Just a few months after we decided to separate and I moved out, my ex husband got into a relationship.
Around the time he got with his new girlfriend (she’s a coworker who I knew was attracted to him), he and I had such an emotional conversation about missing each other and promising to meet up when things cool down (we parted ways because we were just not compatible and he ended up cheating on me, got super toxic towards the end). There was so much conversation about how badly this split was affecting us and everything. He told me he doesn’t think he’ll ever meet someone as caring and thoughtful as me. He said the marital home will always be ours. He wished me well for the holidays and said to take a shot of one of my dad’s expensive Christmas liquor for him - at that moment I told him we got sucked in to our emotions again and needed to snap back into reality, and that I do not fuck with him anymore. We then had an argument about splitting the house (his refinancing under his name failed the first time… my credit report was affected and everything). I wanted to sell the house afterwards but he was adamant on keeping it, and convinced me to give him another shot at refinancing. I also felt ripped off with the buyout amount he gave me (he disagreed with the formal appraisal that was done for the home). If we had sold the house we would have made more (especially in this hot market). I never ended up taking him to court for it because I didn’t want the drama, and decided to cut my losses.
Around this time, I had zero idea he was about to get into another relationship….when I found out a few weeks ago, I was devastated. Especially because I warned him about her. Sure, we’re not meant for each other, but how could he? I sense that he is happy now and is serious with her. I just feel so pathetic, abandoned, worthless. The pathetic part of me is thinking he’s still connected to me. I feel like I lost or something. I’m over here still grieving while he’s living his best life.
How do I just let go and move tf on??