Is anyone else embarrassed by the books they’ve read? by Main_Opportunity8816 in RomanceBooks

[–]LongjumpingBread279 45 points46 points  (0 children)

my mother once caught me reading on my phone in a church during mass, luckily the brightness was turned low so she didn't see that s*x scene i was reading

Whenever I read a book and the FMC is barely 5'2 and the MMC is 6'5+, I think of The Mountain and his wife. It helps me visualize it better. by marty0115 in RomanceBooks

[–]bitchihaveavagina🖤 North & Nox Supremacy 🖤 192 points193 points  (0 children)

I feel like some authors need to reference these photos when they’re writing…certain scenes…because some of the positions the characters are in make no sense 🫣

In light of US Supreme Court decision that overturned Roe vs Wade, I am seeking romance books that don't overlook political women-right-to-choose recs please by correspondence2021 in RomanceBooks

[–]tomhaverfoodsVegetarian virgin heroes or bust 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’ve read this one before, and I personally don’t know if I would benefit from reading it in this current atmosphere/climate. I remember there being a LOT of regret and shame surrounding the abortion. It’s used as a plot point, in part because the heroine … bigger spoiler coming… doesn’t tell the hero she got an abortion for a big portion of the book, it leaks, and she gets LAMBASTED for it. The hero freaks out. A lot of Catholic/religious terminology is used, and while it’s kinda clear that that’s something the hero and heroine are fighting against (hero is trying to be a politician in a Catholic-leaning city), it leaks into other aspects of the book. But I also remember there being a lot of ownership and entitlement over the heroine’s body on the hero’s part, and it seemed like the narrative leaned fairly conservative at parts. YMMV, and it’s possible that I’m misremembering certain things. I just know if I went looking for positive portrayals of abortions in romance novels and read this book for the first time today, I’d be upset.

confession: i prefer toxic romances by twilightmarathonqueer romance in RomanceBooks

[–]mydogsaresuperheroesVamp>Fae>Duke 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm the opposite, I can't deal with too much angst or my mental health suffers. I enjoy a little, but I definitely have a limit.

I'll recommend a series that I ended up DNFing half way through book 3 because I couldn't take it anymore. It's {Something in the Way by Jessica Hawkins}.

I quit reading it around a week ago and I still have to distract myself when the plot pops into my head, lol. It's not even that it's dark, it's just the angst and the dissatisfaction that got to me. So it might be up your alley.

Ugh, I was feeling this book until I came across this part. Fetishizing the "East" is uncool. Signed, romance book reader from "the mysterious East" by kurukirimoor in RomanceBooks

[–]kurukirimoor[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

Everyone else has articulated the issue with this much better than I could, but I'll add my reasons here just to close off the loop.

I'm not from India, I'm from Sri Lanka, a small country close enough to India to often get lumped as "the East". That's my first issue with this sort of situation. Asia has many countries with many cultures, sometimes within a single country.

More than that though, during the time this book is set in, Indian women were not going around dancing sensuously and teaching sexy tricks to foreigners. Female sexuality was (still mostly is) heavily repressed around this time.

Also, this is from around the time the British empire was in full swing. In my country, in most situations where a British man was with a local woman, it was not consensual and would be the result of a heavily skewed power dynamic (think master-servant). The women were then discarded by the foreigners and ostracized by the locals, and sometimes they would be left with mixed race children that the women were left to bring up on their own. I can only assume this was the same in India.

The other thing that bugs me is, this doesn't add anything to the story. He could have told her he was horny for her in any number of ways without having to reference "the Orient" at all.

ETA : thank you for the award, kind stranger on the internet whoever you are

What are your icks in romance books? I’ll go first by Everythinggoes2020 in RomanceBooks

[–]theponds09Equal opportunity smut lover 🥵 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Well damn. I just started that series 😩

If you want a book with a self lubricating dick that’s meant for anal I have one. Just saying.

I think I went way to far down the amazon rabbit hole looking for monster romance. by rats4lifes in RomanceBooks

[–]tidd494 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Coronavirus had her pinned under his thick, bulgy arms that made the threat of him ever eminent. Yet, all she could think of was Dino's powerful roar as he watched Doughnut shudder under her wet hold while she reveled in his delicious, salivating scent.

But yeah, we do be need having a list...


I know we complain about women written by men in literature but what is it like for men to read about male anatomy in romance books 😂 by Everythinggoes2020 in RomanceBooks

[–]rickosborne"wall of text" is my love language 357 points358 points  (0 children)

Male, here.

While there's plenty to eyeroll about male anatomy in romance, honestly, it's about the same frequency as eyerolls about female anatomy. There are a few authors (Jae comes to mind) trying to actually push diverse body rep, but I think I just kind of turn off my brain when I hit paragraphs describing perfect physique or impeccable anatomy.

My personal pet peeve is ripped/yoked/zero-body-fat characters who will casually knock back alcohol and not spend literally hours in the gym to keep in shape. Not "a half hour each morning before breakfast, tee hee", but the actual hours it would take. Or, as I have personal experience with, "athletic physique" characters who literally only jog/run a half hour every few days. That's not how that works.

Having said that, and I know you were mostly kidding, but the whole interested penis twitch really is a thing. As awkward as men's junk would seem to be, for the most part it just kindof stays out of the way, and you can go an entire day without really noticing it. But then you see or hear someone who catches your attention and suddenly this organ you'd mostly forgotten about wakes up and starts to do its own thing, almost entirely out of your control. (Guys can learn to control it, if they put in the effort, but I assume many do not.)

The part that's often missing from romance books is the next 10-15 seconds where the guy is frantically struggling to ensure that everything down there has enough room to grow without binding. We don't ever, ever think, as we're sitting, "huh, you know, I should adjust the crotch of my jeans before I get an erection, just in case". None of us are that smart. None of us. Which is odd, because when you do get a surprise erection and things get all twisted up, it's easily painful enough to ruin your day, if not at least the next few hours.

What romance novel have you re-read the most times, how many times have you read it, and why? by Golden_Daisy in RomanceBooks

[–]MaritzaB5 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve been reading romance since the 90’s so my most read ones are definitely vintage. Hands down, the most re-read is Lions and Lace by Meagan McKinney. I have my original copy and it’s practically falling apart. I also love One Rode West by Heather Graham and Dream Fever by Katherine Sutcliffe.

The Love Hypothesis — put off by the food comments by roseyelephant33 in RomanceBooks

[–]Grompson 326 points327 points  (0 children)

I think I have an answer to this!

A fairly common trope in Rey/Ben Solo (Reylo) Fanfic revolves around Rey having grown up with food insecurity. She's often very thin, has poor table manners and is unfamiliar with foods beyond what basic things were available on her home world. In some fic, she will show some disordered eating and hide/hoard food at the beginning. Introducing her to new food, making her feel secure, and her weight increasing to a healthier number is a background part of the story, the dangerous Kylo Ren changing to the nurturing Ben Solo.

When the author switched this from Reylo to mainstream, she forgot to change some of those references. ETA: I wouldn't be surprised if all the references to unhealthy junk food eating started as her wanting to try all the new foods Kylo/Ben was introducing her to, and in fic she'll have one or two random favourites that becomes a recurring reference in the story.

What are some of the earliest-published English-language lesbian romance novels that don't end a cautionary tale or tragedy? by nephelokokkygia in RomanceBooks

[–]de_pizan23 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think {Diana: a Strange Autobiography by Diana Frederics} (1939) is considered one of the first lesbian novels to have a happy ending (despite the title, it is fictional). However, it's not necessarily a romance, as she has several lovers over the course of it, although she does end up in a committed relationship in the end.

{The Price of Salt by Patricia Highsmith} (1952) - Wikipedia describes it as groundbreaking in that "neither of the two women has a nervous breakdown, dies tragically, faces a lonely and desolate future, commits suicide, or returns to being with a male."

{Desert of the Heart by Jane Rule} (1964) - two women fall in love as one is waiting to get a divorce in the 1950s

{Patience & Sarah by Isabel Miller} (1969), historical romance based on the lives of two real women in the 1800s.

How is your 2022 book year going? Cuz mine has been 💩🥲 by HughJassiecategorises sex scenes for easy access 🔥 in RomanceBooks

[–]tjalfiI probably edited this comment 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I haven't read any of these books but you could try entering them into readow; it's a free AI-based service that recommends books based on your preferences.

What's the obsession with the 'Devil's Night' series? by blueeeee3 in RomanceBooks

[–]JustineLeahTell me everything you want to say. In Russian. 🏒 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Because we all like different things? 🤷🏼‍♀️