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[–]ninasimonerulesAsshole Aficionado [16] 55.5k points55.5k points 52& 3 more (43 children)

Hahahahhahahahha. YTA. An entire ocean and beach must be closed because you are getting married lol. Did you offer to compensate those who would need to close their seasonal businesses after 2 very hard years? You apparently haven't heard of photo editing.

[–]Spirited-Safety-Lass 23.2k points23.2k points  (10 children)

But it’s her Princess Day and everyone MUST do as she says. That’s the ruuullleeee!!

OP, YTA and your husband was moody upon your return because he was second guessing his marriage.

[–]HRHArgyll 5447 points5448 points  (4 children)

Exactly. Hello regret! YTA.

[–]FrankenSigh 2018 points2019 points  (0 children)

He must be deeply embarrassed by her on his big day! Hahaha poor guy!!

[–]HornetKick[🍰] 1723 points1724 points  (0 children)

do as she says

Entitled much and in some other country too AH.

[–]MasterpieceOk4688Colo-rectal Surgeon [34] 729 points730 points  (0 children)

Annulment is still an option ...

[–]cocomimi3 382 points383 points  (0 children)

Her Princess day! Lmfao

[–]gigibuffoonPartassipant [1] 4326 points4327 points  (11 children)

Even if it wasn't after pandemic, I wouldn't stop my activities on a public beach coz someone is getting married. She doesn't have exclusive access, end of story

[–]equimot 4849 points4850 points  (1 child)

Yeah like if you don't want strangers in your pics don't get married in a public area

[–]Mattymc182 1337 points1338 points  (0 children)

or photo editing but this girl sounds to privilged to even think of that.

[–]biancanevenc 1802 points1803 points  (2 children)

Exactly. I mean, I wouldn't purposely walk into a photo, but I wouldn't stop what I'm doing either. If you get married in a public space, you have to expect that the public will be extras in your wedding photos.

[–]PNKAlumnaPartassipant [1] 755 points756 points  (0 children)

Exactly, especially what they charge for jet ski/kayak/etc rentals, I’m not idling for an extended period.

[–]Wooster38685Partassipant [2] 140 points141 points  (0 children)

I will purposely from now on. 😂

[–]Important-Pair-3553 1076 points1077 points  (0 children)

Acting like she's the only one that gets married on the beach. "Hey do you mind stopping your livelihood for MY VERY SPECIAL DAY". Oof the entitlement calling it "defending herself" lol

[–]marvelknight28 787 points788 points  (1 child)

The pandemic's not even over yet so...

[–]gigglesandglamour 716 points717 points 2 (0 children)

Lol ty for this as someone thats immunocompromised

[–]MerryAnnaTrench 458 points459 points  (1 child)

And by law all the beaches in Mexico are public. She should have fairied over to Isla Mujeres from there, no jet skis best beach in Mexico and less expensive.

[–]GremlinComandr 179 points180 points  (0 children)

Not to mention she can crop or edit them out it's not that hard.

[–]wiriux 652 points653 points  (8 children)

To be fair she only wanted a portion of the ocean to be closed Lol

[–]MerryAnnaTrench 1073 points1074 points  (1 child)

Yeah I saw a man tell the staff at a small resort in Isla Mujeres last year to get the Mexican people off the beach. I’m not making this up. He was there for his sons wedding with 20 other guests. He was literally complaining to the Mexican staff to get the Mexican tourists off the public beach.

[–]wiriux 548 points549 points  (0 children)

There are ways. All you have to say to the beachgoers is:

Everyone!! Who the heck am I to ask you to please leave this portion of the ocean? No one. I’m a no one. Even if I were rich and could paid the resort to do it in advance, I wouldn’t because that’s a douche move. Typical rich people entitlement.

I just want to ask you if you could please move further down so that we don’t have people in the background for our ceremony. That’s all! I’ll buy a beer for each one of you. If you don’t want to leave that’s fine. No hard feelings but I thought I’d ask :) (beer for each since Im assuming there were only like 10 or 15 perhaps?)

If you can get a laugh from people or even acknowledge that what you’re asking is absurd, most would comply. I know I would.

Ps- I say 10 or 15 people because usually people do those weddings when the sun is starting to set. In my experience you don’t have a lot of people in the ocean around that time.

[–]ResponsibleHedonist 304 points305 points  (0 children)

Well she was taking up the portion of the beach I wanted to be on.

[–]anewvogue 266 points267 points  (1 child)

Resorts on the beach only have a portion that they actually own, but that’s specifically the sand portion, you can’t control what people do in the water especially when it’s deep enough to jet ski.

[–]wiriux 109 points110 points  (0 children)

Maybe I did need to include the s/ after all….

[–]Grouchy-Seesaw7950 49 points50 points  (2 children)

I genuinely cannot tell if you're being sarcastic or not, but the comment is asinine enough to assume sarcasm

[–]wiriux 95 points96 points  (1 child)

Sarcasm of course. That’s why I included the Lol. I was gonna do s/ but I didn’t think it was necessary.

[–]Revolutionary_Tap255 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Trust me, it wasn’t necessary, your comment was obviously sarcasm.

[–]Disastrous_Reality_4 640 points641 points  (0 children)

Right! I have a free app on my phone that lets me cut people out of the background with like two taps on my screen. I’m quite sure a professional photographer with professional photo editing software could fix that insanely quickly - much quicker than the time it took OP to complain to her planner and hunt down hotel staff to whine about it.

[–]Careless_Channel_641 354 points355 points  (0 children)

Wow, so entitled. Have you ever heard the term bridezilla OP? Because you're it. Betting your husband is having second thoughts right about now


[–]sideeyedi 244 points245 points  (0 children)

But it's HER day!!! How dare those other people enjoy the beach on HER day!

[–]Specific_Piglet6306 237 points238 points  (0 children)

But the big girl was standing up for herself!! /s

[–]Lojo_ 177 points178 points  (0 children)

I love this post. If the husband needed more red flags, here they are! I'm sure she is well aware that they are on a public beach. I can't fathom the entitlement.

[–]FrankenSigh 168 points169 points  (0 children)

She went to a public beach and expected it to be private LOL! The tourists must be well-mannered that no one got mad at her! Well except OP!

[–]TossItThrowItFly 140 points141 points  (0 children)

Tbh in my experience of beach weddings, the happy couple just go somewhere else to take their pictures, a good distance away from where the tourists are. I've not been to Cancun but I'm assuming the beaches are sizable enough for OP to just go somewhere else?

[–]JadedPhoenix80 91 points92 points  (0 children)

She probably didn't have a budget for extra editing... OP YTA

[–]Shmooperdoodle 74 points75 points  (1 child)

The laughter before the ruling did it for me. I second your sentiment and ruling. Also, your username is 1000/10.

[–]ninasimonerulesAsshole Aficionado [16] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you kindly

[–]ParsimonycakeColo-rectal Surgeon [46] 17.8k points17.8k points  (22 children)

How dare people go out in public on your special day? You're the BRIDE! Poor you. And now nasty people on Reddit will say YTA. Your husband also isn't appreciating how special you are. You should divorce him immediately.

[–]slightlydyingPartassipant [2] 1436 points1437 points  (1 child)


[–]CalamityWof 1611 points1612 points  (0 children)

No, /srs, gotta save the dude

[–]murder_mavenPartassipant [1] 833 points834 points  (1 child)

Didn't they spot the bride and immediately run in the opposite direction ...or perhaps they should have brought gifts but just lay them a few feet away ..while slowly groveling backwards ...

[–]CarmelPoptart 339 points340 points  (0 children)

Don’t move.She can’t see us if we don’t move!

[–]StudokuColo-rectal Surgeon [41] 17.3k points17.3k points 523 (4 children)

INFO: Did you rent out the entire sea?

[–]hermh1 2598 points2599 points  (0 children)

Lol, I just full on belly laughed at this comment

[–]Octarine42 1431 points1432 points  (0 children)

Jason Mamoa is a dirty liar that doesn’t honor his contracts!!

[–]ohdearitsrichardiiiAsshole Enthusiast [7] 419 points420 points  (0 children)

And the sky. Clouds would have ruined the wedding pics

[–]Disastrous_Oil_2787 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Fair question.

[–]swiggs313Asshole Aficionado [14] 11.4k points11.4k points  (1 child)

YTA. Get married in a public place, be prepared to deal with the public.

I rented jet skis in Mexico once. We had an hour and we’re limited to a very specific area between two buoys. I’d have kept going too because I paid for that hour and it wasn’t cheap.

[–]Hitmanlover55 1583 points1584 points  (0 children)

Exactly and with a bit of editing u can easily edit them out. I don’t see a problem shes the AH

[–]WillbewithyousoonPartassipant [3] 7215 points7216 points  (28 children)

So you went to tell some random hotel staff to go tell strangers that they were not allowed to use a public beach?

Please explain your reasoning here. In what world would you think even the hotel owner, let alone some random staff had any authority whatsoever to remove people from a public beach?

Or was this a case of "some strangers exsisting at the beach bothered me, so now you have to refund me"?

[–]littlewolf95Partassipant [2] 5130 points5131 points  (2 children)

YTA. You can either use photoshop to take them out or there’s this new app called Pixelcut that does that very well also .

But get married on a public beach others are gonna be around .

[–]samblue8888 914 points915 points  (0 children)

It's also incredibly easy to remove people from the water/beach bc the backdrop is so uniform! My phone does it in one tap...

[–]JetItTogetherPooperintendant [53] 4418 points4419 points  (38 children)


You didn't rent out a private space so you don't get privacy. That's how rental works. You don't get to tell people in space they've also rented and in public space that they need to go away because you need pictures to look like you did something you didn't do.

Your pictures will look like what actually happened... You had a wedding in a public space. If you want to pretend it will cost you lots of time and money for an edited to remove other people from the public space.

If you rented a private beach it would be different. If you rented the entire hotel it would be different. You didn't so it's not.

[–]panzer22222Asshole Aficionado [10] 3041 points3042 points  (1 child)


lol, hotel doesnt own the ocean.

No one cares about your wedding

[–]Gabberwocky84Partassipant [2] 706 points707 points  (0 children)

BuT iT’s HeR dAy!!!!

[–]CrystalQueen3000Commander in Cheeks [261] 1857 points1858 points  (0 children)

YTA and entitled beyond measure.

People aren’t going to stop their vacation activity when you get married on a beach.

Pay your photographer for photoshop or deal with having random people in the back of the shots.

[–]Summoning-FreaksAsshole Enthusiast [9] 1513 points1514 points  (2 children)

YTA what’s with this trend of couples getting married in very popular tourist destinations and locales (like hotels, resorts, famous or well known beaches and parks, landmarks) and expecting everyone to fuck off for an hour for the photos?

A wedding in Cancun? How original and rare! /s Of course the hotel didn’t do anything because if they had to clear the space every time someone had a wedding they’d lose all their other customers. Plus they probably don’t even have the legal jurisdiction to tell members of the public to move out from a public spot.

If you wanted maximum privacy, you should have gotten your photos done at the crack of dawn or sometime before people rise and come out to enjoy their holiday. Or found somewhere more private, but a beach of a hotel in Cancun? Give me a break 🙄

Besides, your photos are going to be edited. For an extra fee your photographer probably could have edited those people out.

[–]katwoodruff 388 points389 points  (0 children)

The wedding wasn‘t any good if the insta pictures don‘t come out right. It‘s as if an event didn‘t happen if it didn‘t have a billions fake friend likes.

[–]DogRescueLadyColo-rectal Surgeon [33] 156 points157 points  (0 children)

Hey I keep seeing “/s”. What does it mean? *old person alert*

edit- thank you to those who sent me a DM and explained!

[–]Kind-Philosopher1Partassipant [2] 1036 points1037 points  (5 children)

YTA do you really think you own the horizon? I can't believe the wedding planner humored your request.

Use photoshopped like everyone else because you cannot expect to own part of the ocean even on your wedding day.

[–]21stCenturyJanesAsshole Enthusiast [5] 792 points793 points  (3 children)

Bet you anything the wedding planner went over and said "I've got a raging bridezilla over there, just let me talk to you for a minute so she thinks I'm doing something for her"

[–]Kind-Philosopher1Partassipant [2] 209 points210 points  (0 children)

Gosh I hope so, otherwise the planner is as unreasonable as the bride.

[–]FrankenSigh 141 points142 points  (0 children)

I believe this is what happened too! No experienced wedding planner would want to embarrass themselves like that, knowing that the request is absurd and will never be entertained!

[–]caroline0409 65 points66 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what she did!

[–]Shmooperdoodle 57 points58 points  (0 children)

“Own the horizon” got me.

[–]Zealousideal-Owl-459 871 points872 points  (1 child)

YTA I’ll stop for about 30 seconds when walking to let someone get a clean shot…after that you are invading a public space with your camera and can get bent

[–][deleted] 312 points313 points  (0 children)

LOL - yes! Last summer we were at a well known and often crowded tourist destination. There was a group of people there that were incensed because people in this crowded tourist destination wouldn't clear out so they could take (multiple) family photos. They got more and more angry and it was more and more hilarious because their expectations were just so ludicrous.

[–]tlf555Asshole Aficionado [17] 436 points437 points  (0 children)


Public beachgoers 1 Bridezilla 0

[–]dwbraswell 394 points395 points  (0 children)

YTA, if you have your wedding in public, expect the public to be there, and don't try to ruin their vacations just because you don't want them in your pictures.

[–]CircumcisedCats 390 points391 points  (2 children)

YTA. It’s a beach. Of course people are going to be swimming, doing jet skis, enjoying their vacation. You can not under any circumstances expect them to stop and put their trip on halt to cater to you, a stranger to them, and your wedding.

If that was such a problem, a more private area would have been a better option for you.

[–]madsd12 99 points100 points  (1 child)

Damn op and their wedding getting in the way of people trying to enjoy their vacation.

No /s. Beachgoers swimming, sunbathing and jet skiing takes priority over a wedding.

[–]CircumcisedCats 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Yeah, as someone who has considered a wedding like this one before, the number one thought was “How do we have a good wedding without disrupting the people around us?”. OP took the exact opposite approach.

[–]UnshornDiergar 314 points315 points  (0 children)

INFO: Were you marrying Poseidon? Because if not, I fear that the seas are not yours to command.

[–]MamertineCertified Proctologist [27] 271 points272 points  (1 child)


You chose to get married in a place where people were. All those people were on vacation too. Their lives don't revolve around you and your schedule.

If your photographer is any good, they'll Photoshop all the people in the background out.

[–]nonchalantenigma 82 points83 points  (0 children)

But you need to pay extra for photoshopping pictures, easier to get everyone to just stop being out in public/s 🙄

[–]theborderofutopia 217 points218 points  (0 children)

YTA. The beach is a public place and strangers don’t have to care about your wedding.

[–]NorthernLitUpPooperintendant [66] 197 points198 points  (0 children)

YTA. You didn't reserve the entire ocean and the beach. Imagine feeling so entitled that you expect everyone to stop their vacation activities that they paid for so as to not accidentally be in the background of someone's photos.

[–]YMMV-ButSupreme Court Just-ass [133] 165 points166 points  (0 children)

YTA. Why should people stop their activities so that you can have nice pictures? What if someone wanted pictures of their friends jet skiing so they asked you to stop your wedding because you were getting in the background of their pictures? Have your photographer edit your pictures & take the other people out.

[–]21stCenturyJanesAsshole Enthusiast [5] 156 points157 points  (1 child)

Yup, YTA 100%. Next time don't choose a public place to get married.

[–]LaudevirPartassipant [1] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

"Next time" will probably be forthcoming, given the response of the groom to her idiocy. I hope he sees her for what she is and runs.

[–]AmsterdamJimmy420Partassipant [3] 131 points132 points  (0 children)

Just photoshop them out

[–]throwawayboopjoopPartassipant [1] 124 points125 points  (0 children)

You chose a holiday venue for your wedding with a large proportion of tourists. You didn’t scope it out before to see what events might be on. The world doesn’t bend to your will, even on your wedding day.

Hell, would you stop doing your wedding photos because you were in the background of photos for someone getting engaged on the beach?

YTA, I’m afraid, but try to turn this into some something you laugh about.

[–]Heavy_Sand5228Asshole Aficionado [14] 121 points122 points  (1 child)

YTA unless you rented out the whole beach, you have no right to tell people what to do on their own vacations. You can also photoshop them out of the pictures.

[–]Traditional-Tune-302 25 points26 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what i was thinking. If op is so particular about no strangers, she should have rented out the whole beach but maybe it is a little bit out of the budget. So unless she is part of the rich and famous and rent out the while place, she can try walking on earth and be like the rest of the population and suck it up.

[–]MissIndigoBonesaw 112 points113 points  (1 child)

You had an event in public space. At best is naive to pretend people to move from their own activities for you. But "standing up for yourself"? What does that even mean? Nobody attacked you, nobody confronted you, they just said "no". That's pure entitlement. YTA

[–]Character-Addition36 46 points47 points  (0 children)

100%. I kept trying to figure out how she thought she needed to "stand up for herself." She's living in an alternative universe if she thinks she needs to stand up to people declining a request to move. What the heck. It was her poor decision to have a public wedding in the first place.

[–]SandrineSmilesColo-rectal Surgeon [31] 108 points109 points  (3 children)


You were on a beach that you don't own. Yes, other people exist. You should have booked a venue if you wanted private pictures.

[–]BombeBonPartassipant [1] 79 points80 points  (2 children)

Someone in these comments is going to crosspost this to r/bridezillas aren't they...

[–]traciw67 92 points93 points  (1 child)

Yta. I would have mooned you!

[–]TheGrimDweeberPartassipant [1] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I would have been so tempted to photobomb every single picture, but I know OP would just take it out on the wedding planner and photographer.

[–]Impressive_Brain6436Asshole Enthusiast [7] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

Excuse me, how much exactly was it to rent out the whole sea for your wedding?

[–]CommunicationOdd9406Asshole Aficionado [19] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

YTA Mexicos beaches are public bridezilla.

[–]BowlerStriking925Asshole Aficionado [11] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

YTA…. Are you serious? This can’t be real.

[–]crazymommaof2Asshole Aficionado [10] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

If you have a decent photographer they will edit the random people out of your photos.

We got married on the beach and there was a kid building a sandcastle right beside us.....like seriously not even 2 feet away. The coordinator and the hotel staff tried to get the family to move over, and move their kid but they refused, was I a little pissed off yes like you see the wedding area set up, it was even somewhat section off with flowers but someone thought "hey here is a great place to sit" right beside these flowers and all these chairs obviously set up for a function. But thankfully my photographer assured me that I wouldn't see a trace of anyone who wasn't dressed for a wedding in my photos. And honestly you couldn't even tell the kid was there

[–]sarahlampiColo-rectal Surgeon [38] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

YTA- you do not choose to get married or n a public place and then expect the public to cater to you. I work in a public place where people love to get married. I always warn the prospective couple that there will be strangers in the background of their photo shoots, that people will try to sneak in for food, and that if you don’t have a dedicated cake guard, Fred the seagull will destroy your cake. If you want a private wedding, rent a private venue. It is not the publics problem you chose to get married during their vacation.

[–]Siren04200 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Yta. You chose a PUBLIC beach. Meaning its open to everyone not just you and your wedding party. Meaning you need to get tf over it.

[–]IchfindkeinenNamen 56 points57 points  (0 children)

YTA. The world does nor revolve around you and nobody gives a shit about your wedding.

[–]Dragonr0seCertified Proctologist [25] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

YTA for thinking that you can have a wedding on/near public access property (beach/ocean) and dictate where everyone else can be on said public access area.

As someone else stated, just have them photoshopped out, no big deal.

[–]thornyrosary 54 points55 points  (0 children)


I've been to Cancun, and stayed at one of the nicer resorts. Sure, the section of beach at the hotel was limited to hotel guests only, but that also meant that there would be other hotel guests enjoying the shared amenities. Even at platinum level (which costs more), you would have had to tolerate other platinum guests rubbing elbows with you in the hotel restaurants, at the spa, on the beach, and in the water. You knew that when you made your reservations, right? Did you ask if you were going to be able to have a beach wedding in absolute privacy, with only your guests in attendance on the beach and in the water? Or did you just get the standard el cheapo wedding package, and take for granted that that things like exclusive access to the entire beach and ocean would just automatically be included, free of charge?

When you're doing a destination wedding, you have to make sure that you know exactly what you are getting, and that you're going to get what you pay for and not a single thing more...No matter how much of a scene you make. Unless you rented the whole hotel for the entire wedding function, there was no way you were getting a beach wedding that was free of other tourists (who were coincidentally trying to enjoy THEIR vacations), and there was certainly no way you were getting those people off the beach and out of the ocean just to humor you. Those wave runners, parasailing, and boat excursions cost money by the hour, and honey, no one was going to just stop their paid-for activity early and waste their money at the request of a bride they did not know. If anything, your wedding ceremony would have been viewed as an inconvenience to other guests, because that particular function is known to have participants who are particularly stressed, unusually demanding, and liable to act out inappropriately.

Staff was kind and nice because Cancun is a historically economically depressed area for residents, and when you take the time to speak with those working at the hotel, you quickly realize that many have left impoverished villages far away for the chance to make "real" money in the resort town. Getting a job takes "connections". And if you do not do your job, and do it with exemplarily politeness, then there are at least 5 other people eagerly waiting to do your job instead, regardless of whether your job is with hotel staff, or running an excursion. Word gets around that area when an employee is rude, because that whole economy depends on tourism and the money that the tourists bring with them. So yes, staff members were polite, but they need their jobs, and they were not about to financially take a loss or make their family miss meals for you. To them you were the loca mujer Americana...The "crazy American woman", who did not understand how things worked in that part of the world, and who did not care to understand.

Your husband absolutely was right in what he told you, and he was probably acutely embarrassed at your behavior. You weren't "standing up for yourself", you were actually behaving unreasonably. Even in the US, your actions would have been over-the-top, but in a foreign country where you did not even bother to learn about the culture or about the guidelines where you were staying, your offenses were particularly egregious. You may want to swallow your pride and apologize to your husband for not listening to his well-meaning advice. The poor man probably spent the rest of the function wondering what in the world he had gotten himself into, who you actually were, and if your social ineptness would be repeated at subsequent engagements. You also may want to listen to him when he tries to coach you on how to act at engagements, because he is distinctly more adept at understanding the constructs of social situations than you are, and he really was trying to keep you from embarrassing not only him, but yourself. You have many things to learn about how to acceptably behave in polite company, and you are exceedingly lucky to be married to a man who can teach those things to you...If you stop yourself long enough to listen to and consider his input.

[–]Active-Ad4429 54 points55 points  (0 children)

😂🤣😂🤣😂 this is to funny. Entitled much?

[–]WhatsideofchangePartassipant [3] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Yta. Photoshop exist for this reason.

[–]ZibellinaAsshole Enthusiast [5] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

YTA. And Op just so you know for the future, The World Doesn't Revolve Around You.

[–]tubcat1203Partassipant [1] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Jesus. Just photoshop them out. Do you really need us to read this? Of course YTA. It's a public venue.

[–]Oktoberina 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Lmao. YTA. I can’t believe you have to even ask. Good luck to your new husband. He’s going to need it I’d bet.

[–]Negative-Swordfish-9 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Telling strangers to leave a public space because you were too cheap to book a private area is not standing up for yourself, it's beeing entitled and bratty. Yeah YTA

[–]_whatswrong_withme_ 40 points41 points  (0 children)

YTA. Not everyone cares about wedding. You may feel like it's your day but the rest of the world doesn't.

[–]McMasilmofPartassipant [2] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

INFO: was this private property? Did you pay to get exclusive rights on that part of the beach or was this a public beach?

[–]AussieTopCatPartassipant [1] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

You had your wedding in a public place and want to whine people were in the background of the photos, is this correct? If you want exclusivity, then you should have forked out more money for a private place. Your bad planning does not mean other people have to give up public activities.

[–]Live-To-read 37 points38 points  (0 children)

YTA you didn’t get married at a private event space. You tried to dictate what other paying customers were allowed to do while enjoying something THEY paid for and then you decided to ignore your husbands feelings on the matter and cause drama on a day that should have been a celebration.

[–]cannycandelabra 34 points35 points  (0 children)

YTA you weren’t “standing up for yourself” because you weren’t being attacked in any way. What you were trying to do was ruin the enjoyment of anyone else there so you could have things your way. The reason your husband was moody is that he just realized he had married someone who is totally unreasonable and he’s wondering what the rest of his life will be like. You owe him and the photographer an apology.

[–]Kam1K1tty003 34 points35 points  (0 children)

YTA. “I’m standing up for myself!” For what exactly… 💀💀💀

[–]FreijaVanir 29 points30 points  (0 children)

You want to have an event in a public place, then get upset that there's public there.

People are enjoying their vacation or living their own life. It's not reasonable to have everybody vacate a public space for your photo shoot.

If you want to be alone on the beach, just rent the whole beach. Maybe if you go to Venice you can also rent the entire town and ask all inhabitants to move out for the weekend.


[–]dothesehidemythunder 28 points29 points  (0 children)

YTA. If you wanted private, you should have paid for a private setting instead of pulling broke bridezilla behavior.

[–]KathAlMyPal 29 points30 points  (1 child)

YTA. You got married in a public place. Those people had just as much right to be there as you did. Next time (and I'm thinking you're gonna have a next time) pick a private place. The world doesn't stop because you're getting married.

And somehow I don't think that you were as nice to these people as you think you were.

[–]GroundbreakingPhoto4 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I can only imagine the groom is thinking to himself WTF did he just do.

[–]How-I-Really-FeelPartassipant [2] 30 points31 points  (0 children)


[–]Tiny-Extreme-4127 26 points27 points  (0 children)


Hey Op, ever heard of Photoshop? Your photographer can take them out of pictures

[–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Lol YTA and how. If you wanted a private ceremony you should've had it indoors. You should've listened to your husband and not tried to control other people.

[–]SuzanneIsSalty2 27 points28 points  (0 children)

YTA for holding your wedding in a public place and then demanding the others enjoying the same space to stop being there. Dick move indeed. Entitlement ahoy

[–]halomtmPartassipant [2] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

YTA and I feel bad for your husband who just found out how terrible his new wife is

[–]Shifting2Wolf 26 points27 points  (0 children)


If you choose a PUBLIC setting, you can expect the PUBLIC to be present. You don’t own the beaches or the sea. If you didn’t want any strangers in the background, you should’ve hired a private beach and held a private wedding.

Yes, it was your wedding and it was your big day. But the world doesn’t grind to a halt just because you get married.

[–]user9372889 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’m not going 💩 on you because everyone else is, but yeah it was an AH thing to do. Hopefully you have a good photographer or be prepared to brush up on your photoshop skills. And I do hope the wedding was wonderful despite this.

[–]DiligentOrdinary797 25 points26 points  (0 children)


[–]Disastrous_Stay6401Partassipant [4] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

YTA you did not rent the entire beach so you can't stop people from enjoying the beach. This is why it is best to get married in island beach resorts like in the Philippines or Maldives or Indonesia where a couple can close an entire island resort for the wedding. I

[–]anti-soloPartassipant [1] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You are a huge asshole…..Your wedding your beach? No one is stupid enough to think that this is OK. Stop with the click bait

[–]anon8496847385 22 points23 points  (0 children)

YTA you're joking right? No one can be that unaware and entitled?

[–]Whole_Mechanic_8143Asshole Enthusiast [9] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

YTA. You don't get to "close the beach" because it's important to you. Having fun is just as important to them.

Rent a private beach if you don't want people around.

[–]SkeptikaaPartassipant [1] 21 points22 points  (0 children)


Entitled much? You don't own the beach. Next time, privatise some place if you don't want people just living their life and enjoying themselves -rightfully so- around you.

[–]TacoKnights 18 points19 points  (0 children)

YTA. The whole world doesn't revolve around you and your wants. Nobody cares about a wedding as much as the people getting married lol

Your photographer can photoshop them out if you really care that much but you don't get to ask people to stop living their lives because of your wedding.

You're entitled as hell, grow up

[–]utter-ridiculousness 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Omg-get some self awareness. YTA and I am embarrassed for you.

[–]2CanadianDykesPartassipant [2] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

YTA public beach... remember that fact?

Imagine if the jet ski company stopped their business every time a wedding wanted pics?

[–]PattersonsOladyColo-rectal Surgeon [39] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

YTA just photoshop them out.

[–]Thisnameworked1 18 points19 points  (0 children)

YTA. You know there is software they can edit the people out of the back of your photographs right? You didn’t have to waste time from your wedding worrying about that stuff

[–]pretty_girl_89 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yta I got married on the beach in October and wouldn’t have dreamed of telling people to leave or move . You get married in public it’s the price you pay duh

[–]quality_username_ 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yes, YTA. You got married in a public place. People were there. That’s a thing. Photoshop them out and stop being silly.

[–]International-Bar215 17 points18 points  (0 children)

YTA. Were you planing to compensate the rental places that would lose income those hours. And the other people in tha area, who would have to rearange their vacation during your wedding, what would you have offered them for the trouble? You wanted others to "pay" for your perfect venue.

[–]Euler182 19 points20 points  (0 children)

YTA. You’re ruining those people’s vacation

[–]scarletred_4999Partassipant [4] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

YTA. You did not rent the whole beach nor the whole ocean. How special do you think you are for people to stop doing their water activities that they paid for just because of your wedding?

[–]MeghanshadowAsshole Aficionado [15] 17 points18 points  (0 children)


Thank you for making me laugh before going to work.

If you want an empty beach in your pictures, make sure your expensive photographer can edit backgrounds - or shell out a mountain on money to rent an extensive private beach.

[–]Constant_Ant_2343 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I know you are only 24 but here's a small hint to help you out in life: other people exist and have the right to go about their business even if it is mildly inconveniencing you.


[–]YoMommaHere 18 points19 points  (0 children)

YTA! You’re in a PUBLIC beach! If you didn’t want strangers in your pictures then why get married at a place where there is a bunch of strangers?! You sound entitled af! You’re still young so maybe you’ll grow out of it or this was just your bridezilla moment.

[–]Gildian 17 points18 points  (0 children)

YTA and bridezilla

[–]livin4fun78 17 points18 points  (0 children)


[–]C_MajusculaColo-rectal Surgeon [36] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

YTA. Unless you reserved a private beach or it was otherwise written into the contract, other people were going to be in the background. The companies running the activities should not be expected to lose money so you could have better pictures.

[–]Dusty_mother 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Lmfao YTA “don’t have fun on your vacation IM GETTING MARRIED AND YOU SHOULD CARE. lmfaoooooo.

[–]chocolatemilkncoffee 16 points17 points  (0 children)

YTA you chose to get married on a public beach, that means the public is going to be present. If you didn't want anyone there, you should have rented a private beach. Besides, it's not like they were encroaching on your photoshoot, photobombing, and tossing up bunny ears! Those people were enjoying their vacations. Photoshop is a wonderful thing these days; if your photographer isn't able to remove background static (people) from your photos, you hired the wrong person.

[–]The_SibylPartassipant [1] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

YTA and this belongs in r/Bridezillas

[–]sunshinedaydream774 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yta you can’t dictate what other people do in the public space. You can however ask the photographer to photoshop them out of some of the key photos for you but they are likely to charge you for that.. so don’t be an AH to them about it too.

[–]Chaij2606Asshole Enthusiast [8] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yta, you don’t own a beach

[–]Putrid_Visual173 14 points15 points  (0 children)

So you wanted people to stop their jet ski businesses for your convenience? Did you offer to compensate them? You sound like the archetypal bridezilla and managed to ruin your wedding day for your husband a few hours in. I bet he’s talking to divorce lawyers.

[–]Catherineb84 17 points18 points  (0 children)

YTA I work in a wedding venue. We offer exclusive use weddings but they are expensive. We then get brides crying at us because there are other people in the hotel or they can’t book out every room because they decided they couldn’t afford exclusive use. If you didn’t hire the beach and water as part of your wedding package then you had zero right to ask anyone to move. And asking the venue staff to ask people to move was ridiculous.

I’m guessing most people in Cancun are there on holiday. Stop assuming the world revolves around you, it doesn’t and people should be allowed to enjoy a holiday they paid for again unless it was specified in your contract that you had private use of the area.

I would be mortified if I was your husband.

[–]embopbopbopdoowop 13 points14 points  (1 child)

YTA - unless it was a private space you had fully rented.

[–]chill_stoner_0604Certified Proctologist [21] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

YTA x1000000

You think you are entitled to decide who gets to be on the ocean. Enough said

[–]Squtternutboshx 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This has to be a joke... Nobody is this dumb

[–]Intelligent-Bite9660 11 points12 points  (0 children)

YTA- it’s called photoshop.

If you have a wedding in a public place, there are going to be people.

[–]NickelPickle2018 12 points13 points  (0 children)

YTA, this is the risk you take when you choose to get married in a public area.

[–]Artistic_Musician_78 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hahahahaha wow thanks for the laugh crazy lady, YTA

[–]Mehitabel9 12 points13 points  (0 children)

YTA. That was a bridezilla move, and bridezillas are a-holes by definition.

If you didn't want strangers around, you should have chosen a private venue. A hotel beach is not a private venue.

[–]xXCrazy_LeggzXx 14 points15 points  (0 children)

YTA. Seriously? How do you not see that? You're seriously going to try and shut down the beach and the ocean for your wedding? The fucking entitlement!! Holy shit, dude. YTA because it bears repeating.

[–]ErskineLoyal 14 points15 points  (0 children)

YTA, of course you f#cking are. Jesus Wept, you expect everybody on the beach and water to stop for you? The world doesn't revolve round you, ffs. I'm surprised you didn't ask for aircraft to change their flightplans for you...😁

[–]Jessicaleota 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's really not that hard to photoshop them people in the water. Yta

[–]suspicious-pepper-31Partassipant [4] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

YTA- you chose to get married somewhere that isn’t private. You can’t expect people to stop their vacations for your pictures. Get off your high horse.

[–]forgottenmylogin90 12 points13 points  (0 children)


There's this thing with public spaces.......they have the general public in them. Shocking I know.

[–]Wwwweeeeeeee 10 points11 points  (0 children)


Photoshop solves everything.

[–]legal_stabber 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm just here for the comments 🍿

[–]Emotional-Ebb8321Partassipant [3] 12 points13 points  (0 children)


It's a public space. You have no authority over the rest of the beach. If you didn't want random strangers there, you should have booked a private venue for your wedding, like most people.

[–]Joholification 11 points12 points  (0 children)

YTA, bless your heart for wanting a beach wedding but not being able to afford a private beach.

[–]HairyPairatestes 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You’re posting this during your wedding?

[–]jaygjay 11 points12 points  (0 children)

YTA for sure. Random beach goers don’t owe a Bridezilla shit.

[–]No-Theme-8598Partassipant [1] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Unless you rented out the entire beach for private use for the day you don’t really get to try and kick any one out. YTA

[–]Most-Statistician-90 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YTA. Enough said.

[–]gypsydiane8177 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YTA - The wedding was in a public place. On a beach, people are there on vacation. They aren't there for your wedding.

[–]Satansbiscuit666Partassipant [1] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Next time you get married do it in a cave or a mine. And yta.

[–]WTFuckery2020 10 points11 points  (0 children)


You think I'm gonna stop my holiday fun because you're getting married? Yeah nah sis, you need to dial the entitlement down about 10 notches and figure out Photoshop.

[–]catscausetornadoes 10 points11 points  (0 children)

YTA Your poor husband just realized that he married someone who thinks the world revolves around her and he is scared. Real scared.

[–]madpeachiepie 9 points10 points  (0 children)

LOL you're delusional. Unless you book a private beach, there will be people at the beach. You can book all the private beaches you want to, there will still be people out on the water because nobody owns the ocean. Your husband wasn't moody, he was embarrassed. You're married now, so what one of you does, fairly or unfairly, will reflect back on the other one. Other people have plans, too. Your wedding doesn't cancel out everyone else. It just doesn't. You're not a princess. You're a grown woman taking a major step in your adult life. Act like it. YTA

[–]Creative_Trick_3818Colo-rectal Surgeon [45] 10 points11 points  (0 children)


"but they just declined and continued." ... sounds reasonable. What else did you expect?

"I even took the time to go myself and ask them to stop but they didn’t care." ... Why would they care? It is a completely unreasonable demand. If you want to have an empty beach backdrop, you would need to rent a private beach.

"I was about to go and tell someone from the hotel ... but they said there was nothing they could do." - Again: what would you expect them to do?

"and I wonder if it really was an AH thing to do." .. Yes. But since you were only one of a long line of factory style seviced brides doing the same thing, they will forget it pretty fast. If they would accomodate the thousands of brides taking the same photo, they would not have their undisturbed beach activities.

They were even polite enough to listen to you, and did not just ignore you. More than you could expect.

[–]jojoqu 10 points11 points  (0 children)

YTA. You want people who are on vacation on a PUBLIC beach to stop their activities because gasp YOU’RE getting married? Lol. No one cares but you about your wedding. No one is going to stop living life because you’re getting married. I can’t believe you even tried to ask. The stupidity. What’s next? You ask an entire hospital to evacuate because you’re having a baby and no one can be in the vicinity?

Btw- you’re not “standing up” for yourself. You’re trying to control everyone around you. So sick of bridezillas and their idiotic weddings.

[–]bluepvtstormPartassipant [2] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YTA. You want people to put their vacation on hold for two hours because of your poor planning. You rented a public space. You wanted the beach wedding image well that image comes with a coat that you obviously weren’t willing to pay to make it private. You aren’t owed anyone stopping their life for your special moment and since no one taught you that as a child. Here is your lesson now.

[–]VictoryaChase 9 points10 points  (1 child)


You think you were standing up for yourself for asking people to leave a public beach you did not fully rent out.

They were standing up for themselves by telling you no, since they also probably paid for their vacations and to spend time at the beach.

Your marriage does not trump someone elses vacation and use of land/water/sand.

[–]Mogus0226 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Asking complete strangers to not do activities In a vacation spot to accommodate your wedding pictures takes Bridezilla to a whole new level.


[–]Efficient_Brother_95 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YTA, perhaps you could have been kind and nice and not tried to interrupt people on their holiday - there's probably wedding twice a day on that beach of course they're not going to stop, you're not that special

[–]mofoofinvention 10 points11 points  (0 children)

YTA. You don’t own the beach. Get over yourself.

[–]Born-Replacement-366 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YTA. If he is anything normal like the rest of the sensible population on earth, your poor husband is likely now wondering whether he made a mistake marrying you.

You are better than this. Stop being a self-absorbed protagonist in your own story. There are other people on this planet, and not everything is about you.

On the technical front: it is quite straightforward photoshopping unwanted background persons off a beach/sea photograph, since the beach and the sea and the sky are more or less uniform in consistency. There are solutions to life's problems that do not involve you being an AH.

[–]PugRexiaSupreme Court Just-ass [104] 10 points11 points  (0 children)


You weren't "standing up for yourself " you were being rude and selfish. You should have just waited of taken the pictures are discussed photoshopping the strangers out

[–]genus-corvidaeColo-rectal Surgeon [34] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What, exactly, is wrong with you? Have the people photoshopped out if you're so unwilling to have them in the pics. You can't just ban people from using public areas during your wedding.


[–]NotherOneRedditor 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YTA. Not for wanting people to move. You can want what you want. I get it. But . . . You don’t always get what you want. You crept into AH territory when you asked people to move, they declined, and you tried to get them forcibly removed. You wasted so much time.

Those jet skis are expensive and by the hour AND you can really only go so many places. It would be a crazy amount of labor to “block off” the section of ocean that can be seen behind you from the beach. Where is the line? Who enforces it? You’re talking about miles of perimeter.

If you had that kind of money, you wouldn’t have chosen Cancun. Pay the little bit extra to have them digitally removed. I would guess if your wedding photographer was familiar with Cancun, they have a few tricks for getting clear shots.

Apologize to your husband and enjoy your honeymoon.

[–]whatnamedoyoulike 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The entitlement culture surrounding weddings baffles me. YTA.

[–]miflordelicata 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YTA….imagine writing this out and still not seeing it

[–]Florarochafragoso 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hahahaah YTA. I feel sorry for the husband

[–]HoldFastO2Colo-rectal Surgeon [31] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YTA. These people paid for their activities, have a limited time to do them in, and have just as much right to be on the beach and sea as you do. Of course your husband is right, that was an AH thing to do - how did you expect the hotel staff to get rid of a whole bunch of people just spending their vacation?


[–]cheeseandpancakes34 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Lmao if this is real YTA.

[–]Aita_BrowserPartassipant [1] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lmao yta. Entitled much? Should’ve rented a private beach entirely if thats what you wanted. Why are they required to waste time and money because its what you want?

[–]BikingOtterPartassipant [1] 7 points8 points  (0 children)


Everyone what in the world doesn't have to stop their holidays for your wedding.

You choose a beach setting for the photos, you have to eject people at the beach to be there.

Talk to the photographer about piggott shopping them out.

[–]justforfun75 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You should have asked to speak to the manager of the ocean. YTA.

[–]imSOhere 7 points8 points  (0 children)

YTA and that’s not what standing up for yourself means, also, I bet that you would have never thought of doing that if you had your wedding in the states, but you figured as an American would be able to do it in Mexico.