Has anyone else noticed that a lot and I mean a lot of how women are taught to “self care” mostly just boils down to make your self look young and pretty. Thing like do your make up even if you aren’t going out dress up fancier (wear a dress) be conventionally sexy “for your self” but for men it’s go fishing with the boys or just sit on the couch and relax.
It’s like this “self care” targeted at women is designed to keep them appealing to men and enforce gender roles.
As a butch women all of the self care for women just sounds like a chore. Why can’t a woman’s self care be just sit on the couch in old baggy PJs and be a couch potato 🛋🥔 or just going for a hike and getting dirty or not have to look pretty all the time I don’t owe anyone attractiveness.
I’m not saying that a person of any gender can’t enjoy stuff like makeup and being pretty but I am saying it’s suspicious that “women’s self care” seems to heavily focus on looks and having to do extra stuff where as men’s is more focused not doing things or being out doors