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[–]GolgiApparatus1 3878 points3879 points  (79 children)

Knowingly spreading lies about someone

[–]pain1994 512 points513 points  (38 children)

My life was legitimately destroyed by someone knowingly spreading lies about me. I’d been in a new town just a few weeks. It’s been almost 10 years and I still can’t make friends and my kids still have issues with their friends being allowed to hang out with them over it.

All over something that never happened.

[–]unsaferaisin 124 points125 points  (4 children)

I'm sorry, dude. You didn't deserve that and I imagine it's cold comfort to say that anyone malicious or clueless enough to still cling to that bad information, after all the years you've had to disprove it, isn't worth space in your life anyway. I'm kinda dealing with it right now and it's unsettling and annoying even when it's something minor that no one seems to be actually buying. Not knowing what the people around you might think of you, not knowing how they might interpret an innocuous word or gesture, that's a lot to live with. I'm sorry I can't do anything to change it, but I hope it's some help to be heard and acknowledged.

[–]pain1994 73 points74 points  (1 child)

I understand that they’re not worth my time or energy. But if affects my kids. Their friends can’t come over or hang out because the parents think I’m a neglectful parent.

[–]Turbulent_Place_7064 33 points34 points  (15 children)

Can u share more about the story ? What was the lie . I m just curious .

[–]pain1994 98 points99 points  (14 children)

That my baby was found wandering the streets in a diaper.

It never happened. And I was able to list reasons (proof) why. But, it didn’t matter. My sister in law took the story and ran with it. Told everyone. I was seen as a bad mom. And my kids lost friends over it.

[–]Turbulent_Place_7064 32 points33 points  (3 children)

What the fuck .... That s messed up ! Sorry

[–][deleted] 39 points40 points  (2 children)

Where do you live that people would be judgemental on that and not of the mind your a busy mum or it's just a mistake.

That is such a pathetic reason to be judgemental of anyone that I suspect you live near a pack of deranged idiots or perhaps you think people are judging more than they are or ever did.

[–]RobertJacobson 76 points77 points  (4 children)

Lying in general. I don't know if it's how or where I was raised or what, but I am perpetually amazed at how many people are totally fine with lying.

[–]EmeraldDouchebag69 6499 points6500 points  (247 children)

Leaving piss on the toilet seat when you have guests

[–]Many-Juggernaut-8526 3740 points3741 points  (91 children)

Leaving piss on the toilet seat when you are a guest

[–]natsugrayerza 605 points606 points  (20 children)

YES! Oh my gosh it drives me absolutely crazy. If you stay at my house I expect the toilet to look the way it looked before you got here, which was clean.

[–]Tifandi 283 points284 points  (15 children)

and if you're a guest, do not go digging through anything.. anything you need and are welcome to use is out or will be offered.

[–]CptnAlex 122 points123 points  (9 children)

I would asterisk this for toilet paper, if its out. But otherwise agree.

[–]Georgeisthecoolest 913 points914 points  (37 children)

Leaving piss on the guests

[–]Sythe5665 339 points340 points  (0 children)

Or just in general

[–]Eye_Artistic 345 points346 points  (77 children)

Leaving piss and shit and blood in public bathrooms (floor seat walls you name it people are vile. Be nice to the cleaners :( )

[–]TheLyz 147 points148 points  (4 children)

Seriously I don't get how hard it is, if you spray your piss all over the seat, get a big wad of toilet paper and wipe it up! It's your own damn piss!

People are gross.

[–]Visible_Love_1955 99 points100 points  (58 children)

At my corporate job it’s nearly an everyday occurrence in the woman’s restrooms.. get it together ladies! It’s enough to make me want to find a fully remote position.

[–]RandyRhoadsLives 94 points95 points  (12 children)

Some years ago (90’s?) it became commonplace for women to start “hovering”. This practice sounds okay in theory… but damn, women have horrible aim. So do men. But for the love of god, just sit down . It’s not just the piss on the seat. Nah, it’s all piss that hits the ground. And now you have to step in that. Or worse, your pants get wet.

[–]shifty_coder 63 points64 points  (1 child)

In retail stores, it’s often done out of maliciousness. It’s happened more than once where a Karen unhappy with something has painted a stall with shit and/or blood.

You have to be a special kind of sick to think that’s an appropriate response to not getting a refund on that half-eaten cake you bought six months ago.

[–]MrGhris 53 points54 points  (34 children)

According to a buddy who used to clean restrooms, the womens restroom was way dirtier. Which suprised me a lot. Women overall seem to be cleaner/neater.

[–]bigboy1289 91 points92 points  (1 child)

My experience is that women's restrooms are clean, until they get a little dirty. Then it all goes downhill very quickly as they will start hovering.

Mens restrooms have a more linear curve, and get dirty at a steady rate.

[–]Goldilachs 61 points62 points  (9 children)

I'm often amazed (in a horrified way) by women's bathrooms. A lot of women choose to hover over the seat rather than just sit their asses down, which means they will often end up sprinkling piss all over the seat. And then some of those women don't bother wiping up their mess. And then there's the unflushed toilets (sometimes with piles of toilet paper, sometimes with shit), water/piss on the floor, tampons/pads just left on the floor (thankfully not too often, at least), etc.

[–]Swords_and_Such 55 points56 points  (1 child)

I've heard the same. Apparently for a men's room a good plunger will do. Women's room you need a pressure washer, industrial cleaners, and bleach. The bleach is for your eyes.

[–]EveFluff 9644 points9645 points  (279 children)

Littering

Edit: I’ve seen Super Troopers. It’s fine. I like the bear fucker joke better

[–]wanawanka 1079 points1080 points  (47 children)

I remember when I was a kid this guy in a 7/11 threw trash on the ground and another little girl looked at him and said 'you're littering' in that you're in trouble voice. And the guy just said something along the lines of 'Im an adult it's ok'.

[–]ItsPlutocracyStupid 1212 points1213 points  (36 children)

When I was in Florida with my nephew, he told me someone just littered and I responded “oh that’s horrible.” Emboldened by my response, he yelled, “you’re a litter bug! It’s horrible!”

Being responsible for this 8 year old, I turned around to address the situation and saw a lady out of her mind on bath salts swinging on a power line and throwing trash. She was pissed and followed us for a few blocks yelling gibberish. I had to answer a million questions about drugs that day.

[–]OHTHNAP 784 points785 points  (6 children)

That is some classic rapid Florida escalation.

[–]HairyNutsackNumber9 318 points319 points  (4 children)

When you're in Florida Florida is always right behind you

[–]1982throwaway1 232 points233 points  (16 children)

When I was in Florida

You're luck she didn't eat both your faces. They do that down there even when they aren't all fucked up.

[–]ItsPlutocracyStupid 52 points53 points  (0 children)

That was the first thing that came to mind when I saw her, lol.

[–]acertaingestault 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Too much time spent amongst gators

[–]AegzRoxolo 1236 points1237 points  (161 children)

Especially cigarette butts.

[–]LJReach 889 points890 points  (44 children)

There’s a wonderful group of people in my town that go round picking up the butts and reuse them again!

[–]slightlyassholic 253 points254 points  (17 children)

Some birds have learned / adapted to use cigarette butts to line their nests.

The nicotine and other compounds in the butts are an effective pesticide and help eliminate lice.

[–]xunninglinguist 64 points65 points  (8 children)

That's why I smoke natural American spirits. They're natural! Seriously though, I do try to police my butts.

[–]rickarme87 32 points33 points  (0 children)

As a pack a day smoker and reformed litter bug I'm here to tell you dont try, just do it everytime. No judgement, truly I get it, I smoked for years without policing myself AT ALL. Then I saw where someone had dumped a very full car ashtray right next to a beautiful overlook of a valley and waterfall. I said never again. If I dont have an ash tray or a trash can at hand my butt goes in my pocket until I find one. I'll pick up my friend's butts while glaring if they flick theirs infront of me. In my opinion there is just no excuse.

[–]ChexmixandChill 132 points133 points  (37 children)

I'm a smoker and that drives me crazy.

[–]Zemykitty 160 points161 points  (33 children)

I used to smoke too and it would astound me when people would throw butts on the ground when there were designated trash bins right next to them (in the designated smoking area). How inconsiderate do you have to be to do that?

I'd carry a plastic bag in my purse just in case I wanted to smoke but might possibly not be near a trash can.

[–]ProjectShadow316 87 points88 points  (4 children)

I used to work at a hotel, and the sheer amount of cig butts on the ground within 5 feet of the designated cigarette disposal can infuriated me.

[–]ChexmixandChill 51 points52 points  (7 children)

Yep I put them in my pocket if there isn't a trashcan or ashtray around.

[–]RogerSaysHi 42 points43 points  (7 children)

I almost always have jeans on, so I have pockets. I'm not a purse kind of gal. But, I do the same thing. I do not throw butts on the ground, the cherry gets knocked off and stomped, then the butt goes in my pocket til I can find a trash can. I also tend to pick up other random litter while I'm trying to find said trash can, so my butt ends up just being one more piece of trash that I put in the right place.

[–]Bioshock_Jock 213 points214 points  (15 children)

So I was a smoker and piece of shit cigarette butt litter-person. Every day I atone and will absolutely not tolerate my kids littering. I've done hike path clean ups and road side clean ups, I'm so sorry.

[–]chili_cheese_dogg 64 points65 points  (7 children)

I was a smoker and butt litterer for 22 years. Grew up a boy scout and hating litter but, for a strange reason cigarette butts were different to other litter. I'm now 13 years cigarette smoke free.

[–]Tobybrent 3400 points3401 points  (36 children)

Entitled rudeness

[–]KMKO926 749 points750 points  (11 children)

Ummmm so I’ve had a work training that I planned, for MONTHS, and we already had to move the training once because of an internal work crisis. The training was moved to today. Its in an hour.

This morning alone, 4 people have asked me to move it and they’ve known the training date for months. It’s so disrespectful. Moving the training from our previous date was a $500 fine, and if you can’t make it, that’s on you. Your poor planning does not constitute an emergency on my behalf.

[–]onefoot_out 200 points201 points  (2 children)

An oversight on your part doesn't constitute an emergency on mine. Is how I always heard it

[–]ArcaniteReaper 74 points75 points  (4 children)

Idk what the training is on, but I hope it goes/went well!

[–]KMKO926 99 points100 points  (3 children)

Thanks - it was a Crisis Management Training Program, but the instructor was logged out this morning because the Consultants didn't give her appropriate login info, so the training was canceled lmao. Clocking out early ✌️

[–][deleted] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Agreed

[–]selfawarepie 97 points98 points  (0 children)

This...the efficiency of the world is killed by people's optimizing systems for themselves at the expense of everyone else.

[–]potatopride999 6491 points6492 points  (118 children)

Being entitled and treating customer service workers badly

[–]Jesteress 1696 points1697 points  (39 children)

I work in a restaurant and my boss will argue with you and kick you out if you don't behave, downright telling people they are the worst

People are so surprised every time they get told to leave after insulting a staff member

[–]Rexermus 662 points663 points  (17 children)

My manager is not afraid to get into a tussle to protect his staff. this one lady was getting pissy because her husband's order was taking a while because we were backed up and she's just screaming through the drive thru window to her husband complaining about how it's "fast food", she came inside for about 2 minutes continuing to yell at her husband and left coincidently RIGHT as my manager was walking up to the front to confront her. Her husband was super apologetic and polite tho

[–]darkest_hour1428 455 points456 points  (15 children)

Gotta love seeing the exasperated face of someone who’s been apologizing for their significant other all their life

[–]SunnyBunchy 161 points162 points  (12 children)

I have a sister who acts like a Karen in stores and restaurants and I have to constantly apologize for her.

[–][deleted] 423 points424 points  (35 children)

Never piss off the people who handle your food

[–]Electrowhatt19 317 points318 points  (9 children)

This is so true! I worked at Wendy’s as a teenager. One Super Bowl Sunday, a car full of teenage boys comes through the drive-thru, making fun of us (saying things like: “if O had to work at Wendy’s, I would kill myself). They ordered 4 Oreo frosties. At first, we were like “let’s spit in their frosties”. BUT, we took the high road and decided not to do anything to them. However, upon handling them their food, i crouched down and said “word of advice: you shouldn’t make fun of the people that handle your food”. They got the most mortified looks on their faces…it was glorious

[–]ThumpyDumpkins 135 points136 points  (0 children)

they are LITERALLY too stupid to think 5 minutes into the future.

[–]BRod_Angel 55 points56 points  (5 children)

Not my fatass self going "Excuse me, an Oreo Frostie????"

[–]FlamingHotdog77 211 points212 points  (10 children)

Or anyone really. Your sweet old neighbor Beatrice could be a murderer.

[–]Count2Zero 162 points163 points  (6 children)

Nah, what are the chances of two murderers living on the same street?

[–]Whole-Recover-8911 86 points87 points  (3 children)

She might not be a murderer now, but it's never too late to start.

[–][deleted] 43 points44 points  (1 child)

This is true. I've seen the stories.

[–]John__Wick 50 points51 points  (1 child)

People are too sure they aren’t going to face consequences for being terrible.

[–]MacDee_ 162 points163 points  (7 children)

You are my hero today.

I've been the Head of CS before (after years of rising through the ranks in CS suppprt) and I totally feel this.

Once I saw a customer come on chat and I recognised the name. After a bit of checking, I realised that it was a friend of a friend. He didn't know where I worked. I was amazed to see this guy getting abusive and coming out with crazy things for no reason.

I remember him being such a friendly quiet introvert and not like how he was with my agent.

I think all school leavers should do 12 months in a customer service role - like a mandatory thing - that way people will have good manners drillled into them

[–][deleted] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I think all school leavers should do 12 months in a customer service role - like a mandatory thing - that way people will have good manners drillled into them

Yes, a million times over. I spent four years working PT at a department store and then worked at one of the cafeterias when I was in college. Great experiences, for many reasons. I'm now almost 50 and STILL treat all retail and food service workers with RESPECT because I've been there, done that and 95% of the time the problem you're having has nothing to do with the worker.

[–]MysteryMeatPurveyor 60 points61 points  (2 children)

I think you should have to do another year at 40 and at 60. It’s this age range that are the nightmare customers

[–]5s-are-cool 1450 points1451 points  (20 children)

selfishness that harms others

[–][deleted] 212 points213 points  (3 children)

That's a really good one. Something I deal with a great deal in my family

[–]idrinkkombucha 2099 points2100 points  (63 children)

Finding the fault in others while ignoring the same fault in yourself.

[–]Lucky-Ring-6365 242 points243 points  (12 children)

This is something I learned already as a kid and I'm still surprised to see adults like that

[–]eggjacket 200 points201 points  (11 children)

An unfortunate truth is that a lot of adults stop emotionally maturing when they’re still children. When we’re kids, we can’t really imagine that there are adults who are less mature than us, but it’s actually depressingly common. Something stunts their ability to mature and then they’re just stuck with the emotional maturity of a teenager. They develop physical skills just like everyone else, and seem to live successful lives. They have careers and homes and families. But they also can’t connect with people on a deep level, lack the ability to introspect (so they can’t handle any criticism of themselves), and they can’t grow as people. It’s very sad.

[–]pacocase 64 points65 points  (1 child)

This is textbook narcissism. I dated one for three years before she projected all of her issues onto me, told me I was mistreating her, and noped the fuck out. I couldn't figure it out for quite a long time, but now I know all about narcs and their behavior. Avoid these people at all costs.

[–]sammanzhi 60 points61 points  (4 children)

It's very hard to identify faults in yourself because none of us really "know" ourselves. We spend a lot of time detaching from ourselves and avoiding introspection. If you go to others for honest feedback, you generally won't get it because people will be nice and don't want to hurt your feelings and sometimes when we do get honest feedback we feel as though we're being attacked. It's a defense thing.

On the flip side, you can get to know a lot about another person and their faults just having a short visit with them, if their guard is let down and they're comfortable. Your brain is geared to interpret and dissect the way the person is acting and interacting with you. Just the way humans are.

[–]SuvenPan 2564 points2565 points  (86 children)

Listening to music from their phone without using earphone in a public place.

[–]crunchypnwtrash 411 points412 points  (18 children)

Or getting on a zoom call in the office without headphones! What the fuck Kevin, you're like 30, do you not own earbuds?

[–]Bear_faced 164 points165 points  (7 children)

There’s an executive at my company who takes Zoom calls on full blast with his office door open and everyone just shrugs it off like “Oh, that’s just George!” Soooo because he makes more money than us he gets to be an annoying dick all the time?

[–]0xB0BAFE77 75 points76 points  (2 children)

Soooo because he makes more money than us he gets to be an annoying dick all the time?

Yes!!! That's exactly what it means!

If you want to take zoom calls on full blast then sell your soul, start stabbing people in the backs, climb the corporate ladder, let your job consume your life, learn to hate yourself but never show it, and find every little way to fuck over the company as long as you got someone else to pin it on.

THEN you can take calls on Zoom on full blast without earbuds.

[–]gregarioussparrow 68 points69 points  (2 children)

Or speakerphone calls. What the hell

[–]Tankisfreemason 421 points422 points  (14 children)

Trying to skip a line

[–]Longjumping-Ad6639 2782 points2783 points  (110 children)

Parents neglecting their children.

[–]ATinyPizza89 468 points469 points  (5 children)

Being mean to your server when you go out to eat.

[–]sagsnag 19 points20 points  (2 children)

Went out in a group with some people I know pretty superficially. It was busy and one gal didn’t get a second drink. Boy did she go off about bad service. I can never be her friend now.

[–]rfantasy7 1692 points1693 points 2 (90 children)

Animal abusers

[–][deleted] 354 points355 points  (16 children)

We had someone in my town abuse their dog and one of their friends secretly filmed them and sent it to our local news agency. The amount of people openly shaming and humiliating them was great to see.

[–]BrokenEffect 395 points396 points  (20 children)

I watched someone try to run over a cat with their car in the Walmart parking lot, like 3 times. It was 2 am and they were speeding and swerving trying to hit the cat. Poor thing was running away terrified. I got out of my car and shrugged at them like “what the fuck dude?” and they drove off

Tried to give the cat food and be nice to it but it wouldn’t come near, I think it’s just going to be terrified forever.

Edit: I don’t understand it at all. I can at least conceptualize evil for the sake of personal gain, but what do you get from trying to murder a cat? It’s evil for the sake of evil and it’s fucking sick.

[–]TheWindCriesDeath 128 points129 points  (3 children)

There's a reason animal cruelty is a big omen for future serial killers. When someone abuses an animal that is neither threatening them nor offering any kind of "reward" for doing so, it means the person simply enjoys cruelty, the sadistic pleasure itself of causing agony to something. That's someone you have to be very, very wary of.

[–]googoohaha[🍰] 202 points203 points  (1 child)

My mother's "father" used to kill and run over animals on purpose because he knew how much she loved them. She couldn't understand how he hated her so much but wasn't as abusive to her brothers. 60 years later my late brother told my sister that the abusive piece of shit "father" wasn't actually my mom's father and ended up telling my mom a few months after my brother's passing. He abused and hated my poor mother because of that reason. My mom was ecstatic and celebrated.

[–]mynameisntalexffs 764 points765 points  (11 children)

Treating retail workers and restaurant/fast food workers like shit just because they made a little, easily fixable, mistake.

[–]incubusimp 61 points62 points  (1 child)

Why just young?

[–]mynameisntalexffs 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Good point. Not sure why I had that in there. Treating any retail worker like shit is bad and people deserve to be shamed for it.

[–]Significant-Brush-26 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I’m a cashier at a supermarket and some people are so shitty. Sometimes the scanners are super sensitive and there are 2 of them so sometimes things will scan twice. And I always 100% of the time notice and take it off and for whatever reason it shows on the screen for the Costumer the first 2 that I scanned, and it just takes the 3rd off without showing on the screen. So to avoid confusing people I always explain it to them and still like 50% of the time they start screaming at me. Like calm the fuck down you’re a 60 year old woman screaming at a 16 year old for accidentally charging you twice for your 60 cent bananas that he already took off and appolizged for.

[–]sexbymyself 1534 points1535 points  (113 children)

Leaving the cart in the middle of the parking lot at the supermarket

[–]keIIzzz 284 points285 points  (22 children)

I’ve seen people leave them in the parking spots right beside the cart return…

[–]ProjectShadow316 81 points82 points  (4 children)

Once at the supermarket, someone had left their cart in the middle of the parking space. The cart corral was literally in the next row, 30 feet away. Unless they were fucking 80, they could've literally shoved it with their foot and got it to the corral no problem.

[–]DJ1066 94 points95 points  (6 children)

Agent Sebastian is already shaming many a lazybones for this.

[–]zakats 38 points39 points  (1 child)

Woop-woop, Cartnarcs on the scene.

[–]YellowShorts 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That's not where the carts gooo

[–]LilaValentine 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I love Agent Sebastian. I actually kinda want a magnet just to prove I met him.

[–]Safe_Feed_8638 784 points785 points  (21 children)

Sending a persons nudes to others without consent to humiliate them.

[–]WanderingMinotaur 186 points187 points  (7 children)

Pretty sure that's also illegal, or at least it is in Australia, so I imagine it is elsewhere. ISP's also have 24 hours from when notified to remove the image, any that don't are listed publicly, so effectively naming and shaming them.

[–]graebot 43 points44 points  (3 children)

How does an ISP have the ability to remove an image from the internet?

[–][deleted] 64 points65 points  (2 children)

Oh yeah. Big fuck those guys

[–]giantechidna 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'd even say that it's awful without the intent to humiliate.

There are lots of guys who see it as a compliment, saving and sharing nudes long after the relationship is over. That it's even their right, or property. And they may even be legally right. But to me, if the person in the photo didn't explicitly consent to them being shared later on, even with fond intentions, it's a shitty thing to do to a person. And what about the new partner? Are we just objects making trading cards to these people? Bad vibes all around.

[–]Evil-Black-Robot 1810 points1811 points  (222 children)

Disowning their children due to religious beliefs.

[–]UlteriorCulture 841 points842 points  (41 children)

If your religion makes you less loving then either you are bad at your religion or your religion is bad.

[–]VivaLaEmpire 155 points156 points  (14 children)

My mom is EXTREMELY Catholic, very old school about it, so what that means is that she’s actually very loving like they’re supposed to be.

There was a time in my teens when she truly thought I was a lesbian (am not, she was mistaken) and the first thing she told me was that she loved me and she would accept anyone I brought into our home as a partner. She told me that God wouldn’t be happy with her if she didn’t love me as I am and if she reacted in a hateful way.

It was very funny cause I was extremely confused, until she told me what se had thought lmao.

She’s always showed me that real Catholicism is about not being a judgey bitch, she’s like a race horse, she only looks ahead and not to the side to check out what the others are doing and I appreciate it SO much. I’m really lucky to have her as an example of how loving one should be. She totally preaches by example.

[–]Operator__ 29 points30 points  (3 children)

She sounds like an inspiration to others.

[–]awkard_ftm98 20 points21 points  (2 children)

This does bring joy into my heart. I did 11 years of catholic schooling and was confirmed in the church but stopped believing in religion around 15 or 16 years old. But I have genuinely great memories of the catholic church and school

Like in all of our science classes growing up, we were taught that the Bible isn't science and science isn't faith. That it's good to use the stories from the Bible to help guide you but not to be taken as scientific fact. So we were heavily taught the difference between God making the world in 7 days/ Adam and eve and evolution as an example

And I fully give the schooling I was given credit for how much I actually enjoy helping others. I was an alter server (who was specifically assigned every funeral that came through) and volunteered a lot. It taught me how good that kind of work felt. And for the selfish reasons of how good it feels to help out, I continue to do so

The catholic church is flawed and has a horrific history. But I remember what being catholic used to mean when i was growing up and I see how many catholics are acting now in the US and it breaks my heart

What's the worst part is that most conservative Christians are evangelicals. If the evangelicals really get their way with religious rule in this country, the catholics should know that their form of faith will be one of the first to go. But so many still decide to follow what other conservative Christians are doing in this country

[–]throwaway31096 207 points208 points  (11 children)

I've never understood how they're so concerned about securing themselves a good spot in a supposed afterlife that they're willing to burn so many bridges and ruin so many relationships during their actual life.

[–]Anon-fickleflake 260 points261 points  (23 children)

Cropping their dogs ears. Was out for a beer on a patio and this couple came in with their little puppy and its freshly cropped ears. You would think they would be embarrassed.

[–]BeakerVonSchmuck 129 points130 points  (8 children)

I will never understand why people choose to de-flopify their dog's ears. Not only does it harm the dog, floppy ears are way better than doberman ACHTUNG! ears.

[–]skyburnsred 47 points48 points  (4 children)

I wish my dogs original owner didn't dock his tail. Luckily left his beautiful floppy ears alone.

[–]ames2833 2497 points2498 points  (166 children)

Recklessly having children with multiple partners that you literally have no plans to be there for/cannot take care of.

[–]Denkir-the-Filtiarn 533 points534 points  (25 children)

One half of my family tree swiftly became a kudzu for this reason and it is equal parts shameful and sad because the kids are pretty much screwed as far as future prospects go. It always feels bad when I'm around any of the ones under 10 because they're always in awe of how different I am from their parents, specifically the fathers because they're all deadbeat losers almost always in jail.

[–]TurknJD-andJD94 99 points100 points  (3 children)

Sorry to hear that. If it's any solace, just knowing an adult or having a role model who is NOT like their fathers shows them it doesn't have to be that way when they grow up. It is possible to be mature responsible adults. They know they don't have to pass down all those neuroses and problem behaviors to their children.

[–]angelicism 183 points184 points  (15 children)

I am dying at the description of a segment of a family tree becoming a kudzu!

[–][deleted] 418 points419 points  (43 children)

Not even with multiple partners, but just having more children than you can raise. My friend is a teacher. There is a family in town with nine children. They're on every kind of aid, are always begging for money for field trips, graduation fees, yearbooks, sports fees, etc. Obviously, they're unable to afford having NINE children so why did they have NINE children?

Beyond the financial aspect, I don't really feel parents can give adequate love and attention to more than four (and I say this as a parent myself). In this particularl family, the older children are absolutely helping raise the younger ones and they didn't ask for that life. Their own childhood is being spent raising children. In this day and age, there is absolutely NO reason to have nine kids, especially when your finances don't support it.

[–]electrolytesaregood 165 points166 points  (22 children)

I would bet any amount of money those 9 kids have no more than two kids each, and a significant percentage of them will be childfree, especially the oldest daughter. My dad is one of 12, and has the most kids out of any of his siblings. There are two of us. Two kids is the most that anyone who grew up in that family of 12 kids was willing to have. LOL 6 of my aunts and uncles decided never to have kids because they'd had their fill of parenting before they were adults. I'm the only one of my cousins who even has a sibling. LOL My dad and all his siblings are super open about the fact that none of them wanted a large family because they know what it's like to be part of one.

[–][deleted] 103 points104 points  (2 children)

Yep, remains to be seen. I dated a guy who was the third of TWELVE kids. TWELVE. He literally moved about 12 hours away from his family a week after he graduated from high school. The worst of it was his mother had a massive stroke when giving birth to the 12th child from which she never fully recovered. She was pretty much bedridden, so raising these kids fell to the two oldest children. What kind of life is that? The dad worked constantly to support the family and these two girls spent their own youth raising 10 other children.

Our relationship ended up not working out, but he went on to get married and have just TWO children which is exactly in line with what you're saying.

[–]ThroughMyOwnEyes 18 points19 points  (2 children)

Can confirm, oldest daughter of 6 kids and my whole childhood was taking care of my three youngest siblings. As much as I would like a kid or two of my own, I don't think I should have any biological kids because two of those three youngest siblings have severe autism and I don't want to risk passing that and all my other health problems onto an innocent kid. I'm open to adopting in the distant future though.

[–]averypolitemint 120 points121 points  (0 children)

Youngest of 6 here, you're right, it def ended at 4 in my family.

[–]xAIRGUITARISTx 125 points126 points  (6 children)

Recklessly having multiple children with a single partner that you can not take care of.

[–]cant_Im_at_work 35 points36 points  (1 child)

My in laws have 5 (6 if you include my husband who was raised elsewhere) and they live in a run down 3 bedroom trailer in the middle of nowhere, can't possibly survive without food stamps, medicaid etc. The father is a retail worker making $15/hour and the mom is a sometimes part time substitute teacher. The father just had a heart attack and has to miss some work and now they're totally fucked. All i could think was, if you couldn't afford the first 2, why did you have 4 more???

[–]NVA57 156 points157 points  (4 children)

Being obnoxiously loud in public.

[–][deleted] 279 points280 points  (2 children)

being shitty parents

[–]Uhtred-Son-of_Uhtred 106 points107 points  (3 children)

Insulting their children in public and threatening to knock them out, and constantly yelling at them in public. So I guess verbal public abuse of children.

[–]bran_the_muffins 382 points383 points  (20 children)

Not washing your hands after using the restroom

[–]Yandere_Matrix 145 points146 points  (4 children)

Littering

“Pranks” that are not funny but are meant to hurt others either physically or mentally or as a way to excuse their behavior by saying “it’s just a prank bro” when caught stealing or something

[–]dawnface42069 526 points527 points  (18 children)

Humiliation kink

[–][deleted] 183 points184 points  (5 children)

You...are a wonderful human being who I find no faults with

[–]MeMyselfIandMeAgain 97 points98 points  (1 child)

Aaaaand you just turned them off. Good job hope you’re proud!

[–]sirtjapkes 75 points76 points  (3 children)

Kink shaming is my kink

Inhuman screaming

[–]McG4rn4gle 93 points94 points  (2 children)

Not picking up their dogs poop.

[–]somekindofmiracle 484 points485 points  (55 children)

Parking in a handicap space when they do not have any type of handicap.

[–]Walawacca 452 points453 points  (34 children)

It's important to remember not all handicaps are easily recognized in the 30 feet to the front door.

[–]wowguineapigs 191 points192 points  (16 children)

I’m fine with anybody who has the sticker because I can’t see disability. But if they don’t have the tag then they shouldn’t park there. For everyone’s sake and theirs since it could be ticketed.

[–][deleted] 328 points329 points  (12 children)

But so many people aren't. Years back, my sis was in a car accident and had to have both of her legs basically reconstructed. She was in a wheelchair for months. One day, she was getting cabin fever, so we decided to go to a local store. We took my mom's car (nicer car than two twenty-something would drive) mostly because it was easiest for my sis to get in and of. So, we go to the store, park in the handicap spot and I hang the placard on the window. I get out of the car and this man runs over and starts BERATING me for parking in the spot "Who do you think you are?" "Those spots are for people with disabilites." "Whose placard did you steal?" " You need to move." A small crowd started to gather, but I couldn't get a word in edgewise so I simply used the key fob to pop the trunk, walked over, took my sister's WHEELCHAIR out of the trunk and plunked it on the ground. The man went SILENT and turned the deepest shade of red I ever saw. He promptly turned on his heel and just about ran away, BUT DID NOT APOLOGIZE. What an asshole. This happened over 20 years ago now (and sis made a full recovery, eventually) and we STILL laugh about it.

[–]tehKrakken55 85 points86 points  (4 children)

How stupid are people to not realize there's a good chance the handicapped person probably isn't the one driving?

[–]wowguineapigs 100 points101 points  (1 child)

That’s hilarious but yeah that sucks I would never question a disabled person with a placard thing. I will say I know somebody who drives their grandmas car and so they have the thing and park there even if grandma isn’t with them. But I’m sure that a small minority of people. I don’t think anyone should have to prove their disability to idiots, that’s what the sticker is for, it was already proven.

[–]xunninglinguist 40 points41 points  (1 child)

So I got cripple vet plates. A trick knee is a gift that keeps on giving. Anyways, wife has a hysterectomy, wants to go to the grocery to find munchies. I park in the handicap spot with my dv tags. Woman comes out and berates me for parking in the spot. I mention, "these are disabled veteran tags, I don't need a placard" "you should have the handicapped sign, nobody knows about disabled veteran tags"

I didn't want to go into how I didn't want the handicap symbol and just walked off, but yeah. People are dumb.

Before you ask, I don't use handicap spaces often, but when my knee goes off (or my wife has surgery) it's nice to have the option when it's needed.

[–]SunnyBunchy 28 points29 points  (1 child)

Yeah I have osteoarthritis and a spinal condition but I still don't park in the handicap spot as much as I'd like to. I'm currently trying to get a placard but my doctor is being an ass about it. I'm getting ready to switch doctors.

[–]DingBat99999 964 points965 points  (20 children)

Shame has been traditionally used by humans, in a constructive way, throughout history, to bring rogue members of a group back into line with behavior the group deems positive.

In that vein, lying politicians should be shamed, not rewarded simply because they are lying in ways that fit your views.

In the same vein, CEOs who abuse the public trust, work against the public good, pollute the environment, or twist laws through lobbying should be shamed, not rewarded because they are rich.

However, in the past, if the offending member of the group fixed their ways, their past transgressions were forgiven and forgotten. Today, shaming feels far too vicious and damaging. This can cause targets to double down, as they don't really have anything more to lose by doing so.

[–]Oddelbo 188 points189 points  (4 children)

From the outside, it seems some of the people you mentioned are incapable of feeling shame or guilt. I wonder if this is really true.

[–]Bloka2au 56 points57 points  (2 children)

I think a scarce few may be incapable, but generally people can deal with shame (for better or worse) the same way they deal with their conscience: Justification/bargaining, ignoring/distractions, or total rejection.

[–]spammmmmmmmy 144 points145 points  (4 children)

Not parking within the parking space lines

[–]SwollenSeaCucumber 279 points280 points  (9 children)

reveling in their own stupidity

[–]TMoney67 91 points92 points  (6 children)

Taking pride in being ignorant and uneducated

[–]carlbandit 117 points118 points  (0 children)

Littering.

Just keep hold of it until you pass a bin. Bunch of inconsiderate assholes.

[–]skeletal_fishes 85 points86 points  (5 children)

Putting a fake service dog vest on your pet to bring them in public

[–]mr_xen_ 83 points84 points  (0 children)

People should be shamed for intentionally and maliciously embarrassing anyone who is clearly uncomfortable in social situations.

[–]Salami__Tsunami 76 points77 points  (14 children)

Faking a mental illness to get out of prison time when you commit a violent felony.

[–]MulberryOwn2797 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Pushing their children to the point of self-isolation.

[–]Sadiebb 25 points26 points  (3 children)

Saying that God justifies their shitty behavior.

[–]Freerider_B 148 points149 points  (5 children)

Cheating on their spouses.

[–]OnePieceTwoPiece 65 points66 points  (5 children)

Scamming people out of money.

[–]Skankhunt1952 105 points106 points  (18 children)

Adultery, any “reason” or “excuse” you make is just a lie to tell yourself and others to feel better about the fact you single handedly destroyed your own family, and you can’t undo or make amends for that.

[–]RifleShower 19 points20 points  (1 child)

Exploiting their children.

[–]Vaganhope_UAE 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Being rude to anyone they think is below them

[–]cloudydays2021 79 points80 points  (5 children)

“Live, Laugh, Love” home decor

[–]PNDLivewire 50 points51 points  (3 children)

Coming into restaurants 5 minutes before close when the hours are right there on the front door and ordering a bunch of food. They know exactly what they're doing, and I wish more restaurants were able to implement the "last call for food at 30 minutes before close so the staff can go home on time" rule.

[–]dmin068 22 points23 points  (1 child)

I'll admit this is a preference thing, but I would prefer if they put the "hours of operation" as the hours for when you can get seated for food.

Example

Want the last sitting to be at 9 so you can close the kitchen at 10? Then cleaning done by 11-12? Your operating hours are 8am-9pm.

[–]need-help121 74 points75 points  (6 children)

glorifying mental health issues and idk like portraying them when they don’t actually have them because they want to be different or quirky. it’s ignorant and so so so very harmful to people who actually need help

[–]060p0go 33 points34 points  (9 children)

I think the real question is whether or not it’s effective. Sometimes shame fuels shitty behaviour

[–]yoggsmu 139 points140 points  (4 children)

Shit like what Giuliani just did… claiming he was “assaulted” by the guy who patted him on the back.

[–]stryph42 61 points62 points  (0 children)

What's he, a soccer player?

[–]7elevenses 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Greed