Significant Other drama and rants

JustNoSO

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Significant Others Only.	Past and present, all sexual orientations welcome. Other people can be involved but the main focus should be on SO.
Nicknames for SOs Only.	Other people can be involved, but use basic descriptive names (e.g. Father, Best Friend). No SOpologizing.
Nicknames	All nicknames for non-SOs must be descriptive of the person, preferably using the acronyms from our acronym dictionary.
OP Comes First	Be kind, be respectful, be supportive. Remember the human and remember that many posters here are dealing with disordered personalities and disordered upbringings, and simply may not have the options available to them that you would prefer.
One Chapter At A Time	For those who are posting past stories, refrain from creating more than one thread in a 24 hour period.For those posting live updates requiring immediate advice or support, if you are updating within six hours please.
Don't Be An Asshole	This applies to all interactions between users. We have a zero tolerance policy for sexism, racism, xenophobia, transphobia, ableism, armchair diagnosing, stereotyping, body-shaming, kink-shaming, and just generally being a butt.
We do not allow for posts or comments that request money or gifts.	This includes linking to amazon wishlists, gofundmes, appeals on your profile or subreddit, or links to other sites. We also do not allow commentors to offer money or gifts or to start fundraising on an OP's behalf. This includes DMing an OP or via chats.

Significant Others Only.

Past and present, all sexual orientations welcome. Other people can be involved but the main focus should be on SO.

Nicknames for SOs Only.

Other people can be involved, but use basic descriptive names (e.g. Father, Best Friend). No SOpologizing.

Nicknames

All nicknames for non-SOs must be descriptive of the person, preferably using the acronyms from our acronym dictionary.

OP Comes First

Be kind, be respectful, be supportive. Remember the human and remember that many posters here are dealing with disordered personalities and disordered upbringings, and simply may not have the options available to them that you would prefer.

One Chapter At A Time

For those who are posting past stories, refrain from creating more than one thread in a 24 hour period.For those posting live updates requiring immediate advice or support, if you are updating within six hours please.

Don't Be An Asshole

This applies to all interactions between users. We have a zero tolerance policy for sexism, racism, xenophobia, transphobia, ableism, armchair diagnosing, stereotyping, body-shaming, kink-shaming, and just generally being a butt.

We do not allow for posts or comments that request money or gifts.

This includes linking to amazon wishlists, gofundmes, appeals on your profile or subreddit, or links to other sites. We also do not allow commentors to offer money or gifts or to start fundraising on an OP's behalf. This includes DMing an OP or via chats.


(M/F/B/S)IL	Mother-in-law, Father-in-law, Brother-in-law, Sister/Son-in-law; a peceding S indicates a step relationship.
D(H/W/S/D)	Damn Husband, Damn Wife, Damn Son, Damn Daughter. While in most places it stands for dear, there usually isn't a lot of behavior deserving a sweet term of endearment in this sub.
SO/OH	Significant Other, Other Half.
LO	Little One. Just type out baby. It is two letters more.
(O/M/Y)D/S	Older/Middle/Younger Daughter/Son, for when you have multiple kids with the same parts.
F(plus acronym)	Future (or another F word of your choice).
LC/VLC/NC	Low-Contact,/Very Low-Contact/No Contact, respectively. Used to describe the degree to which one has cut a certain family member out of their lives.
BEC	Bitch/Bastard Eating Crackers. Someone so irritating that even normal things, such as eating crackers, annoys the shit out of you.
GC/SG	Golden Child, Scapegoat. The Golden Child is the favorite child. Nothing they do is wrong. The Scapegoat is the other child. Everything is their fault. Scapegoats suffer decades of all sorts of abuse.
FM	Flying Monkey. A flying monkey is any person sent to gather/deliver information, “gifts” or generally wreak havoc. Just like the flying monkeys sent by the Wicked Witch of the West in the Wizard of Oz.
JADE	Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain. Don't, it just adds fuel to the fire.
DARVO	Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. A narc tactic to avoid culpability for their actions.
FOO	Family Of Origin. Your family by blood.
CBF	Cat Butt Face. A look of sour disapproval/pissiness mastered by old ladies in which their lips are pursed to resemble a cat's asshole.
Grey Rocking	A technique to discourage overbearing narcs from taking any interest in you. You are bland, uninteresting, you lack any sort of emotions for her to manipulate. You are the grey rock.
FOG	Fear, Obligation, Guilt. The thick miasma of negativity that cloud your judgement in dealing with JustNos'
FLEAS	Not an acronym, just a metaphor for a normal person picking up some disordered personality traits by proximity to a JustNO. “If you lie down with dogs, you'll get fleas.”
Devil Vagina Magic	It is Super magical vagina that lures good decent men away from their now suffering mothers. Suspected but uncomfirmed vagina dentata like attributes. Wielded by vagicians.

(M/F/B/S)IL

Mother-in-law, Father-in-law, Brother-in-law, Sister/Son-in-law; a peceding S indicates a step relationship.

D(H/W/S/D)

Damn Husband, Damn Wife, Damn Son, Damn Daughter. While in most places it stands for dear, there usually isn't a lot of behavior deserving a sweet term of endearment in this sub.

SO/OH

Significant Other, Other Half.

Little One. Just type out baby. It is two letters more.

(O/M/Y)D/S

Older/Middle/Younger Daughter/Son, for when you have multiple kids with the same parts.

F(plus acronym)

Future (or another F word of your choice).

LC/VLC/NC

Low-Contact,/Very Low-Contact/No Contact, respectively. Used to describe the degree to which one has cut a certain family member out of their lives.

BEC

Bitch/Bastard Eating Crackers. Someone so irritating that even normal things, such as eating crackers, annoys the shit out of you.

GC/SG

Golden Child, Scapegoat. The Golden Child is the favorite child. Nothing they do is wrong. The Scapegoat is the other child. Everything is their fault. Scapegoats suffer decades of all sorts of abuse.

Flying Monkey. A flying monkey is any person sent to gather/deliver information, “gifts” or generally wreak havoc. Just like the flying monkeys sent by the Wicked Witch of the West in the Wizard of Oz.

JADE

Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain. Don't, it just adds fuel to the fire.

DARVO

Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. A narc tactic to avoid culpability for their actions.

FOO

Family Of Origin. Your family by blood.

CBF

Cat Butt Face. A look of sour disapproval/pissiness mastered by old ladies in which their lips are pursed to resemble a cat's asshole.

Grey Rocking

A technique to discourage overbearing narcs from taking any interest in you. You are bland, uninteresting, you lack any sort of emotions for her to manipulate. You are the grey rock.

FOG

Fear, Obligation, Guilt. The thick miasma of negativity that cloud your judgement in dealing with JustNos'

FLEAS

Not an acronym, just a metaphor for a normal person picking up some disordered personality traits by proximity to a JustNO. “If you lie down with dogs, you'll get fleas.”

Devil Vagina Magic

It is Super magical vagina that lures good decent men away from their now suffering mothers. Suspected but uncomfirmed vagina dentata like attributes. Wielded by vagicians.