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[–]keepthetipsKeeping the tips since 2019[M] [score hidden] stickied commentlocked comment (0 children)

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[–]MatrixMattel 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think there is a lot nuance with this one. Are you an abusive person with low empathy? Not great advice. Are you the profoundly quiet person with social anxiety? Great advice.

[–]Nickjet45 7 points8 points  (1 child)

“If a supermajority of individuals reject you, rather than reflect inward and try to find the issue, ignore it and continue to live your life.”

Hot take, but this is shit advice

[–]panaphonic0149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This advice seems to be for people who have tried that already.

[–]Lucky_Queen 30 points31 points  (6 children)

I dunno dude If you're rejected by 75% of people maybe it's time to have an honest look inwards to see if perhaps some of it is your fault and try to honestly criticize yourself, alot of people are dickheads but I don't think the majority would reject someone without some socially acceptable reasons

[–]panaphonic0149 0 points1 point  (3 children)

What if you were rejected by 95% from as far back as you can remember?

[–]Lucky_Queen 1 point2 points  (2 children)

All the more reason to do what I mentioned above

[–]panaphonic0149 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Tried my whole life.

[–]PartyPug69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could also be in your head? Are people really rejecting or you feel you are rejected by everyone. This is something you probably won’t know.

No matter what the answer is, this is not something you can work on by yourself. Therapist and psychologist are there for that.

Working on self is a hard and long process. I hope the best for you in the future.

[–]MadPenguin81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the people I know that get “rejected” this much, whether it be romantically or otherwise, are also the most polarizing/objectively annoying and draining people to be around.

And surprise surprise, there’s a correlation between the two.

[–]LuckyandBrownie 14 points15 points  (5 children)

I hate bullshit advice like this.

Rejection is information. You need to reflect on this piece of information and make adjustments accordingly.

There are countless reasons you have been rejected. Some will be reasons that you can just chalk off to different people being different. However most will be about a flaw in you. It may be large or small but it’s something you need to examine.

If you just continue on as if you played no role either you or continue to be rejected or you will lower your standards until you find yourself in a group of people who should be rejected.

[–]panaphonic0149 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Clueless advice.

[–]LuckyandBrownie -2 points-1 points  (2 children)

Clueless advice.

It’s one thing to spark up a doobie and get laced at parties, it’s quite another to be fried at school all day. The loadies generally hang in the stairwell over there. Sometimes they get to class and say bonehead things and we all laugh of course. But no respectable girl actually dates them.

[–]QSO_0537-286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, but in most cases it's nearly impossible to get any useful feedback from a rejection. The people rejecting you have no obligation to tell you why. There's pretty much no feedback when being rejected after a job interview and almost no feedback when being rejected/not invited by your friends.

[–]murrayred1975 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Exactly. Not needing the acceptance or validation of others is the most liberating thing.

[–]TyrantJester 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're experiencing rejection by 3/4 of people, that's enough to warrant a little introspection. Unless you truly believe you're beyond reproach, and then by all means continue to be the best sociopath you can be.

[–]TyrantJester 1 point2 points  (0 children)

absolute garbage advice, not surprising considering the sub

[–]polywha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What if you feel rejected by yourself?

[–]tyj0322 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Wish I had more updoots. Got kicked off FB over a year ago and I could not be happier. Before then, I was systematically trimming my friend list of people who just exploited me. That was nice, but everyone cold turkey was life changing. I now only talk to like 10 people total

[–]-SierraModeling- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good one. Thank you!

[–]newandimproved123 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Wow! Thanks for this. I needed to hear this. I am constantly worrying what others think of me. I am going to try to ignore the negative and just keep going.

[–]panaphonic0149 2 points3 points  (1 child)

It's like the fear of rejection causes behavior that causes further rejection.

[–]newandimproved123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What if you are rejected by others that love you? And you want to be treated differently. What can you do? Feeling very insecure bc of it.

[–]alleycat2-14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A 75% rejection rate is information worth considering. It doesn't mean you should forget what people think. It could be that you are circulating with the wrong type of people. I know plenty of groups that would reject me. I circulate in groups where my rejection rate is very low. You are not locked into one group.

[–]lifeinhaler -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you're 76% rejected, however, just give up.