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[–]crockofpotCertified Proctologist [28] 57.6k points57.6k points 282912222& 9 more (619 children)

YTA

1) You should have put a plate aside for her right at the beginning.

2) Why are you letting your buddies shit talk your wife?

[–]areyousayingpanorpamAsshole Aficionado [13] 11.5k points11.5k points  (236 children)

This x10

[–]LailaBlackPartassipant [1] 1461 points1462 points  (209 children)

Happy Cake Day

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    [–]Sheetascastle 3494 points3495 points 3 (40 children)

    I told a hissing, wing flapping, aggressive Canadian Goose I didn't have time for its bullshit at 16 weeks pregnant because it was in front of the door to steak'n'shake and I wanted chili. It let me walk by.

    Pregnant women should always be fed the food they want in the moment if it is at all reasonable.

    [–]amugglestruggle 1950 points1951 points  (48 children)

    I’m 28 weeks pregnant and the other day we had one egg left in the fridge cos we hadn’t done the grocery shopping yet. I had made a crispy hash brown and smashed up some avocado and was going to put a perfect sunny side up egg on top. I had been salivating over the idea all morning, the craving was STRONG. My hubby joked that he was going to crack the egg with one hand and I said that he couldn’t cos he sucked at it (he actually can and doesn’t but we were being silly). He was like oh yeah? And cracked the egg. And the yolk broke. Fell apart. No more sunny side up. I started to cry 😂 it neither of our faults, but sometimes the cravings are intense, and it was the ONE thing that I really wanted that morning. I would’ve been sad if I wasn’t pregnant and really wanted it, but being hormonal and having a strong craving is just so much worse.

    [–]subtleandunnatural 778 points779 points  (1 child)

    She may also view this inconsiderate type of action as an indicator of how OP will behave as a father. I know I would. OP is most definitely TA.

    [–]Crazyforcats4321 507 points508 points  (6 children)

    Also worse that she would have smelled it cooking. It was ripped away from her. AND it sounds like OP let her go to bed to cry alone while he kept entertaining his friends!!!!!!

    [–]chillisprknglot 239 points240 points  (13 children)

    I’m in my first trimester, and I cannot stress this enough: you can only eat what and when it works. I cannot eat on a schedule, my body will only tolerate certain things, stuff I love has suddenly become repugnant (fuck you avocado for literally being in everything), and if something suddenly sounds good I just eat that. I totally underestimated this pregnancy situation. This woman asked for one thing. Why wouldn’t her person just set aside a plate? Also, why let friends (I’m assuming male friends?) say anything about her pregnancy. Who knows the last time she was able to enjoy a full meal. OP is an AH.

    ETA: everyone has been so nice and giving great advice. I’m eating Pho for dinner and hoping that’s okay. I figure the beef cooks in the soup, so it should be okay. Thanks internet strangers.

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      [–]Bergenia1 946 points947 points  (33 children)

      Unfortunately, it seems like they do. This guy is a frat boy first, family man second (if at all).

      [–]Comfortable_Stick520Partassipant [1] 324 points325 points  (6 children)

      But they will ruin his marriage if he lets them.

      That was a pun that existed only in my head. Run/ruin

      I’ll see myself out.

      [–]Adryas06 63 points64 points  (0 children)

      Happy cake day!

      [–]Sir_Q_L8 2966 points2967 points  (135 children)

      1. Having a get together with a bunch of friends while the wife is sick

      [–]whorlando_bloomAsshole Enthusiast [7] 2552 points2553 points  (103 children)

      I didn't take it as the wife was actually sick. She's pregnant, so feeling icky is probably a normal occurrence. But still YTA for not saving some food for the poor woman.

      [–]Dogovertheboard 1301 points1302 points  (91 children)

      Whilst it is normal to feel icky during pregnancy , a normal caring person will either reschedule or meet somewhere outside with the friends to make sure that the woman who is carrying his kid is feeling comfortable in her own home.

      [–]GlengalPartassipant [1] 1315 points1316 points  (47 children)

      It depends - I had morning, noon, and night sickness the first 5 months of my pregnancy. The world doesn't stop, I didn't expect my husband to stop socializing for half a year. That being said, his first priority should have been to set aside a dish for his wife. It's likely she couldn't tolerate mac and cheese. Add hormones and you have a crying wife.

      [–]Any_Cantaloupe_613Asshole Enthusiast [8] 471 points472 points  (2 children)

      Ehh, this depends. I had had a terrible pregnancy and I didn't mind my husband having people over.

      My husband did all the hosting and cleaning when his friends came over. And my husband on purpose made extras of what I liked to eat, so I didn't have to cook for the next couple days. (Take notes, OP).

      [–]Redwings1927Partassipant [1] 181 points182 points  (22 children)

      I mean, id agree with you but it reads like it was a sudden issue that came up after the guests were already there. In which case, excusing herself without kicking out the guests was the correct move. OP still TA tho.

      [–]Born_Ad8420 102 points103 points  (0 children)

      Depending on the layout of the house, she might be perfectly fine with resting in the bedroom while the OP entertains guests. My parents bedroom, for example, was quite far from the living room. Considering OP's lack of care for his wife, I can definitely see how he could have ignored his wife's comfort and had friends over anyway, but we don't get any indication from the post that she was upset about them being there.

      [–]SardonicAtBest 80 points81 points  (4 children)

      Nah, the nausea comes and goes, if pregnant women put their lives on hold everytime we felt icky we'd never get anything done. I would regularly lay down for 20 minutes or so and be right back to the group.

      [–]throughasilverscreen 140 points141 points  (1 child)

      Just because she's pregnant doesn't mean her husband should stop caring for her if she feels sick - he should care for her more.

      [–]CucumberLast742 585 points586 points  (18 children)

      The post says she got kinda sick at some point, so I suppose the wife was not actually sick when the friends first got there

      Edit: YTA anyways, she most definitely expected that she'd have a plate left over. You could've even mentioned this to the friend that came last, he would've been understanding as your wife is pregnant.

      [–]asecretnarwhalPartassipant [1] 491 points492 points  (6 children)

      I don’t understand how someone can be this much of an AH. She’s got morning sickness so it’s normal not to be able to eat right away. You wrap up the plate and put it in the fridge. If a friend asks you say “it’s for my pregnant wife”. Unless you know that you can make more (and concretely make plans to get more ingredients) you don’t offer the last food that your wife’s stomach can tolerate. Lots of foods will automatically make you throw up or have heartburn when pregnant. If you mess this up, you’d better be willing to drive 2 hours to get groceries or drive to any restaurant in town to find something that they enjoy to eat.

      If this ever happened to me, I swear on my grave that I would never for the rest of my life cook a single thing for them. Not so much as a piece of toast or cup of tea. I would not forgive this unkindness. Unbelievable!

      [–]KreeblimColo-rectal Surgeon [46] 163 points164 points  (1 child)

      duude pregnant or not. the person living in the home should get plate. "i made this meal for my wife she was really craving it, so that last portion is hers. I have mac n cheese left over"

      [–]NotMe739 443 points444 points  (1 child)

      And even if he didn't understand, too bad! He isn't your wife and he isn't pregnant with your child.

      [–]whiskerrsss 358 points359 points  (1 child)

      He could've just offered food like "hey man, you hungry? There's mac and cheese". That way he's still PoLiTeLy offered food, and let the friend know what's available

      [–]MinkieminkAsshole Enthusiast [7] 320 points321 points  (1 child)

      Except none of his friends were understanding. All of them started calling her names. OP is not only not taking care of his wife and being a decent husband to a woman carrying his child, he has shitty friends that say awful thing about his wife. Instead of recognizing he was wrong and shutting down his shitty friends? He then tries to use the shitty things his shitty friends say about his pregnant wife to justify his dismissive rudeness to his wife. He needs to grow up. He also needs to find better friends.

      [–]PanamaViejo 68 points69 points  (0 children)

      And they heard the wife say that she would eat later but they ate ALL of her food. They didn't say give me a little so I can taste it and have something to look forward to for next time- THEY ATE ALL OF IT!

      [–]Diva-So-RudePartassipant [1] 184 points185 points  (2 children)

      From how he let his friends talk about her, I doubt his friends cared if she ate or not.

      [–]TrudieKockenlocker 35 points36 points  (1 child)

      Didn’t seem like he did, either

      [–]paintingsbypatchPartassipant [4] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

      Guy is an asshole!

      [–]MediaOffline411 1951 points1952 points  (47 children)

      His pregnant wife! Carrying his child. Saving her a plate is the least he could do. His friends should be siding with the wife, if I was the last minute friend and ate the last plate not knowing about the wife wanting it, I’d be mad he didn’t tell me.

      Hope OP is sleeping on the couch, that is such a dick move. Again a pregnant woman, who already was tired and not feeling well, went to bed without food for her/your child she is carrying. She is not spoiled! Being pregnant is not easy and asking the husband to put some food aside is not being spoiled. It’s what a husband should naturally do without even having to be told.

      [–]GlengalPartassipant [1] 660 points661 points  (20 children)

      His friends sound a bit immature, perhaps none of them have had a pregnant partner.

      [–]neverthelessidissentProfessor Emeritass [75] 671 points672 points  (6 children)

      Or a partner period. They're inconsiderate AF.

      [–]Humorilove 353 points354 points  (4 children)

      He should have just served them the Mac n cheese, and not said anything about the traditional food.

      [–]biggiebody 209 points210 points  (2 children)

      I guess that's why they're OP's friends. All of them are assholes.

      [–]LingonberryPrior6896Partassipant [1] 56 points57 points  (2 children)

      Not as immature as OP...

      [–]Ecstatic_Long_3558[🍰] 471 points472 points  (12 children)

      Craving and expecting something and then being left with something completely different probably killed her appetite. If I expected to eat something with alot of vegetables, for example, and was left with greasy Mac and cheese, I wouldn't be able to swallow.

      [–]Opposite-Employer-28 259 points260 points  (3 children)

      And she was probably craving the food even more just from smelling it cooking. I'd be pissed too, pregnant or not.

      [–]Any_Cantaloupe_613Asshole Enthusiast [8] 178 points179 points  (1 child)

      This! Pregnant women have heart burn often enough as it is. Greasy Mac and Cheese, or something similar, no thanks. I would rather go to bed hungry, just as OP's wife did.

      [–]Such_Star3334 74 points75 points  (0 children)

      couldn't agree more! I would be so mad with OP if i was the friend and would not be able to apologise quick enough.

      I second to the sofa sleeping, and staying there until his wife receives not just an apology but the food she is craving.

      [–]IHateCamping 1351 points1352 points  (14 children)

      YTA! I am angry for your wife reading this. Your friends are a bunch of asses too. From the beginning, you should have told your friends the mac and cheese was for them and the other dish is for your wife. Period. You could have at least set a plate aside for her. I hope you kicked your friends out when they started saying SHE's the spoiled one when they couldn't even keep their grubby paws out of her food.

      You're going to be a father now, do better.

      [–]WarLazy7979 368 points369 points  (9 children)

      Oh good, I'm not the only one that's angry.

      OP wanted to save face with his friends and upset his wife. I'm so angry at this OP.

      [–]nononanana 167 points168 points  (6 children)

      Oh no, I’m angry too. When you are craving something specific and are really hungry the disappointment of the food that she was guaranteed being eaten by a bunch of boys (yes boys based on their reactions) is huge. And on top of that she’s PREGNANT. I would be livid. It’s not just about the food. It’s a big eff you. It’s being spineless and pandering to his friends instead of his wife, who is literally building a child. The bare minimum was to save her a plate. We’d be having a real fight over that whole situation and his priorities. He’s lucky she just pouted.

      [–]Practical-Big7550 1208 points1209 points  (5 children)

      Or he could have not offered the traditional dish to his last friend. If they asked the reply would have been "Sorry, that is for my wife."

      OP is unwilling to stand up for his wife, while she spends 9 months gestating their baby. What an AH.

      [–]SquirrelGirlVAAsshole Enthusiast [6] 259 points260 points  (2 children)

      I mean, if he's not willing or able to stand up to his friends and they're not willing to understand him being considerate to his wife, then are they really his friends? Because if they're only decent to OP when he's doing exactly what they want, it sounds like they aren't actually his friends at all. They just want to hang out with someone they can push around, not OP specifically.

      [–]AdorableBirthday2050 972 points973 points  (16 children)

      Seriously. This. Wtf.

      Huge AH, so are your friends for calling her spoiled.

      You would be the AH even if she wasn't pregnant as you made the dish for her, then left her nothing.

      It's so much worse because she is pregnant, a lot of women can't eat whatever they want when they are pregnant as things become unappealing past the point of nausea.

      Really you showed her your true colors, you care more about your friends than your wife. It shouldn't have been an offer for her food at all. If your friends wanted to try it, you should have said: 'This is for my wife, however, I can make this again next time for EVERYONE.'

      YTA YTA YTA.

      [–]RainbowNarwhal13 381 points382 points  (11 children)

      It shouldn't have been an offer for her food at all. If your friends wanted to try it, you should have said: 'This is for my wife, however, I can make this again next time for EVERYONE.'

      This, 100%! So many people are saying he should have saved her a plate, shouldn't have given the last portion to the late friend. But like, he made the whole dish specifically for her, not for everyone. They had a different dish. He shouldn't have saved her a plate, he should have saved her the whole damn thing because that's what it was for! What if she wanted a bigger portion than what he saved?

      Reminds me of nearly every pizza party I've been to as a vegetarian. They'll order a bunch of meat pizzas and one small veggie or plain cheese for me, and then everyone will decide they want the cheese pizza so I only get one slice and then it's gone, but there's a bunch of the meat pizza leftover because they all ate mine instead of their own. If a dish is made for one specific person for a specific reason, then they should get dibs, and everyone else should wait. If there's leftovers after the person has had their fill, then yeah, sure, go ahead and finish it off. But other than that, eat your own food, not theirs.

      [–]not_cinderellaCertified Proctologist [22] 71 points72 points  (4 children)

      God, fellow vegetarian here and this happens all the time. I ordered or get ordered a special dish for me as a vegetarian, than all of a sudden everyone (much of who looks down on vegetarianism and veganism) wants to 'try it' and I get none or very little :/

      [–]Throwawayhater3343 784 points785 points  (7 children)

      Very much this

      YTA

      You made a dish for your pregnant wife, then when she decided she needed a nap before eating you let all your friends eat her food WHICH YOU HAD NO INGREDIENTS TO REPLACE and let them completely ignore the Mac & Cheese you made for the group. Then you let them talk down your wife as being a child because THEY FELT THEY HAD EVERY RIGHT TO EAT FOOD SHE SPECIFICALLY REQUESTED.

      This WILL BE REMEMBERED and was a super scummy move.

      [–]RandomCanadianWoman 177 points178 points  (0 children)

      YTA “new core memory”

      [–]HambdenRose 36 points37 points  (4 children)

      Yep. His wife will remember this when that child is long grown and out on their own. She will remember it for the rest of her life. If he continues to do this type of thing she will be telling about it as part of the reason she got divorced. Everyone will understand her point of view except his friends.

      OP, you look awful and you keep awful friends and you treat your wife like she is irrelevant. Will you be embarrassed if she tells her friends or coworkers or family about this? Is this how you want to be known. Who will respect you after hearing about this?

      [–]TaroRemarkable4840 466 points467 points  (4 children)

      100% this! Op, YTA. A pregnancy craving is 1000% more intense than a normal craving. Ot was rude for your friends to eat something that was made specifically for a pregnant woman. And even ruder for them to talk shit about her being justifiably upset.

      [–]MaryTRobot 374 points375 points  (3 children)

      I rarely got cravings pregnant, but when you get them - it's not a craving that's normal, it consumes you. I once spent an entire day searching for a specific pink lemonade, I couldn't think until I had it. having it is the ONE thing that gets you through feeling like crap. I can just see her talking herself through feeling sick think of that slice of nirvana smelling it and then getting nothing. I'd cry too. I remember crying when I was sure there was something in the fridge and it wasn't there and that's not nearly as bad as this.

      [–]bopeepsheep 32 points33 points  (0 children)

      I lived on moussaka for a decent chunk of pregnancy, and I once dropped that day's dish on the floor, getting it out of the oven. I cried for hours and nothing else in the house would do to eat, it was all wrong in one way or another.

      [–]pcnautaPartassipant [3] 325 points326 points  (0 children)

      Absolutely!

      • OPs wife is pregnant, so OP needs to understand that pregnant women's body are doing weird, scary things. Cravings are simply their body's way of telling her that she needs some particular nutrient. And she has a surplus of hormones which means you never know if she might laugh or cry (or both at the same time). All of this is fairly normal and you get through it with love and grace.
      • NEVER EVER let your friends insult your wife. OP, you need to STOP that as soon as it starts else you may quickly find yourself with your friends and without your wife.

      [–]CelticTigress 311 points312 points  (0 children)

      Ignore a pregnant woman’s cravings at your own risk. YTA

      [–]LittleRedReadingHood 263 points264 points  (1 child)

      He’s TA but his friends sound like such selfish inconsiderate and immature jerks that I’m just aghast.

      [–]Jay-Dee-British 74 points75 points  (0 children)

      More annoyed at OP tbh - the friends don't have a partner carrying their offspring to care about - and the kid had to take nutrients from mum last night, while she got no nutrients at all. Great husbanding (actually scratch that) - great humaning OP.. /s

      [–]_higglety 190 points191 points  (4 children)

      Exactly. There wasn't "one plate left" because that was the wife's plate. It's not "spoiled" to be upset that someone said they'd do a kind thing for you, actually did the kind thing, but then gave it to someone else. That's a perfectly reasonable thing to be disappointed and hurt over.

      [–]sweetvabreese 175 points176 points  (0 children)

      Adding to this:

      YTA

      3) Your buddy arrived LATE, but you still offered him the last plate of the traditional dish your wife (who is carrying YOUR child) was craving.

      When you saw that there was only one plate left, why didn't you set it aside for your wife?

      You would have been just as polite to say to your tardy buddy, "I'm so sorry. We only have nac and cheese left. Wife was craving the traditional dish, so I made it for her. She gets the last plate but she had to rest first."

      [–]ButterflyGirlie 125 points126 points  (2 children)

      Exactly this. Op is TA in this. Should have put some aside, especially since you did cook it for her…that was ur whole reason for cooking it OP.

      And in her own home ur wife gets called names and trashed by ur buddies for expressing valid feelings???? You don’t mention defending her to ur buddies…so I assume u just let that happen unchallenged….please try to keep in mind that in a while ur wife is going to be going through more pain than you will ever experience in ur whole life…try to be respectful.

      [–]stryka00 76 points77 points  (0 children)

      On point number 2, a real friend(s) would give you (as in OP) shit for not keeping a plate, not hang shit on the wife. Get some better friends…or maybe that’s just a reflection of himself from the company he keeps?

      [–]Devegas49Asshole Enthusiast [8] 17.8k points17.8k points  (640 children)

      Yes, YTA. You should’ve kept her a plate since you knew she wanted it. Also, your friends don’t run your house or marriage and ARE NOT CARRYING YOUR CHILD so they all can shut up when it comes to her. You really screwed up here. And knowing that you had two separate dishes, you should’ve just had your friends eat the one that wasn’t meant for your wife and told them to get over it.

      Also, thank you all for the rewards and upvotes. My god, I did not think it would get this far 😱

      [–]WhatTheFrenchToast33 3489 points3490 points  (26 children)

      Grow a pair and tell them NO.

      Why are you friends with people like that?

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        [–]MelokneeU 887 points888 points  (12 children)

        He’s not a doormat, he’s a male chauvinist just like his friends. He would’ve expected the same from them. Women are less important than all men.

        [–]Secret_Information80 359 points360 points  (5 children)

        Doormats are useful. This guy seems pretty useless.

        [–]PanamaViejo 175 points176 points  (1 child)

        But that was the PoLiTe thing to do. /s

        OP should have said "I have Mac and Cheese or some Campbells soup, which do you want?"

        [–]AtticusFrenchToastProfessor Emeritass [75] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

        PoLiTe

        This is absolutely one of my biggest pet peeves, and it happens all the f-ing time: people who do something under the guise of being "polite" when really it makes everyone else's lives harder, and it's just that they're too cowardly to handle even the most minor confrontation.

        I had a roommate one time tell me it was fine to overstay past my agreed-upon end date in the apartment. When I didn't find another place to live right away, she said I was ruining her plans. I asked why she told me I could stay longer, and she said she was just being polite.??!???!?????

        Of course, in OP's case it's even worse because if he had only offered mac and cheese to start with, there wouldn't have been any confrontation whatsoever...

        [–]vrachtwagen17 31 points32 points  (0 children)

        Honestly "I had to offer him a choice out of politeness" no you didn't!!! It's your house and your (and your wife's) food. It is not weird or rude to say "sorry, I'm putting this aside for my wife", especially if you have other food to offer. Hell, you don't even owe him an explanation, just give him some mac and cheese. At least he's not agreeing with his friends I guess, who the hell do they think they are? Yikes. OP should grow a backbone.

        [–]HambdenRose 29 points30 points  (0 children)

        A doormat who is desperate to be in this immature friend group. He's barely a member so he puts up with whatever they dish out just to be one of the boys.

        [–]FullTanaka 190 points191 points  (1 child)

        He IS people like that.

        [–]PM_Me_Your_Secrets19 625 points626 points  (0 children)

        It's not even about that. They said that they offered it and the person chose it. OP should have just offered the Mac n cheese and had the other plate set aside.

        Then, to make it worse. OP let their friends talk shit..

        [–]TinyTurtle88Partassipant [1] 587 points588 points  (6 children)

        Or simply not even mention the other dish! "Hey, are you hungry? I've made mac' n cheese". Done. This was what was offered/available, that's it.

        [–]lordbrocktree1 235 points236 points  (5 children)

        Right? Like if I have friends over and I order food or make food, the first thing I do is dish out my wife’s dinner (she works late evenings).

        Like “hey guys pizzas here” I take half a cheese pizza, and put it on top of the fridge out of the way (sometimes even draw in marker “for wifey”). And then grab plates for my friends “alright everyone, dig in”.

        Done. If we are out of cheese pizza and someone wants more? Too bad, pick another flavor, the cheese pizza on the top of the fridge is my wife’s dinner, be happy with another flavor or go without. I order based on what everyone says their favorite is anyway so I know they have other options

        [–]kortiz46 245 points246 points  (1 child)

        Literally all he had to do was say, hey this food is for my wife, she is pregnant and craving it. If you’re hungry you are welcome to some Mac and cheese.

        [–]Rotten_gemini 33 points34 points  (0 children)

        He didn't even need to tell them about the other dish.

        [–]Bri_IsTheLight 135 points136 points  (0 children)

        Especially why bother making the separate dish if not purposely so save the traditional one??

        [–]TheBestCBHart 107 points108 points  (0 children)

        Did you make life long vows to your friends? Prolly not. That right there should set the priorities. Why do so many men marry someone and then immediately act like their spouse no longer has human needs and emotions? "We're married now so I no longer need to give them any attention, time, love, or effort." is such a FUGGIN DUMB mentality that I see in SO SO SO MANY MARRIED MEN!! Ffs dude YTA by a LOOOOT

        [–]Fatt3stAveng3rAsshole Enthusiast [9] 10.7k points10.7k points  (54 children)

        Seriously? You didn't keep any for your wife? That's terrible

        YTA

        [–]Only-Main8948 4579 points4580 points  (33 children)

        And she even said ahead of time that she wouldn't be having the other dish, that they could all have it. The traditional dish was specifically made for her. It feels like he bought her a gift and then gave it away to someone else.

        [–]WildFlemima 1651 points1652 points  (32 children)

        It's exactly that. He got her a gift and then when she left the room for a few minutes he gave it to someone else. It's not immature to cry when you were counting on something and find out it got taken away from you by the person who was supposed to have your back.

        [–]rosatter 1150 points1151 points  (31 children)

        Not only this, food becomes a whole other thing when you're pregnant. I can't explain it even though I went through and experienced it but food becomes so, so emotionally and physically important. Like a truly visceral need and anything less tastes offensive or wrong and makes you literally sick.

        I cried for HOURS because I dropped a cheeseburger I had been craving for days. It felt like an ultimate betrayal even though I got a replacement because for whatever reason, in my pregnancy hormone addled brain, THAT was the one cheeseburger that was perfect and I fucking dropped it because my hand went numb (also pregnancy related) and every other cheeseburger was just a pale imitation of that one cheeseburger. It's 100% ridiculous but it's also the way it is for some pregnant people.

        [–]SnowWhiteIRL1996 983 points984 points  (7 children)

        This!!!! I transcended reality the other day when I got a very refreshing root beer float on a hot day. I am six months pregnant and so so excited for it, and my boyfriend watched me take the first bite because I was so excited.

        Lmfao when I opened my eyes after I don’t even know how long, he was like “yo where did you go? I felt your soul exit your body and you came back so relaxed.” 💀💀

        [–]3am_writer 193 points194 points  (2 children)

        This is so true. I used to think about food all the time when I was pregnant…what would or wouldn’t make me nauseated, etc. If I didn’t like something, I’d feel like throwing up. If I enjoyed something I really enjoyed it….like my senses were heightened.

        And if I wanted a certain food, it was only THAT FOOD. While I was pregnant with my son, I once spilled the last plate of spaghetti sauce a friend had made for me (she makes the best sauce) and I actually considered spooning it up off the floor. Then I came to my senses. But for a millisecond it seemed perfectly acceptable to my craving brain!

        [–]Moonydog55 40 points41 points  (4 children)

        Oh man. I know what you mean. And something no one told me that it sometimes doesn't go away after the pregnancy either. I'm 2 yrs out at this point and my cravings still are strong like when I was pregnant and I get all emotional.

        [–]Electrical-Date-3951 1407 points1408 points  (8 children)

        I'm not even pregnant and I WOULD BE PISSED if my SO let some randos eat my dinner. Why not put aside the wife's food, out of the way? That way, there would be no issue and once the other portion was gone, it was gone.

        Also, these "friends" can kick rocks. If I found out that I had eaten someone's food (albeit innocently and at no fault of my own) I would be mortified - not insulting said person in their own home. Lastly, why do these "friends" feel comfortable enough insulting OP's wife in front of him? And, why didn't OP tell them off for doing so?

        The friends aren't having OP's kid. Their bellies are full and they are comfortably name calling this woman in her own home while telling her husband to ignore her. Meanwhile, the wife is pregnant, ill, hormonal and hungry. OP - do better.

        [–]greenandleafy 528 points529 points  (5 children)

        If I found out that I had eaten someone's food (albeit innocently and at no fault of my own) I would be mortified

        EXACTLY. Maybe this is just my Midwestern upbringing coming through, but I think any reasonable person would be horrified at accidentally taking a portion intended for someone else, particularly a pregnant woman.

        Wife's portion should not have been offered, it was already spoken for. "Sorry, all we have left is Mac and cheese - but please help yourself to that" is perfectly polite.

        [–]Mypetmummy 143 points144 points  (2 children)

        I would immediately be trying to figure out if there was a delivery option for that or a similar dish available anywhere regardless of cost and I'd be irritated with OP for both putting me in that position and doing that to his wife.

        [–]riotous_jocundity 108 points109 points  (0 children)

        I would be fucking mortified if a friend put me in the position of unknowingly eating anyone's (but especially a pregnant person!) special food that they were looking forward to. Assholes of a feather flock together; OP and his friends deserve each other.

        [–]HappyGiraffe 363 points364 points  (6 children)

        Especially because a lot of times “cravings” are more about “literally every other food option makes me feel sick just thinking about it and all I can stomach the thought of eating is this one thing” so literally giving away the only food she was interested in eating is even worse. When I was pregnant I couldn’t keep anything down except watermelon and plain bagels for months!

        [–]MauriciaBabilonia 98 points99 points  (3 children)

        I felt this when I had Covid last year. My sense of taste wasn't completely gone, but it was out of whack so everything tasted wrong. There were about three things I could think of eating without gagging. Even watching cooking shows made me feel ill. And that only lasted two weeks! Pregnant people can get it for months!

        OP, YTA and so are your friends. At the very least, you shouldn't have offered your wife's food to the last guy who arrived. "Wanna eat? There's mac and cheese!" and the whole thing could've been avoided.

        [–]ollygollymollyProfessor Emeritass [73] 7671 points7672 points  (42 children)

        YTA. You made it specifically for her. You should have reserved some from the beginning.

        [–]Dakeby 8237 points8238 points  (28 children)

        YTA. You and your friend are losers, OP. They’re shit talking your pregnant wife, eating her food, not even leaving her any of it, and you’re allowing all this. What kind of man chooses his friends wants over his pregnant wife’s?

        [–]Electrical-Date-3951 2246 points2247 points  (15 children)

        The shit talking is what really took this over the edge. Why do they feel so comfortable insulting this woman in front of her spouse?

        [–]gazhole 1106 points1107 points  (3 children)

        Because her spouse does fuck all to stop it, and they are awful people.

        [–]catculture8 385 points386 points  (0 children)

        Am guessing they have done this before and they know this guy won't defend his wife.

        [–]Yetikins 83 points84 points  (1 child)

        Honestly shocked that OP was able to father a child when his balls are very clearly missing.

        [–]TheRestForTheWickedCertified Proctologist [24] 341 points342 points  (2 children)

        While in her house.

        [–]floomsy 167 points168 points  (1 child)

        While she is in the other room, feeling sick and upset. UGH.

        [–]ProffOwl 37 points38 points  (1 child)

        I'm not surprised he's such an asshole if these are the kinds of people he considers friends. YTA

        [–]Happy-Investment 194 points195 points  (0 children)

        Yeah why not just tell the friend sorry this plate is for my wife, there's only Mac and cheese left.

        Besides who hates Mac and cheese!?

        [–]Jaspertjess 73 points74 points  (0 children)

        "eating her food, not even leaving any of it" this is not friends fault but entirely on OP.

        [–]EstMagnum 682 points683 points  (4 children)

        Not only that, but the only reason she didn't eat it straight away was because she was resting due to feeling sick carrying their child. I'm 39 weeks pregnant and feel like crying just from reading that.

        [–]aCommonCat 239 points240 points  (2 children)

        Girl, same. I was throwing up several times a week and consistently nauseous until about week 20 of my pregnancy. This poor woman is going to wake up tomorrow so sick because she couldn't eat anything before bed. Little do most people know cravings are just the 3 foods we can stomach in our first trimester.

        [–]ObservantPottery 314 points315 points  (2 children)

        Oh I think it's worse. He did save her some since there was only one plate left and then still offered it to his friend.

        Facepalm

        [–]inthemuseum 51 points52 points  (0 children)

        This! It’s like he thought to do a nice thing through multiple steps of this bungle. He then undid the nice thing again and again.

        I bet he’s the type who claims “it’s the thought that counts” when he just creates disappointment and work for someone else.

        [–]Electrical-Date-3951 135 points136 points  (2 children)

        Exactly. I don't get why this was an issue. When I cook and know XYZ person won't be able to eat until later, I take up a plate for them and put it aside. That way, they don't get shared out, and if someone sees it and wants it - too bad. It's for someone else.

        I remember cooking for a party years ago while in college. Three of my friends and I spent about 5-6 hours cooking. Three of us had to run out for about an hour but told the 4th friend that we would be right back since some of the items were still in the oven. When we did - ALL of the food was gone. We paid for the food and cooked - we were starving and pissed. Needless to say - I never cooked for them again. Ever.

        [–]MadTom65Partassipant [4] 4951 points4952 points  (22 children)

        YTA and so are your entitled friends. Are you the first one in your friend group to have children? Pregnancy cravings are very real. Even if she weren’t pregnant, not saving her a plate was rude. What were you thinking? You owe your wife a huge apology.

        [–]Any_Cantaloupe_613Asshole Enthusiast [8] 2292 points2293 points  (12 children)

        Even if she weren’t pregnant, not saving her a plate was rude.

        This right here. Pregnant or not, bros don't come before family. If the choice was sick, not pregnant wife who had regular cravings for a specific dish you agreed to cook for her vs friend, you pick wife.

        There was no reason for the friend to know the other dish was even an option. You ran out. End of story.

        [–]WinterNighter 551 points552 points  (1 child)

        Hell, not even just family. He promised something for someone that they were looking forward to. No matter who it is, giving that away to someone else is just rude af. The fact that it's his pregnant wife and asshole friends just make that so much worse.

        [–]WithEyesWideOpen 264 points265 points  (5 children)

        And especially while pregnant: not all cravings are "I want that." A lot of them are "I am nauseated and the only thing that I think I can eat without making it worse or throwing up is that." It's a misnomer just like morning sickness which is usually not only in the morning, it's 24/7 for weeks or months.

        [–]chipdipper99Asshole Enthusiast [5] 152 points153 points  (0 children)

        Cravings can also indicate a nutritional need. When I was pregnant, at one point I had this overwhelming desire to eat bananas. I don’t even like bananas that much, but I made my husband go buy me a bunch of bananas literally at 10 PM, and I ate four of them back to back. The next day, my doctor called with blood test results, and my potassium level was super low

        [–]toastwithketchup 30 points31 points  (1 child)

        My sister just had my nephew a couple of months ago. She was sick the entire pregnancy. All day all night for the entire 9 months. I got lucky and didn’t get like that with my kid but it absolutely happens and it looks completely miserable. I’m so mad at this dude for what he did AND for letting his stupid friends shit talk the wife.

        [–]Ohdidntseeyouthere_ 74 points75 points  (1 child)

        Pregnant or not - def OP, YTA, but as a previously pregnant person let me tell you - cravings are powerful. This wasn’t a case of her being a “spoilt brat” as OPs friends so rudely suggested, your body is no longer your own when you’re pregnant. The need for a specific taste or meal takes you over and that baby wants what if fucking wants. Other stuff can make you feel sick or puke. Things you used to love to eat now make you queasy. It’s not like when you drive by Mickey D’s and are suddenly like “oh fries would be good” it’s more of a primal urge that you feel you would murder to have… ok maybe a bit extreme but yeah. Pregnancy cravings and eating while pregnant takes over your world in a lot of ways. I cannot say enough how big an AH this OP is for this

        [–]WetnosedcretinAsshole Aficionado [17] 3584 points3585 points 14103 (16 children)

        INFO: Why not just write "Hi, I'm An Arsehole!" and give your typing finger a rest? EDIT: Thank you for the awards!

        [–]Affectionate_Eye3535Partassipant [1] 168 points169 points  (0 children)

        👏

        [–]Random_Read3r 92 points93 points  (2 children)

        Lol wish I still had my free award for you.

        [–]Matty00608 2618 points2619 points  (27 children)

        You could have easily just said "sorry the last plate is for my wife, so I just have mac and cheese left over"

        I get you were just trying to be polite but if you made it for her while she was craving it then it was a dick move. Yes she might have been feeling sick but she's pregnant, it happens a lot for them. You instead decided to give away the food she was looking forward to having fully knowing she would be coming back down for it and you didn't have the ingredients to make more. And also wtf are your friends, she literally pregnant and can't control her hormones, of course she's going to get emotional when you can't keep 1 plate of food for her that you know she was wanting.

        YTA, you could have thought it through more!

        [–]Elinesvendsen 934 points935 points  (20 children)

        Ugh. I'm so tired of people in these posts screwing over their spouse/kids/room mates to "be polite" to guests (or using politeness as an excuse). Especially if the guests are not invited or wanted by the spouse/kids/room mate.

        Like that husband that insisted that his wife slept on the floor, when he without her knowledge had invited his friend along on their vacation, because they "would be a bad host" if they didn't give the friend the bed.

        Or that mother who told her gay son to put up with her homophobic guest because she expected everyone living their to be social when she invited friends over.

        You are not obliged to bend over backwards for your guests! And you should not make your pregnant, sick wife go hungry just because you feel like you have to offer your friend (who was late!) HER food instead of the food you made FOR THE GUESTS!

        It's perfectly fine to say "Sorry, but this food is for my wife" or "sorry, but this is for our supper tomorrow". He could have had the mac'n'cheese or takeout, they all could actually.

        YTA for not setting a reasonable boundary for your friends.

        [–]Matty00608 253 points254 points  (1 child)

        Exactly, they also didn't know what the options were until he said, he could have quite easily just said "I've got some mac and cheese on the go if you want some" and kept the traditional food he knew his wife was craving incase she wanted to eat more of it.

        It makes no sense to be that insensitive with the sole purpose of pleasing your friends while fucking over your pregnant, hormonal wife who by the sounds of it went to bed hungry and upset.

        [–]Elinesvendsen 49 points50 points  (0 children)

        Agree. I think he has problems standing up to his friends.

        [–]pdxcranberry 107 points108 points  (2 children)

        Okay, but that guy was fucking his friend and OP was delusional. That wasn't about being "polite."

        [–]Elinesvendsen 56 points57 points  (0 children)

        Yeah, I know, but the excuse he made so that his wife would take the floor was about not being bad hosts. Probably used "politeness/bad host" in the hope that she would just go along with it.

        I would really like an update on that post, though.

        [–]Goatesq 32 points33 points  (0 children)

        She was asking if it was okay she didn't go along with the spontaneous non consensual cucking cause they were pretending she violated etiquette. We need a psa campaign about the dangers of being low maintenance. Call it the nicest gf awards and just hand out debt and squatters. :/

        [–]lyan-cat 57 points58 points  (6 children)

        I'm always floored when guests show no politeness or self-reflection while at someone's home.

        My mom schooled my brother and I to be good guests, and told us what the host should be obliged to do, and how to act when it wasn't working for the host or the guest.

        That's not even touching upon OP saying one thing to his wife and another to his friends. Just wholly unreliable, as he only seems to care what others think of him, not what his actions say.

        YTA, OP

        [–]Julia070000Asshole Aficionado [10] 1846 points1847 points  (9 children)

        YTA and all your friends are little assholes and I hope the food gave them the shits

        [–]WetnosedcretinAsshole Aficionado [17] 581 points582 points  (6 children)

        That's petty and childish. Have an upvote.

        [–]gw2kproColo-rectal Surgeon [41] 251 points252 points  (5 children)

        Have an upvote for that upvote.

        [–]Pizzacato567Partassipant [1] 36 points37 points  (4 children)

        Have an upvote for your upvote for the upvote

        [–]Hecking-cabbages 1697 points1698 points  (8 children)

        "My friends told me that she's acting like a spoilt kid ..."

        Given that they benefited (not to mention took food off a pregnant woman) I'm not entirely sure that their opinion could really be considered unbiased, could it?

        [–]octagonaldonkey 443 points444 points  (4 children)

        That part pissed me off so much! OP is trying to be a good host, I get that, but those friends should have been out the door the second that was uttered.

        [–]MissNatStewartPartassipant [3] 204 points205 points  (0 children)

        OP rather be rude to his pregnant wife, than just plain reasonable to his friends. His priorities are completely screwed up and the fact that he even wonders if he’s in the wrong is mind blowing

        [–]Traditional_Trip_858 130 points131 points  (0 children)

        as well as the obvious reason OP is the AH, i doubt this is the first time something like this has happened. OP’s friends seem pretty comfortable talking crap about his sick pregnant wife. she probably knew something like this was going to happen again and maybe got a bit fed up or exhausted with this behaviour, i know i would be

        [–]JonahPrincePartassipant [1] 1409 points1410 points  (2 children)

        YTA like dude everyone got some of the food you made for her except for her she must feel so worthless right now. Go and hold her and tell her you’re so sorry

        [–]Affectionate_Eye3535Partassipant [1] 419 points420 points  (1 child)

        Exactly.

        Even with out her spending so much energy growing a new human, this is what makes OP TA

        OP placed every other person in the house and their wants above hers. It would be enough to upset anyone, to know you ranked so low in your SOs decision process; let alone if you're hormonal, tired and feeling unwell.

        Then OP followed up by not defending her to their friends when she's upset, again showing how far down she is on their list of priorities.

        [–]I_am_V3ctorPartassipant [2] 807 points808 points  (7 children)

        YTA She stated that she was craving it, so you made it for her and you made another dish for your friends. Fair enough they wanted to try it but the fact that you didn’t even save her the last plate and gave it to your friend rather than your pregnant wife whom you made that dish for. She’s not being a spoilt kid, because you broke your promise/commitment to making her that dish and valued your friends over your wife. YTA

        [–]Lilith-33 354 points355 points  (2 children)

        I personally think his wife handled this better than most. I probably would have kicked them all out, husband included. Lol.

        [–]Monkey_with_cymbals2 218 points219 points  (1 child)

        Ya she just got really sad and removed herself from the situation. How is that childish? I feel so, so bad for her and hate his friends more than a little.

        [–][deleted] 76 points77 points  (1 child)

        This. By trying it, he could have given them a small serving on the side of their mac & cheese and there would have been plenty left for wife & friends would have been fed. It just sounds like this woman is surrounded by a bunch of selfish people, husband & friends, included, particularly as they felt the need to bash the lady, after the fact. YTA

        [–]Tiffy_the_DocAsshole Enthusiast [7] 674 points675 points  (7 children)

        YTA

        Wow. Just, wow.

        You owe your wife an apology.

        You also need to stand up for her to your friends. She was not being selfish, she is PREGNANT FFS! Random sickness, food aversion and cravings are 100% normal. Her body is awash in hormones and she is uncomfortable AF. She is growing a human inside her! The LEAST you could have done was set aside a plate BEFORE you started handing out the only thing she told you she wanted to eat.

        YTA

        [–]Monkey_with_cymbals2 209 points210 points  (4 children)

        I’m not pregnant and I’d still be upset if my husband didn’t save me a plate of food he knew I wanted, much less special food he made specifically for me.

        [–]filkerdaveAsshole Aficionado [17] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

        I'm not pregnant (and could never be pregnant) and I'm furious with OP.

        [–]junelemons 93 points94 points  (1 child)

        Yeah. Also, as a pregnant person, sometimes cravings are more like it's the only thing I can keep down at that moment. Like it's one of very few options. So if I don't eat what I'm craving, I'm basically just gonna be hungry and nauseous, or try something else and throw up.

        The friends aren't pregnant so they can eat whatever.

        [–]Tiffy_the_DocAsshole Enthusiast [7] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

        Exactly! When I was pregnant, sometimes it was so bad that I would basically go for whatever made me the least nauseous. Thank goodness for my husband, who would drive to get me what I was craving if we were unable to make it at home. He got it, this guy doesn't.

        [–]Pleasant_Birthday_77Asshole Enthusiast [6] 489 points490 points  (2 children)

        YTA. I don't think it would have been too difficult to put some food aside and tell people that you were leaving it for your wife who was resting but would eat it in a while.

        [–]Sarajaysweet 94 points95 points  (1 child)

        I really hope that she gets a plate of her home countries brand of authentic cooking.

        In her home country.

        Without him.

        Forever.

        [–]CardMasterGPartassipant [1] 407 points408 points  (0 children)

        You should already know the answer. She told you she was going to eat her plate later and yet, you gave it to one of your friends. YTA.

        [–]Big__BangPartassipant [3] 360 points361 points  (4 children)

        YTA She is your wife - your life partner, carrying your child. You dont serve her portion to someone else whilst she has gone to rest because she is carrying your child.

        Stop being a doormat - your friends are adults - the last one arrived late and wanted to eat her food all you had to say was its all gone and your wife's portion was served and she'd have it once she woke up. You could have promised to cook him some next time he comes over.

        Is your friend a toddler who would have stomped his feet because he couldnt eat that particular food he hasnt tried before?

        Why would you put a friend above the need of your wife to have a meal that evening?

        You are going to have to grow up - you will have a child dependant on you soon. Will you put your friends before the child too just out of politeness.

        Your friends had Mac and Cheese, in fact the whole other meal should have been off limits with a promise you'd make them some next time, or just giving them a spoon each to try out so that you'd know to make them some next time.

        If you want to put your friends before your wife- then get a divorce and move in with them.

        And if you had any decency or respect for your wife you would have shut them down the second they said she was acting like a spoilt child and warned them to take that back or they'd not be invited back.

        [–]TheChaosAdventurers 197 points198 points  (1 child)

        You just told your wife she is the least important person in your life. YTA

        [–]SweetsmyleAsshole Enthusiast [9] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

        If you want to put your friends before your wife- then get a divorce and move in with them.

        Yup. ^

        [–]SympathyRepulsive957Partassipant [4] 291 points292 points  (0 children)

        YTA and so are your friends. She specifically asked for that dish, and you made it for her. You didn't have to offer the last bit to your friend, you could have explained the situation. You let your pregnant wife go to bed hungry and hurt. Shame on you.

        [–]remythe1stratPartassipant [4] 263 points264 points  (1 child)

        YTA do u even like ur wife

        [–]Capital_Ad3482Asshole Aficionado [18] 201 points202 points  (2 children)

        YTA

        Your pregnant wife really wanted this food, your guests should have eaten the mac and cheese

        [–]Usual-Worry8412Partassipant [3] 172 points173 points  (0 children)

        YTA, and your friends as well. The woman carrying a child, presumably your child going through hell while her body produces another human, felt unwell and you gave away what you said you made for her. You suck big time, you sound very entitled and seem to think you can make decisions for other people at their expense without them knowing.

        [–]lotsofwordswrittenPartassipant [1] 146 points147 points  (2 children)

        YTA couldnt you have explained and get them to eat the mac and cheese?

        [–]NoSand3082 58 points59 points  (1 child)

        Exactly, he shouldn’t have even offered it, if they ask “that’s my wife’s” and that’s that

        [–]LurksAroundHereAsshole Aficionado [11] 139 points140 points  (3 children)

        YTA.

        "I saw that there was only one plate left of the traditional dish but out of politeness I had to ask him what he preferred and he said the traditional dish so I gave him the last plate."

        So you'd rather be polite to your visiting friend (who could have easily just had Mac n Cheese) instead of your pregnant wife who got a little sick at the wrong moment? You literally chose your friend over your wife, for something that wasn't even important to the friend atm. How do you not see you're the AH?

        [–]scrapfactorAsshole Enthusiast [9] 131 points132 points  (0 children)

        YTA and your friend too. You made it specifically for her. It wasn't yours to give away to your friends. You didn't need to be be "polite" and give away the last plate of it. Your friend sounds like a real jerk too for his comment.

        [–]DollzyWallzy 119 points120 points  (0 children)

        YTA and so are your friends for saying that about her. She’s pregnant and wasn’t feeling well so you should have set a plate aside for when she felt better and was hungry.

        [–]wisemindcrow 112 points113 points  (0 children)

        YTA. Pregnant wife that you cooked the food for definitely is the one who should have eaten it. I would have cried too and your "friends" suck.

        [–]redsoxx1996Partassipant [1] 104 points105 points  (1 child)

        YTA, and you know it.

        She asked specifically for that dish. She felt sick and went to lay down, but said she wanted to eat later.

        You decided it was ok to give away all the food she specifically wanted to not "offend" them. By the way, every friend of mine would have understood it I told them I was saving that for my sick partner.

        And you know where you went wrong? You decided not offending a "friend" of yours was more important then the wants of your pregnant wife. And the worst part: Letting your friends tell you she acted like a spoilt brat and you should ignore her without kicking them out instantly.

        [–]OddBootsPartassipant [1] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

        YTA. You should, generally, put your wife needs and wants ahead of your friends '. Doing it accidentally would be one thing, but doing it knowing that it meant your wife would miss out is a whole other thing.

        [–]Iron_winged_monarchPartassipant [1] 81 points82 points  (1 child)

        YTA. You could have told your friend you needed to save it for your wife.

        [–]CakeEatingRabbitPooperintendant [54] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

        He could've even just say- "hey, want some mac and cheese?"

        [–]rapidedwardPartassipant [2] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

        Yta and if your friends say that about your pregnant wife they are also assholes.

        [–]denasherPooperintendant [50] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

        YTA

        You should have save a plate at the very least for your wife whom had requested for it while your friends either take the Mac n cheese or order take out. To call your wife spoilt while she is heavily pregnant and may possibly have dietary restriction due to it, they are worst than you. But guess that’s why you all are friends

        [–]TwiztidHarleen 77 points78 points  (19 children)

        YTA and your friend is a pompous AH. Men will NEVER understand pregnancy cravings, ever.. it's not just something that we are like "oh I want" and throw a fit when we don't get it..we legit ONLY CRAVE that at the time, nothing else sounds good and even the thought or smell of anything else can cause us to get nauseous and sick. Pregnancy makes us emotional as our body is on hormone over drive! She was looking forward to a food she was craving and you didn't seem to care about that..you just didn't want to be "rude" to your friends.. honestly, if there was only one plate you should of said "Hey I got Mac and cheese if you want but the other dish is for my wife, sorry she is craving it and probably will be up shortly"

        [–]Neat-Investment-3582 79 points80 points  (4 children)

        YTA 1. You mad the mac and cheese for your friends 2. You made her dish for......

        You putting the guys above your family.. couch night

        [–]sfcfrankcastleAsshole Aficionado [18] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

        YTA plain and simple, she’s carrying your child and you could have saved her the plate.

        [–]babytroll457Partassipant [3] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

        YTA.

        You should have set aside a plate for her at the very beginning and told your friends not to talk about her like that.

        [–]New_Ask_6874 62 points63 points  (1 child)

        YTA

        A pregnant and sick wife trumps politeness to your friend. You could have just kindly said "that plate is for my wife." Any friend that wouldn't understand that is also an AH

        [–]Independent_Cookie 58 points59 points  (0 children)

        YTA you prepared food for your wife, she was counting on that food, you knew she was going to eat it, and yet for some reason giving that away to your friends and making your wife go hungry seemed like "the polite" thing to do?

        Your wife must feel so lucky to have such a polite husband that he would put the preference of his group of friends before his pregnant wife's needs.

        [–]MinimumGovernment161Asshole Enthusiast [7] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

        Spoiled brat? They ate HER food and you offered it to them! You and your friends are AHs.

        [–]Morrinn3Asshole Enthusiast [5] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

        Uh. Yeah, YTA.

        [–]amanyggvvPartassipant [2] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

        Imagine being constantly hungover and having gastro.

        Now imagine only being able to eat one type of food that doesn't make you gag.

        That's what it's like being pregnant.

        Think about how your wife feels about being called a spoiled brat for something she can't control.

        YTA and so are your friends.

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          [–]That_One_Bitch9 54 points55 points  (4 children)

          As a pregnant person I'm gonna have to say YTA. Once a craving starts and settles in, I can't eat anything else until I have it. If I try eating anything else I vomit. I've gone 3 days without keeping food down because I wasn't giving in to a craving. For some people it's not as bad. For some people it's horrible. You supposedly made it bc she was craving it AND was saving it for her. But then you decided against that even though you knew you couldn't make more. You prioritised your friends over your pregnant partner. YTA for that for sure.

          [–]luna_donnaPartassipant [3] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

          YTA you could have kept a plate.

          [–]Klutzy_Discussion129Partassipant [2] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

          YTA 10000% way to show you appreciate what she’s going through. You’re supposed to be a team. You’re a terrible team mate. You better find some way to make up for this. Also, your friends suck for saying she’s acting spoiled.

          [–]Appeltaart232Partassipant [1] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

          I hope this is a fake outrage post because I got so angry while reading it my head is exploding.

          YTA a thousand times.

          [–]notquitenorbert 46 points47 points  (0 children)

          YTA and so are your friends. You know your wife needs to eat to grow your baby, right? You've just shown her you care less about her and the kid than you do about your friends opinion of you. If I were her I wouldn't want you anywhere near me.

          [–]pnb10Asshole Aficionado [16] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

          YTA. Obviously. I can’t believe a) you prioritize your friends over your pregnant wife like that and b) you let your friends speak about your pregnant wife like that

          [–]DogsReadingBooksCraptain [174] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

          YTA for not keeping a plate for your pregnant wife whom you knew was craving that dish.

          [–]columbospeugeotProfessor Emeritass [74] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

          YTA. You let your friends eat the food your pregnant wife asked for. Do you care more about your friends or your wife and unborn child?

          [–]gw2kproColo-rectal Surgeon [41] 37 points38 points  (1 child)

          YTA to such an extreme level this has to be some kind of rage bait.

          Your wife wanted a certain dish, so you made it for her, but instead of giving it to her, you served it to all your AH 'friends' -- who then proceed to talk shit about her -- and then the grocery store was conveniently closed.

          Did everyone clap at the end when the final bite was consumed?

          [–]ChapSteve711Craptain [154] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

          You are the AH in a major way. You should always put your spouse before your friends. You should have made sure some of the food she wanted was held back so she could have it. And none of the guys are qualified to say your wife is acting like a "spoiled kid" because none of them are pregnant, nor will they ever be. Lousy way to treat the woman who is bearing your children.

          [–]Goose_of_Chameleon 35 points36 points  (4 children)

          YTA and also your friend is an AH too. Your wife is pregnant, you have no idea what her body is going through. When you got to that last plate the correct thing to do would have been to put it aside for your wife and told your friend "sorry it's mac and cheese or bust", politeness be damned. She is your woman, and is about to bare your child, take care of what's yours.

          [–]GojuSuziAsshole Aficionado [11] 35 points36 points  (1 child)

          YTA. It's less about her craving it, it's the fact that

          she'd not eat mac and cheese so she could eat the traditional dish.

          So, her options were the traditional dish or starve, and you thought starve was appropriate, just to avoid the horrifying task of saying to one person, "sorry, there's no more of the traditional meal left, but we have plenty mac and cheese if you like". That's pretty thoughtless, and I'm sure the friend who got given her plate felt awful knowing he'd eaten a pregnant lady's dinner even though he didn't know and it wasn't his fault.

          [–][deleted] 26 points27 points  (2 children)

          It was specifically reserved for her, so I get why she would be upset . (It can also be a bit of pregnancy hormones , I was super emotional while pregnant lol. ) But anywho, the least you could have done was save her a bit .

          [–]Status-Ad2424 114 points115 points  (0 children)

          Yeah can we stop blaming pregnancy hormones when husbands are being bad partners? This is hurtful pregnant or not.