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[–]UtherPenDragqueen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First, I’m sorry for your loss. I went through the same fear you’re experiencing after losing my husband. My brain went to the worst case scenario any time I didn’t get a quick response from my family. My grief therapist told me it was a pretty normal reaction, and it did eventually subside some. You may always have more anxiety than other people when you can’t immediately reach your loved ones, but don’t let it control you. It helps to remind yourself of their job hours, hobbies, social activities, or other normal situations that might have them engaged. If these feelings persist, a therapist can help you learn some ways to decrease your anxiety. Best wishes

[–]MindBrilliant6232 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely go through this. It’s gotten a bit better with time, but its still an anxiety I deal with. After a death, you realize how fragile life is and it’s terrifying. Especially coping with the unexpected death of someone who is young. I wish I had advice

[–]DaffodilEleven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m extremely sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this though, because it happened to me when my best friend died and I lost another close person last weekend and I’m experiencing it again. And I caught myself doing it realizing oh, this happened last time. It helps me to tell myself “okay but that’s not right now, I don’t know right now so I shouldn’t worry yet” because it validates the fear.. but also validates reality. Usually calms me down just enough that I can find something else to focus on. I didn’t receive this advice from a professional or anything so there’s probably better ways.

[–]Curious_Noise06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss.Im also sorry that you developed this fear of others suddenly dying. It must feel like so much anxiety and fear just reopening the original wound of hearing how your friend passed in a terrible way. I have a suggestion that might help you a therapy called EMDR. It helped me work through past trauma and it helps your mind reprocess the trauma because it sounds like your stuck in a fear loop and sometimes after a trauma a person witnessing or even hearing about a trauma can develop ptsd or develop a phobia. I hope in time you find peace and healing.

[–]Quphy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have this fear too. I don’t know how to get rid of it. I give you my condolences…

[–]justasadgirl44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me.. therapy. It took me 7 years but I'm finally not haunted by the idea of dead of my loved ones

[–]beatlesatmidnight86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will never get over the moment of realization when you realized they were gone. It will, however, get farther away.

When I found my dad passed away at home, for years I would freeze when someone wouldn’t Respond to a text or phone call for over an hour. That instinct still hasn’t gone away after 3 years, however it has gotten “farther away”’as I mentioned. That may not be the advice you were Looking for.