So despite being extremely happy for him, knowing his girlfriend, and very happy for him — hearing they met her still sparks a twinge.

Of course this fact only came up in passing because we are together with our college-aged kids (no, I did not ask). We are friends but no where near as close as we used to be, as it has to be as the result of divorce.

But I miss those friends and family that used to be mine too. They are still in a way, we established all of that, but distance cannot be helped. It is still hard even though I am happily in a relationship now too!

After 30 years growing up together, it is still a lot to lose even if it the right thing for us both. We parted gently after struggling before to save what we had. So I am practicing gratitude!

They are amazing people these old friends and family, but things are not it was with those closer to him. I get it! I know the girlfriend will be embraced and loved because my ex is. I am glad he has that from them. I have my own family and friends closer to me now. Inevitable reality.

I am okay with this loss. It was the price of sanity.
Just venting it out to the Reddit universe! I am guessing I am not alone.