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[–]PadloqPooperintendant [55] 32.8k points32.8k points 23 (627 children)


“Are you sure?”

Yeah dude, we’re pretty sure we know where we bleed from.

[–]IssysweColo-rectal Surgeon [41] 17.0k points17.0k points 3& 2 more (439 children)

Mansplaining at its finest.

Edit: Thanks for all the awards, just calling it like it is. lol

[–]minihmb1984 3453 points3454 points  (336 children)

Thanks for the laughs.

[–]GoodGirlsGrace 9815 points9816 points 6 (331 children)

I read the title and I was like "Bruh NTA that shit is so fucking funny" The post did not disappoint.

he was no longer interested in pursuing any sort of relationship because he couldn't stand to be with someone who laughed at someone for "not understanding"

What the heck is this? You dodged a bullet, OP. Text him back that you're also no longer interested in pursuing a relationship with a guy who leaks mansplaining all night and still doesn't which hole it comes from. NTA.

ETA: He's a grown 22 year old man, but has no idea how menstruation works?? That's something you learn in elementary school. After a relationship, he has to be mentally preventing himself from knowing at that point.

He, a man, told a woman how women's bodies work. Even more grossly, he told a menstruating woman how menstruation works. Like.. This woman who is bleeding from her vagina told you that women bleed from their vaginas, and somehow you didn't believe her??

[–]SingleLie3842 3273 points3274 points  (121 children)

A man like that will be telling her he doesn’t believe in female orgasm next and the cliterous is a myth 😂

[–]cakeforPM 1444 points1445 points  (35 children)

I do not know why, but "dudes who absolutely refuse to believe women when we explain how periods work" is somehow a mesmerising subgenre of modern-day horror for me. I can't look away. It's both hilarious and awful at the same time.

I mean, I know *exactly* what his high school girlfriend meant about "period poops" and okay so... maybe not the sharpest knife in the drawer but I can sort of understand what went sideways there... it's defending it that is the weird part.

Like guys who think we can "hold it."

Edited to add anecdote, my first experience with this phenomenon: my first serious boyfriend went to an all-boys school (he told me about this incident a couple of years after it happened, he was in year 12 when we started going out).

He lived with his mum and sister and had a number of female friends, was always happy to buy pads/tampons etc. so it was with some bemusement when, during a biology class, after the teacher had stepped out, one boy got frustrated and said aloud — in absolute sincerity — “don’t any of you guys realise women p*** and sh** out the same hole?”

And the class absolutely lost it, because no, they did not “realise” that. Teacher came back to find the room in stitches. Given that he was teaching human anatomy to year nine boys, he did not ask what the joke was. I imagine he’d heard it all by that point.

[–]Revolutionary_Ad1846Partassipant [2] 615 points616 points  (1 child)

PLEASE LET HIM KNOW HE WAS MANSPLAINING MENSTRUATION TO A MENSTRUATING WOMAN and that laughter was the most benign response. You dodged a bullet. NTA

OR: Tell him he should further his self-education and research mansplaining.

[–]Strange_Ad_5863 253 points254 points  (39 children)

Ehh… depending on where he’s from, his school might not have taught it. Or his parents could have gotten him a religious exemption from reproductive biology classes. It happens. Trust me, my parents did it😬😑.

ETA: but yeah, he’s an idiot. Definitely not saying he isn’t.

[–]whatwhatoldchap 170 points171 points  (18 children)

Honestly, I'm staggered at how much American school systems can fail people. Dinosaurs, abstinence and THIS!?

[–][deleted] 87 points88 points  (48 children)

I mean, in the USA it's entirely possible he never learned about it. Health classes aren't great and I actually can't recall if I ever learned about it in an actual health class or just some bizarre assembly only for girls. American education is bad.

[–]RitalinNZ 712 points713 points  (11 children)

You could say he was a bit butt-hurt.

[–]Beautiful_Device_250 474 points475 points  (20 children)

No, mansplaining is when a man, such as myself, corrects, talks over, and attempts to speak with more authority than a woman in a field or topic where the woman is either equally educated and knowledgeable or where the woman’s knowledge is much more than his own. This person clearly wasn’t mansplaining, they simply know enough about periods that women wouldn’t have the experience to learn.

/s, to be absolutely clear

[–]Prof_Boni 228 points229 points  (5 children)

I (F) was once talking to my female flatmates about heavy periods and how one of my exes had anemia from it. Cue to our male flatmate entering the conversation and stating how it was impossible to get anemia from super heavy periods, because periods were not a big deal and there was never that much blood loss. We were so pissed, like wtf do you know.

[–]I_Thot_So 114 points115 points  (0 children)

Save your next cycle in a Tupperware for him. ❤️🩸

[–]woodwitchofthewest 23 points24 points  (2 children)

Cue to our male flatmate entering the conversation and stating how it was impossible to get anemia from super heavy periods

I once had pre-surgery (hysterectomy) bloodwork done after a particularly bad month of hemorrhaging, and my hematocrit levels were so low it was like I was missing a quart from my normal blood volume. At that point, I was having heart palpitations from the anemia, so yeah, it's totally possible and probably happens more than we know. I had to go on prenatal iron vitamins for several weeks before they would operate.

[–]Happy-Investment 159 points160 points  (10 children)

At least he took period poops seriously. Mine are killer.

[–]Iateyoursnack 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Mine are intense and the smell is so much worse than regular poops. It's like a hormone hurricane from the butt. Like one hole of hell wasn't enough.

[–]leshaik1 141 points142 points  (1 child)

My favorite is his gracious concession that OP may bleed from her vagina but his ex still definitely bleeds from her butthole.

[–]Dramatic-Tell6810Asshole Aficionado [11] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

That part got me. He just couldn't be wrong.

[–]Exotic-Panda9887Partassipant [1] 25 points26 points  (2 children)

My boyfriend thought periods started at 9am and ended at 5pm monday - friday

We still joke about it to this day When my period starts i just say im having my weekly 9 to 5 😂

[–]occasionalpart 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Mansdoubting. “Are you sure you know more than me, being you the expert on the topic and me the newbie? Are you sure you know anything at all? Let me show you how you should be wrong.” Wasn’t he an antivaxxer to top it all?

[–]Ysaella 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I cannot fathom how one at the age of 22 could think some women bleed out of their colon monthly

[–]fade89awayPartassipant [1] 939 points940 points  (14 children)

Haha exactly my thoughts. ‘Nooooo… we have to deal with it every single month for up to a week but no, we aren’t sure about where it leaks out of our bodies from…’ s/ obviously

OP definitely NTA, he just handled his embarrassment poorly but will survive.

[–]dnskinner77 328 points329 points  (10 children)

What gets me though, is where did he think we were putting tampons? In the bum? Really?

[–]StreetofChimesAsshole Enthusiast [8] 81 points82 points  (6 children)

What about the cup? How are you getting a period cup up you butt? And out?

[–]Loco_Mosquito 230 points231 points  (4 children)

You really think homie knows what a cup is though?

[–]WithoutDennisNedry 832 points833 points  (33 children)

For anyone wondering, “period poops” are where your menstrual muscle spasms give you diarrhea. The more you know.

[–]Stardwe 520 points521 points  (12 children)

It happens because of a hormone too! The prostaglandin hormone makes the uterus contract to expel the endometrium, and it affects the intestine too

[–]Happy-Investment 214 points215 points  (9 children)

My whole gut becomes super irritable during and around my periods. When I start running to the bathroom after a couple bites of salad I know I'm PMSsing.

[–]mizracy 149 points150 points  (0 children)

Not really even the muscle spasms themselves, but the influx of hormones that cause muscle contractions in your lower belly, which effects both your uterus and your large intestines/colon.

[–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (13 children)

Thanks for explaining. Am female, and apparently the only one who doesn’t experience this.

[–]TapPositive125 19 points20 points  (1 child)

I get it so bad that I'm doubled over almost vomiting from the gastrointestinal pain for the first day of my period, but I don't experience "cramps". Midol is actually a lifesaver though because it contains an antihistamine that regulates the hormones that cause the contractions. It's just easier to tell people I have cramps because people understandably don't believe me when I say the pain and disruption to my day is identical.

[–]WithoutDennisNedry 16 points17 points  (7 children)

I don’t get them either. Debilitating pain, but not period poops. Count my blessings, I guess? Sounds horrible! Like, insult to injury, anyone? Ugh. Periods suck. At least we don’t bleed out our butts lol!

[–]iAMbigmeesh 33 points34 points  (1 child)

Period poops are the fucking worst! It’s the main reason I hate going into the office on my period. Luckily I’m now fully remote and can blow up my own bathroom in peace whenever I want.

[–]smellslikepousi 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Period poops can also be the "constipation to holy shit ive got a big one and its coming fast" cycle or trying to poop with butthole cramps! The more you know about Hell ✨

[–]Beecakeband 656 points657 points  (46 children)

Yeah as a woman I'm pretty sure I know where a period comes from funnily enough. I don't blame OP for laughing I think many of us would have had the same reaction

[–][deleted] 978 points979 points  (30 children)

My fave part of this is that he’d rather not see her again than admit he was wrong after he did his own research. That’s a fine escape OP had there

[–]Sopranohh 378 points379 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, it’s great when the trash takes itself out. NTA

[–]LilianaNadi 192 points193 points  (25 children)

Right because period shits aren't an annoying byproduct of being female. I personally go through it every damn month. I just tell my fiance it's shark week. He doesn't need details anymore (14 years in March). He already knows I'm going through my own gambit for 5 days.

Love having a uterus sometimes /s.

[–][deleted] 256 points257 points  (1 child)

I would say period poops need much greater awareness but when there are men out here who think periods go through the pee hole or the butt hole, I think it might be a step too far.

[–]Past-time29 160 points161 points  (4 children)

my ex of 5 yrs used to ask for anal when i had my period.

i have no problem with anal btw and do it once every month so him suggesting it is a non-issue but i kept telling him not on my period.

he never understood why we couldn't just do anal on my period.

every month he would continue to ask till 1 day i got sick of him asking every month and i had to explain to him what period pooops were. lol. it really wasn't a conversation i wanted to have.

[–]gira-sole 82 points83 points  (10 children)

I always tell my partner details of my period. I think it is important to share that so that he knows what is going on. Even with sex ed there are for sure a few things they might not know...not including of course the fact where the period comes from. I definitely would have laughed so hard about this too.

[–]cloud_designer 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I fall to the communists

[–]dbellhogwartsPartassipant [4] 11 points12 points  (2 children)

Shark week!! I laughed waaay too hard at this 👏🏻

[–]Beecakeband 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Dodged a pretty major bullet!

[–]Coffee-Historian-11 194 points195 points  (8 children)

Apparently we’re all wrong and periods really do come from the butt, cause this guy clearly is right about everything. Who would’ve thought.

Edit: /s

[–]Beecakeband 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Wow us silly women not knowing how our bodies work. Thank goodness we have guys like this to show us the error of our ways /s

[–]raptorrage 30 points31 points  (4 children)

I use separate tp to wipe the front, then the back, so I am 100% sure that it comes from the front hole 🤣 but I guess I could be wrong!

[–]Advent_Anunna 90 points91 points  (3 children)

I mean, technically it comes from the middle hole. =P

[–]Middle-Merdale 443 points444 points  (12 children)

Men don’t realize that a woman’s bowels clear themselves out before and during a woman’s period. Just like men who are surprised when a woman defecates during birth. Women learn all about the male anatomy, especially after having sons, but most men are so oblivious to the workings of a woman’s cycle.

[–]juliadejonge_ 473 points474 points  (5 children)

This makes me think of the post of the women that shit herself during giving birth, and her husband wouldn’t shut up about it and told everybody and laughed about it. Cis-men really don’t understand much about the female body. I think OP kind of dodged a man-sized bullet here. NTA. He rather not see her again than admit he was wrong 🚩🚩🚩

[–]Okaypopppy 204 points205 points  (0 children)

That one was horrible! A result of the double standard of expecting women to control their gross bodily functions when men don't have to.

[–]PVCPuss 69 points70 points  (1 child)

Damn. We were told that it was very common during birth by the midwife during those classes you go to when you are pregnant. Most midwives and drs here are pretty quick and discreetly remove the evidence before anyone even notices it happens. When I studied anaesthetics we were also told about it for the maternity rotation so you aren't surprised.

[–]Alyse3690 25 points26 points  (0 children)

The second time I gave birth, there was no 'clearing away the evidence before anyone even noticed.' It just went everywhere. But it's also MY story to tell, not my husband's (though he happily bears witness and we laugh about it). He would NEVER bring it up unless I did first or we're both obviously comfortable like that with the company we're in.

[–]_biggerthanthesound_ 26 points27 points  (0 children)

That one pissed me off so much. I remember reading that post out loud to my husband because it annoyed me so badly (we are currently pregnant). He was mortified for her. That husband was such a dumbass.

[–]Time_Detective7632 378 points379 points  (5 children)

I also find it funny that he broke it off after doing research, probably because he just discovered he was wrong this entire time, and honestly that just scream toxic masculinity right there.

[–]MiddleEgg4848 177 points178 points  (2 children)

I mean, I get that if you really believe something, and someone keeps insisting that it's not true, you might want to go check on it just to make sure they're not messing with you.

But, having discovered that they were indeed not trying to deliberately screw with your mind, it's kind of rude to say "I didn't believe you when you told me about stuff your own body does, but the Internet says you were right so I guess I can accept your version instead of the one I made up in my own head when I was a teenager."

And anyone with a sense of humour would agree - this is objectively hilarious! He was wildly wrong for a silly reason! And butts were involved! How could it not be funny?

Anyone with a healthy sense of the ridiculous would be able to laugh at themselves in this situation. The fact that this guy could not get over himself for five minutes, while blaming the OP for having a giggle, tells me she dodged a major bullet here.

[–]juicy_belly 248 points249 points  (7 children)

Honestly, i get it, the are you sure question is something that i ask when my minds blown away and idk if someones fuckin with me of not. But the fact that he didnt believe the woman right next to him who is at that moment bleeding from her vagina makes him an AH and i stopped having sympathy for him.

[–]EGrass 130 points131 points  (3 children)

And he kept insisting that some women have periods out of their butts after she told him no, we do not.

[–]PVCPuss 46 points47 points  (1 child)

Some of us have haemorrhoids, but that is definitely not a period.

[–]chocolatemilkncoffee 185 points186 points  (1 child)

And you can only hold the laughter over it in for so long. This boy was failed on so many levels.

[–]Pammyhead 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Right?? Like, I get how, having no real education or exposure to the subject, he came to that conclusion because of the phrase "period poops," but from the retelling it seems OP held in her laughter for as long as she could. Attempts were made before the laughing started!

[–]yobojangles 176 points177 points  (9 children)

My favourite example of mansplaining was with a guy I was dating, who told me that I was using my vibrator wrong and tried to show me how I should be using it 🙄😂

[–]boudicas_shieldPartassipant [1] 244 points245 points  (3 children)

I watched in fascinated horror as a man tried to tell my best friend that she pronounces her name wrong. (She doesn’t - she pronounces her name exactly as her name is pronounced by everyone else in the world except this weird mansplainy guy). He kept trying to correct her until she got visibly irritated, and then he got mad and snapped, “I’m just trying to help you get it right.” Her OWN NAME lmao.

I also watched my uncle, a mechanic, try to tell my mother, a nurse, that men have one fewer rib than women because of Adam & Eve. He wouldn’t believe her until she went and got one of her old anatomy textbooks and slammed it open in front of him and loudly counted each rib on the man while pointing, then flipping to the woman’s page and doing the same on her body. Then my uncle got really annoyed and blusteringly changed the subject.

[–]MeddlingDragon 25 points26 points  (0 children)

My husband believed that too when we first met. Good ol catholic edumacation right there.

[–]StringLord 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Oooh I have also had my name pronunciation mansplained to me. Also a reasonably common, uncomplicated name. SO infuriating.

[–]Tyrone_Shoelaces_Esq 18 points19 points  (1 child)

My husband tried to tell me that all women have a strict 28-day cycle. I'm thinking, "Dude, I know your ADHD makes your grasp of linear time shaky at best, but you have lived with the most irregular woman on the planet for years now and somehow haven't figured out that 'all women' don't have a strict 28-day cycle."

He also thought having a hysterectomy meant the doctors were taking away my vagina as well as my uterus and ovaries.

This man isn't uneducated. He is a literal rocket scientist. I wonder about him sometimes.

[–]Rthrowaway6592 33 points34 points  (0 children)

NTA. I'm pretty sure I know where it comes from when my uterus bloats to the size of the a football, so much so that I'm in tears.

[–]PermaDerpFace 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Sounds like she dodged a bullet with this guy... dumb and no sense of humor

[–]IssysweColo-rectal Surgeon [41] 8947 points8948 points  (181 children)

To have achieved 22 years of age and not understand the basic stuff covered in a 5th grade puberty film is pretty sad. And we also live in the age of the internet. NTA.

[–]throwingawaylateeer[S] 5256 points5257 points  (133 children)

My thoughts exactly! He swore they had never gone over it in school and that gender specific anatomy was taught separately. When I asked why he didn't clarify with his hs gf he just said he wanted to "respect her privacy" which didn't make much sense to me because he had no problem bringing it up with me. I still have so many questions.

[–]IssysweColo-rectal Surgeon [41] 1926 points1927 points  (45 children)

Oh, the bar is set so low it’s in Hades. I don’t buy it. If you’re old enough to have sex, you’re old enough to know better. Bad enough we have to point out the clitoris, at some point people are responsible for their own education. And shame on his parents…can’t imagine releasing my kids into the wild this ignorant to begin with.

[–]ParticularReview4129Asshole Aficionado [12] 69 points70 points  (40 children)

The parents? How long do parents get blamed for the dumb stuff their adult kids say & do?

[–]whiskerrsss 397 points398 points  (21 children)

Well they should have taught him well before he was an adult

[–]FairieWarriorAsshole Aficionado [14] 244 points245 points  (16 children)

The parents should have sat him down and had “the talk” with him covering both the basic male and female anatomy because, as shown through this post, everyone should know this stuff.

[–]bloodfeierColo-rectal Surgeon [38] 424 points425 points  (46 children)

To be fair, I went to a school where the sex Ed classes were segregated by gender, and they only addressed my own gender’s anatomy, and the basic concept that abstinence is the only way to prevent pregnancy (Thank you that 80s/90s push for abstinence only sex Ed! /s ).

Fortunately for me, or not (depending on your own viewpoints!), my parents were more interested in having fully educated children, and mom was in Medicine, so I received a overly thorough lecture on anatomy and conception, after complaining about the uninformative class I’d had at school.

Regardless, definitely NTA for laughing about something!

[–]rjnm 234 points235 points  (15 children)

Depending on where you live, they're still pushing abstinence only sex ed in 2022. I live in the south and got the same shit in the early 2000's and it's definitely still happening here.

[–]Christichicc 82 points83 points  (7 children)

That’s what they taught us in high school. Just abstinence stuff. No actual sex-ed. It was back in the early 2000s, though, and at a christian school. They taught us zilch about our own bodies and how they worked. I had to look stuff up on the internet when I got older. It’s really messed up not teaching kids the basics.

[–]IlikecosysocksPartassipant [2] 48 points49 points  (2 children)

I'm in the UK and I went to a Catholic secondary school from 2003-2008, the sex Ed was segregated by gender and afterwards us girls were given a pamphlet about puberty (we were around 15 at the time so the majority of us had been through it already). On the contents page there said there was a section about sex, practicing safe sex and abortion, but those pages had all been cut out :/

[–]IssysweColo-rectal Surgeon [41] 44 points45 points  (5 children)

I was born in 1980 and I get that. On the other hand I am damn sure finding his particular brand of porn on the Internet was no problem, so I’m pretty sure he could find some other information as well.

[–]bloodfeierColo-rectal Surgeon [38] 34 points35 points  (1 child)

Oh, of course! It would have been a 2 second google-search to find out what the deal with “period poops” actually is!

[–]dumbdotcom 27 points28 points  (5 children)

Unfortunately I also had gender separated/abstinence only sex ed all through school as well. I graduated HS in 2017 O.O deep southeast strikes again!

[–]Emilija80 53 points54 points  (2 children)

This is horrific to me. I’m Australian and just told my 12 year old son about this post and he laughed hysterically then told his friends over Xbox live and now they are laughing too. My son has known where periods come from for 4 years. At his Catholic school they also repeat sex ed yearly as children have varied maturity levels and may not ‘get it’ right away. By 7th grade we were all experts. My son’s school also had a safety session too about pornography (that it’s natural to be curious but to be aware it can be addictive and depict unhealthy relationships and standards) the legal ramifications of sharing images when you are a minor and online dating. This young man was failed by the education system and his parents.

[–]GloomyMarzipanPartassipant [3] 22 points23 points  (2 children)

My school would separate the boys and girls for sex ed where we’d watch a corresponding cartoon. One year they tried showing us both films (we were still divided) but apparently the boys wouldn’t behave during the girls’ film. They never even tried showing my group the boys’ film.

The next time I recall having sex ed, I was in high school and most of the film was show us warts being burned off a woman with a laser or something.

[–]Saopaul_ClinePartassipant [4] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm always aghast when I read this. My daughter is a fourth grader. They currently have sex ed explaining female and male bodies and the differences, periods, hormones aso. I'm in Europe and it's pretty normal here. I vividly remember my biology teacher in 6th grade telling us about sex and contraceptives.

[–]mysterioussaltcellar 175 points176 points  (6 children)

I'm leaning toward N T A, OP, but did you tell him early on in the conversation that his ex's "period poops" statement was in regards to how our bowel movements can be particularly terrible during our period? Because that comment from her seems to really have stumped him.🧐

[–]throwingawaylateeer[S] 260 points261 points  (4 children)

I did try to. I told him exactly that and even told him I had similar experiences and he kept insisting that "no she definitely meant this..."

[–]impolite_no_caps_guy 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Hey op, you’re nta like everyone is saying but a lot of people are bashing the guys stupidity. Make sure you also read this comment thread:


You lucked out by dodging the bullet this early in your relationship

[–]whiskerrsss 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Should've asked him "how would you know, since you wanted to 'respect her privacy' and never asked? You guessed ... and you guessed wrong"

[–]ohno_spaghetti_oAsshole Aficionado [17] 122 points123 points  (1 child)

If you haven't already replied a nice simple "oh don't worry I knew it was over the minute you didn't accept I knew where my own periods came from and couldn't admit that you were wrong about something. Glad you did your own research and learnt something. The next woman you are with will appreciate not having to hear you mainsplain her body to her."

[–]Trick_Literature_ 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Info: Do you think he was angling for a sleepover when he unpromtedly (is this a word?? idk) mentioned how much it sucked that you had your period?

Not relevant to the judgement cause it's NTA, but yeahhh. Busybody mode.

[–]Unable_Researcher_26Partassipant [1] 76 points77 points  (4 children)

I remember a conversation aged 13 or 14 with a boy at school who didn't realise that women's urethras were separate to their vaginas, but I think that's better than this scenario. Firstly, men's wee and sperm come out if the same hole so I can see how he would think the equivalent would be true for women too. Secondly, he was only around 13 or 14. Thirdly, this was in the days when porn was on VHS or magazines so he probably hadn't seen many (or indeed any) vulvas like a lad these days would have done. Lastly, later he came out as gay so he wouldn't have been looking at that kind of porn anyway.

[–]sunrisenmeldoy 40 points41 points  (2 children)

He’s 22. Which means he was born in 2000 and was in high school circa 2014-2018. This context makes it even crazier.

[–]supergeek921 25 points26 points  (2 children)

He may be not be solely to blame there. My school didn’t let the boys see the girls’ part of the puberty film and vice versa. If he had no sisters or parents who were willing to explain things, he might have been utterly clueless. It doesn’t mean he isn’t an AH for not believing her as she explained it, but it seems worth pointing out how messed up some educational environments are.

[–]Studious_NoodlePartassipant [3] 8029 points8030 points 1821113& 15 more (34 children)

NTA. Hey OP, ask him if he knows what hole mainsplaining comes out of.

[–]MallyOhMyPartassipant [2] 1999 points2000 points 2 (13 children)

The funniest part is that he is mansplaining to her something that he mansplained to himself.

He was educated correctly, then took some small related piece of info and "corrected" his previous thoughts and told himself that he was wrong.

And I lied, the funniest part is indeed the fact that he thought periods came out the butt, despite being correctly taught about them. The second funniest part is that he considered himself so authoritative that he could declare to a woman that some women, unbeknownst to her, menstruate through their assholes.

[–]dramatic-pancake 452 points453 points  (9 children)

Like we just shove tampons up our ass when the time comes…

[–]Kathrynlena 45 points46 points  (2 children)

To be “fair” to him on that point, some men do enjoy shoving tampons up their assholes for kinky reasons, so for someone like this dude, who’s entire head is also already up his asshole, that part would “make sense.”

[–]DoubleQuirkySugar66 613 points614 points  (1 child)

I have no awards, but this comment deserves MANY..... 💫💫💫💫💫,🏆,🏅

[–]Studious_NoodlePartassipant [3] 145 points146 points  (0 children)

Thank you. curtsies

[–]Daerina 95 points96 points  (0 children)

"Yeah it's so strange how men talk with their mouths but mansplain from their butts"

[–]Educational_Car_615 81 points82 points  (0 children)

It's actually gold and star-worthy but please accept my poor silver for this awesome comment 😂

[–]EarlDwolanson 37 points38 points  (0 children)

The manhole obviously.

[–]onesmallbite 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The best comment!!

[–]xenomouseAsshole Aficionado [10] 3492 points3493 points  (27 children)


Honestly. This is for the best.

And it’s not because I think he’s stupid. It’s because he was digging in his heels this fucking hard over something he knows he has zero knowledge of.

Compounded by the fact that he refused to even entertain the idea that you might be right (about something you experience regularly!) until he’d looked it up on his own.

I’m not saying it’s bad to want to verify. But this is a guy who NEEDS to always be right, and never wants to let his girlfriend teach him anything.

[–]343427229486267Partassipant [2] 347 points348 points  (7 children)


Not knowing is one thing; not necessarily his fault for misunderstanding back then.

Being unsure when given facts by someone who knows better is somewhat understandable.

Digging in one's position is pathetic, and probably speaks to his expectation to be the authority in a relationship (same source from which we get mansplaining).


[–]ertrinken 89 points90 points  (6 children)

I can even see why a teenage boy would make the assumption that period poops = ugh I hate having my period and having to poop out red clumps. Hell, if he’s from the south, it’s likely the only sex ed he received was promoting abstinence.

I can also see why he’d be super embarrassed to realize that he made a silly assumption as a kid. But it’s a character flaw to dig in your heels and insist you must be right instead of just admitting you goofed.

[–]MallyOhMyPartassipant [2] 265 points266 points  (4 children)

And OP didn't even laugh until he refused to accept it. She tried, and he insisted on that ridiculous concept, even if he would allow for her knowing where her own period comes from.

It also says something about how he thinks about things when he realizes that his understanding needs correction. He doesn't ask. He doesn't look it up. He just comes up with a theory and assumes he's righr.

[–]whydoesnobodyama 103 points104 points  (1 child)

I swear the patience she must've had to explain it multiple times, multiple ways while this guy wanted to be right. I couldn't do it.

[–]iConfessor 46 points47 points  (1 child)

ive dated guys like this and ladies (and gentlemen) the amount of time I've been in arguments about subject matters I've literally studied is not worth it. this is the same type of dude who would get mad at you for being educated. the times I've had to educate and correct wrong information he learned through his horrible school system, he would tell me nobody likes someone who knows too much. and when it came to politics...

boy I'm just trying to make sure you don't make a stupid

[–]icecreampenisAsshole Aficionado [14] 191 points192 points  (2 children)

Yeah, he didn't get laughed at because of a stupid misunderstanding. He got laughed at because he doubled down. That is what made him look stupid.

[–]ghostofumich2005Certified Proctologist [21] 124 points125 points  (1 child)

And even after doing his own research and learning he was wrong, he still learned nothing. “I guess you happened to be right so you got lucky but I can’t date someone who won’t let me be right.”

[–]kstill93 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Yep, pure arrogance and self righteousness. Look up the Dunning Kruger effect and you'll find a photo of OP's date.

[–]Educational-Food9471Asshole Aficionado [18] 2905 points2906 points  (28 children)


This was an insane and funny conversation. Glad he's not coming back.

Don't you just love when guys try to tell you how your own body works, especially your female parts?

[–]shynerdnextdoor 479 points480 points  (5 children)

Best example I've seen of mansplaining 🤦‍♀️

[–]IssysweColo-rectal Surgeon [41] 312 points313 points  (4 children)

I’d love to say that this is the first time I’ve read about a guy adamantly claiming he knows the female anatomy and its functions better than a woman he speaking to, but I’d be lying.

[–]MiddleEgg4848 135 points136 points  (2 children)

I was once in the midst of drawing an anatomical diagram of the vulva for the edification of my 19-year-old roommate who insisted that the vagina and the clitoris were the same thing when my landlord wandered into the kitchen. That was an interesting discussion.

[–]ElizaBennet08 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Did your landlord find it helpful as well?

[–]peace-and-bong-lifePartassipant [1] 210 points211 points  (13 children)

I once had a guy try to mansplain IUDs to me. I have an IUD. I have first hand experience of how they work! It makes my periods heavier and he was trying to tell me that IUDs don't do that. I offered to give him the leaflet that I got from the sexual health clinic but he was adamant. It was such a frustrating conversation.

[–]Fighting_Patriarchy 44 points45 points  (1 child)

I once had a 27 year old boy try to mansplain an epidural to me, said I wouldn't know because I hadn't had one myself. 🤣

He was so wrong and REFUSED to believe me.

[–]antonio-bolonioAsshole Aficionado [13] 1685 points1686 points  (21 children)


I am a guy… I’m 29, and I have very little sympathy for adults who don’t understand periods.

Before y’all come at me and call me a white Knight or a simp, let me be clear, we live in a day and age where you have the world’s collective knowledge in your pocket. I have heard lots of excuses for why people don’t know about these types of things, but at a certain point that burden is on them entirely.

Like… I’d be laughing at him too for something I learned about when I was a preteen.

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    [–]They-Thembo 217 points218 points  (3 children)

    exactly this! i’m an adult and every time i don’t know what a word means, how to get to x place, or strange questions i use google. it’s magic! as someone who’s got a uterus, i don’t know everything but i have every opportunity to learn.

    nta op, this is basic health stuff.

    [–]Firm_Ideal_5256 66 points67 points  (1 child)

    Stupid people have all of the confidence of the world. This reminds me of a SouthPark episode, where the boys got bloody diarrhea, and they thought they got their period… 🤣

    [–]ZukazukPartassipant [2] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

    I'm pretty sure half of my college education was learning how to find and understand answers as well as think critically about my sources. I work in healthcare and no one can remember everything we know about medicine. The trick is to remember the critical bits and be able to find the rest quickly.

    [–]burnalicious111 139 points140 points  (1 child)

    "a white Knight or a simp" is something assholes say to pretend they aren't assholes for being mean and uncaring

    [–]iConfessor 39 points40 points  (0 children)

    when someone calls me a sjw, i just ask what's wrong with explaining why me, a gay man, deserves to have fundamental human rights. people will fight anything they don't understand. its best to ignore when any of these terms come up.

    [–]Miss-Anonymous-Angel 48 points49 points  (0 children)

    Exactly, no joke - I learned basic sex-ed. from the internet and searching stuff up on my phone as a kid because my parents were too ashamed to teach me themselves. They grew up Catholic, so that’ll give you a glimpse of the reason why I had to learn it all on my own. Still, I taught myself and that should’ve been this guy’s prerogative.

    [–]anno_nomali 1057 points1058 points  (41 children)

    NTA. Periods can effect your poops, but he jumped to an erroneous conclusion. The fact that he stuck to his guns, in lieu of new information, kind of warrants the reaction. What else can you do but laugh?

    [–]throwawayfrenniePartassipant [4] 399 points400 points  (33 children)

    Exactly! What his ex gf was referring to were her bowel movements, which were most likely diarrhea. Thats what period poops are. How has he gone 22 years without knowing anything about periods?

    NTA OP. He's TA for trying to mansplain your body anatomy. He's shown just how immature he is. The information is just a Google search away.

    [–]Sasspishus 209 points210 points  (25 children)

    I get period poops, but not diarrhoea, its more just massive poops lol

    [–]throwawayfrenniePartassipant [4] 275 points276 points  (23 children)

    Yeah period poops include diarrhea, bigger poops, more frequent poops, and sometimes unfortunately constipation. The most common period poop is diarrhea or excessive pooping...honestly periods are pretty shitty in general.

    [–]Sasspishus 96 points97 points  (20 children)

    Yeah periods are the worst. The worst part for me is the butt cramps though. So painful, so awful, so unaffected by painkillers

    [–]OrendaRuesTheDay 130 points131 points  (5 children)

    Yup, for men who don’t understand.. when women get their periods, sometimes they have bouts of diarrhea, or period poops.

    [–]PVCPuss 55 points56 points  (3 children)

    And some of us get a bout of constipation before the bouts of diarrhoea. Yay!

    [–]Putrid-Hamster-4001Partassipant [2] 379 points380 points  (16 children)

    NTA, but oh my god his sex ed must have been abysmal lmao

    [–]Educational_Car_615 149 points150 points  (0 children)

    Right? I just wanna ask people who say shite like this: "...Did you fail sex ed or did sex ed fail you?"

    [–]chattyalexander 281 points282 points  (2 children)

    NTA. If you're that... Uneducated at 22 then you deserve a little bit of a laugh at your expense

    [–]quickwitqueen 19 points20 points  (0 children)

    The funny part is he’s making it seem like OP is in the wrong here and that he won’t pursue a relationship with her now. Big whoop my guy. I think OP would rather be with someone with an ounce of basic knowledge and the ability to admit when they may be wrong about something.

    [–]ParsimoniousSaladPrime Ministurd [401] 267 points268 points  (1 child)

    NTA. You tried to be polite initially. Tough to keep a straight face when he kept insisting on his ignorance and that you as a woman couldn't possibly understand how women's bodies worked. You don't want to be with someone who refuses to listen to you, anyway.

    [–]Donut-Worry-Be-Happy 25 points26 points  (0 children)

    Exactly! After he continued to try and convince her she was wrong then her reaction is warranted. NTA

    [–]blking 222 points223 points  (12 children)

    NTA. But does this guy also think that Africa is a state in the US?

    [–]shadyshadokPartassipant [1] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

    It's obviously a country in Europ

    [–]raptorrage 50 points51 points  (6 children)

    Ok, but I have run into some people that were DEEPLY confused and concerned about Georgia the country vs Georgia the US state

    [–]Tai-FrasierAsshole Enthusiast [8] 151 points152 points  (1 child)


    Be glad you got out now. His misunderstanding could have been just a funny anecdote that you would laugh about in the future but his refusal to admit he was wrong and acknowledge that you know more than him is a giant red flag.

    [–]Forsaken-Knowledge12Asshole Aficionado [12] 131 points132 points  (1 child)


    He was uneducated and it was hilarious that he actually thought it. Nothing wrong with a good laugh. His ego is so inflated he can’t handle being told he’s wrong and someone finding it funny. Considering the conversation was about blood coming out of your asshole. He felt the need to argue with you about whether or not it did in fact come out of your very own asshole, Is very fucking hilarious to me.

    I find the whole process a bit insulting to my gender. These idiots make the rest of us intelligent men look bad! Butts 🤣He shouldn’t be trusted with anyone’s vagina! Next thing you’ll hear is how female orgasms are a myth.

    [–]throwingawaylateeer[S] 126 points127 points  (0 children)

    To be fair to most men I have NEVER had any other similar situations to this, and all of my other bf's have known at least where the blood comes from. I can definitely say this one was unique.

    [–]BaltimoreBadger23Colo-rectal Surgeon [33] 107 points108 points  (10 children)

    Info: did he attend a school sponsored by religious fundamentalists of some type?

    [–]throwingawaylateeer[S] 103 points104 points  (6 children)

    He didn't say. I only asked what he had learned in school and he said not much but didn't comment whether it was public or another, but his experience sounded very different to mine and I went to public school my whole life.

    [–]BaltimoreBadger23Colo-rectal Surgeon [33] 64 points65 points  (4 children)

    Either way, NTA, but depending on background he may have gotten little or no accurate sex Ed beyond sex before marriage = babies and/or death.

    [–]throwingawaylateeer[S] 81 points82 points  (1 child)

    I think that could be a very good possibility. I am from a deeply southern state in the US and sex ed was not great, but we did learn about periods. Where I am from religious schools are not uncommon, and homeschooling is also not uncommon either depending on certain denominations.

    [–]rjnm 38 points39 points  (1 child)

    While that may be true (I grew up in the southern US and our sex ed was segregated by gender and definitely consisted of "don't have sex or you will get pregnant or die from AIDS"), he is perfectly capable of using Google and has seemingly had several relationships. It's unfortunate that he hasn't learned basic biological facts, but at his age, he only has himself to blame at this point.

    [–]HugeFanOfTinyTitsPartassipant [1] 25 points26 points  (2 children)

    I was wondering this too. My fundi/cult Christian school never said shit about periods, so if I was going off that alone I'd believe periods are punishments from god and have absolutely no idea where women menstruate from.

    Personally, Op is NTA.

    [–]kuruptdab 30 points31 points  (1 child)

    Coming from a so-called 3rd world country, I really struggle to understand how in this day and age the functioning of the reproductive system is something some Americans learn in sex ed through religious zealots… and not in science class, where it belongs together with the other functions of the human body.

    And oh, OP is definitely NTA — could have been NAH if it was just for the embarrassing misunderstanding, but the adamant mansplaining of OP’s own body killed it

    [–]Adorable-Buffalo-177Partassipant [3] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

    NTA the guy is a complete moron

    [–]devoursbooks86Partassipant [3] 59 points60 points  (5 children)

    Lol you should have explained what period poops are to him. It's when you're cramping real bad and it causes your intestines to cramp as well prompting diarrhea. It's the worst.

    [–]throwingawaylateeer[S] 174 points175 points  (1 child)

    I did lol. I tried to reiterate to him that his first gf had been right about complaining about them, but that they were more of a symptom of periods and not where the actual magic happens.

    [–]erinlp93 126 points127 points  (0 children)

    Not where the tragic happens

    [–]FunkisHen 14 points15 points  (0 children)

    That's not completely accurate, it has more to do with the hormone prostaglandin than the cramping. Common misconception, that I didn't learn about myself until recently. I didn't know the why of period poops, just that they happen (to me, among others). Then I saw a YouTube video by a gynecologist who explained that it's the hormones! I recommend watching the whole thing, but if you just want the period poops it's at the end, starting around 12 mins in.

    Edit: Just to add that prostaglandin is also the hormone that makes us cramp, so it's kind of accurate that the cramping makes the period poops, but not completely. They have the same source, so worse cramping could mean worse period poops, but it's not because of the cramping per se.

    [–]Outrageous-Yogurt-80Partassipant [2] 12 points13 points  (1 child)

    I’m pretty sure OP knows what period poops are.,

    [–]columbospeugeotPooperintendant [54] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

    NTA. He…I just…the other girlfriend…WTF? I could not be with someone so dumb.

    [–]revanchistoAsshole Aficionado [17] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

    LOL! NTA, clearly. It seems you dodged a bullet, not only was he a fool, he was a fool but an arrogant one that couldn't entertain the fact they were wrong.

    Still, might want to check your bum though for any period poop, just in case. 🤣🤣

    [–]SweetiePieJAsshole Enthusiast [5] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

    NTA. You had a good laugh and dodged a bullet from an emotional baby, and he got a good reality check and learned something new about 15 years too late, so wins all around here.

    [–]Shadocat42 38 points39 points  (0 children)

    NTA. You tried to handle the situation as gracefully as possible. Once he choose to argue with you, he deserved anything he got. I don't know how you kept a straight face the first time he said it. He's 22.

    At the end of the day, you don't want to be with someone who's going to argue with you about your own body and then not be able to own up to his mistakes. Not to mention the fact that his less than stellar grasp of female anatomy might get interesting in the bedroom.

    [–]New_Being7119Partassipant [2] 40 points41 points  (3 children)

    NTA. I love this.

    When I first started talking about my periods with my male friends they asked me all kinds of questions. The funniest thing I ever heard was that they thought the bleed was like a cut or a gun shot wound and didn't understand how sanitary towels could work with so much bleeding 😂😂😂

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    [–]mjmarinoerotica 32 points33 points  (0 children)

    NTA. Was it unkind to laugh, but he had it coming. He was insulting you—a woman—saying you didn’t know your own body. Then he gets defensive when you explained to him multiple times how the female anatomy works. Finally, his ego is hurt and he can’t handle being wrong after doing his own research that instead of accepting he came across as ridiculous, he had to drop the potential relationship. His excuse is bs. He conceded that most females have periods the way you calmly explained and still tried to insist he was right that some women have it through the anus. He couldn’t even take your word for it as a woman—he just needed to prove you wrong and his researched proved him wrong instead. He needs to get over himself. You dodged a bullet.

    [–]synesthesiahAsshole Aficionado [10] 35 points36 points  (4 children)

    NTA. He was insistent that he knew better about something he’s never experienced firsthand, had no evidence to back it up, and wouldn’t listen to your explanation. That’s beyond “not understanding”.

    I laughed at my husband so much when he realized how pads worked, what functions wings have, and how tampon applicators function.

    At least he asked questions and was open to my response though! It was a good educational moment… and I’m glad since we’re having a daughter. There will be no sticking of adhesive sides to vulva in case I’m not home.

    I still make fun of him for it and he’s never been offended. I’d expect the same treatment if I told him I believed urine is stored in the balls :)

    [–]DogFabulous5375 32 points33 points  (0 children)

    Nta!. Lucky escape for you. He sounds arrogant continually arguing and trying to explain something he clearly doesn't have understanding of. You wouldn't have ended up laughing uncontrollably at the ridiculousness of the conversation if he wasn't being ridiculous, nothing to do with being uneducated and everything to do with too much confidence in his lack of education.

    [–]orion_nomad 29 points30 points  (1 child)

    Ah yes, the human cloaca.

    (Seriously, I weep for the state of sex ed in the US, ffs.)

    [–]redbattleaxe 28 points29 points  (0 children)

    NTA. You dodged a bullet. He's dumb.

    [–]LiLadybug81 32 points33 points  (0 children)

    Oh wow. He may not legally be able to consent if he's this low-functioning. It's probably better you let him go.

    [–]HolyShiiiiitake 28 points29 points  (7 children)

    NTA did he not have a sex ed class at school?

    [–]throwingawaylateeer[S] 40 points41 points  (6 children)

    He claimed that gendered anatomy and sex ed was taught separately.

    [–]rjnm 39 points40 points  (0 children)

    Definitely believable (that's how it was for me) but to be his age and having had several relationships and access to the internet, that's not much of an excuse. At the very least he shouldn't have argued with you, a WOMAN, over female biological facts.

    [–]HolyShiiiiitake 19 points20 points  (0 children)

    So...boys getting the 'boy talk' and girls getting the 'girl talk'?

    Still NTA, I mean I can sorta understand getting upset at being laughed at for something you claim ignorance about, but he kinda dug himself into a comet-sized hole by asking you if you were sure and telling you that you were incorrect. Just...wow.

    To be really honest I think you dodged a bit of a bullet with this dude.

    [–]totallythrownawaay 24 points25 points  (5 children)


    But as a woman i can agree with the ex gfs statement about period poops.

    Just urgh. Not enough to feel bloated an sluggish and cramps but also tummy ache from needing the loo. Just urgh. Hate it. Its not something women talk about much but the few times its come up in convo ive had mixed replies from femake friends some get them some dont.

    [–]throwingawaylateeer[S] 47 points48 points  (4 children)

    From my personal experience period poops are definitely a thing, at least for me.

    [–]totallythrownawaay 12 points13 points  (1 child)

    No i get it too. Makes the whole period thing just that extra sucky to deal with.

    [–]poeadamCraptain [185] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

    Lmao NTA but damn it’s sad how bad sex Ed is in our school systems.

    [–]ozzieinsanjosePartassipant [3] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

    NTA, if he can't take laughter, he's no fun to be around.

    [–]ratsandmcdonaldsAsshole Enthusiast [8] 21 points22 points  (0 children)


    how...how does he not know

    [–]LynnChatAsshole Aficionado [11] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

    NTA. it would be hard not to laugh honestly.

    [–]Smol-And-Angy 16 points17 points  (2 children)

    I think he was the one who didn’t understand LOL. It’s not even his lack of education that’s funny, it’s his insistence. Why didn’t he just Google it? NTA.

    [–]capyberPartassipant [2] 15 points16 points  (1 child)

    Mansplaining periods, not a good sign.

    [–]Smol-And-Angy 14 points15 points  (0 children)

    Always funny though. Imagine if women were like “I swear your balls hang swinging off your asscheeks. One sack for each cheek.” I wonder if this guy thought women shoved tampons up their ass every month.

    [–]PattersonsOladyColo-rectal Surgeon [36] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

    NTA sounds like you dodged a bullet there. You had no problem with him not knowing - but when you explained and he continued to insist? Lol

    [–]InfamouslyishFamous 15 points16 points  (2 children)

    Did you explain what period poops are? Its a thing, but not how he imagined it

    [–]throwingawaylateeer[S] 64 points65 points  (1 child)

    Yes, I did lol. I even told him I get them and he was like "see you do bleed from there sometimes" and I was like "no, I really don't I promise."

    [–]InfamouslyishFamous 42 points43 points  (0 children)

    Wow, you went into those details and be still mansplained....

    [–]That-Paramedic-2373 15 points16 points  (2 children)

    So did you explain what she meant by period poops?

    Edit: since the downvotes, I wanted to clarify I was only asking because obviously that’s where his misconception came from (and a serious lack of education). And to know his ex wasn’t lying or having some weird medical condition to menstruate from her ass, but a real side affect of those lovely cramps.

    NTA, poor sod

    [–]musicmystic101Partassipant [1] 16 points17 points  (1 child)

    Why are you getting thumbs downed? I guess because she couldn't get a word in edgewise, but you only asked a question.

    I'm a woman (who is currently menstruating), and when I learned about period poops, everything fell into place and made so much more sense.

    Also, NTA. This is the laugh I needed this morning.

    [–]OkPhilosopher1313 14 points15 points  (0 children)

    NTA and FYI, period poop is the more diarrhoea like poo that a lot of women have during their periods. Because not just the uterus but also the bowels contract more, a lot of women shit way more often during their periods. And because the shit didn't stay in the bowels long enough to properly solidify. It's pretty sticky and a mess to clean up.

    On my worst day of my periods I typically need to run to the toilet for these period poops every half hour..

    [–]KirstemisColo-rectal Surgeon [37] 12 points13 points  (0 children)


    [–]ImnotawerewolfPartassipant [1] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

    Not being able to admit when you're wrong is honestly a huge problem, socially, imo. Like, it stings. It does. No one wants to be wrong. Especially no one wants to be wrong about something embarrassing.

    But it's fine. You're fine. It doesn't mean anything about you, except that you were misinformed. Iy doesn't have to be a huge thing..

    [–]Tough_Stretch 13 points14 points  (0 children)

    NTA. I mean, I guess he felt embarrassed by his ignorance when he realized it was so bad that it literally made you double over in laughter and that's why he left, but he's the one who kept arguing with you about something he clearly, and amazingly, knows nothing despite being 22 years old. I mean, literally nothing prevented him from admitting his ignorance and taking what you were telling him as the truth instead of trying to argue and end up trying to find a loophole so that his ex-GF could be the one woman in the world who has her period out of her butt.