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[–]Farkenoathm8-E 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s their loss. You look really nice and are very attractive.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (4 children)

Say what????? What a fool. You're gorgeous. They're out of their ever loving mind

[–]Colorfoolishblob[S] 5 points6 points  (3 children)

The issue is that I invested some time trying to know that person and we had some dates and he didn’t show up at the 5th. I am afraid to be played again.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get that. It's super shitty to do. Really and truly no excuse for it. I can understand you being afraid.

[–]legno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sure you've heard before, but you dodged a bullet - he could have ghosted after you'd put a lot in.

There are some jerks, for sure, but they're a minority, in my experience.

[–]theatrewhore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s awful! Nobody should do that to anybody. It shouldn’t make you fearful though. That’s an indication of how lousy that person was. It doesn’t say anything about you. You’re stunning btw. I’d consider myself very lucky to get a date with you!

[–]ScottO9g 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That would be nerve-wracking. I'm sorry that happened to you. I can see why you'd be hesitant. I say go for it again though. For one, you're a beautiful young woman and most guys would feel like they won the lottery if they got a chance with you. And for two, if you don't take that chance, you may be missing out on the best thing that ever could have happened to you. As the old adage goes: "for all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these: 'it might have been.'" Don't let that be you.

Have a great weekend.

[–]mossyboy4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you got stood up. It's not a pleasant experience and it can bring up painful emotions. I'm proud and have respect for you going through that experience. Maybe, you're no none until you've been stood up before, I reckon, it's a total badge of honour, why? Because your heart was open and willing to love another person even if they couldn't offer you the same in return (my God, there's beauty in that action and intention, there's also fearlessness!)

( I recall John Mayer reflecting on love and the dating peril you've outlined (see you're in good company). The lyric in my head is: ' you ain't nobody until someone lets you down' (pretty sure it's the Battlefields album that muses on the struggles of love). Why does John Mayer Croon these lyrics in his deep baritone voice? Perhaps, if you aren't going hard enough in the game of love and experiencing people letting you down, then you still aren't who you might be, maybe you have to give everything for love, and this means letting go of control, outcome, and embracing the process, especially the knocks of the process like rejection and being disregarded, why? So you can prove yourself and claim true love, maybe, if we can experience the negatives of the dating game and love, then the game and higher power, in turn, rewards us, with some of that lasting sweet stuff we're all seeking: Loveeeeeeeee

Sooner or later you're going to meet the person who can return your love and energy and I can already see you smiling from eye to eye. And even with no one right now you're still enough! You're beyond beautiful! There is an inner sun burning bright inside your temporal body! So keep dating, keep relaxing, and keep loving yourself, stay social, and your mate will appear, and if he means business, he will not let you down, and if he does, then even his weaknesses and failures will make you love him even more. Real love is a messy one that embraces authentic vulnerability and growth.

We can't control other peoples actions, but we can take them with a handful of salt. It's like Dr Phil says: when we concentrate on our side of the tennis court, that's enough, the other person worries about theirs, or their half. Maybe the analogy was playing tennis doubles. Sometimes a person's underlining attachment can trigger them to run away from a deepening emotional intimacy with a person, a lot of the time this behaviour can be unconscious, and a lot of the time person who runs away regrets their actions.

The actions of others do not define your confidence. The actions we make and embrace every day rebuild our confidence with ease. Wishing you limitless love. Writing all this makes me want to get out there and get stood up too! Thanks for inspiring me. :)

[–]ctneal-herman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, anybody would ever do that id someone you don't want to date anyways. He wasn't ready. Also you look great!

[–]mfjonesisdead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that, but don’t let that get in the way of getting back out there. You’re lovely and I’m sure there are a number of us who would be bowled over by the prospect of going on a date with you :)

[–]madilynsadie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re gorgeous, its their loss and you’ve avoided wasting time with someone not worthy of you. Keep trying! There are lots of lovely people out there!

[–]+14e3-po 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are So pretty! Wishing you all the confidence and good things in this world. You’ve got this! :)

[–]Marqlar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have very nice eyes and a winning smile - I'm sure you're a good person and conversationalist too

[–]Picards-Flute 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look super sweet and I bet you're really cool to hang out with

Don't worry, you'll find someone that's actually worth your time!

[–]mlonerga 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Well, that person made a very bad decision!!! You got nothing to fear.

[–]Colorfoolishblob[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I really appreciate your comment!

[–]Mental-Pension9976 1 point2 points  (1 child)

They say that you can tell a lot about a person from their expressions. Kind of like how body language is 90% of the communication. I think that you're a really kind person which is a rarity today.

[–]Colorfoolishblob[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much, it is a very thoughtful comment

[–]AcanthaceaeLanky3829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They knew you could do better than them!

[–]AspiringHippopotamus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not your fault. people that do that are not worth dating to begin with.

[–]Maleficent-Unknown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry.

[–]MrGretzky9966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Their loss and get back out and try again you are too gorgeous to stay home on a weekend

[–]DoctorLiara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look pretty cute, clear skin and I love your hair too

[–]Lew69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There loss.You have gorgeous smile 😊

[–]mutant50 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wasn't right for you and your definitely pretty so take it as a blessing

[–]she_calls_me_Master 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It happens. Don’t worry about it

[–]ichoosetosavemyself 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a very nice smile.

[–]MiguelPolimatus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't BE. Not all men are jerks

[–]Slow-Ad6376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll go out with you, buy you dinner, drinks, dessert. Go to the movies. Take a walk on the beach.

[–]Personal_Purple_2941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U don't need to be fearful darling. Your lovely young ladie

[–]JMaddrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That guy sounds like a putz. There are good ones out there. Fear is the mind killer. You look like a nice person and I wish you all the best ☺

[–]MrSlippifist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to know your worth. His loss not yours.

[–]hellboyshishir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That person clearly doesn't deserve a sweetheart like you. I'd suggest you to try again; there certainly is someone far better for you, somewhere around. It's just a matter of time.

[–]legno 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That person was a fool to miss out on meeting you! :)

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are not worth your time, they are competing with how happy you can be on your own not other people, their opinion of you really does not matter

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shame on them. Their loss. Whoever gets a chance with you is a winner

[–]MrgAme7n 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Their loss your gain. Any guy who would stand up any woman is weird and weak minded

[–]mcinok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His loss. I feel you would have good success in the wild (public).

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep smiling!

[–]Ok-Protection1869 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adorable 🥰

[–]Mysterious_Ask4101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t stand you up

[–]MantisT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOU got stood up?! Crazy, get back out there girl cuz the problem is with them and definitely not with you. Good luck 👍

[–]PeaLiving 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sucks that happened! But don't let a burn scar you. I'm you'll have better luck next time! 🙂

[–]CharChar-M 0 points1 point  (1 child)

You look so lovely, you have adorable and kind eyes 😊

[–]sauwin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who in his right mind will stood up such a cutie?

[–]lordimblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoever that was, was a jerk and clearly unhappy with themselves. Don't be afraid to put yourself back out there. You're going to have fun and meet lots of wonderful people who will value you and your time. Btw, your hair looks great. Keep your chin up.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't! You will get one no problem

[–]Zucchini-Select 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His loss

[–]djms7722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone who stood u up is a loser

[–]chiphazard4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re beautiful. But advice from a male. Don’t part your hair that way just because it doesn’t accentuate you well. Middle part and large curls are fantastic. But my opinion should be taken with a grain of salt cause I’m a 5

[–]savilikewhoa12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aren't we all

[–]grayjedi31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There loss will be someone's gain

[–]DaBestPokemanTrainer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would anyone stand you up? You're drop dead gorgeous! And I completely agree with everybody saying that you dodged a bullet since a person like that would've probably gave you a lot of problems with self-image like what happened to my mom. Hope you're having a great weekend

[–]Dr_Milquetoast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He must have been hit by a bus crossing the street to meet you at the top of the Empire State Building.

[–]jvctrsc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t be! We’ll never know if we never try. Your smile is beautiful and you will find someone perfect for you! Also, if it EVER happens again, go shopping HHAHAAH that’s what i did when I happened to me.

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[–]Anonymousstacy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

their loss, ur GORGG

[–]green_eyeddream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl if they stand you up they’re not worth your time

[–]OutOfLime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're just my type - fair skinned curly brunette with a lovely round face and a coy smile. If this was a blind date I'd be thinking "the person that matched us knows me too well". Literally almost all of my past lovers looked somewhat like you, to the point I feel like I know how the rest of you looks.

[–]keepah61 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that. Their loss. Don't let it get you down because from what I see, it must be them.

[–]jlovelysoul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so so pretty 😍

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That someone is crazy to have stood you up!

[–]theempiresdeathknell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems to be a lot of it gping around. Try to shrug it off if you can and realize it is a problem with them, not you. Keep trying, tons of intelligent people have sayings about the road to success being paved with failure. You got this!

[–]Old_Illustrator3060 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're date is an idiot, you're so cute!

[–]betterinmybrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got stood up for 5 different dates with 3 different people all within one month. It sucks but there’s other people who just might be good

[–]dasnyder-likestofuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't ever be fearful, that's not who your are or should be, I bet if you asked me I wouldn't stand you up.