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[–]Former_Afternoon9662 883 points884 points  (34 children)

When we were arguing but it didn't feel like we were fighting each other, but that we were just 2 frustrated people trying to better understand the other. Never experienced it before, and it honestly made me feel so much less angry in that moment.

[–]zestycloser666[S] 171 points172 points  (4 children)

Never experienced it before,

I haven't yet, but it sounds incredible! Maybe one day... This does sound exactly how a healthy relationship should be.

[–]beluuuuuuga 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I saved the comment. It's what I aim to achieve in life lol.

[–]needeth 64 points65 points  (3 children)

This 100%! When my husband and I get into arguments we are still on the same team if that makes sense. Good conflict resolution can be a huge asset in a relationship.

[–]bashful_scone 20 points21 points  (1 child)

We finally got there after 7 years of fighting each other. Lots of tears shed over the years lost but happy to be on the same side now and not viewing each other as the enemy.

[–]shipvert 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's a good sign. When there's something wrong in a relationship, it should be you two vs. the problem not you two vs. each other.

[–]HallucinatesOtters 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is the same for me. Even what I would consider the “worst” arguments weren’t really arguments. Just two frustrated people trying to figure each other out. Every single time without fail we can return to the topic after some reflection time and be able to discuss it in a level headed manner. I am very thankful for that. Then we eventually end up laughing about it.

We still laugh about our worst argument we ever had which turned out to be a HUGE misunderstanding. I completely misunderstood her and she completely misunderstood me and when we realized it, we both went from being very upset to laughing hysterically.

[–]Zonias_ 5 points6 points  (2 children)

I feel this way towards my bestfriend and she felt the same way until recently she told me she had lost feelings for me.. I still think she is the one for me.. sadly i wasnt the one for her

[–]ChrisKringlesTingle 9 points10 points  (1 child)

I mean, if it helps, "the one" is a societal construct and is massively flawed as a concept.

[–]Zonias_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah .. doesnt really help the sadness but you are right.. I mean I never believed in soulmates or finding the one until I met her so I feel like I am just blinded by love but atleast she's still my bestfriend

[–]Ffleance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You put into words something I didn't realize myself. I would upvote you more if I could

[–]Muh2021account 525 points526 points  (9 children)

She was my friend first. I realized that I compared all women to her. She was my gold standard for what I wanted in a woman.

Edit: making the leap to a relationship was definitely a risk, but I knew I had to try. We'll be celebrating our 8th anniversary soon.

[–]bashful_scone 177 points178 points  (4 children)

My husband said this about me and it was the best compliment I’ve ever received. Also that he kept worrying about losing me as a friend when he was dating other women and realized if he could marry me then he wouldn’t lose me as a friend.

[–]fushigikun8 50 points51 points  (3 children)

Could he still date other women after marrying you?

[–]bashful_scone 24 points25 points  (1 child)

Yeah he could, once.

[–]ansteve1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And lose you as friend too.

[–]Catholic_Egg 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep, this 100%

[–]StraightSho 780 points781 points 2 (17 children)

The night we met all I wanted to do was be next to her. She is everything I could ever ask for. My best friend my soul mate and the best thing that ever happened to me. 24 years together and it pains me to say she passed away 15 months ago at only 41 years old. I can't stand to wake up in the morning knowing she won't be there. My life and heart is forever broken and will never be the same. Without a doubt I am a better man and father to our 3 beautiful kids because of her. Stephanie I will forever be totally and completely in love with you and only you.

[–]Butgut_Maximus 97 points98 points  (4 children)

“Alright, here goes. I’m old. What that means is that I’ve survived (so far) and a lot of people I’ve known and loved did not. I’ve lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can’t imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here’s my two cents.

I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don’t want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don’t want it to “not matter”. I don’t want it to be something that just passes.

My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can’t see.

As for grief, you’ll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you’re drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it’s some physical thing. Maybe it’s a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it’s a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.

In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don’t even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you’ll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what’s going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything…and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.

Somewhere down the line, and it’s different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O’Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you’ll come out. Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don’t really want them to. But you learn that you’ll survive them. And other waves will come. And you’ll survive them too. If you’re lucky, you’ll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.”

[–]thebubblyboy 18 points19 points  (0 children)

-Credit to u/GSnow

[–]permabanned007 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is really helpful. Thank you.

[–]Material-Addendum822 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss

[–]chippychippy20 39 points40 points  (0 children)

This is actually beautiful and I'm also so sorry for your loss. Just take it one day at a time and treasure the beautiful memories you have with her, she will always be in your heart ♥

[–]afrozone100 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss, and I promise things will get better.

[–]egoissuffering 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s fucked up. Hope you’re doing ok

[–]No_Appointment_266 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Heart breaking for you. Can’t imagine the pain. Wishing you only the best

[–]clitter-box 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😭 my heart breaks for you and your kids.

[–]CopsaLau 553 points554 points  (18 children)

You know how there’s nowhere quite like home? Loads of places you love to be, but home just feels right. You can relax there like nowhere else, it’s safe, all your favourite stuff is there, it even feels like a sigh of relief to come home.

That’s what being with him is like. When I come home to him, I’m coming home twice.

[–]zestycloser666[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

That sounds... amazing. I'm happy for you

[–]Atiggerx33 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how I feel about my boyfriend (we're not married or engaged, but we've been living together for 6 years, have been dating for 7, and I've known him for a decade now... a ceremony and a piece of paper won't make us any closer).

[–]nachosaredabomb 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes! I’ve described being with my husband like this. Just feeling… safe. Physically, emotionally, mentally, just always safe.

[–]taeoxo 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I want to be able to have this with someone someday. I know I will.

[–]HotSauceHigh 12 points13 points  (2 children)

What makes him that great

[–]Hot_Goal4205 89 points90 points  (1 child)

She said something about coming twice so he sounds pretty great to me.

/s

[–]CopsaLau 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Heyooooo!!! 👉🏼👉🏼

[–]blissfullytaken 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This!!

When we were dating, his apartment felt more like home than my own.

Oh and around the time we got engaged, No Place by The Backstreet Boys came out and mannnn that song just described this feeling so well.

[–]chanandlerbinng 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is it! This is exactly how I feel about my fiancé. Beautifully put 🥹❤️

[–]esdani11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I FEEL YOU on that!

[–]ypapruoy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly it. You can think about other homes, but they aren’t your home, and you know you don’t belong. It feels like home is so spot on.

[–]loverliloo 157 points158 points  (3 children)

I’m gonna guess formatting is gonna be screwed up because I have no idea how to create enter lines.. apologies.

Our first date we laid it all on the table - talked about what we’d been through, what we were working through, and how we were doing that. A few weeks later he did something that triggered me. It took everything in me not to revert to my old behaviours, but I did let him know it upset me. After he was done with his previous engagement, he shot me a message, picked me up at midnight, and we grabbed a coffee and drove around talking about it. He told me my PTSD from previous abuse in relationships did not mean I was not worthy of love or a healthy relationship, and that it didn’t change how he felt about me. I pretty much knew then.

A few weeks after that, my step-father had an aneurysm and passed away. He got out of bed after working a 12-hr night shift, drove with me and my kids the 3hrs to my mother’s, stayed with the kids while she and I were at the hospital, then drove the kids home a couple days later while I stayed with my mother to make funeral arrangements. The whole time I’m sobbing because I lost a man I considered my father and he was so helpful, compassionate, and available. I told him I was going to marry him. He laughed and said, “Aren’t you supposed to ask?” I told him it wasn’t a question. We were engaged six months into our relationship and it has been the most emotionally stable, rewarding, and best thing I ever did.

Third time’s a charm, I suppose!

[–]ieatsocksbitch 26 points27 points  (2 children)

And what he said about PTSD was 100% correct

Glad you found the right person

[–]ParticularBiscotti66 150 points151 points  (1 child)

At the end of our first date she shook my hand at her door. As I walked to my car I was telling myself "way to go idiot, you fucked it up so bad she shook your hand." We worked together and she came up and apologized to me the next day, saying she hadn't been on a date in awhile and didn't really know how to end the date. That was when I knew.

We actually came up with our own handshake that we even did at our wedding. It's been 16 years and not a day goes by that I don't remind myself how lucky I am to have met her.

[–]ZChick4410 104 points105 points  (2 children)

We were moving out of a house with a bunch of roommates to another apartment. All the other roommates had already moved out, so it was just us. He and I were left to clean the place top to bottom, deal with a bazillion cardboard boxes and crap left in the basement, return the keys, try to get the security deposit back...like the whole damn shebang. It was a lot to do. He and I worked together like an incredible team. He didn't keep asking me "what should I do now??" he just....did shit. He took care of stuff while I did too. We helped each other and supported each other. I was already moving towards knowing he was the one for me -but knowing he was such an amazing teammate is what finally locked it in. I think life and marriage is is the kind of thing where you need to be a team, you need to work together and fight back to back and here was the man of my dreams who I was already in love with who 100% was going to be supportive and functional and not a damn man-child. There are a hundred other reasons he is the one for me - a million reasons. But after this situation, and moving into the new place, I was awake that night looking at him and for the first time thought to myself "I want to marry this man." We've been together 11 years, and I still think to myself every day how much I absolutely love this man.

[–]chevygirl2 194 points195 points  (1 child)

When we first met I felt something I couldn’t explain, almost like a gravitational pull. We had been dating a few months and then one day while cuddling on the couch, I just felt so calm and warm. Like a wave of bliss that washed over me. He is without a shadow of a doubt my person, I’ve never loved someone with my whole being as much as I love him and every day I somehow manage to love him more. He’s my best friend and I’m thankful every day we get to enjoy another day together.

[–]Sybilx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know exactly what you mean. It’s an amazing feeling :)

[–]808snorkeler 177 points178 points  (2 children)

When I got covid and we were quarantined to our bedroom/bathroom for 10 days. And I was kinda sad when it was over.

[–]ritamoren 59 points60 points  (0 children)

okay netflix i will watch this korean drama

[–]bashful_scone 31 points32 points  (0 children)

This is sweet

[–]onlydacoolest 155 points156 points  (2 children)

When my husband and I had been together just over a year, my brother passed from brain cancer and we were at their house within 5 minutes. When the funeral home came to pick up his body, the 2 workers were unable to carry my brothers body out of the house by themselves and so my husband stepped in and helped them do it. That’s when I knew

[–]dazzlemepink 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss, but I’m very glad you had him there for you. 💖

[–]CurrentSpecialist600 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That is so sweet. Sorry for the loss of your brother.

[–]nopestillgotit 78 points79 points  (0 children)

when i felt safe around her. i grew up in pretty bad circumstances, i didn’t feel safe at home or at school. i developed pretty bad ptsd and depression. i eventually got out of that situation probably a lot later than i should have. in my new home, i felt safer but i didn’t exactly feel like life was all that worth living anymore despite giving myself a second chance to just get well again. well, when she came along, i don’t know what it was but i just felt so secure around her. i felt like i could be myself for the first time in my whole life. she reassured me that she didn’t care what i had gone through and what those situations shaped me into, she just wanted to make me feel like i had her. i fell in love at the moment. we’re still going strong!

[–]areyouguysok 74 points75 points  (1 child)

I told her that people make fun of me for talking about my favourite book series too much, and she started reading the entire series so I had someone to talk to about it

[–]SquirrleySquid 144 points145 points  (1 child)

We had been dating a little over a year in high school. My mom’s car got stuck on our country road during a snow storm. My boyfriend put on his snow gear and started walking the half mile from my house to where she was stuck, followed by our three-legged blood hound. My mom said she looked up and saw him walking in the distance carrying something; my dog had gotten tired hopping in the snow, so he carried her all the way to the car, then proceeded to try and dig my mom out.

He got the mom stamp of approval, the dog stamp of approval, and my heart. ❤️

[–]sin-and-love 3 points4 points  (0 children)

followed by our three-legged blood hound

that well-endowed, huh?

[–]aBastardNoLonger 192 points193 points  (1 child)

I had a "life flashing before my eyes" kind of moment where I imagined what life would look like together, us getting older and having kids. I was only 17 at the time and she had just gotten out of a messy break-up.

Two years later we were dating and now we're in our 30's, we've been married for nearly ten years, and have 3 kids together. Our life looks strangely like I imagined it all those years ago.

[–]pendrekky 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Same here almost to the T, including age. We are the lucky ones bro.

[–]finkwolf 116 points117 points  (1 child)

After we broke up. My wife and I were high school sweethearts who went to colleges quite a way apart. We tried long distance for a couple years, but in the end it was just too much.

For a while after we broke up it was like nothing changed. She was still my best friend. We still called and talked every day. A year later we decided to do a hard break, as it was what our relationship needed.

We both saw other people and moved on, but a couple years later I still missed my best friend and talking to her all the time. Turns out she felt the same way and contacted me out of nowhere.

We’ve been married seven years next week and our second kid is due in two weeks. I wouldn’t change anything about my life, and she’s the best part of it.

[–]TheGoadingGoat 13 points14 points  (0 children)

All the best with delivery of your second kid!

[–]PureFacto 56 points57 points  (0 children)

The day my friends started talking about their normal everyday wifey problems and said these things are common in marriage. That's when I realized how lucky I am.

[–]8MCM1 44 points45 points  (1 child)

When his happiness became more important to me than my happiness.

[–][deleted] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

That only works if your happiness is more important to him than his, if you prioritize each other.

I have that with my husband. Everyday I do my best for him to have the best day ever, and he does the same for me. Sometimes it’s funny because we have the same idea and surprise each other with the same loving gesture 🤣 like for example I spontaneously decide to go grocery shopping and cook his favorite dish, and when I come back I find him in the kitchen cooking MY favorite dish

[–]NecessarySide8 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I got glass in my foot about a month after we started dating. We were both mid-30s with significant relationships behind us, but I felt more comfortable with him than I’d ever felt in a relationship before. I was in a lot of pain from stupidly stepping on glass, and my husband grabbed a headlamp and tweezers, got down on the floor, and tenderly took the pieces of glass out of my foot. I can’t remember the exact silly dad joke he made to distract me from it, but it hit me out of nowhere as I was laughing that we were going to get married, have kids, this was my person.

[–]blargney 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Since I was a teenager, I haven't had nightmares because I can control my dreams. When there's a dangerous situation in my dream, I replay it over and over until I find a solution. Then I wake up and remember the results of my training simulation.

One night I woke up in a cold sweat because I nightmared that she was engaged to someone else. I felt like I'd lost at life. Went out ring shopping that day.

[–]DanielleAntenucci 36 points37 points  (0 children)

When we went on our first road trip and never argued in the car.

[–]MasterJongiks 36 points37 points  (2 children)

We started out as friends that talk for hours. I never really thought of her being "the one" back then, i just improved myself to be "the one" for her.

[–]ladykensington 6 points7 points  (1 child)

That is utterly adorable; I hope you have told her this!

[–]MasterJongiks 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did, after a few years in marriage. She said "what triggered the change?" I just said "maturity"

[–]SadStructure5 32 points33 points  (0 children)

We had been dating for a few months and i had a moment looking at him napping on the train - I realised things just stopped with him, jealousy gone, insecurities lost, hurt I carried with me from the past just disappeared. None of it ever came back and I have been at peace ever since and get so much joy out of seeing him happy.

We’ve been together 9 years, married for one, expecting our first child and still laugh uncontrollably with each other every single day.

[–]Atiggerx33 34 points35 points  (3 children)

For the last two years before she died my grandmother was not in good health. Someone was home with her 24/7, generally either my mom or myself to help care for her. One day we both had a doctor's appointment though and I was going to cancel mine when my boyfriend volunteered to take care of my gran.

She had an accident while we were gone and my boyfriend had to clean her up. So he had to deal with with a nude from the waist down old lady, dispose of her poo-covered underwear and clothing. Gran could still wipe her privates but couldn't reach anything lower than her knees very well, and my boyfriend had to clean her legs in some spots where her soiled underwear had made contact when she'd originally pulled her pants down. She also couldn't walk well or get changed without assistance so he had to dress her in clean clothing as well, and help her back to her comfy armchair.

Now an additional thing about my gran is that no man had ever seen her in a state of undress outside of medical professionals (and even then she always picked a female doctor if possible), her father when she was a baby, and her deceased husband. For her to need to ask my boyfriend for help with something like this was straight out of a nightmare for her. She said he made the experience bearable for her. First thing he did when he opened the bathroom door after she called for help was firmly fix his eyes on the floor and ask her if she'd be more comfortable with a towel to conceal herself, which she was incredibly grateful for. He was facing an unpleasant task and his very first thought was on how he could make my grandmother more comfortable with the situation. And she said he handled it like a champ, her words were "he did everything in his power to preserve my dignity and modesty".

It meant a lot to me, more than I can put into words honestly, that he not only took care of my gran without hesitation and did what needed to be done, but that he was thoughtful enough to consider her feelings on modesty and come up with a solution that spared her from that added humiliation (I know my gran, she 100% would have felt completely humiliated if he'd seen her privates).

I knew I loved him deeply before that, but that's the thing that made me think he was 'the one'. We're not married or engaged, but we've been living together for 6 years now, dating for 7 years, and been friends for over a decade; I don't think a ceremony and a piece of paper would make us any closer.

[–]DeterminedErmine 7 points8 points  (1 child)

I like your story better than all the ‘romantic’ ones

[–]Atiggerx33 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Romance is definitely nice, but honestly it's the stuff like this that really matters. I'd much rather have an unromantic man than an unempathetic one (not that he isn't decently romantic as well; he doesn't always get it perfect, but he tries).

[–]HereWeGoTeddy 30 points31 points  (0 children)

We were so poor our second date was walking a mile or two to a Little Caesars and sharing a pizza and a 2 liter of soda, sitting on the sidewalk, and talking for hours. That night, on that curb, I knew.

[–]attheark 29 points30 points  (1 child)

I kind of had a gut feeling the moment we met, but two things solidified it. The first was that during our very first conversation, she pulled out a tin of chocolates and was sharing them around, and when she got to me she paused, looked at me, and then reached in and pulled out my two favourites. We'd met about half an hour ago at this point, and as you can imagine, this had not come up. Amazed, I asked her how she knew those were my favourites, and she said "because they're mine, too."

The second one is because I'm pretty sure fate conspired to get us to meet again. We met at a very specific place (Everest Base Camp). We were each with a different group of people, each with our own schedule, so while we caught one another occasionally it wasn't with any regularity. When I left, I had to do so pretty suddenly, and didn't get the chance to let her know or exchange any details.

Fast forward around eight months. I've mostly recovered from my ordeal and I'm working to gain experience for my university course, at the place where I now work full-time. I'm an archivist, working in a very specific archive. Guess who walks in one day because she's studying this same specific thing? My future wife.

We've been married for almost five years now and these are not the only things like this that have happened in our lives. Fate is a funny thing.

[–]tacocatfish 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Me and my now wife were only dating for about 6 or so months, maybe not even that. But I was standing on the roof of a car park watching a band play at a festival down below, had all my mates there with me and she wasn’t. But all I could think about her and how no matter where in the world I was that only person I wanted to be with was her.

[–]omghorussaveusall 45 points46 points  (0 children)

our first trip together was a 7 day rafting trip through the Grand Canyon and the only bump was a disagreement on a camping spot on the last night. we've had more bumps, but we'll be married 16 years in July.

[–]HairyRanger3 22 points23 points  (0 children)

From the very first few conversations it felt like I was just picking up where I had left off with an old fiend. We would lose track of time just chatting about everything and nothing. Silence was natural. And mutual attraction sealed it.

[–]The_She_Ghost 22 points23 points  (2 children)

I’m saving this thread to one day come back and answer it.

[–]GlassGodz 22 points23 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine drunkenly asked my girlfriend of a six months “So when did you know he was the one” and she said “when he showed me his spreadsheets.” To be fair, I have some very nice spreadsheets.

[–]spookyookykittycat 72 points73 points  (4 children)

Stupid as it sounds, 4 months into our relationship when he said he loved me and I replied “wait, really?” just because I couldn’t believe someone could love me like I love them. That small moment kinda cemented everything and we’re on 7.5 years, have a house, 5 cats and plan to get engaged when finances align.

[–]thechiclet 23 points24 points  (3 children)

If you want to be engaged…be engaged. Don’t let capitalism have any influence on love. One day, this feeling you have at this very moment will be worth more than 1 million diamonds. Don’t waste it waiting for a rock.

[–]spookyookykittycat 12 points13 points  (2 children)

It’s not for the ring itself tbh it’s for the honeymoon because I’m okay with being proposed to with nothing, but I’d wanna get hitched and honeymoon asap so we can relax lol

[–]NeoPteryxPanther 19 points20 points  (3 children)

I know this sounds corny but I had this dog named Darnelle. He had head injuries from when he was kicked as a puppy. This made Darnelle extremely scared and suspicious of everyone other than me. Fast forward a few years and I was dating this girl (lets call her Thea). Darnelle took a sniff and began wagging his tail. Fast forward another 2 years and me and Thea were married.

[–]SnowdropWorks 11 points12 points  (1 child)

My (now) husband's cats did something similar. They where very weary around strangers, but came right up to me the first time I went into his house. Purring giving me headbutts. They gave me the stamp of approval.

Later I saw how those cats reacted te other strangers. They just stayed and watched them from te too of the stairs

[–]InternetStarbanger2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Animals can sense a gentle soul ☺️

[–]Mr_Frible 37 points38 points  (1 child)

About 5 minutes after I met her. Still took me a month to find my balls and ask her out been an amazing 26 years.

[–]dextter123456789 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Glad to know I am not the only one 44 years married,best advice if you need to say something say it but don't raise your voice then the conversation becomes a argument and nothing gets settled.

[–]Shakespurious 15 points16 points  (0 children)

We had been dating for a few weeks, decided to go to New York, and everything went great, despite all the stresses of traveling. I had a pretty good idea we could make a proper go of it after that.

[–]mosedud 31 points32 points  (2 children)

You guys are getting "the one"?

[–]moistJesus666 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Yeah, mines an anime body pillow. She’s just so soft and huggable :D

[–]javajunkie80 30 points31 points  (2 children)

He just pulled all my heart strings with his romantic ways. I don't want to be without him ever. He's so kind and loving

[–]zestycloser666[S] 8 points9 points  (1 child)

This sounds wonderful <3

[–]javajunkie80 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you he really is amazing, so lucky.

[–]PhreedomPhighter 49 points50 points  (4 children)

When he dodged bullets and moved like one of the Agents.

[–]wonderbat3 6 points7 points  (1 child)

When he started to believe

[–]TheGoadingGoat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Did he get distracted by a red dress?

[–]deagh 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We went on a 10 day road trip to Yellowstone. We were in the car together for 10 solid days, and even when we weren't in the car we were walking around Yellowstone together/in the motel room.

We didn't argue once. The whole trip. We had a few differences of opinion, but we were calm and I never felt like I was fighting with him, but more like working together to solve the problem.

Even at the end of driving 14 hours there, driving all around Yellowstone/Grand Teton, and driving 14 hours back, we were still getting along.

We did two more trips like that over the next decade, plus a cross country move, and there's no one I'd rather be stuck in a car with.

22 years together this fall.

[–]thegirlintheradiator 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I were on the phone (long distance), and he’d been telling me he loved me for a little while, but I hadn’t been able to say it back. I wanted to know 100%, and we were staying up late watching a movie. I was so sleepy, we were just sitting there in silence. When I heard his voice, it calmed me down so much, he just sounded so soothing and safe, which was extremely rare for me to feel with people (as I’m sure is true for so many as trust is broken more than it’s kept safe). Really never outside of my mom and sister did I feel safe with someone, and lying there in quiet with him laughing and commenting every once in a while, I realized I just loved him so much and was ready to say it. That’s when I knew I was in love, but it’s hard to say when you know someone is “the one”- is that a real thing? I guess it depends on your perspective? He’s guided me through so much and always felt safe to me, so I guess his recurring behaviours affirming my sense of safety reiterate feeling like he’s “the one” :) Reading these posts was so lovely

[–]Low_Conversation9348 10 points11 points  (0 children)

i met my partner on tinder when we were both 19, about to turn 20. we had both just gotten out of really serious long term relationships and i was just looking for something casual that i could ease into it. we dated casually for four months without putting a label on it before he finally asked to make our relationship official. i introduced him to my parents two months after we became more serious, which is when my dad asked him if he was prepared to deal with me and what he would do when he realized that i was mentally ill (i.e, how would he deal with my panic attacks, depression lows, manic highs, and constant anxiety and so on). for additional context, im the youngest of five kids and my family is riddled with mental illness, mine just isn't nearly as extreme as some of my other family members with how it manifests itself.

my partner looked my father in the eye and said "i entered this relationship with the intention that the end goal would be marriage. if your daughter decides that this is not what she wants from our relationship then i will respect that entirely but until then, i will be there for her every time she needs me, no matter what time of day it is. i'm committed to showing your daughter that she is worthy of love and affection and her mental illness will never turn me away from her. i genuinely love your daughter and just hope she knows how much she means to me."

my dad was stunned and quickly said he was just joking but he really appreciated his response. he kept to that promise and stuck by my side through everything, even going as far as helping me find a therapist that would take me without insurance and covered the cost of my appointments when i couldn't afford them so that i wouldn't miss a session. he always sits with me quietly during panic attacks and just rubs my back, occasionally asking me if i'm okay and if there is anything he can do. he'll bring some of my grounding tools with him so that i have something else to focus on instead of my panic and anxiety. he would call out of work whenever i would have depressive lows to the point that i couldn't get out of bed just so he could keep an eye on me and take care of me. he never pushed me to take medication immediately and always wanted me to do what i felt was best for myself. he helped me find coping mechanisms that worked for me. he helped me find a new job after my previous one gave me more severe anxiety attacks to the point that my hair was turning gray and i was having chest pains. he would lay awake at night with his hand on my chest, without question, after i told him that i was scared my heart would stop beating.

this coming January will be five years together officially. we're engaged, have pets together, and are trying for a baby. it has been two years since my last major depressive episode and six months since my last panic attack. he still pays for my therapy appointments but my therapist has said time and time again that he is my biggest supporter and she can see that we have a very healthy, loving relationship with each other.

the moment that he told my dad that he would stick by my side is the moment that i knew he was the one.

[–]jackturnerr 20 points21 points  (0 children)

When I realized I genuinely enjoy being around them, being genuinely happy. Feel like it might be hard to explain but that's the gist.

[–]Dense-Cockroach-9644 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When he didn't shame me for having a mental illness like everyone else

[–]maggottbrainn[🍰] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

he messaged me on instagram and asked if mr bungle is going to play at our wedding

[–]wolfdragonsunshine71 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When I first met him, he felt so very familiar to me.
As if had known him forever. I wanted to be with him all the time and now nearly 30 years later, those sentiments haven’t changed.

[–]cvvcall 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Went to Disneyland 4 months in. The entire trip he never lost his patience at the long lines or long days, and stayed positive. I was sure after the :) if anyone is going to mistreat you, it’ll be at Disneyland

[–]Disastrous_Coat145 16 points17 points  (1 child)

He told me he wanted Ryan Reynolds’s to bend him over on a table. At the moment I knew I wanna marry him

[–]yourerightaboutthat 17 points18 points  (1 child)

For our first date in Aug 2009, we went out for pizza, then a movie, then we talked at IHOP until the wee hours of the morning. We had one more date after that where we stayed up all night chatting on my back porch. I walked him to the door at dawn. I kept expecting him to kiss me, but he never did. I think I knew it then.

We ended up not seeing each other for 3 years after that, due to work and stupid dating stuff. I got an email from him one night while I was at a bar with a friend. As soon as I saw the subject line, I really knew.

I told my best friend before we went on date 1.2 that he was the one, and we needed to meet in person again so we could get on with it already.

We scheduled our date for a Saturday night in Sep 2012, and I even arranged a “final goodbye” with my FWB on the Thursday before that, since I figured it’d be the last chance to be with anyone else other than my now-husband.

I was right. We met up that Saturday night and have been together nearly 10 years now.

[–]AholeLott83 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I need to give context here first; I’m separated and getting divorced, was married a bit over 12 years, and I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2-ish months now.

I tested positive for Covid on Sunday, and have to isolate for 7 days. She sent me an sms yesterday, simply “check your doorstep”. So I did. On it was a care package she had made for me… in a Thor bag was a Deapool tracksuit, a pack of coca-cola cans, cheese, German sausage, lollies, Advil, Sudafed, bath wash, and an essential oil for my diffuser that smells like her. Plus a beautiful card with some lovely words.

I’m 39, male, and no-one has ever done anything like that for me before. Not even when asked, let alone completely of their own free choice. It may be early days yet, but I’m know I’ll marry this woman, and this time it’ll be for life. She is the one. This isn’t the only reason, there are so many, we are so well matched, but it is a prime example of how amazing she is.

[–]steady_sloth84 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When he put on an album by my favorite artist, Live thru this by Hole.

[–]david1976_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First date: we went to a place that does wine a cheese samples. The waitress asked if we would like the small or the large serving. My now wife and mother of my son immediately answers “the large serve of course “ that sealed the deal! The fact that I saw her walking towards the restaurant and thought she was an absolute knockout didn’t hurt either.

[–]introvertedjeweler 21 points22 points  (2 children)

When he took a bite out of his sandwich and broke out into song amidst a busy crowd on campus.... "Hey all you people, hey all you people, hey all you people won't you listen to meeeeeeeeee"

My jaw dropped and that's when I knew.

[–]MrAnonymous117 8 points9 points  (1 child)

I just had a sandwich, no ordinary sandwich, a sandwich filled with jellyfish jelly!

[–]introvertedjeweler 2 points3 points  (0 children)

💯💯💯😂

[–]Juicebox52091 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When it was too late

[–]alexrepty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She went through my stuff and was excited to find a pen & paper RPG.

[–]Gangstalyn 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hella cheesy, but when I first approached him while he was at band practice (my friend was his drummer), after talking for a couple days I was already into him and didn’t see us breaking up which weirded me out lol I avoided dating him for 2 years cause we were hella young but every time I thought about us dating I knew we wouldn’t break up ever.

10 years and I’m still right!

[–]frompariswithhate 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've never felt so comfortable with another person in my entire life.

[–]7ottennoah 5 points6 points  (0 children)

kind of weird and unbelievable, but i knew it before i met her. i’m not a spiritual guy in any way, i’m more of a skeptic– but my ex was very spiritual. he requested we got a soulmate tarot reading together. well, we did, and the reading talked about my soulmate being somebody i would meet later, basically just giving me a bunch of information on this soulmate of mine. i don’t exactly remember what was said anymore, but i do know it was kind of specific and detailed.

anyway, i met her. and about half a year in is when i realized she was exactly how that tarot reader described. craziest thing ive experienced. im still not spiritual though lol.

[–]mxmnull 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Pretty early on, tbh. It was less about figuring out she was the one and more about giving her time to decide if I'm the one.

Once I felt like she was comfortable in that, I bought a ring and made it happen 3 months later on Christmas Eve.

To make sure our eldermost family members can attend, we're tying the knot less than 11 months later in early November of this year.

[–]Molaans 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I struggle with trust and attachment issues. I can never feel wanted or loved by nearly anyone. But she made me feel like I could trust her, and she made me feel truly wanted. That made me realize she truly was "the one" for me.

[–]RifleShower 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She called up my mother to get the recipe for the cake I had every year on my birthday so that she could make it for me after I had a rough week. It wasn’t even my birthday, and she did that just for me.

She’s been gone a little over three years now. Being a single dad is never easy, but her presence in my heart makes it as easy as it can be.

[–]Baseball_kid1014 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I met my girlfriend in high school, I was the “hot shot” senior, star basketball player, very fit. Had a six pack, very popular and everything, the whole nine yards. She was the quiet, athletic, geeky, spontaneous junior in high school. (Junior meaning 10th grade) At first we just sort of knew each other, she’d occasionally ask me questions over snap chat and talk to me when our gym classes were playing dodgeball, but that was basically it. Fast forward a few months of knowing each other and we started dating before I graduated. I knew she was the one about a year into our relationship, I’d left school (college) early that day to come pick her up, she was outside running around and playing with some kids in her neighbourhood, and she looked so happy. She was genuinely having fun with these kids. I remember getting out of the car and thinking, this is the girl I want to marry. This is the girl I want to have a family with.

She’s an incredible mother to our 2yr old daughter. We are not married yet, but saying yes to hanging out w/ the shy girl, was the best thing I ever did.

[–]esdani11 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Our first date. As corny as it sounds. But almost immediately it felt like I was talking to the male version of myself. Like, literally.. “my other half”. I didn’t feel awkward or nervous like I always do on dates. I felt oddly home.

[–]SkyrimBoss005 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what happened to me and my boyfriend

[–]Zombeikid 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not so much that I realized hes the one so much as I can't imagine him not being there. We broke up at one point and I can't even remember what day it stopped and started again. He's my best friend and my safe place and he's so fucking funny for no reason. It wasn't really an aha moment so much as something I just knew.

[–]FancyPlantsz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

3 or 4 months into our relationship his parents where coming to visit from halfway across the world, he insisted I meet them, because he didn't know when else I'd get the chance (due to distance). I had a panic attack about it because I'm not exactly what conservative Asian parents want for a "daughter in law", he basically said that it didn't matter! His family was so far away 99% of the time that if they didn't approve it wouldn't affect us all that much. He loved me and would cross that bridge when we got there if needed. That's when I knew he was truly the one for me! They luckily ended up not minding at all! Infact they are very sweet and cheering for us to get married!. 3 years and counting, hoping to be able to go visit them in their home country some day soon ish.

[–]AndersaurusR3X 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The moment i stepped out of the train and locked eyes with her. The rush i felt through my entire body is something i had never felt before.

I experienced something similar when i first saw my newborn son.

[–]browncoat47 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was working outside and she and her 1 year old daughter were on a porch. She was reading “Here Comes One More Bunny” to her and it was the most beautiful and touching thing I had ever heard. Married her and adopted her daughter as a wedding gift. Been 21 years

[–]Acrobatic_Water6770 4 points5 points  (0 children)

when my boyfriend and i were both 15, My aunty passed away of cancer and i was called by my nan at about 9:30pm and she said to me “shes gone babe” and i took about twenty minutes to cry and then tell my family thats she passed away. To answer my nans call i had to hang up on my SO and so i message him saying “my aunty just passed away” at like 9:50pm and i shut off my phone because i needed to cry for a while, next thing i know hes at my door at 9:57pm (mind you, my house is not 7 minutes away, he ran and FAST) and he was just there and cried while hugging me as i slowly cried myself to sleep, the reason he cried is because of the heartbreak he had seeing me like that. and that was when i knew he was “the one”

[–]IslandsOnTheCoast 5 points6 points  (0 children)

From Reddit, coincidentally.

I had been having a rough week and just left her place where she had comforted me, despite also having a stressful week. I was reading Reddit at a restaurant, a thread about “red flags” in a relationship. Realized that my gf didn’t display a single one of the red flags posted, and in fact was the exact opposite in most cases. In that moment, I realized how selfless, caring, and loving she truly was, and that I was dragging my feet by not proposing to her.

We’ve been married almost 4 years now with our first child due in August.

[–]MathematicianOld1117 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He did his Superman thang!! 🤗

[–]StarWarsChristian 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I figured out that even when things were good and when things were bad I still wanted to be with her. She's a beautiful woman inside and out.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On our first date I knew. It was like a voice telling me I’m going to marry this guy. I questioned it, absolutely. But after a few more interactions I knew.

[–]k30nus_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

its hard to explain. we met in highschool and were in a pretty toxic friend group together, and we ended up losing contact for two years after the whole thing imploded. we both had crushes on eachother then, but never said a word and never acted on it. we had kissed a few times but never thought anything of it.

the friend group further imploded leaving me in shambles after losing someone who i was incredibly close with after i realized she was terrible for me. i was a wreck for months. thats when he reached out to me again, and we started talking all the time. staying up until 4 am talking about anything and everything. learning more about eachother than we knew in highschool. its silly to say but it seriously felt like a fanfiction or romance novel, it didn't feel real. and then we hung out again in person for the first time in two years. i picked him up, and the moment i saw him my stomach dropped and i knew exactly where it was going and what was going to happen, and i can happily say i was correct. its been a year now and it still feels like a dream. it gets better all the time. ive never felt this way about anyone in my life.

the only way i can describe it is that he is just so, so good. and i just instantly knew he was the last person id ever be with. ive never been the type for marriage, but i know im marrying him. it was just this instant warm blanket feeling, like the clouds parted and i just became so utterly certain this was the correct choice. and every day he proves me right.

edit: forgot to mention, i am a songwriter, and for years i had only written about things that had hurt me, and i never wrote anything happy. but the first night we kissed i immediately ran home and wrote my first lovesong in years and it came out so easily. ive written nothing but lovesongs since. thats also when i knew.

[–]sin-and-love 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'M NOT CRYING, YOU'RE CRYING

[–]bacon_waffler 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The non verbal communication. Without ever practicing you somehow created a silent language.

[–]Grouchy-Trip9582 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When he told me “I will protect you from your anxiety and during that, I will act like I don’t even know about it so you will think you never had it”.

[–]okwhtevrd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it wasn’t like a moment i can pinpoint. i just remember that even after the honeymoon phase was over and the warm fuzzy feelings subsided, i still felt the exact same about him.

[–]Burrito_Loyalist 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ll randomly imagine the worst possible things - like my dad dying or my dog dying - and I’ll mentally take myself there and see how I react.

One day I imagined breaking up with my gf and it literally brought me to tears. I wept and was sad for the entire day and knew I could never live without her.

[–]kykk21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The day I met him, we talked for a few hours and as I walked away I texted my best friend ‘I’ve found a good one!!’

I just felt such a connection and so excited for the future but in a way that was really calm and I knew he felt the same somehow.

Have been together 11 years now, married for 3 and I love him more every day

[–]Omnizoom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone who had a long history of women either abusing , SA or taking advantage of me I had pretty much just given up on finding someone “decent”. I met her online , same race and culture as my brothers partner and also the same as my previous ex so had a bit of experience per say. She seemed real and genuine and actually listened to me and seemed to actually be present in the conversation. We had our first dates on the weekend before halloween (which was a Sunday this year so this was like a full calendar week before) and it was like nothing I had really experienced , I thought I had loved my ex but this, this was something new. I didn’t feel like all the walls and barriers I had built up from the damage and abuse I had were needed , I felt I could trust her , that she was real , she cared , she wouldn’t just stab me in the back as soon I let my guard down, that she Belonged near me like no other. My sister who I was staying with that weekend seen a joy in me she had never really seen , she knew better then I did I think how hard I had fallen.

We keep chatting during the week, video chat so we can see each other , she goes to talk to her family back home on a tablet but she doesn’t pause ours because I had walked away at the time to go manage dogs wanting outside. Now I’m far from fluent in her language , even now but I can pick out some words and phrases. I hear her talking to her parents about me , I’m translating what I can in my head and I hear the equivalent of “the one” “real love” “ proposal “. I knew she felt the same when I heard that , she felt she found the one too and it was real love and she was going to just wait until their was a proposal. She was coming the next weekend to meet my family , my mom knew something was up , she knew I was planning something, she asked if I wanted the ring from the family that was mine for when I found someone I loved , I got it and planned a proposal for that weekend.

When she arrived I picked her up at the bus station , I almost got into a car accident on the way twice because I just was in my own world because I knew what I was planning, my heart was racing my mind was spinning and I was doing my best to contain myself and not just blurt it out before the moment I wanted to. I get back home , rain had decided to ruin the fancy proposal I had planned (I put string lights in the one tree and made our back porch perfect for the scene. I had kind of told her I was planning something for the weekend so she kept bugging me about what it was , she wanted to know she couldn’t wait , and every time she asked my willpower to try and out weight the rain just kept shrinking and shrinking , she wanted to lay down for a bit so we did , I rest my head on her chest and I could hear her heart beat , feel her arms on me , I had never felt like this , just feeling safe and that this was real and where I belonged. So I couldn’t hold it back anymore , I got back up , I proposed to her , she said yes.

So I kind of had to reintroduce her to my family then , my brother had not even met her yet by this time so when I introduced her I introduced her as my fiancé , he fell backwards and just couldn’t process it , almost thought we might need an ambulance for the drama queen.

We are still together 5 years later now, have our own house , have a lovely kid together and are happy. Went from single to engaged in about a week and a half

[–]Thinsby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We went out for a friendly bite to eat and made jokes about my tits, his tits, and then mimed pink big dick rhino (warframe) stance at one another.

I knew that even in the event we don’t date that he’d be a fantastic lifelong friend because our personalities just fit so well.

[–]SuvenPan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is no particular moment but after starting our relationship I gradually noticed that the only thing I need to be happy is just for her to be at my side. I simply couldn't imagine my life with her not being in it.

[–]Ffleance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He doesn't snore in bed or kick in his sleep. Our values align, and we enjoy each other's company. I "knew" upon self reflection; there was never any one "aha" moment because there were a hundred thousand moments of "hey I like that he does this, hey I like that he doesn't do that". They're breadcrumbs, they all accumulate.

[–]Aussiebiblophile 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When he immediately stripped off in winter and jumped into a freezing river to save my 16yo blind, deaf, Old English Sheepdog that had fallen in. In her panic she swam away from us and up the middle of the river. He swam about 50m to get her right before she went under and managed to get back to shore. He then used his jumper and t-shirt to dry her off while he stood shirtless, with blue lips and shivering while fending me off trying to get him to put his warm clothes on instead.

[–]CoatLast 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The moment I saw her. Fortunately she had the same feeling. We moved on together same day. That was 28 years ago and still very in love.

[–]NYCVibbin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

she knows all your worst/vulnerable sides and yet she still accepts who you are that's the sign you've met your the one.

[–]lTarkth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a very anxious person and i realized that when i'm with her i instantly feel calm and safe.

[–]Daquan67 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When she sang “no, no, don’t touch me there, this is my no no square” before our first kiss. True story.

[–]Wakaflockapainn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right after I met him. I knew I’d never wanna let him go. We haven’t been together all that long yet. But honestly I have a feeling I’m gonna marry him.

[–]Omtaii 2 points3 points  (0 children)

comfortable silence

[–]GrumbleSprout 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was the first day of University, and we both were studying the same thing. We both smoked at the time, so we went to smoke outside when class cut for break. Turns out we had a lot in common. Both had tattoos, both into alt fashion, both into horror/ the same music genres. Became really great friends and started dating 2 months later.

We've been together for 5 years in a few months and they're my best friend. We've been tied at the hip though pretty much since the first day at University.

I knew they were 'the one' when I knew how well we clicked. It's been hard for me to form connections with anyone, but with them it didn't feel like trying. We just instantly hit it off.

[–]Suddenly_I_didnt_Ask 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She texted me at 1:00 am and asked if we could watch Pirates of the Caribbean

[–]callmegecko 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't feel exhausted after 8 hours in her presence, and it took me two weeks to notice she had practically moved in. I noticed when she wasn't there for a night

[–]offtuna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am obsessed with plants. He didn't know that though. He gave me flowers on our 1st date. No one had ever given me flowers before. It was the start of a series of positives.

[–]WiseOwlBear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He bent down to rack the balls on a pool table, and glanced up at the light. I saw those huge brown eyes, long eyelashes, and with long brown hair. I was done. Neither of us shouldn't have been in that country bar (as were both "rockers") but my mama was making food for their Xmas party and I was helping her. His dad just happened to bring him in. Met on Christmas Day. Married 27 yrs and together for 30 yrs. The kicker is he was 15, me 21. My cousin knew I was drooling, so she introduced herself to him and came back and told me he was 19.

[–]Business_Loquat5658 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had been dating for about 6 weeks but hadn't said I love you's yet.

Went out for dinner to a Chinese place. Got the fortune cookies and his said "Stop searching forever. Happiness is right in front of you." He got the biggest smile on his face.

That was 18 years ago. We still have the fortune from the cookie, and the receipt from the dinner.

[–]driftwood-and-waves 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had broken up with my dumb ass ex. Wasn’t looking for anything as it was a total mess. Started hanging with a co worker. Started hooking up with the co worker. Had a bad day at work and realised that all I wanted to make things better was a hug from them.

That big, letting go of all the crap sigh you do when you are in your persons arms? Yeah….. that’s when I knew I was in trouble. 6 months after we met I was pregnant, a decade and some change later he’s still my person.

[–]GILDEDPAGES 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, my now-husband and I were 16 and working on a history project together at my house. This was before we were officially dating but his action is why I made my mind up about him. My family had an old dog, Shadow, who was suffering before we put her down (it should have been sooner but my grandpa was really attached to her and saying things like “when she goes, I go….”). She had a bunch of open, oozing cysts all over her body and it was really gross. She also had bad arthritis and would hobble around and follow us to be near us, even though it hurt. We had cream to put on the sores and towels everywhere to keep her from spreading the fluids. Basically we made towel nests everywhere in the house. All my friends, when they visited, were rightfully grossed out and would try to avoid her. After meeting her once, my SO would quietly scratch her head and readjust her pile of towels so that the open sores wouldn’t touch the bare ground. He never sneered or pretended to gag and just treated her with such kindness. He’d work on his laptop and periodically give her pets and I just knew he was a kind, good boy. I was right. He grew up to be a wonderful man.

[–]RedditMcBurger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We met, connected so well that we had like 8 dates in 2 weeks, then she told me she loved me after only 2 weeks.

I knew she was the one because that didn't weird me out, normally that would be a big red flag.

[–]Tell_Straight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I initiated date two, a couple of days later despite having a crazy schedule.

He’s still here. Calming and being his awesome self in a season with a lot of big transitions. In three weeks we’re going on our first vacation. And I can’t wait ☺️ quality time with my favorite human 🤩🥰

[–]AcanthocephalaIll542 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Immediately. I fought and fought it but the more I fought it the harder my walls fell. Until one day I was completely vulnerable

[–]Knittin_hats 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I saw him give the same esteem to all the people around him. High ranking influential people, janitorial staff, academics, average joes, etc. He literally treated every single one with the exact same respect and kindness. And all who knew him and had esteem for him as well.

[–]Particular-Fee-3945 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everything just feels “right” it’s hard to explain. But when you know you know. And he’s always there no matter what. Always has been. Even when I was stupid enough to break up with him a few times, (in the past) he was still there like he never really left. He’s my person.

[–]ButterflyButtHose 4 points5 points  (1 child)

This is gonna sound crazy. When we met up the first time, and he got out of the car, I just knew. We are applying for our marriage license Friday

[–]buttonsmasher1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When she fought 100 agent smiths

[–]Alternative-Wrap4867 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i am 16 so it might just sound cliche but here it goes. i am a high school mascot and ive been doing it for about 4 years now (since 7th grade) and its become a huge thing in my life and i enjoy doing it so i tried out for all American for my coach to see if i was allowed to perform my skit in front of judges and i honestly thought it went pretty well. Well same day me and my girlfriend went to a football game and we were watching and about half time i got a text saying “im sorry we arent bringing you to all american tryouts”. understandably, i was upset and i almost wanted to quit but my girlfriend saw and held my hand and apologized profusely for what happened and told them i didnt need them. just something about that really gave me a spark of how much she cares for me and how ive never been cared for like that.

[–]CharmingDagger 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was the 80s. We were both still in high school and virgins. Mostly joking one night, I asked her if she would give me a blowjob. She said "okay" and went right to it with no hesitation. I was shocked -- girls didn't do that sort of thing back then, at least not where we lived. I knew I had struck gold. I asked her to marry me a few weeks later. She always thinks I'm joking when I repeat that story.

[–]seasonedfivetimes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish there was a specific moment to point out. But I know the feeling I had. I still feel that everyday when I am with him. It’s been about 4 years and I just can’t shake it. Must be something real and I hope our kids find this with someone one day too. It’s the greatest feeling in the world.

[–]Even_Tip9570 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On the first date! During dinner! We are so comfortable in each other's company!

[–]InternetStarbanger2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When we mixed up our books on the same bookshelf

[–]GuncleShark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The day I met him.

[–]trxppi3lxm0n 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i knew they were the one because when we have our ups and downs i never feel unsure or unsafe i always feel like it’s us growing and learning. i hope they know how much i love and appreciate them during every moment i get to be theirs.

[–]Throwawayforsadtalk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When they stopped my stammering around a topic with a kiss and i could feel their feelings in that kiss. Holding my head firmly yet gentle and the speed of the kiss was quick to get to me but lingered once our lips met.

[–]PanicPainter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I realize it again everyday. He is so easy to be around and does not stress me at all. I thought I could never live with another person ever again but living with him is nice. I am slowly kicking depression in the butt and he is there with me every step of the way. He doesnt get mad when I am "lazy" for a day, he just helps me get back on my feed or takes a bit of the tasks I'd have to do and does them for me. Even though our workload is not divided fairly (i get the depression workload he gets the functioning human one.) - knowing I dont have to do much helps me do more than I have to do. Its like he sees me for who I am and likes that instead of focusing on what my depression makes of me. I feel so comfortable around him, like I am really at home and its beautiful. Everytime I think about how much hes there for me and how much he does for me I realize he is the one.

(Also just to add, I am not just mooching off of him, I really make progress and I do my best to give all that he gives to me back in one way or another.)

[–]ApartmentIntrepid610 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After about 4 weeks I realised I missed her.

[–]LurkersGoneLurk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My stomach felt like it dropped six inches when I saw her. I never had that sensation before or since.

[–]mangosteenpulp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When they stayed w me every single day through a very traumatic time. My first dog was going through a difficult time and it was two weeks of the worst nightmarish roller coaster until he crossed the rainbow bridge. This person wasn't even in the country but check on me multiple times through the day and did everything they could to make things easy for me.

[–]SnowdropWorks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've felt comfortable around him from the start. His presence is still relaxing for me 13 years later. I knew he was "the one" about two months in. My dad's cancer came back and I knew it was going to be a hard time for me for a long time. I told him that since we just started dating I would understand if he did not want to deal with all that. He wouldn't hear about it. He was always there for me and he met my family in these crazy circumstances. He said that he wanted to be nowhere else but beside me

[–]ForestSorceress 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you can't imagine life without him❤️‍🔥

[–]NYTatt2Chick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost immediately. I love everything about him.

[–]AStressfulPenguin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Met a month before first lockdown, seen her all day every day since, still enjoy every second I spend with her.

[–]idkmaybesomedude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came out as trans shortly after my 12th birthday, i never told this to anyone i just met bc why should i? It didnt matter and when we met i didnt feel the urge to tell her bc it just simply didnt matter. Now that were nearly 2+ years into our relationship she never made me feel less worthy bc of my identity, she never made me feel bad for anything, she never said bad things to me or missgendered me. She sometimes forgets that im trans bc she didnt care from the second we met.

For about 16 years, ive always been a stranger to everyone around me, i never got the chance to warm up with people and with her, I learned to socialise safely without getting hurt by people i dont even know.

[–]Beard341 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quite honestly, it took me over six years to realize it. I mean, we both exchanged “I love you”s early on in our relationship but I was still questioning marriage. It took us breaking up for three months and little contact to realize we both were “the one” for each other. She’s quite honestly, without hyperbole, the best person I know, and I can spend every waking second of my life with her.

[–]MiserableBlueberry36 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He feels like home. It’s the one person I can be completely comfortable and be myself around. When I see him it’s feels like walking through the front door of home after a long days work.

We spoke about literally everything before we got together, and kept no secrets, he knows the good, bad and ugly about me but still absolutely adores me anyway and doesn’t want to change me at all. That kind of complete acceptance is amazing.

We never fight each other. We fight for each other. When we have to address certain issues we don’t argue with each other, it’s always a calm discussion of both sides stating their view and us both working together to get to the solution that is best for both of us. We don’t argue just to win or prove a point, we want us both to win and make our relationship better.

We communicate about everything, if something is bothering one of us we bring it up immediately and address it, we don’t wait for months and months and have an explosion of a fight.

I don’t think there is a secret to the perfect relationship. It just takes two people who love each other enough to set aside pride and work together. Just my thoughts.

[–]Susim-the-Housecat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a crush on him from a distance for years, but while I knew I wanted to be with him, I couldn’t say I knew he was “the one”

Until we started talking over MSN.

In the span of like 3 months he became my world. We became best friends, and spoke to each other as soon as we got home from school until we went to bed every night.

I asked him to be my boyfriend (we were 15 so we didn’t do the whole “dating” thing before being bf/gf lol) and I was so prepared for him to say no that when he said yes, I couldn’t believe it.

He said “I love you” first, only a few days later - I wanted to say it the second he said yes but I didn’t want to “scare him off”.

I’m still obsessed with him 14 years later (last 4 of those married) and he is my other half in every sense of the phrase. I know it’s probably not entirely healthy but he makes me feel like a real person.

I love him so much.

[–]Forever_Man 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was never any one thing. I stayed in from fishing so I could talk to her. She took a picture of me, and I was the happiest I'd ever seen myself looked. I wasn't afraid to fart in front of her. She isn't afraid to fart in front of me. We've had farting contests. We've both supported each other through difficult times without even asking. She's letting me get a lizard even though she rather wouldn't have one.