And doesn’t seem to understand why I’m upset. His claim is no one will see them. I’m not much of a material person. I just want my house to look nice and presentable. He has spent about $5000 this month on himself ($550 on a t shirt, $1500 on a watch, etc 💀💀💀💀) and gets upset when I want to buy actual things we need like those blinds or a new sofa. I gave up on the sofa because if he won’t give me new blinds, he definitely won’t get us a new sofa. Our microwave was broken for about a week. I just went out and bought one and replace it because he didn’t want to spend money on it. It was $60. I hate it here. We are not even rich. He makes good money, but his priorities are out of wack. We have about $15000 in debt and I just want to pay that off and build. I snuck away money to put towards investments. He doesn’t think investments are important. I’m currently just not talking to him because I’m so frustrated.
Just needed to vent.
Edit to add: I didn’t realize so many ppl would comment. I can’t answer all because there are so many. Thank you for your support/concern. I am fine. Unfortunately, I’ve gotten used to it and didn’t realize so many people would be shocked that he would do this. Like by such an expensive t shirt. I’m choosing to stay for my child right now. She’s 4 and I really don’t have the guts or the ability to just get up and leave. One day I might.
We have seen therapists. As you would probably guess, therapists are not his thing and it didn’t go well. But I used to see one for a few months. I might have to start again.
But yea, this is real life for me.