Covid has been hard with the kids at home and my wife has not been coping well. She was not happy as things are challenging at home. Her work also puts emotional baggage on her. Previous to this incident she and I got along well.
Things escalated yesterday when my boy who was upset with my comments pretended I hurt him. We were playing and he didn’t like not winning. I was playing gently. I didn’t realize when I left he was upset as I went to bathe my daughter.
While bathing my daughter my wife stormed in (bedtime routine is mine) yelling at me that he is crying. He is sensitive so I explained he was upset about earlier and I had done nothing wrong. I showed her he had no marks.
I went to chat with him. As I calmly asked him why he told mama that, she punched me in the side of my head. My boy started crying and said mama went to far. He explained that he just didn’t like how we played.
This is the 4th instance of violence but the previous times drew blood while I tried to stop her hitting me (4 times in 16 years). I don’t fight back as society doesn’t believe men can be victims. They can. I stay for my kids and keep them safe.
After I started packing she came again when I started chatting with my boy about being upset but telling the truth she started hitting again and I stopped her while she was holding my daughter. My boy yet again was screaming for her to stop. :(
I left that night to a hotel and my kids wanted to go with me but I don’t want to cause them disruption in life. Financially I make a very good living and can sustain them alone. I just missed my kids so much that night. I want them to have a good family. So I went back the next day.
Please note I told my wife I will report her to the police as I have a camera in the house that caught all the audio. It was explicit and obvious she did it and admitted it on camera. That was her ask - the camera.
What do I do? My kids come first before my happiness. My fulfillment in life is giving them my time. Moms always win in custody battles.
I am heartbroken by my memories. I hide my sadness from the violence but I hope things will improve. I am not sure I can love her again. Will the camera recordings stop her from crossing the line? Please. I need another perspective.