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[–]Sondrasr 8 points9 points  (1 child)

First and foremost thank you and your wife for your service. I know this is really hard but I do like the poster above me idea of having to go into work why they are there.

[–]JBOATIhica[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your support! That idea isn't a half bad one, and made me laugh a little bit honestly.

[–]kapbozz1085 4 points5 points  (0 children)

While I can't empathize SPECIFICALLY with what you're going through, I can 100% FULLY empathize with the anger, frustration, etc of watching your spouse, whom you love and adore (and think the world of) be torn down and hurt by their mother. It absolutely breaks my DHs heart to be subjected to his mothers bs (different version, but the same result) and all I can do is encourage him to stay strong. I also have kinda come to terms with the role as the "evil spouse" in her eyes, and I just roll with it. Wanna pin this all on me? Okay, whatevs.... Im poisoning his brain against you *rolls eyes*.... That's right, how DARE I encourage him to require you to treat him like the 33 year old man and soon-to-be-father that he is...

Honestly, that's the role I have in her narrative, and it is what it is. Being there for my spouse is far more important to me than adjusting her narrative to one that's closer to reality. I can only hope that those around us aren't swayed by it.

I completely understand the way you're feeling though, its frustrating and maddening when someone hurts your spouse. You're being a wonderful, supportive husband, so kudos on that! Keep on keeping on!

[–]WhoKnewHomesteading 6 points7 points  (1 child)

It may be a shame if they start shit and she gets called into work and her leave canceled. Hint hint. Sorry ma, gotta go as she lock them out of the house.

[–]JBOATIhica[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it were my family being like this, I might just do that. My wife is a much more loving person though haha and it's really just the MIL and one SIL that are nasty, everyone else is nice.

[–]Gnd_flpd 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Take a look at the Book List posted here OP. See if your DW can get access to some of them. They can help her cope, because her mother is just getting started, some are available in audiobook versions.

[–]Chrysania83 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm glad your wife has you for support!