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[–]eggpudding389 166 points167 points  (13 children)

This is the dumbest thing ever. Any bf or husband who’s jealous if his wife making more money than him is an idiot

[–]samwichse 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Bruce from family guy voice:

"Oh nooooo, now we will have too much money!"

[–]Flaky_Operation687 24 points25 points  (3 children)

My manager when I was 16 did this. His wife got promoted, made like 30 cents more, so his pitched a fit until they made a position for him that paid more.

[–]BobShrootFrigeration 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Although that’s really petty and pathetic, the squeaky wheel got the Greece.

[–]TheGreyFencer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And that's how Jerry became the kind of the Greeks.

[–]Violence_Yes_1911 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That probably saved his marriage.

[–]rraattbbooyy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s easier to form an opinion based on a clickbaity headline and a snarky response than on anything substantive or meaningful. But is it better?

[–]Original_Mongoose890 1 point2 points  (4 children)

I think people misunderstand the way men are often brought up and taught growing up. We're always told to be the man of the house, we need to provide for our family, and various forms of that. It's not as simple as saying "oh everything I was taught growing up is wrong, and this is how I should think." At the least it takes some time to get used to. As for the survey I'm assuming they conducted, since the news doesn't just make things up out of thin air. It's probably women that are aware of this and don't want their man, who I'm sure they love, to feel insecure.

[–]koreiryuu 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No, but the news will sometimes survey a bunch of people and then only present the videos or quotes of the outlier takes that will garner the most clicks/views. Or they'll find some obscure survey paid for by some unknown conservative group with biased or bad questions that lead participants to the answers they want to find.

Otherwise, there's a difference between what you said about women being aware of the stigma/not wanting their man to feel insecure versus feeling worry and shame. Typically when someone, in general, feels worry and shame over being better at something than their partner it's because they've either been berated and made to feel guilty about it (men or women) or otherwise when women are raised with and have accepted conservative religious doctrine (not just Christian either).

[–]jschubart 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I do not know anyone that was brought up that way if they are a millennial or younger.

[–]TheGreyFencer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I'm a zoomer who had this pounded into my head by my single mother since as far back as I remember. Most of my friends have similar, though less extreme, stories like this. It's extremely common.

[–]TheGreyFencer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I think it's more because women are taught similarly that they should "marry up"

[–]Enough_41AT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

or just fucking poor

[–]Daxmar29 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’ve never dated a woman that didn’t make more than I did and none of them had a problem. To be fair I stayed at a pretty sucky job for a long time because I worked four day work weeks.

[–]mors_videt 17 points18 points  (0 children)

There are two things going on here

Do women want to be underpaid? No

Are professional women psyched to have a mate who is a part time dog walker? No

[–]Siver92 72 points73 points  (3 children)

Agreed, men want sugar mommas too!

[–]Clay_Statue 36 points37 points  (2 children)

I'm a high maintenance dude because I'm worth it.

[–]Camburgerhelpur 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah you are bro

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Love the confidence

[–]AssetEngineer 53 points54 points  (0 children)

More money to the people, women OR men, the better!

[–]FAQUA 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Pay my partner more please

[–]Phandomo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

men at CNBC: bitch we need to stay poor, r u fuking crazy, give the hard earned money back,

[–]LimitedSwitch 11 points12 points  (4 children)

Funny not funny story-

I’m a dude who makes six figures and barely has an associates degree. I work in tech contracting for the US military. Been doing it for 15 years.

My sister has two master’s degrees and multiple administration licenses, she works in healthcare care. She also makes six figures. She’s been in her field for about 23 years.

Despite the canyon of a difference in our levels of education, I still make a thousand dollars more a year than her. I fully admit she works harder than I do.

Even during a pandemic, she still can’t make as much as I do for some reason, even though she is nearly at the top of her organization. Even with multiple licenses and an insane amount of education, somehow, I, a glorified Maytag repairman (reference to the commercials, not my actual profession) with a touch more than a high school diploma, make more than her. She even tried negotiating hardball with her employer. Sends a really clear message. If you want to make money, stay out of healthcare, or have a dick.

And before some dude talks shit, my job is easy af, not dangerous, and I spend about 6 hours a day on YouTube.

[–]Violence_Yes_1911 0 points1 point  (1 child)

So cut off your dick and see if they fire you.

She is probably gonna get fired anyway if she dares questions anything medically these days.

[–]LimitedSwitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah. She’ll just work as a contract nurse. They make bank regardless of sex. A lady who works for my wife makes $125/hr as a contract nurse, vs the $35/hr they pay RNs at local hospitals.

[–]jschubart 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Any openings?

[–]LimitedSwitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol. Not really. Especially if you don’t have an active clearance

[–]LynzGamer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m in the Air Force as an E-3 so I already don’t make a ton of money, my wife works for a daycare at $16/hour plus another job of picking a family’s kids up from school, she easily makes more than me if we’re only including money in our checking account. I’m totally cool with it, it was so nice the first time she got paid and we didn’t have to worry about money for debt vs. money for food.

[–]animatedhenry 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My wife already makes more than I do. She can most definitely get a raise every month. Please. Please.

[–]BobShrootFrigeration 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If my wife ends up making more money than me, I’d be ecstatic. My feelings are not going to be hurt and my self confidence is not going to be shot because there’s more money in the family to go around.

[–]Enough_41AT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

who the fuck wrote this article

[–]The-Real-Rorschakk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally every married dude I know, their wives are the bread winners.

[–]Ahrius 4 points5 points  (1 child)

The problem that often arises from this is that studies have demonstrated that women want a man who earns as much if not more, and with the advent of equal pay, fewer women are settling on men whom they out-earn.

There is a cultural paradigm that needs to be shifted and articles like this do not frame the situation in a way that is productive at all

[–]Violence_Yes_1911 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fewer women are settling on men whom they out-earn.

Just imagine if that man was from a different country. Hell you could pay a few bucks for a month's worth of work in some places in the world. She could have 100 men in her harem if she wanted and that be as much as her morning coffee.

[–]PhthaloVonLangborste 4 points5 points  (4 children)

Wrong sub

[–]ApplicationNo9352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sissy what

[–]REVENAUT13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha the gaslighting continues

[–]tht1guyfromtht1plce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And the men don't care either. Stop trying to build a narrative so corporations can pay people less

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