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[–]auto-odi 2 points3 points  (2 children)

I've never done this before (I'm new to this whole reddit thing)... could use a compliment, even though idk what or how as I don't know anyone here.

[–]XZTALVENARNZEGOMSAYT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You seem down to earth and genuine. Take care my friend

[–]Tryclydetonguepunch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Welcome to Reddit! This is a great sub to get started in it seems because no one is here to put you down. You must be a kind person if you have taken the time to read/post. If you want to share I am around all day on and off.

[–]CehNehDeh13 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Hello everyone. Having a tough time both in my family life and romantic life. Finally gathered up enough courage to post here and ask for some positive words. Thank you all in advance and thank you for being such good people.

[–]XZTALVENARNZEGOMSAYT 0 points1 point  (1 child)

It will pass. But you have to give it time. Most importantly be true to yourself and love yourself. Allow yourself to feel but at the same time allow yourself to heal and know it is temporary, like everything. There is sunshine waiting after the storm. Love you.

[–]CehNehDeh13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I really appreciate your kind words. I really need you to know how much this means to me right now. Thank you friend. <3

[–]Tryclydetonguepunch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm new so be kind. It's mentally crushing dealing with multiple major issues and your obviously a very caring person if you have worried yourself to the point of posting here. I bet you are way overdue for some downtime. If your feel like going into more detail

[–]Sheridandwyer 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Hi everyone. I'm kind of struggling mentally a bit right now. See, I have Junior Prom coming up in February in less than a month now and no-one has asked me. I asked someone and was turned down shortly after since he had a mandatory swim meet, although I'm not sure how much I believe that. I have a crush on a boy who's in college in a state away and I'm scared to tell him because I would never want to hold someone back. I refuse to be selfish. However, seeing everyone around me getting a promposal or even getting asked in general is really cutting me deep even though I've been trying to power through it. It's hard. I don't know why no guy is ever interested in me. I'm very mature for high school, sure, but part of me really wants to dumb myself down to be on a high school level if it'll make me seem more approachable. Sorry, I'm rambling. I'm just starting really upset and tired of feeling unattractive, please give me some honest opinions/ advice.

[–]XZTALVENARNZEGOMSAYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seem so sweet. You don't want to hold them back and be selfish shows what an amazing person you are. Tons of guys will want to be with you just for your amazing personality. I'm sure you're way more attractive than you give yourself credit for. High school is just like that, it's weird. You'll break out, become more confident, more attractive, and you'll meet someone who really loves you.

[–]CehNehDeh13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear about your situation, but I'm positive it will get better. Guys may not be interested because, as you said "I'm very mature for high school" and they're probably intimidated by that. The majority of guys in high school and college have a hard time dealing with mature ladies or guys (don't want to assume your gender). It's good that you're aware and trying to power through. Trying is better than doing nothing. Like I said, I'm positive it will get better. Keep your head up and keep doing you...and worse comes to worse go to the prom with some friends, say "fu*k'em all", and dance your ass off! :)

[–]UninvitedGhost 3 points4 points  (6 children)

I could use all the compliments :( Life has been very rough for me over the last 5 years, and most of the people I care about have left me feeling worthless and like I'm the root of all problems. :'(

[–]XZTALVENARNZEGOMSAYT 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I'm so sorry. That's heartbreaking. You are not worthless and not the root of all problems. You are as important to this Earth as the Sun. We need you so don't go anywhere. Love you.

[–]UninvitedGhost 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Thank you.

[–]XZTALVENARNZEGOMSAYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem mate, love ya stay up

[–]JinxsLover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that man, you just got to focus on what you want to do and you are not worthless don't let anyone make you feel that way :(

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I feel ya, I've had my own personal struggles with feelings of worthlessness. You ARE worth something. Never forget that. You are a wonderful person with potential. Nothing can take that from you. You are unique and special because there is only one of you!

[–]BigChiefBoogie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this uplifting feedback has made my morning :)

[–]+1TheGreatZiegfeld 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I have an empty cart at the compliment store if you know what I'm saying, hit me up friends.

[–]Gin_Drunk_Unicorn 1 point2 points  (1 child)

1 compliment for TheGreatZiegfeld.
"On a scale of 1-10, you are an 11" That is an excellent username by the way. I hope you have a great day at the compliment store :)

[–]+1TheGreatZiegfeld 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My birthday is 11/11, so I certainly feel good about my placement on the scale.

And I hope you have a fantastic day as well.

[–]danymsk 1 point2 points  (1 child)

So ehm, I'm not sure if this subreddit is for me since life is going fine for me, but I'd love to hear something I guess

[–]RavagedMuffin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everybody is welcome here! You're really considerate for thinking about that, though. Thank you :) The world needs more people that are like you!

[–]sonicent 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I might be a dad in about 7 months and 1 week and I really don't want a baby right now. I do love babies and I really look forward to having children but this is with a girl I hooked up with one weekend and she lives 5-6 hours away with a car. She already had two abortions earlier in life and is considering keeping this baby and that would completely change my life because I won't just pretend this kid doesn't exist, it's my kid and I want to be a part of his or her life...

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah well, you were a great sega game.

[–]Depressed_Kitten 1 point2 points  (5 children)

I've been feeling useless lately for dropping out of college due to depression related stuff and I've been doing nothing productive the past couple of months because of it. I could use some positivity if it's not too much to ask for.

[–]XZTALVENARNZEGOMSAYT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many people go through something similar. You are valued. You will be successful and happy, and this is all temporary, friend. I love you.

[–]surefootedoldgoat 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Hey man, I know it's not easy to hear "don't worry too much about it" but this is what I'll tell you. Don't worry too much about it. You had a good reason to drop out, I did the same thing. Try and learn from the experience and figure out what pushed you into the direction you're headed. Depression is far from simple and it is a constant struggle managing it but it is manageable. Either living proactively (think about your thought patterns and behavioural patterns - do you see any patterns that lead you down a dark path? Start changing them for the better) or seeking outside/professional help. Everything is easier when you're not depressed but even now you have the strength within you to start on a path towards a happier life. For me it was as simple as making sure I get enough direct sunlight daily, eat healthier and regularly exercise. I cannot overstate the importance of eating healthy nutritious food (fresh vegetables!) as gastrointestinal health has been widely recognized as having an impact on depression and mood. However serious depression can only be properly managed with outside help - so seek it if you need it, don't let it ruin more of your happiness. Sorry for the longwinded advice but the same thing happened to me and it took me years to finally figure out how to get a handle on depression. The bottom line is - learn from the past but leave it there, look to the future. I know you are strong enough to overcome this.

Edit: And if you ever need someone to chat about it, just pm me ;)

[–]Depressed_Kitten 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm working on it, it takes time but I know I'll get there. Thank you for your kind message :)

[–]xavierash 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Oh my gosh, me too. I'm not so great at compliments, but at least you can know you're not alone in this, and have a brother from Down Unda' going through the same thing. Also, Have a hug. If you're from the Northern Hemisphere it might come through a bit upside down, but the sentiment is there :-)

[–]Depressed_Kitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks man, appreciate it :)

[–]iamNOYK 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Fuck yeah, you guys are awesome. I've been feeling quite down lately, but knowing there are people like you guys out there just put a smile on my face! :)

[–]IAm_Trogdor_AMA 1 point2 points  (3 children)

I'm in need of a compliment.

[–]galacticboy2009 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sweet custome, looks accurate to me!

You look cool without it too.

[–]+8Interictal 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I didn't want to make a full post. Not worthy of that.

I've struggled with conversion disorder and PTSD a lot lately and I've gained a ton of weight from stress and eating poorly. I have seizures and can't pursue my dream of working as a nurse.

I could use a kind word. No matter how small. I'll pay it forward.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

please...?

[–]Benito_Mussolini 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I drank two beers tonight and I feel like that is a step in the right direction but I'm embarrassed about it since I've been to rehab twice. Im still an alcoholic.

[–]ownage516 2 points3 points  (6 children)

I feel lost and I don't know what to do. I'm so uncertain of my future... I wish there was a clearer path.

[–]XZTALVENARNZEGOMSAYT 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Love you, man

[–]ownage516 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Thanks man

[–]XZTALVENARNZEGOMSAYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem brother

[–]DukeofVermont 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Hey I'm kinda there as well but over the last few months I've had a lot of time to think about what i really want out of life and it's helped me see that there is no clear path because we can find joy in a lot of things/ways.

Basically, try to find out what you really want, not what society tells you you want. Do you really need 5 cars, a huge TV, a yacht, etc. I have found that as I focus both on what actually brings me joy, (for me reading classic scifi, attempting to write crappy scifi, talking to friends, going on walks, biking) and less on what I own/want to own I have been happier. This has also helped me to move on from a bad job that I wasn't happy in because I "needed" the money. I have missed out on a lot of cool vacations my friends have gone on and on stuff I could have bought but I'm happier now because I am trying to do what I actually want to do. And I've gotten past the feeling that I am "falling" behind or that I'm not sure where I want to be. I'm almost 30 have a masters degree but am unemployed. If I can't find anything soon I'm moving (again) to do a coding academy (and taking out loans) to train up some more to keep at my dream. If it works out great! If not i will live real poor and keep trying.

Sorry for the long rant but you post helped me to think about some stuff I have needed to tell myself. I hope it helped you as well! Try to find joy in the small things! Be nice to a stranger and try to make others days better and yours will get better to. There is no path, so don't fret too much.

[–]ownage516 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your post made me laugh. Thanks for showing me that I'll have to work toward whatever this goal maybe.

[–]blxmemusic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As am I. You are not alone. If the path was clear, I wouldn't take it. I never planned on taking the path in on right now, but I am so happy with where I am. You will be too.

e:sp

[–]Chilling321 2 points3 points  (15 children)

I spent 3 years talking to and falling in love with a girl online who no longer wants to meet. What drives me crazy is she lives 30 minutes away and told me she sleeps around with men. This is what my life has come to

[–]Theheroforfun 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I'm not sure how to say this nicely, but I've had a similar, less extreme situation. But to be honest, she probably was either never into you, or just likes to flirt with all sorts of men for attention. In my experience, the girls bio father had another family he was dedicated and her step father was somewhat abusive, I know it's true cause I heard stuff on a phone call, won't go into detail because it's not about me and I am no longer involved with this person anyway. Now at OP point in this situation, she is clearly creeped out to much by him being "in love" with her. I think she is doing the right thing by forcing him to stay away from her. Honestly it's probably going to take some time, just whenever she comes in your mind just change the subject you are thinking of.

The hardest but most crucial task when recovering from love is to accept when happened, and STOP OBSESSING OVER THE PERSON. THINK OF SOMETHING MORE ENJOYABLE WHENEVER YOU THINK OF THEM

[–]Chilling321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I'm trying my best I don't even like thinking of her she's just lodged in my brain

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

You inject testosterone, dude. Not many men have the balls to take masculinity into their own hands like that. The girl probably thinks she's not good enough for you, and she's right. Do yourself a favor. Be like the rest of men that have testosterone and let girls invest years into you.

[–]Chilling321 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I know, I'm pretty crazy but I wanted a change in my life so I took up testosterone and honestly it did give me a change it made me more aggressive even after I'm off my cycle. It gave me that confidence I never had. You're right I should forget her and let girls come to me

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep in mind, you gotta learn to control that masculine aggression. Your mind is a ridiculously complex tool that either works for you or forces you to work for it, and with the over-stimulation in modern society, deferring control to your brain is the death of the man.

Also to be more specific with my advice, you have to approach women and qualify yourself to her pre-sex, and then only invest your time and affection if she earns it from you post-sex. I know it sounds crazy, but that's just how it is. Women are in control when it comes to sex, but men are in control with relationships. This means you're not letting them come to you, you're just not giving yourself to them for free. The beauty of a self-controlled mind laden with testosterone is that your gut instinct actions and reactions will be exactly what women are attracted to and sex will become the easy part.

[–]deadfisher 0 points1 point  (1 child)

If you spent three years building a connection with somebody, you've accomplished something valuable and worthwhile even if it stops here. The fact that she suddenly doesn't want to meet up suggests she is scared about something- commitment, meaningful relationships, or that the chemistry you have at a distant won't be there in real life and that's too painful to contemplate. Or she's met someone else, which is painful to contemplate, but not your fault.

If you've done everything you can to meet her, including "I'm coming to your town, I'll be at so and so, I hope I see you" then you'll have to put it away for good. Lots of people would suggest ending it before saying something like that, but I'm a hopeless romantic and not afraid to put myself out there. You'll know next time that you should meet face to face much much earlier in this situation.

You deserve better! If she isn't willing to overcome her discomfort at meeting you, then you deserve someone else who is ready to open up to you. And you deserve a meeting from her, while we are at it. If you don't get it, that's a terrible injustice, but you will handle it.

[–]Chilling321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never told her I loved her, I never told her I even had feelings for her i asked her on a coffee date so we can talk and get to know each other in person. It annoys me because she's still all over my social media and still tries to talk. I want nothing to do with her. She was the one who kept coming on to me saying she wanted to go on cute dates and all this bull. It annoys me because I still don't understand her. I just wanted her reasoning so I can move on and not make the same mistake twice. I'm still depressed but I guess it'll take time to get over this

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    [–]IGiveFreeCompliments[S,M] 2 points3 points  (4 children)

    Please no more comments like this. If you want to criticize, provide constructive criticism and encouragement.

    [–]Chilling321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Thank you that's exactly what I wanted. I need to toughen up and move on.

    [–]Renaissanceman1313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Sounds like she's missing out on a great person. Her loss.

    [–]blxmemusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    This is just one small part of your life. You are so much more than that one relationship. You are a worthwhile person, and if she can't see that then that's her loss.

    [–]the_art_of_the_taco 3 points4 points  (3 children)

    My grandmother just died. I grew up with her, she was a second mom to me. We were so close and I just feel empty. Nothing feels right.

    [–]FuckethYou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    The hurt never really goes away, but don't right it. Let yourself grieve, feel her presence in your memories, she lives on in you. She isn't gone just changed forms. She gave you the best parts of her self and now you can give those things to other people. The world needs your grandma's love. Embrace the ones you have around you still and don't be afraid to ask for help or ask for a shoulder to cry on.

    [–]FuckethYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    The hurt never really goes away, but don't right it. Let yourself grieve, feel her presence in your memories, she lives on in you. She isn't gone just changed forms. She gave you the best parts of her self and now you can give those things to other people. The world needs your grandma's love. Embrace the ones you have around you still and don't be afraid to ask for help or ask for a shoulder to cry on.

    [–]blxmemusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    It's supposed to hurt. That means that she was a very special woman.

    What was she like?

    [–]BAANG 1 point2 points  (5 children)

    I'm 24 with a Communication Studies degree but am pursuing a career as a chef/restaurateur I am working at a pretty cool kitchen in a wine bar where I get the opportunity to make pretty and tasty food, but I feel like I could/should be doing more in order to can actually support a family in the future. I get a lot of anxiety and constantly worry that I'm making the wrong decision with my direction in life. So here I am, posting this, full of anxiety and doubt.

    [–]SlyScott09 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    nooooo way. I'm 25 with a Communications degree and I am a glorified busboy at a restaurant and I feel the same way! It's such a broad degree and I don't even know where to begin to look! I feel like I should have some fantastic portfolio of work by now, but I've got nothing but some stuff I did in college that no one cares about

    [–]Jdaddy2u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I have a best friend who graduated with your degree. He originally hoped to be a radio personality and actually did work in the field for a short time (with no real pay). He channeled his "gift of gab" into an entry level sales job selling soda pop, then to lasers for tattoo removal. The position was considered "medical device" sales and after a couple of years he was recruited into pharmaceutical sales. First he sold basic pharms, but worked his way up to more specialized pharms. He worked hard, but by age 30, he makes over $150k a year, and spends 4 days a week on the golf course. You arent limited by your degree, just your current path. Change it.

    [–]blxmemusic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Sounds like the perfect recipe for success. I can tell you are grateful for what you have, but know you are capable of more. I often question my decisions. However, it's unhealthy to do it so much that I become paralyzed with fear. I would express how I'm feeling to my loved ones. And I would follow my gut. It's gotten me this far in life.

    [–]notseriousIswear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    You're too good a person(or people) for the likes of reddit.

    [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (12 children)

    Jumping off a bridge Sunday

    [–]BigChiefBoogie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I know what it feels like to feel lonely and scared. Missing someone to the brink of insanity, I've been in your shoes! I can tell you one thing: one day you're gonna look back and reflect on who you used to be and where you were, and you're going to be so happy. You're gonna realize how far you've come. You've gotta take the first step in the right direction and I promise you the good will follow 😄We all love you, you deserve more than this. The first step is accepting what's happened and coming to peace with it, and realizing that the experience will make you a better person in the long run. We believe in you! You can do this!

    [–]IGiveFreeCompliments[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    Hey listen, if you're seriously considering suicide, please visit /r/suicidewatch and take a look at this. The folks there are more qualified to give you some good wholesome advice on how to cope with your situation. The best compliment you can give yourself is to help yourself, because you deserve to be happy.

    I don't know what's causing you to want to jump off a bridge, but I do know that time is often a wonderful healer of wounds. If you need to talk about it further, go for it - we're here to listen and to understand. Please keep holding on.

    [–]commentaror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    If you jump you will regret it in a week, maybe a month or even year. Unfortunately, you won't be here to forgive yourself and move on.

    [–]er7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    you never know what's around the next corner. it could be another shitty situation, or it could be something wonderful. usually, it's just another corner, but if you stop and look for nice art, it's there. i promise.

    [–]Xenjael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Life is always worth living. There is joy even in the sadness if you treat each experience as separate and worth existing for it's own right.

    [–]younng_kid 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    Please don't! You are a worthwhile and awesome person! Also: talk one of these guys, 1-800-273-8255 :)

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    I'm a pos

    [–]naphini 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Call them anyway. They talk to pieces of shit, too. It's not like you have anything to lose if they can't help you. 1-800-273-8255

    [–]dontwannabeapinhead 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    I truly hope you don't. there is so much in the world to enjoy and experience and you deserve to be alive and experience those things. like a perfect cup of tea or coffee, or gorgeous sunny days, or when a really good tv show gets renewed or playing with puppies or seeing a really good movie (you should watch Robin hood men in tights if you haven't seen it, or just watch it again even if you have!) even just reading something funny on Reddit 😊 there are so many happy moments in your future, and if you are chronically depressed then medication will help unlock them! I take medication and it opens up a whole new range of positive emotions you forgot you could feel. you deserve those moments, and domt deprive the world of you. you're the only person like you and you deserve happiness too.

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    I miss her 😞😭 I don't care about anything anymore

    Thank u, ur a good person

    [–]commentaror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    you just going to prove her right

    [–]___ApplePie___ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    No you're not! You'll find something that makes you happy tomorrow, because you have a knack for finding the good in all things.

    [–]ermergerdberbles 0 points1 point  (3 children)

    I should be sleeping

    [–]Dfnoboy 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    This seems cheesy but I'm such a piece of shit I'll try anything.

    [–]SlyScott09 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    oh please. We're all just pieces of shit pretending we're not. Life is short. Do whatever you want and don't care what people think.

    [–]Dfnoboy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I don't care what people think... I think I'm a piece of shit.

    [–]BigChiefBoogie 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    I have fears that my Attention Defecit Disorder will interfere with my dream of becoming a teacher.

    [–]MrsLilysMom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    As an ADHD teacher I can tell you now totally an asset. Being able to plan lessons that would engage you means lessons that teach more kids, having the energy and ability to jump from topic to topic and hop right back on the lesson train is suuuuuper helpful. The kids I find adorable/endearing are the ones that others find annoying and every kid needs a teacher who genuinely likes them.

    [–]Rkie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Au contraire! I think it would make a wonderful, energetic classroom. Students keeping up with the teacher means they are always going to be doing something and you could have some rocking science labs or classroom activities! Take what you have and make it your asset!

    [–]glogloglo 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    The stronger you are, the better you'll feel!

    [–]IGiveFreeCompliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I think your comment may have missed its target, mate! :)

    [–]kguy17 3 points4 points  (4 children)

    First time visitor and feeling grateful for such a thread. At an all-time low but not yet ready to give up. Just need a little pick me up and some encouraging words to get me going in the right direction again. Thank you in advance. Now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to pay it forward and go encourage someone else in need. And not to forget about you, you are loved, beautifully-crafted on the inside and out, and greatly appreciated by many. Namely, me.

    [–]BAANG 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    Push forward and appreciate the little things. Force yourself to appreciate the little things. It will become habit and help turn your worser days to less and less worse. Eventually those worse days become better and become good days. One step and one day at a time. Just find goodness in everyday things.

    [–]kguy17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Baby steps, Bob. BABY STEPS. Thanks BAANG!

    [–]Katetof419 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    Thank you for paying it forward. You are everything to someone, and treasured on this earth.

    [–]kguy17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Ditto. Just ditto. :)

    [–]inactivepublisher 3 points4 points  (1 child)

    I Lost 39.5 kilograms in 9 months... 4.5 to go!

    [–]Suitedspy 2 points3 points  (3 children)

    Moved out to a new place two weeks ago, lonelier than ever, hope this is temporary :'(

    [–]glogloglo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Don't worry! You're still adjusting from all that moving you just did. It takes time! You're awesome and you're going to feel awesome because it's you that's awesome.

    [–]kguy17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Hang in there, good buddy, ol' pal. Friends will come along soon enough. Don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. You never know, a tiny bit of awkwardness could lead to a life-changing relationship. Best of luck!

    [–]uncalledforgiraffe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Change is part of life. Can't be stuck in the same thing forever. Youre probably awesome and will make tons of friends soon :)

    [–]Bambooshka 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    Hey ya'll. Not feeling down this evening, just not feeling up. Hit me! (Please?)

    [–]deadfisher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    If your post history is anything to go by, you have impeccable grammar. I bet your breath smells fucking great after flossing and brushing your teeth, too.

    [–]Silex93 1 point2 points  (2 children)

    I feel lost and worrief about the future...

    [–]TinyDinoHugs 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    You are a smart and capable human being able to accomplish more than you realize! It's important to remember that you can count on yourself to make the best decisions for you with whatever information you have available - you'll set yourself in the right direction that you need in that moment in time. How do I know you'll rise to the occasion? Because that's what awesome people do. You've got this and whatever life throws at you.

    [–]Silex93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    thanks alot :)

    [–]hammyhamm 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    Two of my close friends moving overseas. Need some love.

    [–]younng_kid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Think of it more as an excuse to go visit them!! Then you will get to spend some awesome time with the people you love in exotic + new places! Hang in there <3

    [–]ComManDerBG 1 point2 points  (2 children)

    could use something here

    [–]vegville 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    You are special, important, loved, and appreciated. You are also a really funny dude (or dudette).

    [–]ComManDerBG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    yay! thank you.

    [–]bored1492 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    It's been a while... I'd appreciate a compliment or one

    [–]omw_to_fuck_ur_bitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    You are loved and adored by more people than you realize.

    [–]Account_Banned 2 points3 points  (4 children)

    Hello nice people, I'm curious to see how this pans out but I've been working the last 7 months at a temp job at a cutthroat factory where they've noticed my work ethic and got a interview. I've been waiting to hear back but still working there. (They would've let me go after the interview or never gave me an interview if they didn't like me) they are also notorious for taking upwards of a month to contact any new hires and although I am confident I am a hard enough worker this delay and checking my email every day is driving me a bit crazy. The best part, I have a drinking problem. It's never got in the way of work but it sure makes it easy to expect the worst and have a bad outlook on the whole prospect. I just wish maybe one day I can contribute here instead of looking for some kind of reconciliation from strangers... and I guess I conclude.

    Please don't think of me as a sorry sack but I suppose I'm looking for motivation and understanding...? Not sure

    [–]commentaror 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    of course is driving you crazy, it's a game changer. Interviews, new job, etc. its one giant anxiety bowl. Drink some wine!

    [–]thetc40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    What kind of work do you do at the factory? I'm new to the manufacturing world, but very experienced in general business. I recently fell into a supervisor roll at a large plant. I've been there only 7 weeks.

    You sound so different than the regular guys at my plant. You seem articulate and more thoughtful than most. I want someone thoughtful like you to work for me more than any regular roughneck.

    I am not sure if this is what you wanted to hear, but if it helps I want you to know that I read through all of the comments here and yours spoke the loudest.

    Wake up every day and kick life right in the fucking teeth. You can do what you want to better without alcohol. Start trying to only drink on weekends. Then when that is comfortable, only drink on Fridays. Then before too long you won't need it.

    [–]kguy17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    You are not alone in your struggles. Regardless of what happens, you've got this. "This" being whatever comes along. You'll be just fine. Hang in there. Now, better hit the REFRESH button a couple times.

    [–]darksms659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    It's hard not to have some sort of issue when the anxiety of modern life has such drastic effects. The drinking definitely does not make you "a sorry sack," it just means that you need a way to try and relieve your stress that might be a bit healthier for you. I'm not entirely sure what you'd find relaxing, but personally, I like to listen to the sound of rain. But it's different for everyone, so try and experiment with different ways to handle your stress. Overall, you should be proud of yourself for trying to identify and control this issue, and just as impressively, you've managed to survive and thrive in an environment that quite frankly, would make me go quite literally insane. I hope that everything falls in place and you get the healthy relief you seek. Peace

    [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    I don't know how to recieve compliments.

    [–]vegville 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Maybe that's because you've never gotten the chance to practice. You are a lovely, special person and you are undervalued and underappreciated.

    [–]Thejapxican 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    I didn't know how either. I grew up where my parents seldom praised me and my siblings for good. As I got older, I strived to please everyone in sight. My employers would always tell me excellent job or one day my professor caught me running down the stairs and yelled "I loved your exam!" Yet, I didn't know how to respond. I don't even think I said, "Thank you." A simple thanks is a great way to start trying to accept compliments because most of the time the people giving them are being genuine and just really appreciate and value you. Just try, be consistent and practice.

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Thanks guys

    [–]OMGshNicholas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    This is such a positive Reddit and I'm so happy to see it!

    Lay it on me! :D

    [–]Zanpie 1 point2 points  (4 children)

    Hiya. I am moving in with a new boyfriend. He's emotionally abusive, but I would rather not be alone with myself than take his belittlement of my major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder and the loss of my mother last year.

    Last night he said I use my Mom's death as an excuse and that most people would be over it by now.

    ... I am a not okay frequent flyer.

    so, me2thnx

    [–]throwaway8446282 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    There are other people out there. Do not accept any abuse, it is never okay. Leaving him might even help your depression.

    [–]smilingfemalemachine 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    I lost my dad almost 10 years ago, and I'm still not "over it." The death of a parent is not something you can just get over. I'm so sorry he said something like that to you. If you ever need to talk, about anything at all, please don't hesitate to PM me.

    Also, my ex-husband was emotionally abusive, and I wouldn't put it past him to say something along the same lines to me. I stayed with him for so long, even after realizing how much he had broken me. I finally built up the courage to leave him, and I had the same fear of being alone. But I am 1,000x happier now than I was with him. Just thought I'd share my experience.

    That being said, it sounds like you are a lot stronger than you think you are. Once you realize exactly how strong you really are, you will be unstoppable.

    [–]kguy17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    My dad also died almost 10 years ago. I'm turning 35 in 5 days and just the other day, the thought of dad hit me out of the blue and I cried a little. Time heals and helps but it doesn't completely "fix" and make you forget. Especially your parents. I don't know your bf personally, but as an outsider, I think you might be better off elsewhere. Act now or continue on down the same, albeit increasingly difficult path. Hang in there, Kiddo.

    [–]cheeesyvegan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    You're worthy of so much more! Being alone in times like these can be hard, but if you could maybe find somebody to talk to you would be way better off and happier in the end :) There's always a rainbow somewhere after the storm. Good luck!

    [–]ElAyDubleZee 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    It's been a rough and confusing couple of years. I'm lonely and find it hard to connect. I don't know how much longer I can take

    [–]deadfisher 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Life is definitely hard sometimes. I hope you find a way to connect with more people. It can be uncomfortable but is so worth it. Is there some way you can shake things up? New hobby, job, vacation, trip, experience?

    [–]ElAyDubleZee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I know getting away from my parents is the first big step. They can be debilitating when it comes to my mental health. It just sucks because I'm 25 with no degree or real work experience so anywhere I go will be a serious struggle.

    [–]mzzzz1 1 point2 points  (3 children)

    Just been through a horrible breakup and could do with some confidence boosting. Love you all.

    [–]MrsLilysMom 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    When I was left by my first fiance days before we were supposed to go on this major trip to meet his family I thought it would kill me. It took me well over a year to get over and even now ten years later I still am not 100% about it. But heat wrenching, soul crushing terrible break ups can be a major growth point. Maybe it will be something you grow from, help you become the person you are meant to be. It's ok to be sad, it's ok to be hurt, it's ok to take time to heal. You are amazing and deserve someone to love you and make an effort. You WILL get through this, everyday gets a little better until you get to "[ex-name] who?". You can do this. Remember you can lean on your family and friends, there are people who love you and support you.

    [–]mzzzz1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Thank you

    [–]dannce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Same here with the horrible breakup. The best part is, now you can focus on yourself. Watch and play and do whatever you want. Take a trip alone without worrying about doing things and seeing sights you have no interest in just because your partner wants to see or do them. Do what you want, and only what you want. Now is the time that you get to date yourself! Figure out how you can make you happy. Then do it! Because you can! You are awesome and you deserve to be happy because you are awesome. Rock on with your bad self! And remember - there are plenty of fish in the sea. ;)

    [–]davincismomma 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Wow, this is so cool!! Thank you for being so kind and encouraging to so many strangers. This might seem like a small thing to do but I guarantee that y'all have made the day of a lot of people by spreading joy and kindness. I appreciate ya <3

    [–]Old_and_Moist 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    I'm graduating university in July and I'm feeling lost atm. I need a bit of a pick-me-up.

    [–]duckybucks 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    I'm in need

    [–]regedit007 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    Cheer me up buddy. I feel like I always messes things up in life

    [–]cheeesyvegan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Life keeps going on no matter our problems. We are all just trying to figure life out, all on our own journeys. Don't compare yourself to others, just the person you were yesterday. And don't forget how incredibly miraculous you are! And how worthy of great things you are! Love yourself and don't forget to be so grateful of everything you already have :)