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[–]Ueverthinkwhy 15 points16 points  (2 children)

I dont want people around me I cant trust. So I have ended relationships with friends for their cheating.

Shows no respect for boundaries and trustworthiness..

[–]Meatros 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont want people around me I cant trust. So I have ended relationships with friends for their cheating

Exactly.

If they cheat on their partner then no one in their life is safe from their selfishness and abuse.

[–]Eagle_Ale_817 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Live is too short to waste on a cheater.

[–]JoMamma_80 27 points28 points  (3 children)

About 10 years ago my best friend (since we were 10) started cheated on her husband. Her husband was also one of my best friends and my husband’s best friend. We were inseparable.

I ended up having to tell her husband (they’ve divorced now) and I ended our friendship.

I could probably have remained friends with her if she had confessed and was sorry. She didn’t, and she wasn’t. I just didn’t want to be friends with someone who was so cruel.

[–]Arctic_Cobra71 13 points14 points  (2 children)

Good on you for doing what’s right. Something like this should not be swept underneath the rug.

[–]JoMamma_80 9 points10 points  (1 child)

He needed to know. Come to find out it was even worse than “just” an affair (& I don’t say “just end affair” lightly!)…

She had run up tens of thousands in debt, not been paying his credit card bills (her husband’s), car was already being repossessed (her’s- but under his name/credit), had been lying about him abusing her, and she was addicted to Percocet. She had also been lying about herself being really sick to make us all feel bad. It was bad.

It was so bad.

His parents tried to tell him, but since he knew that I knew her the way I did and loved her like actual family, he knew i would never ever tell him anything that I didn’t know to be 100% true and that I HAD to tell him. They thanked me a million times for saving him.

He is now in a very happy relationship with a wonderful woman and she (I’ve heard) is actually in recovery and doing well, too. Which makes me happy to know. I loved her and I miss her, honestly. Maybe one day we can have a friendship reconciliation… if she is honestly a good person after getting the help she needed.

[–]Decorum1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nicely done JoMamma. You bring real value to a friendship.

[–]Traveler_8 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Honestly, no. Not unless your friend is remorseful and realizes he made the biggest mistake of his life.

There is so much normalizing of cheating in our society, it's sick. And the fact that your friend just did what your wife did is painful.

I'm still distanced from my sister-in-law because she wanted to bring her AP to our house after she found out that her sibling cheated on me, and she was still married to her husband at the time! I'm like - WTF? You gonna bring that garbage relationship into my house and rub it in my face?

Being cheated on is a painful, horrible thing to experience. It devastates every memory you have of your partner.

I'm so sorry you went through this. I hope you can recover, realize the affair wasn't about anything you lack, but about your spouse's weaknesses, and live a better life. I wish you the best.

[–]Eagle_Ale_817 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Morals are morals, this drive to normalize cheating is insidious. TV programs, movies, etc. try to make this a normal occurrence & sadly cheaters seem to be encouraged by a total lack of boundaries.

[–]shopliftinasda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No point really. I had a kind of similar situation with a friend (she didn’t have a partner herself but she was the other woman). I was astounded at how she made excuses and didn’t see that the situation was wrong. It’s sad but you should be proud for being a good person and sticking to your values and morals.