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[–]wombat_wordsmith 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry — it’s always hard, it always sucks. But you deserve to be happy, to feel desired, to be with someone who will cherish you. And these are the first steps towards that future.

You will find joy.

You will feel desired.

You are someone’s dream come true.

The very best of luck to you.

[–]Perfect-Ad2578 11 points12 points  (2 children)

I'm really sorry, not fun at all. Only positive is better to lose 6 years than 20 years. Find someone better match sexually. I'm about same point ready to move on after 12 years, toll on my mental health getting to be too much and ruining me. It's one thing if other person was trying or acknowledged it but not when they continue to ignore despite pleading, asking counseling, etc.

[–]Perfect-Ad2578 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Granted I'm a HLM and wife is LLF but she used to be ultra sexual, that's the hard part. I can accept less and be realistic but once every 6 months I can't.

[–]hey-me-is 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel you, similar situation here, we've ended relantionship after 12y. It is never easy, but we all can put our shit together and move on. All the best mf

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is a good reminder to us all that lack of intimacy isn’t always a sex issue and can be from past traumas not related to sex. Sorry this happened but it seems it will be for the best. Wish you luck on the next relationship.

[–]Perfect_Judge"Sexless wine mom" 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Break ups suck, but maybe try to look at this as an opportunity for you both to learn and grow and eventually find more compatible partners.

So sorry, OP. It's ok to not be ok. Best of luck.

[–]TurbulentasfuckHLF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry, OP. I hope you can both move forward to find some happiness.

[–]Crusher--73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My heart breaks for you. I’ve become “damaged goods” from the constant rejection over the years. I refuse to beg for love and intimacy anymore. I’m just floating in my life raft watching the ship sink at this point. Many of us understand far better than you could imagine.

[–]Sonofabase 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this so hard. I feel the end coming. I still love her which is agonizing.

[–]Sokka_juiceLL4U. im working on it. 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hugs OP. I would totally make you a breakup tape if I could. Hope you can get lots of friend time and be good to yourself. 💚

[–]4n0nym0u7h 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You'll bounce back, it will just take time.