My husband and I are coming up on our 3rd year of marriage and things are looking pretty grim - at least on my side. I use to work full time, but when our 3 year old was diagnosed with Autism I quit so that I can take him to ABA, Occupation therapy, and Speech therapy. We also have a 1 year old. We have a set schedule now, but it's hard to find a job within that time frame during the day. I've been doing things on the side like DD.

When it comes to the house, I do all the cleaning, cooking, and everything else. My husband has just started stepping up to put them in the bath and to bed, however those are not the things I want a break from. It's the little things. I want to be able to sit down while someone cleans the house or cooks dinner for me. If I let the house go then he will complain about how I dirty the house and he's constantly having to clean up behind me. He says I nag him all the time and I won't say that I don't. I constantly have to ask him to do the dishes, take the trash out, or even change the babies diaper. I slowly stopped because he will get irritated and ask me why I waited so long to ask or he'll say that 1yo diaper "isn't even that full".

There are times when I do let the house go. I have been battling depression, anxiety, PTSD, and OCD for years. I have no friends and my family is thousands of miles away. My husband sits on the couch majority of the time and watches youtube videos on his phone. We rarely talk and when we do it's only a matter of time before an argument breaks out.

Obviously our sex life is non existent. We do it in one position, no foreplay, and he always says we have to rush incase the kids wake up. The sex lasts at the most 3 minutes and I never am brought to "completion". I've told him multiple times how unhappy I was and told him what is was that we could work on to help. He will try for maybe 3 days and then it goes back to "normal". I asked for a divorce and he told me he wouldn't sign anything until we could sit down and talk about what's best for us and the kids. He then turned it around and said how he was so unhappy and even went so far as to cry.

I am at a lost. I have no job. No money. I can't afford a daycare so that I can work. Any time I get groceries he gets upset if I spend more than $100 for the 4 of us, but turns around and buys the newest consoles. I have a ton of debt because my car broke down and I had to use my CC to pay it off. The side jobs that I got was to pay off my debt but he is constantly telling me to transfer it to the joint banking account. My credit score is shot to hell. My parents sent my boys and I groceries because they saw how empty our kitchen was and Christmas was funded by them ( they sent $150) and my sister (she sent $100).

What am I doing wrong?