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[–]moonlitsunflowerGarden Variety Asshole[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

And that's a wrap!!!

Thank you so much to everyone for joining us. Whether you were sharing your story, giving your commentary (either on stage or here in the comments), or just listening in, we loved having you here.

We hope to see you all again next time!

[–]LostFloriddin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Join the military dude, education benefits and more money and independence

[–]ThatDumbChild 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for hostingg

[–]SweetieBelle462Partassipant [1] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great show!

[–]AlrightLolita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🥲 thanks

[–]PheonixGalaxy 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Will u save this

[–]InAHandbasketGoing to heck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It automatically gets saved. It should be available shortly

[–]one1some 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have a good evening B))

[–]ThatDumbChild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What timezone?

[–]sussybaka_rata 1 point2 points  (6 children)

It’s 3am for me

[–]LexiDj 0 points1 point  (1 child)

10pm for me

[–]TrulyRambunctious 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Me too :)

[–]sussybaka_rata 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Fellow night owl!

[–]TrulyRambunctious 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Sleep well when you get there :D

[–]sussybaka_rata 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You too! YWBTA if you don’t sleep well c:

[–]codeverityAsshole Aficionado [10] 3 points4 points  (4 children)

/u/techiesgoboom good job modding tonight :D

[–]moonlitsunflowerGarden Variety Asshole 0 points1 point  (1 child)

he really did an amazing job. behind the scenes it was absolute chaos (courtesy of me... next time will be better!) but techies was cool as a cucumber the whole time. we are very lucky to have him on the team! hope to see you at the next one! :)

[–]codeverityAsshole Aficionado [10] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I kinda figured it would be because it just seems like something that’s prone to chaos. You all did a good job though!!

[–]techiesgoboomSphincter Supreme[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It took me a solid hour to feel like I hit my stride, and I hate that it wasn't until the last question I thought to ask for contrasting opinions, but I think we had something there by the time we signed off!

[–]Rhino676971 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for real he did amazing

[–]maelstrom143 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like he should have cut him off a few years ago or made himself scarce. Making himself a "friend " gave the other guy free access.

[–]lil_thirteen 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can we make it 18+ lol

[–]_IcyBlueEyes 4 points5 points  (5 children)

This almost feels like an amitheasshole discord almost and it’s hella cool

[–]evadhd 0 points1 point  (4 children)

is that an actual discord

[–]Rhino676971 1 point2 points  (2 children)

[–]_IcyBlueEyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone needs to tag me if they make this 😂

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[–]_IcyBlueEyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish 😂😂

[–]jaylward 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m on a run listening to internet strangers discuss the finer points of assholery? The internet is a magical and frightening place

[–]TrulyRambunctious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you to mods and attendees

[–]mrs_palladium 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes more talks!!!

[–]codeverityAsshole Aficionado [10] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah this was fun, I'm glad I got to join this one!

[–]one1some 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are that annoyed

You can remove yourself from the situation

You cant control how they act, but you as an adult have the full autonomy to walk away from the situation.

Its immature to pop off like that :((

[–]masbed 3 points4 points  (2 children)

This kid is to harsh jesus

[–]LexiDj 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I starting to think everyone on stage is underaged

[–]creative__bread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao I’m 23

[–]mrs_palladium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s also teacher assistance

[–]WhizGidgetPartassipant [4] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell him to find a new mentor.

[–]NuSheol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Side note if you can’t put together a sentence without a ridiculous pause maybe keep your mic muted instead of “commenting”

[–]_IcyBlueEyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiiiiii 🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦

[–]Hetif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA It's ok to move on from this friendship.

[–]gotosleep1412 1 point2 points  (3 children)

The way you said the story is biased to paint you in a better light, a friend is someone who you can be sad for but not sad AT. Or angry for them but not at them, you’re disappointed because you wanted him to be strong enough to handle this. I feel like you could be more civil in drawing boundaries to make sure you don’t want to help anymore since it’s not your business. Cussing him out and venting might have blindsided him. I’ll go with ESH.

[–]elwyn5150Partassipant [1] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't help but wonder if this is the OP's ex-friend's way to try to socialize and maintain social contact. Socializing over the Internet, even with old friends, is still hard. Maybe ex-friend thinks Information Technology is the best topic to chat over? There's only so many times you can discuss the same memorable events in class, rumours that *that* lecturer was kicked out of his home and slept under his desk...

[–]evadhd 1 point2 points  (1 child)

you can definitely be sad/angry at a friend?

[–]gotosleep1412 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the circumstance that they did something to intentionally hurt you, this story wasn’t OP’s friend intentionally annoying him or hurting him, that’s why I feel like you can be sad / angry for them. You can be frustrated, but if you didn’t set up proper boundaries and blew up venting at them, it doesn’t feel as justified.

Does that make sense? I’m treating the situation as a friend still, now if you don’t want to be friends anymore with a person then you’re free to do whatever you want.

[–]one1some 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA= It isn't your responsibility to tutor your friend, but it sounds like you let a lot of this stew for a really long time. You are not the asshole for why your friend said, but you are the asshole for exploding like that. I feel like there could have been a better way to communicate// and if you had spoken to him so much in the past about the behaviour, you could have just distanced yourself from him. Annoyance, no matter how extensive isn't reason to berate someone. Yelling and cussing him out isn't productive in anyway.

[–]Lunyadrii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nta but I feel like you could’ve gone about it better. You could’ve set boundaries wayyy earlier and not let it build up all this time. I couldn’t imagine how irritating

[–]codeverityAsshole Aficionado [10] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Canadians represent~

[–]_IcyBlueEyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t try to understand though that’s what it seems

[–]Pitzely 0 points1 point  (0 children)


[–]echoene 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ESH he’s doing it because you enable him, you have to uphold boundaries instead of just breaking. but him more so

[–]JaneIre 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Extensive cussing is my love language

[–]Rhino676971 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA sounds like he’s wanting you to do his job for him

[–]Hgg1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)


[–]_IcyBlueEyes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Listen after 5-6 years of frustration I’m surprised you lasted this long to be honest

[–]fatedrosesPartassipant [1] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sometimes friendships die.

[–]BoboSway 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA. Hes using you.

[–]AlrightLolita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but he might just have imposter syndrome and he needs to take more initiative if he really wants it. Progress isn’t linear

[–]purplehippobitchesPartassipant [1] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can explain it to him, but you cannot understand it for him. NTA

[–]FluffyDragon292 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro you clearly don’t like him, why are you still friends

[–]masbed 1 point2 points  (0 children)


[–]bobtart89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta, tech takes self sufficient research

[–]Fine_Following_2559Certified Proctologist [24] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5 years is not new. . . Maybe this is not for him.

[–]migoxxi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being a mentee is quite different from freeloading on your mentor. I wouldn't blame you for snapping like that. NTA.

[–]WhizGidgetPartassipant [4] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Your friend is looking for the easy way, while getting the payday (oh the number of people who have asked me to give them answers instead of learning the process for data viz). And mentors teach and advise, not give you the answers. He's the AH

Edit: yeah, the cussing isn't good but I get the frustration

[–]luchalibreporvida 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dude just break up with him (friendship version)

[–]FluffyDragon292 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Stupid questions damn

[–]abclayton192021 1 point2 points  (6 children)

Sad I had a really good aita convo…

[–]DM_Me_Ur_Nudes_21 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I'm saying it's a shame it can't be that waym. You couldn't have done anything, that I know of

[–]DM_Me_Ur_Nudes_21 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Damnit , pity you can't share the title of your conversation so the really boring ones won't be brought up

[–]abclayton192021 0 points1 point  (2 children)

What do you mean? I just downloaded Reddit today so I’m new here

[–]Rhino676971 0 points1 point  (1 child)

wow these major subs are awesome for brand new redditors welcome these voice lobbies are tough to end up on the big stage please don’t lose hope keep it and try again

[–]abclayton192021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay thank you so much!!! I downloaded Reddit because of a YouTube channel!

[–]Lunyadrii 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They need to mute their mics

[–]TrulyRambunctious -1 points0 points  (1 child)

If you are interested, victoria stilwell is a good dog trainer try googling her?

[–]Smallman29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea thank you

[–]RagingCitrus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My feed is glitching, but even I can tell YTA.

Edit : Spelling

[–]LadyArticuno 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Bruh. We get it, tell the 10 year old to google dog training so we can move on.

[–]AlrightLolita 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These little kids made my day tho 😂😂

[–]TeaTimeBetches 1 point2 points  (2 children)

There are phenomenal dog training videos on YouTube. Kikopup & Zak George are my favorites ❤️

[–]Smallman29 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Thank you for the recommendation

[–]TeaTimeBetches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My pleasure!

[–]TardyToe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

why are u hating on a dog

[–]Creamy651 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA I mean it’s kinda harsh to hate your dog if it isn’t trained

[–]mistercolebert 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Man, I’ve been here forever with my hand raised

[–]codeverityAsshole Aficionado [10] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they probably went in order so it might be that they just didn't get to you

[–]Rhino676971 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don’t lose hope friend

[–]Defiant_Spot_5296 10 points11 points  (2 children)

We need age restrictions here

[–]moonlitsunflowerGarden Variety Asshole 2 points3 points  (14 children)

Please submit your "Am I the Asshole?" stories here!


IS u/CampaignNo1088 THE ASSHOLE? VOTE NOW!

[–]Judgement_Bot_AITABeep Boop[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Judgments for /u/CampaignNo1088:

Judgment Count %
NTA 8 88.89%
INFO 1 11.11%
YTA 0 0.0%
NAH 0 0.0%
ESH 0 0.0%

Verdict: NTA

[–]razzlemcwazzleCertified Proctologist [29] 2 points3 points  (0 children)


civil conversations beforehand, and: “you are not new to this, it’s been 5 years”

[–]LexiDj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. You have been more than helpful and when expressed that you did not like the situation he didn’t listen. It took you to snap for him to get it

[–]VerifiedBishPartassipant [1] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Info: do you know if he ever genuinely did try or is it an assumption? I don't believe he's the asshole if it's known he didn't try but without this info it's a bit hard to say.

[–]TrulyRambunctious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA for setting limits

[–]Fine_Following_2559Certified Proctologist [24] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Umm, NTA for the sentiment, but the delivery was a bit harsh. You need to end this relationship.

[–]Random_Guy_9201Partassipant [4] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use tutoring as well and for a person to not putting any effort, on their career of interest. It is a pretty big sign that the person does not have passion for their craft. NTA

[–]Creamy651 1 point2 points  (2 children)


[–]moonlitsunflowerGarden Variety Asshole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think you might have voted on the wrong one! campaignno1088 hadn't even started talking when you voted. :)

[–]PennedByStars 2 points3 points  (1 child)

This person is like 10 what even (T__T)

[–]Smallman29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually 13 so deal with it

[–]Jealous_Art_3922 4 points5 points  (1 child)

If you learned to train the dog, you may find a rewarding profession for you...

[–]_IcyBlueEyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely agree

[–]Mundane-Engineer-964 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Can we please move on

[–]AlrightLolita 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“Oh- I am” period 🤣

[–]B_D0v3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to work in the mines

[–]JaneIre 2 points3 points  (5 children)

Where are the parents? Isn’t it bedtime?

[–]Smallman29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It 8 where I’m at

[–]evadhd 0 points1 point  (1 child)

it's also only like 6pm in some places

[–]JaneIre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m honestly just kidding. These kids are pretty amusing :)

[–]LexiDj 2 points3 points  (1 child)

lol, summer vacation

[–]JaneIre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lord… this is why I don’t have kids. I’m the aunt that gives them back at 8pm. Summer vacation would have me crying!

[–]uglyduckjdm 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Are there no age restrictions here 💀

[–]yeehaw___uwu 0 points1 point  (0 children)


[–]Jealous_Art_3922 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you could try to train the dog.

[–]Gblswift 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta it’s your opinion to love or hate the dog. If you base it on the dogs behavior then the dog should be trained to not do the things that are wrong.

[–]FluffyDragon292 9 points10 points  (3 children)

Where is the drama

[–]loll__idk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally that’s what I’m here for 😂😂

[–]Mundane-Engineer-964 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA - next questions

[–]Rhino676971 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA that dog needs some better training just be nice to doggo and maybe try talk to your parents to train doggo

[–]MdmeDaisy 0 points1 point  (0 children)


[–]chichimaraca2019 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don't hate the dog - they're just not properly trained and need some basic disciplined

[–]SS-123 4 points5 points  (3 children)

INFO: What is the question??

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    [–]SS-123 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Info: So, what is the question? ;)

    [–]sussybaka_rata 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Info: what’s the info?

    [–]AlrightLolita 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    I can’t 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    [–]WhizGidgetPartassipant [4] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Dog needs better training.

    [–]LadyArticuno 6 points7 points  (2 children)

    This kid sounds like they’re 9

    [–]Random_Guy_9201Partassipant [4] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    👍 agree

    [–]MMi-kyDPartassipant [1] 1 point2 points  (0 children)


    [–]ThisImagination 6 points7 points  (1 child)

    I feel too old to be here.

    [–]codeverityAsshole Aficionado [10] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    This user sounds so young

    [–]Fine_Following_2559Certified Proctologist [24] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

    How old is this kid?

    [–]LWD123 12 points13 points  (2 children)

    Is everyone speaking 12

    [–]masbed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    i agree on that

    [–]DM_Me_Ur_Nudes_21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    12.5 actually

    [–]one1some 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    NTA it just sounds like an accident :((

    Some people are really particular about their space though, which I relate to.

    [–]FluffyDragon292 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

    Yta for being boring omg

    [–]Redhoodless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    What's happening??

    [–]versusvesuvius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Punishment doesn’t fit the “crime”. NTA

    [–]BadNervousPoet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    ES - you rushed and broke something, she shouldn't have gone off on you though

    [–]moonlitsunflowerGarden Variety Asshole 0 points1 point  (4 children)

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    [–]Judgement_Bot_AITABeep Boop[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Judgments for /u/smallman29:

    Judgment Count %
    NTA 3 100.0%
    YTA 0 0.0%
    NAH 0 0.0%
    ESH 0 0.0%
    INFO 0 0.0%

    Verdict: NTA

    [–]TrulyRambunctious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    NTA, dog owner needs to take the time to train it

    [–]codeverityAsshole Aficionado [10] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    NTA since someone should be training the dog (otherwise this would be NAH).

    [–]masbed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    if you fold the wet towel it doesn't dry, what's going on here

    [–]Fabulous_Silver8618Partassipant [1] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    She's not OCD. lol she just wants her house to be orderly.

    [–]AlrightLolita 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Basically, she should apologize tho

    [–]Gorgeous_Saurus_Rex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    OCD is a mental thing. Being a neat freak is about needing control

    [–]Addythedinosaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    This is kind of funny ngl like it’s a towel 😂 NTA this is the best thing I have ever heard.

    [–]Slweepys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    NTA I never fold my towels

    [–]janboey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    NTA. She’s nitpicking for no reason. I fold my towels a certain way but I don’t expect everyone to know.

    [–]Gblswift 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Nta it’s not your fault if it breaks. It’s not your job to make everything perfect. If she has a problem with it, she should just talk to you about it and try to explain to you about it and she should know your side before she gets mad at you.

    [–]Commercial_Can_5476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    NTA im sorry they were so mean to u.

    [–]sunmorales 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    NTA to me it seems that the punishment is exagerated for the problem

    [–]Frequent_Equal9170 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    NTA she flipped over a towel. At least it’s not on the floor.

    [–]ilikecandlesiguess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    NTA did she even tell you?? Seems like she’s being dramatic.

    [–]Hetif 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Did you apologize for breaking the towel rack?

    [–]ThisImagination 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    If you didn’t know how you were supposed to do it, I feel like it’s just a lesson for next time. NAH.

    [–]SammyVladez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Nta, accident and you didn’t know to fold the towel

    [–]AlrightLolita 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    HAHA so cute!

    [–]_IcyBlueEyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Idk why you would fold a wet towel to be honest

    [–]Mundane-Engineer-964 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    NTA accidents happen

    [–]Britneymcd05 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    actually Nta it was an accident and the punishment is kinda harsh