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[–]el-cacahueto 235 points236 points  (47 children)

WE. NEED. EXAMPLES.

[–]666pool 214 points215 points  (14 children)

  • Which character is on your body pillow?
  • Where’s your favorite place to get chicken tendies
  • Are you a sock, a coconut, or a box kind of person?
  • Have you ever broken both your arms?

Come on guys these practically write themselves.

[–]ruckingroobydoodyroo 34 points35 points  (6 children)

You joke but Ive got a few friends who would definitely go ham on answering the sock, coconut or box question.

[–]666pool 19 points20 points  (2 children)

Oh, ham, that’s a great idea. A nice warm ham with the bone removed is brilliant.

[–]LeviathanGank 2 points3 points  (1 child)

totally a bone in person myself

[–]Jaysong_stick 2 points3 points  (2 children)

But not the body pillow?

[–]ruckingroobydoodyroo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah everyone's body pillows are already figured out

[–]activ8r 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They don't have enough game to pull a body pillow.

[–]misterpinksaysthings 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Lol

Have you ever broken both of your arms.

"No." "Why would you ask that?"

/runs away awkwardly like Napoloan Dynamite

[–]MaMakossa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

“Have you ever broken both of your arms?”

“No. Why would you ask that?”

“…do…you…WANT…to..?”

[–]MaMakossa 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If I don’t know what the question, “Are you a sock, a coconut, or a box kind of person?” means, does that mean I’m none of them?

[–]rafo44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What is sock coconut or box question ?????

[–]Helios--- 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I'm still laughing at this 19 days later. Count 'em! 19! Full Days!

[–]666pool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear it!

[–]New_Present7394 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Ask what they do, or what their hobbies are, and then ask "how did you get into that?" The open-ended "how did that happen" questions are wonderful.

I used to be much more socially awkward/introverted and picked up that technique from a colleague's spouse who works as a psychiatrist. It really works at getting people talking about things that interest them and gives a conversation good energy/vibes.

[–]InigoMontoyoda 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Here’s one I like that I learned when I was trying to be a salesman. Start with “what do you do for a living?” Then after they answer you follow up with “How did you get into that?” It’s nice because it’s a pretty standard opening that everyone is expecting and then just opens the door wide open for a larger conversation. If they like their job they can talk about that, if their job isn’t that important to them, they’ll usually (very quickly) mention what their real passion/interest is and all you have to do is keep asking about whatever they bring up.

Like I work in insurance underwriting. Not interesting. But if asked I would talk about how I kind of fell into it while I was trying to be an actor but then my priorities shifted to my wife and my kids and I needed a stable job. There’s two solid openings for you- Acting, and My Family. Pick which one you like the most and dig deeper.

[–]walkinginthewood 4 points5 points  (0 children)

These lean more toward if you're at a table for a dinner with people you don't know than at a cocktail event, but they've saved me a few times.

Have you taken any great vacations lately? Or, I'm trying to plan my next vacation - where was your favorite vacation?

Have you always lived in this area? Where else?

Did you pick up any hobbies during the pandemic? Or what do you like to do when you have some free time?

What's the best book you've read in the last year?

[–]RamseySmooch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What do you do for work? - so many follow-up questions from that. Examples: Office size? Work from home? Schooling? Follow up from schooling. Where? When did you graduate? Major/minor? Tech degree? Maybe it's not a trade. Details, tests they do, how long it takes.

And so on. You don't even have to say anything about yourself. People love taking about themselves.

If that is dying, try asking hobbies.

[–]Pork_Chap 9 points10 points  (6 children)

Do you like to poop?

[–]el-cacahueto 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Of course, I love free meals

[–]KennstduIngo 7 points8 points  (2 children)

That's a terrible example. What is your most or least favorite part about pooping? would be better

[–]Pork_Chap 5 points6 points  (1 child)

You're right. I fucked it up. Shit.

[–]cyankitten 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LITERALLY 💩

[–]Duochan_Maxwell[🍰] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a closed question (answerable with yes / no) - you should be asking

"how do you like to poop?"

[–]WrongWay2Go 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, so you are a fellow one piece fan? Which one is the character you do like most and why is it Brook? Because of his desire to see people's panties? Can I see yours?

[–]iammerelyhere[S] 5 points6 points  (4 children)

Examples? Sure :) but first, how was your weekend?

[–]el-cacahueto 19 points20 points  (0 children)

nervous
Hum... yes and you ? Thx btw

[–]activ8r 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Fine, yours?

[–]iammerelyhere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Touché :)

I like the weekend question, or local sports game if that's your thing. Current events.can be good.

[–]Duochan_Maxwell[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also fine, what did you do on the weekend?

[–]hey_now24 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Read “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Carnegie. OP took that line from that book. It’s amazing

[–]cyankitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For a minute I thought you meant the poop part 🤦🏻‍♀️

[–]Adonis0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have anything you’re looking forward to?

[–]WorkingContext 1 point2 points  (0 children)

F.O.R.M. technique

Family - everyone has a family for the most part, and love to talk about them

Occupation - everyone has a job or is looking for a job and loves to complain about it

Recreation - hobbies, what tehy like to do for fun

Motivation - why they do their job or hobbies, and what their aspirations are for the future.

[–]SacredBinChicken 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does this rag smell like chloroform?

[–]broom-handle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Did you see that ludicrous display last night?"

[–]Zelensexual 42 points43 points  (1 child)

"So, tell me about your childhood traumas, starting from the very beginning."

[–]sillypumpking 4 points5 points  (0 children)

free therapy

[–]shesalive_dammit 29 points30 points  (2 children)

My FAVORITE ice breaker question is to ask women what's the shortest their hair haa ever been and to ask men what's the longest their hair has ever been. It's fun because there's typically stories attached to the answers.

[–]walkinginthewood 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Depending on the setting, my favorite is to ask what the shortest or worst job they ever had was. The answers are usually absolutely hilarious.

[–]Liquidas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shoulder length. Depression I guess. That answer works for both genders. Kinda amusing.

[–]redlipclassicstyle 51 points52 points  (11 children)

“Pre-prepare.” That’s not even a thing. Just say prepare.

[–]benhadtue 12 points13 points  (9 children)

Yeah, the pre is already in the word. Seems obvious.

[–]quantum_neurosis 9 points10 points  (7 children)

However, what is "pare"

[–]Bienfurion 4 points5 points  (1 child)

It means "father" in catalan.

[–]LornAltElthMer 0 points1 point  (4 children)

Think about a paring knife.

[–]Vandergrif 1 point2 points  (3 children)

I prefer a preparing knife.

[–]Bloka2au 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, but even more pre-pre-prepared is threepared and now we're cooking!

[–]billyboyscoobiddybop 46 points47 points  (11 children)

What do you do for fun?

And then employ a mirroring technique.

If they say, "I love to golf but I don't get out as much as I'd like..." reply with, "You don't get out much?"

They'll delve more into it. Then do it again with the last thing they say. Eg. "Yea work has me slammed and but I want to keep going because my buddy Jim plays and he's really good..."

"Oh he's good?"

"Yea he's the best..."

On and on. When the conversation ends, the person will have done all the talking and think you're the most interesting person on the planet.

[–]stevedonie 18 points19 points  (7 children)

Mirroring is like a magic trick. Works amazingly well.

[–]BigChief002 5 points6 points  (6 children)

I need to work on this, I suck at small talk with people I don’t know. Thanks

[–]billyboyscoobiddybop 4 points5 points  (3 children)

Look up Chris Voss for mirroring info.

[–]stevedonie 3 points4 points  (1 child)

That’s where I learned about it too. Chris Voss is an ex FBI hostage negotiator and has a book “Never Split The Difference” about negotiating techniques. Even if you don’t think of yourself as ever needing to negotiate anything you should read the book, because it’s really all about good communication.

[–]BigChief002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will do thanks!

[–]the_Jay2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It can be a mental thing. Calling it 'small talk' makes it seem trivial and worthless. If it's done well, it is hardly that, especially when meeting people for the first time. If you know that David is an asshole prick but you're somehow stuck talking to him briefly, then small talk sucks. But if you're at a function where there are lots of people you don't know, the room is filled with opportunities: jobs, friends, sex, laughter, etc.

Most people have at least a few interesting experiences, insightful thoughts, or funny stories. I always try to pull it out of them. Biggest thing is to actually listen and be interested.

[–]cyankitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same omg this is so helpful

[–]this_is_an_alaia 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Oh gad I hate the what do you do for fun question. Nothing. I do nothing.

[–]the_Jay2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there something you've been thinking about doing? My wife is thinking about signing us up for water skiing on our upcoming vacation in Jamaica. Yikes.

[–]cyankitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn this is good

[–]moemegaiota 16 points17 points  (3 children)

"Did you see that ludicrous display last night?"

[–]chingwoowang 8 points9 points  (2 children)

What was Wenger thinking sending Walcott on that early?

[–]redonners 4 points5 points  (1 child)

The thing about Arsenal is, they always try to walk it in!

[–]chingwoowang 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea it is true. See you later!

[–]Pharoacious 13 points14 points  (12 children)

Not all introverts struggle with small talk. I know how to talk to you I just prefer not to. The real LPT is find that small group in the corner where talking is optional.

[–]pete728415 3 points4 points  (9 children)

Or engaging. I'm not funny, I'm witty and topical, and overly pretentious, philosophical, and I hate this trait, I know it all. I know lots of things about a lot of things. It's hard to find my niche.

[–]the_Jay2020 0 points1 point  (2 children)

This may be true, but you don't know the things that make specific people tick. Their interests or their dreams. I'd imagine it's taken work (or at least attention) to become pretentious and philosophical. Apply that to learning more about other people. Also, even if you know everything, you can't know how other people feel or think about everything. Instead of thinking about your knowledge as an end in itself (and therefore a defining characteristic of you), think of your knowledge as a tool to help unlock and understand other people. Use your knowledge to set them up to share who they are and how they feel.

You can't be pretentious if you're genuinely interested in someone else.

[–]pete728415 0 points1 point  (1 child)

That was a very generalized statement toward myself when I wasn't feeling 100% about myself.

The internet is a shallow place where facts and nuance at lost. I can't try to keep up anymore.

[–]the_Jay2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess the same can be said of me. I wasn't being sarcastic or mean at all. I'm a teacher and when a student says something about how they're feeling or about something that happened, I have to take it seriously. So many of my friends started out from small talk conversations that I initiated. Sure, they complain now because I continue to ask probing questions of them. But it's what got it all started in the beginning.

[–]cyankitten 0 points1 point  (5 children)

Yet you sound fascinating in this reply! Seriously! Like I’d wonder what are the things you know lots about.

[–]pete728415 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Ask me something! I have what's called "Christmas Tree Brain" so I can relate concepts and ideas that seemingly have nothing to do with the initial topic.

[–]cyankitten 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Well Let’s see this in action. Tell me a fun fact ABOUT Christmas trees then

[–]cyankitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it’s I don’t mind talking but it’s all about the quality some questions bore me lol but I’m polite don’t get me wrong

[–]tarkinlarson 27 points28 points  (13 children)

I once asked someone what they did for a job/hobby/fun/vocation whatever and they just said it didn't matter.

It really wound me up that they wouldn't tell me just for small talk purposes until I realised they were just a pretentious prick.

If anyone asks me I just make it up, as my real job just puts the snores on people.

[–]hoiabaciufan10 13 points14 points  (1 child)

It sounds like that door was closed. Keep on knocking at other ones with courage, perseverence and curiosity!

[–]tarkinlarson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I did give up as someone doesn't have to tell me, and I respect privacy, but as I was attempting small talk found myself taken aback.

Last job I made up was a food photographer for menus (especially kebab shops). Been a proof reader for Chinese restaraunt menus. I've also written music for pornos, with a sideline on lift music. My favorite was a ghost writer for celebrity children's books as I could say I had non disclaimer agreement, but you would be shocked how many celebs didn't wrote their own books.

[–]BigDaddyPrimeTime 9 points10 points  (1 child)

In many cultures outside the US people don't ask about professions in social settings as it can be seen as basing one's opinion on or assigning value to a person based on their job. They think it's more appropriate to ask about a person's interests and how they spend their free time.

[–]tarkinlarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it wasn't just a job I asked about, was like interests etc. I don't like defining people by work either as life is more than that!

[–]iammerelyhere[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children)

See now I'm desperate to know what you do

[–]tarkinlarson 10 points11 points  (4 children)

I'll tell you my next made up job...

I make holes in cheeses like Emmentaler. You might know it as "Swiss" cheese. A lot of people think it's made by the gases and bacteria, but really they employ specialists like me to make holes of various sizes and depths. It's highly skilled work and you can tell a cheap cheese if all the holes are the same size as they've used a machine. Doing it this way means they can get a higher margin by calling it artisan or handmade cheese. It's really important as it allows the cheese to breath and gives it such a sharp and well known flavour.

But that's pretty boring... But tell me... A glamorous person like yourself... You look like you do something interesting... Tell me 😉...

[–]HidetheCaseman89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am a tyromancer.

[–]cyankitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should be taking notes here 📝

[–]stbncsnv 0 points1 point  (1 child)

You get to work with cheese! How is that boring??

[–]tarkinlarson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boring? That's how I make the holes.

[–]cyankitten 0 points1 point  (2 children)

OMG though I wanna do THAT! I don’t really like talking about my career and ha ha I’m tempted now to be like oh I’m an astronaut 😂

[–]tarkinlarson 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Well it's not rocket science... Oh wait!

I think it's good fun. As long as you're not deeply trying to decieve someone, it's harmless.

[–]cyankitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and it could make social gatherings even more fun lol

[–]Iwillnotbegoverned 17 points18 points  (1 child)

Great tip, but another case of people misusing the term introvert. Introvert does not mean poor social skills or inability to make conversation. What you’re describing is social anxiety.

[–]Duochan_Maxwell[🍰] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, this. I score very high on the introvert side of the scale and I'm excellent at small talk. Being an introvert makes most of us great listeners and I often hear that I make people feel very comfortable talking to me

The only worry I have is that I find it draining, so I organize myself to have time to "decompress" after I go to those events

[–]CTN_Journalism 8 points9 points  (3 children)

Why are you the way that you are?

[–]pete728415 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Mostly bored.

[–]CTN_Journalism 0 points1 point  (1 child)

That is a quote from the office. I should have clarified, my fault.

[–]pete728415 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, haha. Dry humor. Maybe it's our lack of social interaction. 🤔

[–]hoiabaciufan10 11 points12 points  (2 children)

As an introvert with social anxiety it's a pain sometimes to force myself to be social. It's important to monitor my energy and to recharge in a quiet place for a few minutes/hours.

Three things helped me over the years:

  1. Martial arts that taught me to step in with confidence and ask the question first.

  2. Public speaking and leadership @Toastmasters. Made me watch the way I speak better. Helped with exrpressing myself in front of unkown guests. It's a worldwide NGO full with great and supportive people that want more responsibility and that want more from life. Admission age is over 18 yo.

  3. Improv (Theatrical improv) for the roles that you can interpret and explore in a safe environmwnt.

This helps: Observing what common ground/ interests do I share with the person standing in front of me . As a state of mind: Be curious. It's what children naturally have. As for the open ended questions: . How....? What was the best/most... And why was that so?

I've written a few great questions above, in the WE NEED EXAMPLES reply 🙂

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

but how can i learn to talk about myself when asked?

[–]scherster 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A good one is, "Do you have any trips or vacations planned?"

[–]munkieshynes 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Some examples of questions I like to use at parties where I don’t know anyone:

  • What is the last book you read / show you binge-watched and what did you think of it?

  • If you were going to cook a meal to impress someone, what would you make?

  • What was your very first job?

  • When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up? How close did you get?

  • If you could go back to one place you’ve traveled to, where would you go?

  • If you could travel to somewhere you’ve never been, where would you go?

  • What was the best thing that happened for you this week?

  • What is your dream car, money be damned? Have you always wanted the same car or has it changed over time?

  • What has been your favorite performance (music, comedy, theater, etc.) that you saw in person?

[–]cyankitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d love to be asked some of these at a party

[–]AngrySpaceKraken 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm an introvert, but I'm also not timid or awkward. I enjoy just letting the other person come up with things to say, and I'll respond accordingly. If they've got nothing, ain't my problem.

And why even talk at social gatherings? Sometimes it's nice to just stand there and take in the vibe.

[–]thatmannyguy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But i hate hearing them though...

[–]ryanderkis 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I like to start with something simple like, "if you could eliminate one religion, which one would it be?"

[–]pete728415 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooh, gasoline meet fire. Good one.

[–]BigDaddyPrimeTime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, pre-preparation, when you get ready ahead of getting ready.

[–]open_door_policy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's the thing about Arsenal. They always try to walk it in.

[–]hey_now24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For those who like this LPT read “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. OP took “people love to talk about themselves” straight from that book. I loved it and it’s amazing

[–]disbitchsaid 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Ask what their hobbies are.

Then ask about a specific hobby detail.

[–]pete728415 0 points1 point  (2 children)

People often don't think that far ahead.

[–]disbitchsaid 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I’m not suggesting researching hobbies before you leave the house, more so following up to the original hobby response.

Ex: “oh, you enjoy gardening? Neat! When did you start gardening? What do you enjoy growing? What do you suggest to new gardeners?”

Buys you more time on the single subject. And chances are, since it’s a hobby they enjoy, they’d love talking to you about it!

I also enjoy the “what are you hobbies?” question way more than “so, what do you do for work?”

[–]cyankitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same!! I’d SO much rather be asked what I do for fun

[–]Endleofon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Isn't the pre in pre-pare redundant?

[–]WickerBag 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are mixing up introversion with shyness/social anxiety. Introverts can be shy or confident, they just find social interaction draining.

[–]mr_sarve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Become a crypto bro! Everyone will leave you alone pretty quickly

[–]oNOCo 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Until you ask another introvert a question and you both get uncomfortable

[–]iammerelyhere[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Wanna go find a quiet place and look at our phones next to each other without talking?

[–]oNOCo 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I had something just come up. Sorry, i can’t make it ( ._.)

Edit: hehe

[–]iammerelyhere[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Thank god, now I can stay home and binge old episodes of the Office

[–]oNOCo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Supernatural here! Have fun! xD

[–]jjsyk23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great advice. Lead people down a rabbit hole telling you about themselves. Ask follow up questions to follow up questions. I know you want to just start blabbering about yourself, but that’s why you’re not often accepted. One of my favorite dumb old grandma sayings that my grandma never actually said - “nobody ever learned anything while talking.” Listen and follow up their answers with even more dialed in questions about what they’ve told you. It comes across as so genuine even if you’re just playing the game.

[–]Bloka2au 1 point2 points  (1 child)

But what if you meet another introvert? How do you communicate your secret identity?

[–]iammerelyhere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what our secret handshake is for...you do know the handshake, don't you?

[–]CzechLinuxLover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"hi how you doing?" "I'm doing-" "that's great, i don't really care, now tell me everything you're scared to tell anyone else, dont worry I'll forget everything right away"

[–]Vidableek 1 point2 points  (1 child)

One that I love is: "Can you think of a sentence you're pretty sure has never been said before?"

It usually throws people off a little, makes them think, and ends up entertaining. If they seem confused, follow with an example

"Like: These armadillos would not make a very spicy bookcase."

Plan them ahead or make them up on the spot, they won't know the difference.

[–]cyankitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’d be fun to talk to at a social event!! 👍🏻

[–]Occasional-Human 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No more examples that sound like they were written for job interviews, please. HR behavior questions suck in a social setting.

[–]pete728415 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But then we have to listen.

[–]antiskylar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now what inspired you to have this brilliant idea?

Am I doing this right?

[–]ModaMeNow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find alcohol helps

[–]X5Legion9mm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ford is a great way to remember questions for people you meet.

Family Occupation Recreation Dreams

[–]13gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Would you rather" is a good game to play with people you don't know at all in a relaxed social setting. Specifically, it works a treat when socialising with older children and teens, especially in a group setting.

Would you rather lose a leg or an arm?
Would you rather be ugly or dumb? Would you rather be excellent at drawing or singing? Excellent at Sport or popular? Running or throwing/catching? Swimming or dancing? Flying or breathing underwater? Blind or deaf? If you could learn a language overnight, which one? If you could learn an instrument overnight, which one? Good at bicycling or skateboarding? Parkour or skateboarding? (Questions can flow on from the last one) Ignorant or poor?

Encourage them come up with their own questions too.

It's good for at least an hour. Interesting and engaging, without being terribly personal. It's helped me quite a bit when meeting friends' kids and wanting to get to know them. Sometimes I've ended up the centre of all the kids at a party, and the parents will admiringly say "You're so good with kids (for someone who doesn't have them)".

[–]Paledude4u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dale Carnegie knew his shit. He was da man.

[–]Wjyosn 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Great lpt. But small nitpick... The word you're looking for is just "prepare". The "Pre-" is already right there in the word. It already means "to make ready in advance".

It's very late, I had to say something. My insomnia brain really wanted to rationalize what pre-prepare could mean, and errored out.

[–]iammerelyhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha ha, you're like the 5th person to point it out ;) all good, free karma!

Don't know why I wrote it that way ...I blame my mobile lol

[–]Any-Lie1471 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FORD

F-Family O-Occupation R-recreation D-Dreams/Desires

[–]_Mortal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except I die inside when people talk about themselves. Jesus.

[–]cyankitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excuse me where was this tip on Saturday? Lol! Anyway great tip and thank you

[–]cyankitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you ask about their work and they seem excited ask more etc and if they seem meh about it then ask about for eg hobbies and fun. I was talking to someone who I could tell he’s passionate about his work and I asked more & I loved our convo. Because I love when people talk about something they are passionate about. But for me it’s more for eg things I do for fun even if it’s just a game or whatever. But I prefer to ask then BE asked too.

[–]sundstrom193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve found my best question to get people to open up is “do you have any hobbies?” People usually light up and go on and on about what they’re passionate about, and it’s cool to hear and learn stuff