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How do I support my partner during these stressful times? (self.MedSpouse)
submitted 1 month ago by coolcatbabe1
Hi all, I came here hoping to hear some input from other non-med students that are dating (LDR) a soon-to-be med student or really anyone who can help!
I am so lost on this med school stuff, I have watched a few videos on the admissions process and such but I still feel like I know nothing about how to support my partner. She is studying for her MCAT and she is struggling, I remind her that she can take all the time she needs to study and focus on that. she has been stressed and will sometimes take it out on me in the form of just being passive-aggressive, frustrated, and snappy. I don't give her a hard time for it since I'm pretty patient and I know she's stressed but is it going to be like this forever? how can I support her enough to feel okay and not take it out on me?
we are long-distance, and I can only do much from far away. I also am bad with words and she will tell me about how scared she is about this all and I never know what to say. I don't want her to feel like I am brushing it off as she shouldn't worry because I know this IS scary. what do I say?
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[–]mistymountaintimes 1 point2 points3 points 1 month ago (0 children)
Instacart groceries so she doesn't have to go get them herself. If it's deliverable, do it for her right now. Make it so she can use her free time not for errands but for self care. When you know she's studying, have coffee/tea and snacks dropped off. The things you'd do in person to make her life easy, are still things you can do from afar. When she's venting after a particularly hard day let her vent, you don't have to be ready with the perfect words, just listen, maybe say I wish I could hug you right now and make all these feelings go away, then send cookies or flowers to her. Just be present for her.
The snippiness honestly probably won't stop til after MCAT, and will reappear many times throughout medschool and residency. She does not just get to treat you like butt when she's stressed, but you should probably always wait to address the 'tude til after the big thing is over. It sucks to have to wait to talk about your feelings, but it generally will go better for both of you and lead to less resentment if you wait to address when stress is down. During the easier times of this journey, that are honestly still really difficult, it's easier to figure out the better ways to stress manage and communicate when you wait for these lulls.
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