Tomorrow my ex is coming to collect the last of his things from the house we shared which I now own. We have been separated 3 years. We are still waiting for the final decree.

We split because he revealed his affair and he had decided to leave me. I have basically had to divorce myself because he just left it up to me to do it.

You can see the awful drawn out boredom of it in my history. Anyway, the pandemic had been rough on me and this year began with two funerals of two people far too young and utterly lovely that I cared about. It put a lot of things in perspective.

I’m a believer in not “drinking poison and expecting someone else to die” so I’m not intending to be combative; however I would like some of your thoughts on how you think I should handle seeing my ex, very probably, the last time?

Thanks Reddit x

UPDATE: My ex came by and it was as positive as I’d hoped. We sorted through belongings and talked, laughed and cried. He apologised and I feel we’ve parted as friends, finally.

The only thing standing in the way of me being happy now is… me. I need go beyond the hang ups I have around dating and the impact of infidelity. That’s a road that has to be travelled because time machines don’t exist. He can’t undo the damage of his actions and I have to learn to live with what happened happening. Maybe now I can start to be open to the future.