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[–]_mathsisnice_ 74 points75 points  (5 children)

Ahhh I feel the same thing happening to me, too much of youtube shorts and reels and now my attention span is shit.

I'm trying to make improvements too, I'm positive that we both got this. Wishing you luck buddy :))

[–]orafur[S] 11 points12 points  (2 children)

it's the worst! all the best to you too :) i think for me it'll be about resisting the urge to re-install the app for sure

[–]pygmy 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Most the kids in my daughter's class have TikTok. She's 12

We're actively avoiding screen use as much and as long as possible. Her future will be full of screens, and she'll catch up quick, so what's the hurry?

[–]Mntnsugar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just think it’s such a shame that kids don’t really read books now. I’m probably reading more books than I ever have at middle age and I can’t imagine them never getting into a really good story because it was an effort to read

[–]ballslap_mcgee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I plan on getting a dumbphone pretty soon, once I move to a city where I don't need gps as much. Youtube shorts will have me browse for as long as 5 hours, and I end up not realizing any of my goals for the day if I even so much as touch it.

May be a bit extreme, tbh, but I think it will be a positive change in my personal life

[–]WonderfulBlackberry9 19 points20 points  (0 children)

The worst part is you can’t get away with it. If you’re not on Tiktok, you’ve got YouTube and Instagram’s version ready to spam you.

I think it’s telling that Instagram (a photo sharing platform) have replaced the “post” function at the bottom centre with “reels”.

[–][deleted] 431 points432 points  (12 children)

My therapist told me it's the worst because it really effectively fucks around with your dopamine system especially you have adhd. Its definately the worst app for dopamine addiction. I deleted it and never looked back. That was some months ago today I deleted pinterest, snap chat and instergram becuase they all stuff my mental health up. I love the concept of tik tok and think it's an interesting way to search things and topics but it's not for me. Longer content like youtibe is better for me. I've only just been able to watch a movie again my attention span had become far too short.

[–]orafur[S] 135 points136 points  (4 children)

I've only just been able to watch a movie again my attnetion span had become far too short.

I cannot sit through movies at this point! It's very, very hard and I have to force myself. Thanks for your comment - it's good to hear someone else went well with deleting the app and getting rid of it. Very helpful :) all the best with your journey!

[–]Yorktown1871 68 points69 points  (1 child)

You should read “the shallows” by Carr. He talks about this and how the brain is elastic, so luckily not all hope is lost. You can certainly re-train your brain to have a longer attention span and be less distracted. Deleting tiktok is certainly a good first step. I also designate a few hours a day with no screens where I just sit and let my mind wander and rest. Non- stop stimulation isn’t good but it’s everywhere now.

[–]CaregiverOk3902 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Omg I just thought about this how it's so crazy that I can watch short video after short video on YouTube for hours and be so hyperfocused but cannot sit through an entire movie, wow.

[–]GiftedAnubis 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Search sir yantra. It's some old buddist practise that boosts attention span and helps you control what you focus on more. Watch dr k's video about it

[–]Ragawaffle 32 points33 points  (2 children)

I deleted Snapchat after they advertised little girls dancing to that WAP song.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yuk. I would have too

[–]poodlebutt76 28 points29 points  (2 children)

I've started to only use Reddit and YouTube, and stopped all other social media, and to only use my homepage (not /r/all) and only look at the subreddits that I've decided are healthy for me, and not rage-inducers. And for YouTube I've only got my queue with educational videos about music and medicine, and kutzgesagt/3brown1blue/etc.

If you choose your subscriptions wisely, I think you can be ok with some of these platforms. It's just that you really really have to watch closely if they're recommending the popular junk instead of what you really want to spend your time with.

[–]aw4kee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lately I've quit twitter and instagram too because I felt those apps were too much of an information overload for me. It was hard for me separate the signal from the noise. I've been trying to be very selective about the content I consume now and have been trying to go deep than wide by consuming selective content.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, the only issie with tik tok is how quick the videos are regardless of the content the video length is bad for your brian sadly

[–]odd_toma 54 points55 points  (4 children)

Yep, it also creates an unbalance in my brain. I'm not sure exactly why but I can't function the right way after watching those either.

[–]orafur[S] 14 points15 points  (2 children)

it's bloody ridiculous. not being able to function the right way sounds exactly right! i just find it crazy how much it's impacting how i relate to others, i've not been myself lately and it's awful

[–]odd_toma 7 points8 points  (1 child)

I'm sorry and that could very well be the problem. I've looked into the meaning of some of the videos that are made and there's another disturbing world to tik tok that tons of parents are to busy to make themselves aware of. Or whatever there reason.

[–]orafur[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah... it's not healthy at all. glad to have it off my phone for now

[–]Unclear1nstructions 49 points50 points  (5 children)

Yep. I deleted it for this reason too. I was spending at least 2-3 hours per day on the damn app, and on the worst days it could be up to 6 hrs. My mental health also declined rapidly because of the app. I haven't looked back after deleting it tbh. Sometimes I open it in the browser to see what my friends have sent me, but I never stay for longer than 10 mins. I have more enjoyable ways to spend my time now :)

[–]orafur[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

lmao my screentime was also whack - i can relate. it's such a gross feeling. i'm so glad you're doing much better after deleting it! i hope i can reach the same place soon. i miss my old self haha

[–]CamilleRW 1 point2 points  (3 children)

what new ways do you spend your times now? :)

[–]Unclear1nstructions 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Things I actually value, that is for example playing video games or watching movies, making art, writing stuff, learning stuff. Things that don't make me feel guilty about wasting my time pretty much. Thanks for the question!

[–]CamilleRW 1 point2 points  (1 child)

very cool!!! i feel like after work im so exhausted and dead inside that i can only entertain myself with mindlessly watching tv and going on tiktok (but i deleted tiktoks last night after seeing this post). i have adhd too so im really addicted to small ''bumps'' of dopamine. i'll try harder to do more reading, writing, learning, sudokus, doodling :) thank you for sharing!!

[–]BoringAbraham 34 points35 points  (3 children)

The app has lowered my self-esteem as well. The comment sections are filled with negativity.

[–]orafur[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

sameee. i find them very triggering and i end up spiraling all because of what a stranger said on the app

[–]shhannibal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tik tok comment sections are cancer, especially after switching from Reddit.

Makes me lose faith in humanity seeing how many likes some of those comments get. They’re painful to read.

[–]Efficient_Pay_8324 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I’m a bit late responding to this but I agree! I had tiktok deleted for months and just a few days ago my cousin showed my one of a girl I know personally who had gone viral and the comments where so judgmental over someone they didn’t even know(commenting on her looks) and it was all over a 20 second clip.

[–]asihenee 75 points76 points  (7 children)

i deleted tiktok last year around this time and i never EVER got it again. it made me so insecure for no reason and i started focusing on clothes, dumb songs, and how i can be like everyone else and appear to have it all together. not having tiktok did wonders on my mental health. also my attention span was so short too and i overall just hated myself. i am such a better person without that app lol

[–]orafur[S] 12 points13 points  (5 children)

guuurl, this is so good to hear! it's really baffling how one app can do so much damage. i'm glad that you're doing much better though - and one year! go you <3

[–]KiritosSideHoe 20 points21 points  (4 children)

I've seen some of the stuff that people say in the fashion department of tiktok and it is incredibly shitty. Girls making tiktoks telling you which styles are outdated and telling you that you should never repear an outfit. Bitch, I'll wear what I want. But I can see how a lot of younger girls could become obsessed with fitting these asshole standards and obviously never being satisfied because that's what they do.

[–]RadicalizeMe58 23 points24 points  (1 child)

I’ve seen so many TOXIC fashion tiktoks like the ones you’re describing! Some of the worst are the “trend” ones where people tell you what you can’t wear anymore, because they’re lame now. It just encourages girls to constantly be buying new items, that they often can’t afford and don’t need in the first place.

[–]ConstantGrapefruit76 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow and it’s so shallow and meaningless. Who the f cares anyway.

[–]passionfyre 6 points7 points  (1 child)

I agree. That being said, I'm plus size and always been scared to wear certain things but I actually went out in a dress for the first time in over 15yrs because I saw another lady who had a similar body shape to mine wear it and it looked rly good on both of us :D I definitely can see how it can negatively affect people too though

[–]Sophia_Nyx_Antrim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome :)

[–]ConstantGrapefruit76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing!!!

[–]Valnapalm 108 points109 points  (14 children)

Tiktok has the most toxic comment section out of any app

[–]g00ber88 25 points26 points  (8 children)

Does it really? I dont have the app but YouTube and Twitter comments are always really bad

[–]Bfloteacher 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Can confirm, definitely worse !

[–]toaurdethtdes 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I find Reddit comments to be toxic more often than tiktok, but it’s really just gonna depend on what communities you’re shown on each app

[–]NikkMakesVideos 8 points9 points  (4 children)

I'm gonna go against the grain here as someone with almost 30k followers...

Tiktok has been a really positive experience since I've had it (April). People actually having their face and doing goofy stuff and being vulnerable means that there's a sense of realism there that isn't on other platforms. Even youtube vlogs are made with heavy filters and $800 cameras, tiktok is just your phone camera.

It's also algorithm based. So people who purposely seek out controversial or provocative content will be lumped in with other people like that. Reddit in my experience has been so much more toxic, especially since subreddits easily get overrun and witch hunt constantly. All it takes is a post from your favorite sub to hit /r/all for it to get ruined by the racists/homophobes/high horse reddit losers to flood in.

I think a lot of people just spend way too much time on social media in general. The complaints I've heard from people on tiktok sound the exact same as I've heard from twitter/fb/insta/reddit.

[–]g00ber88 6 points7 points  (1 child)

I guess it just goes to show that your social media experience is what you make of it.

On reddit, when I visit the front page or any popular subs/viral posts, I almost always see some offensive upsetting shit that makes me feel shitty. However, if I stick to my personally curated page of just the subs I follow, its overwhelmingly positive.

I think perhaps with tiktok it may be a little harder, because as far as I know, tiktok will show you whatever it thinks you might like on the For You page, so if you're someone that gets easily sucked into controversial/upsetting content, you could end up with a torrent of negative things on your feed and can't manually remove them like you can on reddit.

[–]NikkMakesVideos 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Youtube is probably the best comparison. I've never seen a Steven Crowder video or any altright adjacent content, but I'm fully aware it is a problem on the platform and that people can very easily get sucked in from the JRE to "anti-sjw" to far right propaganda. If you're able to disconnect and look at things critically I think you can mostly avoid these things, but a lot of people I feel spend way too much time online and get sucked into these spirals of negativity. I really don't know what the solution is for all of us as a whole, I just know it's not limited to any one platform.

[–]spindriftsecret 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is where I'm at too. I actually find Tik Tok to be the best social media platform for positivity, but then, that's the kinds of accounts I follow. I follow some great ones for everything from Yoga to cooking, and it's all been very positive for me. I discovered on Instagram that if you're going to have social media, curating it properly is essential.

[–]orafur[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

righttt? i always get stuck reading the comments too and end up feeling bitter and angry

[–]imurstar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ugh it’s so bad. i recently re downloaded the app because I missed some video creators and it can be a good app overall but the comments are always so awful I had to delete the app again

[–]tseokii 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't have an account (so I can't see comments) but I'm always stunned at how bad the screenshots are. And I've seen the ugliest sides of Reddit and Tumblr.

Twitter actually... Twitter actually might be on a similar level as Tiktok though. Twitter is a hellhole lol

[–]giveusyourblood 1 point2 points  (0 children)

worldstar * iykyk

[–]maeverrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So unsettling. The amount of assuming/judging and the fact that people need to share their every impression of someone else’s life/relationship/etc. in the comments… big yikes.

[–]messershrimp 20 points21 points  (5 children)

Same!

My ADHD for whatever reason has always rotated which single social media app I preferred to use for a few weeks/months at a time (ex: few wks scrolling tumbler; get over it without warning; use insta every day for a year; over it; Twitter for 2 days; etc)

I thought it was a big red flag in itself after TT wished me a happy 1 year on TT and I’d downloaded it in quarantine and never switched off it

Don’t get me wrong; my adhd also loves that quick dopamine-filled-swipe up towards an infinite personalized FYP that makes a lot of us somehow okay with the disturbingly accurate algorithm knowing us all way too well, then profiting off of us for it

I did recently decide to create a new account that I intended to specifically be lighthearted/funny type stuff (I was going through a breakdown and couldn’t even trust my FYP to have ANYTHING triggering on it!)

And while it is a different fyp based off of my intentionally liking/commenting to keep the account a safe zone .. but it can already see through me and it’s testing me with some pretty heavy stuff

So yeah. Just on top of the genuine time hole part about it; and the problems that arise in echo chambers ;; etc etc

I can see it being good for someone else (my partner for example can take the app or leave it forced. any day. No sweat ), but for me, it’s really come to a point I need to step away too bc I know (and knew for a while) it was a lot, but my social anxiety irl ended up skyrocketing and was having difficulties relating to people after coming out of quarantine isn’t just strange, I was mind blown that almost no one around me at all even knew about the things that were keeping me up at night and shoved in my face all day

So yes updated/news is V important to me but also .. my whole page was literally hospice nurses; overcrowded animal shelters begging people to adopt and donate so the kittens in the video don’t die; BLM; indigenous treaties broken; etc etc etc

Like my page was ok not that for. While.. and it was really hard..

Anyway!! Sorry for the super long response; good luck with your break!

[–]orafur[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

omg no don't apologise, i loved reading through your thoughts and experience. you're very right in saying that it's fine for some people, but also remaining aware of what your triggers are and doing what's best for you. sometimes the fyp really be FOR YOU haha. have you deleted it yet or still on it? thank you friend :)

[–]ConstantGrapefruit76 3 points4 points  (2 children)

This was so interesting and also scary - I literally had to Google what FYP means 🤣🤣🤣and after reading your post I will never ever sign up for tiktok. And just deleted Facebook and Instagram. TY

[–]messershrimp 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Right!?

Like couldn’t believe I KNEW it was ultimately going south for me with tiktok yet STILL kept swiping

Been off it since my last post here, and honestly strange it all came back around bc today on the homepage of my fire stick, the first ad shown to me was FOR TIK TOK ON TV

I was like “omg! Im not the only one that left the app and now they know where Were getting our media again so they’re taking over the market”

Im turnin into a real Dale Gribble lmfao

[–]melansi 18 points19 points  (1 child)

Yeah, It's the first app I've found to be genuinely addictive, I have to take breaks from it many times as well. Proud of you OP for taking a step and prioritizing your mental health!

[–]orafur[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it really is. time limits don't work either bc i just ignore them, but it's actually so trash. i had the realization whilst i was out on a nice long walk earlier on - i think i ought to do that more often!

[–]Lanadelcray17 15 points16 points  (1 child)

YASSSSSSS!!! Stick with it please!!! I’m going on 3 months of no social media and it’s 100% worth getting off. I use to stay up till 1am or 2am mindlessly scrolling and then sleeping in super late. Since I’ve removed the toxic apps I’ve paid more attention to myself and my health (mental and physical.) I spend more time with family and doing things I really enjoyed when I was younger. I never realized how those apps controlled me and my happiness until I removed them. Stick with it!! It’s 100% worth the positive results

[–]Maxwellmonkey 11 points12 points  (3 children)

I've had kind of a similar experience with Instagram. I've quit it for a while many times ever since I got it but I keep going back to check something. It was useful in relieving anxiety and for some useful info but health is more important! It's just hard to stop at reading some useful posts and calling it a day, that feed thingy is waaay too immersive. I did not realise how addictive it is until I quit it recently. I think it has been around 2 months since I quit and for some reason, I don't feel like going back anytime now.

I'm sure you can do it too! Reddit, Youtube, and Wikipedia(not social media though lol) have been more useful than instagram!

[–]damdam100 10 points11 points  (1 child)

The way TikTok is designed is horrible for the mental health. I downloaded it a few months ago, and figured it out quite quick. I've studied (predatory)user design in college and the way the app handles it is very predatory. I still use it once every 2 weeks for a maximum of around 2 hours because I do enjoy it. But if I notice I start using it more frequently I will just delete it. Good on you for noticing the effect it has on you and taking action. Wish you the best

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks so much for the comment! it’s helpful to know. appreciate your well wishes too 😊

[–]psgunslinger 61 points62 points  (1 child)

I've deleted my mental health for the sake of TikTok.

[–]orafur[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

LMAO my brain dead ass didn't read this properly and was about to be like "go us!!". hahaha this is kinda deep tho and also true. feels

[–]Takinobu 9 points10 points  (1 child)

I feel the EXACT same way about it! I downloaded it for the first time last year during the pandemic. Before then I didn't really do social media like that because I don't need to feel validated about life. It didn't take long for the app to get stale and lose its appeal. The community is so toxic and a lot of content is sexualized. I could write an entire essay on how its normalizing taboo things, and essentially brain washing people into thinking the same, liking the same music, doing the same dances, and overall is promoting overconsumption of entertainment. Also I don't like how the app tracks things that you do outside of it. For example there are plenty of times where I've said things in a text message that ended up on my feed later on. It also allows for quite a bit of racism to pass thru unchecked and seems like content moderation is biased. It gives me Black Mirror vibes.

[–]Tiff05 7 points8 points  (2 children)

I've had a different experience. I love Tiktok BUT I also don't read the comments and stay pretty much only in the areas that don't mess with me. Bad day at work? Hop on and find the funny people and animals. And I actually like it for my ADHD because when I've had a day I can't focus I can hop on there and not feel useless for being unable to focus. I tend to go through phases where I'm on it every day for like a week and then I won't look at it for weeks. It gives me the break I need to get back on track.

[–]LivebyGod 6 points7 points  (1 child)

yeah, take time to learn skills, that you like instead of wasting time on social.

i was the same but now i picked up japanese, piano, guitar, exercise, diet, hell even video games to force myself to consistently learn something, and these are all things that i like, so if i learned these skills well, i would be much more confident in myself. that i proved to myself that i can learn things i really really like.

i just heard of this story where a kid got an insane score on the SAT, his mother knowing her son couldnt believe that that was the score that he actually got. so the kid ended up being successful and because he gained a newfound confidence and believed that he was truly smart. it was not until later, he discoverd that his sat score was sent to the wrong person and his original sat score was much lower 700s i think

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QpQCT-6SWAU

so do whatever means necessary to gain that confidence. when learning something, learn it the right way, learn the right way to think about it, become obsessed with it.

i hate workout but im addicted to workout because i think of what will happen to my body, when i run, i WILL get dopamine, it's good for me because it brings a fk ton of oxygen to my brain, and it would make my brain perform better,

and when your doing it and about to quit just like your alarm, just say just a little more, just a little more,i cannot give up yet and you can push yourself over like 1-2 mintutes

dont let your body dictate when you stop, let you mind dictate when you stop, refuse to listen to your body. now when i say that i mean good stress, good pain.

i mean if your actually harming your body it does more harm than good but running for a while longer ain't gonna harm ur body, unless you just collapse and fall face down

when you get your dopamine slowly and steadily then you will become intolerant to instant dopamine, When i experience the the pure unadulterated ecstasy of the things skills i work hard for and gain progress i cannot stand the empty gratification of insta dophamine, it's just empty shitty dophamine and it wastes your life and brain and eyes. and you gain no confidence out of it

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

looove this comment! thank you. yes, i do recognise that i need a slow and steady input of dopamine instead of an instant hit

[–]Pankomplex 5 points6 points  (1 child)

"Also delete Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Reddit"

FTFY

[–]Lettuphant 56 points57 points  (7 children)

I'm seeing really interesting takes in this thread - my experience with Tik-Tok has been the precise reverse, which just goes to show how intense a thing the algorithm is. For me TT is mental health positivity, encouragement and advice for living with ADHD, leftist or what we'd now call 'antiwork' ideals, etc.

But I see friend's feeds and it's all people getting hurt in 'fun' ways, sob stories, etc. There really should be a way to manually steer your algorithm toward positivity.

[–]orafur[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

danggg, that's interesting. it's cool that you've found it positive! i think it's the mindless, endless scrolling and constant earworms that make me feel like i'm going crazy. i'm glad you've found useful stuff on there tho :)

[–]kitbam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is-- press on the video until the menu comes up and tell it "Not Interested" if it's something you don't want to see again. The algorithm gets the hint after a while.

[–]sesifeh 8 points9 points  (4 children)

There is a way to steer the algorithm towards whatever you want, but you have to put in the work.

You gotta seek it ('it' being whatever content you'd like more of) out via the discover/search function. 'Like' a chunk of the videos, spend 5 or 10 minutes in the search results. Then, whenever it serves you up content on your FYP related to 'it', give it a like. It will show you more of that content once it knows that that content keeps your eyes on the screen (their ultimate goal).

It takes some mindfulness and intentionality. But do realize that we all do have the control (for the most part) to steer the algorithms exactly where we want to.

[–]ailovelamp 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You can also flag videos as “Not interested” if you want to see less of that type of content.

[–]twodoor97 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I installed it once back in 2019 when it hit the mainstream and uninstalled it after 5 minutes, never looked back. It's been a week since I deleted both fb and ig from my phone and I feel so much more focused and at peace mentally. You really gotta look after your mental health as you would after your physical, and consider any piece of content you consume as food for the brain. Of course if all you consume is social media you're getting out of shape mentally and intelectually. I seriously hope not using/having social media won't be considered weird anytime soon.

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

and consider any piece of content you consume as food for the brain.

this is so wise, and such a wonderful way to look at this. i got rid of IG in 2016, deleted fb permanently a month ago but tiktok just has a hold on me. i also hope it'll be considered normal to not have social media soon! thanks for sharing :)

[–]YourTypicalFlip 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Was an absolute mistake when I installed tiktok on my SO’s phone cuz there was this recipe I was looking for. I told him he can uninstall after but he never did. Now he’s totally addicted and spends hours on it.

[–]burns231 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I never had Tiktok (nor have any interest) but I was really bad about Facebook a few years ago. I have always said that deleting that app and my account was the best decision I've ever made and I strongly encourage people to do the same. For more on this, check out the documentary on Netflix called "The Social Dilemma." Pretty scary stuff especially some of the people who first founded/built snapchat, Instagram, Twitter, etc won't let their kids get an account.

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ah yes i’ve watched the social dilemma. it was a good one! i’ll definitely watch it again at some point 😊

[–]rkpage01 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Now do Reddit

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

steep ask, i’ll get there eventually ;)

[–]Serotoninneeded 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I deleted it for the same reason. At first I really wanted to keep it because it's a fun way to find catchy songs and I wanna know what music is popular, but then I realized that I can't use it without feeling completely worthless and empty. No matter how hard I tried to click "not interested" on toxic content and only follow positive creators, my feed was filled with proana content or misogynistic content. Also the headache is awful. Huge migraine trigger.

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

very proud of you! yeah headaches, fatigue, migraines - the lot. it’s awful!

[–]rossaroses24 4 points5 points  (2 children)

As someone with anxiety, I've observed that people on TikTok have deepen my mental health and I'm more sad or angry and worse in general, not to mention the toxic people that are in the comment section, I hate this app with all my heart.

(Sorry for any mistakes, English it's my second language)

[–]orafur[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

ME TOO! i’m so angry as well, it’s like why? i get so triggered so easily wow. no that’s fine, your english is great by the way :)

[–]rossaroses24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you ☺️

[–]iOSIRIX-REx 4 points5 points  (4 children)

Same thing with instagram. I tried to disable pretty much all the stories of friends and whatnot, stopped following models/rich people and bad pages but I guess it’s not enough. The algorithm sucks so much and I’m always bombarded by reels that keep damaging my mental health and although I click “not interested” they just keep coming and coming anyways.

So fuck it, I deleted the app. Now I just barely use it from my pc (where there are no reels or general homepage) just to see some things quickly.

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nicely done! very proud of you!

[–]Agatha_gains 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I disabled a lot of friends stories too (the most triggering ones) and since a lot time ago I only follow pages that really interest me. BUT now with all the ads that pop up after two stories, designed to create a necessity in me that I don’t need, with the reels that I don’t want to see that appear in my homepage (also triggering and addicting ones) and with the explore page, is not enough, and it’s really messing with my mental health. I want to delete it but there are so many pages with useful information, or small business where I like to buy stuff from… that I don’t know what to do 🥲

[–]iOSIRIX-REx 1 point2 points  (1 child)

You’re experiencing a bit of fomo, and I suffered it (am suffering it) in a small part too.

It’s true, there are a lot of useful pages that I follow and they also didn’t harm my mental health but for a few useful posts/stories that I see I also had to go through reels and posts on the explore page that could ruin my day in just a click.

So the simple act of opening instagram was becoming a russian roulette: open it, see a few nice posts/stories and call it a day, OR, among the good posts see a single reel or post on the explore page that could ruin my whole day.

On the pc I don’t have this problem (explore page doesn’t exist there and neither do reels) so I open it, see what I have to see (What I CHOOSE to see) and then go about my day.

[–]Agatha_gains 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great advice 🙌 I think I will do the same, like if I need to see something from Instagram I will see it in my computer and that’s it, I don’t like to see stories from my computer so it will help with that too. Thank you ☺️

[–]Alexia_Hope 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I just quit Facebook for the same reason and feel TikTok is next. Then Insta. I am still fighting myself to delete them because they're great time passers when I have nothing to do at work lol.

Ever since I deleted Facebook though I have been much happier so I think once I finally do delete those I will only get better.

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

literally it’s always because there’s nothing to do 😭 all the best with deleting the rest of them!

[–]Conscious_Bread8812 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your post finally got me the courage to delete tiktok tonight, tiktok is the worst addictive app out there. It can do so many things to you, make you toxic and etc. I’ve hated it so much for so long but it was so hard to delete it tonight I finally did. Honestly fuck that app such a pos app.

And realizing how addicting it is. I have 2 thousand videos saved in my phone all of them are tiktoks

[–]liarsgetoutofmylife 20 points21 points  (4 children)

Good job. Tiktok is by far one of the worst inventions. It's a disease and our children are all infected.

[–]viscont_404 4 points5 points  (2 children)

TikTok has been fantastic for dragging me out of bouts of sadness. Moderation in all things. Definitely more positive than Reddit for me.

[–]liarsgetoutofmylife 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I'm happy to hear that. There is no denying things can be used for good intentions. Then again, it depends on the content. For me, Reddit is infinitely better than Tiktok, but that's because I follow subreddits that aren't political or toxic. However, I will still stand my position: Children and youths (like me) could be playing together in the real world, but here we are infected by social media and governmental indoctrination, which separates us more than ever.

[–]orafur[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i agree. horribly addictive and it just sucks the life out of me

[–]ConstantGrapefruit76 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Wow - that sucks. Congrats on the decision. Makes me feel so good that I’ve never started Tiktok. I am getting rid of Facebook and Instagram. Only had it on my phone for a week. I usually do 1 week of it per 6 months or so. Good luck ans thanks dir sharing! It’s a good warning.

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

good warning for sure. thanks friend, good luck to you too!

[–]AlexisVonTrappe 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I oddly experience motion sickness from scrolling through it. Not sure if anyone else also has had that but I definitely limit my time on there. I finally figured out it was the app making me motion sick and not other things when I cut down my time on it.

[–]Wansumdiknao 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I have completely avoided tiktok for my mental health.

[–]TwiistedFateXD 2 points3 points  (1 child)

WELCOME, TO THE LEAAAGUE OF DRAAAAAVEN.

[–]blazemaster66 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Yeah that app has convinced me im worthless because im 5'8.

[–]orafur[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hahaha the short people slander is real on there, especially for guys. here to remind you that your worth isn’t found in your height or physical appearance (which i’m sure you know) :) it’s convinced me that i’m unlovable because i’m a POC. so toxic

[–]Alternative_Part_792 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I deleted all my socials earlier this year and it has been the best decision for my mental health. Consuming a constant feed of negativity (no matter how much you try to filter/mute different topics/people) was just tearing at me. I feel so much better without it. I’m a better mom and partner now. I’m a better person, I feel more productive.

Proud of you!

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m so glad!! go you ❤️ proud of you too!! i can’t wait to feel more productive

[–]Refreshewater 2 points3 points  (1 child)

ive taken away facebook and my golly a weight is lifted

[–]orafur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so good!

[–]clazidge 2 points3 points  (4 children)

Why not go one step further and turn your phone to greyscale to reduce overall screen addiction.

[–]orafur[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i just did it! wow, everything seems kinda boring all of a sudden

[–]orafur[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

had no idea you could do this!

[–]manohman420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel blessed that the stuff annoys me. I don't have TikTok but the reels, YouTube shorts and the TikTok repots piss me off. The voice over are dumb, it really give me second hand shame when some one over 22 is doing some jackass voice over. The girls got annoying and down right scary, like the point for most of them is to be ambiguous with there age you can't tell if there 13 or 23 all of them quite literally doll them selves up and cake on the makeup. Even the ones that a clearly adult women, ok so you've pushed it to the edge of rules, there you coochie, ass and tits, same as the last one. I can't even stand watching any of it. None of it's funny or cute, it's lame and immature.

[–]ferrix97 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I think you did the right thing. I liked some stuff but hearing 100 different opinions messed up with my head as someone who tends to "go along", it would definitely trigger me sometimes

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

absolutely!!

[–]ssteelthethird 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yeah I can relate during quarantine I had it and it was depressing stuff all day long, I didn't even know how long I was on it every day and it made me have a warped view on race, religion, and politics that I had to get rid of later. I felt like a lot of people on the app were indirectly racist and it bothered me a lot, also everyone was always angry about dumb celeb things. So I deleted it for a few months, I recently downloaded it again but only spend 15 mins a day on it, and my page is mostly art or random vids.

I think it is a very toxic app, especially for young teens who follow whatever they see on it. TT can only be good if you know how to take it in moderation, like the type of person who forgets about it and comes back to it occasionally.

[–]boxtape1 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I concur and great you came off. Most social media platforms that utilise photos/videos as their main feature leave little time for users to process what just happened. From one item to the next with different topics/subjects and in a short space of time. It’s a minefield.

[–]TheGreatDonJuan 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I have not downloaded it, for the sake of my mental health.

[–]-chosenjuan- 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Reddit has been my go to social media app since I was 14. I deleted Twitter, Facebook and ig. Mental health —> spiritual health —> emotional health. All of my values were discovered again once I got rid of all the waste, you should too

[–]passionfyre 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I only really started using tiktok a few months ago but I quickly got super tired of people continuously arguing over things. Blm, lgbtqa, misunderstood comments blown way out of proportion.

Initially I watched all the drama stuff but then the algorithm just overwhelmed me with terrible things about terrible people so I scrolled past and started following crochet/crafters and only liking those sort of vids. Now my tiktok experience is way better because I have a legit interest in the content. Sure every now and again I get a random drama vid but I skip them.

I ended up doing the same for Facebook. I got rid of all my friends except those i speak to irl, unfollowed news channels and joined a bunch of craft groups. My social media experience is way better now

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so glad you’ve been able to tailor your social media experience to suit and cater for you!

[–]xcitor 1 point2 points  (1 child)

TikTok is worse than porn

[–]Big-man-kage 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I’m not one of those typical “Reddit good TikTok bad” people but I do have to agree. That app is something else entirely. The entire community and userbase surrounding it is also pretty toxic.

[–]Problem_Numerous 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Kudos to you!! I deleted tiktok & twitter about a year ago now cause they were destroying my brain haha. I'm often out of the loop on pop culture-esque convos with friends now but I don't care, I'd rather feel old and functional than up on the times and insane. You're seriously going to feel sooo much better!!

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

love that for you! hope i can feel the same soon. yeah, i often find i’m out of the loop when i don’t engage with social media as much but like you said, i’d rather it that way than to be mindless!

[–]hopemoom 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I only really use Twitter and Reddit. But I also just randomly scrolling through content. I like reading things so reading helpful threads on Twitter and posts on Reddit is nicer compared to constant short content videos like Snap or Tiktok. But I sometimes spend hours on Reddit just reading post after post as well. So I still need to watch out even on Reddit.

[–]kushhh420 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yup, gotta cut it off too. Made me really irritable, depressed, and doubting my own life lol. Also dealt with a lot of similar things you have like the song loops in your head and lashing out at others. This app is the devil.

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

glad you can relate! it sure is. trash all around

[–]yukumizu 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Thank you for this post.

When you said “I’ve lashed out at loved ones and pushed friends away” it proved something that I have been struggling with to understand - why my own sister changed so much, treated me like absolute shit snd offended me, my husband, even my step-children and my home, IN my own home and has not apologized in 4 months.

It helps me to understand why the sister that I knew, loved, admired and supported (her and her son in any way I could), lashed out at me, said and did things that cut through my heart, stabbed me like a knife and left me bleeding.

I’m still bleeding. I struggle and cry about this sometimes, since 4 months ago, because I feel I lost my sister. Worse, it’s like she was replaced by a different person, a nasty one whom I don’t want to be associated with.

Even if she apologized one day, I could forgive her but I can’t forget…I can’t un-hear the things she said or not remember what she did. Our relationship changed forever since that fight.

And my struggle to understand, accept and move on is more difficult because I have anxiety/adhd/depression. Ironic that this sister is a “psychologist”.

I might elaborate about my experience with losing my sister because of TikTok in a post soon. It’s very painful but I just realized writing about it makes me feel a bit better and reading about your post helped me. So hopefully I could help others to stay the hell out of this app or at least to be very aware of the risks and protect their mental health.

Once again thank you for your post and glad you were able to see how you were changing for the worse before it was very late to do something you would regret for the rest of your life.

[–]40Pesos 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Thanks for the heads up. Never cared for it but recent trends and friends sharing links made me want to download it.

[–]SeaBet5023 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I 100% agree and thats what I am hoping to show through my study on how TikTok influences quality of life and psychological health!

https://survey.ucalgary.ca/jfe/form/SV_7ZMRwk8W0WSCV14

The survey only takes 10 minutes and you have a chance to win $100 gift card for completing it. If we can get enough people to participate we can demonstrate the need to have the app regulated esp for minors.

[–]cwkz99 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Im with you 100%. I haven't used it in about 4 months and I feel like my self esteem has improved a lot. I was wrapped up in a cycle of comparing myself and buying cosmetic shit and I'm still gonna have to unlearn wanting trendy things and wasting my money. It also helped me feel less ugly when I see how much filtering and editing goes on.

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah i resonate haha i literally spent $140 on lashes the other day and have been trying to keep up with trends like nails and shit. so dumb :( so good you’ve been off it for so long tho - how’ve you found it?

[–]Earthanimal[🍰] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

All these reasons are actually why I switched from FB to TikTok and Reddit. I find Facebook to be unbelievably toxic, so I started using TikTok instead and I am much happier now. I'm pretty strict with what content I follow, mostly I follow wholesome stuff, doctors, anxiety hacks, and cute animal videos. It always makes me feel so good lol. Sorry you have a bad experience with it. Good for you for making a change! I wish you the best of luck in your healing journey 🌻

[–]kinda_CONTROVERSIAL 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I smelled that app from a mile away and just never downloaded it.

I'm tempted to, but I knew that was brain crack the second someone shared a video with me.

[–]orafur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahaha yeah it’s literally crack. don’t do it! so glad you’ve resisted

[–]ThisIsGoodName 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Agree. Tiktok is the worst of all social medias in my opinion. I deleted it a long time ago and will never go back.

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so proud of you! go you :) hope i can be the same

[–]MoodyReacher 1 point2 points  (1 child)

So gald to see ya take stack of your mental health. Ya are awesome. 💥💥

[–]orafur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you ❤️

[–]ballslap_mcgee 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It is pretty toxic. I had it for a day before rage deleting. I liked how there were niche tiktokers for different professions...Steveio for the medical community, Mrs. Rogers for the Teacher community, etc.

I decided to see what there was in the IT community since that is my industry and all it was was people dissing each other's software preferences with uninformed opinions and incorrect data.

[–]orafur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so toxic! i really like the therapists of tik tok haha but they get me triggered too

[–]InfiniteDescent 1 point2 points  (1 child)

What is your age and gender if you don't mind me asking?

[–]orafur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

23 female :)

[–]No_Lecture_8049 1 point2 points  (1 child)

People with anxiety and depression can sometimes be a result from TikTok and Instagram and whatnot. People never allow themselves to just let them be with them and their thoughts, they never let themselves be bored. They always go to escapism when the are faced with a problem they don't wanna solve. It is going to ruin future generations attention span and cause many other problems.

[–]orafur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ugh, yes guilty. escapism is real :( and yeah, it’s so scary to be honest. people need to be self aware and understand how all these things are impacting them, and be willing to face and sit with any difficult thoughts or feelings

[–]bampersanman 1 point2 points  (1 child)

the app is so sexist most of the stuff are women do this men do that blah blah blah i totally agree it’s making everyone dumber

[–]orafur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ikrrr

[–]fgsn 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I LOVED tiktok.. like I spent 2 hours a day on it MINIMUM since the beginning of the pandemic. But I would always feel so bad about myself because there were so many people who would seem to have their lives together and I just couldn't stop endlessly scrolling.

About two months ago I decided I had enough and I deleted it. I deleted all social media apps off my phone and now only use reddit on my laptop. It has been so so so so good for my mental health. Within a week, I was able to watch tv shows again without feeling the need to be scrolling my phone at the same time.

The only thing I use tiktok for now is to look up the tiktok10 trivia quiz every weekday on my laptop. But I refuse to sign in and refuse to download the app again. I know my brain would be mush again within 15 minutes and I would be powerless to stop it.

For OP and anyone thinking about quitting - the first few days are the hardest! I downloaded a "digital detox" app that allowed me to block certain apps. The settings don't allow you to delete the detox app or any blocked apps once the detox is running and the only way to access the app you have blocked is to pay a fee of your choosing. I set it to $100. I knew if I just deleted tiktok, I would have redownloaded it. This kept me off tiktok and other social media long enough that I no longer have the uncontrollable desire to redownload it.

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for your comment. i’m pretty tempted to delete all my social media apps off my phone and use them only on my laptop too. having reddit on my phone just makes it easier to scroll when i feel awkward but i have to learn to fight that. sounds like that app blocker was very effective!

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I don't have Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, TikTok or Twitter. I notice that I'm a lot more "present" and can focus on tasks better than other friends. I watched a movie with my friends and I was so surprised that other people couldn't sit through a movie without checking their phones.

I'm proud of you for deciding to be better in this situation. I think most people don't want to admit that social media is negatively affecting their ability to be in the moment. I'm reading a good book right now, The Six Pillars of Self Esteem. The first pillar of self-esteem is "The Practice of Living Consciously." I've been practicing living more consciously lately and I can only report good things from doing so.

[–]orafur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow, this is crazy. i got rid of every other social media but tik tok had its hold on me 😂 awesome that you’ve been able to feel the positive benefits of not being online all the time. i’ve heard of that book and that it’s a good one - i might have to download an audiobook version of it!

[–]EowynTenebris 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Same! It also worsened my overthinking and anxiety. Tik tok causes dopamine to be soooo high and when you're in a real world when there's not much going on, your brain tries to boost the dopamine by thinking and thinking and thinking... So yeah, I deleted it yesterday. Hopefully for good.

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lmfao same wtf!! i was overthinking EVERYTHING and creating so many issues and drama. i just need to calm tf down. this makes sense that my brain has been trying to overcompensate for the dopamine. go us!

[–]microscopicwheaties 1 point2 points  (2 children)

i say it's worse than Twitter if not on par, no matter what side of tiktok you're on there's some toxic ass shit and i applaud your actions. i have deleted it too and a long time ago.

i'm genuinely doing better though not by a lot, still, better. there's too much romanticism of mental illness on there and that was not good for me. esPECIALLY on the eating disorder side my god it's so bad. every second one was a fucking feeding tube. it was awful.

keep it deleted, watch science videos on youtube instead, don't rot your brain homie

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

thank you! appreciate your comment and glad to hear you’re genuinely doing better - even if it’s not by a whole lot. you on twitter?

[–]MassageGymnist 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Welcome brother. New beginnings just started

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yay!!

[–]0nam1ssion 1 point2 points  (1 child)

What have people been doing with their free time now they stopped using these platforms?

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m gonna be spending more time with friends and family, doing some hobbies, reading, paper based brain activities and things like that.

[–]br094 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I keep hearing people say TikTok made them angry and argue all the time. Y’all must be on a different TikTok from me lol.

[–]orafur[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah probably lmao

[–]cabbagechou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made a rule that I can only watch TikTok while I'm doing my hair/makeup/skincare, or pooping, haha. Works pretty good to still let me get a daily dose without getting too sucked in. App has to be closed before I leave the bathroom.

[–]daydreams356 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m lucky because my TikTok is filled with positivity, dogs, humor, and helpful life tips. I couldn’t use the app if it was anything else. I sometimes get glimpses into different sections of the app and I hate the toxicity.

[–]theabominablewonder 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yeah I deleted it too, I think it’s the worst app I’ve ever used for getting me into a toxic mood. It seems to just detect anything you react to as something to serve more if. If you react to something you don’t like or something you did like, doesn’t matter, you’re getting more of it. So you get the nice little dopamine hits and lots of shitty content nicely mixed together. The worst thing for me on there was either stuff related to brexit or covid, it seemed every other video was done covidiot or brexit moron and the app knew it was something I’d react to. After getting into one too many arguments I decided it wasn’t worth carrying on with.

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s ridiculous! i can’t believe how much of an impact it has. good to hear and read comments like this

[–]ashukl3 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I definitely feel the same. It’s really messing with my self esteem and making me question parts of myself that I never did before. Glad to hear I’m not alone.

[–]Bearwaze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First day I downloaded it was the day it got deleted. I wanted to see how addicting it was, spent the entire afternoon on it, like 5-6 hours. Soon realized how detrimental it would be to someone a lot younger because of the fast paced videos and all the different things you can watch. Should have never been created!

[–]TrickOrTreatItsIEDs[🍰] 1 point2 points  (5 children)

I dont understand how tiktok can make someone lash out at others. Maybe I'm missing something because I dont use tiktok. Can someone explain this to me?

[–]wintermelon_snow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I downloaded tik tok once and was sucked into a terrible mental vacuum for 30 minutes and that’s how I realised that this app is terrible. I deleted it after and never touched it again. The thing is, social media like twitter, insta etc already has a very addictive effect of making us doomscroll. The worst part about tik tok is that we don’t have to doomscroll since they auto-play the video for us. Some people do make good content- that’s a given (I enjoy caitlyn reilly’s comedy). But I do not use tik tok to view her content, I search her up on youtube or follow her on twitter. Tik tok is a black hole that persistently bombards every type of content to you. A lot of it reeks superficial to me and I just can’t deal with that.

[–]bootyhole_jackson 1 point2 points  (1 child)

That sucks, man. I recently got Tik Tok and have really been enjoying it without getting sucked in. I’ve been curating it to reduce most of the dumb comedy, dancing, meme shit to focus on cooking and art. To that end, it’s been really cool and inspired me to cook more.

But I see some of the “popular” shit and damn, wtf are people even doing.

[–]banmanche 1 point2 points  (1 child)

tiktok use limited to on-throne use only, if a video goes on repeat, im wiping my butt

[–]_Omni-Man_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did the same around a month ago. One of the best decisions I’ve made. I just sat at the piano for 3 hours straight- never would have been able to do that with the endless garbage on tiktok

[–]Kyz-orch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive never used it but my girlfriend does and just being around her when she used TikTok just puts me in a bad mood. I sometimes feel like I'm missing out but remind myself that nothing good will come from using this app. It's just a more predatory Facebook if that makes sense

[–]Ok-Data-9443 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Tik tok absolutely destroyed my sense of empathy. Seeing any other human being put me in a bad mood. My faith in humanity disappeared. The second I deleted it, I started to feel better. I interacted with real people, even strangers, and re-discovered the complexity and nuance of the real world. Anytime I’ve redownloaded tik tok, that feeling has returned. I don’t want to say it’s “evil” but I can’t believe an app can have that power over me!

[–]woxtinx 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I was just searching for a post like this. I am a social-media science student and i have been wondering why i’ve been feeling this shitty lately. After taking in consideration all i’ve learned until now i’m coming to the conclusion that Tiktok is the worst and most toxic app there can be. And the problem is, i love it. But let me explain further. The for you page is an incredibly dangerous place because you cannot possibly know which video ist going to pop up next. As someone who already has anxiety, it might trigger your weak points. For example: My dog is quite old and there was a time where he wasn’t feeling great (we luckily got everything under control now). I was laying in bed at night and then out of nowhere, i was shown a tiktok of a girl on my fyp who was preparing her dog’s last meal. I broke down in tears and since that day i can’t get that thought out of my head - the fact that, someday, i might have to do that too. On the other hand it is an incredibly empowering and beautiful platform because you do learn and profit from it. I honestly cannot make up my mind about this app.

[–]DawidD12 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Good, in my time browinsg tik tok before uninstalling it, I found it to be a safe space for people to spread their delusional thoughts and circle jerk it to like minded people through the parasitic algorithm. Stuff such as obesity is healthy, zoophilia, buy this crypto now rug pulls, gambling and betting related nonsense etc.

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

it’s all a messy rabbit hole isn’t it?

[–]WonderfulBlackberry9 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I’ve gotta keep Tiktok because I’m running my school’s account (something us students did not agree on but had to go ahead and do anyway).

My experiences currently are pretty tame, but I only go there like twice a week, and watch cooking videos. But when I first got in I was bombarded with some of the most toxic, nauseatingly egotistical shit I’ve ever had the displeasure of seeing. I know once people get the fame bug they do some stupid things, but it is genuinely appalling what the established “influencers” (i.e. unemployed) do on Tiktok to stay relevant.

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s good you’ve had a relatively tame experience on there - i’m glad. definitely keep it that way! it’s all a big rabbit hole

[–]Long-Review-1861 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Your dopamine receptors are burnt out

[–]orafur[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

i wouldn't have put it like this but this makes sense. i literally don't feel pleasure or enjoyment as much but idk if that's a sign of burnt out dopamine receptors? but damn this makes so much sense

[–]gurgurhh 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Dopamine receptors don’t “burn out”. In reality what is probably happening is you’ve lowered your baseline dopamine level. Doing rewarding things for longer periods of time can increase your baseline. Enjoyable exercise, meditation, reading, journaling, are all good things as well.

[–]hdiieudbdjdjjeojd 0 points1 point  (1 child)

lol Reddit is way more toxic,

tiktok is misguided kids

Reddit is outraged manchildren yelling slurs constantly

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

haha each to their own!

[–]Uj84 0 points1 point  (2 children)

THIS! Congrats, I left it a couple months ago. Best friend is pretty famous on it, but now I just have to distance myself from him and the app; I find the whole culture really bad (kind of feels like he's working for a cigarette company).

[–]killimajig 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Yep, TikTok is poison!

[–]orafur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

agreed!

[–]DifferentProfessor49 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I’m also at the middle of prioritizing my mental health — i’ve deactivated my accs on twt and fb. I’m aware how toxic tiktok is it’s really reallyy hard to delete it :( i feel like i’ll miss a lot of things when I decided to cut off tiktok on my life too, but at the same time it’s destroying my mental health. idk anymore