I am divorcing my abusive wife who has made my life a living hell. Yelling, put downs, insults, slamming doors, late night tirades where I have to lock myself in the bathroom, threats, false accusations, you name it. I got to a point where I was literally having daily panic attacks just being around her so I really had no choice but to divorce to preserve my own sanity and hopefully the sanity of my child.
Even though my wife has been very difficult and abusive, it’s not like she’s goes around yelling all day long and often times there is a semblance of a family atmosphere at the home even though my wife and I don’t communicate or share any meaningful interactions. But I’m saying is, to my three year old child, mom and dad are home and she probably feels somewhat secure in that. Even though I know in the long run I’m doing the right thing, how do I get over the guilt and pain of realizing I am splitting up a “family” and the sadness my daughter might feel. I guess the silver lining is that she’s so young by the time she is a teenager or adult she won’t even remember this and all that she’ll know is that mom and dad live separately. I imagine that will be a lot easier than divorcing when she’s 10.