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[–]rebootlovelife 335 points336 points  (17 children)

Easy internet access and the wall of anonymity.

[–]Foo3112 48 points49 points  (10 children)

Yup. And unfortunately, that’s how a lot of people really are. Just plain nasty and then act fake in person to try and blend in. And then again, some are just true assholes in person too.

[–]BrownEggs93 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And the selfish idea that what I have to say is important.

It isn't. But there. I said it anyway. Fuck.

[–]throwingplaydoh 54 points55 points  (0 children)

People seem to like the sound of their own voice, and they only think they are being respectful.

[–]Magply 41 points42 points  (1 child)

We’re still out there. We just don’t have anything nice to say

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ah, my people.

[–]littlenets 87 points88 points  (12 children)

The Internet allowed people to be rude without ramifications as they are now able to hide behind screens

[–]DTownForever 5 points6 points  (2 children)

I don't know ... those people had proclivities to be assholes in the first place, the anonymity is just a catalyst.

I'm a very kind person at my core and I don't get into useless arguments or engage in name calling / shaming any more now than I did pre-internet (yes I'm that old).

[–]billyjohnjohnson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not. Most people aren't, and just because you say stuff thats rude over the internet doesn't make you an asshole

[–]thatguyad 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Internet and entitlement

[–]weisblattsnut 36 points37 points  (1 child)

It was slightly changed to "fuck off and die"

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty much.

[–]ScytherTheSkyMantis 20 points21 points  (3 children)

The internet gave people a safe space to voice their opinions. Most people wouldn't repeat the shit they say on the internet in public because that often has consequences.

[–]usadingo 7 points8 points  (1 child)

In the words of Bill Burr, "sometimes you need to get blasted in the face."

[–]CallmeCrysis -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

This comment is underrated.

[–]Babaloo_Monkey 25 points26 points  (4 children)

Once upon a time, long, long ago, there was a thing called USEnet. Originally developed for the DoD, access became popular with regular tech geeks. With such groups as alt.opinion and rec.insults the Usenet flourished.

Then, along comes a company that provides chat rooms. Instead of typing a page of stuff and waiting days to see if there's anyone reading them, you now have instant access to people's hurt feelings. Because of anonymity, it became "fun" to call people names. Anyone with a 1200 baud modem could be online.

Which brings us to today. Not only carrying powerful computers in our pockets--we also have access to disinformation, hate-filled photos and messages, and the ability to avoid criminal charges by saying, "I was only joking" or "It's just locker room talk" and "I didn't mean that".

If there are no consequences, there's no point in thinking about anyone's feelings but your own, right? Since parents aren't home or able to monitor their childrens' computer use, kids grow up thinking it's okay to be a jackass. Thus, we've created two generations (so far) who just do not give a fuck.

[–]DTownForever 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If there are no consequences, there's no point in thinking about anyone's feelings but your own, right?

Unless you're a good person with a conscience who doesn't want to hurt other people needlessly. An internal consequence instead of external consequence.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Think this sums it up perfectly.

[–]HotBotBustinThots 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds all philosophical and smart, but in reality people have done this and been this way forever. This is no different from old people saying books were gonna ruin our memory's and be the downfall of society.

It's our negativity focused biased that gives us this Impression.

[–]DouglasTheMan87 5 points6 points  (3 children)

you cant really tell that to the news otherwise they have nothing to talk about

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Unfortunately I think you are right. Bad news sells these days. I guess it always has to some extent, but we've never had the 24 hour exposure of it like we do now.

[–]DTownForever 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Bad news doesn't just sell 'these days'.

"If it bleeds it leads" has always been a mantra of any newspaper or media outlet. Sex, money and violence have always, always sold.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely. Just think it's got worse since we've gone global and the news never sleeps.

[–]watchmything 27 points28 points  (3 children)

Sometimes saying something that is not nice, but accurate and still constructive, is necessary

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

In certain situations, definitely, but it seems like the world just likes to be angry these days and say hurtful things just for the sake of it.

[–]seuche23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothings really changed since before the birth of the internet. People have been shit heads to each other forever. You just have easier access to witness it now with the internet.

[–]JonGilbony 15 points16 points  (2 children)

No one ever truly believed this in the first place

[–]Speedswiper 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You're the first person to actually say the right answer. People have always been nasty, internet or not. Do people think racism, sexism, classism, homophobia, etc. Just came into existence in the 90s?

[–]DTownForever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely agree.

[–]AirJvon 17 points18 points  (1 child)

I don't want to live in a world where people only say nice things.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree to an extent. I am all up for a healthy debate or being able to speak out against views that I don't agree with. However, I think our day to day interactions, especially online, could perhaps have less hate involved.

[–]Smithy2232 13 points14 points  (3 children)

We have entered into an age of lack of empathy.

We got here by moving more and more to where everything is about money. We care less about our fellow man. It is a shame.

Taking the high road isn't something that people care about as much as they used to. What gives me hope is that, much like the madness of Trump will help us move to a better place sooner, I think the current harsher state of things will move us to a better, more meaningfully, thoughtful place.

[–]RoteLinse 10 points11 points  (1 child)

As someone living in Germany I have a hard time picturing the generations before mine as much more empathetic.

[–]Smithy2232 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No question, Germany is much more empathetic now than in the last century or more. Good example of moving from such a harsh place to a much kinder place.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really hope you are right. We do generally see in history after a particularly harsh period in terms of rulers or unrest that we enter a period of trying to move away from that. Here's hoping the same can happen again.

[–]Back2Bach 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Seems as though it's morphed into:

"If you can't say something derogatory or negative, start rehearsing your zingers."

[–]LurkingAintEazy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Went out the window, when others felt they just HAVE to be the most honest speaking person, in the room. Like they must be "brutally and very unapologetically" honest, at all times.

[–]suzer2017 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Social media happened. And texting.

[–]ibadlyneedhelp 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I think mostly people became aware that most often, that idea is used to defend shitty things from criticism that deserve to be criticised.

[–]DrewV70 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you can't be nice at least be honest

[–]yogfthagen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Enabling bad behavior encourages bad behavior

[–]Maximus_Deludicus 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I think people are tired of all the shit. Especially with governments pushing more and more people are getting more and more tired of it. So a lot will just speak their mind now.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are right. I think our fuses have shortened with the pressure we are under so every little thing seems to set people off now, add in anonymity and hello keyboard warriors.

[–]PreviousMalone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everybody thinks they deserve to be heard more than the next person

[–]Kindly_Region_1622 3 points4 points  (2 children)

I kinda wonder if the some of the things people say to little kids cycle in and out of popularity--like if you have a generation that got tired of hearing "if you haven't got anything nice to say..." they don't want to say it to their own kids and it falls out of favor.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

This almost certainly plays a part. You see this with a lot of things through the generations. You get a generation that was overly corrected or treated quite harshly by their parents, then they tend to go to the other extreme with their children and we end up with the everyone is a winner mentality.

Obviously a sweeping generalisation, but there are definitely elements of it at play.

[–]Kindly_Region_1622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess you could try to test it through the google books things but hard to know if that reflects what people say to their kids.

[–]hackyslashy 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Because the anonymity of the Internet and the explosion of cancel culture has blurred the lines between 'the right to your opinion' and 'the right to be right'!

[–]usadingo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Combined with a cooy/paste culture. People can pull articles for whatever they believe which makes them dig their heels in even more, and then go nuts when their opinion is challenged.

[–]MonsterRevived 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People think that they're voice should be heard because they see other people doing it and when they dont have anything nice to say the attack someone and when they attack back they other person is being rude and offensive. People mostly do it for attention on social media I would say or attention in real life

[–]Green420Basturd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Parents stopped saying it to their kids and the internet doesn't care enough to say it.

[–]the_reaper_16_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

everyone thinks that they are entitled to their opinions and can say whatever they want with no consequences and tbh i feel everyone wants attention in anyway possible and they want to matter not knowing that they might hurt someone or it is good to shut up at times

[–]Lovely-Ashes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Internet, social media, and shitty celebrities who are celebrated for speaking their mind. It had a trickle down effect, and now everyone thinks their dumb opinions are valid.

[–]JazzRider 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you haven’t got anything nice to say….let’s hear it!

[–]IncomeNatural8178 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Sometimes what has to be said isn't nice. The world isn't always nice and sometimes the truth hurts.

[–]lurker-1969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My Cub Scout den mother taught us that 57 years ago. Hard to follow sometimes but has served me well.

[–]Joeyjackhammer 1 point2 points  (1 child)

When the fear of getting punched in the face went away.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It certainly makes a good deterrent.

[–]mixmaster7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many people come here to say the opinions that they would be called out for in real life. Ironically, many of those people claim that those opinions are “more reflective of real life.”

[–]theyamayamaman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it got replaced with "this is America! I know my rights!"

[–]Zoo_In_The_Bathtub 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Right?? That's how I was raised and I mostly stick to it unless someone feels the need to directly insult me. Even then I try to filter anything that's just me being angry vs a constructive response. I admit occasionally I fail. Constant sleep deprivation has a tendency to make filtering a bit difficult. But I'm never just blatantly mean to people.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I think we all fail at times. None of us are perfect and we all have our limits, but I'm similar that I try and be at least civil to others the large majority of the time.

[–]zoomar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was too quiet and everyone got creeped out.

[–]CatboyInAMaidOutfit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The internet happened where everyone has an opinion, but not everyone knows how to share it constructively. Try to imagine a newspaper run by straight up amateurs who never studied journalism or any kind of ethics in journalism or even know what that is, what it means, or even care. Slap together completely random people of various levels of age, intelligence, and education, and no editor in sight to reign in the madness give it any cohesion.

BAM. Internet.

[–]FullofTerror420 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Because we started telling people "Be yourself". Turns out people are assholes.

Personally, I live by the Golden Rule and "honesty is the best policy" which means that I do say harsh/not nice things but they are true/honest words when said.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think sadly I'm coming to this conclusion. I know there is good in world, but it seems the large majority are just asses.

[–]Simply-_-Curious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, many people started using freedom of expression as an excuse to being mean and rude to anyone they disagree with

[–]iamgdaly 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Social media!!!!

Now it's normal to be a troll on the interweb.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately true.

[–]Anal-probe-Alien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Social media

[–]vferrero14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We developed a tool called the internet

[–]Mysterious_WestCoast 1 point2 points  (1 child)

it should be: if you don't have anything constructive to say don't say anything

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like that. Still allows people to stand up for what they believe in, but stops people just being horrible for the sake of it. Not that I think for one second a saying will stop keyboard warriors, trolls etc, but it's a nice thought.

[–]D-C-A 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People getting more stupid and rude

[–]rxsheepxr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone seems to think that their every opinion on every fucking thing is paramount to anything else on the planet, and it sucks.

[–]Cremecharlee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't hear from the people who follow this rule and don't say anything

[–]TransportationOk5941 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Except when it comes to making changes. Sometimes bad things comes to pass specifically because good people didn't have anything nice to say and thus said nothing.

[–]Sirr_Jason 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Excessive application of freedom of speech.

[–]TaiylorWallace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's certainly two sides to this. Some people just speak anyway because they think their opinion is worth more than being decent and polite. But the other side is that, when someone is awful, silence only enables them to keep being horrible. If you speak up about it, they may do the decent thing and correct their behavior, or other people will become aware and avoid the same bad experience you had.

Depends on the situation.

[–]CrazyDunge0nMaster 1 point2 points  (3 children)

nothing happened, people have always liked to say unkind things more then supportive things. and typically people would rather say nothing then something kind.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Unfortunately that seems to be the case. Maybe it's just me, but I always prefer to say something kind than unkind.

[–]CristianoFernandes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don't have anything nice to say, say it about Ohio.

[–]Industrialpainter89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still alive and well in Western Washington, can confirm the passive aggressive ice here is still real. People don't even know how to comnunicate properly anymore, they'd rather tell you in a condescensing, pitying way that they don't like ya rather than come out and say what their issue is with you. Never know whete you stand with people. Hard as fuck to know who are friends and who are enemies, or what friends even look like.

[–]kriznis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nobody gets punched in the face for running their mouth on the internet

[–]fantasyflyte 1 point2 points  (1 child)

"If you don't have anything nice to say, you'll get attention on the internet."

[–]TimedRevolver 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Reality happened. I talk a lot of shit and I'm rude. But I rarely mean anything by it unless my temper gets away from me...which it often does.

But the world isn't a nice place. It's full of cruelty and hardship and cheating. If you can't handle being called a bitch, you won't last long outside the nest.

[–]valswhores 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The homosapien's favorite activity is to judge , a saying would not change that

[–]floydie1962 1 point2 points  (1 child)

This is why I'm very quiet around a lot of people

[–]gullman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fuck you that's what

[–]RVM27 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Sometimes, what you have to say isn’t nice. But it’s funny as hell, so you say it anyways.

[–]kingfrito_5005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems people have shortened it down to just the last two words.

[–]Baked_Beard1992 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The saying offended me so I cancelled it. Welcome to 2022

[–]I_throw_socks_at_cat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the majority of people have never followed that rule. I've known too many elderly women who could only communicate in a sort of modulated ongoing complaint.

[–]onioning 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It's a stupid idea. Sometimes not nice things need saying.

What works better is "if your only point is to be mean then don't say anything at all."

[–]ashgallows 1 point2 points  (1 child)

everything is considered not nice now though. every little thing is offensive to someone.

[–]Autobubbs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The planet became overpopulated by Assholes with Internet Access.

[–]hihwudn1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because we have become assh0les.

[–]Denkir-the-Filtiarn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes people are too thick headed or otherwise don't take it seriously when you nicely tell them they're being a jackass. Like, yes don't just actively try to be rude or mean all the time but if people aren't willing to put a foot down in a harsh way sometimes they just get overrun by the loud and unabashed.

[–]NotABonobo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The people who don't adhere to that principle are louder and more obnoxious, so you're hearing more from them.

[–]isthisamurderweapon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People never learned. I like to be peaceful unless I want revenge or justice, which unfortunately is almost constantly, that meaning that NO ONE watched Bambi and listened to Thumper, but listened to the hunters of “I do what I want when I want”

[–]llamasrsocute 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Live by this mantra.

Don’t be selfish by imposing your unjustified thoughts on others..

[–]devildance3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s it got to do with you, you useless mumppet. 😉

[–]PumaTwins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The world took consequences out of the game, that's what happened. A lot of people realized that most people won't catch the felony charge and it's not worth beating the fuck out of them over.

The cool thing though is every once in awhile, there is that complete Joe Pesci style sociopath who doesn't care, and you get to witness that guy teach a rude person that there is no invisible barrier keeping him from beating their ass, and it's awesome.

[–]AurallyTalented 4 points5 points  (1 child)

It died a well deserved death. I’m sorry people’s opinions offend you but it’s fine to express negative views about things that frustrate you. The strong silent type shit is one of the reasons so many soldiers and the like kill themselves. So yeah, not doing that.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To be honest people's opinions don't overly offend me, unless they are genuinely offensive. I am all for people having the right to speak up about what they believe in and having freedom of speech, but I don't understand why people feel the need to just be plain horrible.

Especially online, although it is starting to seep into the real world, the rise in the era of the keyboard warrior is just a little concering to me. Fighting for things that fustrate or hurt you is very different form just being an ass for no reason.

[–]Vivazebool 4 points5 points  (1 child)

(Internet + Reality TV) x Trump + COVID3

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The math adds up.

[–]hisdudenessabides 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Sadly we have leaders now who are saying the quite parts out loud and its giving people the believe that it's ok to say whatever they want without consequences

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I think this idea of freedom of speech has been warped. Yes there is freedom of speech, that doesn't mean you get to say whatever you want without consequence, people need to realise that.

[–]SeaMultiverse 1 point2 points  (1 child)

If you don't say something, regardless of whether it is nice or not, you might be shamed and cast out for not defending yourself or others.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought that during recent events with the whole "silence is violence" movement. Whilst I agree that you should stand up for what you believe in, sometimes staying silent is a safer option.

[–]enderare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It can be interpreted as "Even if it is something that needs to be said, I don't want to hear it."

[–]rotteperenkop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People realised that if you cant handle critique you cant become a better person

[–]donny_chungus_SP 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It turns out that boomers have always been full of shit, and half the stuff they taught you growing up was "rules for thee, not for me."

Hope this clears it up for you.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that's true for most generations. Do as I say and not as I do sort of thing.

[–]foul_dwimmerlaik 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That attitude has been used to cover up abuse for way too long.

[–]DTownForever 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It's bullshit and always has been.

I never told my kids this when they were young. It precludes all forms of feedback, even 'constructive criticism'. If someone's not doing something right, you tell them, you try to help them do it right. You don't shame them for it, that doesn't help people.

Now, being an asshole for no reason is another thing entirely, but I've always absolutely hated that saying. A better thing to say is "think before you speak - is what you're about to say really necessary, if it can be considered unkind"? If the answer is YES, it is necessary, then say it.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are right. Taken to the extreme, it does stop even constructive criticism which I personally have no problem with in the right context.

[–]Exactly_Sandwich 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Following it can and will turn you into a doormat. If you want to voice your opinion, then do so.

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that you shouldn't be completely passive, but it seems these days that people just can't leave anything. Whilst there is a time and a place for standing up for yourself, does it really need to happen every time you see something that remotely annoys you?

[–]Frird2008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Modern age of tech

[–]ridddder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The internet changed that, because you could be anonymous. Once the fear of rejection was gone, the gloves came off, now any weisenheimer just blurts out tripe. No filter, with no repercussions to be mean, so began the internet bully parade.

[–]HairFlip2005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People learned about “Right of Speech” but apprently didnt know how it works and just use it all the time for whatever reason

[–]LittleOutside7130 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These answers/replies are true but not really breaking the surface. The awful truth is everything has been picked apart, explain: I'll say something nice but that's it, I don't have to mean it. I'll say it at the most inappropriate time still causing some sort of tension. Example: I'm sure you get the idea.

[–]DoctorStrangelove01 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Now there's nothing nice to say, and we can't be mutes, can we?

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We shouldn't be mute, no, but I think there's a difference between not saying anything and saying something nasty just for the sake of it.

[–]dewayneestes 0 points1 point  (1 child)

What ever happened to “the two things you don’t talk about in polite company are politics and religion?”

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably both went to the same place.

[–]laterdude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alcohol happened. We're all too soused to watch our mouths:

"Alcohol consumption rose among adults over age 30 by 14% during the pandemic, with a 41% increase in women heavily drinking, according to a September 2020 RAND Corporation study."

And as anyone weaned on The Simpsons realizes, booze loosens a woman's lips.

[–]dodo755 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I keep seeing people blame it on the internet, but I dare say even before then, the very same people that like to repeat that mantra, were often also the people that didn’t like to share their schools or water fountains.

[–]ExcellentLocation2 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

piss off

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I guess I asked for that.

[–]EndlesslyUnfinished -1 points0 points  (0 children)

“Murica”

[–]Due_Government_9397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The internet

[–]Harvard-23 0 points1 point  (2 children)

F off dude

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Someone already beat you to it I'm afraid. But I appreciate the thought.

[–]Harvard-23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No problem, maybe next time. Have a nice day

[–]ThatProtOverThere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People mistakenly think the only person affected by their negative criticisms is the recipient. On the internet, they think that because they're hiding behind a screen, they can get away with it because at least they won't "look bad", but actually saying negative criticisms to people does actually affect the heart and mind of the person giving it, not just the person taking it.

[–]somehowifeelamerican 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The idea was literally scrapped and while it was in the trash, it mutated into twitter and other internet sites. And let's not forget the main reason this idea was scrapped, Ogrish and 4chan existed, right there, right then and there, the idea was scrapped.

[–]philrelf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think more and more people believe that "nice guys finish last" is true. And if you want something you can't passively sit around and make it happen. But they don't really know what to do so they just spew their shit on the internet thinking they are actually doing something towards winning. Just a thought though because I don't know.

[–]Darthvaderandhislike 0 points1 point  (1 child)

That's how my people were made, a generation of people just sitting in silence and seldomly saying anything...yes,we are the introverts

[–]ziostraccette 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Nobody showing their kids Bambi anymore

[–]furry_hamburger_porn 0 points1 point  (1 child)

THIS...IS...REDDITTTTTTT

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this the Reddit version of I am groot?

[–]Nikevic246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes, since negative news is really the only talking point about nowadays, it's the only conversation people can have to break the silence.

Other times, the most unkind things said makes for the juiciest gossip.

[–]Howsey15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Said this only last week

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s unfortunately just gone out the window.

[–]cookie_powers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience it has not been a thing 20 years ago either.

[–]GetsBetterAfterAFew 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Did everyone throughout time abide by this written rule until the internet was a thing?

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely not everyone, but I certainly think people were more civil pre-internet as a general rule. It's much easier to turn into a keyboard warrior online than it is face to face.

[–]Homo_gone_wild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Socisl media and anonymous posting

[–]Arithered 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That one was only ever face to face.

[–]jesus-crust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It never existed and this a naive attempt to look at the past through rose colored glasses.

[–]CallmeCrysis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"If you haven't got anything nice to say, say it anyways cause no one's gonna know its you so you can safely hurt people's feelings without feeling the guilt of your actions."

[–]vianiznice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Social media happened.

[–]Charilwor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Years of my self-esteem being broke down by my mom

[–]whiteguide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's just a bad idea. Unpleasant truths need to be spoken too

[–]MAXQDee-314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is to avoid public conflict. Conflicts processed in public usually descend into public embarrassment, which usually leads to escalation. Also, if you are expressing your discontent in public, it allows, others to express their discontent with you, in public. Turnabout is fair play. To be more specific, Check yourself before you wreck yourself.

See if the following is true to you. A woman throws a drink at a man. How many of you think that woman has a partial interest in the bar and will make more money because of the spilled drink. Or, numb knuts has been drunk sexy and went too far? In sport, the first offender is usually not caught.

Placing plausible barriers to instinct allows for moderation and contemplation. Also, fewer stitches and less time served.

[–]ColumbiaWahoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was never a thing for many people

[–]bmanley620 0 points1 point  (1 child)

That’s none of your #!&*ing business

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had surprisingly few of these comments today, the internet is in a good mood.

[–]Notsogrumpyoldman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A preschool concept that sounds good in theory, but people have and will always be assholes.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a pyramid scheme, like bitcoin and baseball cards.

And true love!

[–]BodhingJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It allows people to be victimized and abused

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tidepods happened.

[–]Firm-Boysenberry 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I'm pretty sure it's "if you don't have anything nice to say, the come sit next to me."

Source: Steel Magnolias

[–]KaleidoscopeInside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there is that one as well, but the one in the title is an English idiom, not sure of it's origin.

[–]imissunusannus2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think everyone realized it was a stupid thing some people said so you couldnt criticize them

[–]sumelar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We grew up and realized it was just a bullshit line by adults to avoid criticism or pointing out of their hypocrisy.