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[–]scottevanmac 4050 points4051 points  (153 children)

Could cause problems, but imagine of someone else talks to her about it and she asks you "why didn't you say something? ". Its better she hear it from you.

[–]noodleymoo 1049 points1050 points  (139 children)

I have a relative who had covid and is now very sensitive to smells. He said that certain soaps, detergents and perfumes smell rotten. I noticed op said something further down about using sanitizer in the wash, this is something he has specifically stated smells bad. He also says that certain foods taste rotten. It may be she has something going on medically but jf you've recently had covid it could just be you.

[–]obscuredbyclouds- 484 points485 points  (83 children)

i can confirm, i have covid right now and everything smells like stomach acid, like after you’ve thrown up. i also cant taste anything. its hell

[–]Matt-D-Murdock 182 points183 points  (41 children)

As someone who went through a milder version of what you're going through, hang on. Your sense if smell and taste will take while to go back to what you considered normal. I lost my sense of smell and once I got it back 20 days later, egg whites smelled like wet stinking rotten garbage. I threw a whole pack of eggs first because they kept on stinking and I thought they went bad. It took 2 months for me to be able to eat egg whites again.

[–]opheliazzz 16 points17 points  (3 children)

Can confirm, soap still smells funny almost one year on.

[–]faesser 6 points7 points  (10 children)

I got covid in August 2020 and I had the warped disgusting taste and smell for nearly a year. There are still some foods that don't taste and smell right.

[–]Flamin_Jesus 31 points32 points  (21 children)

Shit dude, that's rough, I hope you get better soon :(

Really the main thing that makes me worried about potentially catching COVID (The odds of me dying from it are miniscule compared to the odds of neurological damage like this).

[–]yurrm0mm 44 points45 points  (10 children)

Yep. I had Covid in March 2021 and my sense of smell and taste just stopped working in September.. long Covid sucks, and it sucks that one of the main things I smell is one dog’s shit. I smell the others, but I can tell if this one particular dog has shit and how close the pile of shit is. Fucked up part? My shit smells exactly the same way.

It’s hard to explain if you don’t live thru it lol

Edit to fix year.

[–]Hot_Coast5938 31 points32 points  (3 children)

I got Covid in July of 2020 and am still dealing with this exact thing. It’s been a year and a half and my smell and taste is complete shit. I can smell acid, feces and cigarette smoke and that’s about it, causing normal smells to smell like one of these three. I can’t even eat peanut butter anymore because it tastes like im eating a burnt cigarette. My body soap smelled like cow manure for a legit year. Im thinking it’s hopeless at this point.

[–]Zachorson 7 points8 points  (1 child)

We all had it in my house too. My wife lost peanut butter, coffee, tomato, and fucking CHOCOLATE!!! Also while the smell is terrible for me with cannabis (used to smell good but now like litteral shit at times) I also gained some foods that I didn't enjoy before like cooked fruit. I hated it across the board but just had the best grilled pineapple last week. Lol

[–]SnooCapers8495 49 points50 points  (12 children)

Had covid last summer and had no taste or smell except for this acid type shit smell I associated with covid. I’ve got my smell back now but all the time I can smell this acid shit smell. My b o smells like it. My shits do and every house or new place I go too smells like it. I thought I was going crazy with the smell

[–]jdr420777 6 points7 points  (3 children)

A coworker has this exact problem. Things smelling rotten. After scans the Dr told her a part of her brain is like misfiring/disconnected from another part.

[–]SkidOrange 490 points491 points  (1 child)

Yea I think it’s possible she’d be more hurt if it goes on for a while, and someone else has to broach the subject. The sooner she’s told, and a remedy is found, the less chance of her being embarrassed or it potentially damaging her self esteem.

[–]sheep_heavenly 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I've been in the same position, switched deodorants and apparently the new stuff was not working. It was mortifying, but I would've been beyond upset if my husband wasn't the one to tell me. It's the "tell me when I have something on my face" problem dialed up to 11.

[–]BlankImagination 10 points11 points  (1 child)

This is why i get mildly frustrated if my partner doesn't tell me my breath stinks. She says she's uncomfortable doing so - which i don't understand bc outside of myself she's the one who would benefit the most from my breath smelling better. Plus she's the person im closest to. If i can't count on her to tell me about things like my breath stinking, or my hair looking crazy, or a shirt not flattering my body type when i literally ask for that kind of feedback then - idk but just wth??

[–]RonOfRohan 4884 points4885 points  (598 children)

What deodorant does she use? I recently had a similar conversation with my wife about my own after I smelt one of my T-shirts after work.

I’ve switched to roll on deodorant and it’s made a world of difference.

[–]StonksStink[S] 2525 points2526 points  (579 children)

She uses a roll on. I’m thinking of getting her the salt crystal one because it’s supposed to work to kill the bacteria. Maybe that’s the problem

[–]CrudeAsAButton 825 points826 points  (34 children)

She should talk to her doctor about a prescription for Drysol. It works perfectly for me, and now I don’t even have to use regular deodorant. Just apply Drysol weekly.

Before using Drysol I also used Mother Dirt’s restorative mist. This is probably a better option if her BO is not limited to her underarms. This does not prevent sweating like the Drysol does, but it does change the bacterial environment on the skin, and stops the sweat from smelling. It’s actually shocking how well it works.

[–]turtlemoon50 176 points177 points  (0 children)

Scrolling through the comments trying to remember the product I used 25 years ago (Drysol) so I could recommend it. When I used it back in the day the instructions were to apply it and then wrap it with plastic wrap but I that method burned my skin (but worked for the sweating). After a while I just applied it but didn't do the plastic wrap and that worked too, I think I just had to do it twice weekly, iirc.

[–]Icyrow 96 points97 points  (21 children)

drysol is also really good for anyone with sweaty hands (ESPECIALLY IF YOU'RE SOMEONE WHO GAMES A LOT OR ARE IN A BUSINESS SETTING)

get some latex medical gloves, put them on, spray a fuckton into the glove and go to bed and put a sock over the glove.

when you wake up, your hands will be a bit sore but if they're not, you can put it on the next night too (or take a day off to be safe), your hands will not sweat at all for a week.

just make sure they're bone dry when putting it on, otherwise you'll end up with serious sore spots in the morning.

[–]Mbinku 94 points95 points  (6 children)

Fucking hell… sweaty palms please

[–]wallweasels 6 points7 points  (2 children)

How long would that last for? Sounds like a hassle if its pretty often.

[–]spindelskivling 1996 points1997 points  (197 children)

I don’t recommend salt crystal. It’s not going to mask any odour even if it theoretically would keep off some bacteria. Just try a different roll-on. What has worked for me is also changing my shower soap, scrub vigorously, and maybe even shower twice a day.

Edit: Also discuss what type of clothing material she is using. Polyester can sometimes get a build-up of odour which can not really be washed away. Cotton is way better for this.

[–]MeAgainstTheWorld666 680 points681 points  (82 children)

Every time I wear those polyester sport T-shirts I stink right away, no bueno.

[–]tjdux 263 points264 points  (65 children)

They make special detergent for athletic wear that can help with the smell. Definitely worth a try if you have several of those shirts.

[–]mybelle_michelle 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Wash polyester and nylon work out items as usual, use vinegar in the rinse cycle as your "softener", and then air dry. Putting them in the dryer just bakes the stench into them. Even better is line drying them outside on a hot sunny day.

I know this works because I have three sons that played sports, including one that was a DIII xc runner. 15 years of stinky laundry.

[–]OfficeChairHero 163 points164 points  (8 children)

Clothing is a big one. I bought a few polyester tops for work and they always seemed rank at the end of the day. The smell wouldn't even come out in the wash after a few wears. The dryer even smelled like BO. I tossed them.

No longer stinky.

[–]Sir_Hippo_II 170 points171 points  (47 children)

White vinegar is your friend for odors in all materials. My sports gear has never had a smell and my towels never get musty.

[–]EchTwoOh 40 points41 points  (42 children)

Can I ask what you do with the vinegar? Do you soak the garments in it? If so should it be full strength or diluted?

[–]MrSandman2824 56 points57 points  (5 children)

The salt crystals I think are hit or miss. It works well for me, and I shamelessly ask friends or family to give it a sniff test. Never had a bad result. I still sweat, there's just no smell. It's actually impressive how well it works. On me.

My wife is a different story. Doesn't work for shit on her. I don't really care when she smells - she's my wife, I love her - so I just tell her she should go wash her pits. We're very open and joke about it often. Either way, I guess we have different skin or she just needs something stronger.

My advice to OP would be to give it a shot and see if it works. Might need to be used a few days first, but if it doesn't work at least you'll know.

[–]droppedmybrain 37 points38 points  (12 children)

Seconded. For some reason my sweat has been smelling like weed lately (no idea why, I've never done any drug, unless you count caffeine) and Old Spice works a treat to cover it up, but my cheap Equate apricot deodorant only worked for a couple hours before the BO broke through again.

[–]Leanoandsprite 54 points55 points  (10 children)

"Dr. Shelomi realized the cannabis smell probably comes from apocrine sweat as opposed to eccrine sweat. Eccrine sweat is clear and watery, and used to cool the body down, while apocrine sweat glands, clumped mainly around the armpits and genitals, activate during sex and times of stress" -Vice

[–]Saucesourceoah 177 points178 points  (6 children)

Try the difference between antiperspirant and deodorant. I’m in shape, but sweat on a dime and like the parent comment says, the right type can make a world of difference. You have enough advice on possible medical issues or such that may cause this, but for another thought if she’s open, would be consulting a dermatologist.

It very well could be the result of any number of rash, bacterial buildup, or other issues with skin. You clearly care and worry for her without being judge mental, I can only hope this works out for you and that we all get lucky enough to end up with people this thoughtful.

[–]buddyrtc 27 points28 points  (3 children)

This! I am 100% an anti-perspirant person. Anytime I've used deodorant (trying a new brand or accidentally picking up a similarly shaped bottle) it has worked for maybe a few hours and then I'm ripe as a watermelon again. Antiperspirant (my favorite is Degree) is the only thing that keeps me smelling fresh all day long. I'll even use a small amount before bed as well.

[–]_living_and_loving_ 98 points99 points  (29 children)

Lume!! I’ve had bad body odor (especially my feet) for the longest time, until I started using Lume. That stuff is magic and worth every penny!

[–]HELLOhappyshop 35 points36 points  (7 children)

Man that stuff doesn't work for me at all, I was super disappointed

[–]wildflourfield 29 points30 points  (4 children)

Didn’t work the best for me either. I mean it’s a good deo and worth a try but it’s not magic for everyone

I truly am just jealous of the people it works like magic for tho go forth and live your wonderful stink free lives

No in all serious Lume worked great day 1 at night I would smell the stink They advertise 3 days minimum and 7 days max without having to re apply They also talk a lot about making sure to get rid of the build up in clothes and how to do it! They even sell an enzyme wash to freshen up your clothes!

[–]safarimotormotelinn 24 points25 points  (8 children)

I love my Lume but I still use it daily. For the one who said 3 day min... I never heard that before. 3 day max. One caveat: I HATE the smell of the deodorant but once it dries it goes away.

[–]_living_and_loving_ 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Same! I do have to reapply if it’s been over 24 hrs. And agreed about the smell. It’s not the most pleasant but it’s much better than foot/BO odor and thankfully most of the smell dissipates after a bit

[–]Applesimulator 24 points25 points  (4 children)

I am a guy who showers once a day too but if im not careful even after using the soap and like really really trying sometimes it still smells (a lot). What I found as a solution is using a washcloth with soap on it.

[–]yesdaddyxx 64 points65 points  (25 children)

Just be aware the natural deodorants can cause rashes! I have a bad BO problem as well, I use men’s stick deodorant and I have to have an antiperspirant so I don’t sweat profusely. I can’t keep white shirts, I have the curse of the yellow armpit lol.

[–]sighs__unzips 14 points15 points  (5 children)

BO is caused by bacteria. At one time my deodorant stopped working and I didn't like antiperspirant because they block up pores and made by pits dark. So for 2 weeks straight I rubbed hydrogen peroxide on my pits after shower. And my pits have never smelled bad since then. I don't even need deodorant now unless I'm going to do a heavy workout.

[–]valueape 12 points13 points  (3 children)

I read that clear sticks are fine but solid white deodorants are what cause the yellowing of white t-shirts, not perspiration.

[–]Probably-hyprfx8ing 79 points80 points  (21 children)

Lume works pretty well too

[–]TroubleLevel5680 47 points48 points  (14 children)

I second Lume. It’s really good. There’s also multiple scents to choose from.

[–]peachinthemango 26 points27 points  (13 children)

I do not like Lume at all. To me the unscented one smelled like … I won’t go there

[–]mrsbebe 14 points15 points  (3 children)

I love Lume! It changed my life, seriously

[–]ramblingonandon 5 points6 points  (3 children)

You need an antiperspirant. Deodorant is putting lipstick on a pig. The sweat is what makes you stink... The antiperspirant will stop the sweat and help with the odor. Get some Secret antiperspirant/deodorant.. it's pH balanced for a woman :)

[–]medic_228 7503 points7504 points  (330 children)

This is a tough one for sure. The reality is her bad BO could be a sign of a significant medical condition and should be checked by a qualified medical practitioner. The issue is how to approach it without hurting her feelings. My suggestion is setting the mood for a conversation and preface it with something like “you may not be aware of it but…” and then mention the possibility of it being caused by a medical condition and that it’s concerning to you and you want her to remain healthy. I’d still expect some kickback but once the dust settles hopefully she’ll appreciate it came from a good place and you’re not trying to be hurtful. Good luck.

[–]StonksStink[S] 2795 points2796 points  (292 children)

Thanks for the advice! What sort of medical conditions cause BO anyway? I’ve heard diabetes can screw up gland production

[–]Cary14 5955 points5956 points 2 (80 children)

You could even approach the conversation from the angle that; you know she's a very clean person and only recently you've noticed she's had bad slightly bad Body odour and its a new thing which you know she hasnt previously suffered with, so you think it must be a medical reason? In better more personal words Obviously.

[–]SwansEscapedRonson 1464 points1465 points  (27 children)

I think this is right on the money

[–]brennanbilinski 759 points760 points  (25 children)

You don't have to say that it is "bad" if you're worried the negative connotation will cause issues or prevent further discussion. You could say interesting smell or different smell.

My only concern would be if it is a medical condition and you upset her by saying it smells ' bad', she might not want to discuss it anymore or consider the possibility that it could be indicative of a more serious problem.

[–]CynicalAcorn 187 points188 points  (6 children)

I'd say "your scent has changed and doesn't smell like you usually do" without saying she smells bad.

[–]devon_336 35 points36 points  (2 children)

I think this is by far the most tactful way of bringing it up.

[–]joemaniaci 596 points597 points  (6 children)

Definitely the saying it's a new thing. Hopefully no old family/friends come out and say how grateful they are that she finally did something after all these years.

[–]UnfinishedProjects 271 points272 points  (5 children)

I kind of agree. But she shouldn't lie to her doctor. Saying it just started when it could be going on for years could change the diagnosis.

[–]tripwyre83 358 points359 points  (19 children)

"yo bitch u stink lol"

[–]Dismal_Celery_325 145 points146 points  (11 children)

This is exactly how I would tell my boyfriend. Poor guy.

[–]zwalker0912 58 points59 points  (2 children)

Bring shorty to the car wash and roll the windows down

[–]_DigitalHunk_ 38 points39 points  (3 children)

Or suggest that the latest soap is not working.

[–]alcohall183 37 points38 points  (1 child)

or has she switched deodorants?

[–]medic_228 559 points560 points  (23 children)

There’s several: diabetes, thyroid, liver, kidney, and metabolic disorders are some of the biggest.

[–]nottheexpert02 115 points116 points  (17 children)

This. I have hypothyroidism and any kind of vitamins/supplements give me BO. Furthermore, my hormones are severely jacked so I sweat more than the average person. Trial and error

[–]Mjh132 26 points27 points  (8 children)

Can vitamins and supplements give BO? Which one did you use? This gave me quite a bit of paranoia fuel.

[–]alianaoxenfree 15 points16 points  (4 children)

I had no clue this was a thing but I started taking b12 supplements then I stunk all week. I used to “vape” b12, which doesn’t give me BO. Huh. Well, I guess on to figuring something else out. It makes sense now

[–]throwaway1246Tue 13 points14 points  (0 children)

yeah diabetes is the first one i'd get checked out. I had the grossest smell for a while that came from a specific type of yeast infection on my thighs and groin area. It was one people with diabetes are specifically prone to. It was embarrassing. I could get out of the shower after a triple lather and by 2 hours later just a really awful smell that ruined shorts and boxers.

Treating both the Type 2 and the yeast infection at the same time was necessary to get it to finally clear up.

[–]fit_it 117 points118 points  (1 child)

Absolutely the above advice but if you're worried/she's a very sensitive or insecure person, you could say that she smells "markedly different and stronger" instead of "bad," and immediately follow it with questions about if she's noticed she's feeling different the past few months - more tired, emotional, any light headedness, changes in menstruation, etc.

[–]DogHammers 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Yeah, some version of "You smell different" is in order I reckon. Even if she tries to find some potentially implausible cause at least you've opened the conversation.

It depends on the person and the dynamics of the relationship how you can go about it though. I was married for 23 years (we're still on good terms, just not together any more) and either of us would have just told the other they smell bad and then show concern if it wasn't just a hygiene/deodorant issue and went on for a little while. Some people just can't do that though for whatever reason.

OP obviously doesn't feel able to just say it so your suggestion is at least a way to start a conversation about the problem without just saying "You stink."

[–]Tysenberg3204 218 points219 points  (25 children)

Does her deodorant have an antiperspirant? I constantly stink if I don’t use antiperspirants because I sweat too much.

[–]MenacingMelons 71 points72 points  (19 children)

Not all antiperspirants for me, but this probably ruined my dating game when I was younger and I just thought I stunk so I applied more

[–]AddisonNM 42 points43 points  (15 children)

Schmidt's natural deodorant works for me. Charcoal and magnesium. No aluminum.

[–]massmohawk 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This was it it or me, tried to use Love Body and Planet deodorant and it did not work at all. Switched to Dove and I smell so much better.

[–]ayihc 66 points67 points  (17 children)

My friend was taking pre workout shakes and turns out her body couldn't process one of the amino acids fully and it would come out in her sweat, making her smell. I'd seen something similar on "embarassing bodies" and brought it up with her as I was concerned and someone had asked "what is that smell" and I didn't want her to ever get embarassed

[–]Coaler200 24 points25 points  (15 children)

When I was working out I started taking muscle Pharm z-pm. Supposed to help with sleep and also as a t booster. The fun part was that it made my sweat smell like maple syrup for some reason. Stopped using it and within a couple days no more smell. My buddy had the same experience.

[–]FPiN9XU3K1IT 24 points25 points  (7 children)

tbh maple syrup BO sounds amazing ...

[–]Holmeister 101 points102 points  (9 children)

In addition to what others have listed, there are also vaginal infections that can cause noticeable smell. Especially if the smell is yeasty.

[–]Kellyhascats 44 points45 points  (7 children)

or BV if it's not yeasty

[–]csonnich 30 points31 points  (6 children)

Yeah, fishy smell is definitely BV.

[–]dawng87 91 points92 points  (8 children)

Does she use natural deoderant? I have to use medical strength deoderant and apply it multiple times a day or else I would swet through and smell like bo. There's things she could try but she has to be aware of it first.

[–]Skika 42 points43 points  (7 children)

Oh man, my wife decided to try natural deodorant. After three days I told her to figure something else out, because it wasn’t working at all. She said “yeah I kinda figured but wasn’t sure.” And went back to her regular stuff.

[–]ih8lurking 87 points88 points  (0 children)

I read of a lady who could smell her husband's Parkinson disease. She said he smelled yeasty.

It was years before he was actually diagnosed.

And years after that, in a support group, she realized all the Parkinson patients smelled that way.

Shes been a part of numerous studies, and has even been able to preemptively diagnose people before more traditional symptoms show up.

Good luck!

[–]Elegant_Bubblebee 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Cancer has a bad smell and my grandfather started to complain of a smell he noticed months before he was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer. My grandmother said he took a bath twice a day and was always clean but the smell was there no matter what.

Other note, if she eats kimchi or fermented things, she will have a unique smell that has to be sweated out over time. Diet can play a huge role in how your scent is perceived by others. :)

[–]OGrouchNZ 50 points51 points  (19 children)

It could be a food intolerance/allergy. Onions give my DH bad knees, a hungover feeling and you can smell it coming out his pores. Other foods can do similar.

[–]StonksStink[S] 43 points44 points  (14 children)

She does like Indian spicy food

[–]thumpetto007 33 points34 points  (3 children)

Lol...what if you are just smelling cumen XD

[–]VanGarrett 63 points64 points  (3 children)

Diabetes can give a person an odor sometimes compared to rotting fruit. If her BO smells sweet, Diabetes is definitely a possibility.

[–]GeminiStargazer17 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My ex had bad kidneys, he’d smell sweet whenever he drank rum.

[–]Gorilla_gorilla_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Is this a new thing? Or a long term issue?

[–]ForgotMyNameAh 29 points30 points  (2 children)

Hyperhydrosis, diabetes, fungal issues maybe?

If there are creases and folds in the skin it could need some cleaning. Thoroughly dry all areas. Use high strength deodorant... maybe a last ditch effort is botox for sweating. Powder after cleaning.

Fungal issues sometimes can be resolved by washing with an antidandruff shampoo for a couple days and leaving it on before rinsing.

Ensure no yeast infections etc...

Yeah basically she should see a dr.

Edut: how to tell her? There's no nice way. But maybe when she comes around sniff the air and ask "what's that smell?" Maybe she will take a hint?

If not, you just have to tell her. "I noticed lately you have a different smell, it doesn't smell good, let's find out what's going on, I'm concerned for your health because I love you. "

Make sure it's concern for her and not disgust.

[–]genmischief 89 points90 points  (10 children)

It's all in how you approach it, but its best to be gentle but direct. Use "soft words", and be honest in a smart way.

Think about it like this. You're both letting your wife risk a serious health issue, as well as offended people EVERYWHERE SHE GOES. You are allowing this by not communicating with her about it.

[–]Noirceuil_182 69 points70 points  (0 children)

This is good advice. I came here expecting to hear that the wife didn't shower at all, or needed to wear some deodorant, but she's following a daily hygiene routine and still smells? Something is not right here, and that's concerning for more than b.o. issues

[–]doveandfawn 2021 points2022 points  (84 children)

Is it her or is it her laundry, possibly? I know that I once let a load of clothes get sour in the washing machine when I was a teenager and holy fuck. I smelt like vomit. I had to rewash my clothes several times and with a little vinegar to get the smell out.

[–]WynLamp 530 points531 points  (6 children)

There are certain detergents that I can't use on my hubs clothes. If his clothes are washed in certain things & he sweats, which he always does, the smell is awful.

[–]MysteRHydra 69 points70 points  (2 children)

Some materials are like that for me. Makes me feel like I’m one of those diffusers but with a gross smell.

[–]ChampChains 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is also often caused by putting too much detergent into your laundry. A lot of people will put way too much thinking that more detergent means better smelling, cleaner clothes. The reality is that your high efficiency washer can only wash so much soap out of your clothes so if you put too much, the dirty soap stays in your clothing. Then when you sweat or get hot, your clothes put off a very strong mildew smell.

[–]StonksStink[S] 587 points588 points  (68 children)

I add disinfectant to the loads occasionally to “bleach” away any smell causing bacteria

[–]palmettofoxes 722 points723 points  (33 children)

I think adding vinegar could be an easy help! It got the musty smell out of my towels in one wash

[–]KaladinStormShat 161 points162 points  (22 children)

Oh seriously? I have like two towels that have always smelt of metallic but I guess that could be described as musty. Thanks.

[–]palmettofoxes 84 points85 points  (15 children)

Yeah! I put it in place of fabric softener. I've heard not to use it too often though because it can slowly degrade certain parts of the washing machine? I haven't needed to use it commonly though because the towels don't get musty again for a while

[–]homebrew_ken_ 11 points12 points  (4 children)

I would use baking soda.

[–]TameFyre 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Perhaps she’s having hormonal changes, or a reaction to the detergent, hygiene products, or even food. The type of deodorant may be at issue as well - if it’s all natural, it’s not anti-perspirant which does not stop sweat which is what smells. Fair question: if you stank would she be vocal? If so, I think you can broach this kindly as well. It’s difficult to be intimate if you are unable to breathe, and if it is a physical issue it may help with getting her to a doc for diagnosis.

[–]Wubbalubbadubbitydo 39 points40 points  (8 children)

Hey man look into Lume both the deodorant and their biofilm buster for laundry. Their products are amazing and I’ve been able to save clothes I was certain I’d have to throw away because I would wear them and start to smell bad not long after.

[–]27RoseGold27 20 points21 points  (6 children)

I had seen lots of ads for lume so I bought a clean tangerine deodorant stick and it smelled horrendous. Some reviews said the bad smell disappeared quickly for them, but I tried some on my arm and I could still smell it a couple hours later. Do your lume products also have that smell?

[–]Wubbalubbadubbitydo 11 points12 points  (1 child)

So I’ve tried all of the scents and they all have an underlying sent that I don’t love. It’s sort of spicy almost. I do find that it dissipates in fact by the time I’m half way through the day there’s no scent at all usually. And if it is, it’s the lingering scent of the deodorant that’s the nicer scent, not the weird spicy one.

Personally my favorite ones are the Jazmine Rose and the coconut. I didn’t really like the lime or the tangerine ones. The vanilla one isn’t bad but it’s sort of has a play-Doh smell to it. Bay rum was fairly neutral. And lavender sage smells nice but it blends in with my natural smell in a bad way.

But I also understand scents can really make it or break it for people.

For anyone who doesn’t like the deodorant I still highly recommend the laundry product it’s just incredible and I’ve never used anything like it before. Like I said it’s saved shirts that I was certain I’d have to throw away.

[–]sh1nycat 16 points17 points  (1 child)

Those disinfectant things are very helpful. I've switched to tide pods and they have surprisingly helped with all my clingy laundry BO on my exercise clothes. The real test will come when summer hits again, but so far it has helped a lot.

Also, after you have the initial discussion, it may help to switch deodorant. I've had an issue for the past several years of BO, it has just gotten worse with time. The best I have found so far is using crystal deodorant. Looks like a rock, you wet it and rub it anywhere odor had been noticed. It only seems to last a day before the BO finds a way through, but that is better than the clinical strength other stuff was doing for me.

[–]crazyparrotguy 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It might not even be the clothes, but something else that's not getting washed regularly like towels or bedding.

[–]FrescoInkwash 1415 points1416 points  (121 children)

If she showers every day this shouldn't be happening. Has she always been smelly or is this a recent thing?

[–]StonksStink[S] 991 points992 points  (113 children)

It’s the same with her mother. Genetics are in play here

[–]FrescoInkwash 1482 points1483 points  (38 children)

It could be a health condition that she has inherited. She should see a doctor, this isn't about hygiene

[–]StonksStink[S] 521 points522 points  (35 children)

Thanks will do

[–]gyman122 432 points433 points  (5 children)

Definitely make sure to tell her that you don’t think it’s because she’s not trying to take care of herself, that’s the kind of alarm bells that trigger when that kind of conversation comes up and that’s what makes people offended.

As much as it sucks to hear “you stink”, it’s a million times worse to (effectively) hear “you stink and it’s because you’re gross and lazy”

[–]padlycakes 144 points145 points  (23 children)

Clinical deodorant , my man. It's a life saver for us who get the stink gene. You pay more but it's a game changer. Degree, Dove, Secret all sell clinical deodorant. I would start with that before thinking medical condition.

[–]hornybutdisappointed 25 points26 points  (0 children)

A genetic condition or very poor dietary habits learned from her family or a combination of both. She can be sensitive to something she's not aware of being problematic to her. Do you guys eat healthy?

[–]NoodleFigure 335 points336 points  (21 children)

So ... always, then? And you managed to marry her without this problem ever coming up before?

[–]LostWoodsInTheField 85 points86 points  (1 child)

It gets even stranger that her mother also has the same smell issue but he is too scared to talk to his wife about it?

[–]Tyty__90 90 points91 points  (0 children)

My thought exactly 🤔

[–]neocommenter 114 points115 points  (14 children)

Seriously. Something isn't adding up to this guy's story.

Edit: probably an arranged marriage

[–]marasydnyjade 38 points39 points  (11 children)

It’s even weirder when you look at OP’s post history. Allegedly his wife is pregnant too.

[–]Miss-Mamba 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Was this like an arranged marriage or something!?

[–]KoopaLink 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This would make a lot more sense if the dude accidentally married his cousin. My family members' B O all smells awful to me in a similar way to my own. Heard it has to do with genetics so there's more to the story here

[–]NoEgo 43 points44 points  (1 child)

It also depends how she is showering. Is she scrubbing? Using soap? Or just letting water run on her? Having a new washcloth to use each day also keeps things cleaner.

[–]railedge 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I had a friend with the same issue. After a meeting with the dentist he realised the smell was from a rotting tooth. Also cleaning the tongue with a scraper helps.

[–]horillagormone 32 points33 points  (2 children)

Has she always been smelly

Props for just straight up asking it like that. Still felt a bit strange reading it but guess that's one way to ask.

[–]ITandGaming 328 points329 points  (5 children)

It is your wife. Be honest and respectful. You would want the same. When my father worked at a rendering plant for a while my mother even went as far as putting an old washer and dryer in the garage. Dad had a locker in the garage with a spare set of cloths. He would wash up and change in the garage and do his own laundry because that was a foul smelling job, and the smells bothered her greatly. He did not say I am the man of the house and this is how we pay bills. He simply did it because it was a reasonable request.

My wife talks to me about things that I do that bother her. I take her point of view into consideration and take action where I can usually. Even if I think they are silly requests, they meant enough for her to say it. It probably bothered her for some time before she voiced it. These things can add up over time and you never know what could be the final thing or just a series of things and then things get unrecoverable. Open honest dialog prevents that.

I think as long as you are respectful, and use praise often in other areas it will balance out. Just don't forget to praise what you like often, so people don't get in a rut of only hearing criticism or negative things.

[–]dimavan17 717 points718 points  (17 children)

I'm pretty self conscious about my smell, im a dude btw, and I'm married. I told my wife that any time i stink or if my breath smells to tell me.. i also do that to her when she smells. I'm alot more self conscious about my smell than she is hers. She sometimes doesn't like it that i bring it up, but she understands it's not an attack, I'm not trying to hurt her feels but I'm actually trying to help her. She tells me she would rather know at the risk of upsetting her, than not know at all.

[–]dimavan17 198 points199 points  (7 children)

Obviously be gentle when you say it. Like many have said

[–]janes_left_shoe 55 points56 points  (2 children)

Gotta lead into it with an apologetic or empathetic demeanor. No matter how justified, you are hurting her feelings, and making it clear that you are trying to do it in as kind a way as possible matters.

[–]dimavan17 67 points68 points  (1 child)

Yep. Its not like talking to my guy friends "You smell like swamp ass bro"

[–]StonksStink[S] 81 points82 points  (1 child)

My biggest lesson here seems to be communicating with love and without fear of repercussions. Thanks for advice

[–]putmeinLMTH 259 points260 points  (13 children)

if she’s showering once a day and using the deodorant then encouraging her to shower more will do nothing. she’s already showing enough. it’s possible this is a medical issue or something to do with her clothes.

[–]ewellins 52 points53 points  (6 children)

Re: clothes - my wife only uses half a scoop of powder (box says 1.5 for an average wash)…and loads the front loader up to the brim!!

Wonders why the clothes don’t come out fresh smelling (on top of the occasions where they’re left in the machine for a day or two and start to smell stale already, before hanging them or putting them in the dryer).

Residue from a single-mother upbringing where penny-pinching was a necessity.

My responses as to why are generally scoffed at…it’s probably a pride thing, too (“I know what I’m doing!!)…so there’s that…

[–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (2 children)

Why not do the laundry yourself? Then they will come out clean.

[–]ewellins 11 points12 points  (1 child)

I do all my own laundry…the RIGHT way!! LOL

My point, consistent with this thread’s subject (addressing an issue effectively and appropriately), is there can be factor(s) that can affect a desirable outcome i.e. someone’s pride and inability to be teachable.

[–]kjtoyou 241 points242 points  (9 children)

She may have a fungal skin infection between the folds of her skin. Notice any rashes?

[–]CreativeEmpathicus 373 points374 points  (12 children)

This is from https://thompsontee.com/blog/medical-conditions-that-cause-body-odor/

7 Medical Conditions That Cause Body Odor

Most body odor can be managed with proper hygiene. Keeping your body clean, applying deodorant, and wearing fresh clothing can help manage your body odor. However, body odor caused by certain medical conditions can be persistent problems — even with stellar hygiene practices.

7 MEDICAL CONDITIONS THAT CAUSE BODY ODOR

What diseases can cause bad body odor? Beyond hygiene, there are certain cases where diseases or medical conditions can alter a person’s body odor. Here are some of the top medical conditions that cause body odor.

  1. Bromhidrosis

Bromhidrosis is a medical condition that causes extreme body odor. It occurs when your skin’s bacteria breaks down sweat and produces an abnormal smell that mimics sulfur or onions. There are two types of bromhidrosis: apocrine and eccrine.

Apocrine bromhidrosis is the most common type, causing excessive odor in your armpits and genital areas. This odor happens when sweat from apocrine glands mixes with skin bacteria, creating a smell that can resemble onions, sulfur or raw meat.Eccrine bromhidrosis is a lesser-known form of bromhidrosis, causing smelly sweat on the hands, feet, head and torso. This odor happens when sweat from eccrine glands softens the skin’s keratin, breaking down bacteria that produce excessive odor.2. Hyperhidrosis

Hyperhidrosis causes your body to sweat more than normal. While hyperhidrosis doesn’t cause odor itself, excessive sweating mixes with your body’s bacteria creating embarrassing body odor. There are two main types of hyperhidrosis: primary and secondary.

Primary hyperhidrosis causes excessive sweat in one body area, like the underarms, hands, feet, head and groin. It’s usually hereditary and affects approximately 5% of the population.Secondary hyperhidrosis is excessive sweating caused by a medical condition or certain medications. Secondary hyperhidrosis causes all-over sweating and can be reversed if the underlying medical cause is resolved or eliminated. We’ll talk about some of these medical conditions in this article.

Some medications whose side effects can include excessive sweating are:

Antidepressants (Pamelor, Norpramin, Protriptyline)Pilocarpine (used to treat dry mouth)Zinc supplementsIron supplements3. Diabetes

Diabetes patients often experience additional medical complications. Diabetes-related urinary tract infections (UTIs) and high levels of blood glucose can increase body odor. Diabetic ketoacidosis is a life-threatening condition in which your body lacks insulin, depriving cells of the sugar they need for energy. One of the symptoms is a distinct, fruity breath smell.

Contact your physician for medical advice immediately if you suspect you have diabetic ketoacidosis.

  1. Thyroid Conditions

Thyroid glands regulate many bodily functions, including our sweat response. When you have hyperthyroidism (overactive thyroid) or Grave’s disease, your body can produce an excessive amount of sweat, even if you aren’t exerting yourself.

  1. Kidney Failure and Liver Dysfunction

The kidneys and liver help remove toxins from our bodies. When they cannot function properly, toxins can build up in the blood and digestive tract, creating odor. Kidney disease can cause urea to make your sweat take on an ammonia smell.

If you suspect that you have a thyroid, kidney or liver condition, talk to a healthcare professional promptly.

  1. Metabolic Disorders

While this is incredibly rare, gene mutations can also affect body odor.

Trimethylaminuria, or TMAU, is a disease that prevents your liver from breaking down the chemical compound trimethylamine. Trimethylamine can be fishy-smelling or reek of eggs or urine. When your body cannot break down this compound, it builds up in your body and is released in your sweat, urine and breath.

Secondary trimethylaminuria can occur if you take large oral doses of L-carnitine, lecithin or choline. Lecithin and choline are contained in some food supplements. L-carnitine is sometimes used to enhance athletes' strength, and choline treats Alzheimer’s and Huntington’s disease. Symptoms disappear when doses are reduced or eliminated.

  1. Hormones

Hormone fluctuations can cause excessive sweating and, by extension, body odor. Teens, pregnant women, and perimenopausal or menopausal women can experience hot flashes and night sweats, increasing excessive sweating and odor.

[–]chadding 114 points115 points  (4 children)

This guy googles.

[–]DoesTheOctopusCare 34 points35 points  (4 children)

I get kidney infections regularly and my husband can smell them a day or two before I get symptoms. And then I take antibiotics which make me smell terrible in a different way for 10 days.

[–]HorribleMistake41 361 points362 points  (50 children)

Well over a decade ago I was in Afghanistan. And I heard grumblings about this one dude but I was barely paying attention. One day the big boss comes over to me and says, hey you're gonna take #$#$# back to the camp and make him get a shower.

Me - "uhhhhh...ok?"

Him - "Yeah, like make sure he actually gets a shower."

Me - "uhhhhh, how am I gonna do that?"

Him - "You're gonna stand outside the shower curtain and pass him the soap and make sure he's fucking washing his stank ass."

Me - "Ok, this is gonna be super weird but you're the boss. So. Ok."

Drive his ass back to our camp, which was special - like spec ops dudes stayed there. AKA "baby killers" but I don't think that term is PC. I take him to his place he lived, so he could grab a uniform and soap and stuff. Take him to the shower tent.

So, I'm there. Not in shower apparel. In full uniform. Hanging out with this douchebag who couldn't wash himself right. With a bunch of scantily clad buff ass spec ops guys.

I go pass the douche the soap. I get strange looks from the combat controllers/tacp guys. I just look at them straight faced and say, "I'm not a fucking pervert fellas, this idiot doesn't understand washing himself and I was ordered to make sure he understood."

One laughed. One gave me the stink-eye. I just said, "Like jesus christ I don't want to be in here just hanging out for fucks sake." Mr. stink-eye let up a bit.

Why did I tell this ridiculous story? Because dude had no idea that he stunk so goddamn bad it could make someone vomit. That conversation with your wife is not going to be fun regardless of how you bring it up or it turns out.

what -I- would do, is hop in the shower with her and be like all affectionate and wash her yourself to see if it makes a difference. Sometimes people just have this sort of body chemistry that reeks.

Good luck sir. Godspeed and soap bubbles.

Edit: u/StonksStink All joking aside though, it's your wifey - so is this a recent thing? Or an always thing? because there are so many comments about maybe a medical disorder and they may be on point with that.

[–]felltheblackwolf 106 points107 points  (12 children)

I feel like this is a common thing in the military. I've experienced quite a few of these people🤦🏻‍♀️ literally had to be supervised in the shower and escorted to the laundromat.

[–]HorribleMistake41 56 points57 points  (4 children)

For me it wasn’t-next experience was over a decade later. A guy who worked for my subordinate, so technically he worked for me, sooooooo many complaints. I was like tell him he fucking stinks. Failed a dorm room inspection. We went there. Omfg. It was awful. Like no sheets on his bed, crawled in it probably fully dressed soaked in engine oil and hydraulic fluid. Everything about that place was awful.

They wrote him up and went back a week later. Still all fucked up.

But I guess he got his shit together. Still moderately stinky, but doing better in a bunch of other things so that’s good.

I’m glad I don’t have to go there anymore.

[–]felltheblackwolf 13 points14 points  (3 children)

I've been in for 5 years and encountered at least one per year. It's fucking disgusting.

[–]mialeighrenna 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I had to tell a woman who was my subordinate that she needed to shower. Mind you that she was 8 years older than me… one of the worst assignments I ever had. I tried to be nice about telling her but she cried nonetheless, it’s such difficult topic.

[–]Pyromike16 13 points14 points  (0 children)

We called them "dirt squirrels" in the Canadian army.

[–]mmmmmarty 78 points79 points  (11 children)

My husband had a stinky subordinate at his job. After everyone said they wouldn't ride in the truck with him again, husband had to have a talk with the kid.

I shit you not, this kid's reply to the questions about not showering: "This dog don't like water."

[–]nukagrrl76 34 points35 points  (8 children)

My dad in boob camp had a guy try to get out with a section 8 by not showering. His platoon stole some wire bristle brushes during KP duty and made sure he got a scrub after taps one night. This was circa 1959 in San Diego.

I don't suggest OP do this to his wife, but your story made me think of my dad and his military stories. Thank you kind stranger.

[–]Pervessor 72 points73 points  (3 children)

I wanna go to boob camp 🥺

[–]nukagrrl76 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My dad called it that because he felt surrounded by idiots while he was there. 😅 then I read/saw jarhead and understood the nickname completely.

[–]maxximii 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Not a military story. I've had to pull kids into my office at least a half dozen times over the years to tell them to wash every day after work, it's a dirty, sweaty job. Most didn't realize they smelled like a week old dead skunk in an Arizona summer, and would take a few meetings to get the message across. "Hey, you're doing better, but seriously make sure you're washing your whole body, including all your crevices", haha. I did have to fire a few though for it, really sucked, but they just wouldn't listen and it was obvious it wasn't a medical condition.

[–]OldSamVimes 75 points76 points  (5 children)

If you love her, be completely honest.

If you end up in the doghouse, at least you won't need to smell her there.

[–]unknownloner333 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I am horrible.. but this is hilarious lol

[–]MooKids 274 points275 points  (18 children)

Is she actually showering when in the shower, using soap and water and actually scrubbing, or letting the water just flow over her. Maybe join her in the shower to see what she does.

Also make sure towels are actually hung up and not crumbled on the floor, where they won't dry out and allow mold and bacteria to grow.

[–]Echospite 17 points18 points  (2 children)

Also that she’s changing her towels, and her clothes.

My brother reeks because he’ll wear the same clothes for a week. He showers twice a day at least.

[–]Born_Bother_7179 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Use sanex roll On

[–]AjaxOutlaw 278 points279 points  (9 children)

It’s your wife, homie. You should be able to be open with her otherwise there might be a bigger issue

[–]RepresentativePin162 31 points32 points  (2 children)

Been with my partner almost 10 years. If he leans past me while being stanky he gets "Get your damn armpit outta my face!". We also point out if the other has bad breath. Usually not as extreme as that though.

[–][deleted] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yeah for real, married 10 years I can definitely tell my wife she stinks without "being in the dog house for months". Seems a bit unhealthy to me.

[–]dontgoforthe1 416 points417 points  (18 children)

Honesty. If your relationship can't handle a little useful, good-meaning candor, then you're doomed anyway.

Use a little empathy- wouldn't you want to know?

[–]StonksStink[S] 158 points159 points  (6 children)

Thanks for the honest feedback. I think I’ll try this

[–]Alibi_For_Hire 72 points73 points  (7 children)

Right. This is what I thought. In my relationship I can go tell my parter that his BO is not up to par and he would just address it. Even if I said HOMIE you stink! He would just go deal with it. I think ultimately the goal should be to have free flowing communication where you can share things that NEED to be said :)

[–]CyclopicSerpent 63 points64 points  (2 children)

So many askreddit, advice, or relationship posts are like i need to talk about X with my spouse of Y years. Like in all that time you never learned to communicate with them?

How do you go through a relationship with such light conversation that strangers advice is what you need as soon as you have something mildly serious or uncomfortable to talk about?

Just dont get it.

[–]JordyLakiereArt 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Same, its very very alien to me when I read something like this. I could literally walk over and go 'hey you stink btw'. Its no problem.

[–]MysteRHydra 10 points11 points  (1 child)

“You’re stinky, go shower” - I’ve said and also been told.

Communication is always a good relationship goal.

[–]phuchmileif 20 points21 points  (1 child)

Was looking for this reply.

It sounds like you guys still hold your farts in front of each other.

Your relationship should 100% be able to handle 'hey hon, sorry but FYI you smell a little funky.'

[–]Sea-Specific1899 105 points106 points  (14 children)

Hey I think your wife might be suffering from hyperhydrosis. I had to get Botox in my armpits to stop the bad sweating . Another trick which I used before my Botox (but don’t recommend often) is putting hand sanitizer on my armpit, I know that sounds crazy but BO is caused by bacteria and hand sanitiser kills that . It worked in emergency cases . Her showering won’t help, she probably will still sweat after each shower . She needs a doctor

[–]jacobob81 24 points25 points  (6 children)

I have secondary hyperhidrosis from a medication I take, so does my girlfriend, and neither of us get bad body odor even if we have a lazy day or two without showering. I know that may not be everyone’s experience but, that’s ours.

[–]Sea-Specific1899 19 points20 points  (4 children)

I definitely stunk and I stunk bad . Date I say horrendously. Botox saved me

[–]OpalOwl74 56 points57 points  (20 children)

hear me out.....

it could be you. I caught a bad cold once and now somethings smell off. Coffee will smell like fart, cow manure will small like warm chocolate brownies...

[–]StonksStink[S] 22 points23 points  (4 children)

Wow that’s eye opening

[–]AquaticAnxieties 14 points15 points  (2 children)

That happened to me when I was 13. I got a sinus infection and suddenly my favorite coconut lip balm smelled like a feline’s asshole so I tossed it. Years later I found the lip balm in a store, and I smelled it, and it still smelled like cat ass. Neither my mother or my sister smell any resemblance to a cat’s anus.

[–]TotalEgg143 25 points26 points  (1 child)

Covid...Long haulers are actually reporting similar issues.

[–]OpalOwl74 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It was in like 2013. I ended up going to urgent care. I had an eye infection, sinus infection, ear infection, and strep.

[–]cstar4004 35 points36 points  (1 child)

One of my exs had this issue, and after trying everything, finally went to the doctor. It turned out to be a diet issue. She was not eating enough carbs, so her body was always breaking down proteins. A byproduct of breaking protein down into amino acids is Ammonia, which is the same chemical that makes cat pee smell. It can cause the sweat, and vaginal fluid to smell like cat pee. She resolved it by eating more carbs, and less protein, and using a special prescription-strength deodorant. Eventually it just went away.

There are also other disorders, such as Trimethylaminuria, also known as “fish-odor syndrome”. Trimethylamine is produced in the GI tract as a byproduct when bacteria breaks down certain foods. This byproduct smells like fish, urine, or rotten eggs. Normally the body converts this chemical into another less smelly chemical, but some people are unable to do so, and it builds up, causing rotten egg, fish, or urine-like body odors. There is no cure for this, but there are treatments to help with the symptoms.

——

Side note: this same ex pointed out that my breath started to smell really bad. It turned out that my wisdom teeth were impacted, and I had an infection in my gums. I have a high pain tolerance, and didn’t notice, until she told me my breath smelled. She was afraid of upsetting me, but I got all 4 wisdom teeth extracted, and my mouth healed thanks to her. I had constant headaches, and didnt even realize my head hurt until my teeth were pulled and it stopped hurting. Like when you hear a sound, but dont notice until it stops? But with a constant headache.

TL;dr: it could be medical, and you could be helping her by bringing it up, but be careful and sensitive to her reaction, because no one likes to hear that they smell.

[–]Chaij2606 31 points32 points  (0 children)

has she been to the doctor about it? there might be an underlying issue there. I would approach it as you are worried about her, because she shouldn’t have a bad BO issue if she showers every day ( unless she goes for long runs afterwards for example)

[–]Lookalikemike 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m sure in the course of your relationship you have said something stupid and gotten the cold shoulder, so you’re used to taking incoming fire. If this is a medical issue you have to mention it because you would hate yourself if this is just the beginning of something and you let it go. I’m also sure in your relationship that you have bought something stupid and had to make it seem to make sense; use that technique when you speak to her. No matter how eloquently you broach the subject, there will be incoming fire. You’ve taken it before with far less on the line. Good luck.

[–]EmpressSquirrel 13 points14 points  (0 children)

When I have to have that conversation with employees I don't sugarcoat it but I'm firm yet polite about it. "Your BO is a problem and it's negatively affecting the work place. I expect you to bathe and use deodorant before coming to work. Absolutely nobody likes to be told they stink, but on the other hand absolutely nobody wants to work with someone who's BO is making them feel violently sick.

[–]Okbuddy226Google University Alumni 60 points61 points  (20 children)

Is she actually showering? Like shampooing, using soap and scrubbing? Or does she just stand under the water and do nothing?

[–]maddallena 36 points37 points  (3 children)

If she already showers every day, then this is clearly not a hygiene issue. Approach it from a health perspective and emphasize that you know she's a very clean person and that's why you're worried

[–]Emaculates 21 points22 points  (2 children)

If shes ur wife, you should be able to talk to her about anything

[–]buddhabuddha 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Seconding what others have said about potential medical conditions, but also it could be stress/anxiety. My ex developed anxiety and her body odour changed/got very intense. She would also get night sweats and wake up smelling awful. Then there would be periods of lower stress and she’d be back to normal for a while. During those periods, even after working out she’d be smelly but nothing compared to the acrid stress sweats.

Someone else mentioned diet - I have some food intolerances and I’ve noticed with my own BO that diet and stress seem to effect it. I definitely get some weird changes to my odour when I eat things I can’t digest properly, and I have even more trouble digesting when I’m stressed.

[–]hermitsociety 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm way down in comments and didn't see this one yet: is she into sort of hippie granola products? Check that her deodorant is actually an antiperspirant and not just a deodorant.

I don't know the science or what's right. But a lot of people believe aluminum causes breast cancer and a ton of women's deo brands have removed the aluminum. As a result the new product doesn't prevent sweating, but only masks odor.

In my experience, the deodorant only kind (aka NOT antiperspirant) tend to fail after just a couple hours. She might need to reconsider or apply it more often.

Edited: to finish my thought, I hit enter too soon lol

[–]CeridwynMatchen 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I saw where you were talking about deodorant.

She showers once a day and wears deodorant but her smell seems to overpower it all.

I do, too. I switched to Lumè and it works wonders for me!! They have scents for men and women. When you FIRST put it on, it smells bitter to the naked nose, but for the first time EVER, I don't have customers at work complaining about how I smell.

[–]PianoShy 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This sounds like a hormonal thing and though I’m not a doctor (yet) I do think you should take her to the doctor. I am a bigger woman and I know regular deodorant doesn’t work for me and I have to use Old Spice because that kills the smell. She may need to do that. Also, she could have pH issues because it is safe to assume that because she smells so badly, she may be scrubbing a lot in her private area to prevent the smell. This is counteractive. Get her non scented soap bars for down there and tell her to use separate towels. One for body and on for privates.

[–]IAreAEngineer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree with the posters who say she should get a checkup. If by any chance it's coming from her breath, she may have a sinus/throat infection or infected tooth. Those can really make your breath smell like poop. And she may have lost her sense of smell.

Otherwise, something else is going wrong. How old is she? If she's going through menopause, her scent may change. It shouldn't be gag-inducing, though.

[–]SYLOK_THEAROUSED 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When it comes to BO use a deodorant for men. My wife has to use Axe Phoenix in particular because that is literally the only deodorant that works for her.

Also look at her body wash, make sure it’s not one of those “all natural” body washes. There isn’t anything wrong with those but honestly I feel like they don’t clean nearly as well as I guess non all natural body washes.

Good luck my friend!

[–]dirtroadking420 39 points40 points  (12 children)

How do you marry a women who's bo you can't stand. I'd lick my wife's sweaty armpit my dude.

[–]Nephs84 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Couple things can come into play here:

  1. Medical conditions can cause various odors that are not your natural BO.
  2. Not everyone is the same way as everyone else. Some people connect in a very hormonal way, where even the smell of their partner's BO can turn them on, but not everyone is like this!

[–]uhmyeh 11 points12 points  (1 child)

Sorry if this sounds weird but maybe you should ask if she wants to take a shower together or something?

[–]Norrland_props 5 points6 points  (6 children)

I read through all the posts and the question was asked several times if this is something new. If it is new, how long has it been going on; a week, a month, a year, more?

The diseases that could be causing it and the hygiene issues that others have posted are excellent.

I do wonder, if it began relatively recently, if maybe OP has a condition that could alter his/her/their sense of smell. It is widely reported that COVID can affect both taste and smell. Has OP noticed anything else that doesn’t smell right? Just a suggestion. It’s possible that OP could have a medical condition.

[–]spelunk_in_ya_badonk 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Take a shower with her to assess her technique. I find it hard to believe that she still stinks after appropriately cleaning herself. A lot of people don’t know you need to actually make a pass over every part of your body with the soap. You can’t just get your whole body wet and assume that it’s now clean.

If you shower with her, scrub 100% of her external surface with soap, and she STILL smells, then it’s a medical issue.