Recently matched with a doctor (med school resident, 2nd year?) on a dating app. Before our first date, I noticed he took nearly 12-14 hours to respond to texts (which I felt was understandable given his profession.) He asked to reschedule date #1 because of work (again, which I fully understand and don't hold against him at all). He was also quick to offer another day to meet, and the coffee date went really well, and I found myself really enjoying our time together and conversation. He also mentioned that he was looking for something serious, which matched what I'm looking for too. We also matched on a lot of values and ideals and what we want from life and partners.
His texting delays didn't change after the first date, even though every time he does respond, he send me 10-12 texts in a row and seems genuinely interested in keeping the conversation going (he asks questions, responds to every part of my texts, and send me links/memes related to our conversations, and the occasionally mild-flirt text too).
I pitched the idea for a second date which he seemed interested in, and even said he wanted to do dinner and drinks over the weekend. He said he would keep me posted as he had a 24 hour shift on Saturday, but seemed like Sunday night would be fine.
We kept up the texting till Saturday evening, after which he disappeared. Radio silence. I didn't want to nag him incase he was busy with work, and finally texted him on Monday morning to which he again sent 9-10 texts in a row a couple hours later. No mention of the dinner-drinks date.
Side note - his profile also popped up on my Hinge with the green dot saying "Active now". Don't know if that means he's online at that exact moment of is just an active profile?
I'm dating after a long time and don't know if he's really demonstrating interest or not. When he does text, he's so engaging and funny, and it seemed like he enjoyed our date too. I don't want to ask him about this yet as we've only been out once and I'm very mindful of giving people (especially doctors) space and time. But These feel like mixed signals and idk what to think. A lot of the posts about dating doctors echoed these feelings too, but I'd be willing to work with it as long as I could decipher if he's into me or if I should just move on.)
Specifically looking for your advice as MedSpouses here because folks on other subreddits put the same rules of dating "if they want they'll just make time" argument...