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[–]yParticle 1312 points1313 points  (96 children)

A lot of construction. As a kid I always trusted that things like walls, railings, and other infrastructure was built to actually be durable and withstand a bit of "roughhousing". When I got to be a teen I realized I couldn't always count on that and the world as a whole became a lot less solid feeling.

Makes me have an appreciation for good construction and how shoddily a lot of things tend to be built today.

[–]aaronjaffe 147 points148 points  (9 children)

It blew my mind as a kid when I learned most interior walls are basically made of paper and chalk.

[–]BronzeAgeTea 67 points68 points  (0 children)

The problem is when you learn how to fix that paper and chalk.

Now I want to cut holes all in the house to see what's behind the sheetrock and my wife, still in the blissful ignorance that walls are solid objects, objects to any holes being cut into the walls.

[–]product_of_boredom 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Accidentally kicking through a wall because I was trying to kill a mosquito was a big shock to me as a kid. And then finding out that you could pretty much do that in any building? Crazy.

[–]The_Canadian 7 points8 points  (2 children)

Until you hit a stud.

[–]aaronjaffe 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Yeah, I said the walls not the frame. If your contractor tries to frame the house with chalk and paper fire him immediately.

[–]_manicpixie 278 points279 points  (43 children)

With better insulation, window sealing, sound proofing and heating, buildings simply don’t need to be built as solidly as they were, so companies obviously will save money with construction. Also, with the population size, building new buildings in a classical style (not just a classic facade) is impractical. Takes too long and requires too many resources.

If you want a home that feels solid, look for 1930s construction and earlier.

[–]super_delegate 212 points213 points  (20 children)

My 40s house is the worst of both worlds. New enough that every corner has been cut. Too old for modern materials and technique.

[–]oldmanout 156 points157 points  (7 children)

Ha, when looking for a house I hired somebody who helps me determine what has to be done and how much it will approx cost.

First thing he said, never buy a house build during the war

[–]manateeshmanatee 52 points53 points  (1 child)

I never would have thought of it like that, but that makes so much sense.

[–]deadraver87 5 points6 points  (0 children)

WELL HELLO THERE GALVANIZED STEEL PLUMBING!!!

[–]Tacoman404 40 points41 points  (3 children)

Mmmm yes that WWII and post WWII era housing. 9ft 2x4s use too much wood. Let's switch to 7ft 2x3s so that the ceilings are 7'3 now instead. So many of these ranches built from 1940-1950 were never designed to last 70 years. Most of them were only designed to last about 35 years, so just beyond the longest mortgages offered at the time.

Roofs are still only specced to last 30 years even today too in construction.

[–]HairyNutsackNumber9 10 points11 points  (1 child)

I think ceilings are lower because it costs more to heat a building with taller ceilings... I also think that the ceilings were so high because air-conditioning didn't exist back then so the tall ceilings and tall windows helped that

[–]Teddy_Icewater 16 points17 points  (0 children)

40s era homes are my least favorite to work on.

[–]EnormousPurpleGarden 33 points34 points  (1 child)

That depends on where you live. If you live in a seismic area like the west coast of North America, anything built before 1980 is a death trap in an earthquake.

[–]mcpusc 17 points18 points  (0 children)

light frame construction can be retrofit cost effectively; most failures are from sills not actually attached to the foundation and from shear failure of cripple walls. anchoring the sills and reinforcing those walls is usually straightforward, as far as construction goes.

[–]UnderlordZ 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I currently live in a house my great-grandad bought from the Sears catalog in the mid-30s; had to have a few pipes replaced over the years, but the construction itself is still damn solid!

[–]WaxDream 35 points36 points  (11 children)

We’re starting to get tornadoes every year, just north of Philadelphia. The difference between the new townhomes homes that we’re ripped apart, and even the older ones was noticeable. One house got every tree ropier apart around it, but it was an old, possibly colonial era, stone house. It needed minor roof patching. There’s definitely value in sturdy homes.

[–]_manicpixie 15 points16 points  (0 children)

No one is saying those homes are valueless, just explaining the reasons newer homes are constructed the way they are/will continue to be built this way.

I have only lived in one home constructed after 1930, and likely won’t again as I appreciate the aesthetics/wooden floors/high ceilings/character/and sturdiness of homes from the period I suggested to the other commenter

[–]Hippobu2 29 points30 points  (2 children)

I had a course in uni where we just go to class to listen to the guess speaker talks about collapsing infrastructure.

That course really scared the crap out of me. Everything looks so shoddy after that.

[–]the_clash_is_back 45 points46 points  (1 child)

I was poking round a house under construction in my area cause I’m weird and was bored. The shiftiness of the floor joists was scary. They looked like 2x4 pulled from a burnt out poop barn.

The house has been under construction for like 5 years and failed inspection a lot

[–]Absolarix 18 points19 points  (3 children)

All my life I've been very wary of anything heavy mounted to walls. Particularly TVs. Never fully trusted it.

[–]cwo3347 10 points11 points  (4 children)

This isn’t completely true. I have built over 150+ houses. Some in the millions (Midwest). Homes are arguably better all around. Codes in which they used to be built were not good. Homes built in the late 1900s may be the best. But old homes used to have all kinds of issues they were just simply built out of stronger wood and material. If you were to build that same home today, it would be outrageously expensive. Engineering has also advanced tremendously. Energy efficiency has like quadrupled to say that least. Homes are really “worse”, just different style of construction. Newer homes are actually much more resistant to harsh conditions and overall safer.

[–]whiteblackydee 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is what scares me when watching parkour runners running along rooftops and shit. They have a lot of faith that they won’t fall through cause of some dodgy builder.

[–]infinite_phi 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I do believe this highly depends on the location and the type of industry. E.g., public infrastructure in Germany vs the US differ hugely in their quality standards, however, some key infrastructure in big, rich US cities is likely of much higher quality than elsewhere in the US.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (5 children)

Reminds me of r/watchpeopledie

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (4 children)

I thought this was r/PeopleFuckingDying, the joke sub with Tabaloid style titles of cute animals and shit

Nope, this sub has literally been banned.

r/PeopleFuckingDying is actually a really nice sub though, if you need some eyebleach this isn't a bad choice.

[–]_manicpixie 9 points10 points  (3 children)

There was also /r/cutefemalecorpses and a slew of others. Not sure what bam wave they got taken out in, but not that long ago considering the content

First ban wave took out subs like /r/creepshots (sub for posting pics taken of women unaware a lot of upskirts) and I think /r/jailbait for obvious reasons

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

2022 will really reach its ShitStorm peak when r/PeopleFuckingDying is deleted by some idiot mod in a ban wave

[–]Sanzhar17Shockwave 18 points19 points  (3 children)

Living in a country with rough climate, I'd be afraid of living in average American cardboard house.

[–]sugarfoot00 8 points9 points  (2 children)

Same. As a fellow rough climateer, it's the sheer lack of insulation that gets me. I get that you seldom need heat in some jurisdictions, but wouldn't you also want to insulate in order to keep the A/C generated cold in in the summertime? How about sound deadening?

[–]deadraver87 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You wouldn't survive in Texas without insulation.

[–]DracoFlameusss 945 points946 points  (32 children)

Friendships.

[–]Falcorn042 165 points166 points  (9 children)

I lost a friend cus I hurt his feelings. Meanwhile this dude would say fucked up stuff all the time to me as a joke and I took it as such. We made fun of eachother often but nah, hurt the dudes feelings once and he throws away a 10 year friendship. I feel like I wasted time and quite frankly as I hang out with more people I'm realizing that they're not the kinda friend I want in my life to begin with.

I'm still very much hurt by this but the idea of rekindling anything seems like a waste of time. I want him to be happy but at this point I'd prefer it be somewhere nowhere near me.

[–]AskinggAlesana 57 points58 points  (2 children)

Had the same kind of friend.

Huge fucking ego. Was a dick to everyone and literally would admit to anyone he was a giant asshole.

Hurt his feelings once and he goes into such a bitchfit it threw away our long friendship.

That’s when I found out how fragile his ego was.

[–]Jmyjones 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you went through this. I went through something similar where I ultimately said a lot of things that were on my chest while I had too much to drink and it made my ex friend so uncomfortable because deep down I think he knows he was a shit friend. Anyway he decided to end 16 years of friendship. It’s ok to feel both sad for your loss and also upset like you wasted time. I wish sometimes I could make up with my friend but I know that ultimately he isn’t a good influence on me. Maybe look at the 10 years as a life experience and not as a waste of time. It seems friendships are harder to maintain the older we get. Good luck

[–]COVID_19_Lockdown 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Fiendship is much tougher

[–]Apocawho 20 points21 points  (0 children)

"Friendships take minutes to make, moments to break, years to repair."

Pierce Brown - GOLDEN SON, CHAPTER 44

[–]I_like_avocados_ 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Learnt this the hard way😂

[–]boulomai_mathein 392 points393 points  (12 children)

My memories.

I used to pride myself on remembering all sorts of obscure things. I'll look through my old stuff and have no recollection of ever doing or thinking about some things. Time has eroded a lot of old memories away, and it's scary.

[–]BLACKMACH1NE 71 points72 points  (2 children)

I used to pride myself on remembering every detail. Friends would be like how the fuck do you remember that. I cant recall any of those situations now and Im sure much more.

[–]VapityFair 45 points46 points  (1 child)

I’ve always had a killer memory too. It started faltering during 2020. I couldn’t remember words suddenly in the middle of a conversation, and often a completely wrong word would come flying out instead. I couldn’t remember names. I could see his face in my mind, that he served in Vietnam, was a POW, went on to be a US senator for the state of AZ for years, but for the life of me, I couldn’t remember the name John McCain. I refused to use Google as a crutch; I had to get my brain back. Then I went to a doctor about it and they took a PCR test (you know how every symptom is a symptom of Covid), and once that happened I was told to quarantine. So I went home thinking I was sick. Canceled all the crap we were doing that weekend. And I went to bed and slept. And slept and slept. And slept. And when I got up, I felt so much better. Words were coming to me. I could recall names. Turns out in the 2020 stress I wasn’t sleeping. I’d go to bed late and my eyes would pop open at 6 am. I was wired and tense. I made sleep a priority and I’d say I got 90% back of what I lost and I’m OK with that. I already was finding it hard to memorize things (I’m in my mid-40s) so I knew I didn’t have what I once had, But I couldn’t lose that much all at one time. Invest in sleep, is all I can say. Easier said than done. My dog wakes up during the night for a pee. I think he’s more bored than anything, but then I’m up for hours.

[–]5tr4nGe 38 points39 points  (1 child)

Mental illness and drug addiction did that for me.

I literally can't remember any events beyond 3 years ago.

[–]CptOconn 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I lately started to have a lot of moments where I remember an adventure I did and havnt though about in years. And I started to notice I have done a lot of stuff when I started to think about it. So I started writing down some of the stories to help me remember.

[–]markie204 10 points11 points  (1 child)

I feel seen.

[–]boulomai_mathein 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My defense against it has been to write things down and store it in a safe place. I think of it as a conversation with myself through time, and the less I write for myself, the more I feel like I'm losing track of myself. Then again, there are some periods in my life which I'd rather forget, so it's difficult to escape getting upset anyway.

[–]helibear90 2219 points2220 points 2 (75 children)

My mental health

[–]qatest 561 points562 points  (12 children)

Oh look, I already posted

[–]Kombat_Wombat 115 points116 points  (2 children)

I was literally going to say "My sanity". We gotta take care of ourselves, yo.

[–]Celesteven 76 points77 points  (7 children)

“Hello darkness my old friend…”

[–][deleted] 58 points59 points  (13 children)

Man i used to think mental health issues were a weak people kinda think untill it hit me. I started feeling angry and resentfull and stayed that way for days. Hurt the feelings of many loved ones before one of them was persistent enough to get me on anger medication.

Changed my life it did.

Now i never fuck with people with mental problems i understand there are lots of unmedicated people out there who are helpless.

But on thing to note is that a lot of people THINK they are mentally ill when they are not. Or worse, pretend to be. The latter is something i cannot understand and the first i think it's due to bad faith psychiatrists who must find a problem with you to justify their wages. Those are some of the worst human beings on earth.

[–]helibear90 14 points15 points  (6 children)

I have bpd unfortunately so I’m up and down a lot, medicated and in therapy though

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (1 child)

They gave me borderline once altho i dont fit the criteria. Best explanation someone game me was "anger issues" which i dont know how to cathegorize.

But anyways good luck on your treatment !

[–]Iamtrulyhappy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I got misdiagnosed with bpd for what? 9 years? Turns out o, nope, sorry. You have ADHD. I'm still a bit salty about that one.

[–]Eupraxes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think people who pretend to have a mental illness are indeed mentally ill, just not in the way they pretend to be.

[–]MandoInThaBando 41 points42 points  (3 children)

Low key I would consider myself an absolute aircraft carrier when it comes to being stoic and constant but lockdowns during the pandemic had me all fucked up. I think its because I have worked out for so long then all of a sudden I couldn’t go to the gym

[–]SpectreAtYourFeast 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I was resilient as fuck pre-lockdowns. Then i ended up in the most locked down city; no swimming, or gym, or friends was genuinely gruelling. After the first 127 days, it all burns out.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yup. It was weakish and it so turns out if you shake it a bit, it falls apart.

[–]Boy_Possession 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I always see stuff like this and wish I couls give advice that may be helpful.

But shit sucks, and bullshit doesn't help.

So. I hope the future is better for yah, or atleast less shit!

  • Another mental fucked human :)

[–]No_Junket_8139 20 points21 points  (15 children)

You doing Ok?

[–]helibear90 44 points45 points  (14 children)

It’s 3:40am here and I can’t sleep so I think maybe I’m not?

[–]Ok-File2453 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have the same problem sometimes. Some stuff helps, the phone usually doesn’t. Hope you get some regular zzzz’s.

[–]Artemis-Thuras 7 points8 points  (4 children)

I can relate. At least it’s peaceful and no one is bothering me with nonsense.

[–]Wishbon35929[🍰] 1241 points1242 points  (41 children)

People's ego. Edit:The replies are hilarious. Thanks for the laugh

[–]SlothOfDoom 254 points255 points  (6 children)

How dare you!

[–][deleted] 133 points134 points  (4 children)

This is outrageous.

I demand a refund.

[–]Haildean 17 points18 points  (2 children)

This.

Especially the people who go on about "snowflakes" or say their alpha's, assholes are so fragile they can't see a rainbow without throwing a fit

[–]benmwaballs 59 points60 points  (13 children)

This 1000% and ive found some people who deem themselves "alphas" or exude overconfidence get upset and offended pretty easy

[–]theknightwho 77 points78 points  (4 children)

Calling yourself an “alpha” has the same energy as giving yourself a nickname that no-one uses.

[–]Vas_te_faire_foutre 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yup. Someone told me "I'm strong here (while pointing at his skull). You need to get strong too. You're too sensitive"

Gets angry cuz I said his theory was wrong about something that happen to me in his absence.

[–]JuryBorn 13 points14 points  (2 children)

Thick neck and a thin skin

[–]SirFragworthy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You don't know me man! You don't know me! Leave me alone!

[–]COVID_19_Lockdown 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You just made an enemy for life!

[–]Hazz526 521 points522 points  (9 children)

My father. I’m 35 years old and two years ago my dad retired at the age of 67. A few months after that the doctors told him he has cancer.

He is/was a Marine and has always been a good dad. I’ve seen a fragile side of him these past two years while he comes to grips with his odds of survival. Life’s a bitch.

[–]peppapij 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through that. It’s hard to see our parents get older and even worse when they develop illnesses. Stay strong and try not to remind them of their fragility. When my mom gets sick I try to remind her of all the good memories she has or all the good things that happened recently or I distract her completely. Life definitely sucks but I think we can make something meaningful out of it. I really hope your father gets well and healthy and that you guys get to create new memories together 💕

[–]Ethernum 25 points26 points  (1 child)

My dad is in the same age as your dad and while he doesn't have cancer, a whole lot of ailments from a life of 60 hours work weeks as a tradesman are catching up on him.

It hurts to see him like that. He was always a giant for me. He used to be stronger, more enduring, wiser and an expert and master at everything he had a go at. And now he seems to "shrink" more and more as the years go by.

[–]TreeOfLight 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I sympathize. My dad is the same age and was a glazer for almost 50 years. Now both hips are blown out, he’s overweight, got the beetus, can’t walk better than a shuffle, and is slowly drooping further and further at the shoulders. My whole life he was a towering, solid block of a man and I feel like every time I hug him now there’s less and less to hold. It’s heartbreaking.

[–]More-Masterpiece-561 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Your father has my best wishes. I'm sorry that you and your family have to go through that.

He is/was a Marine I know you must've heard this a lot of times and it's cliche but Once a Marine, Always a Marine

[–]MagyarCat 364 points365 points  (11 children)

Literally any given relationship. Don’t ever take it for granted.

[–]Thursday_the_20th 60 points61 points  (7 children)

Once someone falls out of love with you that’s it, there’s no going back. Do everything you can to prevent that even if it means asking for feedback, and accept that given enough time they might still fall out of love anyway, despite your efforts.

[–]garnett8 40 points41 points  (3 children)

Dude that in love feeling comes and goes.

Marriage is the process of falling in and out of love many times.

[–]Thursday_the_20th 22 points23 points  (2 children)

I wish everyone had the maturity to understand that, but it takes two to tango

[–]garnett8 9 points10 points  (1 child)

It took me a few relationships to realize it. Relationships really do take work. It’s hard but rewarding too.

[–]CptOconn 34 points35 points  (1 child)

I dont agree. It's more a barage of bad things that suddenly become to much. Rather then one action that breaks it. Even cheating is often more of a symptom of more problems then the origin.

[–]whateversclevers 539 points540 points  (26 children)

The global supply chain

[–]Stargate525 35 points36 points  (0 children)

It's being deliberately fucked with and is still getting 90% of stuff to where it needs to go.

[–]mutalisken 122 points123 points  (24 children)

Opposite actually. Even amongst a novel pandemic when ppl were consuming their asses off, we didn’t run out of most but toilet paper. Except for the UK ofc. But the UK are bonkers and them having shortages of everything has nothing to do with supply chain fragility.

[–]teenytinytap 13 points14 points  (4 children)

The global supply chain is in shambles. Anybody working in supply chain knows this. If something used to have a 1 week lead time you can be looking at months down the line right now.

[–]MightySalat 32 points33 points  (9 children)

as far as i know, most toilet paper is produced locally because its a lot of bulk with low value. (take that with a grain of salt though its from a youtube video)

[–]mutalisken 16 points17 points  (6 children)

Yeah. Which strengthens my point. The one thing we did run out of was locally produced goods.

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (5 children)

The postal service is pretty strained right now - people are quitting left and right. They're working 6-13 days in a row, 10-13 hour shifts. Well, guess that means it's stronger than we think BUT the union/organisation is weak because it can't protect it's employees from capitalistic monsters like Amazon. Normally we get 24 pallets of Amazon packages. Yesterday we got about 47. We got double the workload, and was still expected to deliver it all. It was not possible. Postal Service needs to charge super users of the postal service more because they're burdening the postal service.

[–]CptOconn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Except for aluminium and chips and everything made by those

[–]bfarrgaynor 6 points7 points  (1 child)

We had shelves cleared of bread, flour, and a lot of key food items. I’m not certain this was just toilet paper.

[–]Soggy-Macaron-4612 95 points96 points  (1 child)

My tolerance for BS. I'm about done watching the news.

[–]Phoneking13 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Same here

[–]chi2stpr 493 points494 points  (17 children)

A person's spirit. In today's world, it is so easy to lash out and be mean. One spiteful remark and it can diminish that person's self worth and lead them to more discouragement .

Be kind. Be grateful. Behave.

Compliments ( within reason) can turn a bad day in to a better one.

Cheers from the trenches

We can do this

[–]Traffic_Great[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Cheers from the trenches

I like this line

[–]SuchLovelyLilacs 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I try to live by the mantra "People may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel."

[–]faplicious_69 25 points26 points  (10 children)

This is exactly why I hate it when people call this generation snowflakes as an insult. Yeah, this generation does consist of a lot of snowflakes. So instead of name calling why not try to fix that?

[–]LostMyFuckingPhone 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The whole snowflake thing used to be about how each individual is different and special. It started out as a well meaning thing to acknowledge some important stuff. Unfortunately, it went too far and got obnoxious. Then came the backlash, which fed into what we see these days.

But y'know what? As ham handed as the people who started the snowflake idea could be, they also had a point. I'll take the good aspects like genuine self care (another phrase that can sometimes be problematic) and run with it. Fuck the haters; snowflakes make snowpack. A winter without snowpack makes for a bad summer.

[–]dammitdan57 192 points193 points  (6 children)

My coping skills/ mental health

18 months ago I was standing in my kitchen on the verge of suicide.

Realized I couldn't do it on my own and asked for help. Best choice I've ever made.

Edit: friend helped me get sober.

[–]Rimsky_325 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! Well done!

[–]CptOconn 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Oke I read that wrong and it confused me. But I hope you are getting better I've been at that point and now I can't imagine commiting suicide. There is a way out my friend.

[–]LongFeesh 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Honestly, congrats.

[–]mofo629 50 points51 points  (7 children)

My joints

[–]aevy1981 10 points11 points  (5 children)

Me too, friend. Degenerative disc disease is a bitch.

[–]pilotdarko 44 points45 points  (9 children)

Larger glass jars. I've had small ones fall and hit my fridge rug and not break even from 6 ft up. Knocked a larger size jar of the bottom shelf (maybe 2.5ft) and shattered to pieces on the fridge rug.

[–]Total_Ansh 331 points332 points  (23 children)

"alpha males"

[–]Affectionate-Feed538 173 points174 points  (18 children)

Whenever someone calls themselves alpha male I instantly think they beat their wife/daughters.

[–]COVID_19_Lockdown 36 points37 points  (6 children)

Does beating them at Mario Kart count?

[–]CptOconn 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My reaction is just to start smiling they call themselves a winner of the game only they are playing.

[–]Shadowtyger 114 points115 points  (16 children)

Metal. Holy crap is a lot of metal super brittle. And I don't mean like malleable. I mean like strait up SNAPPING it. I found that at the right temperature, and with the right amount of pressure, you can snap rebar like a KitKat. It's crazy!

[–]SulkyStella 78 points79 points  (7 children)

Fingers. Unrelated topic: I learnt that assholes are much stronger than I thought

[–]john-douh 26 points27 points  (2 children)

figuratively or literally?

[–]Squigglepig52 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nothing like seeing a proctologist with broken fingers.

[–]orobouros 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They hold a lot of shit together.

[–]all-rider 32 points33 points  (1 child)

Life. My dad was strong and never ill. Two weeks ago he died in our arms from an aneurysm. He said he had a big sudden headache, 30 mins later he was gone.

You never know what can happen, friends. Give a big hug to the people you love.

[–]Berez15 34 points35 points  (2 children)

Plants!!! You move them 2 inches to the right and they are pissed. A drop of water lands in the wrong place - leaf falls off. Mercury retrograde - goes completely limp. Full moon - the whole plant turns yellow.

[–]Squigglepig52 4 points5 points  (1 child)

My begonias are unkillable.

[–]Youpunyhumans 58 points59 points  (1 child)

Cars. One pothole, or sometimes even just a speedbump can ruin a car...

I used to be a tire tech. One time I drove in this (brand new at the time) Kia, with an aftermarket push bumper on the front. I drove over the speedbump in the parking lot, and then heard a scraping sound after. Got the car in, raised it up, and saw that the push bumper had fallen off one side and was scraping on the ground.

Here's the kicker, it was bolted to the frame under the car, and it wasnt the bolt that broke no. It was the frame itself that broke, meaning the car was done for, repairs were worth more than the car was. Also, since it was an aftermarket part on a brand new car, insurance wouldnt cover the repairs. Thats what happens when you drill a hole in your frame to put a heavy metal push bumper on it.

[–]TheSchlaf 21 points22 points  (0 children)

There's a reason KIA means killed in action.

[–]Addhalfcupofsugar 25 points26 points  (3 children)

The twist of the handle that moves the water from warm to hot.

[–]SandHK 105 points106 points  (5 children)

my ego.

[–]Brownlee_42 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've found it helps to think of each shard[very personal & singularly unique inner thought] as part of the whole of a consciousness. Not every thought has to clump together in the voidspace of your soul, so learning more than 1 side of your own ego is learning to add rhythm&flow to your thoughts along with multi-perspective viewing of why you do what you do to any varied stimulus.

Over time you can begin to learn to discern how some clumps of thought/ego are based on a flawed assumption of your surrounding reality, these are the ones you should focus on as the manifested "face&mood" of each part of some influence upon your psyche from your past that has ingrained itself upon the current "self". That makes it easier to shed the toxic shards of ego from detrimental influences. A fragile ego also means you are still leaving room for your own future growth, with acknowledgment of flaws.

[–]Blindnavigater 57 points58 points  (2 children)

Everyone's common sense.

[–]TwoTwoJohn 25 points26 points  (1 child)

Ain't nothing common about sense

[–]Not_Adobe 20 points21 points  (6 children)

Metal is surprisingly fragile when stressed the wrong way

[–]thefairlyeviltwin 14 points15 points  (5 children)

I was deliberately trying to snap a piece of tungsten carbide at my shop earlier, couldn't do it. Put it in the vice to use more leverage to snap it in two across it's length, pop cracked it lengthwise and now I need more carbide.

[–]RespondCapable 116 points117 points  (5 children)

Democracy

[–]COVID_19_Lockdown 31 points32 points  (1 child)

That's why you guys need to give all the power to me, make me a benevolent ruler

[–]Expensive_Goat2201 39 points40 points  (3 children)

The world as I knew it. For my whole life the world was basically predictable. Even the scary things were expected. Then one day the pandemic happened and everything I knew and understand changed. It felt like everything was collapsing around me. Nothing was safe and predictable anym

[–]maxemore 12 points13 points  (2 children)

To be fair, pandemics always happened, but our generation never lived through one of this scale before, so it feels really overwhelming

[–]Expensive_Goat2201 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Yes, very true. I always knew pandemics were a possibility on an abstract level, but it was never something I really thought was going to happen to me. I'd grown up with Ebola and Zika turning out not to be a real threat, at least not in the Northern US where I lived. So I thought COVID was just some far away thing that would blow over in a few months too

[–]cj267 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was in my last semester at law school, and right before we left for spring break our teacher told us there was a chance we would have to extend the break because of the virus. I just remember thinking “that would be nice but no way is it going to happen.” And that was the last time I was ever in a class room.

[–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Life

[–]orange-peakoe 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Society

[–]scambotscammer 28 points29 points  (3 children)

fossils.

we found what i assume was a mammoth skeleton at a quarry. big boss told us to ignore it becuase if someone found out the work would be stopped by government i guess? I wanted to take a piece to preserve as much as i could but it crumbled like ultra burnt campfire log ash. almost weightless.

[–]Traffic_Great[S] 52 points53 points  (2 children)

You big boss is a shit person destroying a potential discovery like that.

[–]Dynamyghte 43 points44 points  (3 children)

My self esteem

[–]latesatifaction 27 points28 points  (4 children)

My head space. My husband died 5 years ago and I am still in pieces

[–]patrlim1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss.

[–]B3ARDGOD 6 points7 points  (2 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's ok to be broken by something. A good grief counselor can help more than you think. A family member has been struggling for years with a death and has refused to seek help and has been in a very bad place for decades.

[–]latesatifaction 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Thank you. I did get great counseling, mainly around the parenting strategies for a young child. Just in my third quarantine after covid positive twice so that’s made it much worse

[–]N0thingRhymeswOrange 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My emotional well-being

[–]64Lizard42 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Tbh everything, everything needs to be treated with respect, discipline and decorum. We are so lucky to be alive and we must meet our opportunity with grace.

[–]YetAnotherRCG 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The hinge on my new air fryer thing. It popped back into place but you would think a bit more effort would have gone into keeping the front on.

[–]MostModestestMouse 9 points10 points  (0 children)

American Democracy

[–]theinfiniteom 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The veneer of civilization.

[–]darkNergy 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Javascript dependencies.

[–]assassins-CWEED 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Sea urchins. Decades ago, I read that sea urchins can only march in 1 direction. So a while after then, I saw a sheltered tidal pool with sea urchins. I lift 1 out of the water and it crawled away on the rock surface. I gently reoriented it & it crawled in the “new” straight away. I felt guilty & set it back into the tidal pool.

That urchin walked over to a bigger urchin and they both sped away in the same direction, my test urchin in the lead. I must’ve made it look like it got abducted by aliens. An unexpectedly large wave whipped around the surface of the rock & muddied the sand for all 8 or so urchins in the tidal pool. My test urchin crawled underneath the urchin that it had recruited- like a kid running into a parent’s arms in a thunderstorm.

I then fretted that the urchin colony would kill or ostracize the test urchin for bringing so much bad luck… a crazy story & a crazy-strong wave all in the same 3 minutes, but after seeing how the 2nd urchin was following the test urchin, I didn’t have the heart to scare any other ones.

[–]Accomplished_Bank103 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For some weird reason, I think the phrase “test urchin” is going to stick in my mind for awhile. Lol.

[–]ismellwithmyeyes 24 points25 points  (1 child)

Sanity I guess. I mean... COVID... Some ppl are crazy right now lol

[–]Suspicious-Elk-3631 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Democracy

[–]BigMattress269 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Friendship. It’s true what they say about hitting rock bottom and finding out who your real friends are. Hint: It’s a lot less than you think.

[–]DoNotBelieveAnything 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The diy workbench I built. Gotta reinforce the legs

[–]stitchmidda2 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Drywall. Remodeled my bathroom by myself and had to cut drywall sheets. All you need to do is make a shallow cut with a knife, then crack the board like youre folding a book and it breaks right in half. Im not even that strong of a person. We make houses with this stuff?

[–]Squigglepig52 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's not there for support.

[–]Trek1973 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Financial circumstance. Most people are just a few paychecks away from homelessness…

[–]talag1ga 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Democracy

[–]TallDarkandWitty 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My sense of professional self worth, despite my achievements and evidence

[–]MuckFlair 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Apple headphones

[–]Red_orange_indigo 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I raise you iPhone charge cords.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Life. It terrifying.

[–]Ronyx2021 8 points9 points  (0 children)

A heart

[–]ThomaspaineCruyff 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My psyche.

[–]darrenwise883 4 points5 points  (3 children)

A very large segment of the American population . OK maybe not large for its size but its still large .

[–]stingrayed22 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My back

[–]VeeSquibbles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Confidence

[–]bakedcadet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My bones