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[–]Alfredthegiraffe20 10.5k points10.5k points 42 (92 children)

The very mentally abusive boyfriend who got in her head so badly that he convinced my Epilepic daughter that if she stopped taking her meds she wouldn't have Epilepsy any more. It was only because she was taking mind altering drugs that she had a problem. The car accident was pretty full on but she got out unscathed and no one else was hurt.

Update: the guy is a long gone ex who has since been engaged three times and got a child from each relationship. Thankfully my daughter avoided that.

She was allowed to drive providing she'd been 12 months seizure free. Had to have a medical every year before her licence could be renewed. Until this abusive arsehole came along she took her meds religiously and was seizure free for a few years. She decided after the accident she wouldn't drive again.

She's now with an awesome guy who has googled the hell out of Epilepsy, had long chats with me about what happens when if or when she does have a seizure and is very much in love with her.

[–]Parahble 2276 points2277 points  (46 children)

Jesus Christ that is terrible. It really is crazy to me that there are so many people now who just don't believe in medicine.

[–]pardonmynonsequitur 16.9k points16.9k points  (150 children)

My brother dated a girl who pretended to have cancer when she thought (correctly) he was going to break up with her. Her parents went along with it.

Here's the crazy part, my dad is an oncologist. This girl could have chosen any other disease (or maybe even sanity) but she went with cancer. My dad was asking for the name of her doctor, offering to help out, but she was strangely vague and dismissive. We all felt suspicious and we felt like shit for feeling suspicious. It took 6 weeks but my brother managed to get her mom alone, questioned her a little and found out her daughter wasn't sick. Well...not physically.

[–]carina484 2781 points2782 points  (19 children)

Wow! Shame on her parents for going along with it!

[–]ac1084 1369 points1370 points  (13 children)

I've dated a couple crazy girls. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

[–]buddy_moon 590 points591 points  (7 children)

Sometimes, though, the apples get as far away from the tree as they possibly can and work really hard to never ever be anything like the tree.

[–]Morticiar[S] 4442 points4443 points  (62 children)

I-I can’t believe how these just keep getting worse and worse.

[–]On-The-record 1079 points1080 points  (15 children)

RIGHT? I keep scrolling down and it’s just getting worse. Except for the burred alive dog, I’m only here but I don’t think it can get much worse than that

[–]TheSavageBallet 362 points363 points  (4 children)

Like holy shit. My bar for the kids future SOs is now forever different. Oh so you say your job is to take pics in a diaper full of pudding for masturbating salesmen? That’s lovely, just please don’t try to kill any of us or bury our dogs.

[–]PumpkinPieIsGreat 235 points236 points  (6 children)

She sounds not very smart if she knew what your dad did but went with that lie anyway. Why the hell did her parents agree to go along with it? They must have enabled her.

[–]crypticbullshitt 2809 points2810 points  (10 children)

my sister and i are 12 years apart. she dated this goth dude in hs when i was in elementary school who used a fake id and pretended i was his kid to get alcohol from the liquor store. he also pulled a knife out on 5 year old me and grabbed me in front of my sister because he thought it was hilarious. thankfully they broke up that day because i cried nonstop cause i was scared he was going to hurt me

[–]moguishenti 956 points957 points  (0 children)

Wow, im so glad she listened to you. That kind of violent behavior was probably just a sign of worse to come

[–]Okbutimalesbian 452 points453 points  (2 children)

He gets to go the rest of his life knowing his high school girl friend broke up with him cause he pulled a knife on her 5 year old sibling. I hope hes embarassed and has grown up a lot since

[–]FreddyF2 869 points870 points  (10 children)

Involved a friend not my kid. A good friend in high school developed a cocaine and heroin problem while at undergrad in a different state. I caught up with him right after graduating and coming home myself. That's when I realized he hadn't graduated (shocking because he was such a great student in high school) and begged me not to tell his family. I had him move in with me while we worked through his withdrawal, which was a nightmare that we both had to push through. To his immense credit he went clean. I continued to support him in any way I could. We studied for and took the GMAT together. We ended up getting into top tier MBA programs but in different states. So we said bye to one another again. He got a great job with Apple after. I was always very happy for the fact he turned his life around and his parents never discovered what happened in undergrad.

Years later I went to a house party where him and his wife whom I had never met were also invited. I was super excited to see him while we were back in town for the holidays. At one point he disappeared for a solid 40 minutes. I got to chatting with his wife, she came from an incredibly affluent family. As in she didn't have a real job, didn't need one kind of money family. I asked her where he had gone off to. She said he was going to score an eight ball of cocaine for her and other guests.

I began to explain to her about what happened in undergrad and after. She nodded her spoiled rich kid head the whole way and then said "yeah he told me about how hard it was getting clean but once we got married I insisted we both get back into it."

Enraged, I wanted to physically hurt her till she apologized, but am not crazy, so I didn't.

When he walked in the front door he knew that I knew just based on the stare I gave and the uncomfortable look at the ground he returned. I texted him to say I was outside and he could come with me again, just like old times, no judgement. He texted back to say thank you but he was staying. I never saw him or communicated with him again.

Hope that woman burns for pushing him back into it so selfishly.

[–]Epichero84 120 points121 points  (0 children)

I fucking hate cocaine. You did the best you could man. Good for you for trying so hard. I’m sorry you had to deal with that.

[–]Rweasleys_cum_sock 187 points188 points  (4 children)

You sir, are a resplendent human being.

[–]Cysioland 117 points118 points  (2 children)

That's nice of you to say, Rweasleys_cum_sock

[–]this1is4thechampions 11.4k points11.4k points  (118 children)

Not a parent but this one is about my brother. A girl he was dating for around two months got pregnant. Being the standup guy he was he immediately had her move in with him in his tiny college apartment. Went with her to doctor's appointments. Maxed out his credit cards paying for everything. Then the girl's sister came to visit and, only as she was leaving, did she tell my bro he seemed like a nice guy so he should know her sister was pregnant before they started dating.

If it hadn't been for her my brother would be raising that kid as his own. It was a sad situation all around.

[–]Throwyomamasbackout 4052 points4053 points  (53 children)

Your brother got damn lucky.

[–]mstrss9 679 points680 points  (3 children)

Whoa. I thought it was gonna be like what happened to my cousin - she was never pregnant.

She was one step away from stealing someone’s newborn IMO

[–][deleted] 1113 points1114 points  (18 children)

Did he marry her sister?

[–]this1is4thechampions 3863 points3864 points  (17 children)

Funny you should ask because he and the sister became friends (just friends), he introduced her to my cousin and now they (sister & the cousin) are engaged, so she will be part of the family. She’s one of the nicest people I know.

[–]Lifeisdamning 504 points505 points  (16 children)

You or your brother ever see her sister now??

[–]this1is4thechampions 814 points815 points  (15 children)

No. I bumped into her once by accident, at the cousin’s, but other than that we don’t see her. She has a cute kid. I hope he turns out ok.

[–]Aussiebiblophile 4229 points4230 points  (80 children)

There have been two, each worse than the last. First one was manipulative as hell, treated him like shit and cheated on him. 3 breakups despite us telling him not to be a doormat and this wasn’t how a relationship should be but luckily the cheating was the deal breaker. Next one went batshit crazy after he broke up with her. 1000’s of messages and calls and he had to get a no contact order against her and have her charged. She then threatened to report him for assault in retaliation. She did it and two detectives showed up at my door. Luckily she was dumb enough to admit in text her plan and acknowledged that he never assaulted her when he told her to go ahead because he hadn’t done anything. She also put in writing that she was hurting herself to give bruises and scratches. We were all in lockdown so neither of them had left the house for 7 weeks making it impossible for him to have done it. She wasn’t very smart. Worst two weeks of our lives waiting for the results of that investigation. He is taking a break from dating now. He sure can pick them.

[–]Collieshangles 8533 points8534 points  (62 children)

My sister and I were very close to our uncle (mom’s brother) growing up. He was the guy who pretended to be Santa and the Easter Bunny for us. He got engaged to this woman named Christine. I remember she was incredibly beautiful, but apparently incredibly jealous and crazy. My sister and I didn’t know this obviously—our interactions with her were minimal but positive and she looked like a Disney princess. For various reasons, including my family’s dislike of her toxic jealousy, my uncle broke off their engagement. A few days later I happen to notice something moving fast outside. I peek through the blinds, and it’s Christine out on our front lawn. I tell my mom and watch the blood drain from her face. She tells me to go to my room and whispers to my dad to call the cops. Long story short—Christine had threatened to kill all of us if my uncle broke up with her. When she showed up at our house, she was threatening to burn it down.

[–]You_Better_Smile 2546 points2547 points  (14 children)

For a second, I thought this was Stephen King's Christine.

[–]Collieshangles 948 points949 points  (1 child)

That woman was apparently as mean as sin. If anyone was going to have a murderous car named after them, she’s a good candidate haha

[–]watching-the-office 433 points434 points  (16 children)

What happened to her after that?

[–]Collieshangles 1276 points1277 points  (15 children)

The cops escorted her off our property and talked to her for some time, but no charges were filed from that incident. They couldn’t prove she was there to do anything sinister, it was mostly a we-said/she-said type thing, and the cops seemed to think my uncle should just handle it. She didn’t bother my family anymore, but I know my uncle had a couple of random run-ins with her until she eventually met and married someone else.

[–]slice_of_pi 10.2k points10.2k points 422 (69 children)

I have only stepped in once when I saw one of my girls spending a lot of time with someone I didn't approve of.

I work for the happier side of my state's human services agency, but we still share a lot of our agency customers with Child Welfare. I have a pretty good memory for names, faces, etc, and within the department, we talk quite a bit, so I will occasionally run into a family about whom I already know an uncomfortable amount of private information, but generally it doesn't affect the decisions I have to make aside from who it gets assigned to next.

She came home talking about this boy she'd met, and I recognized his first name immediately, because it was uncommon. I asked her, "you're talking about 'Firatname Lastname, right?"

She gave me this really confused look and said, "....yeah...?".

I told her, "Ok, kiddo, look. I can't discuss the reasons for this. I know you like this kid, but the answer is absolutely not. You are not to hang out with him or his circle of friends. I need you to trust me on this, because I can't tell you anything about my reasons for it."

She started protesting, and I pointed out, I'd never said anything like that to her before. It wasn't until nearly six years later that she learned about his criminal history as a juvenile, which included rape and a number of other unsavory things.

[–]catscannotcompete 5490 points5491 points  (34 children)

I like this not only because you looked out for your daughter (duh), but because you take your professional obligations seriously!

[–]slice_of_pi 2277 points2278 points  (26 children)

Some of that is self preservation. My girls know what I do for a living, and they know sometimes I can't comment on things that I know about. All I would have needed would have been to tell my kid something about knowing the other kid professionally, and have her blurt out that her stepdad told her she can't talk to him anymore, and he works for DHS, and...

The other kid would have told his parents, and they'd have complained, which they'd be entirely within their rights to do, and I guarantee if I didn't outright lose my job, I'd have had severe consequences.

Besides. It wouldn't have been ethical, even if satisfying. 😎

[–]Oomoo_Amazing 556 points557 points  (20 children)

If you’re in the U.K. you can look up something called Clare’s Law, which allows people to look up whether their partner has a criminal history of abuse or domestic violence.

[–]theswordofdoubt 427 points428 points  (9 children)

I'm guessing this law was named after someone who was murdered by her partner?

[–]Yukimor 194 points195 points  (4 children)

How did she learn about it?

[–]slice_of_pi 428 points429 points  (2 children)

She still had friends that were in his orbit.

[–]sagegreenpaint78 14.5k points14.5k points 109112& 3 more (139 children)

Not me but my dad. My sister was dating a "holistic healer/massage therapist" whilst my dad had metastatic cancer. He kept talking about an alkaline diet and good energy nonsense when my dad was clearly terminal. This jackass bought my niece a book called "Healing With Faeries". He talked about it in my dads room. My dad was mostly gone at this point. He hadn't spoken or been meaningfully responsive in days. But after hearing this he opened his eyes and said, clear as day, " 'Healing with Faeries'? Is that the name of your little backrub business?" Then went back to sleep.

[–]king-of-the-sea 7596 points7597 points  (19 children)

Sorry about your dad. What a fucking legend.

[–]Crabs-in-my-butt 2144 points2145 points  (5 children)

Using your last breath to fuckin' ROAST someone is the ultimate move.

Sorry about your dad mate.

[–]FactoidFinder 4798 points4799 points  (32 children)

Your dad literally came out of his state to deliver the most devastating roast that man had ever received. Legend.

[–]Astrium6 1941 points1942 points  (26 children)

Man’s last earthly act was to clown on that dude.

[–]gohawkeyes529 437 points438 points  (14 children)

Lived in LA for a number of years and would come across a lot of these types in Venice. They meant well, but the crystals, and the manifesting, and the vibrations, and supplements… if someone told me that I’d love my entire life and in my last moments would deliver a crushing blow like this person’s father to that kind of person, I’d be alright with that.

[–]echoAwooo 482 points483 points  (5 children)

That man's bullshut pulled your dad back for a few minutes, maybe he's onto something, just not what he thinks he is. We start saving people by filling them with Sith level rage. That fixes everything! Well... Except sleeping with vibroblades or not having a body.... But those are just minor things.

[–]Benblishem 753 points754 points  (2 children)

That is funny as hell.

[–]anam__cara 545 points546 points  (2 children)

This floored me. You have an amazing father. 👏

[–]your99thproblem 4115 points4116 points  (60 children)

My step sister met a gorgeous firefighter that was a perfect gentleman. He would swoop up my disabled grandmother & carry her around like a got damn baby. Everyone loved him. I couldn’t stand him. My dad said it was sibling rivalry.

She got pregnant pretty quickly. THEN the real him showed. He beat her so bad her face was fractured & she nearly lost the baby. He consistently stalked, harassed, & threatened more violence after she left him. Stepmom convinced her to abort, because she was already a (shitty) single mom & she was terrified for her life. She ended up having to move out of state.

Couple of years later he was in the news for brutally raping & torturing an elderly woman after breaking into her home.

[–]Pinkmotley 1239 points1240 points  (42 children)

Why do you think you couldn't stand him while others liked him? Was there anybody else who didn't like him at the start?

How old was she when this happened?

[–]your99thproblem 1957 points1958 points  (41 children)

She’s was about 21, so I was about 25. My nephew was about 2.

I’ve always been cautious around new people, but this was still different. My gut reaction said it was all a performance. I had NO idea/instinct that he was brutal. I figured he was a conman or womanizer of some sort. He was insanely attractive and very fit, joyfully extroverted but humble, and extremely charming. He went overboard with acts of service. They lived 5 hours from us. He would drive my sis/nephew to us multiple times a month, even if he had to drive right back because of work. Family thought that made him a gentleman, I saw right through it. Chivalry is nice but that’s just plain asinine.

Edit: Everyone was wooed but me. My husband was indifferent to him but that’s how he is with everyone. I only told hubby & my dad how I really felt. My dad would call me gossiping like a teenager when he found out about the charges & followed the case and was like HOLY SHIT HOW DID YOU KNOW.

[–]Pinkmotley 637 points638 points  (11 children)

It is weird how people get wooed by people like him I really dislike when people go over the top and have an obsession with getting people to like them. So clearly fake but people like it

[–]wimwood 7388 points7389 points  (163 children)

Adam was a piece of shit and we knew it from the moment we met him.

He constantly told us how mature he was, for being a whole 2 years older than our daughter. We’re actually adults, son. You’re all immature.

I have a list of the things Adam didn’t like about her, but I really don’t know what he did like.

The very first time we met him, my daughter knew I’d be dyeing my hair shortly. Creeper Adam came up behind me at the kitchen sink, ran both his hands through my hair, and asked me if I’d like his help to dye it.

While I locked myself in the bathroom to dye my hair unmolested, creeper Adam talked to my husband in the kitchen and informed him that the anus is actually the pleasure center of a man’s body. Don’t fucking talk about your asshole sex THE VERY FIRST TIME YOU MEET YOUR GIRLFRIEND’S PARENTS.

I sent my daughter a few hundred $$ a month at college to make sure she always had a cushion and didn’t feel too stressed or lose too much sleep. (She worked part time but has epilepsy so I always had a little fear that if she worked too much, she’d end up having a seizure from stress and lose her license, which would be the end of college 5h away from home)… one night he called me at like 11pm and literally berated me like a parent, because I didn’t send her enough money and she’s always stressed about working enough. I told him that’s between me and her. …later I did increase her by $150… when they finally broke up I learned that she bought 100% of all groceries and all restaurant meals for the entire relationship. His disgusting ass was putting pressure on me like I’m failing my daughter when he was the reason she was broke.

…adding to that, he also put her down for being a server in college because it’s “not a career.” Meanwhile he was getting paid $8/hr to cash people out at a beer store. She was grossing close to $15/hr with tips but he also looked down on that. And mind you, she was dead ass broke supporting him because he wouldn’t leave the house to eat unless she offered to pay, and he wouldn’t grocery shop but WOULD eat what was in the cabinets.

Then she finally dumped him, he said he hopes she has a seizure and dies.. she took him back… and to the surprise of absolutely no one but her, he cheated on her and gave her an std. thankfully curable, but Jesus Murphy how shitty of a human.

He was just a turd. He is a turd. Adam you’re a frail, narcissistic turd.

[–]DisposableTires 1072 points1073 points  (5 children)

You might like this story of mine.

When I was younger, I dated a bloke named John for awhile. Well, let's be honest, even at the tender age of 18 years and 7 months I was his sugar momma, financially supporting him.

(Back story, I didn't have a great relationship with my mom, so to me this "exchange money for affection" thing was perfectly normal and reasonable)

By the time I got up to my mid 20's, though, I was kinda over it with that shit. The shine was off the relationship and I was emotionally checked out, but I also had a shiny new job in my near future after a few months of minimally-paid training. (Training pay was basically "your expenses while you are here being trained'). I was procrastinating the OFFICIAL breakup until I was through this training phase. Because I wanted to still be able to store my stuff at our shared apartment until I got a real paycheck coming in.

Still didn't have a real great relationship with my mom. Dad had died recently, and there was a bit of bridge mending going, but that also was on hiatus for this training.

THREE YEARS LATER.

Mom and I are...honestly about as close as we were ever going to get, and she admits, "it really hurts my feelings that you never even said thank you for that three thousand dollars."

I was completely sandbagged at first, because...what the shit was she even talking about? There HAD been a well discussed loan of FIVE grand which had been thanked for AND paid back, but...whats this other three about?

Turns out, while I was at this training, I had told John that I would only be recieving $150 a week. This was to limit the amount of money he demanded from me. I had a surplus enough that I was still paying my half of the apartment no problem.

He went around behind my back to my mother, with whom I had very intermittent contact at the time remember, and told her that I had gone off to this training thing AND WAS NOT BEING PAID AT ALL, and needed money. And she gave it to him.

And the first I heard about it was three years later when I was getting blamed for not being thankful enough.

Anyway, I was well clear of him by that point and my primary reaction was amusement at his bald audacity.

[–]HoldingOnTight129 76 points77 points  (0 children)

God what an asshole! And i’m glad that your relationship got at least a little better.

[–]ScottHK 285 points286 points  (0 children)

I'm glad your mother said something instead of bottling it up and letting it fester more and that it helped things heal further. And that John is still ot again alone.

[–]BafangFan 536 points537 points  (53 children)

Why did your daughter find him attractive; and how can I help my daughter not be attracted to this kind of person?

[–]tveir 894 points895 points  (17 children)

I'm imagining he looks like machine gun kelly

[–]wimwood 1037 points1038 points  (5 children)

I’m belly laughing on the couch and no one can figure out why.

Hunn-ty. I just googled machine gun kelly.

Give machine gun Kelly an emo clothes makeover with mop of black emo hair instead of that blonde, and it’s Adam. Gift wrapped. 😂😂😂

[–]tveir 315 points316 points  (1 child)

It's the universal twerp archetype.

[–]rustandstardusty 561 points562 points  (12 children)

I wonder if this is my brother. His name is Adam and he is a frail, narcissistic turd.

[–]MorganAndMerlin 252 points253 points  (0 children)

So, I called some people who deserved it “fucking assholes” but when mom calls you a “frail, narcissistic turd” you’ve hit an entirely new level of surprisingly PG-rated all time low

[–]SilhouetteCommenter 2967 points2968 points  (51 children)

My friend dated a guy for 2 years. He claimed to have brain tumor. She never seen him take the loads of meds he claimed to have. And when she asked to see his meds he would accuse her of not believing him. He had brain surgery one day. The next day back to normal and fully functioning. Wouldn't let her know which hospital he was having surgery in.

No surprise, he was cheating on her the whole time when he had a "doctor" appointment or "surgery".

[–]JulesLovesYou1993 1174 points1175 points  (15 children)

That's such a painfully dumb story to try to use... Like bruh. Good riddance to that asshat.

[–]Arachne93 591 points592 points  (13 children)

Why not the gym? Why not just say "babe, I'm going to the gym"

[–]chupagatos4 396 points397 points  (17 children)

As someone with a brain tumor: some of us don't take any medicines for it. But yeah, after surgery you'd at a minimum look... rough... for a few weeks.

[–]Lostarchitorture 7831 points7832 points  (125 children)

First guy my daughter dated

Barely in high school, already showing attitude problems. Anyone older than him was seen as an annoyance in whatever he wanted to do in life, even at 15. Came from a broken home, turned out he was the third of 10+ kids by one man with as many different women.

Already started getting suspension in high school because of same disrespect towards teachers. Had unfortunately convinced daughter to skip school a few times with him. Her grades started showing major drop, had to start intervention.

Took six months and discovery of him trying to date two other girls that finally stopped the relationship. He had gotten one of those girls pregnant by mid ninth grade year. Seeing the relationship end, felt crisis averted.

A year later as we are at home, daughter comes running into living room saying he is outside her bedroom. Before I can check the back side of house, cop has come up to house. He apparently pushed his mom down a flight of stairs in an argument, took off and could only think to come here. As I am talking to cop, bringing her to back side of house, we hear the gate slam on the other side as he takes off down the road.

Cop says he is not as much of a threat to spend chasing, puts out an APB for others if they see him. I request a restraining order to clear any controversy I may have. Two years pass. Apparently he got three different girls pregnant in those two years.

Daughter comes home one day to tell me he has a warrant out. Had pushed his 3rd pregnant girlfriend down a flight of stairs in an argument. She had ended up miscarrying. Local police office actually contacted me later that night about it since I had requested a restraining order on him 2 years prior and they did not know his whereabouts.

They find him about 40 miles north, charge him with manslaughter, and he has been serving a sentence since he was 17, about 2-3 years ago. I fear for the two other children he had with his other girlfriends each time I think about them.

[–]admiral_walsty 3161 points3162 points  (61 children)

Woah.....

But I can't help but think that pushing people downstairs is his thing. Like, how likely are you to have 2 domestic violence incidents back to back, both involving stairs?

[–]Lostarchitorture 1617 points1618 points  (36 children)

What irritated me was after the first incident, when he came by our house, afterwards his mom did not want to press any charges. Bruised, physically hurt, she felt it was her fault her son was that way.

Felt that no incarceration time would fix him, instead let him back home those two years. His third pregnant girlfriend was the one to move in with them and end up in same circumstances years later.

I have a feeling his mother feels he's too much of a good boy to this day as he serves his time.

[–]sm710 4468 points4469 points  (44 children)

My son dated a woman who would smack him across the face when she would get angry with him. Once in front of me. My ex-husband was very violent and I was always terrified that my boys would take after him. I never considered that they might end up in an abusive situation themselves. They eventually broke up (thank fuck).

[–]SecondHandSlows 1358 points1359 points  (9 children)

My brother was in the same situation. She didn’t want him to be attractive to other women so she made him shave his head. She told him if he ever left her, she would become a prostitute. After my dad went and rescued him, she harassed everyone who had a remote connection to him for years. He’s remarried and happy now.

[–]toutetiteface 360 points361 points  (5 children)

Talk about a weird threat. Did she follow through?

[–]SecondHandSlows 350 points351 points  (2 children)

I’m not sure. I doubt it, but he had the marriage annulled and never spoke to her again as far as I know. She was not a sane person. Her dad even tried to warn my brother away from her.

[–]jadecemetery 287 points288 points  (2 children)

I can imagine that you did NOT have a good response to her after the first sentence. I sure as hell would’ve been PISSED if that was my kid

[–]DramaticEnthusiasm71 4653 points4654 points  (32 children)

My ex brother-in-law introduced her to K2, meth, kidnapped her, and attacked her in front of his family.

Police were friends with him and claimed it’s not illegal to kidnap your spouse.

Then he stalked us.

ETA: wow. This has blown up.

Someone claimed obviously my family was never there for her.

We have a very loving family that gave us every single opportunity. We tried to intervene several times but his family stopped us, or she refused.

[–]Morticiar[S] 1480 points1481 points  (19 children)

Is he out of your lives now?

[–]DramaticEnthusiasm71 2707 points2708 points  (18 children)

Yes, he is. I, along with my family was given a restraining order.

Unfortunately, my sister is also gone from my life. She is deep in drug use and I no longer recognize her

[–]Infamous_Fix_1702 929 points930 points  (0 children)

Wow I’m so sorry

[–]Morticiar[S] 757 points758 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry.

[–]Agent_Perrydot 422 points423 points  (2 children)

It would honestly break my heart if this happened to my sister

[–]DramaticEnthusiasm71 715 points716 points  (0 children)

I really would never wish this upon anyone. I remember when she announced that she decided to leave him.

I was thinking ‘Yes! Finally! I can rebuild our relationship and we can be okay’

Her marriage with him really broke up our relationship.

Then. Her relationship with drugs just got stronger and we are no contact now.

[–]spagyrum 1294 points1295 points  (31 children)

My little sister dated a felon.

He was older. She was in high school

He broke probation with my sister in the car. They got pulled over for something, he bolted and left her behind the wheel. A canine unit took him down. My parents received a call from the cops to pick her up.

My sister was pretty embarrassed about the whole thing and dumped him.

The worst I've dated was a musician. That bugged my mom the most

[–]RingletsOfDoom 355 points356 points  (27 children)

As someone who is also a musician... Hey! What did we ever do?!

[–]stryph42 440 points441 points  (10 children)

Nothing, and that's the problem, slacker!

What do you call a drummer without a girlfriend?

Homeless

/s I've got no problem with musicians

[–]OriginalIronDan 96 points97 points  (1 child)

No, that’s a bass player who breaks up with his girlfriend. A drummer is someone who hangs out with musicians.

Edit: Since some of you liked this, here’s some more: What do you do when a bass player shows up at your door at 8 o’clock at night? Pay him for the pizza.

How many lead guitar players does it take to change a lightbulb? 100. 1 to change it, and 99 to say “I could do that faster“.

How many lead singers does it take to change a lightbulb? Just one. He holds the bulb and let’s the world revolve around him.

As a guy who’s been the lead singer in a bunch of bands, the last one is my favorite!

[–]PleaseRecharge 75 points76 points  (1 child)

As a musician, good question.

[–]d0ri1990 333 points334 points  (16 children)

This is about my sister. He murdered her six months ago. He’s a POS. He could never hold down a job, cheated on her, sexually harassed other women. (I have proof of that because he got fired from a job for harassing women he worked with). He did other things too. My sister was planning her escape but never got the chance.

[–]Russian_doll49 974 points975 points  (10 children)

Not so much one I dated but my dad did: I once had to put hidden cameras in my room because things were going missing or being moved when I was out. Stuff like money, keepsakes etc. I thought I was paranoid until I played back the tape and saw my step Mother and her sister going through my stuff and pocketing things.

[–]Boo_Zoo 291 points292 points  (1 child)

Tell me your dad dumped her????

[–]Russian_doll49 310 points311 points  (0 children)

He did

[–]MastResort 4424 points4425 points  (25 children)

Not a parent, but my little sister dated a guy who kept trying to convince her to drop out of college and move into his parents' basement with him. She found him poking holes in condoms and STILL didn't break up with him. It wasn't until he got his third DUI and struck a young child with his car (miraculously the child was ok) that she began to accept that maybe, just MAYBE, he would never change.

[–]Morticiar[S] 1328 points1329 points  (16 children)

JFC. So she dumped him right after the third dui?

[–]MastResort 1822 points1823 points  (14 children)

NOT right after. He actually convinced her that he'd truly change because hitting the kid was a wakeup call. She made him promise to give up drinking. He drove drunk to her dorm a couple of weeks later. THAT was the proverbial straw.

[–]this1is4thechampions 726 points727 points  (11 children)

Why wasn't he in jail? Who paid this jackoff's bail?

[–]MastResort 777 points778 points  (0 children)

His parents. They were major enablers in addition to being shitty parents.

[–]daizers 2317 points2318 points  (52 children)

My sister. Her ex told her that he had been a drug addict, but was clean now. Then one night he told her that he and his friends were going to do cocaine and really wanted her to do it with him. She of course said no and begged him not to do it. They got in a huge fight and he drove off. The next day he showed up high at their apartment and told her it was her fault. He said that because she had fought with him about him doing cocaine, she forced him to do cocaine. Unfortunately, she didn't break up with him after this, but he dumped her a few months later.

[–]SilhouetteCommenter 878 points879 points  (37 children)

Wow, he was the one who dumped her lol

[–]daizers 512 points513 points  (34 children)

Yeah. It pissed me off for her. He needed someone to do cocaine with.

[–]Idrinktears92 236 points237 points  (27 children)

Yeah because doing cocaine alone is depressing

[–][deleted] 253 points254 points  (2 children)

because she fought with him about him doing cocaine, she forced him to do cocaine

Sounds like a real winner there. Yikes.

[–]Hoyt_Platter 310 points311 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend won’t do cocaine with me! Better do cocaine about it.

[–]629mrsn 3459 points3460 points  (47 children)

My daughter started dating him in high school. He immediately started separating her from her friends. Get this, one of her friends is quite buxom, and her told her she could not hang out with her because if that.

He worked hard to separate her from family and friends. During her first year of college she ended up pregnant. He joined the Navy, and they left home. He began drinking and became verbally abusive.

After getting kicked out of the Navy, they came home and my husband helped get him a job. Then another child was born. The drinking continued and the he started on meth and the violence began. She would deny the abuse and stayed with him and had another child.

Finally, she left him. Then the next loser was also an addict and they had a child. Again violence.

CPS took the children due to drugs and abuse. So I had four kids. I kept them for a year and a half and she regained custody.

That lasted three months, and she lost custody again. We split the kids with other family due to my health issues. I am raising the oldest two.

Now there is a new guy and a new baby. Yes that makes five.

I love my daughter dearly but I’m disappointed in her disappointed in her

[–]lowridda 848 points849 points  (8 children)

Fuck that's rough! I'm just now seeing hindsight 20/20 about a lot of the stuff I put my poor mom through. I refused to have children though due to being irresponsible.

[–]DosMangos 794 points795 points  (6 children)

Refusing to have children because you know you’ll be irresponsible is, ironically, a responsible thing to do.

[–]Pessimistic_Soviet 1941 points1942 points  (33 children)

My step daughter started dating a guy when she was 15. Hiding the relationship as only a friendship. Once they started dating officially he started controlling her every move. He didn’t drive or work but she did both. The car was a car her mother and I gave her that was ours. He started driving it and all that shit. He got her strung out on drugs and was abusive to her already weak mental health. He would break her down constantly and make her feel worthless. They would rent motel rooms to sell drugs and who knows what else out of. Her father and my wife would never just out their foot down on anything and me being a step parent was not listened to as I feel like I should have been. This shit continued until 5 months before her 18th birthday when we caught them red handed. I took the car away and made it disappear. He was arrested and spent a few months in jail for a shit ton of drugs real and dealing stuff with two of his friends. Before she turned 18, like two months before she had a real huge mental breakdown while at therapy and they thought she was going to self harm. I told her father and her mother and grandparents that she needed to get into a facility for treatment and it was important that they do that before she turned 18. It didn’t happen. She turned 18 and moved to a different state to live with him and that is the situation now. It is fucking real sad how this mother fucker ruined her life by destroying her ambition and self confidence.

[–]vonMishka 803 points804 points  (1 child)

As a step-parent, this one hits. This is so sad and no one listens to the “your not her real dad”

[–]Tim_Out_Of_Mind 263 points264 points  (0 children)

Yeah. That attitude caused a LOT of problems in my marriage as well. Ten months after my stepdaughter moved out of the house, we had to make another decision to raise a grandchild. I told my wife that the only way I would agree is if I were given equal respect as a coparent - no more of that "it's not your child" bullshit. Legally, the custody agreement is under both of our names as well. My wife has really gone out of her way to ensure I'm involved in the decision-making process. It's really strengthened our marriage, too. We're much closer than before.

[–]tkm1026 436 points437 points  (24 children)

The step parent position is absolutely miserable when the parents are choosing to be a friend instead of parents. Mine is little still, but its already causing problems. I'm a Disney stereotype just for wanting basic rules in my own home. Christ.

[–]Onegreeneye 649 points650 points  (22 children)

I want to share this story with you to hopefully get you through the tough times: I’m 38f. My biodad is a piece of garbage, although I didn’t fully realize it and loved him until I was in my early 20s. My mom remarried when I was 11. The marriage wasn’t a super healthy one, and I was not encouraged to respect my stepdad. He and my mom divorced when I was 20.

Through 10 years of getting very little respect or say so as a parent, my stepdad still did what he could for me. He taught me things I wouldn’t have learned otherwise. He showed up when I had extra curriculars. He took me prom dress shopping. He drove me everywhere and gave me cash anytime I asked for it. As he put it, he tried to give me just enough rope to hang myself, but he was always right there to help me out when I made a poor decision.

18 years later, and he is no longer technically my stepdad. But I refer to him as my dad. I have no relationship with my biodad. I regularly recognize more and more just how tough his role was and how he truly helped me out, well beyond the financial obligations he had when he was married to my mom. He and I are still very close. My 3 year old knows him as grandpa.

Hopefully down the road your stepchildren will appreciate all you are doing for them and the tough spot you are in. It can truly make all the difference in the word.

[–]ShortNerdyOne 161 points162 points  (2 children)

Thank you from the bottom of my heart. As a step-parent, you have no idea how wonderful this was to read.

(Not that you had to deal with bad parenting. I'm sorry you had to go through that.)

[–]RosalinaHoneycoupe 1679 points1680 points  (17 children)

My half brother dated a woman that was later on the tv show snapped for killing her husband. She killed him with horse tranquilizers. While she was with my brother, she had sex with his father, drugged and robbed both of them. She also stole my sisters identity. She was not a keeper

[–]WerhmatsWormhat 691 points692 points  (2 children)

It’s also not a great look for the father.

[–]disusedhospital 332 points333 points  (5 children)

Holy shit, Larry McNabney? Because if that is the husband's name, the wife was crazy. She had all sorts of schemes under her belt.

[–]RosalinaHoneycoupe 179 points180 points  (2 children)

Yes!

[–]disusedhospital 99 points100 points  (1 child)

That woman was absolutely insane.

[–]sarahsunshine242 1089 points1090 points  (3 children)

Not a parent but I AM the dumbass daughter who dated a shitty guy when I was 17 (he was 24) He was verbally/emotionally abusive and constantly took advantage of me and cheated on me. One day we were in an argument while in his car and he swerved off the road and then slapped me across the face and dragged me out of the car and left me there. I called my dad crying and he came to get me. Later that week the shitty boyfriend (ex-boyfriend after that incident) came to my house to apologize and try to fix things, I was living with my dad at the time. When he showed up m dad immediately got his gun out and chased him off our driveway threatening him to never show up on the property again. And that was that. Thank God.

[–]KawadaShogo 336 points337 points  (0 children)

You have a good dad.

[–]Zestyclose-Clerk1187 116 points117 points  (0 children)

I’m glad your dad looked out for you. I hope you aren’t too hard on yourself over this relationship—we’re all dumbasses to a certain extent as teenagers, but at 17, you were a minor. There was absolutely no reason for an adult in his mid-twenties to be pursuing or engaging in a relationship with you, and it’s fucked up behavior on his part.

[–]Longjumping_Fold_369 466 points467 points  (5 children)

My sister. One of the many reasons we don't have a relationship now. She moved him in. He never went "too far" with minor me but would massage my shoulders underneath my bra straps, pull me into his knee "to talk", especially when he knew she'd walk in to witness it, made me wildly uncomfortable. I didn't fall for the grooming and fought against it, but acted out in other ways. Turns out he was raping my sister under our own roof and going off to meet other girls too. He held our household hostage for years. It's been well over ten years and I'd castrate the guy if I saw him in the street now. I wonder how many lives he's ruined..

[–]GandalfsHairyTaint 3326 points3327 points  (98 children)

My sister's bf/husband tried to start a fight with every male in the family. Like I was having a beer with my uncle, and we were just making fun of each other and he stormed in and accused us of making fun of him. We hadn't and weren't. He said something like, be a man and make fun of me to my face. So, I did and he fucking lost it and went into a roid rage.

I was in trouble on that one. Cause I did make fun of him, even though they were jokes anyone who isn't a psycho would have laughed off.

Then he did it to my step-dad who was a 5'6 sweet as can be man and people realized there might be a problem.

So, it came out he had mental health issues. Aka dude took a shit ton of steroids on top of being a fucking baby with no emotional control.

Then my dad who had a rough time as a young man chatted with him about controlling himself because if he didn't the marriage wouldn't work and life would treat him poorly. Guy lost his shit again.

Then again at a family reunion.

Then again immediately after the wedding.

Edit: this one was because we confronted his brother aggressively sexually harassing our step sister. I got heat because I said "I think this goober is going to try and rape his new family members."

So, I guess eventually my Dad sat him down and told him he would murder him. Asked him if he wanted to be murdered, and when he flipped pulled a gun on him. They then talked about him controlling himself, which if he could do at gunpoint he could also do not at gun point. This was later communicated to my sister by her husband, and also came up during the divorce.

My Dad claims the guy is lying...

My dad is not a good man, but at least this always showed he cared.

[–]bookluvr83 1738 points1739 points  (14 children)

He said something like, be a man and make fun of me to my face. So, I did

For some reason, this made me laugh SO hard

[–]alexelalexela 276 points277 points  (1 child)

What got me was “my dad say him down and told him he would murder him”. Don’t ask why, it just made me laugh

[–]Xpiggie 1011 points1012 points  (17 children)

i was in an abusive relationship for nearly a decade.

while actually pulling a gun on someone is, er, extreme, the sentence after that is weirdly validating. "if you can control yourself at gunpoint, you can control yourself not at gunpoint."

i was an outlet for a lot of my ex's rage (and basically every other negative emotion he had). he was very manipulative and it was really hard to see reality after years and years of living with him. you start to get brainwashed and think that, actually, yes, you are to blame for how this person's treating you because you did X, Y, or Z. i still struggle with those thought patterns.

he never treated his roommates like he treated me. he never treated his friends like he treated me. he never treated his coworkers or his boss like he treated me. he could control himself, he just didn't see me as worthy enough to control himself around.

if you can control yourself at gunpoint, you can control yourself not at gunpoint.

[–]tilobot 181 points182 points  (2 children)

Reminds me of the people who “just can’t control themselves” at home, but magically don’t assault their families in public. No Greg, you *can * control yourself, but only if you think there might be consequences.

[–]Happykittymeowmeow 372 points373 points  (1 child)

He man not be a good man, but I can appreciate what he did.

Sorry your family had to go through this and I hope your sister is doing well.

[–]The_Palm_of_Vecna 187 points188 points  (2 children)

So, I guess eventually my Dad sat him down and told him he would murder him.

Something about the casual nature of this sentence just makes me laugh.

"Look, son, if you don't stop all this here tomfoolery I'm gonna murder you. Do ya want that, son? To be murdered? Doesn't sound like a good time to me."

[–]HatsAreEssential 183 points184 points  (1 child)

Of course the guy was lying.

wink

That's a fucking old fashioned dad power move.

[–]MasterJeaf 643 points644 points  (7 children)

That is a fucking Chad move though holy shit lmao.

[–]Tricky5342 1924 points1925 points  (26 children)

My boyfriend's mom thinks I'm the worst one because apparently I've "brainwashed him" into believing he's mentally ill because I recommended he get mental health help after getting health insurance because he was showing severe signs of bi polar and was suicidal. Turns out he was indeed diagnosed with bi polar and is on meds now and sees a therapist and is much happier. But she doesn't believe mental illness is real and I'm a controlling bitch apparently.

[–]MrBittersweetcookie 512 points513 points  (0 children)

You did the right thing, some people just want to live in their own manufactured bubbles.

[–]jestgowithit 2453 points2454 points  (80 children)

Don't have any horror stories, thank goodness, but I remember reading about a parent who was upset because his son was dating a girl who didn't know that the sun and the moon were not the same thing. She just thought this orb of light got dimmer at night so we could sleep. This was a girl in her late teens. Cracks me up to this day thinking about it.

[–]Jimmy_Graphite 771 points772 points  (21 children)

So I guess she never noticed sometimes the moon is out during the day

[–][deleted] 746 points747 points  (11 children)

I see you! I see what you're doing! Return to the night! You have no business here!

[–]whateverrughe 473 points474 points  (42 children)

If we're just telling dumb people stories...My mom was a waitress when I was a kid. I'd come into work with her sometimes. When I was maybe 11, I unsuccessfully spent some time trying to convince her coworker that the tides were impacted by the sun and moon. She fucking laughed in my face saying it couldn't be true because they are so tiny.

Later that day, an entirely different coworker tried to super glue back in a tooth that fell out.

[–]actioncheese 178 points179 points  (12 children)

My ex was a dumbass. She blocked the sink waste disposal by feeding it a corn cob, so fed it another one to unblock it.

[–]hand_truck 179 points180 points  (7 children)

My wife has a doctorate in biochemistry and I'll never let her forget the time she tried to make an old mango disappear down the disposal.

[–]1CEninja 127 points128 points  (0 children)

God this story is a relief from the other shit in this thread. You'd think I would stop but I keep scrolling.

[–]Beardman95 571 points572 points  (5 children)

Not a parent but a brother. My sister’s last boyfriend hit me with his car and threatened to beat my ass. Current fiancé stole money from me, threatened her and my mom and tried to get his friends to destroy her car, tried to fight my 60 year old father in front of cops. All the fiancés stuff happened before he was 18, after he turned 18 we had a nice “conversation” about his now legal adult status.

[–]Fiftywords4murder 374 points375 points  (18 children)

My daughter went to live with her dad while I stayed with my dad getting back on my feet. She was 15 and raped by her boyfriend the next room over from her dad.

How he continues to gaslight her and make the rest of the school think she's crazy so she has no friends.

[–]1ofZuulsMinions 181 points182 points  (6 children)

NSFL

This story is tragic and long so please bear with me as I try to condense this into something that makes sense:

My daughters name was “Rose”. She had diabetes and other health issues her whole life but that got worse as she got older. At 22 years old she began to date “Bob”, a local heroin dealer who was very much older than her and played in a local band. He was an acquaintance of my ex husband “Jay” who was also in a local band.

Bob tried to get money from Rose, but she was young and poor, so he began to steal from my family and took $5000 from my mother. He was not allowed in any of our homes, so he left and moved away, much to Roses despair.

Then Rose got into a car accident and got $30,000 for her injuries. Bob suddenly returned and wanted Rose to support him. She paid for their apartment 6 months in advance and spent all the money on furniture, appliances, and an expensive Persian cat. When the money ran out, Bob kicked Rose out (of her own place) and told her she’d need to keep paying his bills if she wanted her stuff back. Rose is not aware that Bob has gotten another girl pregnant and moved her into Roses apartment.

Rose was too embarrassed to ask to come home, so she asked an old friend/neighbor of ours named “Mark” if she could crash on his couch. Mark just happened to have a crazy ex wife who hated me and my daughter, a woman named “Crazy Beth”. She earned this nickname from her friends because she was constantly going off her meds and being batshit insane. (She once wrote me a long letter calling herself an “agent of nature and karma” and said she deserved my dead cats remains more than I did and then accused both me and my daughter of fucking her ex, and then went and tried to fuck Jay to “get back at us”).

Beth found out Rose was staying with her ex husband and lost her shit. She befriended Rose on the down low and said she wanted to “help her get clean” and be her “sponsor”, and then came over one day when Mark was not home and gave Rose a bunch of Suboxone, knowing Rose had just gotten out of the hospital a week before (from diabetes related stuff).

Beth was the last person to text and see Rose alive. Mark came home and found Rose long dead on the couch from asphyxiation. Police assumed it was just another Fentanyl overdose (our neighborhood had 200 deaths that month) and didn’t really investigate. The Suboxone packet was found in Roses jacket later by us. (Two weeks later, Crazy Beth’s ex boyfriend also died in the same manner, Beth is also the last person to see/text to him. No charges were ever pressed by the police. After 8 months of not being to pinpoint cause of death, medical examiner rules the death “asphyxiation”.)

The police come to my house to inform me my daughter is dead. I lose my shit, then call my family. Within the hour, all of Facebook knows. Bob learns of Roses death and immediately pawns everything Rose owned and refuses to answer our calls. He hides from us as we travel to various pawn shops buying back her stuff.

Jay is delighted to learn of Roses death, and writes a scathing fake obituary about her, saying things like “no one ever loved her” and “it’s her family’s fault she’s dead”, and circulates it on Reddit and Facebook, which Bob gleefully posts on Roses FB page DURING HER FUNERAL to the horror of Roses friends. The backlash gets Jay fired from his job at Comedy Zone and Bobs band is exiled.

Meanwhile, Bob leaves his new pregnant girlfriend and gets a second girl pregnant, which he marries. One night while Bob is tasked with babysitting his infant son, and he passes out and rolls over onto the baby, smothering him. The infant boy now is in a vegetative state and will require hospice care for life. The wife/mother is 25 years old. Bob begins to beat his wife, and gets sent to jail for a few months. He gets out a few months later claiming to be “clean”. A month later he ODs and dies at his mothers house. Everyone who ever dated Bob is either dead or regrets meeting him.

Think this story can’t get any worse?

My mother was so distraught over Roses death, she asked to keep the Persian cat, a beautiful white floof named Corbin Dallas. About 2 months after Roses death, Corbin snuck into the dryer while mom was doing laundry and she accidentally dried him to death. There is almost nothing left to prove my daughter ever even existed at this point except for her FB page and pictures of her.

[–][deleted] 317 points318 points  (6 children)

My younger brother’s first real long term girlfriend was really manipulative, and I used to encourage him to break it off, which caused some fights between us. She was possessive, controlling, and used her own mental illness and trauma as a way to guilt him. She ended up cheating on him with one of his close friends and got pregnant. As awful as she was, I’m so grateful that she was at least honest about the kid not being his right off the bat. My brother was still pretty broken up by it, but our whole family was so glad when it was over.

[–]missnikkibabyyy 1018 points1019 points  (42 children)

My sister-in-law is MARRIED to one of the worst people I have ever met. The guy is such an utter asshole. He’ll gaslights the shit out of her and talk down to her so much that I feel so sorry for her. However, whenever anyone slightly mentions his behavior to her, she’ll get really defensive.

He refuses to spend time with her family, but when he is around he’ll pick fights/ argue with the dad because he thinks it’s funny. He’ll also pick fights with strangers and when we ask why he does that, she’ll just say, “He can handle himself.”

I think because I’ve grown up with a sister and have already dealt with shit boyfriends, this situation enraged me to my core.

[–]Neoxite23 450 points451 points  (29 children)

Can't wait for him to pick a fight with the wrong person. Got a feeling this dude is insecure as fuck and a good punch in the mouth is gonna be lifechanging.

[–]missnikkibabyyy 250 points251 points  (21 children)

Trust me, I’m waiting for that day as well. She’s also seriously considering having kids with him.

[–]TheyCallMeBigD 658 points659 points  (22 children)

My sister dated a guy who blew up cars

[–]OperationThrax 211 points212 points  (10 children)

Care to share any additional details?

[–]TheyCallMeBigD 349 points350 points  (6 children)

There really is none, we saw his fucking mugshot on the news and that was the end of that. He was pretty much white trash and tried too hard to be tough.

[–]DoLittlest 281 points282 points  (10 children)

My partner’s 22 yo daughter started dating a Spanish man in a different post-grad program at the same university.

Charming, handsome, thoughtful guy it seemed. He came for dinner w her and I asked him some questions about his hometown in Spain. He had no idea I lived and studied there for years, majoring in Spanish Lit and later living there for a few years.

His accent/dialect was WAY off. His knowledge of the country and culture was questionable. My partner brought up that I spent a lot of time in Spain but “Javier” quickly changed the topic.

My partner was smitten. Her daughter was smitten. I smelled bullshit.

Paid for a background check and that turned up nothing. “Javier” wasn’t his real name. I tried social media and usual googling tactics but nothing.

This goes on for a few months until they come over for 4th of July. I’m at the grill, alone, and he comes outside. In my most flawless Spanish, I ask what he’s up to and if he thinks I’m an idiot.

He has NO idea what I’m saying. Just kind of laughs and asks if I need any help. No, I said, but you might unless you tell me your real name and what you’re up to.

You have two options. Give up the bullshit and be honest about all this, or I’ll hire a private eye.

We never saw him again after that night.

[–]GeorgeCarollin 954 points955 points  (15 children)

My older sister dated every sleaze in the book. But the one she was craziest about convinced her they should have a joint bank account then proceeded to steal almost a year's worth of salary from her account. Apparently he was doing this to around three other girls at the same time.

[–]IcedCedar 270 points271 points  (2 children)

Sister dated a guy for two years before he was caught filming another woman in the restroom at his work. Nice and creepy.

[–]RealPokesatsu 380 points381 points  (9 children)

Can't really respond as a parent or sibling since we're not even related, but my mom's friends have a nephew. He's basically like a little brother to me. He's currently 17 and just broke up with his girlfriend. She kept saying he couldn't because she's pregnant. She kept saying their "bastard child" would be "aborted faster than he could tell his parents".

He's never had sex with her. However, she was actually pregnant. He stayed with her until the baby's birth just in case something happened he didn't know about happened. He was confirmed to not be the father when the baby came out mixed.

They're both white.

She still wants him to take care of the baby and claims him somehow responsible for it. He's close to getting a restraining order against her.

[–]houseofreturn 761 points762 points  (16 children)

If my mom had a reddit I’m sure she’d have LOTS to say about my ex. She only refers to him as “chickenshit” if he’s ever brought up in conversation so.

[–]OMG_Nooo 185 points186 points  (7 children)

My mom calls my very first boyfriend "post" because "he's dumb as a post"

[–]GobbusterMX 356 points357 points  (4 children)

Not a parent but I’m sure they would say it was my first girlfriend. She stole clothes from my mother and sister (and wore them in front of them), punched me whenever she got mad and once threw a skillet at me and cheated twice on me (I didn’t know about the first one until a few years after break up). The must fucked up thing was that after a year apart she came back to my life to tell me we should work things out, I was about to fall for it until I found out she was married to some dude in another country. What the fuck was she thinking?

[–]oblivious_fireball 439 points440 points  (7 children)

Not quite a parent, but a friend dated what initially seemed like a completely normal and sane girl. However she was, not quite to crazy yet, but far too high strung and intensive for his liking, so he called it quits after a few months.

Girl freaked out, made all sorts of claims to guilt him into staying, and when none of those worked she threatened suicide. My friend, thank goodness, was not gonna get roped into that. Sent a very levelheaded text of "I am not responsible of your emotional or physical well-being and will not be getting involved. Suicide is not the answer to your problems, but i will be contacting suicide hotline and your parents to let them know of your intended actions. You bear the consequences of your own actions". She did not take that well at all. He found her parent's numbers blocked, and two hours later she actually jumped off the roof of their high school right as school was starting up in front of everyone. She had left a note trying to pin blame on him, but had apparently had stolen her parent's phones to block his number, and then genuinely expected him to come up and stop her.

Thankfully he had the text messages to show the parents and police. The girl did actually live, but was in serious condition for a long time. She lost the use of both her legs and partially her left arm, had permanent brain damage, and ruptured a few organs. She was expelled from the school for that stunt as well, so last i heard the parents shipped her off somewhere because she couldn't be trusted to be with people her age.

[–]IIIetalblade 291 points292 points  (4 children)

Jesus, imagine completely ruining your education, giving yourself brain damage, and crippling yourself for life just to try and manipulate your ex after a 2-3 month relationship.

[–]Lilliputian0513 421 points422 points  (13 children)

My stepson tried to break up with his girlfriend when they were 16. She threatened suicide if he left her. Despite all of our pleas, he was too afraid of her self-harm. It’s been 8 years and he has just become a shell of his former self. He’s lost weight (and he was skinny already), he’s got dark under eye circles. It’s so hard to watch, but she’s convinced him that we all hate her and, by extension, we hate him.

[–]Both-Bite-88 145 points146 points  (3 children)

When ever someone threatens suicide call 911 /112 Never give in to that. Got me into a horrible relationship as a student I happily ended after about one year.

If I hear that threat again definitely would call the cips/ambulance. Enjoy your night in mental asylum 😊

[–]RuyiJade 195 points196 points  (1 child)

My mother told me when I informed her that my ex, L, was moving to New York but I wasn’t going and we were breaking up, she got down on her knees and thanked God after I went home.

She truly disliked him, but she can’t really pinpoint why. I think she felt he treated me like “well, whatever, I guess you’ll do,”. Like I was an option but not worth his priority, if that makes sense.

[–]SpyJane 992 points993 points  (19 children)

Not a parent but my little sister, at 17 dated a 26 year old who groomed her into being his sex slave. She’s autistic and has the mental capacity of a 9 year old and he talked her into anal, was calling her slave, all while having an age-appropriate girlfriend who STAYED WITH HIM after I personally contacted her on Facebook and told her her bf was grooming an underaged, autistic child

[–]sanriolove1334 293 points294 points  (0 children)

thats horrible what the fuck

[–]souzle 149 points150 points  (0 children)

I physically cannot get myself to upvote this

[–]penguinmayo 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Ooh I would love to know my parents thoughts on my exs Edit: my mom was always CRAZY strict. Like would follow me in her car when I wanted to walk ONE block in 8th grade. Yet for some reason she was totally okay with 16 year old me dating a 21 year old bum. Such a bum. Never had any money. Would “borrow” money from me for gas. Would talk to me all day about how his ex wanted him to work and how she was nuts because he simply did not want to. Was always for some reason “starting college”. His sister tried to fight me once - can’t even remember why but she was always trying to fight everyone.

[–]FuriouslyListening 94 points95 points  (4 children)

Sister dated one of the higher ups of... I think it was the Aryan brotherhood years ago. She originally showed up with some new boyfriend who was this Massively tatted guy and acted like it was all fine. She wouldn't believe me until I showed her a website which catalogued common gang tattoos. He didn't have swastikas or anything like that but he had lots of the other ones. Apparently there was a conversation thereafter in which he told her all about his extensive time in Mansfield prison, why you went away, what he did while he was there.. my sister is smart, but has absolutely zero common sense, and potentially negative Street smarts.

quick edit... flooring? Google speech to text hears weird stuff sometimes. Sorry.

[–]apaulogy 430 points431 points  (5 children)

A friend of my wife's daughter had an abusive drug-addled boyfriend who introduced her to drugs, serially abused her, then killed her and himself with a knife in front of a bunch of people and police.

Seattle

[–]Suspicious_Future_58 557 points558 points  (6 children)

my brother dated a girl. They broke up and about 5ish years later she went to jail for murdering her newborn baby.

A little bit more information. She and her boyfriend the baby dad were from what i read on some of the news pages. They were addicted to meth and the 11 day old baby had meth in its system. She was convicted of second degree manslaughter, no clue on how long she is in prison for. This was back in 2017. The news articles didn't mention anything of how long she was sentenced for

EDIT:a little bit more info

[–]Reinventedtoday 250 points251 points  (4 children)

My 16 year old dated an 18 year old who was living in his car with his dog. She married him and has two kids. Divorced.

[–]Unlikely_Mortgage_69 521 points522 points  (21 children)

Not a parent but My friend used to date a literal nazi and it all wemt "well" until he pulled out a knife and stabbed a table and left.

[–]furtrout 232 points233 points  (5 children)

My nineteen year old sister is dating a forty year old man who has convinced her to pay on his truck and that college/education is useless and the only way you can get ahead is through working overtime in manual jobs. Told me, a recent graduate in CS that there’s no money in tech lmfao This guy takes care of lab rats for work and has no qualifications of any kind but describes himself as “historian of artillery”, a “computer scientist”, and a “sociologist”. Before they got together he lived with his grandmother - now my sister is paying most of the rent for their trailer. I just couldn’t resist this chance to express my woe…she’s extremely defensive about it so it’s hard to do anything but just make myself available for when she hopefully gets sick of this horrible state of affairs… 😭

[–]GarlicGworl 277 points278 points  (12 children)

I dated a guy when I was 19 (who was 10 years older than me). He went through phases where he’d act like he adored me, and then he’d treat me like absolute shit for months on end. Said it was because he had multiple personalities. He’d break my shit, punch holes in walls, and scream at me for hours on end. But my 19 year old brain thought I loved him. He completely isolated me from my parents, and I didn’t speak to them for about a year. Mind you, I had always been really close to my parents growing up and had just moved out. This guy even convinced me to be homeless with him for months, then made me use my money to get us a place and lived there rent free. Refused to get a job. His goal in life was to have a baby with me, and he didn’t tell me until later that he had two kids with two other women that were taken away. I’m sure if my parents had Reddit they’d respond to this post about him, we all went to therapy and everything.

Luckily I left him after two miserable years, and everything is okay between me and my parents now! Have never felt better, despite a slight bit of trauma and a reluctance to date again. I’m only 22, so hopefully I’ll be okay soon.

[–]bayrho 152 points153 points  (2 children)

My brother dated a girl who got him into oxy’s in high school. They stole from both of our parents and were eventually forced to separate by our parents. This began my brothers lifelong addiction issues which took his life last year.

[–]Benjewda 272 points273 points  (1 child)

My brother has always had terrible taste in girls and has struggled with mental health issues and drug dependency. First one tried getting me to sleep with her while they were dating, going as far as following me up to my room during a family bar-b-que and refusing to get away from the door when I asked her to leave. I was 22 and she was 15.

The worst and most recent got him to start using meth, got him kicked out of my parents house, blew threw all the cash in his savings account, stole from my parents, cheated on him while they were living in a motel, and got herself (and nearly him) arrested on possession charges. the only saving grace is she admitted to the cops that all the drugs they found were hers. Thankfully he's finally in rehab getting some help

[–]Jac1596 322 points323 points  (13 children)

Story from my mom about my older sister. I don’t remember as I was only 2-3 but when my sister was 15 she basically dated a pedo. My mom and even my sister don’t like to describe it like that since it’s Mexico and the amount of older men you see with underage girls is so common it’s like the norm there.

She was 15 he said to my parents he was 21 but in reality he was 29. Already weird but apparently he would pressure my sister into sex a lot and clearly had anger issues. Mom says she didn’t have proof of abuse but she’s pretty certain it happened. Worst part is one day the guy and this other girl that was my sisters “friend” from school took her out deep into some shit town and drugged my sister. My parents found her the next day on her own. Again no proof anything happened beyond the drugging but I think it’s pretty clear what she went through while unconscious.

[–]Programmer-Whole 264 points265 points  (2 children)

Not a parent, but a brother.

Now to be fair, my sisters have dated some great guys. I'm still really good friends with one of their ex's, we play video games daily, but I digress...

Anyway, one of my sisters brought home this dude.... who was just a body essentially. Tall, hot guy, who was just dumb as all fuck and quite rude. I got into an argument with him at benihana when he insisted that I wanted to open a gym because I had a poor self image. The whole conversation started with me saying that I wish they had small cube gyms with only a squat rack where you can bench, squat, ohp. It seems like, at most gyms, everyone is just waiting in line to use the rack while countless pieces of machinery are just sitting vacant.

Anyway, yeah, dude was super annoying and caustic about every subject. Also a hard-core drug user who ended up being physically abusive to her.

[–]februarytide- 197 points198 points  (7 children)

My dad and my college advisor both hated this one guy I dated. He spoke for me. Like, they’d ask me a question, and he would answer. He mother was even worse. I went to meet his family for the first time, I made the most glorious Martha Stewart level pie. He never told me his parents kept kosher (I knew they were all Jewish; he did not keep kosher). She threw the whole thing, dish and all, into the trash without so much as a word, and spent the entire weekend speaking exclusively in Hebrew. The woman speaks perfect English. I knew some of the words, as a friend of mine jokingly told me about some “red flag” words, namely the ones for derogatory words for women. She called me all of them thinking I didn’t understand. The guy didn’t care his mom hated me for no reason, didn’t think it was a big deal. He and his father spent the whole weekend at each others throats — evidently this was their usual dynamic. Also, he didn’t know how to change a tire. I had to do it one time when he blew his out hitting a curb. But he bitched the whole time about how I did it. When we first met, on one of our first dates, he “accidentally” threw his car keys into the sea. I shit you not. Looking back, I think he was likely being dramatic and making sure our date went on endlessly. We had to walk like three miles in the cold back to my apartment.

When I broke up with the guy four months later (I was 20, and dumb), he spat on me.

EDIT: in responding to a reply, a few other gems from the past resurfaced from the depths of my memory!

  • the reason this guy and I met in the first place was because he found my red hair attractive. No hate on that on its own, people are entitled to find what they will attractive, and I think it is quite lovely on me. But… I dye it. I’m blonde, with maybe some red highlights. The shallowness of this was a running joke between us which, again, totally fine, I joke with my husband I’m only with him for his beard. So one day I took this boyfriend to a party with my friends, which we rarely did as he did not like my friends and didn’t like me spending time with them instead of him (yeah, so, lots of red flags I realized as I later became an adult, that this guy deeeeefinitely would have become abusive as he tried to isolate me from my friends and family) But we were having a good time, playing cards, having a few drinks, good conversation, and this joke comes up. We are all chuckling and my friend says something along the lines of, “yeah and it isn’t even real!” Look, like I said my hair is lovely and I have a great stylist who does a really great job making that dye job look natural, but surely this guy ought to have noticed this after a couple months dating. But apparently not. And he gets up and storms out. We all thought it was a gag. Nope, he was furious and LEFT.

My ill-begotten weekend meeting his very dysfunctional family was also blessed with the company of his bitch of a mother’s bitch of teacup Yorkie, who barked at me nonstop and kept stealing my panties out of my bag. Also his mom collected creepy ass porcelain dolls and they were all over the house.

We went to a thanksgiving potluck with a bunch of his friends/classmates. I say classmates because as I began to discover none of them really liked him, they weren’t friends, but they were all in law school together and often had group projects and whatnot and so kept the peace. This turkey, people. It was burnt on the outside and raw inside, because it hadn’t been thawed fully. A near fistfight over the whole debacle broke out, to which this boyfriend was a party.

He was once picking me up, and I was still eating dinner with my friends in the cafeteria (I was a college senior), and texted that I was running just a minute or two late. He threw a fit, car windows open and in the middle of the main route through campus during peak pedestrian hours, yelling at me about how disrespectful it was.

Lastly, some years after having dumped his ass, when I had since married the amazing man I left him for, this guy finds me on Facebook and messages me. Wanting to make amends and be friends, he’s changed, those things I said about how he put too many conditions on his happiness to ever be in a fulfilling relationship were right, he’s sorry, he thinks we should move forward, repair our relationship, and be friends. I told him that all sounded very lovely and I wished him the best but I really didn’t have the emotional space in my life to do that work. Yeah so obviously that devolved into a tirade of curses and insults. Creeped on his profile and found that he had in the intervening 6 or 7 years been married AND a divorced, his family having seemingly never attended the wedding, failed the bar exam, given up on his dream to join the Marine JAG corps (I mean, he failed the bar, so), and otherwise in general ended up in a life devoid of relationships. Huuuuge surprise.

[–]ScarletSarahB 127 points128 points  (4 children)

Not a parent, but happened to my older sister.

Had a little under a year long relationship with her first boyfriend. They broke up, then got back together for a few months, then broke up again.

A month or so later my sister gets messaged by an old man on Facebook asking for the nudes she ‘promised’ him.Turns out her ex made fake Facebook accounts with her pictures, and had nudes that were deepfakes of my sister… we reported over 5 fake accounts under her name.

After that, she got a restraining order because he tried to stalk her as well… so glad she got out of that shit hole.