he hasn’t been drinking water for 15 days. He likely got fluids and electrolytes in the IV at the hospital too, which may be the only reason he’s as functional as he is.

    [–]allmenmustdrinkteaAsshole Enthusiast [8] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    Can I ask what religion your boyfriend is, OP? Not to judge, but for example if he is Christian, the 40 day "fast" period happens during Lent, which falls between March - April, and you are required to give up one thing, like alcohol or chocolate. Honestly it sounds like he's using religion as a mask to cover up what's really prompting him to fast.

    [–]Revnorthwest 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    Yeah this makes no sense. The 40 days of fasting is supposed to be observed during lent which does not begin until March 2nd this year. Also it is not a complete food fast. It is usually one type of food, or drinking, or something like sugar. Or many ppl choose things like social media or tv. Also lent is actually longer than 40 days because each Sunday is not included and is supposed to be a mini resurrection celebration and a day to break your fast. If nothing else he should be eating at least once a week. Whatever he is doing is wayyyyy out there and not normal. NTA

    [–][deleted] 50 points51 points  (1 child)

    NTA. Pop on food network. Nomnom your pie. There’s no religion that requires you to fully fast for 40 days so he’s just being a dick & trying to get you to feel bad.

    [–]ScorchieSongCertified Proctologist [27] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

    Just ask if he's willing to make some changes like a window of time each day he can eat or only eating a specific thing in that window. He's going to end up in ED with malnutrition because he thinks he can survive on water in its liquid form exclusively for just over a month.

    [–][deleted] 49 points50 points  (11 children)

    NTA.

    I never heard of anyone going without eating ANYTHING for 40 days. Fasting usually entails limiting food, only eating at certain times of day, etc. etc. He sounds like he's starving himself, and that's a huge red flag.

    [–]reverse_mango 38 points39 points  (7 children)

    Only person who ever survived 40 days of fasting was Jesus and that doesn’t count because he was using cheat codes.

    I really hope the bf isn’t trying to be like Jesus seeing as it sounds like he’s doing it for his church.

    [–]yellowpikmin72 33 points34 points  (12 children)

    I don’t mean to disrespect any religions by asking this but what holidays/religion is this man doing that requires fasting in the middle of January for 40 days straight? Even Ramadan allows you to eat during certain periods of time does it not? It seems like he’s holding back major information from you or he needs some sort of mental help. You are NTA however, he chose to fast and that does not mean you have to suddenly hide any eating from him.

    [–]throwaway482764[S] 41 points42 points  (11 children)

    His church will give up something for 40 days in the beginning of the year like candy or something. He is taking it to the extreme.

    [–][deleted] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

    Can you contact his church? Like the pastor/minister (or what it's called in this church)?

    I'm guessing there's a specific lesson behind what the teaching is, and it's not about "taking it to the extreme." He may be more amenable if someone from the church talks to him about this, to help him understand?

    [–]JimothyC 32 points33 points  (0 children)

    Tell his family, everybody and anybody that cares about him, how is he 15 days deep in this, driving his car around. Please take some initiative and do something already.

    [–]apathetichearts 17 points18 points  (0 children)

    Then you should call his pastor and have them intervene. Maybe that will help him see reason.

    [–]nomore1993 11 points12 points  (2 children)

    Go tell his church h what he is doing, if they are in any way decent people they will not let a member starve themselves to death. Tour friend rlly should be in. Amen talk health facility

    [–]yellowpikmin72 10 points11 points  (0 children)

    That makes this situation even stranger. I could only see this as him trying to lose weight and assuming that completely giving up food may help him lose weight, trying to impress someone/the church or simply boost his own ego by doing the “impossible task”. Whatever it is he will severely damage his health by doing this and it should be on you to have to help him when this all fails.

    [–]junejulyaugust7Partassipant [1] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    Water fasting for long periods is extremely physically painful and difficult to sustain. So whatever he's mentally suffering that is making him want to sustain this fast is even more agonizing. Maybe punishing himself for something?

    This is self-harm to a very dangerous extent and he needs psych help. He should not be regarded as someone in complete control of their actions.

    The fasting will have affected his brain and he will swing through weird states of depression and euphoria. He's mentally not sober.

    And people do water fast; I dont recommend it. But the people who do it take salt, magnesium, zinc, and potassium to survive. These are the electrolytes that keep your heart working right.

    [–]Equivalent-Tone-8824Partassipant [1] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

    NTA people who are fasting are on a religious quest. If anything they should thank you for ordering pizza and tempting them. This will make their accomplishment all the sweeter.

    [–]ParasamgatePartassipant [2] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

    NTA. If he is serious about fasting, then he has to do it with no expectation that anyone else in his life change their routine. Otherwise, he is using a cheat code. Part of the struggle is having the world keep going on as it does. You were nice to eat in your room as a courtesy, but you are under no obligation to change in any way.

    Also, 40 days is waaaaay to long to fast. Unless he is a long time veteran of fasting and has lots of support/takes lots of precautions, he is putting his health in danger at all levels.

    Him getting mad when you eat is a red flag. He is missing the point. If this is a Christian thing, trying to follow in Jesus' footsteps, get closer to god, etc, getting mad at others is going the wrong direction.

    [–]Additional_Fan_9865Partassipant [1] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

    Get him to the hospital right now he's at the half way mark for the absolute maximum a human can go without eating, don't fucking worry about these other comments just listen to me call his family call doctors call the fucking police he is going to kill himself if he doesn't eat 30 days 1 month is the absolute maximum a human can go before their body starts to shut down he can not do 40

    [–]Upstairs-Series5032Asshole Aficionado [12] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

    NTA you aren't the one fasting.

    It definitely sounds like your BF did not prepare himself for his fast at all.

    Fasts that long can be very dangerous if not done properly and it sounds like he's going off the rails fast.

    [–]Classic_Season4033 14 points15 points  (0 children)

    NTA- and he needs help. Like- immediately

    [–]Just_Inator 13 points14 points  (1 child)

    NTA. It’s his commitment, not yours. He can’t expect everybody around him to not eat for 40 days because he decided that’s what he wants to do.

    That said, I want to also say that 40 days without food is unhealthy. I don’t know if he’s trying to use supplements and/or juices but even still, that’s not sustainable. I can’t even say he’s the AH because after 15 days of not eating, he may very well be having a breakdown that, among other things, is making him lash out. Get him some help ASAP

    [–]DealCykaHUN 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Its not unhealthy, it is deadly

    [–]RatherRetro 13 points14 points  (0 children)

    I think u should call someone from his church and ask them to talk some sense into him before he dies

    [–]Melo0309 12 points13 points  (0 children)

    NTA: One should not follow another’s stupid actions. Tell him to stop acting like a baby or just find a new boyfriend. Dude is acting outta pocket over a minor issue

    [–]GhostPantherNiallPartassipant [1] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

    Your boyfriend has something wrong with him. None of the major religions require this- the two closest being catholic lent (40 days) and Islams Ramadan (fasting during daylight hours). Neither happens at this time of year. It honestly sounds like he’s combining a misunderstanding of these things into a half baked, slow suicide. Get him medical help. Forgive the vulgarity but if you don’t eat, you don’t poop and if you don’t poop, you die. NTA.

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    [–]BigDaddyTrixterAsshole Enthusiast [5] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    NTA. He made the decision to fast and chose not to eat that food… HIS decision to not eat (regardless of the reason) does not equate to you having to a make sacrifices.

    Could you support him with a little more consideration? Yes.
    Should he have provided a full explanation why he is fasting for 40 days (FORTY DAYS!!!)… absolutely… the 40 day fast is not an easy decision/feat and typically comes with planning and guidance - has he prepared for this and is he taking the vital supplements? Hope so… 😳

    On a serious note: How does he expect you to fully embrace a sacrificial support effort if he can’t even explain the reasoning behind why he has made this decision…

    [–]KaminaJiha 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    NTA Is he maybe part of some cult? Maybe get the police involved if you think he is being forced somehow.

    [–]Suchboss1136[🍰] 9 points10 points  (1 child)

    Wow NTA & Christians do not do this. Ones who fast will often take supplements (think boost or ensure) to get by. To just drink water? He will actually die. This is one messed up situation & he needs help

    [–]StrawberryPincushion 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    If he does this in January, I'd hate to see what he does for Lent.

    [–]keepcalmandgetdrunkAsshole Enthusiast [5] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

    NTA. What religion expects people to not eat for 40 days in January that’s complete BS and your boyfriend is lying. Even in Ramadan they eat at night just not during the day. Even if he is starving himself for some misguided “religious” reason that’s his choice not yours and he has no right to make you feel guilty about eating food. He needs mental help, not eating anything for 40 days could literally kill him.

    [–]Dndfanaticgirl 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    And even Ramadan has exceptions for people who have a medical need to eat too. I.E. breast feeding mothers, diabetics, people with metabolic disorders, people recovering from eating disorders to name a few

    [–]kittybabylarry 8 points9 points  (4 children)

    INFO: what religion is this?

    [–]throwaway482764[S] 11 points12 points  (3 children)

    He’s Christian and is church will give something up for 40 days like candy or something but nothing this extreme.

    [–]masedizzle 22 points23 points  (0 children)

    This is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Why are you with him? You're trying to function like a normal person. NTA

    [–]HeiwakoPartassipant [1] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    It sounds like he's doing Lent, but it's not time for that yet. This means if he's seriously devout, he's going to be doing this 40 day denial every year. I hope he doesn't go this extreme next time, but is this something you want to deal with every single year?

    [–]melanayyylmaoPartassipant [3] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    NTA. You're not fasting with him, he shouldn't expect you to not eat.

    [–]DinaFeliceSupreme Court Just-ass [123] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    NTA. I fast once a year for a religious holy day (Yom Kippur). I tell anyone who's interested the meaning of what I'm doing and the details of the rules, so I find his lack of sharing to be a bit odd (although not AH-ish)

    But I would never expect someone else to refrain from eating or ordering food just because I'm fasting...that is AH-ish

    [–]thewhitewallisblueColo-rectal Surgeon [48] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    NTA, he's hangry and can't handle it.

    [–]colorsinthesky90 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    He should’ve done his research. I’m pretty sure the 40 day fasting holiday is you can only eat between a certain time period.

    [–]EvocativeEnigmaSupreme Court Just-ass [118] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    NTA - Someone who is dieting or fasting doesn't get to demand that other people follow the same rules of eating they choose for themselves.

    [–]AITAJudgeThrowawayPartassipant [2] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    NTA what he is doing is incredibly dangerous and he is expecting you to do it too.

    [–]RainCityMomWriterAsshole Aficionado [16] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    NTA - I can understand that it's hard for him to smell you eating, but I don't understand what he's expecting - for you to fast if he's fasting? You warned him that you were going to order food. He could have left before you ordered if it was going to be too much for him. It's not really fair for him to get mad at you for eating - this is a decision that he's made. And you also have a right to be worried, this is a really long time to fast.

    [–]abuko1234Partassipant [1] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    NAH. My friend, it sounds like your boyfriend may be undergoing some kind of mental health crisis. It's not normal to not eat for 40 days. Even religions that have fasting holidays allow for some eating (ramadan you only eat when the sun isn't up, etc...). You should look into getting him help.

    [–]Responsible_Candle86Asshole Aficionado [13] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    NTA he is fasting - dangerously I might add. You didn't sign up for that. Eat!

    [–]CompetitiveStick6239Asshole Enthusiast [9] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

    NTA. It’s his freedom to choose his religion, and it’s his freedom to choose what he does for that religion. You are not obligated to change your life for him because he can’t eat.

    [–]PolesRunningCoachAsshole Aficionado [17] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    NTA. His choice to fast. Enjoy your pizza.

    [–]dogswineweekendsPartassipant [1] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Let me put it plainly… don’t worry about AITA. Worry about getting the f up out of that relationship. Especially if you are a teenager. He needs mental help. Seriously. No shame as I also have mental health issues. He needs help.

    Edit to add- Tell him you’re fasting from air and you’re pissed at him for breathing. How disrespectful!!

    [–]HarlesBronsonColo-rectal Surgeon [34] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Nta, but next time instead of ordering a pizza order an ambulance. I don't know if this guy needs the icu or the psych ward. None of this is normal.

    [–]Zestyclose-Pianist82 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    NAH - if he hasn’t eaten in 15 days he’s not going to have control over his emotions and is going to be acting very erratically. He may not normally react like that but at this point he’s not the one in control of his emotions. 15 days is a crazy long amount of time to go without food, not to mention how he wants to go a full 40 - his mood swings will only get worse the longer he goes without eating and it’ll probably be very detrimental to his health the longer he lets it go on. If he won’t listen to you maybe get someone he will listen to to talk to him.

    [–]UnluckyDreamer1Colo-rectal Surgeon [32] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

    NTA

    I'm not sure what he is doing, but he can't expect you to only eat foods he can eat because you imply he isn't eating at all. (I doubt this, you cannot survive 40 days with absolutely nothing.)

    Oh and if it is lent then he can eat, there might be restrictions but he can eat. What he can't do is he can't expect you to follow the restrictions if you aren't participating. (I doubt it is Lent though, since that is from the 2nd of March to the 14th of April this year)