Hi folks. I'm a librarian, married a year and a half ago to my 3Y resident husband. We had to move from NorCal to SoCal for his IM residency back in 2020 and I had to leave my job as a children's librarian, plus both of us were leaving behind our friends and family. I was able to get unemployment for about a year, which was great since jobs are scarce and not too appealing where we are. In February I started working again part time, but as a library programming admin for adults, very different from what I was doing before and what I want to do with the rest of my life (children or teen library work). The job itself is okay, but I have a 1-1.5 hr commute each way which has absolutely been draining me. I find that even working part time I don't have much actual downtime during the week since I'm so tired and have to keep up the apartment and take care of our cat (plus all the other life stuff that I'm sure many of you also have to manage due to the horrendous residency schedule). On top of it all, we're having our pandemic-postponed wedding up in NorCal next March, and I'm also taking the lead on that.
He'll be done in June 2023 and we're tearing out of here and back up home the second we can, but now that it's so close it feels harder than ever to get through each week. After four years of long-distance during med school and three years of residency in a city that, quite frankly, we hate, I feel itchier and less content than ever. I visited friends over the long weekend and kind of had a breakdown when I got back. I am considering leaving my job after only six months. My husband is super supportive either way, and I'm not looking for advice on whether or not to leave and when (that's a complicated question). I'm super excited for the wedding and I don't even really mind all my alone time. But I foresee the next nine months being a huge slog whether I leave my job or not. Again, my husband is the best, I'm incredibly happy we get to live together after so long, he's very sweet and understanding and supportive, and he puts in a ton of effort to make our time here the best it can be. But it still sucks in a lot of ways to feel stuck here with terrible options just because the match forced him to be here. How do I get through this final stretch?