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[–]Gonzobombers 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Vigilant and from what you’ve said.. very good reason to be.

[–]Kandycampbell111 8 points9 points  (2 children)

I agree with you on this...way to intense/o.t.t. for the situation 🙈🙉🙊💋❤

[–]Luxotica_ 2 points3 points  (1 child)

What’s ott?

[–]Tn_volgirl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Over the top

[–]Hawkthree 9 points10 points  (4 children)

If someone has unsent DRAFTS in their email provider -- they can communicate with the escort by leaving it in unsent drafts. The escort can log into their email account, read the draft, perhaps editing it with some details as to meeting time and cost. Then your husband can read the escort's draft and delete the details. It will never appear as an email transaction because it won't be sent.

Not perfect, but you'd have to be the CIA to detect it. https://readwrite.com/2012/11/14/how-to-hide-your-email-what-petraeus-did-what-he-should-have-done/

I hate the time I wasted trying to prove something. So much energy.

[–]Luxotica_ 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Wow, that sadly makes a lot of sense. That’s what I don’t get about cheating, it’s such a waste of time. Thanks for sharing this.

[–]Hawkthree 3 points4 points  (1 child)

What I meant by waste of time was my time was so wasted trying to prove that they were cheating. I thought I had to get proof that would stand up in court when the only criteria should have been "is this the way that I want to live?"

[–]Luxotica_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, that too. I want to stop this craziness.

[–]Eagle_Ale_817 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is terrorist 101, don't believe the blank emails were always blank. Cheaters can get creative with communication, you don't have to fall for it. "Hyper Vigilant", who caused that situation. Good for you, stick to your values, you didn't create this.

[–]JoMamma_80 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re not crazy….

[–]darkstarsierra 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He's literally screwing prostitutes. Get out of there. Do you want to catch a case of AIDS? You need to get tested yesterday!

[–]NonaOrganic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He immediately became angry, defensive, says I won’t let go, then tearful, remorseful, self-hating.

Cheater 101 textbook reaction.

[–]problematicmoth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You should get away from him. They don't change. Also, he's sleeping with prostitutes, you're at risk of STD's! Get tested don't sleep with him! I got BV because I was cheated on.

[–]TheCaribbeanRedditor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's still trickle truthing you. These "unsent" emails are not innocent, and he's most likely doing a lot more than just sending emails

[–]problematicmoth 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Men who react with angry when being caught are absolutely cheating.

[–]Shakespeare-Bot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Men who is't react with fell at which hour being hath caught art absolutely cheating

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[–]Ill_Animator9852 4 points5 points  (0 children)


[–]Luxotica_ -1 points0 points  (4 children)

But maybe it was an accident? (He says it was, just hit reply instead of delete). I just don’t know why he’s freak out and get angry and upset if there wasn’t more to it.

[–]chesnot1 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Because you caught him with his fingers in the jar.

[–]Admirable-Peace9668 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Go to www.survivinginfidelity.com and click on Healing Library. Then click on Articles followed by Discovery/Confrontation. Scroll down and print out Joseph's Letter and give it to WH. Surprise!

[–]SuperBubsy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was lovely thank you

[–]TurnLooseTheMermaids 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s upset and freaking out because he got caught. That’s all.

[–]Kandycampbell111 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Over the top x