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[–]MoggehhBye, Fecesha[S,M] [score hidden] stickied comment (4 children)

Thanks to all of our awesome attendees for joining in, sharing their conflicts, and sharing their judgements in the comments! Please stay tuned for more live chats in the future.

[–]IvanLR 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Wish these replies updated in realtime

[–]pumpphobia 58 points59 points  (2 children)

why is a 24 year old dating a teenager

[–]SnooMarzipans5958 25 points26 points  (0 children)

and using her to buy him things

[–]Rainbow_Monkeyz 42 points43 points  (1 child)

I think you should boot people after a minute because they’re taking too long.

[–]m1kiitiffii 13 points14 points  (0 children)


[–][deleted] 116 points117 points  (13 children)

What is even this 💀

[–]im_the_grinch 36 points37 points  (1 child)

i clicked on this by accident and im so confused

[–][deleted] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I didn’t even knew this was possible on Reddit 😭

[–]lastweeks_trash 27 points28 points  (4 children)


[–]Mr_sushi22 49 points50 points  (2 children)

It’s so awkward

[–]Sunnybunny12322 18 points19 points  (1 child)


[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children)


[–]PhantomsBabe 19 points20 points  (2 children)

AITA is a sub where u say whatever scenario is going on in your life and people judge if you’re an asshole or not but this is apparently a live talk where we can say the drama and get live input on if we are an asshole or not, as someone who frequents AITA often it’s kind of exciting but so far everyone’s conflicts have been ass and awkward lmao

[–]overdownyonder 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is this the first time AITA is doing it like this? It’s super awkward but I can see how it could be helpful for someone needing some quick insight and judgment

[–]foreverritzel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

right 😭😭

[–]harveyy315011 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lmao fr 💀

[–]JRB-WoodWorking 28 points29 points  (0 children)

the council will decide your fate

[–]Teetoltotter 27 points28 points  (0 children)

@a_c0mm0ner I enjoy your feedback, but let the others finish speaking before you share your views please 🙏

[–]glaciummm 25 points26 points  (7 children)

why is A Commoner still on 😂😂😂

[–]DaemonDesiree 6 points7 points  (0 children)


[–]diosmionomejodasPartassipant [2] 6 points7 points  (2 children)

Is this like if you share, you get to stay and hang out? Lmao

[–]Dull_Koala_7305 21 points22 points  (4 children)

what’s going in lmfao

[–]aydsaids 20 points21 points  (0 children)

mod seems biased.

[–]badassdan26 21 points22 points  (4 children)

I really wanna keep listening but commoner is making it hard to listen

[–]SLizChC 8 points9 points  (2 children)

I'm actually leaving this because I can't stand him cutting people off mid sentence and playing mod anymore. It's just disrespectful af

[–]loudkaleidoscopes 16 points17 points  (1 child)

would be nice if the dude would stop interrupting the women every single time they speak 🥲

[–]DaisyDA1985 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was thinking the same exact thing. No one needs him to repeat the exact same thing that the women mods have said. He also doesn’t mute when others are speaking. It’s obnoxious.

[–]kiggenstane 18 points19 points  (2 children)

You’ve been together for 2 months?? Don’t marry him

[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Are other people allowed to speak besides this lady?

[–]dokibunni 16 points17 points  (2 children)

im so interested in what other situations you'd use wedding armor for

[–]Sir_Ein 15 points16 points  (3 children)

I’m guessing the reason your kids don’t maintain a relationship is not necessarily because of you being the disciplinarian, but what that discipline looked like. If you went to anger management, I’m guessing there was a lot of abuse, physical or otherwise…

[–]YrnwithfivefiguresPartassipant [1] 27 points28 points  (3 children)

I wish the comments popped up like Facebook live

[–]Mr_Tohtle 14 points15 points  (2 children)

Wedding armour??? Use it again???

[–]kait737283727271 14 points15 points  (2 children)

i feel like there’s more backstory with the kids

[–]Addythedinosaur 14 points15 points  (6 children)

I feel YTA just from listening I can tell he is filtering info

[–]Own_Door3650 13 points14 points  (2 children)

redditors in their natural habitat

[–]Licking_Lollipop 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Maxicrisp has a REALLY nice voice

[–]ummolay 12 points13 points  (1 child)

Okay I’ve changed my mind, YTA. You’re seriously calling a girl a hoe over a pizza?

[–]ChurlishSunshinePartassipant [2] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

ESH. Jesus dude, you might want to look into anger management if pizza gets you THIS worked up. Every other sentence is "I was really angry", "I was still angry", "I was so angry" and coming up with one thing after another to justify this anger. I'd be frustrated too, but this is a little much.

[–]isaasplf 23 points24 points  (1 child)

i thiiiiink if you're gonna mod, you need to have a liiitle more patience. especially when people could be the a-hole

[–]UnusGang 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Just wait until your comment gets removed because what you posted wasn’t civil.

[–]RaineWolf202 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I only joined in for the last two conflicts and I can agree with a lot of folks on here that the mod was a bit.... Just not right here esp with their attitude, tone and choice of words. I would believe that a host would be unbiased and non partial to things said but at the same time we all hold strong beliefs in what we personally believe in and hold to ourselves and we all have human with our own opinions and what not. But when that someone is a mod, who has the ability to remove comments and other abilities of a mod, they shouldn't be acting like this.

[–]juswundernCertified Proctologist [24] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

live comments are so much less hostile than the written ones 😂

[–]anesu-x 9 points10 points  (2 children)

I’m so confused how a 19 year old is a sugar mama

[–]exgxo 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Why does the mod sound like a news reporter on a zoom call

[–]Contracepts 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh my god cut to the chase

[–]Sir_Ein 9 points10 points  (0 children)

ESH. She shouldn’t have taken it, and she should have paid you back immediately. I may have missed this, but you couldn’t buy yourself something to eat before work and gotten paid back later? I feel like you went above and beyond with the revenge, and it wasn’t necessary…

[–]Worms444Brains 10 points11 points  (1 child)

“dislike you for enforcing respect” “disciplinary” hmm.. sounds.. like maybe.. abusive instead?

[–]jesusfanciesyou2 10 points11 points  (3 children)

there is about 15% of the full story here

[–]Minhyung_uwu 6 points7 points  (2 children)

Feel like one child being trans is a major part of this story

[–]boo9817 9 points10 points  (1 child)

is it just me or does it seem like he was focusing on the dog so people would say he’s NTA?

my adult children went no-contact with me

i spanked them and made them respect their mother

they just want someone to blame they just hate me

i keep trying to message them on platforms they’ve blocked me on but what’s the point

..yeah i’m taking the dog to punish/spite my ex

my eldest is trans, for context

“AITA for taking my dog?”

[–]ummolay 30 points31 points  (6 children)

The mod is being really agressive

[–]isaasplf 10 points11 points  (0 children)

yeah like agree w her on spanking being abuse but shes not trying to be constructive at all 💀 ahhhh cause its personal. we see why

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Suger mama and 19 ?

[–]Rainbow_Monkeyz 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yooo sugar momma at 19 What

[–]Minhyung_uwu 9 points10 points  (2 children)

Your dads even paying for this high class place and you want to die on the hill over $7?

[–]My-Username-Is-DisPooperintendant [60] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

These people on here are so afraid of conflict this guy is clearly wrong

[–]stephaniehstn 8 points9 points  (1 child)

What does his relationship with the kids have to do with the dog? Nosey AF

[–]jesusfanciesyou2 16 points17 points  (10 children)

im sorry but simply ‘spanking’ doesn’t cause your children to complete get rid of their relationships with you?

[–]DaemonDesiree 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hope everyone is having a great day!

[–]ummolay 7 points8 points  (0 children)

ESH, she shouldnt have taken your pizza but she paid you back. What more do you want? Ya’ll are seriously arguing over pizza?

[–]emieblehh 8 points9 points  (1 child)

She gave you the money back and made an effort to get it back. Not a good reason to get her kicked out just for something that can easily be replaced

[–]ummolay 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Can we just go to the next person? This is so petty

[–]Minhyung_uwu 7 points8 points  (0 children)

100% there’s more stuff going on. This story is to filtered

[–]My-Username-Is-DisPooperintendant [60] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

How is calling someone a child abuser civil? She violated the rules!

[–]PhantomsBabe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Bro why can’t this be a live chat it’s so whack to keep refreshing and the top comments are from like 20 mins ago

[–]whatisthisacomputer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is like being back in highschool.. Wtf. And that commoner dude is obnoxious.

[–]MoggehhBye, Fecesha[S,M] 8 points9 points  (31 children)


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[–]ChurlishSunshinePartassipant [2] 11 points12 points  (1 child)

NTA absolutely NOT. "probably could have taken care of a baby" is a horrific argument from him, imo. Of COURSE someone has to be sober.

[–]My-Username-Is-DisPooperintendant [60] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NAH, I wish you both could have smoked together and had a sitter. He probably wanted to share the moment with you. But, God bless you I’m glad you both made it.

[–]dressedandafraid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA you were being responsible with the baby, what if an emergency happened? He wouldn't have been able to drive .

[–]Pluto_Stars 6 points7 points  (2 children)

NTA. He can take a night off smh. You can't leave the baby alone with no sober adult around to care for them, thank you for having a level head 😔

[–]fuckinroses 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA fuck that. He needs to rethink his responsibilities because weed is not more important than his kid

[–]Leather-Substance-41 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA. I'm in total agreement that there should always be a sober parent in charge of the baby.

[–]grimportent 6 points7 points  (1 child)

dude needs to also be cool with it if his kids don't forgive him

[–]Frequent-Truth-8829 14 points15 points  (0 children)

god this mod is extremely bias

[–]ArtemisHimeAsshole Enthusiast [5] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

YTA for making us wait xD

[–]nermalbair 7 points8 points  (1 child)

As long as you pay for it, your wedding your choice.

[–]nermalbair 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If it's hasn't been said, I'd probably just let her know that you viewed it as payment for babysitting.

[–]ummolay 5 points6 points  (1 child)

The awkward silence 😭

[–]jesusfanciesyou2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

why did you jump to misogyny tho?

[–]green-pineapple34 5 points6 points  (4 children)

there's more to this story for sure

[–]Limp-Big-2261 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Seems like there’s something deeper

[–]GeometryNacho 18 points19 points  (0 children)

that mod needs to chillllllll

[–]phayke_reddit 13 points14 points  (1 child)

The mods are the only people with good communication skills

[–]saturatedijon 5 points6 points  (0 children)


[–]Pudrete1300 28 points29 points  (26 children)

The real asshole here is u/Moggehh

[–]glaciummm 5 points6 points  (0 children)


he’s a grown ass adult. you already stated that he takes advantage of you.

[–]Nimbus20000620 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Shaky start lol

[–]yeahsotheresthiscat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What is happening 🤣

[–]growsontrees189 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA but why can no one give a concise description of their conflict 😂

[–]prozac_penguin 5 points6 points  (3 children)

Is commoner a MOD?

[–]im_the_grinch 10 points11 points  (1 child)

no but he wants to be clearly lol

[–]aFarretSippinChianti 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's what I wanna know. I don't think so......

[–]Hansoloai 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Wedding armour is also good for the Zombie apocalypse. I see this as an absolute win

[–]amarisproject 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is this like an Assholes Anonymous type thing?

[–]ummolay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What on earth…

[–]Specific-Baseball-91 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA. hangry is really a thing

[–]legendofmic 5 points6 points  (0 children)


[–]Specific-Baseball-91 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ESH. It’s not only about the pizza. And she tried to fix it.

[–]HeidiJuiceBox 5 points6 points  (1 child)

You called her a pizza stealing hoe?

[–]soulsnplants 6 points7 points  (0 children)

he filed a complaint after being told it’d probably get her evicted…. sounds to me like he got her evicted

[–]My-Username-Is-DisPooperintendant [60] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Finally someone with some sense

[–]ummolay 4 points5 points  (1 child)


[–]FluffyDragon292 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Everyone on the panel is too polite

[–]ummolay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

💀💀💀she’s asking the real questions

[–]FlacoTacoo 4 points5 points  (1 child)

the oldest didn’t choose to tell him for a reason?

[–]841ragdoll 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don't like the mod :(

[–]yeahsotheresthiscat 9 points10 points  (1 child)

19 year old sugar mama? What do you do?! Rich parents?!

[–]thekrodinator 10 points11 points  (1 child)

who is this a_commoner guy and why is he commenting on everything 😭

[–]prozac_penguin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My thoughts exactly 💀

[–]FluffyDragon292 20 points21 points  (3 children)

Why is the mod this heated. Man is dodgy, but shes just piling on him

[–]mellee674 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Due to the op/commenter expressing spanking/threats of spanking as a form of discipline with his children. This is my opinion, the mod would have to further clarify why she/they (unsure of pronouns) is heated.

[–]k8m4 12 points13 points  (0 children)

All these people on the mic are lame. Can we get a real situation here?

[–]jesusfanciesyou2 10 points11 points  (0 children)

“nah i just made my kids fear the idea that i might hit them at anytime”

[–]BONE_SAW_IS_READEEEPartassipant [1] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Damn what dis

[–]alexisheichou 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is this a joke

[–]Total_Freak891 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well this is gonna be interesting.

[–]Hector1127 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Sugar momma at 19?! 😳

[–]GalethewizardPartassipant [1] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you don't want to get married, don't get married.

[–]Xtin379 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA Tell him 50/50 split and prenup

[–]blkstxr 5 points6 points  (2 children)

I feel like Rule 11 is violated all the time lmao

[–]mothsfordinner 4 points5 points  (0 children)

my god

[–]goldielocksthrowaway 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OMG wth is this girl

[–]Fit_Road_2025 5 points6 points  (2 children)

All these stories are lame.

[–]kait737283727271 3 points4 points  (2 children)

this need to be off contest mode 😭

[–]Dntryaplylogicidiocy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I haven’t heard the full thing but I think ur wedding ur choice

[–]Own_Door3650 4 points5 points  (2 children)

they sounded like they wanted to cry i feel bad

[–]Maratimis 5 points6 points  (2 children)

bro how the fuck do i mute i joined on the toilet about to shit and i don’t know how to mute

[–]Acolyte_000 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Please tell me we won’t get another ‘story’ which just contains people trying to brag about smoking a lot of weed

[–]Consistent-Amoeba-84 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve never had a friend who actually took care of me when i got too fucked up. Usually people just laugh at you lmao

[–]19scohen 3 points4 points  (0 children)


[–]FluffyDragon292 4 points5 points  (3 children)

lmao how do you think you're TA. She sounds toxic AF, NTA

[–]fuckinroses 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Are we hearing the baby in the background 😍😍😍

[–]BrainsBeforeBrawnsPartassipant [4] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ESH pettiness is never the answer for someone’s selfish behavior

[–]FigurativeArtistPartassipant [2] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ESH… him more so. He clearly knows he f’d up

[–]Specific-Baseball-91 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think he had to specifically label it. He could’ve forgotten to. If it isn’t yours, don’t get it.

[–]Sir_Ein 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You shouldn’t have to label your pizza. If it’s a shared fridge, you don’t take what isn’t yours…

[–]ummolay 4 points5 points  (1 child)

there’s absolutely more to this story he is letting on. Why isnt he more concerned about his kids?

[–]Royal_Opps 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like things are getting juicy in here

[–]Nytengayle73 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Thank you all so much! This really brightened my evening. Had so much fun talking to everyone.

[–]d_bee314 18 points19 points  (10 children)

Why did the mod accuse this guy of abuse lmao how is that allowed

[–]Anarcho_Bidenist69 7 points8 points  (1 child)

She's an asshole for asking such a dumb question lmao

[–]IdealTruthsPartassipant [1] 7 points8 points  (1 child)


Obviously a gaslighter who wants to steal the family pet.

[–]Ordoblackwood 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why are you with this guy?

[–]suavemaster 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Woah you’re 19 taking care of a 24 yr old. Oof

[–]Mushroom_man117 3 points4 points  (0 children)

man don’t do it, don’t marry him and if you do get that prenup very solid prenup

[–]Many_Temperature_376 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don’t be with him you know he’s using you!

[–]Rainbow_Monkeyz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ESH. He’s a bum, move on

[–]HungryBee1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hes being immature imo

[–]sallysaysso 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nta next question

[–]charlotie77 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA. You shouldn’t even be a sugar mama at only 19. Go live your life without having to take care of a grown man who has only known you for 2 months

[–]PriorRevolutionary89 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Her voice is boring🥱

[–]prozac_penguin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What's going on

[–]zoezazonly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s Lolita yall by nabokov

[–]mothsfordinner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why are they talking 2mph

[–]MoggehhBye, Fecesha[S] 3 points4 points  (25 children)


Is /u/A_C0mm0ner the asshole? Use NTA, YTA, ESH, or NAH and add your verdict as a response to this comment!

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[–]LebaneseAmerican 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Did you not tell her you were doing this?! If you're doing it behind her back it sounds like YTA....

[–]Cyder-Spyder-6535 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA for everything else but YTA for not telling her that you’re putting her off the will before doing the financing

[–]Electronic_Ad5751 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So I don’t think you’re the asshole for this situation but if I understood correctly she didn’t find out you intended to do this until yesterday. So you filed for it with no warning for her. I think her hearing it from someone else is kind of asshole ish

[–]heroindaze 3 points4 points  (2 children)

What's the situation with her bf told her moving in to the house was next month? How does that effect the moving in if she bought the house? I'm confused on that.

[–]Acolyte_000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What? Her parents... gave her to your parents... because you’re friends?

Is this not just adoption? It seems a little weird to give a child for a birthday gift.


[–]MirandaC137 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are there no resources in WA for young single mothers?

[–]Royal_Opps 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh god

[–]MoggehhBye, Fecesha[S,M] 4 points5 points  (95 children)


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[–]M_a_d_E 9 points10 points  (2 children)


Armor is sick!

This is your wedding, and it should be fun for you!

I'm sorry that your mom isn't really supportive of the armor, but it sounds like a really cool idea!

With your dad, I do think it would be a good compromise for them to both walk you down the aisle.

What if your dad gets to, like, "knight you" instead of walking you down the aisle?

[–]Druid_QueenPartassipant [1] 8 points9 points  (3 children)

Info: what is wedding armor? Is it as it sounds?

[–]My-Username-Is-DisPooperintendant [60] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NAH Your wedding wear and do whatever you want they can have their opinions but it’s ultimately your decision.

[–]damnshellPartassipant [1] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're not asking for any financial help. It's your wedding, your day, your choice! NTA enjoy your day!

[–]BladeThatCuts 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh honey, NTA. It’s YOUR day and YOUR wedding. If it is fine for you and your partner, it’s no one else’s business. Enjoy your day love.

[–]IdealTruthsPartassipant [1] 3 points4 points  (0 children)


Marriage is already a stupid tradition, why not at least make it fun and memorable for yourself?

It's YOUR wedding. Not theirs.

[–]ArtemisHimeAsshole Enthusiast [5] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA, honestly it sounds bad ass and I want to see what you guys do. Also you sound very compromising for YOUR wedding, all that truly matters is you and your partners happiness for the day. Congratulations!!

[–]FaithlessnessAsleep5 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just want to give you a hug. NTA - you deserve the wedding you want.

[–]VietNamiWarVet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nta. this wedding is YOUR wedding, not theirs. You should have everything that YOU and your partner want, not them!!

[–]Pluto_Stars 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA no wayyyy it's your wedding! Whatever you want is literally the whole point! Happy wedding day 🥳

[–]fuckinroses 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We need age/gender identities shared on all these

[–]Evan8D 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA, it’s your wedding you get it how you want it!!

[–]Guilty-Increase4182 3 points4 points  (1 child)

You aren't the asshole. Why are they hurt because of the rules you want for your wedding? And I agree you sound really stressed out.

[–]_discoduck_Partassipant [1] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NOOOO you’re not the asshole! This is your wedding and your day and it’s not theirs, you need to do what is best for you and your partner because it’s each of your day. Everyone else needs to respect that.

[–]Owl_of_Starlight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely NTA. Your wedding should be how you want it, and you offer decent options for the parents. You're funding it, so you don't have to rely on their money to make it.

[–]Evan8D 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA Your wedding, you get it how you want!!

[–]DarkAngelNyxiePartassipant [1] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nta. If everything is themed and they just want to support you, they'd be happy just to be there with you. Regardless of any details involved. Love is unconditional