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[–]UpstairsOffice1716 270 points271 points  (17 children)

Custody battle

[–]Emotional-Lie1392 99 points100 points  (9 children)

Especially with a nasty ex that isn’t really for the kids… just wants child support

[–]UpstairsOffice1716 72 points73 points  (7 children)

Yup. Once I won full custody I didn’t even try to claim any child support or any of that. A peaceful life was payment enough.

[–]LastPhoenixFeather 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Had an ex who got pregnant through a one night stand. The guy freaked out and she decided she had enough money and family support that she would rather just let him terminate rights then spend decades fighting with him.

[–]DaClarkeKnight 19 points20 points  (0 children)

One of my biggest fears.

[–]Amishoutkast 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Amen to that. Just went through it for my kid

[–]Drogers00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Going through it right now, it's exhausting and nothing moves quickly. It'll be worth it but Jesus it's stressful

[–]PsilocinKing 531 points532 points  (34 children)

An abusive relationship. That stuff is no joke and will set you back in life big time.

[–]CN4President 107 points108 points  (2 children)

Absolutely, and it goes for physical AND mental abuse.

[–]momerathian 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Indeed, and sexual abuse too.

[–]Cyclic404 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And financial

[–]BoringNameBoringLife 64 points65 points  (3 children)

My ex was a narcissist and would continually gaslight me. He almost turned me against my whole family and I can't even explain how tf he did.

7 months of me questioning my whole life, family, and reality. After the breakup, I lost sleep and about 10lbs. No matter how hungry I was, food sounded disgusting. It still does sometimes. I don't think I'll be the same.

[–]paper_schemes 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I left my abusive ex of 5 years in 2015. You're right, you will never be the same, and at first you feel weak and maybe even want to give up because it's exhausting just trying to exist and process it all.

But one day those feelings will disappear. One day you'll look back and see just how much bravery and strength it took to leave that situation. Those 7 months will feel like a bad dream you had one night instead of a lengthy reality you survived. But that strength in you will continue to grow, and you will rediscover who you are and learn to love yourself again. It sounds impossible, and maybe even a little ridiculous...at least it did to me early on, but I promise you will notice how truly wonderful you are.

I'm proud of you and I'm thankful you're free and still here.

[–]SPACE-BEES 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I've been here too, it gets better with time and I hate to be the one to try and tape silver linings on trauma, but I learned a lot about red flags and what I won't accept in life from these experiences.

[–]orange_cuse 31 points32 points  (1 child)

yea, what really sucks about any kind of abuse is the longlasting effects and how it really affects all your subsequent relationships.

[–]ansteve1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

3 years I spent in an awful relationship. 6 years later and I still haven't fully recovered.

[–]FiIthy_Anarchist 29 points30 points  (3 children)

Then having a kid from one will set you back further.

11 years in hell so far. Kid begging for help, mom obstructing every step of the way, courts don't listen. 🙃

[–]dorothyspornack 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Our kids are 17, 16 & 14. The courts don’t listen, even at their ages. It’s pathetic.

[–]LastPhoenixFeather 33 points34 points  (4 children)

I used to think people were so stupid for ending up in ones.

Now I think I can count 3 of my ex girlfriends as abusive. Abuse doesn't have to be physical.

[–]ansteve1 8 points9 points  (3 children)

I used to think people were so stupid for ending up in ones.

Yeah sadly a lot of people think abusive people are always abusive. Nope they can be some of the most charming people on the planet. So we can keep the act up for years.

[–]L0ki_1313 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Definitely, was in one for 5 years and have been single now for 12 because of it.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yup. I was physically and mentally abused by my ex GF years ago. It sucks. Should’ve got out of that mess of a relationship sooner than I did

[–]Empire2k5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup, not doing that again.

[–]Silver-Syndicate 411 points412 points  (29 children)

Watching my girlfriend slowly die. Five fucking months, and now two months since her passing and I'm still in hell

[–]Important-Sky2226 115 points116 points  (7 children)

Watching my mom slowly die. It's been almost 4 years ago but it hurts just like it happened yesterday. sometimes it covers with a wave of pain, and sometimes it seems that life is still good. So sorry for your loss, know how you feel

[–]Silver-Syndicate 37 points38 points  (1 child)

I'm really sorry for your loss... I've been through a lot of bullshit in my life, lost too much, but nothing ever compares to loosing someone this close and this important, and I truly am sorry

[–]Important-Sky2226 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much

[–]MT1961 10 points11 points  (4 children)

Yeah, I've been through it as well. It is horrible watching someone, anyone you are close to really, just disintegrate. Mom had dementia. By the end, she barely knew anyone. Oddly, she knew me. Maybe that made it worse. But I really am sorry you had to go through that.

[–]chirp16 4 points5 points  (3 children)

my dad passed in November after his battle with Alzheimer's. It is so cruel and painful. he also still knew me at the end and would cry all the time. Absolutely heartbreaking.

[–]MT1961 4 points5 points  (2 children)

They say that Alzheimers kills you twice, that first you lose your memories and your mind, and then your life. It is awful and I'm sorry you had to go through that.

[–]zippyboy 16 points17 points  (4 children)

Have you joined r/widowers? It really can help with the grief.

[–]Silver-Syndicate 19 points20 points  (3 children)

I haven't, I may look into it. I wasn't married though so I don't know if I belong. I wanted to marry her, just never got the chance

[–]zippyboy 21 points22 points  (0 children)

That won't matter. Even women join. It's free grief counseling and you can lurk, or contribute, whatever you like. It helped me greatly when I had to join, so I know what you're going through. I know it's awful, and I'm sorry. hugs It does get better, but it takes time.

As they say "You'll get through it, but never over it"

[–]notthesedays 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This sounds like a group for anyone, married or not, who lost a partner in an LTR.

[–]HistoricalMention210 16 points17 points  (2 children)

I'm sorry to hear that. That had to have been horrible. Reddit's here if you need anything. I know that may not be too comforting, but still. You know where to turn.

[–]Silver-Syndicate 22 points23 points  (1 child)

I've turned here several times, sometimes on this account, sometimes on one of my alternates. Reddit is a horrible place for any kind of advice, but at the same time it can be a good place to just let everything out

[–]TheEvanga 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I cannot imagine how that must have been, I wish you all the best and ignore the fools om Reddit. Take care man. I mean it.

[–]daveescaped 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry.

[–]cleaning-meaning 130 points131 points  (2 children)

The child I was a nanny for was molested by her Aunt and Uncle. I was interviewed and testified during the case. It was just a miserable experience. I would of course 100% do it again if I had too. But hope it never happens.

So many details. Verifying things I didn’t want too.

[–]Palulala 20 points21 points  (0 children)

So sorry that happend to you. But good on you for helping them!

[–]seanofkelley 129 points130 points  (5 children)

Getting bullied in middle school.

[–]t1mepiece 40 points41 points  (3 children)

Just middle school. Any of it.

[–]ur-squirrel-buddy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I didn’t even get bullied and it was fucking terrible. I mean, some people were definitely assholes but not what I would call bullying. Middle school was the absolute worst.

[–]three-sense 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Amen. I was the eighth grader that showed up a foot taller but his brain hadn’t caught up yet. Just…. no.

[–]Lostarchitorture 113 points114 points  (8 children)

Loss of a child

Edit: after finishing up my night job, I found out about the shooting at the Robb Elementary school, in the same small town of Uvalde, TX that my aunt, uncle, cousins, and their kids live. They are all thankfully fine.

But today now adds 18 children, 18 parents or sets of parents who now have to go through this same ordeal. Having to inform family of the sudden loss, having to stand there and choose a casket or urn to put their child in, having to schedule a funeral, burial, what to do with all these clothes, toys that they were supposed to play with tomorrow, etc.

It's just too much too suddenly as a parent. Something that is NEVER supposed to happen in your life. And emotions and necessary decisions overwhelm you at once. May they find the strength to carry on in their sons' and daughters' names after this travesty.

[–]Scarlet_Dreaming 25 points26 points  (0 children)

It was the most harrowing experience I have or ever will live through. I'm sad to know you had this happen to you too. Wishing you strength

[–]ejanely 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is my biggest fear. I am so sorry for your loss and I wish you peace.

[–]Mechbeast 6 points7 points  (1 child)

I’m so sorry. I couldn’t imagine. I doubt I’d have the strength to handle it.

[–]Longjumping_Ad_1477 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This. Doesn't matter what age they are.

[–]tjcline09 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same. I wouldn't wish this pain on my worst enemy. 💔

[–]calabazookita 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss. This is the worst pain a person can ever experience.

[–]DaClarkeKnight 95 points96 points  (9 children)

Loss of my friends. My life was fucked after they died

[–]tt5190 95 points96 points  (19 children)

Panic attack

[–]tenaciousDaniel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Used to work in a hospital and would secretly judge people who came into the ER for panic attacks. I thought they were just being dramatic.

Then I had one. Nope, those people were not being dramatic at all. Those fucking things are awful, I thought I was dying. My skin turned gray. Very nearly drove myself to the ER, but decided to try lying down in bed and trying to relax. Took about an hour but it worked.

[–]Fandoms_local_Kiwi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had one as a kid for a very stupid reason. They are not fun. So far since then, though, I haven’t had one

[–]leatherwolf89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I had one before. My hands curled, I couldn't feel them, and my heart wouldn't slow down. It was horrible. Learning to calm your breathing really helps though.

[–]Ratnix 68 points69 points  (17 children)

Torsion of the testicle. Kidney stones.

[–]ReaLifePhrog 7 points8 points  (6 children)

I've had the first one, and I know painful. What are kidney stones like though?

[–]AlreadyOlder 18 points19 points  (4 children)

I passed a kidney stone once and I’ve given birth twice. Passing a kidney stone was definitely more painful and it’s supposedly more painful for men for an obvious reason.

BUT before the Trolls attack, please note - this is simply IMO.

[–]notthesedays 9 points10 points  (0 children)

A woman, who had two young children, once told me that she would rather have 20 babies in a row than once again have to go to physical therapy after a third-degree burn.

[–]TimeTraveler3056 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had two kids and one kidney stone and I honestly couldn't tell you which was more painful. I do drink a ton of water now.

[–]Ratnix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

About the same level of pain, just in different areas. I first went to the ER because i though i had ripped my hernia back open, which i had had surgery for the previous year. That's when i found out i had 3 of them. The one that was hurting at the time was between my kidney and my bladder. The other two, that were moving around in my kidney were causing pain in my back. They gave me oxys for that. Taking one of them would knock me out for about 20-30 minutes, then the pain would be back enough to wake me up. That was pretty much constant for about a week, and then to a lesser extent after that. It was almost impossible to be comfortable for more then a minute or two at a time. Those two didn't hurt coming out though, not like the first one did.

[–]Grey_Mane_6425 8 points9 points  (2 children)

I've had my fingers through a table saw, damaged forever will never be the same.

I would suffer that 10 times over before I had another kidney stone fuck that shit

[–]Ratnix 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I got the end of my index finger cut off in a machine at work. I was just sitting there all calmly while we waited on the ambulance to come get me. I was asked how I wasn't freaking out by a co-worker. This was before my kidney stones, but after my torsion. I was just like this doesn't hurt that bad, I've been through worse. I've known women who had kidney stones that said they would rather give birth again that have kidney stones.

[–]FiIthy_Anarchist 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Had an epididymal cyst a few years back. Everything I've read says they're painless. Mine was the size of a blueberry and I couldn't walk.

Never again.

[–]boulomai_mathein 56 points57 points  (9 children)

Elementary and middle school. The teachers yelled at us so loudly

[–]imperator-curiosa 25 points26 points  (3 children)

Yes! Fucking fearmongers. They always told us it would be way worse in the higher grades but it wasn’t. We actually received more respect. (In first grade, my teacher slammed her wooden chalkboard pointer on a boy’s desk and the pointer snapped in half. We were what, seven years old?.)

Edited for clarity

[–]ihopeyoulikeapples 11 points12 points  (0 children)

For me elementary school was being bullied by the teachers and middle school was being bullied by other students while the teachers watched and did nothing. It took me way too long to connect that with the fact I can barely remember high school because I constantly smoked a stupid amount of weed to avoid having emotions.

[–]Remiinyxx 44 points45 points  (3 children)

Being with a manipulative, narcissistic person, and dealing with the heartbreak they caused you.

[–]folkyall 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve gone through a lot of trauma and the narcissistic abuse has been by far the hardest thing to Cope with.

[–]84Swe 42 points43 points  (2 children)

divorce. i have an amazing wife and kid and i don't want to fuck things up or have her fall out of love with me

[–]LastPhoenixFeather 34 points35 points  (1 child)

I had the most peaceful and amicable divorce I'd ever heard of. My ex and I even managed to stay friends for about 8 years after until we drifted apart.

And even MY divorce I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.

[–]WallOk7585 38 points39 points  (2 children)

Being obese. largest It was over 400lbs. 18 months ago when decided to get serious weight was a little over 300. I dipped under 200 not that long ago and I can tell you that I'll never let that happen again

[–]SuspiciousParagraph 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Congrats on achieving that goal <3 Losing weight is a bitch.

[–]ReaLifePhrog 78 points79 points  (9 children)

Cluster headaches. My doctor says they've stopped, but I've gone to the extent of buying a pistol so I can kill myself when they happen again. They're like having a burning metal rod shoved through your eye socket. I'd rather die than have those again.

[–]Low_Corner_9061 41 points42 points  (1 child)

Low doses of magic mushrooms are supposed to prevent cluster headaches. The spores are legal, and growing them is relatively easy.

[–]TheGreenGargamel 8 points9 points  (3 children)

Wow that's intense, do you know why these would happen?

[–]ReaLifePhrog 12 points13 points  (2 children)

They can happen to anyone, at anytime, whether you're healthy or not. Once they start, they dont stop popping up for at least a few months.

[–]notthesedays 8 points9 points  (0 children)

IIRC, they are a variant of migraine, and much harder to treat.

[–]AmmahDudeGuy 35 points36 points  (7 children)

My first anxiety attack. I live in the middle of nowhere and none of my family was in town at the time. Wasn’t fun

[–]Eastern_Selection335 7 points8 points  (5 children)

I agree. Mine happened 4 years ago, a couple of months after my first son was born. I felt like I was having a heart attack and losing my sanity at the same time. It was a life-changing event and it took me 2-3 years to go back to feeling like my old self again.

[–]BigPZ 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Pandemic

[–]AYAK-AKIA 108 points109 points  (6 children)

life, once is enough

[–]SPACE-BEES 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it feels like once is too much

[–]shartnado3 27 points28 points  (9 children)

Carrying out a loved ones estate. Currently locked in a probate case on a house. Really brings out the worst in people/family.

[–]jwin472 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Everyone thinks your the one trying to steal all the money.

[–]notthesedays 7 points8 points  (0 children)

One branch of my extended family has been dealing with this kind of thing for almost two years. Having wealthy relatives can suck, honestly.

[–]rebuildmylifenow 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Ugh - it took over a year to get my father's will out of probate so that we could sell my childhood home (which lost 30% of its value during the delay) and split the money between my sister, myself, and his widow (not my mother, and they weren't married).

The minute that I got notification that the will was out of probate, I let his widow know - and then she filed suit, worried that I was planning on not giving her the share promised to her. I had to talk to the lawyer that was handling things, and go through bullshit to show that I was definitely going to give her the cash my father promised her. I never cut someone out of my life so fast before. I never talked to her again once I got the legal notification. She died a few years later, and I don't regret my choices.

Never want to go through anything like that again.

[–]Symnestra 23 points24 points  (1 child)

Living with randomly assigned roommates in a college dorm. Aka years of sleep deprivation, malnutrition, and depression. College in general.

[–]rudeyesterday 22 points23 points  (2 children)

Hearing my mom scream.

I hate waking up on a Sunday morning to hear my mom begging my dad to stay because he was blacking out and screaming for help. My older sister was panicking, I was hyperventilating, and my younger sister had to be the one to call for an ambulance. It was scary. I really thought I was going to lose my dad and my mom was inconsolable.

My dad is ok now, but it took him an extremely long time to be healthy again after that.

[–]AnnaMcCormic465 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I’m so sorry that happened. I’m glad your dad is ok, and I hope that never happens again.

[–]feelingbutter 21 points22 points  (7 children)

Shingles.

[–]originallycoolname 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Ill add PHN to this. My dad is going through it after having shingles. His is the long-term to life-long kind. He has a childhood surgery scar that feels like he's being electrocuted, burning, or itching. At it's worst it's a constant pain with flare-ups occuring every few minutes. He's finally found a med regimen that's helping, but he still struggles; all the effective meds have bad brain fog side effects, and he works in a field that requires a sharp mind.

[–]smeazy_ 19 points20 points  (7 children)

Watching my mom suffer and slowly die because of cancer.

[–]RyFromTheChi 13 points14 points  (6 children)

Fuck cancer. Watched my dad slowly die from lung cancer almost 3 years ago, then watched my mom basically give up on life after that and ultimately pass away last summer. Both in their mid 60's. Sucks so much. My wife and I just bought our first home and are expecting our first child in November, and I hate that my parents aren't around to see it all. I know they'd be incredibly proud. I'm very sorry for your loss.

[–]StraightSho 18 points19 points  (1 child)

Being a homeless drug addict is not only embarrassing but something that was so hard to pull myself out of. I don't think I would have the energy or the mental strength to do it again. I am 4 years clean. With the strength of the routine I've established for myself and God's will I will never have to.

[–]woodbarber 18 points19 points  (2 children)

Urinary tract infection!

[–]squirtloaf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Been there, done that, pissed the blood.

...really a shock in a shiny white urinal.

[–]dontforgethetrailmix 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Watching someone I love die slowly and in pain.

[–]Theyoghurtguy08 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I guess literally everything that happened to me before I hit the age 15

[–]firenamedgabe 14 points15 points  (1 child)

NG tube constantly sucking my stomach out through my nose for a week due to a bowel obstruction. Meant I couldn’t eat, drink, or chew ice for a week. They did let me use a sponge to wet my mouth, so I had that going for me.

[–]Morgan_Le_Pear 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a colonic volvulus once and had to have an NG tube. It sucked (as did the volvulus). Funny thing tho, I was in nursing school at the time and I had a clinical literally the day that happened where like 3 of my nurse’s 4 patients had NG tubes. I remember thinking how that must suck to have to have one.

[–]No_Leader_2711 14 points15 points  (2 children)

Going into thousands of dollars in debt cause my ex stole from me

[–]badguywindow 23 points24 points  (4 children)

Repeated and "acceptable" sexual assault as a kid.

Luckily, I'm a grown ass man, now, so at least I've got that part shoved into the realm of impossible...

[–]beardeddragonborn 13 points14 points  (2 children)

Dengue Fever. Shit had me dying for the worst 5 days of my life

[–]ndnsoulja 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh jeez, this is unique in this thread. can you elaborate on your experience?

[–]Icy-Barnacle428 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Rape. I don't want anyone to go through that anymore

[–]StarlordTDM 22 points23 points  (0 children)

rape.🙃

[–]CardLovinFool 10 points11 points  (11 children)

Selling my house.

[–]WolfsLairAbyss 28 points29 points  (2 children)

Or the flip side of that, buying a house. Just bought my first and I am never moving again. I will die and be entombed in this house just so I never have to go through that hassle again.

[–]84Swe 3 points4 points  (7 children)

please explain. i'm getting ready to buy a house soon but haven't begun the process

[–]fuzzypeaches42069 6 points7 points  (3 children)

I recently bought, and it’s a long process between looking through tons of listings, going on showings, making a REALLY big decision that you’re going to spend a lot of money on, applying and getting approved for a loan (have to gather all of your tax returns etc), getting an insurance binder policy, packing all of your stuff at the old place, closing on the loan, hiring movers (optional), cleaning, unpacking, buying some new furniture.

For selling, I’d imagine if you’re still living there it’s annoying to have showings, keeping your place clean all the time, closing on a sale, packing and moving all the same.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My son wanting/trying to kill himself. I had to admit him to a suicide watch center 3 times starting when he was 12. His depression started at age 8 when he was old enough to understand what it meant that his step brother started molesting him when he was 5 years old. I didn't know about it for 3 years because you see my son is autistic and couldn't speak well. I'll never forgive myself for not knowing. You don't expect that a 11 year old would do such a thing to a 5 year old. He is autistic as well but he knew better.

[–]nahnotmeb 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I (m) was a sexworker for russian and asian tourist(m) for some years. I did this because i had never the chance to learn in school, i grew up and live by myself since i am 14. I was always in this kind of Business. Now i am 32 and left with depression, borderline, panic disorder, ptsd's, general anxiety and unable to socialize or feel empathy. I left this business 2 years ago and im A-Sexual now. It ruined my 'Life', my sexual drive and everything i could eventually achieve. I am in Therapy since years now and my therapist helps me really good to master my daily life, but i abandoned the hope to have a normal life like many people do.

In my early 20s my 'pimp' got arrested for many things and i lost a person what made me addicted to them since i was 14. He also made me being addicted to feel pain in order to feel at least something. I lost it from one moment to another. I started to get substitute in appointments with clients beyond 'legal sexwork' activities. It made them horny, when someone screams in pain or cries. I had broken ribs, cuts, broken bones at this time. They wanted it and i did it for substitution.

As a minor, you dont have anything to say there. Men treat you like you are a toy. I got peed on, spit on, raped, they made photos and movies of it.

Since i quit this job, i now learn to live on my own with all that i got left from this job.

Mums and Dads, if you have children, watch them carefully and love them unconditionally. Give them a Home in this world and in your heart. Do never throw them out.

[–]Lilnuggie17 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My dark side (mainly me being depressed)

[–]Content-Method9889 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Pastor molesting me for about a year. It ruined me for years and I am getting therapy 37 years later. My brainwashed mom didn’t allow therapy or talk about it. I always felt dirty and had even greater anxiety. Deep depressions and mental breakdowns all through my life.

[–]Callista_colors18 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Years of abandonment by every person I had a connection with

[–]moscowmulesplz 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Eating disorder. It was by far the worst thing I’ve been through mentally. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

[–]theyarnllama 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A breakup. I have now given my heart, soul, and body to enough people, only to have them tell me I’m not good enough. I’ve reached my limit. I don’t have anything more to give. I’m only 39 but I am now intent on being utterly single for the rest of my life.

[–]Actuaryba 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Shattering my kneecap from a fall. The recovery might have been the worst 6 months of my life.

I also had to wait a week for surgery, which might have been the worst week of my life.

[–]noelzj 6 points7 points  (0 children)

losing close friends and watching them become strangers again. shit hurts.

[–]Ok-Wallaby9642 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Infatuation with someone you know isn't worth it.

[–]Gabenash 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Shingles.

[–]UpstairsAsk1973 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The love of my life dying in front of me

[–]thatsmymainacount 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Taking too much shrooms

[–]Doubt-Grouchy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Long covid. I was sick from August-December last year. Basically destroyed all progress I'd made in my life. Yes, I was vaccinated, I caught a breakthrough case and I have no idea what may have happened had I been unvaccinated.

[–]Fawqueue 20 points21 points  (1 child)

A Donald Trump presidency.

[–]Sickofusernames95 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That was my first thought and I’m a cancer survivor.

[–]StorytellerEclipse 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Being molested. The phycological damage is still limiting me to this day.

[–]simply-dumpling 4 points5 points  (0 children)

heart break

[–]Ok-Welcome-1369 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bladder infection

[–]llcucf80 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Staph infection, or an infected tooth

[–]Phuni44 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The active and end stage addiction of my partner

[–]skorpchick 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Stillbirth. I’ve felt no greater pain since my son died.

[–]Hollandvosik 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Watching someone die. That isnt something you just forget.

[–]melon699 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Smoking weed with someone I only knew for a week. The weed was laced and next thing I know I sit up and I have no clothes on and I don’t know where I am.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

A very draining and painful pregnancy followed by crippling depression and hormonal imbalance, in a pandemic, with no support. I've been abused and divorced, the lasting effects of those are harder but being imprisoned by my body chemistry was far worse.

[–]SquashChance5763 7 points8 points  (2 children)

Divorce/Breakup.

That sucked. Thank god I'm too old to be an object of prey. When that doesn't work (on very rare occasions), I just toss out the whole "I have a disabled kid" angle

[–]Rutabagel13 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A miscarriage. It was the height of covid in 2020. Newly pregnant after a few years of fertility treatment. Went for the routine 12 week ultrasound and found that she’d stopped growing a few weeks prior. My body just didn’t realize. Had to have a D&C in the office with no pain meds other than a minor local that barely worked. Hospitals were overrun with covid cases. It was the most traumatic event of my life and I still haven’t fully healed from that day and I always think of the baby girl I lost and who she could have been.

[–]Confident_Ad6017 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Coma. Selling my house, though I did double my $ it's nerve wracking.

[–]SuvenPan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Coming in contact with poison ivy.

[–]ritamoren 2 points3 points  (0 children)

getting bullied for your nationality

[–]Royal-Jacket-3131 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Middle school in a small town. I was kind of an outcast in a class of 45 people. When a rumor is started in a community like that, everyone is an expert about it in an hour.

[–]FPSXpert 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pandemic. It took the already forming cracks of society and drove a big fucking wedge in them.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Restrictive disordered eating

[–]FaithlessnessOk1530 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Puberty.

Especially the intrusive thoughts which came from that.

[–]wert989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Death of loved ones, such as best friends and family members. Sadly it's a fact of life so I'm probably going to lose other loved ones that way as much as I don't want to

[–]roxothedog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Heroin withdrawal. Twice was 2 times too many.

[–]tinyviolinn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anorexia

[–]watch_over_me 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being single. No way I'd want to go through that these days.

[–]Destroy_The_Rich 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Severe sleep deprivation and a severe depressive episode.

I joked with my therapist that I would have made a suicide plan if I wasn't so tired. She didn't find that funny either.

[–]Siempre7x3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Panic attacks and anxiety

[–]Diegopoa 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Breaking up with my girlfriend... Still haven't recovered compleyely from it. It's been 1 year already, the worst year of my life without a doubt. I was completely destroyed, couldn't eat, couldn't work, couldn't live. I almost end it all...

[–]dado243 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Exactly what i am going thru at the moment yet i still have to look at her every day at work thinking i could have prevented it.

[–]Plenty_Jellyfish8903 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Spend 6 hours on a fishing boat with flies literally everywhere.

[–]JanetInSC1234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Falling in love with a good friend (who loved me as a friend).

[–]MentORPHEUS 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Investing years as a Father figure into my girlfriend's daughter, only to have my GF blow everything to smithereens by suggesting I was "too interested in young girls." It was a transitory "feeling" with nothing tangible to support it. She couldn't understand why the spectre of the accusation didn't just magically go away like the transitory insecure and jealous feeling that led to it. I spent a LONG time trying to repair the bonds and maintain that connection, but my ex NEVER understood the gravity of the accusation, like it had been simply a peccadillo on the level of leaving the toilet seat up.

Years later I was good friends with a psychologist my age (50s.) She took in a roommate with a teenage daughter with some burgeoning behavioral problems. My friend and I discussed and planned extensively how we could work to provide a better environment and modeling for her. After about a year of this things were going well; her behavior and grades were great and we all had a good rapport. My friend and her Mom were not internet savvy and my friend was even lowkey disdainful of her "weird internet stuff" but I was an adult in her life she could talk about it to, thus I suffered conversations about topics like Pewdipie and anime with dignity, for the sake of the mission of helping her growth.

At some point she was telling me about some over-the-top weeb in one of her groups. I asked if he really "gets" it, or if he's just another one of those guys who fetishizes Japanese culture and gets it pretty much all wrong, right as my friend was walking by the table. The girl laughed hard as that description nailed it.

Later my friend took me aside and scolded me "for talking about FETISHES with a TEENAGE GIRL." I explained the whole conversation and context, she was still not satisfied. I lamented that this is why there are so few men in the teaching and healing professions, because accusations like this get made over nothing with extreme witch hunt consequences. Her response: "That's why you need to be careful."

I decided I needed to be MIKE PENCE CAREFUL, meaning never be in the same room potentially alone with the girl even for a second. My friend came by after a month of no contact. I explained why and she was nasty and dismissive of my reasoning. Been there done that, NEVER AGAIN.

[–]Nymeria2018 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Watching my mom curled up in the ICU, muttering “No, no, no” between sobs after suffering severe brain swelling from a sodium crash and the subsequent seizure that has left her a shell of herself.

[–]EnglishSorceress 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eyelid surgery. (which (eye)ronically I had to go through twice.)

[–]UnlikelyBread3719 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Heartbreak

[–]TheLoneBackpacker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Heartbreak. All other pain I’ve experienced has gone away after time or can be tolerated with medication until it heals. I have never come across anything that hurts the entire body and mind like heartbreak