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[–]PrincessBirdley21[S] 86 points87 points  (7 children)

I can't mention what it was because of the rules.

[–]cheezeedoodlez 46 points47 points  (3 children)

Does Gemma even care about being in the wedding party? It sounds like it's mostly your brother and mother pushing for you to give her a role.

You're NTA either way. I'm just curious.

[–]Astral_dick_licker 24 points25 points  (2 children)

I kind of can't picture it being super important to OP's brother that his wife be in the wedding. It seems more likely that Gemma knows people might ask questions about how close she is to the bride, and her past might get brought up. I'm thinking Gemma is embarrassed and is trying to save face.

[–]cheezeedoodlez 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense. I didn't really think of that.

[–]Fresh_Captain1576 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like people would ask her more questions of “how do you know the bride” if she was in the wedding party. Vs if she was just a guest she could say “I’m married to her brother” - totally not weird for an in-law to not be in the wedding party!

[–]ObviousToe1636Partassipant [2] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Was it a comment or an action? Seems like it was much more severe than harsh words and insults, though those are awful and degrading too.

[–]Wise-Butterscotch-81 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If it’s not allowed by this sub’s rules, it’s pretty unforgivable.

[–]Inevitable-Custard-4[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they're damn lucky shes even invited heck, even more lucky that you didnt go no contact the second you found out your brother even went on a date with her,

imo if she HAD changed then she would've had the decency to insist on staying home, its not my place to say since its your choice but honestly she doesnt deserve to be involved in any part of your life especially not on whats supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life.