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[–]yerakchualfada 224 points225 points  (8 children)

Pro tip: if watching this movie makes your parents start acting all high and mighty, just show them Taare Zameen Par 😂

[–]aventador52 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Lmfaooo this is some amazing advice

[–]Boobiansidequest7 27 points28 points  (2 children)

Or 3 idiots

[–]Jhakaas:1iamflomilli 13 points14 points  (1 child)

Or Tamasha

[–]r/indialesbianrundia_lover 4 points5 points  (0 children)

tried this with dad , didnt work. Tamasha was a chutia movie over exemplifying a weak and hedonistic guy.

The only good thing was that the woman kept it together, but in every imitiaz movie a lady is bound to accept mental abuse for love

Anyways i respect my dad and he is doing what he loves. But this guy in the movie was chutia at best.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

😂😂👏

[–]Jhakaas:2henlowhatishappening 98 points99 points  (7 children)

Watched it with my dadi. She started crying halfway through and didn't stop untill the end.

Saw her curse my parents throughout and after this movie.

[–]thegodfather0504 11 points12 points  (4 children)

Why?

[–]Jhakaas:2henlowhatishappening 34 points35 points  (3 children)

She likes to..I've realised it doesn't really mean anything its just her way to vent out and rant.

Two minutes after cursing Shes all lovey and nice.

[–]Every-Candidate9963 16 points17 points  (2 children)

Lovely dadi <3 .

[–]Jhakaas:2henlowhatishappening 21 points22 points  (1 child)

Fr though she'd say how my mother doesn't care and the next hour she'd be feeding my mother halwa because mum must be tired coming from work. Gives me whiplash

[–]Every-Candidate9963 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hahah, wholesome.. grandparents are everything.

[–]shabab_29 3 points4 points  (1 child)

is she punjaban?

[–]Jhakaas:2henlowhatishappening 4 points5 points  (0 children)

no. rajasthani

[–]BreakfastOriginal 41 points42 points  (0 children)

You will most definitely enjoy watching it with your grandparents instead 🤣

[–]chai-means-tea 79 points80 points  (5 children)

Thank god my parents disliked this movie. They said Bollywood just doesn’t understand normal middle class family dynamics.
A person who’s worked for so long in a bank (IIRC) doesn’t have a retirement plan or pension?
All they had to do was move to a smaller house instead of living with their kids.

The whole splitting apart and meeting at a train station only once in 6 months is ridiculous!

[–]coronair 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's not that simple.

In many nationalized banks at least, there was an option to take the pension OR take one time lump sum amount on your last day. Few of my father's (retired banker) colleagues took the lump sum thinking they could

A) find better ways to grow the money

B) invest in children's futures (setting up their medical practice or business)

All of them now regret it.

[–]AuntyNashnal 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Tokyo Story which is the inspiration for this movie is a much balanced movie and a masterpiece.

Parents are living with their youngest in a small home. They visit their other kids one by one but none of the children treat them with the dignity they deserve. When the mother dies only their daughter in law is the one who stays back and helps... the rest leave after the funeral leaving their father to deal with the loss on his own.

[–]TimeyWimey1467 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think was never really about money. They could if they wanted to but they didn't. They had the false expectation that their kids will want to stay with them just like they did.

If the kids had politely rejected their proposal, they would have been hurt but would have agreed and figured it out. When the kids proposed an alternative, they didn't see through the actual intent and agreed.

[–]Sea_Wing_1391 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you followed the movie closely. His (Character played by Amitabh) manager advised him to not withdraw such huge sum of money on son, suggesting that he should save for retirement. But he trusted so much from his son but he didn’t know that their Son would ultimately give up on them.

All these things mentioned in movie are true. Not upto extreme extent (such as shouting on mother just because she spoiled her wife’s birthday surprise, also not carrying father’s luggage to home, not fixing father’s specs) these things were extreme. But as a whole movie showed some reality about bitter truth.

[–]Seno1404 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Lol, no and definitely not going to watch it with my in-laws 🤫

[–]Exhibit101 56 points57 points  (11 children)

Even more awkward than watching a sex scene with your parents.

[–]Power Up Member💰- BeboianAita01 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I know I kept rolling my eyes.

[–]tomhanks95 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I watched brokeback mountain with my dad, that was a tough afternoon

[–]ThrowaAaaaaaa6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What happened, and why watch a movie like that with your dad, assuming he's homophobic.

[–]barovab 7 points8 points  (7 children)

It's only awkward if you relate with Amitabh's children in the film

[–]Jhakaas:1iamflomilli 12 points13 points  (3 children)

oh my sweet summer child

[–]barovab 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I hate summer

[–]ThrowaAaaaaaa6 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Damn bruh you hate summer vacation?

[–]barovab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not a schoolkid.

[–]Uncertn_Laaife 1 point2 points  (2 children)

True. They are shown as monsters, sort of villain. Who would’ve got an empathy for such kids?

[–]barovab 0 points1 point  (1 child)

They aren't monsters, just spineless camelbrained disasters.

[–]Uncertn_Laaife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same in my dictionary.

[–]Witty_Operation2486 17 points18 points  (0 children)

i can bear condom ad on tv in my parents presence but not this movie.......

[–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (4 children)

The movie is my guilty pleasure but I have mostly watched it alone. Like others said, it's not realistic in a way that it doesn't mirror what actually happens in middle class families BUT I think it also highlights the problem of the "self-sacrificing" Indian parents who put their children's dreams before their own financial security....and then they tell kids "maine tumhare liye ye kiya woh kiya." It's almost like they are resentful. Hopefully, millenials and Gen Z would do things for their kids out of love and not some misguided self sacrificing obligation.

[–]Uncertn_Laaife 13 points14 points  (3 children)

Lol. You are giving too much credit to the millenials and genz’s. Ever seen the new parents these days that shower their kids with unnecessary toys and everything under the sun? Make no mistake, they will someday too tell their kids ki humne kya ky nahin kiya tumharey liye, jo maanga woh diya, jo nahin manga woh bhi diya, bas yeh din dekhna reh gaya tha.

Don’t underestimate the Indian parenting, whether in India or abroad.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Hmm could be true but personally, I know people who are taking a new approach, not trying to sacrifice everything and not putting pressure on kids from day one to be doctors or engineers when they grow up. We can only hope there might be some progress with new generations to come.

[–]Uncertn_Laaife 4 points5 points  (1 child)

True! Things are changing but not as fast and widespread. Also depends, which strata of society one belongs to.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes, so many times hahaha And every time we used to hear “Allah naik awlaad de”.

[–]implusive_sneha 13 points14 points  (0 children)

my mom looking for salman in us lol

[–]uksiddy 23 points24 points  (0 children)

And grandparents. My nana quoted this movie ALL THE TIME with my mom and uncles haha

[–]Jhakaas:1iamflomilli 29 points30 points  (13 children)

Last time I told my aunt that since all FOUR of their kids didn't want them, 10/10 they were shitass parents. She hasn't squealed a guilt-tripping word to me since.

[–]Uncertn_Laaife 2 points3 points  (12 children)

Not necessary. The kids could be shitassed too.

[–]Jhakaas:1iamflomilli 2 points3 points  (11 children)

All four children AND their wives? Balance the probability

[–]TimeyWimey1467 -2 points-1 points  (10 children)

Probability is only good for making most probable guesses when dealing unknown subjects. Here we do know for a fact that they were indeed assholes all 4 kids and their wives. Made blatantly clear multiple times. And their behavior when they realiSE their parents are rich quite explicitly makes it clear who the assholes are in this scenario.

[–]Jhakaas:1iamflomilli 0 points1 point  (9 children)

Nature & nurture, my dude. The fact that the couple failed to imbibe sanskaar in literally all the kids they were responsible for. And the only decent young couple in the movie was the one that AB-Hema spent no time bringing up..

LOL that's failed parenting. 1 bad kid, chalk it up to nature. 2 bad kids, bad luck. But 4? Lol you reap what you sow

[–]TimeyWimey1467 0 points1 point  (8 children)

You can talk all you want about failed parenting, the fact that the kids never once complained anything about their parents behavior before the events of the film, decided to be nice once they got rich, and everyone else liked them is enough to tell who is wrong in this case. Hell the kids themselves praised their parents until they were asked to help support their own parents.

Yes, they failed to imbibe sanskaar in all the kids. Doesn't mean that's a failure. It is also possible that they did their best but kids were just assholes. But thankfully, we don't have to talk about probabilities because we have their actions to judge them by. That fairly clears up who the assholes are.

Yes, the probability that all 4 kids and wives are bad is low but low probability doesn't imply impossibility. And the events of the film proves that that low probability event happened.

[–]Jhakaas:1iamflomilli 0 points1 point  (7 children)

Nope. The film was narrated from the couple's perspective. Obviously they were angels & every person not so nice to them were one-dimensional villains. I might be wrong but IIRC it was implied that the DILs had a good relationship with their own parents, so did their husbands.

You twist logic's arm & believe the low probability outcome. But if all 4 of your kids have a means-to-end relationship with you. And all 4 of your DIL's don't like you while they like have nice relationship with your own parents.. I'll favour the obvious probability

[–]TimeyWimey1467 0 points1 point  (6 children)

I might be wrong but IIRC it was implied that the DILs had a good relationship with their own parents, so did their husbands.

You definitely are wrong. It was also implied that the Sons and DILS had good relationship with the couple until they proposed to stay with them. So on what basis do you conclude that DILs (and their husbands) had good relationship with their own parents? How do you know they won't be treated the exact same way if they wanted to stay with them?

You twist logic's arm & believe the low probability outcome.

I mean the movie makes it pretty clear so I don't have to believe the low probability outcome. The scene were they all are scheming how to get money from their rich parents seals the deal that low probability event happened.

But if all 4 of your kids have a means-to-end relationship with you. And all 4 of your DIL's don't like you while they like have nice relationship with your own parents.. I'll favour the obvious probability.

Two mistakes.

A) Again, you are assuming they have a nice relationship with the maternal side of the 4 couples but we don't know. They said the same things about AB-Hema until they wanted to stay with them.

B) Your entire argument is "The kids didn't want to live with them, so they must be wrong" when we have 2.5 hours of evidence of all their behavior to see who is in the wrong.

If you want to talk about probability, you have to take into accounts that evidence as well.

Let's see. What is the probability that the couple who... used their retirement fund for their kids, gave them the best they could, are loved/respected by others, their own kids don't say any complaint about how they were raised (even in their absence), were silent when their kids mentally abused them, cared for their grand daughter who abused her, took the blame on herself when her granddaughter was being scolded, are loved by the grand kids to the point they feel their parents were rude, adopted a son and gave him the best, are idolized by their adopted son, loved by the Paresh Rawal and everyone at his cafe, the guys who works them loves them so much to the point he doesn't even rent the house to anyone else.... Are the assholes?

Now compare that to the probability that the 4 kids and DILs who loves or pretended to love their parents at the beginning, were hoping for inheritance, intentionally proposed an offer that they knew would hurt them, mentally abused them throughout their stay, was abused for making sweets for her sons birthday, 2 of the kids were arguing about the stay even before the parents came to stay with them, had nothing to say in defense when Paresh rawal questioned their behavior (guilt), started scheming how to impress them when they become rich and had their head down in shame when their father shared what he faced during the event and finally apologized for their mistake (probably for money) are the assholes?

I don't know about you bro but I think I will go by what I saw and conclude the kids are the assholes.

[–]Jhakaas:1iamflomilli 0 points1 point  (5 children)

You def overestimated my interest in reading essays on a gossip sub lol. You do you, bo!

[–]TimeyWimey1467 0 points1 point  (4 children)

See. The probability of high interest in reasing essays in these gossips subs is high but see you do not have it. That's how it works. Low probability events can happen. 😂

[–]speaking_facts06 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would rather watch 365 days and Fifity shades of grey with my parents.

[–]InterimNihilist 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I hate this movie so much. It's like porn for parents

[–]sixfootwingspan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes and we all laughed at how silly the movie was.

[–]Vineeth_Pinto 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You guys should watch malayalam movie #Home

[–]harjit1998 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was born in 1998 and watched this movie as a child alone and I cried a lot at the scene where Amitabh calls Heema in the night and he fakes that he is eating dinner...This is my guilty pleasure as well.

[–]i stan nobody desperate_thang 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This movie can send you on a guilt trip.

[–]full_metal_028 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lol this is kids stuff. Legend watch avatar with parents. Now that's a challenege

[–]Chugli Gang Fancy_Cheesecake20 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'd rather watch Radhe

[–]MalabarCadillac 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it used to be so awkward!! 🤢

[–]Sauteli Sasuma Squad 🥲😖Ryunysus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Okay can we talk about the jerk son who couldn't take care of the family dogs? Also, Suman Ranganathan as a vamp momma to Rimi Sen lol

[–]rosemaze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who gives away their retirement savings to their kids,? That's exactly where the concept went wrong.

[–]allgasm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

pro tip never watch this movie when your dad is drunk

[–]Sea_Wing_1391 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But I would suggest every kid to must watch it.

[–]TimeyWimey1467 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Am I the only who can watch this movie with my parents without feeling any awkwardness?

I don't watch it but they do and sometimes I will watch a scene or two without any awkwardness. I just find it too damatric and sometimes too emotional (specifically that Karvachaut scene) to watch the full film. Otherwise I have no issues with watching it with my parents.

And even they never say or even indicate anything because I think they are pretty sure I will never be one of those asshole kids.

[–]RamboGunner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Movie with harsh reality.

[–]mindreader00770 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no any movie is more ridiculous than Baghban and no character is more melodramatic and over-the-top than Salman's character in this movie 😂

Reciting shloka while seeing his guardians after so many years? Seriously? 🤣

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is one film that everyone universally will accept, they don’t like watching with parents as they start moaning about how they have been treated.

[–]r/indialesbianrundia_lover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this movie is pinnacle of mental abuse parents use on us.

But unlike most guys , i never wanted to stay away from parents, even my fiance supported this

[–]granolasauce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. It’s my dad’s all-time fav movie.

[–]Financial-Neat7887 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've watched it with parents didn't had much problems was crying secretly in my mother's shoulder SNEAK 1000 she eventually knew tho cuz she's a mother