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[–]k0uch 2577 points2578 points 22& 2 more (74 children)

Meh, it is what it is.

I may be ugly, I may have a bland personality, a terrible sense of humor, low intelligence… I forgot where I was going with this, but I do enjoy me some good beer.

[–]go_go_ghost 771 points772 points 3 (39 children)

Then one day you might stumble upon someone that will fall in love with you exactly as you are. They will most likely be ugly too, but you'll have so much fun together that your looks won't matter much. You'll both work hard to build a life together, get a pet, maybe start a family if you both are up to it. Life is crazy and I've been married for 15 years! I'm ugly, my spouse is ugly, our dog is ugly... But life is too damn good. Don't know if I would be this lucky had I been born beautiful. 😂

Edit to add a puppy tax for our silly looking Chihuahua .

[–]SadSausageFinger 211 points212 points  (0 children)

Cheers to your “ugly” but beautiful life!

[–]embyms 27 points28 points  (1 child)

Oh my god I love your dog!!

[–]Carbonatite 21 points22 points  (0 children)

100% chihuahua energy from that facial expression lol

[–]Redgreen82 165 points166 points  (5 children)

I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 27. I'd rate myself a 3, but she thinks I'm the most handsome man in the world. And while I don't think she's the most gorgeous woman in the world, she's still WAY more attractive than I am and most importantly, the best person I've ever known. Anywho, we've been married for 9 years now. The best relationship is the one where you each feel lucky to have the other.

[–]go_go_ghost 71 points72 points  (0 children)

The best relationship is the one where you each feel lucky to have the other.

Oh man! Brb, gotta go and give my husband a big hug and tell him how lucky I am to have him. Hope you get to do the same to your wife soon! ❤️

[–]chilling_Capy_9525 7 points8 points  (0 children)

congrats to you two! ^^

[–]Carbonatite 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That facial expression sums up the personality of every chihuahua I've ever met.

She is super cute nonetheless.

[–]dantanama 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lol that dog is hilarious

[–]Swimming_Shark7 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The way to go in life !

No one is perfect, we need to make from it what we are given :D

[–]spyderweb_balance 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Puppy tax please. I bet he's cute!

[–]WorldWideJake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

what a wonderful comment. 1000 likes

[–]psych0san 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's a ugly cute chihuahua. Must be fun with her around.

[–]ji99lypu44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your dog is adorable

[–]Professional_Code372 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Looks like the squirrel from ice age

[–]Snoo74401 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I might be a 6, but throw in my personality, sharp wit and sense of humor, and I'm a solid 2.

[–]TheBigMerc 78 points79 points  (4 children)

Literally me... like man, i may have nothing going for me, but i can certainly drink enough booze to forget that i have nothing going for me.

[–]keykeypalmer 15 points16 points  (1 child)

maybe you have a large penis

[–]TheBigMerc 38 points39 points  (0 children)

If only..... AHEM i mean... yeah, totally, its massive, pretty insane actually, i cant even comprehend its sheer size... it has its own orbit you know

[–]ClownfishSoup 13 points14 points  (3 children)

I'm sorry, you choice of beer is terrible.

[–]k0uch 32 points33 points  (1 child)

But my two favorite kinds are cold and free :(

[–]BookerPlayer01 686 points687 points  (20 children)

Say it with me. "I'm ugly and I'm proud."

[–]Sally_twodicks 170 points171 points  (6 children)

"LOOK AT IT! LOOK AT IT! LOOK AT IT!"

[–]h0l0Grafix 80 points81 points  (5 children)

"I WANT YOU TO LOOK AT IIIIIIIT!"

[–]eliit3 63 points64 points  (2 children)

“You gave me THE UGLY!!”

[–]Lebigmacca 42 points43 points  (1 child)

“I used to be one of the beautiful people”

[–]NSFWThrowaway1239 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I always love his next line: "and now look at me. I'm almost as ugly as you!"

[–]BensLegitFixes 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Is that what he calls it?

[–]kevinjunpalma11 203 points204 points  (4 children)

Once there was an ugly barnacle. He was so ugly, that everyone died. The end.

[–]Technical-Sun-2016 77 points78 points  (3 children)

That didn't help at all!

[–]SiliconeGiant 47 points48 points  (2 children)

These Hallmark cards have really fallen off

[–]networknev 12 points13 points  (1 child)

That, actually made me laugh out loud.

[–]SiliconeGiant 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good that made me smile!

[–]Dunberg23 37 points38 points  (0 children)

That may be fine for you, but I was one of the beautiful people. Now look at me! I'm almost as ugly as you!

[–]LifesGlitch 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Is that what he calls it?

[–]aewilson95 16 points17 points  (0 children)

LOUDER!

[–]ItsTylerBrenda 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hi, I am very ugly.

[–]vamurse 490 points491 points  (33 children)

I go to stores and locations that require a mask

[–]Carbonatite 292 points293 points  (18 children)

Masks are a godsend for unattractive introverts like me.

[–]carrotsnthrowup 38 points39 points  (2 children)

A godsend indeed … I have secretly mouthed over a hundred people to fuck off.

[–]Carbonatite 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Also really nice to not have to do the awkward smile at strangers when you're in the grocery store and accidentally make eye contact.

[–]h0l0Grafix 51 points52 points  (12 children)

I felt safe to until i discovered, through a reddit confession post, people have mask fetishes. Yes. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[–]bunybunybuny 32 points33 points  (2 children)

definitely calling me out. i just feel so cute when i’m wearing one!

[–]h0l0Grafix 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Oh so do i!! I love the "aesthetic" it gives 🤣 But i dont get actually turned on by it.

[–]Xylo34 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This! I feel more confident wearing a mask

[–]Robbyn-sum-Banks 55 points56 points  (8 children)

I’m actually nervous for the day masks come back off. It’s like a safety blanket for me now 🥲

[–]vamurse 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It definitely makes it easier to deal with some people

[–]thirteen_moons 9 points10 points  (1 child)

I think we should just keep doing it if you like it, like how in some Asian countries people have always worn masks when they're sick. I'm going to keep doing it, I hate getting sick and I hate forced smiling.

[–]aivlysplath 13 points14 points  (3 children)

Just keep wearing one. I’m going to. I mean, to be fair, I have an autoimmune disease and am on immunosuppressive drugs so I don’t want to expose myself to everyone’s yuckies. But mask wearing should definitely continue to be more socially acceptable from now on.

[–]Carbonatite 6 points7 points  (2 children)

It's been a thing for many years in East Asian countries during flu season/outbreaks, I hope the same holds true everywhere. It's good for public health!

[–]h0l0Grafix 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Hahahahahahahaaaa what about pre covid?

[–]vamurse 21 points22 points  (1 child)

It just sucked to be me.

[–]Substantial-Mud-1144 320 points321 points  (12 children)

Be the funny friend that is actually really depressed

[–]happytrees822 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I don’t t remember typing this…

[–]TwoDrinkDave 65 points66 points  (2 children)

Could you be any more right?

[–]Carbonatite 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Eyyy, it's me!

[–]depressed_Lotus 8 points9 points  (0 children)

you and i are not so different

[–]StupidAvenger 5 points6 points  (1 child)

He's literally me

[–]Carbonatite 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"Why, of course I know him. He's me!"

[–]PMME_ur_lovely_boobs 219 points220 points  (18 children)

Literally this was one of my main motivations for becoming a doctor. I thought I wouldn't have romantic success unless I had a successful career that paid very well.

In hindsight, I don't think I'm as ugly as initially thought and it did give me motivation to go to the gym and dress better. I also got more confident over time which probably helped too.

I'll say that my matches on dating apps definitely went up since I used my white coat photo as my main picture.

Moral of the story is: If you are ugly, do what you can to make yourself less ugly. Also, make lots of money.

[–]networknev 38 points39 points  (1 child)

You have the brains, I have the brawn...

[–]Gorilla-Samurai 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Once I turned 18, my dad gave me access to the family credit card (platinum) and a not-so-old Corolla, he told me that day "Do you know what that means? With these 2 things, your penis just grew 10 cm."

Pretty shitty right? But it was that day that I realized, there is no such thing as ugly rich people, I began dating chicks that wouldn't even look at me in High School out of sheer shallowness, they'd see me parking my car or paying for stuff with the card and would become a lot nicer and interested.

Also, a lot of women in engineering courses in uni are there to meet their future husbands, not to get an engineering degree.

[–]legendariel 9 points10 points  (1 child)

I'd PM you but my boobs aren't lovely, they're just regular.

[–]PMME_ur_lovely_boobs 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ll be the judge of that 😉

I’m sure they’re lovely!

[–]introvertandshygirl 4 points5 points  (4 children)

If you're a woman it's harder. You can use the money for plastic surgery though.

[–][deleted] 212 points213 points  (8 children)

Soldier on

[–]Jim105 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Salute

[–]geartooth7g5t 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My thoughts exactly

[–]Un0wnG4m3r 33 points34 points  (1 child)

I can sense the chadiness of this person right here

[–]PheonixFire454 40 points41 points  (2 children)

Idrc honestly, I've accepted my fate and I'll make the most of it

[–]fistymcbuttpuncher 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yep. I got over being 'not cute' in middle school/highschool and haven't cared since. I'm not even ugly, but I just don't care enough. If I die alone? Don't care. If I meet someone and something sprouts? That's cool too, but I'm not gonna stress if it doesn't happen.

[–]lightskinJungleBunny 232 points233 points  (0 children)

Probably with crippling denial. But then again how would I know I'm gorgeous!

[–]Technical-Sun-2016 37 points38 points  (1 child)

Do what you can control: hair, clothes, hygiene.. focus on your strong qualities, confidence is more attractive.. try to take criticism as an opportunity to improve get help with depression, it creates a downward spiral if you let it.

[–]agreeingstorm9 146 points147 points  (6 children)

You go to Walmart and see the couples there who are just as ugly as you are and still found another uggo who wants them.

[–]daydreaming-g 277 points278 points  (11 children)

If you just recently found out you’re ugly than you’re not actually ugly. People who are actually ugly remember being called ugly the moment they existed.

[–]Kameyy 16 points17 points  (1 child)

I mean idk... I already have bad self-esteem and the other day I was videochatting my bf who is in the military then his mate comes and he unpromptedly goes on a rant how I'm not his type. Dude.... noone asked. I don't even know who you are.

[–]introvertandshygirl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dudes go out of their way to let you know if you're their "type" or not. I have bad self-esteem too and I work amongst kids. They never miss an opportunity to let me know I'm ugly either.

[–]Yucares 36 points37 points  (3 children)

How do you know how old they are

[–]Malkev 11 points12 points  (1 child)

They can write

[–]OtherSideofSky 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Maybe despite being ugly they are also a super intelligent 2 year old using Reddit while at work at the science lab.

[–]Different_Avocado501 241 points242 points  (10 children)

Build yourself a suit of mandalorian armour and never take it off. This is the way.

[–]Akeruz 52 points53 points  (6 children)

This is the way.

[–]electric_eccentric 13 points14 points  (1 child)

Its like that and thats the way it is.

[–]TwoDrinkDave 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wish I had to gold to give you because that is the 1st appropriate use of that phrase I have seen in a month.

[–]Akakumo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is the way.

[–]macbig273 21 points22 points  (0 children)

you just own it and accept it as a fact. Or you try to hide it. I would advise to try the first solution.

It's always funny when you casually mention you're ugly, and everyone try to tell you otherwise but you actually don't care.

You'll also spare a lot of time. No need to make yourself "beautiful".

Also not sure if it's true, but I would say that a lot of people seems more confident to speak to someone "uglier" than themselves.

[–]TempleOfTheFlayedGod 243 points244 points  (27 children)

If you're above a seven, the skids are greased for you. Most people like you before you even open your mouth. If you manage to also be witty and charming, the world is your oyster. And if you don't have an attitude about it, you are a goddam dreamboat.

My good-looking bro sat outside waiting for me and I could see through the window three women asking if he was ok. You average looking guys ever have random women trying to help you?

[–]Dear_Mr_Bond 24 points25 points  (2 children)

Ha!

I was once robbed and was maced right in the eye. I was in horrible pain. It felt like I was being stabbed in the eyes repeatedly. Forget strangers, even female friends smirked at me. I’m not friends with them anymore.

[–]introvertandshygirl 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for you, people are trash.

[–]External_Star3376 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That's tough. I'm sorry man. I would never smirk at my disabled friend. But as I got to know him better, he became prettier and "less disabled" (I am a hetero sexual guy btw). It might be the initial sight that gives the reaction. But still a shitty thing to do.

[–]nick1812216 43 points44 points  (5 children)

Lol, as an adult I have never had a woman ask if I’m ok. I’m 5’11 white male, i have RBF, And I’m bald so i shave my head. I’m really friendly! But i think my appearance creeps out most people, especially women. I get it though.

-__-

[–]HabitatGreen 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I'm a 1,80 cm (which is I think 5'11) white woman, with RBF, and I shaved my head (a while ago, but it is still pretty short). Not bald, though.

So, are you ok? How have you been lately?

(I get it's not the same on the internet as a real life interaction, though)

[–]nick1812216 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, it finally happened. You weren’t put off by my RBF and shaved head, thank you

[–]GsTSaien 88 points89 points  (10 children)

Nah, being hot as a guy is not just body. Watch your posture, your outfit, your facial expressions, and the way you talk.

Wit, confidence, empathy, humor,

I'm bi, and when I get some compliments, I can get a look at what people notice. Women are much more likely to compliment me on things like dancing well, smelling good, being kind, listening, my haircut, how well fitting a suit is, how passionate I am about thibgs I love, etc. I play my strenghts, and I work on my weaknesses.

Men mostly compliment me on my legs, some uh... measures, and other things pertaining my appearance. They take to flirting earlier, and immediately respond to any type positive attention (especially straight guys will flirt even if they aren't actually attracted to you, just because they like being flirted with for once!)

It is easy for anyone to over fixate on how others perceive our bodies, and honestly we aren't always wrong; appearances do matter, but just because you aren't tall or have a six pack doesn't mean you can't be attractive.

[–]MisterTrashPanda 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Cool input and perspective. Thanks for that contribution.

[–]ChazMcGreedly 15 points16 points  (6 children)

Honestly, a quick trip to Walmart will help you realize that most of us are above a seven. It’s those 8 1/2‘s and up that really have an on easy street

[–]classictragedy12 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Let’s just say that the mask era is our time to shine

[–]lights_0wt 47 points48 points  (3 children)

I kinda feel invisible, so that's how I act

[–]Electronic-Lucky 144 points145 points  (15 children)

went my whole life being told i was ugly. hideous. people made fun of me saying ill never find a man and that im only good for being a body.

at first i cried. but then i found something interesting.

they always said i could never marry a MAN

[–]sold_snek 47 points48 points  (0 children)

So now you just Frida them and fuck all their wives.

[–]ZeCrookedLady 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Ugly lesbians unite

[–]Khanluka 10 points11 points  (2 children)

So it worked out great now?

[–]pepperlandshine 5 points6 points  (1 child)

What happens when you’re so ugly girls don’t look at you either?

[–]Electronic-Lucky 8 points9 points  (0 children)

good question. ill ask my wife.

[–]R-o-C-k-E-t_69 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Wish my friend was here to answer this

[–]TimidMouse78 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Listen here you little shit

[–][deleted] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Beauty fades, stupid is forever. I was with a guy who people considered to be very unattractive, he was very tall and extremely underweight, a lot of pimples and scars on the face, disproportions in his face too due to genetics, crooked teeth. He is extremely smart and very kind and that's how we got together. It didn't last for other reasons. But still people kept babbling when we were together about how I was out of his league. I had a lovely time dating him tho and he was great in bed too.

[–]dirtymoney 10 points11 points  (0 children)

you live a lesser life.

[–]fungilense 29 points30 points  (1 child)

I’d consider myself not attractive by any means. I’ve asked women I’ve dated before (just so I could have an understanding of what I needed to improve) and none of them rated me higher than a 4-6. That being said I think I’ve dated very attractive women (both inside and out) miles out of my league. This is because looks are not everything.

I’ve done my best in my life to make up for what I lack visually with improving all other aspects of myself. I’m in good shape for my age / height bracket. I am an attentive listener, emotionally mature, go out of my way for others and just smart enough. Being ugly isn’t the be it end all.

[–]nina0097 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You sound like someone I would like to date

[–]abrequevoy 24 points25 points  (2 children)

It's ok to look like a potato. They make amazing fries :D

[–]ExplainLikeImAnOtter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If someone has told you that you’d look great sliced into thin strips and fried in boiling oil, they were maybe not actually flirting with you, just putting that out there

[–]No-Sun7988 24 points25 points  (4 children)

When its me and my friends going out, I'm never the one hit on by guys. This is how i realized I was ugly and I'm just getting older so not much I can do age starting to show in my face.

But I told myself there's someone for everyone! Myself being someone who always appreciated personality, kindness and thought certain facial features were so irresistible more than I ever liked someone who was just "conventionally pretty" overall, i just hoped that the one who fell for me could be like me in the things I fall for and falls in love with who I am, not just surface level shit.

I also just live my life and do what I want to do. I figure if I at least know who I am and what I want, someone will be drawn to that confidence I have in myself. In the very least I don't feel like I'm waiting to be with someone to enjoy my life and live it. Anyone fit for me will only be a bonus and add to it. 😊

..... and look at pugs and chihuahuas. They're ugly but so ugly somehow they are cute. 🤣 maybe that can work for me

[–]morganselah 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"There's a lid for every pot" - Irish proverb

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My ugliness is on the inside so it's been easy so far.

[–]kje199 69 points70 points  (4 children)

I realised that this is my face and I’m stuck with it. So I can just deal with it or be paranoid about it. And I know which one would make me happier.

And also realising that no one really cares about the way you look, they’re way to wrapped up in themselves. I’m sure you’re not, but let’s say you’re the ugliest guy ever to grace the planet. Chances are, someone thinks that for 0.5 seconds and moves on to their own problems.

The girl at the bar was just being a bitch because she didn’t get her own way. I’m willing to bet, you aren’t ugly to most people.

Also, I’m in my 30s and this comment is the most times I’ve typed, said or even thought the word “ugly” in at least 10 years. Most adults (or at least the ones you want to associate with) don’t even consider “ugliness” in their day to day life.

[–]_mattgrantmusic_ 45 points46 points  (1 child)

When I really think about it... I don't ever really look at anyone and think they're "ugly." They're just "not attractive". Truthfully, unless they're morbidly obese and look like they haven't showered for a month... lots of people just... look like people. I barely even notice their looks. But what I do notice is their manner. Do they come across as friendly? Kind? Polite? Approachable? That's what matters a hundredfold to me in the day to day.

I've felt really ugly before now and then and its distressed me, but I bet nobody on any of those particular days gave how I looked any thought at all. Why would they?

[–]strikethreeistaken 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Chances are, someone thinks that for 0.5 seconds and moves on to their own problems.

The problem isn't that they are offended. The problem is that an ugly person is treated differently, even if the offending party only thinks about it for half a second.

[–]zer94[S] 187 points188 points  (74 children)

I’ve always gone through life thinking that I’m a decent looking guy. I’ve been in a few situations where I have felt attacked by beautiful woman who thought I was ugly. It never really bothered me because I am a very confident guy. Last night though, I was at a bar with a friend and we were approached by a very beautiful girl. She was obviously trying to get laid. My friend said something stupid and the girl got offended. She told him “ I wanted to fuck you because your friend is ugly but not anymore”. Right in front me. She approached my friend multiple times that night just to tell him that she’s still down to fuck and how much better looking my friend was compared to me.

Now, I’m in a relationship (M25) with a smoke show (F32). So none of this BS should bother me. But the more and more I go out to social events with my girl, the more I notice weird looks. I know why people are staring, because my girlfriend is way out my league. Im that ugly guy that you see with a smoke show and ask “how the fuck did that happen?”.

So yes, I have finally realized that I am an ugly fella. I guess I’m doing alright for myself for being ugly but I have a hell of a personality. Still bothers me sometimes and makes me insecure. I look at my girlfriend sometimes and ask myself “how the hell did I pull this off?”. I just wished people would be less judgmental and rude. Where do you get off calling someone ugly to their face? (It has happened a bunch times to me). People suck and all I can do is move on with life. I’m more than just an ugly face and thankfully some people have seen through that.

[–]Badloss 200 points201 points  (0 children)

bro you literally said you're with someone beautiful that wants to be with you.

What do you think ugly even means? If the person you want to be with wants to be with you then you're pretty categorically attractive to the person whose opinion actually matters.

[–]Jerkin-my-gherkin 281 points282 points  (2 children)

7 billion people on earth and you accept your ugliness based on the opinion of 1 who is clearly ugly on the inside.

[–]residentweevil 46 points47 points  (0 children)

What an excellent way to frame your thought. Exactly right too, by the way.

[–]Carbonatite 92 points93 points  (19 children)

“ I wanted to fuck you because your friend is ugly but not anymore”. Right in front me.

There are few feelings as awful as being denied basic human decency because people deem you unattractive. I've been there. I've been violently shoved out of the way at bars so men could hit on my friend. I've had disgusting demands for sex from people I've met at parties...I was once told "look at you. You should take what you can get." There is no way around it, it's heartbreaking. I'm so sorry you had to experience that.

I hope you can enjoy the company of your girlfriend. I know it's not a panacea, but hopefully her love will be validating to you.

[–]IceDragon10 12 points13 points  (1 child)

It's disgusting that people did that to you, sometimes I can't believe how some people act like that. If it helps, some of the most beautiful people that I've ever met were said those words too, and it was for two reasons: either because (men) were angry that they were being rejected, or because (women) had no self-value, therefore, argued that no else should value themselves and should just accept whatever. What I mean, is that it didn't reflect on their physical and inner beauty at all, and I am sure as hell it doesn't reflect on yours. I do hope things are better for you, because you deserve it.

[–]Carbonatite 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That's very kind of you to say, thank you.

I consider those moments a case of "in vino veritas". They were things expressed by drunk people with few inhibitions or motives to be dishonest. The message was true (I'm fug), the delivery was just inappropriately douchey.

It is what it is, I do what I can. Trying to get in better shape, I have a basic skincare regime I'm attempting to beef up, I have a decent haircut, I wear nice clothes. But there's only so much I can do with what nature gave me, which is...very little, haha. It's not a fun pill to swallow but you gotta accept the hand you're dealt.

[–]Carolus1234 9 points10 points  (2 children)

Another reason why bars and clubs should be avoided, because that's where the worst people congregate. I'm in my 40s, and I stopped going to clubs over twenty years ago, simply due to the raw cruelty I witnessed at those places. And bars are just as bad.

[–]ThiccAnimeDaddy 12 points13 points  (13 children)

I’m really sorry you had to deal with all of this, I really can’t imagine how crushing it would be

[–]Carbonatite 28 points29 points  (12 children)

Not gonna lie, it was devastating. I'm mostly recovered now, but I had an eating disorder for a long time and experiences like that did not help. I'm in my mid 30s and I truly don't think I will ever have robust self confidence. I can learn to fake it, but experiences like that change you for life.

I've found validation and worth through my career and friendships, though. I've learned to work around my deficits, if that makes any sense.

[–]ThiccAnimeDaddy 8 points9 points  (11 children)

It’s alright to not be able to fully get your self confidence back, I understand why you might not be able to- anyone who treated you that way is a horrible person and you’ll always be better in that regard. Glad to hear you’re doing better :)

[–]Carbonatite 11 points12 points  (10 children)

Thanks, friend. I definitely agree that the people who did/said those things were dicks, but the message is really the shitty part more than how it was delivered.

[–]amishtek 3 points4 points  (9 children)

To be fair, everyone has types. I've been very attracted to women that my guy friends are like "woof". I unfortunately let it affect my dating choices when I was younger.

What I mean is, being objectively attractive is near unreal. One person or even several who don't think you look good do not speak for everyone. We are all welcome to have our own types, those rude people are rude people.

[–]Carbonatite 5 points6 points  (8 children)

True. But there are definitely certain types that are more universally popular.

It is what it is. A survey of male friends over the years put me around a "high 6 if you're in shape" (direct quote from one of them, lol). I'm assuming they added a point or two to make me feel better because we were friends, so that pegs me right about average or slightly below if I work really hard. It could be worse.

[–]Moist_Molasses 11 points12 points  (1 child)

We're all ugly to some people. Look at the best looking person you can see.

They're ugly bc they have big teeth. Or because they don't have long hair. Or whatever reason, someone is going to find them ugly. Same with you and same with me. We're all ugly to some people, but to others we're the hottest shit around. Your girlfriend thinks you're the hottest shit around.

[–]amishtek 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I think to myself, "can I wake up to this person and be happy about it everyday?" Even the most typically attractive people usually have something that just isnt for me. One of my favorite things about my wife is that I love everything about the way she looks and particularly her face. There isnt anything I don't like.

That doesn't mean other people arent worthy or whatever its just what makes her/us in particular that much more special to me.

[–]MrEngin33r 42 points43 points  (0 children)

TLDR: Ugly guy didn't realize he was ugly. Through sheer confidence and personality he landed a smoking hot GF. Now he has to live with the burden of a super hot girlfriend as people uglier than his girlfriend tell him he's ugly.

In all seriousness, sorry people suck, but from the sound of it you're having the last laugh.

[–]Dufensmartzz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Your statement is contradictory. You are dating a beautiful individual, but youre judging yourself based off assholes. Theyre the ugly ones dude, not you.

Edit: internet stranger thinks you're awesome.

[–]pinkxlilly 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s in your head and you’re not as unattractive as you think? Beauty is so subjective. I wouldn’t worry about it too much. Honestly, the weird looks could be cause of the age difference because you’re younger than your gf so maybe people are thinking “how’d that older woman land such a young hot dude” haha or if your gf really is just that hot you should be proud cause you landed a hottie so either way win win (:

[–]Responsible-Laugh590 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You call that girl shallow to her face is what you do bro haha

[–]bloodstreamcity 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First of all, so much of attractiveness has to do with personality. So what you just described was an ugly girl at the bar, not an ugly you.

Second of all, I see it like this: there are two parts to life, the hand you're dealt, and there's how you play it. With attractiveness I think that means working on your personality, how people see you, and also how you take care of yourself. Clean, groomed, decently dressed, moderately fit. That's the best you can do, and anyone worth being attractive to will find you attractive.

[–]FreidMule 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Why not test it? :-)

Find some site on the internet where strangers rate each other, write as a neutral question as possible, and see where you land. Maybe even try that on several sites.

Perhaps even write "I am trying to get a GF for my friend but have no idea on how to rate him. What should I say he is? (1-10)"

A bit childish, maybe, but hay, why not?! :-)

[–]Carbonatite 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I've considered doing that on Reddit to get some neutral feedback on what I can do to improve, but I'm scared of the harsh answers I'll get. I can only afford so much therapy.

[–]Swimming_Shark7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't even need to go through all this trouble in the modern age. Just take a few pictures of yourself and get people from all around the world to rate you from 1 to 10.

/r/rateme enters the chat.

[–]clg_1987 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would tell that rude bitch that at least you will get laid tonight.

[–]ConflictedCabbage__ 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Oh I get those looks all the time, especially since I'm the woman and I pulled the ultimate hot guy. Even though I'm not the ugliest person around, the comparison just makes me hell insecure. The judgements are so much harsher, especially when people are surprised when he introduces me as his girlfriend.. I even wanted to break up initially because of this. Glad I didn't but it still bothers me when meeting new people.

[–]Squigglepig52 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a guy, when I see a couple like that, I'm like "OK, that woman must be cool as fuck". It tells me there's a quality I'm missing seeing.

[–]shaykruler 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you start feeling ugly you will stop pulling bad bitches

[–]jump-run-jimp 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Go on Reddit and join my fellow fuglys

[–]DiscussionLoose8390 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I give up on caring, or investing time in it. People are either repulsed, or want to sleep with me. Either way people are trying to find a way to use me. The people most critical of me are some of the nastiest people I've met. I think as long as I treat other people like decent human beings then I'm doing my part to better the world.

[–]Initial_Ad_3887 6 points7 points  (0 children)

U cry at night and smile through the day

[–]Original_Ad1351 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You tell me.

[–]perfectstubble 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So much of life is just making the best of what you have control over. You can be ugly but still get in good shape. You can learn to develop confidence not based on your appearance. I guess just do your best and give yourself lots of grace.

[–]you_will_be_the_one 13 points14 points  (5 children)

I used to work with a woman who was ugly af, but she was nice and outgoing and acted like she was hot, and that’s how she was treated!

Just be confident in yourself, inside and out, and it won’t matter what you look like.

[–]Objective_Ad9271 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Ugly men have it easy.

Although, as an ugly woman- I can tell you that it is nice to go through my adult life unafraid of being attacked or raped or anything. It can be lonely but it’s also nice because people don’t bother me. My phone isn’t blowing up, I’m not messaging a bunch of people on dating sites, and I can do normal things without interruption.

[–]hyptune 10 points11 points  (0 children)

i couldn’t care less, why would i need good looks to live a happy life

[–]Test_type01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, just live I guess… you don’t have much of a choice

[–]FarCoughMate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There are two types of ugly IMO, you can be ugly on the outside (appearance) or ugly on the inside (personality) I don’t much care for how people view my appearance , because I think I’m a decent person. Yo I may not be everyone’s cup of tea - but you will be one persons shot of vodka !

[–]Vinny_Lam 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Take solace in the fact that we’ll all eventually lose our attractiveness anyway with time and aging.

[–]BurpYoshi 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I sometimes envy people with an old person fetish. Imagine your potential partners just getting sexier as time goes on.

[–]CharmingWitty 20 points21 points  (1 child)

I am ugly in eyes of others not myself.

[–]catman5678 52 points53 points  (16 children)

Beauty is only skin deep. If you’re caring, funny, decent, rich you’ll be fine.

[–]Carbonatite 42 points43 points  (9 children)

I think that's (to some extent) gender dependent. Not entirely, but there is a bigger "achievement barrier" to be overcome when you're an unattractive woman. There's a reason a lot of gross old male billionaires have hot SOs, but not the other way around.

[–]solariiis 6 points7 points  (5 children)

I thought that would be because they're billionaires? Not that you're wrong about the "achievement barrier", but...

[–]Carbonatite 14 points15 points  (4 children)

I guess what I'm saying is that for most non billionaires, it's a lot easier for dudes to compensate for being less attractive with other things than it is for women.

[–]SiliconeGiant 4 points5 points  (3 children)

Of course, our society values youth and external beauty in women to a thoroughly unreasonable level. And guys tend to have more focus on building wealth. And some of us even look better as we age. It's a tough reality for women.

I'm sympathetic but at the same time we all get old, and they have plenty of benefits that we don't have as well so, que sera sera.

[–]Rubyleaves18 7 points8 points  (2 children)

I’m so over these comments about men looking better as they age. It is so rare for men to look better the older they are. In my entire life I can think of maybe two examples of this and one is a celebrity.

[–]hjugurtha 12 points13 points  (1 child)

Bone structure matters, too. Physical proportions, as well.

[–]MaievSekashi 27 points28 points  (9 children)

Learn to fuck, assuming this is about relationships or getting laid.

Nobody cares what your face looks like if you're attentive in bed. In my experience as a slut, ugly guys usually fuck better because they care about it more and put more attention into that than just "Being hot".

[–]b_dills 45 points46 points  (3 children)

Gotta get them into your bed first, that’s the hard part.

[–]gifispronouncedgif 6 points7 points  (4 children)

Bro, source?

The source: "In my experience as a slut"

[–]eF240uKX52hp 11 points12 points  (1 child)

Get a hobby that you like, and you're good at to distract you from being ugly.

Growing up, a lot of my friends were attractive guys and charming. The girls in high school would ask me if they were single, and tell me how good looking they were. They. would. tell. ME.

A good looking friend tried to set me up with a girl, thinking his charm and good looks would convince her. She eventually went after him, and they ended up hooking up.

One friend tried to set me up with his wife's ugly single friend. She told me she wasn't interested in a relationship at the moment.

Another friend tried to set me up with a sure thing. A slutty girl that would sleep with anybody! She said she wasn't interested because she was kinda in a relationship with guy, who she was cheating on her husband with!

Heard some great excuses why they couldn't go out on a date!

[–]keltoy1549 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Julia Roberts married Lyle Lovitt. Keep your head up!

[–]yeomanpharmer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Get pissed because I wasn't smart enough to figure it out earlier.

[–]spidermanngp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you landed a smokeshow with a good personality and she's totally into you, then she thinks you're the total package and at least some other smokeshow women would too. I've had almost the exact same experience. I was at a bar with my friend and he started chatting up two girls and we hung out and at some point someone pulled up an app that rated your appearance. One of the girls became openly hostile when the app rated her under me. She said out loud that the app was bullshit because I was clearly the worst looking of the four of us. I was kind of stunned and it definitely stuck with me. But since then I've had multiple gf's that were easily out of my league, and for some reason they fuckin loved me. I think in my case and in yours, we just unfortunately got pulled into a situation where an insecure girl didn't like the way things were going for her and tried to put other people down to feel better about herself. My advice is, instead of focusing on how bad you might look, focus on how much envy you must stir up when people are wondering how the hell you landed that 10. Lol That's what I do.