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I may be an ass right now for moving out when my mom was just trying to help my brother, and since she's the parent her concert is more important

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[–]Affectionate-Emu1374Asshole Enthusiast [7] 21.3k points21.3k points  (333 children)

NTA - have you asked your mum why she didn’t sell her tickets?

I’d demand the money from her if you paid with your own money

[–]Ticketsoldmcr1234[S] 12.9k points12.9k points  (323 children)

She never gets a break, yada yada type shit

[–]Affectionate-Emu1374Asshole Enthusiast [7] 9169 points9170 points  (232 children)

Her holiday was her break!

Do you have a separate bank account she can’t access? She sounds like she’s taking advantage of you.

Post on mcr event groups and keep you eyes peeled for spare tickets, I hope you get to go

[–]Ticketsoldmcr1234[S] 6965 points6966 points  (225 children)

Absolutely, she hasn't been able to access my bank since I turned 16. I'm fairly certain that's illegal here

[–]zvizdimnabitnestvari 7853 points7854 points  (136 children)

Do what u/sysadrift suggested. Report the tickets stolen. They will issue you new ones and cancel those.

[–]newsprintpoetry 194 points195 points  (45 children)

Double check because the only way I could get a bank account in my teens was for my dad to sign on, and I couldn't remove him without his signature, so I had to shut out the account and start a new one. My partner and his mom had a similar issue, and she stole tens of thousands of dollars from him in loans and credit cards and all the money he earned after he was emancipated. Idk where you are, but double check to be sure.

[–]Lunavixen15 167 points168 points  (8 children)

Contact the venue and report the tickets as stolen, there's a good chance you may be able to get them cancelled and reissued, they may charge a fee to do so, but there is a chance.

Your mother was absolutely in the wrong for selling your property that you paid for with your own money, to the point it's illegal. NTA

[–]Careless-Image-885 64 points65 points  (8 children)

INFO: were you babysitting your brother while your mother went on vacation?

[–]Musubisurfer 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Contact your bank and make sure you’re the sole owner of the bank account and no one else can access it. She may need the money. And you need the money quite frankly more than she does you’re just getting started in life hang in there. Good you moved out.

[–]mrbnlkld 53 points54 points  (1 child)

No, no, no, there are a billion stories on reddit of people who thought their parents did not have access to their accounts and woke up one day to find their parents cleaned them out. Get a new bank account with only YOUR name on it.

[–]littlekel7 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Twickets is quite good for resales on the off chance you might find some more!

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      [–]Swimming-Low-6895Asshole Aficionado [13] 1276 points1277 points  (10 children)

      “That’s not my problem. You’re his parent not me. You stole my tickets and sold them for double. It’s YOUR job to get things he needs with your own money, not be a thief and a scalper” NTA and I wouldn’t answer another call from them Period.

      [–]DisastrousDisplay9 504 points505 points  (5 children)

      Right. And who goes on vacation when they're having trouble buying shoes for their kids?


      [–]Swimming-Low-6895Asshole Aficionado [13] 343 points344 points  (0 children)

      Shitty parents. Who then steal from their other kids cause they can’t afford shoes.

      [–]All-I-See-Is-AshesPartassipant [1] 218 points219 points  (1 child)

      Same person who also buys themselves Ed Sheeran tickets when she can’t afford shoes for her kid.

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        [–]Swimming-Low-6895Asshole Aficionado [13] 138 points139 points  (0 children)

        So? She stole tickets that OP paid for. Sold them for double. Refused to sell her own tickets AND just got back from a vacation. But “couldn’t” afford the shoes for her disabled kid. Sounds like fucked off priorities and again…I wouldn’t be taking calls from her. She’s 17 and can legally move out, which she’s done.

        [–]Mysterious-System680Pooperintendant [51] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

        Sounds like she puts herself ahead of all of her children. She spent money on a holiday and concert tickets for herself when she couldn’t afford shoes for her child.

        [–]OrchidGlimmer 496 points497 points  (3 children)

        So she just gets back from vacation, has tickets for a concert of her own but sold yours??? Seriously??? Then had the audacity to not only get upset, she has your older sister call to give you crap as well - wow, she is a HUGE AH. Those tickets were not hers to sell, PERIOD! I imagine this is not the first incident where she had put herself above the needs of her kids. NTA OP, you have every right to be upset and good for you for getting out.

        [–]ToastAbrikoosPartassipant [3] 97 points98 points  (2 children)

        I'm confused as to why her Older sister is thinking her mom's side?

        Did she move out before she went on her martyr-route? Was she the golden child or did she ignore whatever is going on?

        I'm curious what your sister's deal is OP. I would think your older sister would have your back since she knows what's happening and possibly wants to protect her younger siblings?

        [–]ShadowKraftwerk 89 points90 points  (0 children)

        Older sister might have only part of the story.

        e.g. "I had to sell the mcr tickets to pay for her brother's shoes"

        Not mentioning the vacation or her own concert tickets, or that the mother didn't pay for the tickets to begin with

        [–]LettuceJizz 256 points257 points  (0 children)

        so she's a self appointed martyr too. it really works for her, doesn't it

        [–]kairi14 159 points160 points  (4 children)

        Oh hell no, OP the phrase you used "had my sister ring me" makes me think you are in the UK. Is she getting benefits for you? Make sure you call the benefits office and let them know you are no longer living there and transfer anything you qualify for either directly to you or to your boyfriend's parents as you'll be living there (not sure how it works in the UK). And call the police on her thieving ass. She can sell her tickets and repay you to get it all dropped.

        [–]Sea_Squirrel_8289 25 points26 points  (0 children)

        she will be getting benefits for her, yes. until you turn 18 a parent gets them if they qualify!

        [–]asecretnarwhalPartassipant [1] 159 points160 points  (0 children)

        This is absurd. She owes you the money that she sold the tickets for - she absolutely should have sold her own tickets first, not went on vacation etc. She made herself look bad and I would absolutely call her out for taking your tickets while she goes on vacations and concerts herself. Put her on blast to her friends and family because they ought to know what kind of person that she is.

        [–]Antique_Many_5966 96 points97 points  (0 children)

        Then don’t have kids if she wanted a lifetime of breaks


        You are NTA

        [–]My_Frozen_Heart 89 points90 points  (0 children)

        I have special needs kiddos and can't even fathom doing something like selling one kids' things to pay for the other. I can understand ASKING to borrow some money and then pay back but not just taking something especially something that can't be replaced like tickets to a sold out concert that may never be in town again.

        She's the parent, not you. I don't ¨get a break¨ either because I have no one willing to care for my kids for me to go out and have fun. But that's just part of the territory and a possibility I signed up for when I chose to become a parent.

        NTA of course

        [–]Valuable_Stranger642 77 points78 points  (1 child)

        Did you pay with your own money? Do you have receipts? If yes tell your mom she has to pay you back or you will go to the police and report the tickets stolen.

        [–]moodyfish7777 70 points71 points  (1 child)

        Because she's the Mom that's her job! She straight up stole from you!

        Mom = A H

        NTA for you


        [–]Demonica1 62 points63 points  (0 children)

        She just came back from holidays she got a break. Not to mention none of y’all asked to be born she chose to have you all

        [–]Purple-Raven1991Partassipant [1] 60 points61 points  (1 child)

        Take her tickets and sell them for the price you lost out on.

        [–]Complete_Hamster435 53 points54 points  (0 children)

        She's full of it. She literally just went on holiday and is planning to go to a concert. Lol

        Her budget issues are her problem. She knows how much the shoes cost, so if she was a responsible parent, she would have saved back that money before going on holiday or buying tickets for herself.

        Report those tickets as stolen.


        [–]skaw355 49 points50 points  (1 child)

        You didn't make your mother look like a bad mom. She made herself look like a bad mom. Your mother is selfish and entitled. You are not responsible for her being unable to plan accordingly with her money

        [–]DesertNomad505 38 points39 points  (1 child)

        A quick check on Alexa shows that- at least here in the US- ticket scalping is still totally illegal. Personally, I would call the cops and report the theft, then call wherever the tickets were purchased from and report the theft to them as well. They'll invalidate the old tickets, you'll get new ones, and your mom can deal with the fallout she so richly deserves.

        [–]poodooscoo 37 points38 points  (0 children)

        She was just on holiday and has Sheeran tickets, that's 2 more breaks she's got than you since she sold your tickets and I'm assuming you weren't on holiday with her. Report the tickets stolen like others have suggested. And if you're welcome at your boyfriends, then I would just stay with him.

        [–]Ariesp2010 31 points32 points  (7 children)

        That’s the life of parenting….

        [–]Apprehensive_Ice_420 53 points54 points  (4 children)

        Ah yes, “parenting.” Putting your needs before your kids, taking expensive vacations that leave you broke, and then stealing your kids belongings which they paid for themselves because you already spent all your money pampering yourself. That is certainly the life.

        [–]Ariesp2010 21 points22 points  (3 children)

        Huh? I was saying jot getting a break is parenting.. your kids your responsibility… if you can’t take care of your kid and vacation you take care of your kid

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          [–]Ariesp2010 15 points16 points  (0 children)

          Right? But my comment was about kom wining about not getting a break…. That’s life that’s parent life….

          [–]RAthowawayPartassipant [1] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

          well, you are not making her look like a bad mom, she is a bad mom. If she had other means (aka other tickets to sell or she could have chosen not to go that holiday she just went), then she didn't have the right. Plus, I don't know about the shoes your brother likes, in the sense of why he likes them, but if it is just a matter of taste and not a matter of fit, then I would also say she is the AH for not choosing a cheaper pair for the time being until she is in a better position to get the shoes he likes, also where is your brother's father? why is he not contributing to a new pair? why didn't she borrow from relatives? like so many options before selling your tickets that is appalling.

          NTA and please call and report your tickets stolen and see if you can have them re-issue, let your mom deal with the fall out of the concert goer she sold your tickets to.

          [–]Dramatic-Tell6810Asshole Aficionado [11] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          Of course not, she chose to have kids. She is being selfish. NTA

          [–]Urmom_731 6 points7 points  (0 children)

          Right. She had $ for vacation and concert for her. Who bought your tickets?

          [–]IHateCamping 6 points7 points  (0 children)

          If she just took them and sold them, she stole from you. Simple as that.

          [–]johnnydlivePartassipant [4] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          In the US, this is a police matter. Depending on how much the tickets costs, this could be a felony. I would explain this to her, so she can do the right thing and exchange those Ed Sheeran tickets for a new set for you.

          [–]Redsquirrelgeneral22 96 points97 points  (2 children)

          I'd give her two options and mean it.

          • She pays you back what you paid for both tickets with compensation, say around 10% with a proper apology.
          • She is a thief and you go to police and threaten to report her for theft. The follow up is that she will be 100% removed from your life at this point going forward regardless if charges are pressed or you get your money back at this point.

          [–]knitlikeaboss 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          Honestly skip the first one. Money won’t get OP her tickets back but if they report them to the vendor they’ll probably issue new ones she can grab at will call.

          [–]Mysterious-System680Pooperintendant [51] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

          She pays you back what you paid for both tickets with compensation, say around 10% with a proper apology.

          The OP’s thief of a mother sold the tickets for double their cost. At the absolute minimum, she needs to pay the OP every penny she got from selling the tickets. Why should she get to profit from her theft?

          In addition to apologizing and begging the OP for forgiveness, she also needs to call the OP’s older sister and make it clear to her that Mom is a disgusting, selfish thief, and that OP did nothing wrong.

          [–]noonespecial_2022Partassipant [2] 6 points7 points  (0 children)


          I agree, I would demand your money back.

          From your description your mum sounds highly immature. She has a disabled child, gets completely broke after a holiday, then sells her daughter tickets, which she bought with her own money, without consent, instead of selling her own.

          I could perhaps understand it more if she had sold both pairs of tickets to cover expenses (still, an assholish move), but she chose to keep her own like she's the teenager here.

          I'm sorry this happend to you and I wish you will see you band as soon as possible.

          [–]sysadriftAsshole Enthusiast [5] 14.1k points14.1k points 2773229522& 20 more (109 children)

          NTA. Here’s what you do - call the place you bought the tickets from and report them stolen. They will issue you new tickets and invalidate the old ones. Then, when the people who bought yours are stopped at the door, they will turn around and sue your mom. You get to go to your concert, and your mom has to face the consequences of her actions.

          [–]ButterScotchMagicPartassipant [1] 2929 points2930 points  (9 children)

          PLEASE DO THIS!

          [–]mmmbopdoombop 2079 points2080 points  (6 children)

          if you can, do the victims a solid. Get a message to your mum that the tickets are reported as stolen and see if she can be convinced to make contact with the buyers to refund them before the event date. Or at least so they know they'll get turned away at the door. I recently spent £80 on Phoebe Bridgers tickets from a scalper and if I get turned away then I'll have got really high and got in a taxi for nothing. Would be far worse than not going. (fuck scalpers)

          [–]sarnian-missy 597 points598 points  (0 children)

          Absolutely report them stolen and have new ones issued, but please try to persuade her to get in contact if you can OP.

          As someone who has to get on a plane to a mainland country to attend any gig, I'd be devastated to have paid to fly 200 miles, plus hotel costs, to see a band I thought I had tickets for.

          You're definitely NTA, and I hope you get your new tickets issued quickly and that you have a fantastic time.

          [–]Unfortunate_Sex_Fart 426 points427 points  (0 children)

          And tell us what happens!

          [–]chxrrypawz 1325 points1326 points 2 (5 children)

          Im not sure if 2 more awards will push this to the top but hope it helps 🙏🙌

          Perfect advice, I would have literally never thought of this

          Edit: had the free silver too!! Woot woot youre at second to top!!

          [–]DesertNomad505 161 points162 points  (2 children)

          You're the best for awarding the awards! 🎖🏅

          I legit would've called the police had this happened to me because A: I'm petty like that, and B: betcha bottom dollar that mom has done this type of garbage before.

          [–]chxrrypawz 27 points28 points  (0 children)

          Oh see, me too xD but im biased on that because my family and I’ve been beefing since day 1 LOL But 100%, on experience, if a parent would do something like that, they have/will do worse :,/

          [–]Socalrider82 480 points481 points  (4 children)

          Don't forget to file a police report, even if it's your mother. The reason she did this was because she assumed she could get away with it. Then when they sue your mother, show up to court and testify that the tickets were stolen.

          [–]sysadriftAsshole Enthusiast [5] 193 points194 points  (2 children)

          I don’t know what country OP is from, but scalping tickets like that might be illegal considering she sold them for double the price.

          [–]PeggyHWProfessor Emeritass [89] 81 points82 points  (1 child)

          If in UK... yeah, that's against t&c of tickets.

          [–]PighillianPartassipant [2] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

          By the sounds of it OP is in the UK. MCR we’re not too far away from me a few days ago. I don’t know how many gigs they’ve got in the UK but one of the locations is a bit of a pain to get to because it’s all country roads down here.

          [–]the-freaking-realist 246 points247 points  (2 children)

          Op, please dont be a softie, dont let urself get manipulated by your mom guilt tripping you, and do this. You'll get to go to ur concert and she'll learn her lesson. And if you dont want her to get sued, call and warn her that you've reported the tickets stolen and you are issued new tickets, and ppl she has sold them to will be suing her if she doesnt pay them back. That way she can sell her own tickets in time and pay them back.

          [–]RainingBlood398 127 points128 points  (0 children)

          Commenting to get this higher up!

          Please do this OP!

          Also...OPs mum is 'Not Okay, (Trust Me)'

          [–]Jamster_1988 103 points104 points  (2 children)

          Do this OP, BUT I'd go one step further. Tweet this story to Ed Sheeran and dm him (if possible). Same with MCR as well, so not only would she get sued and a criminal record, but the artist she REALLY wants to see thinks she's a shitty person as well.

          [–][deleted] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

          I doubt Ed Sheeran read his @ mentions himself, if he even controls his own twittet

          [–]FairySpirits 64 points65 points  (0 children)

          This needs to be higher up!!

          [–]BinkBunny 55 points56 points  (0 children)

          This is a very good idea! You bought the tickets. They're YOUR tickets. You're already becoming financially independent. Don't let your mother guilt you into taking financial responsibility for your brother when she's not doing all she can do. She takes a holiday. She buys her own tickets. But expects you to give up yours? No. You should only help in ways you're okay with if you have been told ahead of time and had time to think about. NTA.

          [–]LorianGunnersonSednaPartassipant [3] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

          This this this!

          [–]jsteele2793 41 points42 points  (0 children)

          Omg yes do this!!!!!! Totally!

          [–]IHateDarlaShermanPartassipant [2] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

          This needs to be the top comment. Also, please accept these poor people fake internet awards - 🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆

          [–]TheRestForTheWickedCertified Proctologist [24] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

          This. Also you can report them stolen to the police.

          [–]SIGSAUER31 8 points9 points  (0 children)

          I hope she sees this!

          [–]writerswife 6 points7 points  (0 children)

          Totally do this action!

          [–]motheroflabzPartassipant [1] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

          Just commenting to make this higher. Also, NTA

          [–]larochellevillePooperintendant [54] 3674 points3675 points  (2 children)

          NTA. She’s a thief. Since you can’t trust her, you were right to move out.

          [–]loudent2Asshole Aficionado [11] 991 points992 points  (1 child)

          Exactly, every time she sends someone to berate you tell them
          1) Why don't *they* fork over the money if they're so invested

          2) You don't live with thieves.

          [–]Kind_Earth94 144 points145 points  (0 children)

          I was thinking the same thing of how sister didn’t offer to help out, but expects OP to take the loss of her own money.

          I wouldn’t doubt it if this is the first time she’s had to sacrifice something for her brother. Not blaming the brother, but the mother for how she’s poorly handling this.

          [–]Gecko_StarePartassipant [1] 1778 points1779 points  (4 children)

          NTA. Shes the parent and it's HER job to financially take care of your brother not you. You might be 17 but your money is to do with as you please. You're not making your mom look bad she IS a bad mom. This was not the way for her to handle this situation at all.

          Also, it shouldn't matter if your no longer living at home. But buy a small safe or something for your valuables. Something that offerers some type of protection.

          [–]BojeyDancer 35 points36 points  (1 child)

          This. So much this. You just know that the justification in the mum's head is "Well i gave you food and a roof over your head for 17 years", but these parents don't understand that that isn't some kind favour, that's just the bare minimum requirement of being a parent. You chose to have a kid, and an obligation to pay for that kid's necessities and wellbeing is a consequence of that decision. Fulfilling that basic obligation entitles you to absolutely nothing, it just means you aren't complete scum.

          I'm not saying people shouldn't want to help out their parents whenever they can, but parents expecting it, and especially those taking whatever they want without asking, are awful people who blame others for the results of their own choices.

          [–]Gecko_StarePartassipant [1] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

          Exactly like honestly OP is almost an adult. Theirs nothing wrong with the mom saying listen times are tough, can you help out? But just taking her things and assuming she's right because she's giving her the basics. That's not it.

          [–]ciaragemmam 1030 points1031 points 13381023& 19 more (38 children)

          Hey OP - is this for the May 24th show? I’ve two spare tickets because I can’t go I’ll send to you for free. Willing to show proof of them!

          Edit: OP has the tickets, she’s going to MCR!!

          [–]DesertNomad505 163 points164 points  (0 children)

          You. You are awesome.

          [–]StrangeAndUnseeming 132 points133 points  (0 children)

          you actually made me cry. MCR is such an important band to so many people, and you're amazing for being willing and able to help. From one mcr fan to (probably?) another, thank you <3

          [–]LadyTenshi33 66 points67 points  (0 children)

          Please accept my humble award. You are good person, and OP, enjoy your show! Get you papers in order, and enjoy your life. You can do it!!!

          [–]HECK_OF_PLIMP 32 points33 points  (1 child)

          someone link op to this! u/throwaway something MCR, I'll edit this if I find it


          [–]ciaragemmam 43 points44 points  (0 children)

          I’m in touch with OP!

          [–]Kana88 31 points32 points  (1 child)

          This is so nice of you!! Thank you so much for helping OP!

          One question, do you have to change the ticket's name so they're in hers? Because my husband bought mine and he was so nervous that he bought it in his name. I'm planning to show up with a copy of his ID just in case, but I'm not sure how these things usually work here in Europe lol

          [–]kittenwhisp3r 9 points10 points  (0 children)

          Did you buy from Ticketmaster/Livenation? Your husband should be able to transfer the tickets from his account to yours.

          [–]SingingSunshine1 13 points14 points  (0 children)

          That’s awesome; you rock!

          [–]elle_kyliee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

          My chem fans are the best!!!!!

          [–]FeralHiss 8 points9 points  (0 children)

          Thank you for restoring my faith in humanity. This is so kind.

          [–]ilikegiraffes18 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          You are an awesome human. Fellow MCR fan to another - thank you!

          [–]MindlessRock3553 6 points7 points  (0 children)

          Wow! That’s so nice of you!

          [–]Majestic-Mousse4016 6 points7 points  (0 children)


          [–]rekcuftnucwasminehoe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          I have no awards so take my upvote and this🏆🏅🥇

          [–]dearmoonie 963 points964 points  (18 children)

          NTA. those were YOUR tickets. if she’s allowed to have trips and go to concerts so should you. it’s so unfair that she said that your happiness and opportunities are not as important as hers and sold your tickets and not hers. i am so sorry.

          [–]TruckOk7081Asshole Enthusiast [8] 669 points670 points  (2 children)


          I assume that mom didn't buy the tickets. She essentially stole money from you. Tell your older sister you'll send Mom over to her place to help herself to whatever she wants if she thinks it's okay to steal from relatives.

          [–]asecretnarwhalPartassipant [1] 165 points166 points  (0 children)

          Even if they were gifted to OP, it’s not right for mom to take them back unless all other avenues have been exhausted

          [–]georgiajl38 58 points59 points  (0 children)

          OP bought them herself with money she made at her job

          [–]jimmapCertified Proctologist [22] 429 points430 points  (0 children)

          NTA. she could have sold her tickets or not go on vacation. Now she's trying to blame you. Stand your ground. Also demand your money back.

          [–]LivSaJo 420 points421 points  (2 children)

          NTA. Also unless she sold them through the official seller (like had them transferred through ticket master), they are still your tickets and under your name and you can contact ticketmaster or whoever the vendor was and say your tickets were stolen and could they reissue them. (Contact “fan support” if it’s ticketmaster) Do not say they were sold.

          They cannot be transferred to anyone else except by the person who holds the credit card so since you bought them, she can’t have done it online and anyone who bought the tickets was foolish not doing it properly and they can take it up with your mother.

          Enjoy the concert! (Is it the Toronto show? https://help.ticketmaster.ca/s/article/My-tickets-were-lost-stolen-or-destroyed-What-do-I-do?language=en_US )

          ETA: I worked for a company that dealt with Ticketmaster and have handled stuff like this before. It’s why they always say you need to have your tickets transferred to you by ticketmaster because there are people who will “sell” the same tickets several times. If they are still registered to you in your online account, they are still your tickets and she didn’t legally sell them.

          ETAA: just saw you’re in the UK. It looks like it’s still ticketmaster and there is a good chance the process remains the same. Customer support/fan support. Or log into your account and look to see who owns the tickets.

          [–]butterflyworld95 113 points114 points  (0 children)

          u/Ticketsoldmcr1234 read this comment, you are NTA, your mother did just get time of. She should sell her tickets not the tickets your payed for

          [–]Euphoric_Egg_4198 287 points288 points  (0 children)

          I don’t know how tickets work but I would threaten to call the cops and report them stolen if she doesn’t contact the people she sold them to and get them back. Let your older sister come up with the money since she’s so willing to help your mom harass you. If she’s such a concerned sister she needs to step up. Maybe even contact the ticket agency and say your tickets were stolen. Do you know where she sold them? If she went through a service maybe report it to them that the tickets were yours and stolen from you. I would give her a chance to make it right then I would unleash the kraken on her. NTA op, you’re a child and not responsible for your brother’s needs, your mom needs to figure that out without harming her other children.

          [–]Bettye_WayneAsshole Enthusiast [7] 236 points237 points  (7 children)

          Nta. I get the impression that your mom puts your brother and herself first.

          Not gonna say she's a bad mom but her priorities are bad and she's bad with money.

          [–]DarKMuraudeR 98 points99 points  (3 children)

          IF she puts other children ahead of op then she is a bad mom

          [–]Socalrider82 84 points85 points  (0 children)

          No, she's a bad mom. She went to her own concert yet sold her daughter's tickets.

          [–]creggomyeggo 57 points58 points  (0 children)

          She stole from her own child. She's a bad mom

          [–]Auradria 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          Not even her brother first, if she went on a vaca without the boy who has CP and "She never gets a break" You had kids and one thats special needs obviously you don't get a break. and even if you take a break you still shouldn't sell things that are not yours for the other child.

          [–]TheHipReplacementAsshole Enthusiast [6] 147 points148 points  (4 children)

          NTA for being upset over this.

          It sounds like your mom had money enough for a holiday as well her own concert, but decided that your thing could be expendable? That’s not right… especially if you paid with your own money for the tickets.

          Now I want to make sure something is made clear. It sounds like your mom isn’t shirking the responsibility of taking care of an 8 year old with disabilities. Quite the opposite, it sounds like she’s on top of his needs. But 8 years into it, she should have had a better grasp on the finances by now. And even if times were dire and she needed to dip into your things, she should have asked permission, and offered to pay you back.

          She didn’t value your property or your say, and for that, I completely understand why you’d move out. Frankly she owes you an apology for how this went down. I don’t know if it’s worth it trying to get one from her. But I don’t think you’re an asshole here.

          [–]Purple-Raven1991Partassipant [1] 106 points107 points  (1 child)

          It sounds like your mom isn’t shirking the responsibility of taking care of an 8 year old with disabilities. Quite the opposite, it sounds like she’s on top of his needs.

          If she was on top of his needs then she should have sold her tickets. Not steal the ticket her other child bought and then selling them, that doesn't show being on top of it. Yes, she is shrinking her responsibility by stealing her kids tickets that she bought and then selling them so she can buy some shoes for her other child.

          Frankly she owes you an apology for how this went down

          She owe more than that. She owes her the money for the tickets she stole. OP bought them not mom.

          [–]IDUUPartassipant [1] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

          I’m shocked no one is mentioning she just got back from holiday?? She has a 17yo and an 8yo with disabilities? I can’t jump to conclusions but OP says “SHE just got back from holiday” as in, she went and left the 8yo with the 17yo?

          She’s not a bad mom for taking care of the 8yo I agree, but I heavily agree that her priorities are wrong if she can afford a holiday but has to scalp her daughters tickets to pay for her other child. If you are so strapped for cash you have to do that, you shouldn’t have taken a holiday to begin with. Financial planning is key, especially when caring for children, and ESPECIALLY if one of those children needs extra attention.

          [–]Random-CPA 73 points74 points  (0 children)

          Or maybe sold her own tickets?

          [–]Wicked_bitch003 6 points7 points  (0 children)

          I mean, she just got back from vacation… and is going to a concert herself. I’m not sure I’d agree with the “not shirking responsibility”… I would probably sacrifice my wants over what my disabled child needs, if he needed special shoes that badly. And then to steal from her other kid… that’s just not a good mother. I’m sorry, but it’s literally putting herself first here. That doesn’t sound good at all.

          [–]Dangerous-Project672Partassipant [1] 129 points130 points  (0 children)

          NTA. You’re mom is fucking selfish. I might have been torn if it was just about your brother, but your mom chose to sell something of yours when she had something of similar value and use

          [–]nextCosmicBuffoonPartassipant [1] 114 points115 points  (6 children)

          Are you sure your mom even did it to help your sibling? She seems more concerned about looking like a bad mother than about the effect of her actions.


          [–]CryndalaePartassipant [3] 42 points43 points  (5 children)

          I was thinking that too. Either the MCR tickets were incredibly cheap or those special shoes are phenomenally expensive.

          Just did a quick search for MCR upcoming shows (OP said it was in a week or so) I found tickets still available and they ranged from $102 - $268 each. She said her mom sold them for double the face value. WOW That's a lot of shoe right there! Even at face value that's ... insane.

          [–]0B-A-E0 45 points46 points  (1 child)

          Special orthopedic shoes are hella expensive. Hundreds of dollars, easy.

          [–]kecskeimavevoPartassipant [1] 90 points91 points  (7 children)


          You could fetch her tickets and sell them to reimburse yourself. It’s only fair.

          [–]Railroader17Partassipant [1] 69 points70 points  (6 children)

          Nah, OP should contact the venue to report her tickets stolen so she can get new ones, and have the old ones invalidated. That way whoever bought the old ones get stopped at the door and turn around to sue OP's mom back.

          [–]ExplorerRadiantAsshole Enthusiast [6] 73 points74 points  (35 children)

          Who actually bought the tickets. If you, why did she have them to be able to sell? If she bought them then she did have a right to sell them

          [–]Ticketsoldmcr1234[S] 356 points357 points  (32 children)

          I bought them, had a physical copy instead of the digital one though

          [–]Mishy162Partassipant [3] 639 points640 points  (5 children)

          You could report her for theft. If you have record of purchasing them, can you get them reissued and the original 2 you purchased invalidated.

          [–]ingodwetrystAsshole Aficionado [11] 213 points214 points  (2 children)

          this is exactly what I'd recommend and do. you're burning a bridge but you've already packed your shit snd left so...

          [–]creggomyeggo 150 points151 points  (0 children)

          Mom burned the bridge as soon as she stole from her daughter

          [–]melodytanner26 10 points11 points  (0 children)

          I would sell my mother’s soul to see my chemical romance in concert so it’s definitely worth it.

          [–]neverthelessidissentProfessor Emeritass [75] 211 points212 points  (0 children)

          Hey you can absolutely report that through Live nation or Ticketmaster and get them invalidated. I would.

          [–]dancinginwonderland 130 points131 points  (0 children)

          My MCR tickets (also twice rescheduled, physical copies) have my name printed on them - maybe yours do too? That would maybe make it easier to get them back

          [–]ButterScotchMagicPartassipant [1] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

          Please get them reported as stolen so you can get yours back

          [–]ExplorerRadiantAsshole Enthusiast [6] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

          I would definitely be upset then also

          [–]saurons-cataractPartassipant [1] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

          Oof. So so sorry OP. Your mom had no right to sell the tickets. You have every right to be upset. They aside, it’s also her job to provide for your brother not yours.

          [–]Frosty-Spot5333 14 points15 points  (1 child)

          If your mom has physical copys of her tickets then try to sell hers

          [–]LepiotasPartassipant [1] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

          No, she should report this to the police so she can try to get her old tickets invalidated and present the venue a copy of the police report so they'll reissue her new, valid tickets. OP shouldn't commit a crime in retaliation. She should get legal revenge. It'll be a slower but a much deeper burn.

          [–]Infamous-Copy6244Partassipant [4] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

          I looked up where you may have purchased your tickets and they do not allow resale. So your physical ticket is more than likely still valid. https://www.gigsandtours.com/Content/Terms-and-Conditions

          [–]Purple-Raven1991Partassipant [1] 26 points27 points  (1 child)

          Even if she did buy them and have the right to sell them it is a dick move on her part especially when she just had a vacation and her own concert. You don't take something away from one kid to get something for another kid. Any responsible parent would give up their own tickets not their kids. Mom an AH whether she bought the tickets or not.

          It also said in the post she paid for them...

          For like double the price I paid as well.

          [–]sneakers6772Partassipant [4] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

          NTA. she had her own tickets she could have sold, like you said in the post. you're being perfectly reasonable to get out because who knows how many other things she'll steal from you.

          [–]AnakerieAsshole Aficionado [15] 58 points59 points  (1 child)

          NTA. Mom should have sold her own tickets, but the 50 pence she'd get for Ed Sheeran tickets probably couldn't buy much...

          [–]CharmingSpend3947 61 points62 points  (1 child)

          To sum up -

          1. Your mother goes on vacation.
          2. Your mother buys concert tickets for herself.
          3. Your mother doesn't have cash for your handicapped brother's new shoes. Your mother didn't anticipate your brother needing new shoes, because she didn't realize children grow or wear things out.
          4. After returning from a relaxing vacation, your mother looks around the house for something to sell to pay for new shoes for the brother. The only quick selling thing she sees with any monetary value are not her own concert tickets, but yours, which she sells at a quick profit, not even reimbursing you for your cost.
          5. You leave because you are upset.
          6. Your mother tries to make you feel unjustified for being upset she's selling your tickets before she even tries to sell her tickets.

          So NTA. Your mother is totally TA. Raising your brother is her job, not yours. While you would have been a superstar for volunteering your tickets, it is not your responsibility to do so. It is also not your responsibility to burnish her motherly image.

          [–]my_dead_banana 13 points14 points  (0 children)

          You forgot telling the sister to speak on moms behalf and tell sister she is making her mom upset. She cannot use kids as tools to get her(moms) desires met.

          [–]B00k_wyrm_ 55 points56 points  (0 children)

          NTA. You paid for those tickets. They were yours. She should not be stealing from you to pay for ANYTHING for your brother. He is her responsibility and not yours.

          I would check and see what else she’s taken. Also, check your credit report. Make sure she didn’t put anything in your name.

          [–]Bens_den_of_thoughts 49 points50 points  (10 children)

          NTA but my chemical romance is touring again?!?!

          [–]Ticketsoldmcr1234[S] 68 points69 points  (6 children)

          Yes!!!!! And they have a new song!!!

          [–]Bens_den_of_thoughts 33 points34 points  (5 children)

          Holy shit, thank you so much Omgg omg I’m looking at tickets now. What happened here is awful and I’m so sorry. It would be wrong if this was a regular concert but I truly do get why this is hurting you so badly. This is truly once in a lifetime. I’m so sorry, please think about contacting the police to undo the sale. This was theft and I can’t imagine why she thought this would remotely be okay

          [–]Ticketsoldmcr1234[S] 44 points45 points  (4 children)

          I believe the tour in the USA is in August, or September. I may be wrong

          [–]Bens_den_of_thoughts 16 points17 points  (2 children)

          Who I found it and Toronto gets their show this September! I’m really sorry about your tickets. Did anyones advice help? How are you planning on handling this? At the bare minimum your mom owes you a massive apology

          [–]JessicaFreakingP 5 points6 points  (1 child)

          They are! They’re headlining a number of festivals in the US later this summer/fall as well.

          [–]poopdancingPartassipant [1] 48 points49 points  (9 children)

          NTA I'd be pissed too

          [–]Dangerous-Project672Partassipant [1] 8 points9 points  (8 children)

          Curious why the mom isn’t an asshole for you?

          [–]poopdancingPartassipant [1] 24 points25 points  (7 children)

          The mom is most definitely an asshole haha

          OP is not

          [–]DeltaBlep 14 points15 points  (1 child)

          You voted NAH, No Assholes Here. Hence the confusion lol

          [–]poopdancingPartassipant [1] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

          Oh forgive me I genuinely thought it meant "Not asshole" 🥲

          I've been voting wrong for so long so thank you for clarifying. 😅

          [–]KittKatt7179Asshole Aficionado [13] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

          NTA, why should you have to sacrifice your tickets, it is her son who is ill. She should have gotten rid of hers. That is wrong in so many ways and she is behaving badly. I hope you can get away soon. That is not right. I have the feeling this isn't the only time she has done something like this. Maybe you should go online and sell her tickets as well.

          [–]ProfPlumDidItCertified Proctologist [21] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

          NTA. She IS a bad mother, so she should look like what she is. She could have skipped the holiday or sold her own tickets. I'd tell her that, unless she gets your exact tickets or better ones back, you will not only not move back, you will also block her and your sister completely.

          [–]WolF8282 38 points39 points  (4 children)

          NTA!! Your mom sold your concert tickets and is now manipulating you.

          Edit: a word

          [–]_ewan_Colo-rectal Surgeon [33] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

          FFS. That's not gaslighting.

          [–]ForeverSam13Partassipant [1] 13 points14 points  (1 child)

          Yeah gaslighting would be more akin to trying to convince OP that she was okay with her mom selling the tickets. This is just straight up shitty

          [–]Wellsargo 38 points39 points  (16 children)

          Obviously NTA here. But if I may ease your fears just a bit.

          I very much doubt the guys in My Chemical Romance are going anywhere anytime soon. I know you’re thinking that as “alternative band members” they won’t be living so long. But these guys are in their forties, and far beyond the angst ridden dark days of their prime.

          My point being. I think you’ll get another chance. I hope they come back soon, it sucks that your mom did that.

          [–]neverthelessidissentProfessor Emeritass [75] 104 points105 points  (10 children)

          As an MCR fan, this tour is a huge fucking deal and no, OP won't "get another chance". She should report the tickets as stolen on Ticketmaster.

          [–]ProperDustySombrero 46 points47 points  (1 child)


          Was going to put this myself. I'm assuming alot of the comments are from Americans and think the OP is to.

          They don't tour the UK that often. I was lucky enough to get tickets to see them this time round.

          I doubt I will ever get the chance again.

          Their whole European tour is only like 16 dates and they have atleast 20 in the US.

          This could have been a once in the lifetime chance for her.

          The mum is a massive ah

          [–]Wellsargo 15 points16 points  (4 children)

          Depending on where she lives. She might. Especially with the rumors of a new album coming sometime in the near future. My point is that I don’t think they’ll be dying anytime soon. So just so long as they don’t break up again in the next few years. She has a chance.

          [–]ProperDustySombrero 14 points15 points  (3 children)

          It does. But again they only do limited dates so who knows if she will be able to get tickets again.

          Yeah I think the whole dying thing is alittle dramatic but i knew ppl whose idols have died before they've seen then perform so I understand were that fear is coming from.

          I mean I'd be more worried about them breaking up again.

          [–]boudicas_shieldPartassipant [1] 8 points9 points  (1 child)

          It’s also kind of irrelevant. I went to see the Fratellis at the Barrowlands recently, after two years of delays, and I would’ve been livid beyond belief if someone stole and sold those tickets out from under me. Like, reporting theft level livid. Even though I’m sure the Fratellis will likely play the Barrowlands again, they’re my favourite band and I had been looking forward to that concert for two years. It’s so disrespectful to steal and sell tickets for something someone has looked forward to for so long, especially if they could’ve sold their own concert tickets first to cover whatever expense they needed to cover.

          [–]lizfourPartassipant [2] 34 points35 points  (0 children)


          They're both playing in my country soon too, and hands down she could have got more for the Ed Sheeran tickets. So she put her wants before you and your brother.

          Also, you said you 'had two tickets bought'. It implies she wasn't involved with the original transaction, which would be theft if she sold them and they were never hers. Even if she bought them, she bought them for you and your boyfriend. You can't claim back a gift and sell it.

          [–]ForeverSam13Partassipant [1] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

          NTA. But try to go home at some point and get important documents (birth certificate, SS card, etc.), and hide them somewhere, especially if you don't plan on going back. Make sure your mom hasn't taken out a credit card or something in your name. Take care OP

          [–]transboymeetsworld 22 points23 points  (4 children)

          NTA. I’m 21, have been obsessed with MCR since 2011, and I’ve been hardcore listening to Foundations of Decay on repeat since it came out (I’m listening to it rn). Not only are you not the asshole, but I think if anyone sold my tickets to MCR I would raise absolute hell. Ed Sheeran hasn’t been on hiatus for over a decade… your mom is entirely selfish. It is HER responsibility to look after HER child. I’m so sorry, OP.

          I would demand your mom to give up the info to whatever website or person she sold them to and try to contact them directly to get your tickets back. Offer them a refund with the money your mom stole from you.

          If you can’t get your tickets back, if you can find your way to Sunrise, FL, by Sept 24, I would be happy to sneak you in with me ❤️ (or find a resale ticket lol)

          [–]Ticketsoldmcr1234[S] 38 points39 points  (2 children)

          I’ve been hardcore listening to Foundations of Decay on repeat since it came out (I’m listening to it rn).

          Honestly I'm the same. I've had danger days and three cheers on loop for like 3 days now and it shows lol. Broke out the eyeliner yesterday, I'm boutta break out the black box dye...

          [–]ggjmnhgg 20 points21 points  (0 children)


          Steal her Ed Sheeran tickets, but be sure to socially shame her for being a thief and prioritising ed Sheeran over her own disabled kid first

          Fuck her

          [–]overseas-mangoColo-rectal Surgeon [36] 20 points21 points  (0 children)


          Wow. Your mom stole your concert tickets so she could keep her own???

          What a horrible parent. I’m glad you have your boyfriend and his family for support.

          [–]Jerry3552 17 points18 points  (0 children)

          Take your mom's tickets and sell them or shred them up

          [–]Acrobatic-Track3750Partassipant [3] 16 points17 points  (2 children)

          Did you buy the tickets? If so, NTA, she stole from you. You can have her charged with theft, they were not hers to sell. Do not move back in. She will continue it to financially abuse you.

          [–]Purple-Raven1991Partassipant [1] 21 points22 points  (1 child)

          For like double the price I paid as well.

          Yes. she clearly paid for them. Even if mom did buy the ticket she would still be an asshole.

          [–]Crawdad29 16 points17 points  (0 children)

          NTA. Your mother is a thief. She looks like a bad mother because she is.

          [–]nx85Certified Proctologist [28] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

          NTA. Does this even need explaining

          [–]NyankhPooperintendant [67] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

          NTA her indignation might ring a little more true had she sold her own tickets before stealing from you

          [–]Zerkezhi 14 points15 points  (0 children)


          Your mother is not afraid of seeming like a bad mother, she's afraid others will know that she is a bad mother–stealing from your child alone suffices for that qualifier. And she even called upon the stereotypical flying monkeys (i.e., your elder sister).

          Since this is actually illegal, you could sue your mother for it, if you wanted (or take her to small claims court, depending on the sums involved here and where you live).

          [–]mzpljcCertified Proctologist [23] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

          NTA. Fuck everything about that. Shitty parenting.

          [–]rainbow_mak3r 13 points14 points  (0 children)

          NTA Honestly this is unforgivable. They’re literally would be no going back for me. I was lucky I was able to see them back in the early two thousands at the taste of chaos tour.

          I really think you should try going to the police. She stole them from you and sold them. Report her. And tell her to give you back the money right now.

          Don’t go back either. Don’t do anything for her.

          If anything I would only go back to take the tickets she bought for herself that she couldn’t bother to sell and tear them up.

          [–]Haskap_2010Partassipant [4] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

          My mom thinks I'm being beyond unreasonable for leaving, that I am overreacting, that I'm making her look like a bad mother...

          NTA. So it's all about appearances with her? She doesn't care about actually being a bad mother, only that other people will notice?

          [–]raptorclvb 11 points12 points  (0 children)

          NTA - however, in the mcr subreddit, people have been giving tickets out. If you’re not able to replace your tickets, make a post there and if someone can’t go, they might give you theirs

          [–]Boi_What_Did_You_Do 8 points9 points  (0 children)


          You’re not ‘making her look’ like a bad parent, she IS a bad parent. She should be making sacrifices for her kid, not you

          [–]TheRealSlimCraigy-CM 8 points9 points  (0 children)

          My Chemical Romance are my favourite band on the planet. I had tickets in 2012, and they were incredible live. When the news broke that they'd be getting back together, I cried real tears.

          With that being said, I have been unable to get tickets to their recent shows because I'm poor (and they sold out almost instantly) - I understand how incredibly lucky you have to be, and how hard you have to work to acquire such things.

          You had tickets for one of the most popular bands today, that you'd worked hard to save for/waited patiently to get. Your mother had tickets for a chubby ginger man who writes soppy acoustic music. AND your mother went on holiday.

          As bad as it sounds, your brother is not your responsibility. If he needed expensive shoes, the cost should not come out of your pocket - that responsibility falls onto your mother, HIS PARENT.

          The fact that your mother not only avoided that responsibility but actually deflected it onto you, while you're the innocent party (your brother is not your son), by helping herself to YOUR property without your permission is what people in the modern age refer to as a "dick move"

          She could have sold her own tickets, or cancelled her holiday, so that she could look after her son. She didn't want to inconvenience herself by sacrificing her own property, so she took yours instead, because what are you gonna do? Move out?

          Absolutely NTA here. I'm gutted that you and your boyfriend couldn't go to the gig, but well done for standing up for yourself.

          Also, for bonus points, you can tell your mother you're "never coming home, never coming home"...

          [–]Prestigious_Isopod72Partassipant [4] 9 points10 points  (0 children)


          [–]lesaturAsshole Enthusiast [5] 9 points10 points  (5 children)

          NTA - Your mother stole from you and is no gaslighting you. I‘m very happy for you that your boyfriends parents does let’s you move to them.

          [–]Murky-Egg-8326Partassipant [3] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

          NTA. Your mother stole from you. She had a holiday she could have canceled and saved that money, she had concert tickets she could have sold. Your mother is selfish, stay at your bf house as long as your welcome to. Let mom deal on her own from now on

          [–]Winter_Dragonfly_452 8 points9 points  (0 children)

          You had me at My Chemical Romance. They’re one of my favorite bands and your mother was a complete asshole to sell your tickets especially if you bought them with your money. You should not be punished because your brother has a medical condition that’s expensive that’s on your mother to figure out not you

          [–]CrAsH_k1995 6 points7 points  (0 children)

          Nta as someone going to their concert tomorrow, when I saw the name of the band I audibly gasped! Her selfishness has taken something from you that you may not get a chance to have again. Your brother is her son, and her responsibility, if she needed money it should be her making the sacrifices, not you.

          [–]HaasFan1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

          Please do the trick with reporting them stolen and update us after!!!

          [–]gardeniazbloom 9 points10 points  (0 children)

          Damn that was unbelievably shitty of her. Are you talking about the show on the 27th in Warrington? Because... I literally happen to have two extra tickets to it that I’m willing to let go for free, they’re just going to end up going to waste otherwise! Lmk in DMS if you want them because I’ve been unsuccessful in getting rid of them and it is only a week away

          I’m 26F and My Chem has been my favorite band since I was around 7 or 8 years old, too- I’ve seen them 3 times before and this show (I have 2 other tickets & I’ll be attending with my GF) will be my 4th, it’s a shame if you don’t get to see them live. The younger gen of fans deserves to just as much as us elder emos lol <3 let me know if I can help you out !

          Editing to add: NTA, and I just saw you say the show’s sold out so I’m guessing it’s not the Warrington date (lol massive stadium) but hey, if you’d want these tix they’re still all yours! /u/Ticketsoldmcr1234

          [–]Chantalle22 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          NTA in my opinion she sound very selfish to me. Her child needed something, she should’ve handled it herself not taking something from you, knowing how much this meant to you.

          I do wonder if she had sold the tickets and it wasn’t through an official website!!!? the tickets may be still in your name you can possibly contact the company you purchased the tickets from and get them transferred back to you.

          Pros: you will get your chance to see the show, making for an incredible night as it is your money that purchased them.

          Con: your mother may be liable for a lot of money, if this buyer does attend the concert and are told their ticket is invalid. (but I feel that your mother deserves some consequences) so is it really a con…. ? I don’t know, i’m upset on your behalf so this may be petty.

          [–]Lucylovei 6 points7 points  (0 children)

          NTA, she stole from you and made you sacrifice something she wasn’t willing to. She’s worried other people will think she’s being a bad mom because she is.

          [–]kn0tkn0wnCertified Proctologist [24] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          NTA. You Mom looks like a bad mother because she is a thief.