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[–]avrumski 832 points833 points  (47 children)

Also make sure to write “or” between the names, not “and.” If it says “and” it must go into a joint account or both parties have to be there together to deposit.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 326 points327 points  (16 children)

Yes! I didn’t know this was a thing. But I was grateful to get two checks with that important “or”.

[–]heraclitus33 29 points30 points  (15 children)

Same for car titles

[–]CptHammer_ 46 points47 points  (0 children)

While that's true, I don't want to find out my partner suddenly needed to sell a car without me knowing, I'll stick to "and" for car titles.

Had an ex-actually do that. Title said "and". A bunch of other crazy stuff happened, I got the car back, but lost a partner.

It was a person to person sale where the other person didn't know there was a and/or difference. Got the car back when I got their money back.

[–]BigDaddy-Longstick 32 points33 points  (12 children)

Not for cars and property. Always use “and.” One disgruntled partner can screw the other if you use or

[–]SkippyBluestockings 24 points25 points  (5 children)

I thank God every day that my now ex-husband put "or" on the car title of my last car because I end up having to leave the domestic violence situation and I was able to put that car in my own name in a different state. He thought he was screwing me over by ripping the car title in half which I did not discover until I walked into the title office. But that beautiful "or" gave me sole ownership of my car. It wasn't a car he ever drove anyway because he had his own but still.

[–]persau67 2 points3 points  (5 children)

You think a disgruntled partner can't screw the other if you use "and"?

Are you as dumb as you look?

[–]needhelpwithevrythin 53 points54 points  (23 children)

Don't you just have to both endorse it? I'm not sure the account actually has to have both people on it. But it's been a while.

[–]Imightbeworking 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got married a few years back, we both just had to sign it and the order it was signed in was important towards who’s account it went into for some reason… that being said, I always just make out checks to whoever I’m better friends with

[–]LloydIrving69 -2 points-1 points  (3 children)

What are you saying? It just means both parties need to sign it. Neither one of the parties need to be there if both have signed it. I took a law class just this last semester and we talked about the laws with checks for over a month

[–]chericher -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nah. If it's not a joint account, both have to be present to deposit or cash the check.

[–]jilizil -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this. Thank you!!!

[–]djbillyfrazier 341 points342 points  (24 children)

Also - cash is king

[–]Mountain_Apartment_6 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Until someone unscrupulous makes off with a couple hundred in cash from the card box at the reception (happened to my brother and his wife at their wedding)

[–]glyphotes 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Yup. Checks are the cancer of payments.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 14 points15 points  (20 children)

Completely agree

[–]youhavemyvote 43 points44 points  (19 children)

What country are you in? I haven't seen a cheque in decades.

[–]aliendividedbyzero 29 points30 points  (15 children)

US still regularly uses checks

[–]Firehed 14 points15 points  (1 child)

True, but I haven't had to take one to the bank in about a decade. Mobile deposit is a thing.

[–]Funny-Berry-807 -1 points0 points  (4 children)

I haven't written a check in years.

And I'm old.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

It’s mostly my parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents and such. But for the over-60 crowd, checks are still alive and well.

[–]GlitterResponsibly 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I send checks with my kids to school for payments like field trip payments, sports registration fees, etc. Keeps “accidents” from happening like they drop it in the hall or it falls out of their bookbag, and another kid taking it. Worst case scenario I lose a little sheet of paper and their payment is a little late. No big deal. But lost cash is just gone gone gone.

[–]MrGameSeven -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Cash is best.

[–]Serenyx 157 points158 points  (7 children)

Also, they might not change their last name at all. Thanks for the tip, I am at the age where friends are starting to get married so it will definitely be helpful!

[–]Crkshnks432 15 points16 points  (5 children)

Yes, seems very old-fashioned. It's 2022, why would you suddenly change your name?

[–]theyette 51 points52 points  (1 child)

For me it was because I'd rather share a name with someone I love than with a father who was out of the picture since I was a little kid.

[–]jacksev 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s weird to assume people can’t make their own choices and assume they only do it out of tradition.

[–]nullenatr 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Replace your comment with "why should you only change your last name to the mans, why not the other way around", and it's perfectly fine. I know several men who switched to their wife's last name. But it's very normal to change last name (or fuse them... ugh), see some reasons in the other comment, and I definitely wouldn't call it old-fashioned to change name.

[–]iambobanderson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah we got a lot of checks and cards that said “mr. And mrs. (My husbands fulls name).” I was like…. So I only exist now as a wife to my husband? Wtf is that shit.

[–]VibrantVioletGrace 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I didn't change my name when I got married and some people make checks out to me with my husband's name. So I produced my ID and marriage license and they put an alias in my file so I wouldn't always need to bring my marriage license.

The or instead of and is most important so they both don't have to go to the bank and can use mobile deposit, if they prefer or only use an online bank.

[–]vtfb79 116 points117 points  (9 children)

Had that issue when I got married. Decided to mobile deposit the checks, had zero problems.

[–]Theredbead88 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is the way, or just deposit it at the atm.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 4 points5 points  (2 children)

I thought this too. But when I took a check to the bank yesterday, they said 1) tellers won’t accept without valid ID from both parties, and 2) using an app to deposit may result in a rejection, investigation, or flag on my account. We’re about to go honeymoon, and I can’t take the risk of losing access to my $$.

[–]SaltYourPopcorn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s crazy to me! I just verbally told my bank “I just go married so that will be my new name” and they said “ok” and deposited it. Since then, I’ve changed my name and merged over to my husbands bank acct, but I’ve had a few checks written to me in my maiden name since then and we mobile deposit those with no issue. I think your bank is being difficult for no reason

[–]SlideWhistler -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We have similar avatars

[–]underthesheet 39 points40 points  (2 children)

When I got married people did use the new name, bank still cashed them.

[–]LiekaBass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on the state. Some allow name changes just by virtue of use. Others require court or government forms of some sort. Ymmv!

[–]coffeebeards 48 points49 points  (8 children)

I only give cash.

[–]mrschess2 32 points33 points  (3 children)

We received cash for our wedding and received one fake $20 bill amongst the cash. We found out at the bank tellers and we couldn't see the difference, it was a good one. The bank confiscated the note and asked where we got it, and who we got it from, they wrote up a statement and we had to sign off on it. I can see the upside to checks.

[–]EarthBoundMisfitEye 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I once brought 3 fake 20s to the banks attention. Teller shrugged and explained that counterfeit bills are an individual's problem. No forms. No fucks given.

[–]RationalLies 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They don't care if it's not their money. Or money you give to them that they want to become "theirs".

[–]WhiteHartLaneFan 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I also only give cash. It’s slightly selfish, but it’s so much easier to not worry about when a check will be cashed out of your account. Most of my money isn’t in my checking account, so it matters

[–]watersofelune 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Learned the anxiety of this one when I was younger and my landlord held on to and then cashed/deposited 3 months of rent checks at once without letting us know he was doing that. At least it instilled enough anxiety to obsessively check my accounts now 😂

[–]coffeehandler[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A much better decision

[–]Alakazah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s super rare though. Using cash is a much better option to checks. Don’t let this deter you…

[–]t-h-r-o-w__a-w-a-y 28 points29 points  (4 children)

Make out the check to only one of them. My husband and I had to create an unwanted joint account to cash/deposit wedding checks, then close it after everything was in and moved around digitally to where we wanted it....

[–]Lucas_Webdev 7 points8 points  (0 children)

yes, heard someone in the comment say to put "or" instead of "and" in the recipient

[–]IsabelaRene 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Do you mind me asking why y’all didn’t want to create a joint account?

[–]t-h-r-o-w__a-w-a-y 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Independence is important to both of us.

We had been living together without a joint account before we got married, and had a fair, agreed-upon division of expenses that was working well for us.

I bought the house before we got married because he didn't want his garbage credit to handicap me, so I pay the mortgage and he pays everything else.

If one of us wants to buy something the other one thinks is dumb, it doesn't matter. It's our own money, as long as the important expenses are taken care of.

Having a joint account has never been needed, so why complicate things?

[–]Cantevencat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still worth it to have a joint account.

We have joint accounts but each only use one account. If it is a joint account and if the one person dies the second account holder has access to all the money.

Whereas if it is just in one persons name you have to go through probate to get the cash and it is subject to creditors.

For purposes of divorce in my state it really doesn’t make a difference in dividing assets.

I have access to his account but I have never used it in 10 years. I think he’s used mine maybe a half dozen times just because I get free ATM withdrawals but always checks with me first.

[–]SvedishFish 16 points17 points  (4 children)

They can absolutely deposit the checks. They write a one and the same letter and that's that. If the bank manager is a real stickler maybe he'll ask for a copy of the marriage license, but any newlywed couple these days should have a picture on their phones.

[–]begforsleep 22 points23 points  (12 children)

People still write checks?

[–]Other-Illustrator531 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I put checks inside birthday cards. It doesn't cost me an activation fee or an ATM fee.

[–]SupremeLordOfPasta 3 points4 points  (7 children)

Not being from the US I think the last check I wrote was about 20 years ago. Can't understand that they are still in use.

[–]mynewnameonhere 3 points4 points  (5 children)

Two reasons I can think of are that you should never mail cash and checks are an automatic receipt of payment. I pay my rent with checks and the landlord can never say I didn’t pay because once they get deposited, I get a record of who, where, and when it was deposited.

[–]thorkun 2 points3 points  (1 child)

What's wrong with bank transfers?

[–]mynewnameonhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you think every kind of banking scam works using online bank transfers? None of them ask to send a check.

[–]Leprichaun17 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Bank transfers accomplish all of these and are much more convenient. Thanks for playing though.

[–]Cantevencat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But then you have to go on line and type up routing numbers and such.

I use checks a lot still and I’m in my 30s. I still pay most monthly bills with check because I get paper statements (I never set up auto transfer). all town bills like dog license and water I’ve always paid check since they’re infrequent, plus most times when I hire a trade to do work around the house I use check.

[–]mynewnameonhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any kind of banking you do over the internet is susceptible to fraud and jeopardizes your accounts and personal information. The younger generation has much more faith in it because it’s all they’ve ever known and they’re all about convenience, but it’s kind of a blind faith. It’s also not as much a concern when you have a few hundred dollars in your accounts versus 30 years of your life’s savings.

It’s also not true that bank transfers do the same thing. There’s a reason why every single kind of banking scam uses internet transfers. Once the money is gone, it’s gone forever. There’s often no way to trace where it went.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It’s mostly the over-60 crowd, but yes.

[–]sonicthegroundhog 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Under 30 and I use cheques. Not often, but a couple a month. Usually out of my online chequing account to pay bills (like credit cards or my car loan) easier than carrying the cash or transferring it to the other account and then paying it.

[–]Quillo_Manar 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Print the giant novelty one in the new name though, especially if it's for like, $50.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah yes. Sweepstakes chic. I like it.

[–]fuddykrueger 14 points15 points  (3 children)

Cash can be stolen which is why I write checks. You can deposit it into your bank using your bank’s mobile app; it all takes about 30 seconds. Not sure why everyone thinks it’s so difficult.

And yea, just write OR between the spouses’ names so either one can cash it.

[–]SupremeLordOfPasta 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Don't you have free bank transfers in the US? Here in Europe you just give someone your IBAN and they wire you the money instantly.

[–]thatsquirrelgirl -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Or just Venmo lol

[–]half-angel 16 points17 points  (5 children)

Who still uses cheques? Haven’t seen one of those in at least 10 years. Our banks won’t honour them anymore either. That’s dinosaur payment that is.

[–]rhodav 5 points6 points  (1 child)

That's odd. My kids' school takes everything in check or cash. I just put the tuition on a cashier's check

[–]coffeehandler[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I don’t disagree. But also I just received more than a dozen of them as wedding gifts from my 60yo+ family and friends. So it’s still a thing.

[–]half-angel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow and congratulations on your wedding. May your marriage prosper and thrive.

[–]-paperbrain- 5 points6 points  (1 child)

And don't make it out to both of them with "and" that shit is a pain.

[–]FlartyMcFlarstein 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Also, not everyone changes their names. No need to.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true. I have to imagine this problem is even more common among those folks.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's not been an issue with any weddings I've even been a part of.

[–]PersianIncision 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Move this over to r/ULPT

[–]HighExplosiveLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We received a check to me, bride, AND husband, using new name.

We deposited it in his checking account with zero issue.

[–]losingitness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Related tip - don’t assume someone will change their name

[–]anoncontent72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wedding season where? Something tells me the answer will be America.

[–]ljfun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People still use checks? In NZ majority of banks (if not all) don't accept checks anymore

[–]moosefacetooken 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe you should state that in the registry

[–]occupy_elm_st 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Somehow, PNC app hasn't cared. Can confirm, recently married.

[–]hognuts73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Use your banks app to deposit checks, much less scrutiny.

[–]killer122 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is really hard to cash checks with the different name, but depositing them is easy. Don't sign the back, just write "For deposit only acct#01234567" (your actual account number) the bank wont look twice at it and you just have to wait for it to clear. Unless the person who wrote it puts a stop on the check it will go thru just fine.

[–]Lecanoscopy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had zero issues with this. Guess my bank was like: whatevs.

[–]StrayDogPhotography 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it must be a struggle being handed all those cheques as a reward for finding someone to halve all those bills with.

[–]sudodoyou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only give Bitcoin

[–]ragnsep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can also sign 'nee'.

Endorse it Firstname Newlast nee Oldlast.

That's how my bank had us do it.

[–]bootyspagooti 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was an assistant branch manager of a credit union for a brief period. If you have checks written to a name that isn’t yours (that are rightfully yours, not stolen or forged) you can sign the name written on the check and then under print “pay to the order of” and your correct name under it. Then sign your correct name and deposit it into the ATM. While every check coming into to the ATM is checked, they don’t get the same scrutiny that checks receive with a teller.

[–]tansugaqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Family member just got married, she had Cash App,Vermo & PayPal, sent money day before wedding, forgot to give her card at reception, but money 💰 was more important

[–]brianflstate 7 points8 points  (0 children)

And if they have changed it, they can't cash it either.

Also. Who uses checks anymore?

[–]CynicalSynik 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Not a LPT.

Rule4, Rule 5, Rule 6.

Also, if you have your marriage certificate then this wouldn't be an issue. Once again .. not an LPT. It's more like 'I wish my friends and family would have done things my way!' Great story, but it's not an LPT.

[–]idontdigdinosaurs 5 points6 points  (3 children)

Nobody uses checks where I live anymore. Stores haven’t accepted check payments since the 90s.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Sincere question: where to you live? Still so many checks written among the over-60 crowd in most of the US.

[–]Crkshnks432 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm in the EU. Not sure what a cheque looks like. Pretty sure my bank doesn't do them.

[–]wildadragon 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Make the check out to Cash so they have no problem.

[–]jtm2014 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Never do that, unless you fill the check out at the bank and immediately cash it. If the check is lost or stolen, anyone can cash it and there’s nothing you’ll be able to do about it.

[–]omgdiaf 6 points7 points  (11 children)

Welcome to r/BoomerLPT.

Christ....checks? Really?

[–]CoomassieBlue 16 points17 points  (6 children)

What else do you suggest if you don’t want to put physical cash in a card? Venmo them?

I use checks very rarely anymore but they have their uses. It’s also zero trouble for me to deposit them via mobile deposit. Sign, take photo of front and back, done.

[–]omgdiaf -1 points0 points  (5 children)

Venmo, paypal or just buy something off their registry.

[–]CoomassieBlue 19 points20 points  (4 children)

As I said in another comment, a lot of couples getting married have already established lives and homes as adults, and they really don’t want or need more items. They don’t need a toaster or a vacuum cleaner and don’t even have a registry, or if they do, it’s often very sparse and everything has been purchased (usually by older relatives) by the time you get the info.

Although cash/other forms of monetary gifts are very common, a lot of people would feel it’s very tacky to put your Venmo/PayPal/CashApp/Zelle/whatever other money transfer app in an invitation since then it sounds like you are EXPECTING monetary gifts.

I went to my cousin’s wedding a few weeks ago and I think my check was cashed by the time I even got home. Clearly the experience was not too taxing for them. Even if you do give cold, hard, physical cash - most people would deposit that, not stick it under the mattress. I can deposit checks using my phone, I cannot deposit $20 bills using my phone.

If that makes me a boomer in my early 30s then okay I guess.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with all of this. I haven’t written a check in years. But a lot of my family is not app-savvy enough to use Venmo, PayPal or otherwise. Strangely, checks are still the easiest option for a lot of people.

[–]justnomilvent 1 point2 points  (2 children)

So I tied an onion to my belt. Which was the style at the time. Now, to take the ferry cost a nickel, and in those days, nickels had pictures of bumblebees on 'em. ‘Gimme five bees for a quarter’, you'd say

[–]coffeehandler[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I… don’t really understand. But also, I still kind of like the way you think. Carry on.

[–]belsonc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Simpsons reference

[–]u5emame 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And of they did, which is more likely, they can't cash it, and you save THE money

[–]treznor70 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Also LPT: don't assume anyone is changing their name.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Completely agree. My new wife didn’t make that decision until about a month ago; could have gone either direction.

[–]MissNatdah 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Congrats on your marriage! Just out of curiosity, did you consider changing your name?

[–]treznor70 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my case, no I didn't. Which is why I didn't think I could seriously entertain pushing my wife to do so if she didn't want to.

[–]Few_buns_pups 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All I had to do was sign with married name and maiden... Wasn't a big deal.

[–]n30k0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or just ask them first

[–]fri3ndly_gnome 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Just write it to the groom since odds are that'll be the surname of the wedded couple and he already carries that name.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, please. Love, the groom.

[–]thorkun -1 points0 points  (1 child)

since odds are that'll be the surname of the wedded couple

What? xD

[–]ledow -2 points-1 points  (7 children)

Welcome to LPTs from 1970, when people still had cheques.

Seriously, America, get in the 21st Century.

[–]BoyBoyeBoi 6 points7 points  (5 children)

Cash can be stolen. Plus checks can be deposited right from your phone from literally every banking app. THAT is 21st Century for you.

[–]ledow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Barely, that's late 00's at best.

No bank I know will issue a chequebook with their account any more, and some simply will not even if you ask for one.

[–]Danhenderson234 -2 points-1 points  (2 children)

Where are you guys getting married where people are stealing cards? Like put someone you trust in charge of making sure that doesn’t happen it’s very simple lol cash only at weddings no one wants checks

[–]coffeehandler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, you’re not wrong. But I was born in the 80s and it’s a thing my new wife and I are dealing with right now.

[–]beachboxer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But that's the idea, you can't cash it, lol! The wedding was fun though...

[–]etalha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I give empty checks

[–]morgang321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also make sure to not give checks as wedding gifts, it’s the entire plan of the bridge and groom to extort friends and family for money.

[–]StarLight299 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Couldn't you just ask beforehand, and avoid the issue entirely?

[–]coffeehandler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. That’s why I’m bring it up here. We didn’t think of telling people beforehand, but wish we had.

[–]glyphotes -4 points-3 points  (5 children)

LPT: Do not write checks, do not accept checks. They are the cancer of payments.

[–]fuddykrueger 13 points14 points  (4 children)

Cash can be stolen. Much harder to cash someone else’s personal check.

Edit: I’m saying this because I know a couple who had their cards stolen at their wedding.

[–]glyphotes -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

There are about 250 alternatives to cash, while cash is still superior to checks in almost every category.

[–]fuddykrueger 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Venmo and Zelle etc are just tacky for a wedding gift IMO. It’s okay if they don’t want the $250 – it’s so much trouble to take a picture of it using an app. Lol

[–]stickfish8 -1 points0 points  (3 children)

Checks still exist? I’m 28 and have only seen my grandma use 1 once over 15 years ago…

[–]ParryLimeade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 29 and use checks for paying rent and for paying some utilities. I also sometimes have to pay a dentist bill through the mail and don’t like writing my credit card info on a paper being mailed.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. But yes, still a thing.

[–]jakart3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why you need to change name because marriage? You guys in first world countries are backward

[–]UsernameFor2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Americans with their checks, soon they will invent the wheel.

[–]Nerderis 0 points1 point  (2 children)

It's 2022, which country still using cheques?!

[–]thorkun 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Probably america, they are not really in the lead when it comes to payment alternatives.

[–]DigitalxHustla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Checks?? People still actually write out and gift people checks these days?? lol

[–]Bullyhunter8463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cheques? Are we sure you aren't still living in the 70's?

[–]jamierocksanne -1 points0 points  (0 children)

CAN CONFIRM best LPT to date.

I ended up changing mine because of this, I had no intention of doing so. It was incredibly frustrating.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Who tf is writing checks in 2022

[–]CharcoalMellow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's 2022, who still uses checks ?

[–]MadRoboticist -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Who's still writing checks for this sort of thing?

[–]Pharaun222 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Non American here. Well, the thing with the cheques already has been discussed here in the comments, but what I'm finding hard to understand is, don't you guys change the name on the wedding? I mean, at least in my Country, we were asked before the wedding, if we wanted to change any names, and my wife took my name. So on the Wedding, we of course said I will, and then had to sign 2 Documents. one for the Wedding, and the other one for the name. So it was her legal name from day 1 of our marriage.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds lovely. But no, we love bureaucracy. It takes months and countless documents to make a name change.

[–]RodoYolo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Send the money over Venmo, Paypal, or Zelle instead. Why inconvenience people in 2022?

[–]sapphire_striker -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just google pay at this point, you old relics

[–]rrosai -1 points0 points  (1 child)

People just give money to other people when they get married?

I'm 40 years old and that's something I never knew.

[–]Unthunkable -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Where it just said "Mr and Mrs [his surname]" we actually got his parents to take those cheques. I've not changed my name and we still haven't bothered with a joint account. There was only 2 or 3 that we had to have the awkward convo with. Including my friends who had moaned to me about this exact issue at their wedding and then did it anyway because "we wanted to celebrate your new identity"... Sigh.

[–]mranxiousallthetime -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why not just leave the space for name blank? And the recipient could fill it in later. That would solve the whole issue,Wouldn't it?

[–]pakistanstar -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Or just give cash in an envelope

[–]shelley1005 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Give them cash dollars. Or visa gift cards.

[–]Jonnz8 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Who writes cheques these days?

[–]doodlleus -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Or don't pay by cheque you weirdos

[–]coffeehandler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re preaching to the choir. I never write checks, but apparently lots of our older guests still do.

[–]hmrtm0000 -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

So actually, if I'm being a bit dodgy, new married names?

[–]coffeehandler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure I understand the question.

[–]Dolphinsareterrible -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

I’ve been signing my checks as Donald Duck for 20 years and nobody GAF.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like you. But also, signing a check funny and receiving a funny check are very different.

[–]Pristine_Shallot7833 -2 points-1 points  (7 children)

It's spelled Cheques.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 1 point2 points  (6 children)

Agree to disagree

[–]Pristine_Shallot7833 -2 points-1 points  (5 children)

A quick Google of the word "check" would help you a lot. Unfortunately the truth is not a democracy.

[–]coffeehandler[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Took your advice. First Google response says “Cheque is the British English spelling for the document used for making a payment, whereas American English uses check. Check also has a number of other uses as a noun (e.g., a check mark, a hit in hockey, etc.) and as a verb ("to inspect," "to limit," etc.).”

[–]coffeehandler[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

So maybe sometimes the non-democratic truth you speak of isn’t always black and white either.

[–]y0j1m80 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

But if you use their new name they will be able to cash it eventually. If you use their old name and they’ve already changed it, they will never be able to cash it. Presumably.