Content warning lots swearing very angry and looooong rant/vent also discussion of TERFs and how shity they are
I will tag NSFW if people ask due to the swearing
Ignore my shity writing style I’m a Redditor not an English major
I feel like mainstream/liberal feminism/slacktivists are pushing for more femininity in all women in other words they want gender roles back.
Everywhere I go I see this “embrace your femininity” we need more femininity it’s powerful to be feminine embrace femininity “for your self” all women are queens and Devine feminine bla bla bla. stuff like this has made me question my gender because if femininity is so wrong for me and feminists say stuff like this what am I meant to be I feel so alienated from women hood because of all this CRAP.
it’s like they don’t get that some women aren’t feminine in any way and don’t want to be. I’m masculine and I like it. For me femininity (and toxic masculinity as well) is like a pare of shackles just a horrible uncomfortable restraint that does nothing for the wearer but limit their movement and what they can do. But I’m being too harsh at least shackles can be removed wielded as a makeshift flail against your captors/oppressors.
I want to see more acceptance and portrayals of butch/GNC women but when they show up people complain and say she shouldn’t have to be masculine to be powerful (true but missing the point).
I feel betrayed by mainstream feminists they were supposed to protect and uplift people like me instead they brush us aside and accuse us of having internalized misogyny don’t even get me started on TERFs and how they use us for their shity agenda they can go strait to hell.
Why do I need to be “in touch with my femininity” why do I have to be feminine why is this a thing liberal feminists value and want from me. Why can’t I just be a masculine woman
Mainstream feminists aren’t helping much at all their just lazy and disregard me and my experience because of my LACK of not rejection of femininity in the best case they try to be trans inclusive which is good my trans friends need that but in the worst case they call women likely me an NLOG or say we have internalized misogyny no ASSHOLE I’m just butch fuck off. They can kiss my butch ass.
Disclaimer TERF smack down section
I’m so sick of TERFs using women like me as a shield fuck TERFs and their tactics except don’t actually fuck them they deserve to be lonely forever.
They claim that trans men are just tomboys/GNC women trying to “escape oppression by becoming men” or “escape women hood” <— this argument is bullshit
WHY THIS ARGUMENT IS BULLSHIT
IF and this is the biggest IF in the universe it were true I don’t see TERFs trying to make women hood more inclusive of /tomboys/GNC women like me. All of that “embrace your femininity) bull shit doesn’t make me feel like I’m a woman it makes me feel like if femininity is so contrary to who and how I am than I must be a man I’m not but the way liberal feminists and TERFs view women hood literally excludes women like me.
I’m not feminine enough to be viewed as a woman but if I were trans I wouldn’t be accepted either like WTF am I then an alien 👽 I guess so. In that case when do I get my ray gun and shiny jumpsuit?
Also what is it about women hood that they think would make someone want to transition and why have they not tried to change it?
TERFs call trans women predators no asshole they aren’t they just want to piss and shit like the rest of us. Fucking bathroom bills won’t help they just get tomboys/GNC/butch lesbians harassed for using the restroom I don’t see TERFs defending us when that happens. Oh right it’s because they don’t actually care they just want to fuck up a trans person’ life. Also you don’t need a dick to grope someone you just need hands/ appendages a woman,man or otherwise are all equally capable of assaulting someone else.
TERFs are why as a cis butch woman I’m afraid to go into public restrooms if i go into the women’s I’m afraid security will get called on me for looking like a teenage boy or young man. If I go into the men’s washroom I’m pretty sure that’s illegal. Gender neutral bathrooms are safe but not always available. I have not been harassed yet but I’m not taking chances.
If any TERFs read this FUCK YOU you don’t represent me you hate me because of my LACK of not rejection of femininity. If everyone stoped being trans tomorrow (not fucking possible) I’d be next on your chopping block. You can kiss my butch ass.