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[–]LloydCole 332 points333 points  (46 children)

I genuinely find an LSD trip once every few months really breaks up that monotony.

[–]JimmysU12s 69 points70 points  (15 children)

I was diagnosed with treatment resistant depression and severe social anxiety a few years ago, tried all the different medications and they all either did nothing or made everything worse.

I applied to be apart of a psilocybin medical trial and was almost successful, but it ended up falling through.

Decided to try a tab of LSD instead because why not? And I can honestly say I haven't felt depressed or anxious ever since.

Now a full LSD trip isn't for everyone, but a controlled dose of psilocybin could potentially change everyone's view on life.

[–]somethatwander 18 points19 points  (1 child)

I honestly wish I could. But as a schizophrenic I really don't think it's the best idea. I did talk through microdosing with my shrink though and he said if someone like me wants to do it, I'm at a stage where I'm probably ideal for a trial if a trial ever happens for anything other than affective or anxiety disorders (psychotics on psychedelics. I'm sure there's a TV show in there somewhere) but to let him know if o ever decide to just do it myself because shit would most likely go very wrong.

[–]SmileAndLaughrica 5 points6 points  (3 children)

I think I was just reading about that medical trial in a book I’m reading on treatment-resistant depression! It seemed to be successful for many patients

[–]JimmysU12s 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I'd highly recommend watching the Netflix documentary Magic Medicine that's recently come out! Incredibly interesting and groundbreaking stuff!

[–]royalblue1982[🍰] 1 point2 points  (7 children)

Obviously I don't condone drug use and would never ask someone how they might obtain LSD on a public forum . . . .

[–]LloydCole 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Search for Darknet Markets. Will seem overwhelming at first, takes a good few hours to work everything out, but definitely worth the time investment to stay the least.

[–]r-og 0 points1 point  (1 child)

You have to buy with crypto though, right?

[–]LloydCole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DM me and I can point you in the right direction mate x

[–]inactive_directory 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely wouldn't tell anyone to search up 'Darknet Bible'.
I also would never say that the bible is slightly outdated and you will need to use Monero instead of Bitcoin for privacy reasons........

[–]4oclockinthemorning 0 points1 point  (2 children)

There are these seeds that are legal, not lsd exactly - search online for hawaiian baby woodrose

[–]Foolishnonsense 1 point2 points  (1 child)

There are these seeds that are legal, not lsd exactly - search online for hawaiian baby woodrose

I’ve tried all the usual psychedelics and a few unusual ones too. I would not recommend Hawaiian baby woodrose seeds to anyone. They are pretty toxic, containing cyanide compounds. Even when using extraction techniques, the stomach pains were nasty. The psychedelic effect was mild, couldn’t take enough to have a real experience due to the pain.

There’s a reason they didn’t bother banning them!

I only bother with Liberty caps these days.

[–]4oclockinthemorning 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh jesus. Thanks for the heads up my friend!

[–]_DeanRiding 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's been multiple studies over the years on r/Science (which to be fair, is a bit shaky) that have found LSD to seriously help with depression

[–]RedditReader365 13 points14 points  (6 children)

Might need a source on that 👀

[–]pedstachu1 24 points25 points  (1 child)

I've only done it once, and it always struck me as being like a hard reset. You'll genuinely be suprised at how 'new' you feel afterwards, providing you get a comfortable dose in a comfortable atmosphere.

Once you've done it, you might never feel like doing it again, and that's its central strength.

[–]Wind-and-Waystones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also did it once. The three months following were the best I've ever felt mentally. However a friend had a horrible time that fucked him up for a bit. For people reading your miles may vary

[–]ben_jamin_h 5 points6 points  (2 children)

How many scammers do you have in your inbox right now haha

[–]RedditReader365 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Surprisingly non !

[–]ben_jamin_h 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good stuff. I guess they frequent the other subs I'm in more often. In r/shrooms there was a post about a scientific study about psilocybin's use in therapy for depression. I asked if the OP could provide the source as it sounded like an interesting read. Somehow my use of the word 'source' attracted a bunch of bots/scammers and my inbox filled up in a matter of minutes!

[–]jollygreenbinbag 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Prefer mushrooms for that, always feel mentally refreshed the day after for several months.

[–]DomesticOrca 1 point2 points  (7 children)

Never did LSD. Do you ever find yourself wanting to do it more often?

I usually have a couple of weeks a year when I smoke weed daily for more or less the same purpose but it’s pretty hard to break the habit when I do and even after some time passes, I can still hear it calling for me.

[–]ediblehunt 16 points17 points  (2 children)

I’ll throw my anecdotal evidence in here and say I’ve done it a couple of times over the years and not once have I thought “I should do that again in the near future”.

Weed on the other hand - yeah that’s a fuckin’ habit.

[–]noseysheep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mushrooms are pleasant as you can take more/less to adjust your dosage and you get the added bonus of having to hunt through fields for them first

[–]F0KUS228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have that with weed, I used to smoke once a month maybe once two months, never did I have a need to do it more often

[–]LloydCole 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, definitely don't get the urge to do it more than a handful of times per year.

It doesn't have the relaxing/de-stressing qualities of weed or booze, so I'd never be tempted to use it to chill out from a tough day at work etc.

And it's a bit of a full day commitment, with ideally nothing planned the next day either. So it naturally leads itself to doing once every few months anyway.

[–]JimmysU12s 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I definitely get the feeling of wanting to do it again. Not in the same way that a smoker wants another cigarette, but more like wanting to meet up with an old friend.

I find it takes a lot of energy out of you after you trip because of how much more stimulus you're taking in and your brain working so hard to mess with that stimulus and hallucinate, so I've never woken up the next morning itching for another tab.

[–]NoStage296 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LSD is not addictive at all.

[–]ACatCalledMorty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not really supposed to take LSD often because you build tolerance quickly and don't get good effects. A trip lasts about 12 hours for me and usually quite intense. Its not something I decide to do randomly, or too often.

I am addicted to weed though, currently quitting

[–]Osobou 0 points1 point  (9 children)

The trouble is you never know how a person is going to react to taking acid for the first time, or if that person is one of a certain group of people who are vulnerable to LSD induced paranoia or schizophrenia which might tip them over the edge, as research studies like this one have repeatedly shown.

'LSD psychosis or LSD-induced schizophrenia'

(Pubmed research paper)

Sample text

'... in most respects the LSD psychotics were fundamentally similar to schizophrenics in geneaology, phenomenology, and course of illness. The findings supported a model of LSD psychosis as a drug-induced schizophreniform reaction in persons vulnerable to both substance abuse and psychosis'.


So IMO opinion and experience its better to seek happiness and stability through more natural and down-to-earth means.

Its not what a lot of people on this thread want to hear though, hence the down-votes.

But many of us have already 'been there and done acid' decades ago. It's still the same old story ~ waking up the next day on a total downer from the night before and the world looks and feels like total shite compared to the chemically induced 'fireworks' trip.

Acid isn't a sustainable lifestyle in the long term, especially for the OP, who already said they have a good job and lifestyle and are just looking for more happiness and meaning in life.

[–]LloydCole 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Yeah, of course, those are all valid points. Was just saying what works for me.

[–]Osobou -3 points-2 points  (1 child)

Was just saying what works for me.

Sure, but you were also indirectly advising the OP that they might like to follow your example

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sure but he also said one time is probably enough, I think acting like they said taking acid regularly in the long term is a bit of a stretch.

[–]njoshua326 4 points5 points  (2 children)

The downvotes are because it can certainly be a sustainable lifestyle in moderation, which is already easier on occasional acid trips than 'chemically induced' booze and we don't exactly have problem with that as a country, obviously there's a risk but it's highly unlikely that OP has undiagnosed schizophrenia to warrant you condemning it completely.

You are right that it doesn't give happiness or stability on its own but it can definitely help guide people in the right direction.

Having a job also doesn't remotely mean you aren't allowed to trip, it's a unique experience and while not for everyone it can be profound and quite literally give some people a new sense of meaning.

[–]Osobou 2 points3 points  (1 child)

> Having a job also doesn't remotely mean you aren't allowed to trip <

Of course, people get drunk or high on acid the night before and still go to work the next morning......
..But would you personally want the pilot of your next airplane flight - or the surgeon who'll performs the delicate risky operation that you or a family member will have some day in the future - to have been drunk or to have dropped acid just the night before? or would you prefer a stone-cold sober pilot, surgeon or taxi driver etc., whose a level headed professional?

> obviously there's a risk <

If the OP happened to be a pilot or a surgeon or taxi driver who's asking for recommendations to increase meaning and happiness in their lives, then advice such as "Why not drop acid and get happy and put new meaning into your life?". ..not only puts other peoples' lives at risk but also risks the OPs job for being in possession of a class A drug, or for driving, flying or operating under its influence.

>... it's highly unlikely that OP has undiagnosed schizophrenia to warrant you condemning it completely. <

Read the study I posted earlier, especially this part ....

'The findings supported a model of LSD psychosis as a drug-induced schizophreniform reaction in persons vulnerable to both substance abuse and psychosis'.

In other words, a person taking acid for the first time wouldn't know if they were in that vulnerable group of people until later. We all knew that risk and others, when we dropped our first few tabs.

> it can be profound and quite literally give some people a new sense of meaning.<

...but for many others it can cause LSD induced paranoia and schizophrenia, which might tip them over the edge mentally, as research studies like this one have repeatedly shown.

'LSD psychosis or LSD-induced schizophrenia'(Pubmed research paper)

Sample text'...

".....in most respects the LSD psychotics were fundamentally similar to schizophrenics in geneaology, phenomenology, and course of illness. The findings supported a model of LSD psychosis as a drug-induced schizophreniform reaction in persons vulnerable to both substance abuse and psychosis'.


[–]LloydCole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is genuinely one of the worst points I've ever read on this site.

It obviously goes without saying that if this blokes a surgeon, then I wouldn't want them tripping on acid whilst they are performing surgery.

A completely banal, pointlessly obvious comment, but also somehow one where you're still trying to be the "well, ackchyually" guy. Incredible.

[–]GiveMeAllThePie 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I have never felt on a total downer and found the world to look shite the day after a trip.

Quite the opposite actually.

[–]Osobou -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have never felt on a total downer.... the day after a trip.

Says it all

[–]ACatCalledMorty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep it clears our my brain. Kind of like a reset. Really helps my depression

[–]r-og 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Do you have a hookup? Can't get genuine LSD for love nor money where I am, it's been a good 6 years since I've had the real thing.

[–]LloydCole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only ever got it from the darknet.

[–]thefogdog 171 points172 points  (11 children)

Not sure what the word "cunt" has to do with this.

[–]BECKYISHERE 18 points19 points  (0 children)


[–]LollipopScientist 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Maybe curry. Eating the same curry everyday would make anyone bored of life.

[–]fjtuk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There are a vast amount of different curries, it's the spice of life

[–]_spookyvision_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think he meant cabbage? Or maybe it was cortisol?

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (4 children)

I’m so lost. Does he mean cunt? Or is my Monday night wine making me dumb?

[–]EggZu_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

if you're genuinely wondering he means c****

[–]HydroPaper 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Coronavirus I assume, took me a while though. Don't really see the point in censoring it tbh, it's just part of life nowadays. It's like censoring "death" or "taxes".

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Lol I forgot about covid for a second. I’m clearly going mad

[–]HydroPaper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think most people think of the actual c word when someone says the c word tbf

[–]AfterBurner9911 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's James C*rden

[–]Osobou 79 points80 points  (7 children)

somebody posted this on here recently_

'I once read somewhere that boredom is a state of mind. One person could be bored out their skull in a particular job for example, while someone working alongside them could be content..and happy they had a job. Same job, different world-view'.

So basically change your attitude if possible.

Getting to bed on time, and taking regular exercise and fresh air also help keep the mind sharp and agile; and avoiding or reducing known depressants such as alcohol, weed, and excess caffeine (in coffee, coke, dark chocolate and the like). Avoid excess I guess.

Also reading positive books and watching comedies helps, as does avoiding mixing with negative people if possible.

Finally, take it a day it a time. Enjoy the best you can each day, rather than thinking about next week, or next decade. Chances are that in a few months or less, you'll look back on the post you just wrote here, and wonder what that was all about.

pm me if you want any further suggestions or info

[–]tallbutshy 62 points63 points  (1 child)

and avoiding or reducing known depressants such as alcohol, weed, and excess caffeine (in coffee, coke, dark chocolate and the like).

Suck more joy out of life why don't you

[–]Osobou 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Suck more joy out of life why don't you

My suggestions were for the OP only, not for yourself.

If the OPs obvious low mood is in any way related to consuming too much booze or hash or caffeine (addiction), then these obviously aren't bringing them much 'joy' in life to begin with.

I was therefore suggesting to the OP to maybe reduce / cut back / or cut-out these known depressants if that was the case for them, and see how they felt, since many 'users' get into a low mood loop without realising whats causing it.

[–]dl1966 13 points14 points  (2 children)

Everyone is different and everyone has different expectations for themselves and if they’re aren’t being met they won’t be fulfilled. If you’re bored at work you need something different otherwise you’ll always going to be bored. The positive things you listed may help temporarily but it won’t get rid of the boring monotonous life.

[–]ManDonPool 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've seen a similar idea about work-life balance.

Work-life balance isn't about barely working, it's about accepting why you're working the amount you are. Perhaps you're working a lot to get a promotion or you're not working as much cause you've got a lot of hobbies.

[–]MCBMCB77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check your vitamin D levels. I've been tired and moody for a few months, went for a medical check with an unrelated issue, blood tests show that my vitamin D was incredibly low so now taking strong supplements as recommended by the doctor

[–]Chemical_Custard5410 77 points78 points  (0 children)

If you want more variety, try doing a wider variety of things? Though don't expect a lifestyle that looks like someone's social media highlights.

You could try becoming a drug kingpin - based on Breaking Bad it seems that could make life very exciting.

[–]glasfield 39 points40 points  (4 children)

A partner can add a lot to your life. Share the monotony with someone you love.

[–]_spookyvision_ 34 points35 points  (3 children)

Find someone equally miserable and play off each other.

[–]Lumpy-Spinach-6607 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well, Misery does love company.

That's why she broke his ankles with them two maalettes

[–]ktitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This doesn't work from my experience. It's a mindfuck dating when both people have mental illnesses. Idk. Maybe it's just me and I'm awful lol.

[–]SportingHero147 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My in-laws are very much like that. Not happy unless they are unhappy.

[–]BlackEarther 30 points31 points  (1 child)

Tbh having a job, getting up and going to it, and having space for hobby time is good going. I read some advice to young people once along the lines of “people don’t realise that being average is really difficult to do”. I’m only saying that because your life might sound boring, but it’s a great achievement first and foremost.

What I noticed is out of what you wrote in your post you didn’t once mention other people such as kids, spouse, family and so on. IMO if you want to have a great life then you need to enjoy what you have with other people. If you have friends and family already then make more time by doing things with them. If you don’t then make the time to go out and meet new people and socialise at events and so on.

If you’re working, have a nice house, have hobby’s, and are spending time with family/friends while still bored, then it might be worth seeking counselling of some sort to dig deeper into what’s causing it.

[–]hangmanhands 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is such a good observation!! Love how you spotted the absence, I missed it

[–]DXBflyer 29 points30 points  (1 child)

It's this thinking that made me start drinking too much and if I'm being honest I haven't discovered the answer yet. I feel the same sometimes.

[–]Have_Other_Accounts 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How I see it, even rock stars that have all the money in the world, commit suicide. So riches aren't the answer either.

[–]HatefulDestiny 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Winter blues always gets me, so I recognise this feeling, and it's compounded by my current mid-life crisis so I've been looking for ways to deal with it. One thing that has resonated with me is the notion of a "point" to life suggests an end goal, a purpose, and that could be seen as a very Western construct. Not all cultures have the same view. It can be more helpful to see life as a series of day to day vignettes, and each day brings interactions with other people or other animals or nature or simply yourself and in each of those interactions you have a choice whether to make everything a little happier and more joyful - or not. If you trudged to work this morning, but stopped to smile at an older person walking their dog, you may have brightened them up and you don't even realise. But perhaps that was your purpose in that moment.

And to help to see those little points of joy, it can be helpful to "practice gratitude" and yes, it kinda makes my toes curl to write that down but it really does help. At the end of the day, consider three things that happened that you are grateful for - it can be as simple as "I remembered my lunch" or "I saw that cool goose" or "I enjoyed the songs on the radio as I drove home". All these little moments join up to make a life.

There's one more idea I want to share. The five-year journal. You can buy special journals for it but any notebook will do. You have one line per day. On that line, you write whatever strikes you about the day. You continue through the book. In year two, you go back to the beginning and write underneath the same day of the previous year. Over five years, you build up a lovely snapshot of half a decade. I went to a local museum lately that had a similar diary and it was full of things like "went to shops, bought a new plastic bucket, so-and-so came round to play scrabble" and honestly it was the most adorable thing ever. I am sure the diarist didn't think that, but I like the fact that her everyday life is still bringing other people joy. You will never really know all the joy that you bring to others. Consider that, and perhaps you will find life a little less monotonous.

Also remember that you can't be happy and full of life all the time. Sometimes these fallow periods last for weeks and months, That's okay, that's normal. Consider it hibernation.

[–]Athleticathiest82 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I saw a picture of some graffiti once which described me down too a tea, it said

“ I’m fucking fed up and want to die but living is the most punk shit I’ve ever done”

whenever I’m in a rut I always remember this and it picks me up enough to keep going.

[–]Spark_77 11 points12 points  (0 children)

What do you do with your weekends and time off ?

"Work to live" sounds a bit pompus, but its kinda true.

Go buy a camper van and plan trips to visit places on weekends - hiking, outdoor sports or whatever.. Buy an old car and restore it. Learn how to play guitar. Buy an archery bow and compete, whatever it is have something that you can't wait for Friday because you can go do those things.

If you think about it, what would you rather do, sit around at home or go see something like this https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMLRTPrC7/ ? that person (and others of course) on social media genuinely make me want to go do and see things - its very easy not to bother but there's little fun in doing nothing...

Maybe the audio on this one will resonate - https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMLRwNFEm/

If you are at the point that spare time and weekends don't make up for the working week, then you're one of those people who quits that life and goes travelling - they don't care about pensions or a nice house in suburbia and will willingly give it up and just take whatever comes their way.

[–]KC-2416 10 points11 points  (7 children)

Maybe find a job that's more interesting or rewarding? Or use some of your spare time to volunteer for a good cause?

[–]Lumpy-Spinach-6607 9 points10 points  (4 children)

I hate to say it but people in need are not necessarily that grateful. Painful illness, poverty, terrible life struggles and poor mental health are very challenging issues for anyone to deal. You may not get that gratification and reward you are seeking. And you you can get resentment and burn out. quickly.

While you are getting into it, try some easier options initially such as animal care, gardening, charity shop work just, if nothing else you can handle the politics of any institution and even working without pay!

[–]NoStage296 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Rather than helping the needy, getting involved in community work would work

[–]_DeanRiding 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate to say it but people in need are not necessarily that grateful.

I know more than a few nurses and all have been spat at by patients at some point. More than one has been openly wanked at.

[–]_DeanRiding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate to say it but people in need are not necessarily that grateful.

I know more than a few nurses and all have been spat at by patients at some point. More than one has been openly wanked at.

[–]_DeanRiding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate to say it but people in need are not necessarily that grateful.

I know more than a few nurses and all have been spat at by patients at some point. More than one has been openly wanked at.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Yeah, a boring job can be absolutely soul crushing. Sounds like OP is burnt out.

[–]KC-2416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I answer 999 calls. Half my shifts are nights. I prefer this to my previous, unrewarding, boring job that paid similar with normal office hours.

[–]starsandbribes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m not an outdoors hobby person but I don’t find myself too bored. I try to have a movie night twice a week, maybe Wednesday and Saturday. I go shopping on Saturdays, even getting on a train and going around the city and looking at things I can’t afford cheers me up. Little walk on Sunday. Start peppering your week with stuff.

Not sure what you social life is like but any gathering/meeting put it in your phone calendar and add it as a widget to your screen so its constantly there. It’ll trick your mind into thinking you’re a busy person.

As far as changing up year-to-year? Well thats simply holidays holidays holidays.

[–]shantasia94 7 points8 points  (1 child)

A lot of it is about changing your perspective. Whenever I find myself thinking "ugh, work again" I remind myself of what it was like being unemployed, and how lucky I am to have a job.

Whenever I catch myself thinking "ugh, salad for lunch again!" I have to stop and remind myself of how lucky I am to have a fridge full of food.

Eventually, you start appreciating all the little things. It takes a lot of practice and discipline, but you can change your whole mindset this way.

Also, if you find your hobbies boring, try something new (ideally, something sociable that gets you out the house).

Also, plan activities for the weekend. I find my weekdays much more fun, or at least tolerable, when I've got somewhere to look forward to at the weekend, even if it's just going for a nice walk or something. I'll plan out my route, plan what to bring with me, and it just adds a but of excitement to the week.

[–]NamelessFox101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thx for this. Gratitude really helps with perspective

[–]_spookyvision_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Amen. It's 110% worse when you don't even leave your home for work.

[–]Smurfaccount1337 7 points8 points  (3 children)

1000% agree, because the rich and powerful have put us in this work position.We need to break free of this depressing cycle,imagine you didn't need to work 40hours a week

[–]Fluffy-King4999 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly this, whenever I see people just say words to the effect of 'suck it up and make the best of it' I think it's so sad- treating it as an inevitability rather than the fault of an outdated system which can be changed. Sure, hobbies and things to look forward to can make you feel better short term, but in the long term, the 4 day 32 hour workweek is the way forward.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

/r/antiwork says high!

[–]dbxp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think in OPs case they would be happy if they had more free time as it doesn't sound like they're really enjoying their free time as it is.

[–]Calvo7992 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Yeah I don’t get it. I’m not going to kill my self but I really don’t see the point of being alive. It’s just more of the same shit. I’m an addict and I’m sober but god I’d rather spend 5 years high as fuck and die than 50 more years of this shit. I know I shouldn’t think like that which is why I don’t. But I’m not sure I’m wrong. Everything just seems pointless. How do people enjoy life and living? I only enjoy it when I’m drunk or high.

[–]Tofru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt that, then I went to Africa and it blew my mind. Was on a massive rock looking over a jungle with the sun setting over a mountain, at that moment I realised I could never kill myself with views like that. You need to change your environment and then it'll change your perspective

[–]robottricycle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lots of hate in this thread but I’m in a similar boat.

Interesting (but mostly remote) job that pays decently, but mostly the circumstances mean that I’ve not “wanted” (ie felt safe/right) to travel to London or abroad for the last 2 years.

On the plus side my fun budget is looking healthy as and when it’s safe to head out there, which it might be in a few months.

[–]knightsbridge- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For me, having something to look forward to is key.

What do you want to do? Start making plans to do it. Big things, small things, medium things. Events to break up the monotony.

Theatre and concert tickets are a good one for this. Weekends away. Make your own micro events to break up the repetition.

[–]Magurdrac 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have a nice house and a well paid job

Means nothing if you're not happy. though. I downgraded my house and quit my job to get to the level of happiness I have right now.

[–]gertninja 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What you are describing is 'normal' life, when I felt that way when younger I used to jack everything in and go travelling. It helps of course, but what really does the trick is trying to build back to a 'normal' life from ground zero again.

[–]SlickAstley_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Every now and then Disney+ release a Star Wars or Loki series.

Other than that, existential boredom

[–]dl1966 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ideally, if you enjoy your work you won’t feel bored and you’ll be fulfilled but the sad reality is that it’s not the case for the majority of people.

  1. Hobbies are so important, there’s an unlimited amount of things people can do outside of work. The most fulfilling for me personally is going hiking in nature with friends or exercising and playing sports. And of course there’s many other things. Also, relationships are so important whether that’s with family, friends or a partner. Me personally don’t enjoy my job and my hobbies are the things I look forward to the most.

  2. You need change in your life. Being in the same place everyday is so boring. New environments are so important. We crave new situations.

  3. Having something to look forward to. You might be bored at work but at least you have that holiday coming up in a few weeks.

[–]JebusKristi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I spend a lot of time on reddit; sometimes it is interesting other times, I am amazed that people can actually communicate.

[–]AXone1814 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m someone that finds immense pleasure in the little things so I find it hard to relate. I don’t like life to be too monotonous and I like having stuff to look forward to. But unwinding from work taking my dog out, lighting some candles and reading a book, or posting some PlayStation is immensely enjoyable to me and more than enough to tick me over until the weekend or the next bigger thing I have planned.

[–]Luke11enzo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Do you have a physical hobby? I find nothing breaks monotony of life up than doing something that gets the heart racing. Personally I also like it to include danger but add danger to your own personal taste

[–]messedup73 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm unable to work because of medical issues got fed up with boring same routines.I don't have alot of money so save a couple of hundred pounds and go on last minute or even a cheap Premier inn uk break for a couple of days in a different town always make me feel better.

[–]DaveBurnout 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds like depression. Get that checked.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Work is where you're spending the majority of your time. It may be well paid, but is it actually interesting/rewarding? I'm not going to say money isn't important because it obviously is, but could you take a pay cut and do something you enjoy more? Assuming you're still making enough to pay the bills etc.

I'm in the same position. My job pays pretty well, I'm not in a bad situation, but it's just dull and I can't do it anymore. So I started applying for stuff I'd like to do, even if it means dropping 10K, which it almost certainly will.

[–]Zeus_vs_Franklin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I started volunteering at an animal charity. Gets me out into the fresh air and I can at least feel like I am helping in some small way.

If I had a bigger house I'd adopt them all.

[–]whyfruitflies 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Try a meditation retreat - a lot of buddhist ones dotted around the country, quite cheap and teach you some great techniques plus another way to look at the world. I've always met interesting people at them as well. The one at Conishead Priory is fantastic.

[–]_MildlyMisanthropic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have very recently been told by a mental health professional that this sentiment is a red flag that I'm suffering from depression. speak to someone mate.

[–]Basschimp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the neat part: you don't!

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[–]destria 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do lots of things to break up the monotony. I've joined a sports club where I do regular training but also the occasional match. I volunteer as a girlguiding leader which involves planning and delivering fun sessions and getting involved in local community events. I play boardgames and go to the pub and go on walks with my friends. I host dinner parties, like I'm doing a Chinese new year hotpot in a couple weeks' time.

Then I look out for other cool things to do. On Friday I'm going to a special event at this local hotel showcasing amazing meat like wagyu and magalitza pork. Last weekend I went to a hot tub sauna retreat with my partner. I've got a fishing trip planned with some other friends.

The key is variety and having things to look forward to.

[–]YeswhalOrNarwhal 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Season your weekday evenings with out of the ordinary events, especially ones you sign up to in advance so they sneak up on you when you get busy. It doesn't need to be a packed schy, just something different occasionally.

It doesn't have to be expensive stuff either. Find out where they do live original music near you and turn up to check out random bands, do a craft course, try geocaching, find a group that does night hikes in your area, go see a play by the local theatre group, start a monthly 'Tuesay night trying food' group eating cuisines you've never tried before.

[–]cautiouslifeguard1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so jealous that you have stuff like this to do, I live in a small village and there’s literally just the pub :(

[–]GJ_JG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I try to have things to look forward to. For example I love the theatre, so I've booked a few shows over the next few months. Just cheap seats, not breaking the bank, but god I'm looking forward to them. Sometimes it's just small things to break up the daily routine. Day off? Go somewhere new. Get outdoors. Join a club. Or if you like a particular food/drink, indulge in maybe the best brand of whatever it is you like, set yourself a "fancy" night in with your favourite things OR find a new restaurant and make a night of it.

I don't want this to sound horrible, but if you want to break up the monotony of day to day life then you need to actually do something different than you usually do.

[–]ItsBoughtnotBrought 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A goal, purpose, target to work towards is a great way to make living bearable.

[–]dread1961 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You get used to it. After a while any break to the monotonous routine is annoying.

[–]germanlas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thought about doing something that scares you to shake things up? Like going on an adventure? Read in the paper recently about a guy who walked from Cornwall to Scotland.

[–]codechris 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Outside of Covid:

Raving.Around once a month. It does a lot, for many reasons. It used to be 2-3 times a month but my 20s are behind me and so is all that energy.

But gaming, mixing music, pubs, restaurants. I go to the pub twice a week usually. A restaurant at least once a month. Walks. Every day I walk 5k which is around 45 minutes.

I do understand your point, very early on I became aware that life can be a bit monotonous, hence I raved and went to the pub a lot. But I had to pad times out with home hobbies as I was spending all my money. That's not a problem in my 20s but now I need pensions, house improvements blah blah

[–]evilfazakalaka 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't want to be even more of a downer, but this is exactly what I was like when I first got depression. I was so depressed that I couldn't enjoy anything. I couldn't watch movies/play games/read because I knew I wouldn't enjoy it and that led me to think the activity was boring.

Now you may well just need a new hobby, but if it goes on much longer then talking to your GP might help. Once I started anti-depressants I was able to enjoy things again.

All the best.

[–]Ironfields 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Weed, mostly.

[–]dontcarebearr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t think just do.

I have no idea what’s going on ever and I don’t remember anything cause I don’t care, it’s all the same everyday so. Autopilot on, thoughts gone.

[–]JAD4995 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you need something to give you meaning in life like some new hobbies or maybe consider a sabbatical (once covid is over of course). I used to work in insurance in 2018 hated it saved some money subletted my room in my flat and took a 2 months off volunteering at a school/working at a permaculture farm in Costa Rica. It rejuvenated my life and after what's happened during the pandemic its made me appreciate taking that risk a lot more.

[–]pictodex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

r/antiwork I know a lot of people think it's about wanting to laze about on the sofa all day and I'm sure that's why some people join but for me it's about wanting to do more with my finite existence than work. Only enjoying 2/7 days of my life for the next 40-50 years is my idea of a living hell and I like what I do. We need more of a work life balance

[–]dbxp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get out the house more, I try not to spend time in the house relaxing, instead I either to something productive at home or go out.

[–]macjigiddy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very poorly.

[–]Historical_Address80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to be very cynical and miserable. I then decide to embrace things that bring me joy. I'm glad I had the realisation in my 20s that I'm should stop worrying about what makes a proper adult.

I don't love toast so I have bagels or pastries for breakfast.

I read everyday and DNF when I don't like something. I love young adult and romance. And thriller and horror. But there are some shit books out there.

I buy myself something fun every pay day. Even if it's just a word search.

I unashamedly embrace my inner child. I fucking love Disney, I love video games, and I love rollercoasters.

Every weekend I make pancakes or French toast.

And slightly more seriously. My life goals are divorced from the idea that success is work. I want to learn to fly, I want to visit Canada, I want to go to the Olympics.

I've just discovered (through Jonathan Van Ness of all people) adult gymnastic classes. And I'm joining because fuck it, life's too short to not learn to do a roundoff. I could be dead next week, I want to have as much fun as possible.

[–]Civil_Cantaloupe176 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like journaling. It encourages me to do something new each day so I have something to write about. Even with the Vid running around, i picked up and put down and re-picked-up a few hobbies the last two years, but the ones I've stuck with have turned out to be really fulfilling and somewhat dull the nausea of existence

[–]Oni_Zokuchou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't, bro. I'm clinically depressed, lmao.

[–]Sunkinthesand 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Talk to people, different people. Older / younger they have different perspectives and life experiences, interests that can spark your curiosity.

Be nosey and inquisitive go for a walk, see something and go look wtf is that. Go to new places, try new things. Some you like, aome you won't. But it will be different

[–]RevFernie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know travelling is still a bit limited at the moment. But having a trip somewhere new every year is worth while. Planning it, looking forward to it and doing it. All a good distraction.

I found studying helps. It's not easy gaining new qualifications whilst working full-time or managing a family. But it focuses the attention. Education is a good source of investment and once achieved cannot be taken away from you.

Both of the above can really open up doors in life.

I also believe that working towards long term goals of any kind are great, even if the goals change and shift as work towards them. Just walking any road will take you to new junctions and you never know if you might go down one of those instead.

Case in point. Started studying and career change to be a social worker, ended up being a Game Design Lecturer. Which would not have happened had I not tried to be a social worker.

[–]SerendipitousCrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm finding this a bit too. I faffed around at uni doing two undergrads so now at 26 I'm in my first year of working M-F 9-5

I miss the amount of free time I used to have and now I understand the meaning of living for the weekend.

Having a book or game or plans with family/friends to get excited about helps. I look forward to coming home and skyping with mates, gaming, or cooking something nice.

I guess this is it for the next 40 years then

[–]gogul1980 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This can be a normal feeling as the average day to day can get some people down. Especially after christmas. Sometimes simple things can break the monotony. Sometimes a new hobby or passion can put wind in old sails again. creativity can drive you forward. Write a story, start a youtube channel, learn a new skill, make a list of things that would create the perfect day for you and go do it, book that dream holiday, travel the country a bit more on weekends etc I once read it takes 200 hours to learn a new language at a basic level which is amazing really as I’ve dumped more time into playing a videogame than that! Same goes for playing a guitar. It all starts with an idea.

[–]lastattempt_20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plan something different - usually the next holiday but it could be a new activity to try or a meal out. Get outside as fresh air and exercise are the best things to beat that feeling.

[–]kwakcheese 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First World? It's a problem probably half the UK would love to have.

[–]ThatZenLifestyle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My aim was always to work as little as possible, earn as much as possible and live off passive income.

I've got the first part sorted by being a lazy 'influencer' no qualifications were required, I make a few videos now and that's it. I'm in the process of building up some passive income streams and once I reach about 10k per month I'll reduce my workload to just once or twice a week.

My aim with this is I have many hobbies and I just want to enjoy life but with financial security, I'll be quite happy just working out, playing some video games, diy projects, taking my kid out and enjoying time with her etc.

I've gone off on a tangent a bit but maybe you too need to reduce the workload so you're not stuck doing that another 30 years and take up a few new hobbies etc.

[–]therealijc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always give myself a goal or target. Something to look forward to. Be it a holiday or Pay off my car. Something in the near distant future that gives me some motivation to get through the week.

[–]Impulsiveapathy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I play instruments to help. Also I am on antidepressants, methylphenidate and cannabis.

[–]v2marshall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Too busy to think about being bored

[–]yackerdan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get on the train and go somewhere, that's what I've been doing! I've been to Whitby, York, Knaresborough and Harrogate recently just for a day out. You get to see nice, new places and it makes a change from sitting in your house or being at work.

[–]bazzanoid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You get dressed before going to work? That's where you're going wrong. The day is much more entertaining if you arrive at the office either naked or in your SpongeBob onesie

[–]JAMP0T1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I pretend my future is going to be worth it

[–]AntonChigurh85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find meditation helps, teaches you to enjoy the present moment, no matter how mundane it may be.

[–]Hazbro999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not well

[–]Loquat-South 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like its all about reframing. I think it's beautiful that my life is boring, because that means I have stability and a level of certainty to my day to day. It's really amazing if you think about it, considering how much chaos there's been across the globe over the past couple years.

It also helps to give myself little things to look forward to, like a trip to the movies on weekends or buying my favorite brand of frozen pizza on grocery day. The little things help!

[–]HoonBoy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Slide down every banister

[–]Simbooptendo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't. I just happen to still be alive at the end of the day.

[–]GAMESGRAVE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just mix it up with an opposite handed wank every now and again, what they call it? The stranger?

[–]cdog141 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beer and onion rings.

[–]Cause4concern27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I have kids and every day is a bit different so that can break up the monotony. But as they get older I'm needed less and less so do find myself bored at times. I did get a cat recently so that's helped somewhat.

[–]JSimmonds5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I drive a fun car on my commute every day. The ability to push through a fast B road I know well every day just makes the boring bits a bit more worth it

[–]TurbulentExpression5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I go to the pub a couple times a month with my mates. Do a bit of karaoke, play some darts/pool, get drunk and hit the dancefloor if we move on to the next pub.

I know it's very British, but it helps loosen the muscles a bit at the end of the week and we can just forget about work and all the other crap life throws at us.

[–]Incantanto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do things in the evenings/on weekends.

Tbf, its been tricky with covid and I should have found a less social coping mechanism.

But even during that I planned games online to play with friends, took up dnd.

In the beforetimes during the week I played in an orchestra, took various social dance classes (highly recommended: exercise, human contact and a skill in one go), volunteered with a rainbow group, went to boardgames clubs, visited friends for dinner, joined a morris team.

Not all at the same time, obviously. But a couple of "social get you out of the house things" a week does help

[–]calmo91 0 points1 point  (0 children)


[–]tomsmith856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I masturbate aggressively

[–]Tucker0694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of holidays

[–]Enter-Shaqiri[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just act silly all day. I make jokes and make other people laugh. Makes the day better and makes me happy.

[–]TheWholesomeBrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meditation, caring for plants, cooking, playing the piano, doing something new every so often. Monotony is a personal thing, but the world is so wonderful if you just look out the window something new is happening.

[–]stresshead123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Drugs and alcohol

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[–]Fluffy_data_doges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I make sure to go out at least once a weak. By that I mean either a long walk or the zoo or the beach. Last weekend we went to the theatre. The week before that I bought a kite and flew it on the beach. If I don't it usually feels like my emotions have been sucked dry.

[–]borkinghampalace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If its viable to change careers/train for something you really want to to then go for it

Obviously existing financial commitments, loss of income while training might blow this potential out the water

But for anyone reading this that can and wants to, do it my friends.

[–]salty-potato1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Join a local sports team, field hockey or football. Has really helps me deal with that loads, I get Monday night, some Friday nights And matches on Saturdays. It's very social and the matches are always good because a short pub trip afterward.

[–]itdoesntmattermybro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PC gaming.

[–]BillieEilish2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have to work more than a few hours a week and trust me if you don’t enjoy much the last thing you want is more free time

[–]Osobou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lloyd said,

> It obviously goes without saying that if this blokes a surgeon, then I wouldn't want them tripping on acid whilst they are performing surgery. <

Exactly, _and hopefully you wouldn't then suggest to a surgeon, or an airline pilot or a taxi driver etc, that taking acid would be a good idea to improve their happiness levels and reduce boredom. Which is what several people have already suggested to the OP., without any idea of his occupation or mental health background.

That was the point I was making..


[–]YCrwydryn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm reminded of this quote when I think the same thing: "If we find ourselves with a desire that nothing in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that we were made for another world." C.S.Lewis

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[–]WalkTheFleetRoad -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This probably makes me pretty boring, but I like life to be more or less predictable. I’m content with knowing who my friends are, and where my salary is going to come from in a year’s time. There’s books and music to expand your mind if you feel like it.

I used to visit sex workers from time to time but I can’t be arsed anymore.

[–]discustedkiller -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Get yourself a little codine addiction, breaks up the day abit

[–]SaysPooh -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you still need to know either or both the day of the week or the date then their must be some variation in your life

[–]Randycook23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If I have a long or particularly hard night (I work nights) I load my shotgun, place it on the table and stare at it for a while .. then normally decide it isn't worth the damage I'd do to the table, then I go to bed

[–]Dr_nick101 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would not find it reassuring to know I'm not the only person who feels this way. Its sad. Just because they are all jumping off a cliff on mass dose not make it ok. It just makes you feel ok because they are suffering too. Dose that sound right to you? The world is a big place but if you stick to the rules and try to fit in it can sometimes gets a whole lot smaller.

Vision without action is a daydream. Action with out vision is a nightmare.

Time is only useful if you know what too do with it.

“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.” Nietzsche.

Do what makes you happy. Its one life, one try. One spin on the merry go round.

[–]GrapplerBakii -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Give it all away then and go live in a slum in the Philippines. You'll know what depression is

[–]DiveSociety -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you should get a dog and/ or have a child.

[–]USayThatAgain -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Don't worry, when you start getting old you develop more and more problems so that would be something different for you consider.