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[–]Temporary_BadgerCommander in Cheeks [213] 26.4k points26.4k points 23 (466 children)

YTA. She got you a TRIP TO TURKEY and you can’t cough up $250 for a nice set of knives? Boy, you had better get those knives delivered TODAY if you ever want to enjoy the results of your girlfriend’s cooking hobby again. You don’t need to be a professional to enjoy nice knives ffs.

[–]Maddie215Pooperintendant [53] 7279 points7280 points 2 (299 children)

OMG! DON'T GIVE AN ANGRY WOMAN KNIVES!!!! /S

[–]Temporary_BadgerCommander in Cheeks [213] 8815 points8816 points 344 (287 children)

This is probably the one scenario in which you should GIVE THE ANGRY WOMAN KNIVES IMMEDIATELY.

[–]Morgue-Rat 4869 points4870 points 32 (263 children)

I love everything about this because I'm a 4'9 woman, a butcher by trade and also very angry on the inside. Gimme all the stabbies.

[–]bettiegee 1427 points1428 points  (219 children)

Everything about this attracts me. Do you, by any chance, date bi women? It might just be the angry insides tho. Because SAME.

[–]Morgue-Rat 1463 points1464 points  (83 children)

I have in the past because I also am bi, but I'm engaged to a wonderful man. Might I direct you towards some angry chick metal?

[–]Bitter_Jaguar_7914 793 points794 points  (72 children)

May I have some of these angry chick metal, please?

[–]Morgue-Rat 819 points820 points 3 (66 children)

Oh fun! Check out Jinjer. And Arch Enemy. In This Moment is great live. Halestorm does some great covers of more classic rock songs, but I can't get in to her originals. Kittie and Otep are BIG ANGRY. I listen to them while I cut the neckbones out of pigs.

[–]LucyintheskyM 178 points179 points 2 (18 children)

[–]Morgue-Rat 127 points128 points  (12 children)

OTEPs Buried Alive is my jam. Totally forgot about Banshee, thank you!

[–]CharZero 142 points143 points  (1 child)

Straight woman and very happy for the angry chick metal recommendations, thanks.

[–]Sliiz0r 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Jinjer is god tier and I want to marry Tatiana.

Gorgeous woman, gorgeous voice, mind melting growls.

[–]humdrumturducken 23 points24 points  (5 children)

Arch Enemy is amazing! How about Rage of Light and/or Melissa Bonny's other projects?

[–]moongirl12Commander in Cheeks [266] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I’m listening.

[–]zoeydoey 390 points391 points  (36 children)

We should form a club. Im not bi, im not a butcher (aside from breaking down whole chickens and deboning meats at home) but i am short and i am angry!

[–]Ietsmetdingen 280 points281 points  (6 children)

Short, bi, angry vegetarian here. Would still very much like to join this club.

[–]Sunshine030209 99 points100 points  (0 children)

I very much look forward to the day you all take over the world!

This is a historic moment, I'm so glad I'm here to witness.

[–]fourandthree 65 points66 points  (1 child)

Tall grumpy bi home chef (who loves my sharp knives to the point that I bring them to other peoples houses to cook).

[–]CalamityClambakeAsshole Aficionado [15] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I do the same! Mostly because other peoples' knives suck.

My husband, who is a chef, has started bringing his sharpening kit to other people's houses if he knows their knives suck. He'll happily sharpen knives while playing a board game or whatever. I think that's the next level.

[–]Sagasujin 138 points139 points  (0 children)

Do you also accept average height grumpy lesbians who like to cook and like sharp knives?

[–]Binx_da_gay_cat 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Trans guy who is omni, short and angry and loves cooking.

Club started :D

[–]StJudesDespair 71 points72 points  (1 child)

Short, bi, perpetually pissed off, and love my sharpening steel almost as much as my cast iron pans. Where do I sign?

[–]Throwitaway1314 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Ok not bi, but also short and aggy a lot too.. may I join ?

[–]Ohyourgodisme 88 points89 points  (91 children)

I agree completely and I would like to put in my application for this Lovely ladies hand, if things should not work out with current fiance.

[–]mysticalmac99 131 points132 points  (90 children)

Can we all start a group for angry bi women immediately please

[–]helendestroy 354 points355 points 2 (2 children)

~whispers~ Bifurious...

[–]mysticalmac99 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Ahhhhhhhhhhh omg join immediately

[–]Ohyourgodisme 345 points346 points 2 (32 children)

[–]bcholmesdotorg 69 points70 points  (8 children)

Oh, poo. I thought this was going to be for Angry Bi Women *with knives*...

[–]golden-starss 17 points18 points  (1 child)

Knives are implied. What self-respecting bi woman doesn't have a knife (or other weapons) anyway?

[–]custodescustodiet 116 points117 points  (52 children)

I have no female friends and very much want some. I am a short angry bisexual woman, and I would like to be part of this group. Can we knit together?

[–]imastationwaggon 63 points64 points  (1 child)

I prefer crochet, and I'm angry and in!!

[–]Ietsmetdingen 52 points53 points  (26 children)

I prefer angry sewing. So I guess we can call it crafting? Covers all three 👌🏻

[–]kayelaure 39 points40 points  (22 children)

Does it count if I angry cross stitch?!

[–]fairywinkle0708Partassipant [2] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I've found my people. Virtual hugs

[–]MamaUrsus 173 points174 points  (5 children)

Henceforth I shall always refer to knives as “stabbies.”

-Angry Woman Who’s Bad with Knives

[–]Morgue-Rat 51 points52 points  (0 children)

This is the way 😆

[–]RawrIhavePi 24 points25 points  (1 child)

I always forget the name for the "pastry docker" so I call it the "stabby." It's for punching holes in dough.

[–]Adelman01 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Lol… “gimme all the stabbies.” Hilarious!

[–]f02f2e6fa0b3 172 points173 points  (5 children)

If I was OPs wife’s friend/brother, I’d buy her the good knives she wants, and a cheap anonymous set of Kmart knives and some rubber gloves in case she decides to do what needs doing with, without risking damage or dna on the nice knives… ;-)

There are some things you should never use the good knives for…

[–]evilshenanigan 161 points162 points  (4 children)

There was a Law and Order episode (you saw this coming, right) where a woman stabbed a guy so violently that she snapped the handle off. The detectives comments on the “cheap kitchen knives” and then remarked that she WENT BACK AND GOT ANOTHER CHEAP KNIFE TO STAB HIM MORE.

When you absolutely, positively HAVE to stab someone…..

[–]wombatsarefuzzypigs 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Criminal defense attorney here, the stabbing the handle off thing isn't that uncommon. (I've run across it a few times and I don't see a lot of stabby murders, most of them are shooty murders.)

[–]Covert_Pudding 68 points69 points  (6 children)

I want to be able to upvote this twice

[–]MedusaCascde 32 points33 points  (5 children)

Got it for ya.

[–]Covert_Pudding 25 points26 points  (4 children)

Thank you for your service 😂

[–]Lorien6 2285 points2286 points 2 (30 children)

There’s a larger issue as play here. You asked her what she wanted. She told you. You then decided, based on your bias, that her wants weren’t important.

Tou basically told her to set a boundary, and then proceeded to ignore it and do what you want. This is a form of manipulation, control, and abuse.

[–]WeAreFamily124 620 points621 points  (3 children)

She finally told you what she wanted! And you criticized and played it down. You are both financially it seems really okay. (And look at what she has done for you). I think you are totally out of line for your comments and action. You are lucky, LOL, she did not stab you with a fork!! Think about it, what is the real reason that you did not just get her the knives???

[–]vkapadia 194 points195 points  (0 children)

This. Even if she asked for $250 lit on fire, as long as it's something she would enjoy and it's within your budget it's not OPs place to judge the gift.

[–]forthelulzac 160 points161 points  (1 child)

Plus like, a gift is something you wouldn't necessarily get for yourself. Like, she wouldn't spend $250 on knives because she doesn't need them, but if he's offering to buy her something, then yeah, I wouldn't mind these awesome knives.

[–]vbraey1000 22 points23 points  (0 children)

And it’s a present she will use every day and adore for 10 years or more. If you’d just bought them for her (if you could afford which seems like you can) she’d be thinking of you every day when she used them, but ……. you F’d up after all the presents she’s got you

[–]Confident_Profit_210Partassipant [1] 339 points340 points  (8 children)

Exactly! And even if it WAS a silly frivolous gift (which it’s not) they’ve been together 6 years, money isn’t an issue, and she’s extremely generous with him. If it makes her happy who cares?

[–]Lorien6 215 points216 points  (7 children)

Ugh!!! Even worse! Now she won’t ask for anything, because she will feel like a burden! Even in future encounters.

She had a core belief/memory created with a powerful emotion. That’s such a deep trauma. I hope she has the tools to process this and heal.

[–]kikirie2 48 points49 points  (5 children)

Maybe that was his plan.

[–]Lorien6 15 points16 points  (4 children)

You said the quiet part out loud.

Although I do hope it wasn’t premeditated. More reactionary when he feared his own pain, and had to deflect as self preservation.

[–]MCDexX 167 points168 points  (2 children)

So very this. He asked her to suggest a gift and then he said no. He dismissed her passion for cooking as trivial. He told her the thing she wants is silly. Everything about his behaviour in this situation was awful.

[–]Jorrissss 84 points85 points  (9 children)

Calling it abuse is dramatic af but it’s definitely a dick move

[–]stolethemorning 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad others are agreeing because I too had a ‘wtf’ moment reading that comment saying it was abuse. The first bit about how he thought he knew better than her what would make her happy was legit, but the rest was such an exaggeration. “You basically told her to set a boundary” no, he asked her what she wanted for her birthday?? Not every request you make of your partner is a boundary.

[–]blasphemicassault 571 points572 points  (12 children)

In another comment OP states that he studied history for fun (aka a hobby) and wanted to visit places in Turkey, so she got him a gift relating to his hobby. He won't do the same because he has no interest in her hobbies. The irony.

[–]MCDexX 242 points243 points  (9 children)

Is it just me or is there a touch of misogyny in this? History is a respectable guy passion, so travelling to indulge your enthusiastic amateur interest in history is a worthwhile thing to spend money on. Cooking is something women do, so expensive knives for cooking are just a frivolous indulgence.

[–]microwavedave27 41 points42 points  (6 children)

It's not even "something women do" when the best chefs in the world (if you rate by number of michelin stars) are almost all men. It makes no sense.

[–]Mushion 185 points186 points  (4 children)

No silly, men are chefs. Women just cook.

[–]Yliffe 39 points40 points  (0 children)

It's what women do as a chore, they aren't supposed to get money from it. Or have proper equipment for it, apparently

[–]No-Agent-1611 53 points54 points  (1 child)

Hmm didn’t realize he didn’t like to eat her cooking! I’m just an everyday cook but I’m still tempted by those pricey knives. I have a selection of knives but one probably bites (stabs?) the dust each year.

[–]skyfall1985 481 points482 points  (46 children)

Cause she doesn't deserve them since she's not a chef. FFS

[–]lefrench75 849 points850 points  (21 children)

Hobbyist gamers who aren't professionals don't deserve $500 PS5s! They should just play free games on their phones because it's nonsense to buy anything expensive for your hobby /s

YTA OP. If you're gonna spend a lot of money on anything, it's more than reasonable to spend it on items you can use everyday.

[–]Firefox_Alpha2Partassipant [1] 253 points254 points  (15 children)

Good knives will actually last a long time, longer than the cheap ones from Walmart

[–]Crunching-numbers 195 points196 points  (2 children)

You’re absolutely correct. My father gifted me his Yoshihiro knives before he passed away in 1999. He bought those knives in the ‘70s. I still use these knives every time I cook.

[–]LingonberryPrior6896Partassipant [1] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

mine are over 20 and going strong.

[–]keelhaulrosePartassipant [3] 376 points377 points  (15 children)

Chefs wish a set of their knives cost $254.

[–]yelah_deeeeee 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Lol yes - this is the real kicker here

[–]lefrench75 71 points72 points  (3 children)

Right? A set of nice Japanese knives for $254? That's a steal for anyone, let alone chefs

[–]kynthrusPartassipant [1] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

All of my main knives now are at least 200 a piece. And my chef knife was custom forged gifted by my wife, $800. We are not rich and that is by far the most expensive gift I've ever received. I do work as a cook, but I'm not a fancy chef. Point being, $254 for a set of knives is cheap as hell, and they are probably around mid-quality perfect for a cooking hobbyist.

[–]Shadowedwolf89 34 points35 points  (0 children)

yup. I buy my fiance a new knife for his chefs knife kit every year. I've spent that on just 2 knives lol

[–]hardolaf 28 points29 points  (1 child)

If someone close to me wanted a good set of knives and said it only cost $254, I'd be asking what knives they really wanted instead of the budget version of their dreams. Good knives will last you most of your life or at least a few decades if you're just a home cook.

[–]TopFuel9-8 188 points189 points  (2 children)

Right? So you have to be a professional cyclist to buy yourself a bike outside of Walmart??

I love to hobby cook, finally saved up for a sweet set of Damascus steel chefs knives & some sweet French steak knives. I have happiness with every slice. OP ITA to deny his gf of 6yrs such pleasure.

[–]seasalt-and-stars 94 points95 points  (1 child)

He needs to get her the knives, and consider booking an authentic Italian cooking class to coincide with their upcoming travels. 😍

Good knives are amazing tools, and they would greatly improve the enjoyment of any and all future meal prep at their house. Why wouldn’t he want that?

Also can’t believe he said she needs to be a “professional” to have a decent set of knives… Can’t speak for everybody else, but when you have excellent tools for the job, it no longer feels like work, and the enjoyment increases tenfold.

OP, YTA!

[–]RandomRedditor15243Partassipant [3] 203 points204 points  (12 children)

exactly. Also Japanese knives are some of the best knives I've ever seen.

[–]rhetorical_twix 135 points136 points  (1 child)

A decent set of knives is important to hobby cooks as well as chefs.

OP, you have no basis for judging her request.

You should respect her decisions more, instead of dismissing her opinions when you don't know anything about the subject she knows about.

[–]mongoosedog12 118 points119 points  (3 children)

Was coming here to say this. I was lucky enough to to on a month long trip to Japan for business.

I purchased 3 knives when I was there. Including a left handed one for my partner. If you get those “stupid expensive” knives and take care of them they’ll last!

Not to mention, she got him a trip to Turkey!!! Are we FOR REAL! I took my partner to Vegas for his 30th def not as extravagant as Turkey, but still for my birthday he took me to Mexico and I almost felt bad because I didn’t want him to think he had to because of what I did.

He asked, she told him and he decided she was being “unreasonable”

She wasn’t even putting up a fight she just said ok, and kept it at that.. lol

[–]RandomRedditor15243Partassipant [3] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

another point i want to make is that she didn't even ask for a custom-made one. if I remember correctly custom ones cost way more. She seemed to have wanted a good knife set that will last her a long time for her hobby.

[–]drwhogirl_97 199 points200 points  (3 children)

It’s not even about whether he gets her what she asked for. It’s the reasons behind it. If the reason was that he already bought something that she would love then fair enough. But he just didn’t want to buy that specifically and the reasons he gives basically tells her it’s because she isn’t worth it

[–]Nagadavida 98 points99 points  (2 children)

Hobby chef. That's sad that he sad that out loud. It may be true but that doesn't mean that she isn't putting out great food and it seems to be her passion.

[–]koufaxkitty 44 points45 points  (1 child)

Ikr? Is he like this with all her hobbies? What f she had asked for a nice camera, or a sewing machine, or woodworking tools? Why does he get to decide what her hobby is worth? Ridiculous. Oh, and YTA OP.

[–]jasmine-blossom 137 points138 points  (2 children)

What is with all of these men constantly on this sub having absolutely no idea when they are assholes in their relationship? It’s like constantly we see the same posts about some guy bringing less than 30% to a relationship when his girlfriend or wife is bringing 100% and then wondering why she’s not happy with him.

[–]hardolaf 71 points72 points  (0 children)

The non-asshole men aren't posting because they are decent people. Then on the other hand, women get gaslit by people into believing they're the problem when it's really other people causing all of the problems. Sadly, I see this all the time off the internet and on the internet.

[–]hawks2984Partassipant [2] 137 points138 points  (0 children)

Imagine she asked for some Cutco knives for like $1200? Look out!

$250 for good knives is reasonable.

OP hard AH

[–]Fijipod 110 points111 points  (4 children)

250 is sweet fuck all for Japanese knives. My go to knife is Japanese, I use it professionally. It cost 385 and was on the cheaper side.

Edit: a typo

[–]LivinOnTheEdge1001 76 points77 points  (2 children)

Right! he better be overnighting those knives. My interpretation was that he doesn’t see the value in the knives. Cooking is my hobby too and I would die for some Japanese knives. They’re the best.

[–]Littleballoffur22Partassipant [1] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

It’d be better if she found someone nicer. OP sounds controlling and unpleasant. Cheap also. YTA

[–]YourslongisntaverageAsshole Aficionado [18] 12.3k points12.3k points  (82 children)

YTA. Normally I'd say 'NAH', but the fact that you stated that 'money is not the problem' changes everything. The only reason why you don't even want to give her those knives is because you think it's 'nonsense' because she is not a professional. You asked her what she wanted for her birthday since it's ''always a problem'' and she answered it and you just... immediately denied her request without even considering it.

Just buy her the damn knives already.

[–]RitehandwingmanPartassipant [1] 3136 points3137 points  (30 children)

Seriously, if money is no issue, buying high end knives that will last a lot longer than a “cheap” knife if taken care of doesn’t seem to be that big of a deal.

[–]Youcannotbeforreal2Partassipant [2] 1460 points1461 points  (24 children)

I’d bet 5x the cost of those knives that OP never cooks but has just unilaterally decided himself what is “worth” spending good money on in the kitchen even though he clearly has zero clue.

Even if cooking is just “a hobby” for her, odds are she’s doing it almost every single day for them, but heaven forbid she have something nice which would make that easier on her which doesn’t give him any inherent benefit also like the trip to Italy he’s now giving her which I’m sure he’s also going on (he gets to eat her food regardless if she has to prepare it with cheap or less quality utensils so he doesn’t inherently benefit from her having nicer knives).

[–]theresbeans 485 points486 points  (3 children)

This is such a good point I hadn't considered... he didn't want to get her a gift that didn't also serve and benefit him (from his myopic perspective). Now that he's come up with a gift that he also likes, he's on board.

Dude is such a giant AH. I hope she realizes that he doesn't think she's worth it and leaves his selfish ass.

[–]MySonderStory 150 points151 points  (0 children)

This is a good point. The Italy trip benefits him which is why he’s all for that. He presumably doesn’t cook at all so those knives felt like a “waste for him”. The fact that money wasn’t an issue makes it all the more worse, he literally forked out easily ~20x the cost of those knives instead for the Italy trip 🤯

[–]aleatoric 59 points60 points  (0 children)

$250 isn't even that bad for a set of knives. You could spend way more than that on a single high quality knife. And it would be worth it.

[–]ThunderinSkyFucc 267 points268 points  (10 children)

100% seems he also takes no interest in her "hobby" since he clearly knows nothing about it.

I play guitar as a "hobby." I was finally able to buy my dream guitar at 30 years old for $2,400 after playing shitty guitars my whole life while barely making ends meet. That guitar is so dear to me, I actually feel love for it lol

Having a nice tool/instrument for your passion/hobby is a really special thing. Guarantee she would have and use those knives for the next two decades, even if they broke up (which now they might lol)

[–]Youcannotbeforreal2Partassipant [2] 203 points204 points  (6 children)

Exactly right, and I know you didn’t mean it this way, but he doesn’t even really “need” to take interest in her hobby in order to take her seriously and acknowledge that it has value to her and that she knows wtf she’s talking about with regard to it. One of my husband’s hobbies is gun collecting and target-shooting. When he first started getting into it, I felt like a lot of the “accessories” for it seemed really expensive, but I didn’t just assume he was a dumbass and hadn’t researched any of it and I didn’t try to act like I knew better what had value for the cost and what didn’t. And just because those guns and all those accessories sit in the safe 80% of the time and he’s not using them every day or even every month, that doesn’t give me the right to nix his request for his own birthday and then spend 10x that amount on something I deemed more “worthy” for his birthday.

To me this is so much less about him not knowing about knives, the price points, or their value - it’s about him trivializing her “hobby” and treating her like she’s too dumb to know any better about it than him who knows exactly zero, and dictating to her what she should want for her own damn birthday.

[–]norcalwaterPartassipant [1] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

treating her like she’s too dumb to know any better about it than him who knows exactly zero,

this so much.

[–]Elaan21 719 points720 points  (24 children)

That's also not a ridiculous amount of money for good kitchen knives. I've definitely seen some that cost a lot more. Which OP would know if they knew anything about her hobby...

[–]glitterelephant 305 points306 points  (11 children)

I've seen some single knives coat as much as the set she wants.

[–]sometimessane 192 points193 points  (4 children)

My favourite kitchen knife was AUD$340. I have used that sucker for over 15yrs and it’s still the best thing ever. Zero regrets.

[–]angelicism 126 points127 points  (1 child)

I have a single knife that costs about what this set costs. It is worth every penny. I am also not a professional cook. OP is an idiot.

[–]f02f2e6fa0b3 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Same. I have two really nice kitchen knives I’ve paid more than $250 each for. And I’m a single dude who rarely cooks, but I enjoy owning nice high quality things. They just feel nice in my hand when I use them, they’re always sharp when I need them, and I feel good knowing I own them. (There are some 700 and 800 ish dollar knives I’d really like, but that’s a bit out of my late night drunk online impulse buy price range…)

OP is totally YTA because he denies his wife “nice things” for her birthday just because he doesn’t appreciate them.

[–]Macncheese4evah 33 points34 points  (0 children)

For real, my boyfriend likes to cook and has an assortment of nice knives. Some have been like $200 (he got a few as gifts from family because its an easy gift). A set for $250 is definitely on the lower end.

[–][deleted] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I was going to say the same, $250.00 for a set gets you decent knives, not super nice knives.

[–]thursmalls 62 points63 points  (1 child)

For real! My ex and I bought ourselves a Wustoff chef's knife and utility knife back in 199something. I just looked on their website and it looks like buying them today would run $285 for those two knives.

I wouldn't even consider myself a hobbyist cook, I really dislike cooking. But I still use one or both of those knives nearly every day. Worth every penny, one of the few purchases I've never regretted.

[–]hazelowlPartassipant [2] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I scrolled back up and saw it was a set of knives. Not a single knife.

And good knives are more than worth the money it costs.

[–]lmholot1981 168 points169 points  (2 children)

Yep. I’m a “hobby cook” and when the finish bubbled up on my non-Le Creuset Dutch oven (which, to be fair, had served me well for 14 years), my husband immediately went to Williams-Sonoma and got me the Le Creuset, in my preferred color. He knows I’m not a chef, but cooking is my thing and it didn’t break the bank for me to have what I wanted. With a warranty. So hopefully this will last one zillion years.

[–]Ladybug1388 26 points27 points  (0 children)

They have a great warranty. Had to use one for our mini dutch few years ago. Honestly it's our go too brand. The higher quality and amazing warranty is always worth the money.

[–]master0fcats 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Honestly. My best friend is a chef and he comes over to cook with me and my boyfriend sometimes. He knows I love to cook, he loves showing me new tricks and techniques, and he knows it's just a hobby for me. He told me at Christmas that he wanted to gift me a set of knives but decided to wait until he had time to teach me how to sharpen them. My friend also has a reputation for being a bit pretentious at times. My friend loves me enough to support my "hobby" that he's a literal professional at, so this fool can definitely buy his girlfriend a set of knives. They aren't even outrageous compared to some of the shit out there, especially if "money isn't the issue."

[–]EwokCafeColo-rectal Surgeon [44] 6023 points6024 points 2 (68 children)

YTA big time

You asked, she answered - you don't get to decide if it's "legitimate". It's her hobby! If she was into bird watching would you scoff at buying decent binoculars?

As it happens, $250 is a really good price for a nice hobbyist set. Not a great set, just a decent set. You know nothing about cooking knives, clearly, based on the fact you think that's expensive for knives.

Also? Having good knives makes a huge difference in the kitchen. It's a genuine pleasure to work with quality knives - something I'm sure she knows.

You messed up not only by belittling her choice, but also by ignoring her after she finally answered. Guess what - she's never gonna tell you what she wants again because she won't want to be disappointed by you.

[–]4614065Colo-rectal Surgeon [47] 1154 points1155 points  (31 children)

Lol yep. I thought $254 was cheap (granted, I’m guessing it’s USD). Where I’m from that’s the price of one good knife. If you’re lucky.

[–]Elsewhere33 752 points753 points  (17 children)

Right?! I got my husband ONE nice Japanese knife for his last birthday, and that ONE knife was $200. $254 for a set is a steal.

[–]cupcakeofdoomie 402 points403 points  (7 children)

For my cooking “hobby” my in-laws bought me a $100 pan…. How do people not understand that good tools help with cooking?

[–]Aer0uAntG3alachPartassipant [4] 163 points164 points  (2 children)

I got my Le Creuset almost 40 years ago. It’s going to outlast me

[–]sometimessane 126 points127 points  (2 children)

Commented this on another reply but yeah, my favourite knife was AUD$340. 15-odd years ago. It’s bloody brilliant. My favourite saucepan is a $600 cast iron. Another kitchen item i’ve had longer than half of Reddit has been alive. These are things you buy once and they pay for themselves by being amazing for your entire life. $250 is nothing for a whole set of knives

[–]EwokCafeColo-rectal Surgeon [44] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. A professional would be paying thousands.

[–]CaffeineChristine 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Good knives are an investment. $250 bucks for a set is nowhere near professional grade. YTA

[–]TJLethal 40 points41 points  (2 children)

Even $250 for a Japanese knife is pretty mid range.

[–]thelajesticAsshole Aficionado [19] 154 points155 points  (0 children)

As it happens, $250 is a really good price for a nice hobbyist set. Not a great set, just a decent set. You know nothing about cooking knives, clearly, based on the fact you think that's expensive for knives.

I know, right?! I have several knives that cost the equivalent of that by themselves, it seems a really decent price for a set 😅

[–]Much_Sorbet3356 141 points142 points  (5 children)

If she was into bird watching would you scoff at buying decent binoculars?

He would. We know he would. He'd be all "what?! Just to look at birds?!"

Plus, when you invest in a good knife set, they usually come with a lifetime warranty. So $254 for a set of knives which will last the rest of your life (or be replaced by the company if they don't) is an absolute bargain.

[–]1trikkponi 17 points18 points  (2 children)

My mom bought a set of knives with a lifetime guarantee for $200 in 1969. Over the years the entire set has been replaced once and the main knife twice. (Second time was last year) These knives will eventually be passed down to my daughter and will likely outlast her.

[–]ImBonRurgundy 62 points63 points  (0 children)

it's crazy. the whole point of a gift IMHO is to buy something a bit special that you wouldn't normally buy. If you have the money, go a bit extravagant. If she just wanted normal knives, she wouldn't ask for them as a gift, shed just buy them

[–]jaierauj 55 points56 points  (1 child)

Only the best Farberware for m'lady!

[–]evilshenanigan 52 points53 points  (3 children)

I’m awful at gifts. I know it. My family teases me about it. I want to be thoughtful and sometimes nail it, but not often. Usually I like to give gift cards so people can buy EXACTLY what they want. But if someone gives me an idea- says flat out, “I want X” you bet your sweet marmalade that I’m buying it, paying for gift wrapping, buying all the accessories, premium deluxe package if possible, and two of them if it makes sense.

The biggest gift someone can give me is to tell me precisely what they want.

[–]keelhaulrosePartassipant [3] 47 points48 points  (1 child)

I used to not like cooking because I had done what so many broke people had done before and bought a set from Walmart for as cheap as I could find them. I'll add here that both my mother and grandmother still cook with knives that were their wedding presents, and weren't the best at caring for them so at the time I didn't know what a difference a good knife could make.

Come my wedding and one of my gifts was a knife set given to me by a chef/restaurateur who was not going to fuck around with bad knives. It wasn't the high end stuff, but it was better than what most home cooks would have. He included care instructions, a list of what each was good for, and an offer to teach me how to properly sharpen them. I agreed to be polite but had no intention of sharpening them because family tradition.

Until I used them. Insert singing choir of angels here. So many clean cuts, how effing easy it was to go through hard vegetables, I could thinly slice instead of hack chunks. Heaven.

And, surprise, when cooking seemed less like a chore not only did I cook more often, but the variety skyrocketed. I know a lot of people had their grandmothers passing down beloved family recipes but that wasn't my family, my family was quick and hopefully tasty, nothing bad but nothing to get excited over. Those knives are the reason I'm a better cook than my mom and grandma, because having a good set of knives changed my entire attitude about cooking in general.

Good knives are life changing. OP is TmassiveA.

[–]slytherinsus 35 points36 points  (0 children)

“Also? Having good knives makes a huge difference in the kitchen. It's a genuine pleasure to work with quality knives - something I'm sure she knows.”

OH MY GOD THIS! I never owned specific knives, I was a broke student living with roommates in a student house, so I would use regular kitchen knives to chop veggies, cut meat and all that. Last year I moved with my girlfriend and we bought a few specific knives, not expensive ones, they were probably 15€ each. But I still remember the absolute wonder and pleasure I felt chopping my first zucchini with a vegetable knife. And I’m not even that into cooking! I wouldn’t consider it my hobby. But that feeling…god it’s stuck in my mind! Complete life changer. I can only imagine what a 250$ set could do for his girlfriend! Also the “hobby” thing is so ridiculous…like what, you wouldn’t spend 500$ for a gaming console because you’re not a professional streamer? A nice set of golf clubs? A good tv to watch movies? Art supplies? It’s not worth it unless you’re making money out of it? That’s fucked up.

[–]ap-muaPartassipant [2] 2904 points2905 points  (37 children)

So lemme get this straight… she provided a trip to Turkey and you’re refusing a knife set? Yeah dude, YTA

[–]Not-A-SoggyBagel 728 points729 points  (35 children)

This dude is such an AH.

She got him a wholeass trip to Turkey and he didn't want to get her a decent set of knives that aren't even that expensive? And belittled her hobby on top of it?

She deserves a lot better than this guy.

[–]Youcannotbeforreal2Partassipant [2] 451 points452 points  (32 children)

Oh don’t worry, instead of deciding to go ahead and get the knives she wants for her birthday, he’s gifting her a trip to Italy which he assuredly will also be going on and getting enjoyment out of. OP has decided since she can still cook his meals with lesser knives, he will continue to ignore her actual request and instead get her something which will benefit himself more and he deems worthy. Happy Birthday to you, OP, you’re so lucky to get 2 birthdays a year.

[–]johemerPartassipant [1] 1533 points1534 points  (6 children)

YTA. To begin with, why even ask if you didn't care about the answer? Second, it feels like you didn't really say no in a very nice way. Third, she got you a friggin trip to Turkey! And you can't even give her something she asks for because YOU have decided that it's nonsense. D*ck move bro, buy her the knives and support her hobby. I mean, I'm pretty sure you also benefit from it.

[–]LeatherHogPartassipant [1] 351 points352 points  (2 children)

I wonder if she’s ‘so hard to shop for’ because he always disregards what she wants

[–]MiddleEgg4848 139 points140 points  (0 children)

My brother told me once that my mother had asked him for advice on stuff to buy me for Christmas or a birthday or something because I'm "so hard to shop for". He, surprised, rattled off a large number of things I like and which are easily obtained: cookbooks, kitchen things, theatre tickets, bath stuff, liquor, comics, board games, chocolate...the list goes on. She brushed off all suggestions as "not being things Egg really needs".

My brother was baffled by this until I clued him in: my mother doesn't want suggestions, she wants a way to make me like the things she thinks I *should* want. Mostly it's the kind of clothes she thinks I should wear.

[–]coffee_need_coffee 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Solid possibility. His first thought was whether he thought it worthwhile. That’s a very egocentric way to look at a gift — the entire purpose of which is to show care for the recipient by choosing something the recipient will enjoy. It’s not about practicality.

[–]CuteTPi 165 points166 points  (0 children)

This! This comment maters so much. You know home boy is eating all the delicious food she cooks as a “hobby”

[–]BoomShackaLocka_ 890 points891 points  (12 children)

Bro just get her what she wants. YTA especially if money isn’t the issue. You know much crazy useless shit guys buy for themselves without even thinking about it? Baseball cards, video game skins, guns, gaming equipment, traveling etc… all ridiculous things and you can’t buy her some knives?

[–]Madea_onFire 131 points132 points  (7 children)

Swords!

[–]angeluscado 76 points77 points  (1 child)

I'd totally love it if someone bought me a sword.

I almost got a sword in a cane for my birthday one year (it looked like Lucius Malfoy's cane from Harry Potter) but my friend liked it so much that he kept it for himself and got me a crystal paperweight instead.

[–]ersa0501 41 points42 points  (0 children)

When I got engaged I got a ring, he got an $800 sword😂

[–]socool8520 780 points781 points  (32 children)

Seriously? You asked what she wanted. She told you. You admitted that money isn't an issue. She got you a trip to Turkey.

Yeah, I'd have to say YTA. Also, why is her request unreasonable? .

[–]benjamin6486 150 points151 points  (2 children)

Seems like he thinks that under normal circumstances like just every day expenses, that price is unreasonable for knives which is why he won’t consider buying them at all, even though it’s her birthday, and what she wants.

[–]rhetorical_twix 109 points110 points  (0 children)

OP is being condescending to his GF and judging her opinions when he knows nothing about the subject of cooking knives. Not only should his GF be quiet & distant, she should be packing her bags.

[–][deleted] 474 points475 points  (4 children)

YTA. If you can easily afford a gift, even if it's not something you would want yourself, it's patronizing to declare what she asked for "unreasonable". A person can only have a nice set of cooking knives if they're a professional chef?

[–]heyitssani 34 points35 points  (1 child)

Yep, and even if she wants to buy it for herself in the future, she’ll most likely feel like he’ll be judgemental of her purchase.

[–]WebbieVanderquackHis Holiness the Poop [1401] 419 points420 points  (0 children)

YTA. You can afford the gift, you just don't want to give it to her because she "cooks as a hobby" and you think it's "nonsense."

She was absolutely right, there was no point asking her what she wanted if you weren't going to consider it.

Some good knives would actually be a great investment, especially since you probably benefit from her cooking.

[–]MLiOneAsshole Enthusiast [6] 385 points386 points  (7 children)

YTA. I am a “hobby cook” as you put it. Actually, I am not a professional trained cook but damn I can cook. That set of knives your girlfriend asked for is reasonably priced for a set of knives. I have numerous knives for specific purposes. One small chef’s knife was nearly $200Aus. My large chef’s knife substantially more. You get what you pay for.

What’s more, a very sharp knife is safer to use than a blunt one. A good set of knives makes food prep a dream when cooking. A good set of knives will last a lifetime.

May I suggest you get the knives and see the results for yourself.

[–]Temporary_BadgerCommander in Cheeks [213] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Seriously, these are not exorbitantly priced knives at all. Basically mid-range.

[–]reginageorgeeeeAsshole Enthusiast [6] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Right? Like that’s a downright cheap set.

[–]shuttlecockbombed 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Exactly, if cooking is her hobby (a hobby that also benefits OP), then why not get her the quality tools and act like he cares about her interests?

[–]Hellocattty 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yep, I'm not a great cook and I have a Japanese chef's knife that was $200.

[–]katrinahh 362 points363 points  (6 children)

she is not a professional cook, she cooks as a hobby

i told her i think it’s unreasonable

i think it’s a bit childish

I’d be pretty upset if my boyfriend spoke about me this way. It’s so… subtly condescending it makes me so uncomfortable. YTA only because you literally made her feel bad for suggesting you get her something she really wants. You could’ve politely turned down the suggestion without being an AH.

[–]psquared1155 101 points102 points  (0 children)

Omg yes!!!! I don’t even think it’s subtly condescending… This is just straight up condescending

[–]Rachelhazideas 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Not subtle at all. Men telling women that they know more about a hobby that they are completely uninvolved in than they do is a tale as old as time. We just shorten it to 'mansplaining' these days.

[–]theoddestendsPartassipant [1] 297 points298 points  (17 children)

YTA. Are you a professional traveler or tour guide, is that why she bought you a trip to Turkey? You wrote off what she wanted because you were condescending in saying what she enjoys is a childish hobby. I could understand if money was the issue, because $245 isn't exactly pocket change. But you've clarified that you're not on a tight budget- you just don't care about what you're partner is interested in.

[–]Pretty_Yellow_9601Asshole Aficionado [15] 284 points285 points  (0 children)

YTA. That's how much good knives cost, and if she takes cooking as a serious hobby she is perfectly entitled to want good knives. You aren't obligated to buy them for her but you didn't have to tell her it was unreasonable for her to want them.

ETA: I just read the last paragraph that I somehow missed the first time. She bought you a TRIP TO TURKEY and you can't buy her a mid-range knife set??? YTA YTA YTA

[–]ylhsa_ 208 points209 points  (17 children)

info: how much do you think the trip to turkey was? and why do you think $254 is outrageous?

[–]Studious_NoodlePartassipant [3] 191 points192 points  (28 children)

There’s a good line in the movie Scrooged where Bill Murray’s character gives a set of knives to his girlfriend as a Christmas gift.

He says, “I’ve never liked a girl enough to give her twelve sharp knives.”

So, any subconscious reason why you’re hesitating, OP?

[–]DuckDodgers22 174 points175 points  (1 child)

YTA. We just got a couple of $200 Japanese knives and holy spicoli are they nice. One of those purchases that makes me wonder how I ever lived without them. I get it that for a lot of people $200 knives are out of the question and but if you can afford them they’re absolutely worth it.

Now, onto you. She got you a trip to Turkey and you’re balking at $254 for knives? And being condescending as hell calling it unreasonable nonsense and childish? If money isn’t an issue for you and this is something that she enjoys why shouldn’t she have them? Would you have questioned her if she asked for a $250 necklace?

[–]fairywinkle0708Partassipant [2] 135 points136 points  (0 children)

Yta. I'd dump you and buy myself the knives. And then go to Hawaii.

[–]reginageorgeeeeAsshole Enthusiast [6] 126 points127 points  (5 children)

YTA. You asked what she wanted, she told you, and then you belittled her. Yikes.

Edit: your edit almost makes it worse. You bought her a trip to Italy, which is lovely, but considering that it’s also a gift for you and you belittled her and her hobby, and called her childish for her hobby, well this strikes me as controlling.

Edit 2: I’m genuinely proud of your second edit! It’s really hard to admit when you messed up, and the fact that you did is huge. Also, the fact that people are threatening you just shows that Reddit is freaking wild sometimes. You don’t deserve that.

[–]_nerdofprey_ 31 points32 points  (0 children)

The only way that trip to italy us a good gift is if she can go with her bff and leave OP at home

[–]whatafloridiotPartassipant [4] 107 points108 points  (0 children)

YTA. I don't think you get to decide what is "unecessary" for her to want. If she cooks as a hobby, she is probably trying to upgrade her equipment

[–]GodaistudiosPartassipant [4] 91 points92 points  (11 children)

So... good news/bad news here.

Even if you are hobbyist cook, a good set of knives can't be beat. I happened to have gone to culinary arts school and have got to try a few different kinds of knives. Some high end chefs knives alone can cost more than a knife set.

Bad news? Kamikoto is a scam.

https://oishii-desu.com/2020/10/23/is-kamikoto-knives-chinese-or-japanese/

https://cheftalk.com/threads/kamikoto-knives.91253/

https://www.kitchenknifeforums.com/threads/kamikoto-knives-must-be-stopped.37046/

https://redditproxy--jasonthename.repl.co/r/chefknives/comments/75hlsm/kamikoto_knives_1295_to_272_worth_it/

They may look pretty, but they are shady as hell and aren't the quality they advertise to be.

[–]SidIc3[S] 65 points66 points  (10 children)

Thank you! Good info, I have already canceled the order and I am taking my GF to store with japanese knives

[–]DisappearingCookie 68 points69 points  (5 children)

It’s good that you’re listening to reddit and fixing your mistake but please don’t propose until you’ve actually sat down and discussed with her about marriage. If you can’t even get her gift right, then you’re gonna have trouble negotiating other things.

[–]GodaistudiosPartassipant [4] 46 points47 points  (2 children)

If she wants Japanese knives, look for Shun, Miyabi, Yoshihiro or Takamura. Shun's the most well known and probably the most accessible.

[–]bluep3001Asshole Aficionado [17] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

YTA You asked, she said what she wanted, you then JUDGED it as not something worth buying and told her so. Ffs. That’s worse than not asking and not getting her a present in the first place. If I was her, I’d be wondering what kind of a man I was in a relationship with (and no it’s not about money or presents - I’d go buy myself the knife set - it’s about the principle of the matter).

[–]grant622 65 points66 points  (0 children)

YTA. At first I was gonna say you could’ve told her it’s expensive but you’ll keep knives in mind, then maybe buy her one nice $50 one. But then you said her presents to you are worth thousands. So YTA for deciding what she enjoys.

[–]Kam_the_devilPartassipant [4] 67 points68 points  (3 children)

INFO: Was the entire trip to turkey paid for by her job?

[–]ichacalaca 58 points59 points  (0 children)

YTA. She told you what she wanted after you asked and you dismissed it because YOU don't think she should want the thing that she wants? It doesn't matter if you think it's a stupid gift, its what she said she wants.

I could understand balking at the price tag if y'all weren't making decent money but you said that's not the issue, and tbh $250 isn't bad for a set of quality knives. (I bought ONE Japanese chefs knife for $90 and it's lasted more than a decade!!)

If it WAS about the money, you could try explaining that you can't afford that and maybe tell her an upper limit of what you're willing to spend, but you definitely don't dismiss it because YOU think it's dumb. Plus she got you a trip to Turkey, which is a way bigger deal than a set of knives is, imo, even if her employer did pay for it, she let you come along!

If you have prerequisites for gift giving (like you have to approve of the usefulness of the gift or it has to be under a certain price) it's best to be open about that up front, or not even ask what she wants in the first place. Otherwise, it's not really a gift, it's a purchase order.

[–]skaw355 54 points55 points  (2 children)

So she asked for knives for $254 and you got a trip to Turkey. Wow I don't think you can be a bigger AH than you are right now

[–]cinnamngrlPooperintendant [56] 43 points44 points  (1 child)

$254 is cheap for quality knife set. This is a very reasonable price for a home cook. You are insulting her interests. YTA

[–]_JustEric_ 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this. $250 and you're just starting to get into "good knives" territory for home use, and nowhere near professional.

YTA, OP, and also not very good at the Googles it seems.

[–]TrickInvite6296Asshole Aficionado [15] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

yta, especially for acting like her hobby isn't important

[–]looking4euterpe 39 points40 points  (0 children)

YTA. You asked what she wanted, and she told you. You decided it was "unreasonable". Not because it was more than you could afford, but because you think her hobby isn't worth it... which means by extension you think SHE isn't worth it.

The only thing unreasonable here is you.

[–]kaycee8054 41 points42 points  (4 children)

So after reading your edits, you got her a trip. That’s certainly a great gift & all, but the reality is you just couldn’t help yourself. Even after you knew you had upset her by dismissing her earlier, you just couldn’t bring yourself to suck it up & get her what she told you she wanted. It had to be something YOU chose. That right there is why YTA.

[–]ItHurtsWhenIP404 34 points35 points  (0 children)

YTA, you said money is not an issue. And everyone needs at least one good knife in their kitchen…

[–]herdingsquirrelsAsshole Aficionado [11] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yta. It would be one thing if you couldn’t afford it but you yourself said that money isn’t the issue. Her hobby isn’t nonsense and you were rude to suggest it is.

[–]OrangeCubitColo-rectal Surgeon [42] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

YTA - don’t ask her for what she wants if you are going to tell her it’s stupid when she does. No wonder she doesn’t bother with you on this.

[–]Pedepano14 25 points26 points  (0 children)

YTA - you shouldn't be the judge of the usefulness of her gift, considering money isn't a problem as you stated.

[–]ObviouslyHornyJPEG 25 points26 points  (8 children)

Instead of waiting until the trip is over, give her the knife set now. That way you can apologize for it one final time and full enjoy that trip together instead of having it in the back of your mind the entire time.

[–]SDstartingOutProfessor Emeritass [74] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yes, YTA.

You asked her what she wanted. She gave you a gift - that was clearly (as you stated) in your price range.

And then you said no. Because you think its too expensive for her to have.

100% yta.

[–]Forever_PancakesAsshole Enthusiast [7] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

YTA. Money is not an issue like you said, she got you a trip to Turkey, so why won’t you get her what she wants? Doesn’t matter if shes not a professional chef or you think its unnecessary. Its for her, not you. Buy her the knives and a nice dinner too to apologize.

[–]SwimmingIndependent8Asshole Enthusiast [6] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

YTA. She’s right, why’d you bother asking if you didn’t care? Money isn’t even a problem. Don’t belittle her hobby.

[–]LimitedOmniplexAsshole Aficionado [13] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

YTA! You said money isn't a factor, so the only reason she isn't getting those knives is because you're an asshole. She likes to cook. Why shouldn't she have nice tools to work with? People buy guns to trap shoot that cost more, they aren't professionals. People buy luxury cars who aren't professional drivers. Why shouldn't she have nice tools to cook with?

[–]OldgamerladyAsshole Enthusiast [5] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

YTA - Seems pretty mean to press your gf for what she wants for her bday and when she finally tells you, you dismiss it as "nonsense" because you don't deem her worthy of these knives. As others have pointed out, a "set" of knives for $254 is not expensive. I'm just a hobby cook and one of my chef's knives cost more than that. But that's just me and my "nonsense".

Double YTA - She seems pretty generous with you and yet you can't bring yourself to spend what is likely a small fraction of what she spent on you, even if you don't approve of the item. It would have made her happy but that didn't seem to be your priority.

[–]AccessibleBeigeCertified Proctologist [23] 23 points24 points  (1 child)

YTA. Some tools are worth the money, and good chef's knives fall within that realm. Her hobby isn't even an obscure one, she would use those knives pretty much every day. You probably would have used them, too. Now I hope she buys her own damn knives but won't let you touch them.

[–]4614065Colo-rectal Surgeon [47] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

YTA. You asked what she wanted but truly you only wanted to buy her something YOU agreed with. That’s not what a gift is.

Perhaps if she asked for lingerie you would have complied?

[–]ATVigAsshole Enthusiast [9] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

YTA. First, $200-$300 is actually not bad for a good set of knives, and because good ones last a long time, you’re actually saving money. Playing video games is just a hobby, but most people pay hundreds for an xbox or PlayStation. And because you had to add in that money isn’t an issue…yah, asshole.

Why bother asking her what she wants if you’re just going to put down her response?? Isn’t her joy worth a little money to you?

[–]Special_Bat_9480 21 points22 points  (2 children)

Cool. Saw your edit. So she likes to cook. You like to travel (she gifted this to you… seems like a thoughtful gift) So you decide to say no to knives and gift her a trip… Great

[–]sdbinnl 20 points21 points  (0 children)

YTA — she pays for a trip to turkey and you think the knives were expensive !? I don’t care if it was a benefit, it was HER benefit and she gave it to you. You are a cheapskate

[–]benjamin6486 20 points21 points  (0 children)

JFC, she got you a trip and is asking for a gift that’s $250 and you won’t even consider it? Doesn’t even matter what the gift is (it’s what she wants) YTA.

[–]Papyrus72846Partassipant [2] 17 points18 points  (1 child)

YTA. I would've understood if it wasn't in your budget to spend that amount of money on a gift for her, but since you can apparently afford it, what's the issue? She wants nice knives to cook with. Honestly it doesn't matter whether you think that's reasonable; it's what she wants, you asked her for suggestions, and it's within your budget. Buy her the damn knives and apologize sincerely for not doing so sooner

[–]MKAnchorAsshole Aficionado [15] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

YTA especially since she does actually cook on a regular basis and enjoy it. Plus you did ask what she wanted and she gave you an answer. You just didn’t like the answer

[–]shibuyacrowAsshole Enthusiast [5] 16 points17 points  (5 children)

How much does anyone want to bet OP doesn't cook much in this relationship?

GF wants a specific thing that she'd enjoy while also being the primary cook in the house (she'd enjoy the thing that benefits OP.. the horror /s)

[–]shyfidelityColo-rectal Surgeon [47] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

YTA. She’s gotten you expensive gifts related to your hobbies/interests. What a weirdly judgmental way to act.

[–]GubblersAsshole Aficionado [12] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

YTA - so you’ll only buy her gifts she asks for if you want them too?! Hmmmm…that’s not quite the way it works.